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Guftuguu
by Surabhi Maheshwari
My observations on life, personal anecdotes, discussions on philosophy and religion, and everything that can be discussed meaningfully. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support
Episodes
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Am I gonna believe what them fools say about me today ?
From the book “The Help” ; my favorite dialogue.
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Anxious Attachment
The bane of my existence. Talking doesn’t necessarily solve a lot of things, but to know that there are people around who are going through something similar takes a part of the shame away.
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How does a man know you are the one ?
It’s so important in our world what men think, what they feel and who they desire, we spend our lives creating our personalities around it. With all of our equal rights shenanigans, feminist and woke philosophy, the right to choose ultimately rests with men.
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Feeling Small can be Beautiful
So much suffering can come from us feeling like we are too important to suffer.
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Heartbreaks & Rejections
There‘s plenty of content online , and books to read, about dealing with failures in life, heartbreaks and rejections. There’s just one thing I didn’t come across; that there is honor in failing, there is honor in being rejected, and there is honor in getting your heart broken. We don’t have to...
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Female Role models
Growing up, I haven’t seen women who exist for themselves , around me , in movies, in pop culture, anywhere. It’s a tragedy because our generation must learn that.
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The Grief of Lost Time
A lot is said about the grief that comes with losing people. Nobody talks about the grief of lost time.
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Gulon mein rang bhare
Why poetry and prose is so important..
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How do I feel at 27 ?
Besides being shit scared, obviously..
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Walking back to our humanity
Why is it so easy for a guy we like to come up to us and tell us that we aren’t attractive, or are fat, or flat, and completely destroy us.. or for a friend who we are very invested in tell us we aren’t fun, and give us very deep scars? I feel like, somehow, as we grow up, we lose touch with the...
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Well - traveled
We pride ourselves on being well-traveled. Travel can be enlightening and it can definitely broaden our worlds. But in my experience, a lot of times, as our worlds become bigger, each person in those worlds becomes smaller, and more replaceable.
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We died for those who didn’t care at all
Maybe in the end, it won’t really matter whether or not our love was reciprocated. It’ll matter what we leave behind when we are gone.
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Loneliness
It needs no introduction.
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Hum Dekhenge and the Abortion Debate
I feel that, for people truly looking for 'Love' , it is very important that they find this love outside of a person. I kinda found a semblance of it in poetry. "Hum Dekhenge" is a nazm by Faiz Ahmad Faiz, about and against the then dictatorial regime of Pakistan. It's like a reminder that…
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Dear Tuffy
An Ode to Tuffy
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Why Fight?
“We fight , so we don’t have to”- My online Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu instructor.
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Rape as a weapon of war ( Why Soldiers Rape)
The oldest weapon of war, since the beginning of time. Our ideas of how the state should be run have evolved. Political ideologies have evolved. The technology for wars has evolved. But a single war / riot , a little bit disturbance in the social order, and all that modernity cannot prevent the...
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Been thinking
Poem recitation ( Text available on https://guftuguu.com)
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The terrible Isolation of a Mental Illness
Every mental illness brings an isolation that , in my experience, can’t be opted out of. This is my journey with isolation and how I have , may be, learnt to work around it, over the years. There are really no solutions. Just maybe understanding the problem a little better than before.
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Holding two worlds together !!
For anyone who migrated thousands of miles away from where they grew up, how do you hold the two worlds together?
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My Love Story with New York
The most epic love story of my life yet… My longest and most transformative relationship has been my relationship with New York. It wasn't love at first sight. New York grew on me slowly. Over seven years and countless moments, a part of my heart lives there & with everyone I loved there.
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Intensity
Perhaps romantic love can be a little more than just a farce. Perhaps there is some truth to two people being able to connect to each other at the same intensity, and not all of it is based on selfish motives or hormonal urges. Maybe there can be something more real that draws two people together.
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The Weaker Half of a Relationship
Power is never evenly distributed, in any ecosystem. In most relationships, there is a weaker half and there is a stronger half. What makes a person weak in the context of a relationship/ friendship, especially when, in most other areas of life, they may not be weak at all ( or in fact they may…
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Humiliation and Injustice - Why we tolerate them ?
“ Hatred cannot drive out hatred. Only love can do that”…..Anger cannot fight anger. Violence cannot fight violence. We have all been taught that since childhood. But there has to be a missing link to this argument that no one knows. Real life just doesn’t seem to work like that. ( P.S My very...
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Happiness
For some of us, this state of relative ease with life, that is sometimes called ‘Happiness’, is just not so readily available, or it’s much less available than it is to some others around us. Is Happiness really so important ?
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What advice would you give to your 19 year old self ?
The older you grow, the more you start realizing that you have been fed so many lies by the world, by movies, by books, by teachers, even by your parents, and by each other. You wish someone had told you so many things before, you wish you didn’t have to live and learn.
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No Country for Old Men
Is there going to be a day when we have outgrown the world around us ? With age, will there be a day that the world around us no longer makes sense to us; when we are 'overmatched', the world has moved on and the idea of the world we had no longer represents what we see around us..? If yes, what...
