Hacking Love: Deepening Commitment Through Open Relationships

Episode 60 is here, and it’s a mix of healing, honesty, and a little chaos.What does it take to rebuild trust after things get shaky? Not through rules, but by learning to feel safe again. From therapy breakthroughs to showing up for each other through health scares (and yes, Anna nearly broke Aiden this time 😏), this episode is about how love, and bodies, repair in real time.We also explore a big question: how much honesty is too much? Do you share every thought? or protect your partner from things that don’t really matter?In this episode:what trust repair really looks likebalancing freedom and security in open relationshipsredefining openness in a way that protects your connectionand why our chemistry is still very much alive 🔥Real, raw, and a little ridiculous… just how we like it. Come hang with us 🎧✨

Ep 59: When Real Life Hits 💔🏥 Rebuilding Trust, Therapy Breakthroughs & Our Relationship ResetAfter one of the hardest seasons we’ve ever faced, we’re finally sitting down to share where we really are now—and what it took to get here.In this episode, we open up about everything that happened behind the scenes after Episode 58—from a 10-day relationship pause and intense therapy work to a scary medical emergency that changed our perspective overnight.This isn’t about drama—it’s about repair. About what happens after the conflict. About how trust actually gets rebuilt… not just through words, but through showing up when it matters most.We talk about:💔 Why our relationship hit one of its lowest points—and what finally shifted🧠 The reality of taking space vs. staying connected (and how it affects each partner differently)🏥 How a health scare reframed everything—and unexpectedly rebuilt trust📜 Creating a “relationship constitution” to prevent future breakdowns💬 Using nonviolent communication to stop toxic cycles before they spiral🔥 What we’re learning about desire, boundaries, and staying open—without losing each otherWe also reflect on our early episodes and the “honeymoon phase” we thought would last forever… and how what we’re building now might actually be better.If you’ve ever wondered how couples come back from the edge—or how to repair after trust is shaken—this episode is honest, vulnerable, and full of hard-earned clarity.We’re not perfect. But we’re still here. And we’re doing the work. ❤️Relationship Constitution: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1vj0eyYixSox18XbxRzBf-zG5RgpntyoE/view?usp=share_link💌🔥We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

What happens when you say you’re okay… but your nervous system says otherwise?In this deeply raw episode, Anna and Aiden pull back the curtain on what it really looks like in the aftermath of pushing boundaries in an open relationship. Recorded just days after Aiden’s MFM experience—and in the thick of emotional fallout—they unpack the disconnect between “we’re fine” and what’s actually happening beneath the surface.From feeling dismissed or unheard to navigating ghosting, jealousy, and mismatched emotional timelines, this episode captures the messy middle that most couples don’t talk about. You’ll hear the tension, the miscommunication, and the real-time struggle to balance individual needs with the relationship as a whole.They also explore:Why timing matters more than we think when processing emotional experiencesHow ghosting and unresolved connections can amplify insecurityThe difference between enduring something vs. actually wanting itWhy “being the cool partner” can backfire—and what it costsThe moment they realize they’ve pushed past their limits…and need to resetThis isn’t the polished version of open relationships—it’s the honest, uncomfortable, human version. And if you’ve ever felt like you should be okay with something you’re not, this one will hit close to home.If you’re navigating non-monogamy—or just trying to communicate better in your relationship—this episode is a powerful reminder that growth doesn’t always look graceful…but it can still bring you closer.💌🔥We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

In this episode, we face our biggest test yet: what happens when chemistry with someone new starts to shake the foundation of everything we’ve built? ⚡💔In this brutally honest episode (edit: don't worry guys, we're fine!), Anna opens up about her fears around a woman who may be crossing boundaries, while Aiden finds himself fumbling through coffee dates, phone calls, and the emotional tightrope of trying to stay connected to everyone involved in this unfolding dynamic. What starts as an opportunity for Aiden (at last!) quickly turns into something much more complicated. ☕📱🫦We dive into the hard questions:Are we accidentally drifting toward polyamory? 🤯How do you handle jealousy without turning into the relationship police? 🚨When does attraction stop being exciting and start feeling like a threat? 🔥➡️😬In attempt to understand, we dive in to the poly books (spoiler: we’re still not poly), talk about why rigid rules often lead to secrecy, and get painfully real about what comes up when freedom and fear collide. 📚💭Topics include: radical honesty vs. emotional protection, swinging vs. polyamory, codependence vs. healthy interdependence, and how to voice insecurity without controlling your partner. 🧠❤️‍🩹This episode is messy, vulnerable, and deeply human… a front-row seat to what happens when someone new becomes a potential game changer. 🎙️💥We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

This one’s all about the little details that really matter—like where your partner has sex with someone else. 😂 In this episode, we dive deep into the surprisingly emotional conversation about location preferences for separate play (yes, we’re debating Motel 6 vs. a romantic yurt vs our own homes), and how these seemingly small choices can stir up big feelings around fairness, privacy, control, and intimacy.We also give a sweet update on our Hacking Nicaragua retreat crew—and how the three amazing couples are thriving months later with more connection, better sex, and healthier habits. And finally, we read through all your recent reviews—including the ones that made us laugh, cringe, and cheer—and share our honest (and sometimes sassy) reactions. Whether you’re new to the lifestyle or just figuring out your own rules, this one is full of real talk, inside jokes, and the kind of conversations that keep a relationship evolving. ❤️🔥We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

After weeks of messy feelings, deep dives, and sexting slip-ups, we finally sat down to co-create our Relationship Constitution—or at least, what we think we want it to be (for now!). From rules around emotional support and separate play to a surprising agreement about one last solo date with Jasmine for Aiden, we get real about what safety, fairness, and connection look like in an open marriage.We also spill the juicy details from our wild New Year’s Eve party—including a successful Trimix comeback (no ER visits this time!).✨ Whether you're figuring out your own boundaries or just here for the voyeurism, this episode is packed with big feels, honest renegotiations, and a whole lot of sexy fun.We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

Ep 54: Taking the Governor Off 🚦💬 Sexy Texts, Separate Play, and Surrendering ControlWhat happens when Anna’s working through her own insecurities and growing pains--but still wants to give Aiden the green light to connect and date separately? In this episode, we open up about our processing after Aiden’s solo coffee meetup with Jasmine—and the unexpected emotional fallout it triggered.From guilt and arousal to fear and freedom, we walk through the intimate conversations that led us to a big new step: taking the governor off our texts with others. That’s right—flirty, sexy, transparent one-on-one texting is officially on the table (for both of us), and we’re seeing what it stirs up.We explore what it means to support your partner’s desires even when they scare you, why transparency matters more than ever, and how arousal and anxiety can surprisingly coexist in open relationships. If you’ve ever wondered how to balance eroticism with emotional safety—or just want a peek into how couples actually navigate these moments—you’re gonna want to hear this one. 💌🔥We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

**NOTE We recommend listening to Ep 52 first! This is the second part of that episode.**This one’s raw, real, and healing. 💔💬 In Part 2 of our session with relationship coach Chloe, we go deep into the emotional fallout from a separate play experience gone wrong: a broken condom agreement, a breach of trust, and the lingering ache of unspoken fears. Anna confronts her body’s visceral “no” while Aiden fights to be believed. We share the tools Chloe gave us to move forward—from how to feel the ick without letting it run the show to how to rebuild trust when our gut screams otherwise.If you've ever struggled with trust, jealousy, or feeling safe after something goes sideways, this episode is for you. We’re not sugarcoating anything—there are apologies, hard truths, and even a little laughter. We also dive into how we’re rewriting our “relationship constitution” to define what privacy, honesty, and emotional safety mean for us now. ❤️‍🔥 You’ll walk away with tools and insights to navigate your own love, open or not.Contact Relationship Coach Chloe Prentoulis at www.swoon.coachEmail: [email protected] Phone 949-482-2464We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

In this candid and emotionally charged episode, we welcome back relationship coach Chloe Prentoulis for an on-air coaching session after a challenging event in our open relationship. Together, we navigate the aftermath of jealousy, trust breaches, and the struggle to balance what we know intellectually with what we feel emotionally.This one was tough, y’all. With Chloe’s guidance, we unpack our fears, communicate our needs, and work to rebuild trust using practical tools and “nonviolent communication” protocols. This conversation offers a rare, unfiltered look at the complexities of non-monogamy and the ongoing work it takes for us to stay connected and resilient.If you’re seeking honest insight into the realities of open relationships and the courage it takes to grow together, this episode is for you.Contact Relationship Coach Chloe Prentoulis at www.swoon.coachEmail: [email protected] Phone 949-482-2464We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