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To be in the world but not of it…
„I have given them thy word; and the world hath hated them, because they are not of the world, even as I am not of the world“ - John 17:11, 14-15. How do you be, participate and act in the world, and not get swept away by it? Not believe this is all there is..?
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The Cool Girl Trope
"Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl......Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the...
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Loving is an act of absolute Integrity.
The world is a Jungle and it is each man for himself and each woman for herself. What would be the place for ideals like compassion, love & peace if we accept this model of the world.
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“Friends For Life”
Is there such a thing as a ‘friend for life’..? A lot of religions of the world say things come and go. But a part of us wants to believe at least some things will last for at least one lifetime.
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Who will miss you when you are gone?
Meeting people has its perks, but in my experience, the number of people whose lives you touch deeply enough to be missed after you are gone… that’s very rare, regardless of how many you meet.
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Sometimes I wannna be that girl
This is just a personal journal/podcast. My experience of being in a woman’s body in this world and the thoughts, insecurities, fears, etc that come with it.
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My personal Augustus Waters
Do we really want a Prince Charming?
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Finding Home
Kisi ko ghar se nikalte hi mil gayi manzil, koi hamare tarah umr bhar Safar me raha - Some found their destination right outside their homes, while some others, like me, kept looking all their lives.
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Relocating across continents at 17 vs 26
I relocated from India to the US at 17. Now at 26 I’m about to move to another continent altogether. I saw and felt such stark differences in how I went about the entire thing at both times, and this particular relocation has been such a peculiar experience in my life, that I wanted to record it…
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The Four Ashrams of Life - Hinduism
A section of Hindu philosophy divides life in 4 stages (or Asharams) - Brahmacharya (Disciple), Grihastha (Householder), Vanprastha (Forest Dweller) and Sanyasa (Renunciation). This was supposed to be the ideal life cycle of a man as he transversed through the material realm while keeping…
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Who Decides What You Do With Your pain?
Who decides how we deal with our pain? Pain is the most fundamental reality of life. Can somone outside of us truly tell us how to deal with our particular pain, to forgive or not, forget or not, drop the pain or not, to make peace with it or not ? (P.S. Continued prayers for Afghanistan, as the...
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Whose Problem is Afghanistan ?
Prayers for the people of Afghanistan. A significant part of the population, especially women, have so much to lose .
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Regrets, Self-Respect, Dignity & living a life of integrity, etc
What’s the place for regrets in life? How important is Self respect and Dignity ? And why is integrity so hard to obtain?
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The Price You Pay For Having a Uterus
Just heard something interesting on whether mere careers can bring women the satisfaction and meaning that they need in life , or is having children and getting married necessary to fulfilling life's ultimate purpose (especially for women). These are some thoughts on the same.
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What to do when your partner has anxiety ?
I have experienced debilitating anxiety myself, and from that space I thought I could provide a few insights on how a partner (or even a friend), who wants to help, can play a part in creating an environment of some kind of healing for their partner so that eventually their mind has some space to...
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Value Differences in Friendships : How can we ever know when to let go ?
A lot of us are in and / or around a lot of dysfunctionality as we grow up, and therefore what to expect out of healthy and well functioning friendships or relationships can be next to impossible to picture at first. In this conversation, I’m primarily talking about , the possible scenarios of…
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Youth is Wasted on the Young ?
I always found this quote so fascinating. Just some Friday night thoughts on why they say this. And what kind of actions might entail actions that are genuinely meaningful.
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What is the right place of sex in life ?
Not an exhaustive conversation by any means. Just a few key thoughts and observations about how I feel we treat sex, what would be the correct approach towards sex and then the difference I saw in the way it is approached in my ‘own’ culture vs where I live currently.
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Man Cannot Stand a Meaningless Life : Logotherapy
Carl Jung said, in one of his interviews from 1959, 'Man Cannot Stand a Meaningless Life'. Victor Frankl, in his book, 'Man's Search for Meaning', says that when people have a why, they can endure any how. He also says that every age has its own mass neurosis, and the neurosis of our age is the...
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Arranged Marriage v/s “Love” Marriage
For several cultures where Arranged Marriages are an alien concept, the entire set up can be looked at as quite outlandish, and sometimes with a bit of condescension. This is my attempt to demystify what really happens in the process of an arranged marriage, strictly as I have seen it around me,...
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Shame : Shame and it’s relationship to Depression.
Shame is a very primal human emotion, which I feel isn’t talked about enough in comparison to how big of an influence it has in our personalities, decisions, public demeanor and even the relationship it has with some very serious and chronic mental illnesses. This is my two-bits on shame and how...
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Pain and Art - 1
How I think Pain, Conflict and Art are related. P.S. All the Urdu poets I have mentioned in the podcast ( Faiz, Faraz and Ghalib) are dead. Apologies if I spoke of them in the present tense !!! The podcast is in English, except for some pieces of Urdu poetry. And since the topic is too abstract…
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Rape Anxiety
Constant thoughts of fear and panic relating to a possible sexual assault, even when a person is in places where they feel relatively safe. This is my experience with what I can call 'Rape Anxiety', and how shockingly common the phenomenon seems to be amongst all genders. P.S. I really hope I…
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My observations on life, personal anecdotes, discussions on philosophy and religion, and everything that can be discussed meaningfully. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support
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