This one’s raw, y’all. After our separate play experiences at the Christmas party (Aiden with Jasmine, Anna with Tony), we thought we’d processed everything. But it turns out...not even close.In this episode, we invite you into a super intimate, real-time recording where Anna finally drops the mask and shares all the big, messy, insecure thoughts she was too embarrassed to say the day before. Intrusive thoughts, catastrophizing, jealousy spirals, and worst-case-scenario fear — all laid bare.You’ll hear us reading our personal, raw notes to each other, sorting through trust, safety, and what it means to really support your partner when they’re hurting—even if it means hearing things you don’t want to hear. If you’ve ever told yourself “I’m fine” when you weren’t, or struggled with the aftermath of separate play, we hope this gives you permission to be human too. ❤️ Plus: two emotional voice memos, a lot of reassurance, and the moment we realized we’re way more aligned than we thought.Tune in, feel seen, and remember–the only way through is through. 🌀We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

In this milestone 50th episode, we celebrate the launch of Season 3 of Hacking Love with an in-depth description of a recent sexy Christmas party we attended. What started with wild anticipation turned into a night full of unexpected interactions, new feelings, and real-time opportunities for growth. We hit some major milestones, both personally and as a couple, during this event.Aiden finally gets his first (voluntary) solo play experience, a significant step that brings up various emotions and new opportunities to process them. Meanwhile, Anna navigates her own interactions and boundaries with new men, finding new ways to articulate her needs and handle persistent attention. (Hint, guys: she loves massages!)Through detailed recounting, we both reflect on moments of excitement, feelings of arousal (and jealousy) and the complexities of engaging with new people. Our 're-appreciation sex' afterwards takes on a new layer of depth, underscoring just how much these experiences strengthen can our relationship.Despite challenges, the ability to communicate and process everything can bring you closer than ever. This episode is packed with honesty, vulnerability, and the sexy tension that comes when love and adventure collide. Join us as we navigate anticipation, interactions, and our reflections, kicking off the new season three with a night of adventure and authentic sharing. 💬❤️We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

🎉 Bonus 2 Hour Season Finale Episode! 🎉Season 2 goes out with a bang in Episode 49 of Hacking Love and wow, do we cover a lot 😏❤️ From gearing up for a sexy party to unpacking how recent adventures are shaping our relationship, this episode is a full emotional rollercoaster.Aiden shares what it is like stepping into a potential new connection and the excitement, nerves, and feelings that come along with it 💫 Meanwhile, Anna gets real about navigating boundaries, sitting with big reactions, and owning her own curiosity and desires 🔥Expect laughter, vulnerability, and some very honest conversations as we explore growth, communication, and the sometimes messy magic of opening up while staying deeply connected as a primary partnership 💬✨If you have ever wrestled with jealousy, questioned your boundaries, or wondered how love keeps evolving, this episode is for you. Come hang out with us for a candid, heartfelt, and surprisingly funny season finale 💕🎧With love,Anna & Aiden 💕Email us! [email protected]👉 join the convo: Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

Come for the vows, stay for the vibes 💍🔥Fresh off our festival-themed specatacle of a wedding (let's just say it got a little crazy 😜), we get real about what married life looks like for two people who want slightly different things from an open lifestyle. This one’s candid, tender, and a little spicy—as we do.In this episode:💫 Wedding recap: festival-formal fits, our first marital disagreement (in the form of a DJ battle), roller skates, and a sky that cleared just for us🔄 “Team sport” vs. “solo sparks”: navigating mismatched play styles without keeping score🧠 Jealousy, communication, and growth: sitting with big feelings instead of running from them🎯 Our new ground rules(ish): less pressure, more presence, and letting experiences unfold📲 The texts to another man that re-opened a door… and how inclusion keeps trust strong.If you’re exploring openness as a couple (or even newlyweds!) or just trying to honor two truths in one relationship—this convo is your permission slip to be honest, messy, and loving at the same time. 🖤 Enjoy!With love,Anna & Aiden 💕Email us! [email protected]👉 join the convo: Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

Hey loves! Episode 47 of Hacking Love is here 💫 After a little hiatus, we’re back—ready to dive into your questions and celebrate some juicy milestones.This episode, we unpack our solo date processing… and let’s just say things have only gotten hotter. Expect a steamy recap of our recent intimate adventures—emotional, physical, and yes, how Anna probed Aiden’s “depths” 🤌🍑😉We also dig into: ✨ How substances ❄️ 🥃 🐴 💊 can affect play in the lifestyle ✨ The growth (and heat) that comes from leaning into discomfort ✨ Why complacency in monogamy can be a hidden trap.As always, you’ll get our raw, funny, and deeply personal take on love, sex, and the messy magic of open relationships. 🔥

In this milestone episode, we dive into a story that’s equal parts unexpected, vulnerable, and thrilling. Solo dates have always fascinated (and unsettled) us — the idea of stepping into new experiences alone, with all the possibilities and what-ifs. For Anna, that curiosity became very real during a recent work trip.What started as a simple evening away turned into an unforgettable adventure: an intriguing doctor, a flirtatious dinner, and a set of circumstances neither of us saw coming. In real time, we share the emotions, the anxieties, and the excitement of what happens when trust is tested — and when desire sparks in new ways.Join us for the full play-by-play: the lead-up, the encounter, and the raw reflections afterward. This episode is packed with honesty, vulnerability, and the sexy tension that comes when love and adventure collide.Tune in to hear how one solo date deepened our connection, challenged our comfort zones, and left us closer than ever. 💬❤️With love,Anna & Aiden 💕Email us! [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

We’re back, loves — and this one is packed. 💌 After taking a little break, we return with stories, lessons, and laughter from our latest adventures in love, dating, and the lifestyle.In our last episode, we made a bold offer: what if we could actually date you, our listeners? We thought it was a genius hack — bypass the apps, cut through the noise, and connect with amazing people who already know our vibe. Here we reveal what happened when we put ourselves out there…This foolishness taught us more than we expected about connection, vulnerability, and how sometimes it's big leap for people to really put themselves out there.Also, Superman nd Wonderwoman are back in our orbit — and things get complicated. From a surprise drink night out to political dealbreakers (yes, politics can be a major cockblock), we found ourselves balancing values and desire in ways we didn’t see coming. What started as a simple meetup turned into one of the hottest nights we’ve had in awhile… just not in the way we imagined. 😉We also take you inside an epic party that brought together our overlapping worlds — burners, ravers, tantra friends, poly folks, and a swirl of open-minded humans in one gorgeous mansion with DJs, fire dancers, cuddle piles, and secret playrooms. We share what went down, the surprises that came our way, and how being “fake swingers” in a mostly poly crowd taught us even more about our own preferences.This episode isn’t just about hookups and experiments. As usual, we dive deep into:Why trust and reassurance are the true foundation of open relationshipsHow to balance individuation with partnership without losing connectionWhy empathy (even in the lifestyle) matters as much as attractionAnd how “hacking love” is as much about growing as a couple and individuals, as it is about finding sexy fun!At the heart of it all? We’re here to explore love, intimacy, and the messy, hilarious, beautiful journey of connection — with plenty of laughs along the way. 💕With love,Anna & Aiden 💕Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast#CouplesGrowth #RetreatReflections #RelationshipGoals #ManifestingConnection #LoveBeyondBoundaries #OpenConversations #EmotionalIntimacy

So, we had a bit of a wild idea: What if some of you actually wanted to date us? 😳 Or at least hang out and be friends? 👫After 44 episodes of us sharing our amusing and often arduous journey of trying to find that elusive "unicorn" 4-way connection with a couple, we know the best connections come from friendship and shared energy, not necessarily dating apps.And we just realized that we have already have a massive group of potential friends out there who are listening to us all the time!So here's our pitch: You already know nearly everything about us. Our preferences, insecurities, sexual stuff, banter, health routines, weird jokes — you name it. 😅 Now, we’d love to meet some of you. 👀If you’ve ever listened and thought, “Damn, we’d totally vibe with them,” this is your chance to reach out. 💌We’re inviting couples to:📹 Make a short video together answering a few questions:Are you in the lifestyle (or curious)?What draws you to us / the podcast?Where do you live and can you travel? ✈️What hesitations and hopes do you have?👉 Send it to: [email protected], so you have some idea of what we look like, for fun we asked AI to generate an “approximate” photo of us. 🤖🧑‍🤝‍🧑 It got pretty close - we think! We’ve posted it to our Facebook group.Our keywords here are playful, vulnerable, and curious—less “sexy stranger hookup,” more “cool friends first, maybe more if it’s mutual.” ✨ Whether anyone bites or not, we promise to keep it fun and will respond to everyone who reaches out, We will also plan to share what happens in upcoming episodes. 🎧And if no one responds? Even funnier.So if you’re feeling curious, brave, and aligned with our vibe… we’d love to meet you. 💛With love, weirdness, and zero expectations,Anna & Aiden 💕Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast#CouplesGrowth #RetreatReflections #RelationshipGoals #ManifestingConnection #LoveBeyondBoundaries #OpenConversations #EmotionalIntimacy

We just wrapped our very first Hacking Love retreat in Nicaragua… and it went great! 🌴 Three incredible beginner couples said yes to a wild idea—five days with strangers in a beach house, exploring the edges of connection, vulnerability, and what’s actually possible in a relationship. 💕In this episode, we share our final night conversation with the group—what they feared coming in, what surprised them, and how they’re heading home changed. It was about talking, connecting, laughing, getting real, and building the kind of open, authentic relationships we all crave.We’re already dreaming up next year’s retreat—so if you’ve been listening, resonating, and wondering if a newbie retreat like this could be for you, send us an email so we can start gauging interest! 💫📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast#CouplesGrowth #RetreatReflections #RelationshipGoals #LoveJourney #EmpowerYourLove #ManifestingConnection #LoveBeyondBoundaries #OpenConversations #EmotionalIntimacy

Broadcasting from the sunny shores of Nicaragua 🌊☀️, Anna and Aiden tackle complexities in ethical non-monogamy head-on.In this episode, we unpack a listener's relationship dilemma, stirring a passionate response from Anna as she fiercely advocates for self-worth and setting boundaries. Meanwhile, Aiden brings his usual calm clarity 🧘‍♂️, offering thoughtful takes on trust, transparency, and what it really means to be in ENM. (Hint: it's the ethical part) 👀 💭We also rough up a controversial episode from a famous billionaire podcaster 🎙️🤑, exposing manipulation and the misuse of 'spirituality” in what is presented.as an ENM relationship .Tune in for an episode filled with heartfelt advice, fiery debates, and a sneak peek into our exciting Nicaraguan retreat 🌴✨.📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast#HackingLove #EthicalNonMonogamy #ENM #RelationshipTalk #OpenRelationships #PodcastCouple #ConsciousLove #NicaraguaVibes #LoveOutLoud #PolyTalk

What happens when the party ends? We get honest about the emotional hangover that hit us both—the letdown, the exhaustion, and the questions that linger after the fun fades. We open up about navigating big play parties as a couple, asking for what we need, and the sometimes awkward reality of fitting in when you’re not quite like everyone else. 😬From the highs of partying and connecting our friends, to the lows of feeling left out, meh vibes, and the struggle to balance self-care with social pressure, we’re sharing it all. We get real about the weirdness of party dynamics, the complexities of open relationships, and why sometimes you just need to do your own thing, take your own car and leave when you’re ready. 🚗✨If you’ve ever felt out of place in a crowd, wondered how to ask for what you want, or struggled with the morning after a big night out—this episode is for you. Join us for honest talk, laughter, and a reminder that even in the wildest spaces, it’s okay to just be yourself. 💕📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

Life’s been busy—family, work, and all the chaos that comes with it—but we’re here to dive deep into the real, messy, and beautiful side of love and relationships.This week, we unpack a listener’s email that had us both raising eyebrows: What happens when “ethical non-monogamy” starts to look less than honest? We talk red flags 🚩, jealousy, and why true partnership means being on the same team—not just doing your own thing just because you "can". We get real about trust, boundaries, and what to do when your partner’s desire for solo exploits start to feel like you’re being left behind.We also spill the tea on what was just about the wildest party we’ve ever attended and share what it’s like to be in a room where really anything goes. Plus, we dig into a surprising new study about infidelity and why so many people don’t regret cheating, even in happy relationships. 🤯Also—political talk in the lifestyle? 😱 🙉Tune in for real talk, wild stories, and a reminder that love is always a work in progress.Email us at [email protected] Live Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_Podcast https://www.instagram.com/hackinglove_podcast/

This week on Hacking Love, we’re diving into the surprisingly accessible (and way deeper than you think) world of Tantra-- and how it intersects with ethical non-monogamy 🌀🔥 If you thought Tantra was all gongs and slow-motion sex, think again. Here we discuss practical, grounded practices that can help you become more present in your body, connect more deeply to your partner, and even (yes, really) separate orgasm from ejaculation..We’re joined by our friend and longtime Tantra coach, ScottieO, whose journey from corporate burnout and sexual shame to the deepest of intimacy and connections, will blow your mind. Whether you're open, monogamous, poly, or just curious, we break down how Tantra can transform your intimacy, your healing, and your entire way of relating. Join us for a fast-paced introduction to Tantra, hear some wild stories and enjoy few “oh god” moments you’ll never forget. 😉As a bonus, learn how you can extend your own orgasms for hours and hours 🤯 - beyond anything you've ever imagined. 💥💥💥Learn more about Tantra and Scottie O at: EcstaticHearts.com.Tantric Couple's Retreat: ConsciousCoupling.net📩 Email us! [email protected] Live Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_Podcast https://www.instagram.com/hackinglove_podcast/

This week, we’re diving into what happens when exes reappear—and how to handle it in a healthy, honest, and open relationship. Aiden reconnects with a past girlfriend who once showed him love at a time when he really needed it, and we unpack everything—from unexpected closure to what it brought up for us emotionally (and erotically 😏). What does it mean when one of you flirts with someone else, and suddenly the other feels compelled to hit the apps five minutes later?We also get real about feeling competitive in swinging, and the awkward truth that sometimes all you want is a sexy side text to make you feel like all of this is worth it. 💬💦 Whether you’re an inactive slut (like one of us 🙋‍♀️) or processing beautiful old relationships, this one's a funny, sweet, and very raw look at exes, desire, and what it means to truly share everything.📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_Podcast

Hey guys! This episode is a no-filter deep dive into our time at a Wellness Retreat in El Salvador —a tropical playground of connection, curiosity, and just enough chaos. 🌴🍹Hosted by Naughty Gym's Scott and April, the retreat delivered everything from men’s and women’s connection circles 💬 to beach parties and a sexy ‘Kiss Me Orgasmic’ workshop 💋🔥 .🎙️ We finally upgraded our audio gear and recorded with our REAL voices - we may sound like completely different people now, but trust us, it's the real us!We also share the behind-the-scenes of our sandy, sexy cabana adventure 🏖️🫣, some cuddle puddle surprises 🤗, and what it was like shedding not just clothes, but prejudgements too And Aiden was thrilled to get to DJ for a mostly-naked dance floor at the Neon Glow party 🎧🍑The episode ends with wonderful interview with relationship coach Kel from Expansive Connection, who shares amazing insights on how to better communicate, navigate jealousy 🌀 and make non-monogamy feel less scary... and more expansive 💞.If you’re curious about what happens when you mix open hearts with open relationships in a tropical paradise—you’re gonna want to hear this one. 🎙️🌶️One more spot available on our Nicaragua mini-retreat for ENM newbies! See the FB group for details.📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_PodcastKel at Expansive Connection

🎙For the first time ever, we’ve invited guests onto the pod—and it’s a juicy one. Our dear friends Chloe and Michel join us to share their 12-year polyamorous journey: from almost breaking up on date one to building a family, a business, and a deeply secure open relationship. Chloe (a relationship coach) opens up about what changed when she stopped playing small, while Michel shares the unexpected gift that came from facing his jealousy head-on. 💥We talk real intimacy, evolving desires, healing through open love, and the difference between feeling “owned” vs. feeling claimed. 💫 Plus—how opening their marriage actually made their partnership stronger than ever. Whether you’re just curious or years into non-monogamy, this one’s full of truth bombs and heart. ❤️One more spot available on our Nicaragua mini-retreat for ENM newbies! See the FB group for details.📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_PodcastReach out to Chloe for Relationship Coaching: www.swoon.coach and on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/swoon.coach/

In this long-promised episode, Aiden interviews Anna about her 20-year experience on the birth control pill—and the profound changes she experienced when she finally stopped them. From libido and attraction, mood and metabolism, nothing was untouched... and no one had warned her.This isn’t an anti-pill debate—it’s a conversation about informed choice, full of jaw-dropping research, real-life lab data, and one woman’s journey back to herself. If you or someone you love is on hormonal birth control, don’t miss this one. 💥Note: Anna is a functional medicine health coach, not a doctor. She’s sharing her personal experience and research for educational purposes only, to help listeners feel informed, curious, and empowered to have deeper conversations with their own providers. 💛Also last call to join our Nicaragua mini-retreat for ENM newbies! See the FB group for details.📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_Podcast

🎙️ In this episode, we’re riding high on the glow of a dreamy, disco-fueled night—roller skates 🛼, glitter, and all. After weeks of talking through every possible scenario (same-room? separate play? group energy?), the night unfolded in a way we never quite expected… and it changed something between us.From Aiden’s euphoric modern disco DJ set to an unexpected intimate moment in a pile of pillows with Superman and Wonder Woman (you’ll see), this night reminded us why we do this—and what we’re really looking for underneath all the exploration.We dive into what makes these parties feel so expansive, pressure-free, and honestly… kind of healing. Whether you’re cuddling over tea, giggling through a flirt, or witnessing a beautiful group scene (👀 yes, that happened too!) this episode is a love letter to curiosity, safety, and connection.Wondering how a lifestyle event like this one might unlock new layers of connection and curiosity with your partner? This episode will take you there. 💛Also last call to join our Nicaragua mini-retreat for ENM newbies! See the FB group for details.📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_Podcast

🎙️ Hey guys! In episode 33, we continue to peel back the layers of the onion as we revisit our feelings around separate play—especially rules vs. no rules. Our conversation dives into how our understanding of ethical non-monogamy keeps evolving—not just as a lifestyle, but as a powerful relationship lab where radical honesty deepens intimacy.We ask: Is wanting to witness each other’s separate play 👀about being aroused? Or does it just feel more safe? 🛟 Does giving someone total freedom make the giver feel more loved—or more replaceable? From the hotwife dynamic to jealousy-as-turn-on, to the tough question“What if my partner starts wanting more from a play partner?” 😳As a bonus, Anna shares her revealing post-processing thoughts in an addendum at the end of the episode.We also, talk about what different types of orgasms can mean with full-time partners vs. play partners 😳, and explore whether “no rules” is a radical form of love? Or just clever emotional armor?In this episode we also share a preview of our Nicaragua retreat for ENM newbies! See the FB group for deatails.If you’re in the swirl of learning what's next, this one’s for you. 💥📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_Podcast

🎙️ We’re back with Part 2 of our messy, honest unpacking of our recent separate play experience—because after sleeping on it, we definitely had more to say. 😅 We talk through everything from compersion to comparison, fairness in play, and what happens when that “good girl” programming meets a slutty experiment gone sideways. We get real about jealousy, 'justice', triggers from past relationships, and what it means to truly support your partner and yourself in ethical non-monogamy.We also hash out next steps for our upcoming play party—Can separate play ever feel fair? Can Aiden handle DJ'ing while I play with someone else on the mattress in front of him? (Spoiler: maybe 😳) Can we create space for both of us to follow our bliss without losing each other in the process? This one’s full of emotion, laughter, horny hypotheticals, and surprisingly useful bathroom epiphanies. 💭🛁👀ANNOUNCING: Our First Open Relationship Retreat!Are you open-curious but not sure where to start? Still in the “just listening to podcasts” phase of your journey? We’ve got something special for you! Join us July 10-14 2025 in Nicaragua for a first-of-its-kind retreat designed for newbies and the open-curious—a no-pressure space to explore open relationships, ask questions, and connect with like-minded people.See the Facebook Group for more details!📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_Podcast

This week, we accidentally-on-purpose found ourselves back at the mic after a wild ride of separate play, compersion, confusion, and emotional curveballs. What started as a sexy conference fantasy between Anna and Aiden quickly turned into real-life challenges involving a surprise hotel hookup, sexting gone feral, and a lesson in how one spicy message can unravel (or ignite) a night. Think: cheating kinks, hotel bars, almost-revenge sex, and way too many emojis.We dig into what it’s like navigating fairness in play, why “do what you want” can sometimes mask deeper feelings, and how emotional honesty (even when it’s messy) is key to keeping it hot and healthy. We talk compersion vs. cuck, why texting during separate play can derail the vibe, and how we repaired a potential disaster with curiosity, good communication, and late-night honesty. Buckle up, babes—it’s vulnerable, raw, and very us. Fire emoji not optional.Listen now—and bring your feels. xoxo, Anna & Aiden📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/

🎧 Join us as we kick off Season 2 with a celebration of how far we've come—into deeper love, more freedom, and whole new levels of compersion (that warm feeling of being genuinely happy when your partner is happy—even when it’s with someone else 🥰). We share what it was like attending a spontaneous, sexy strip-club wedding (yes, really), where I found myself locking lips with Superman while Aiden was happily smooching Wonder Woman. It was a moment that showcased the true freedom of our relationship—no expectations, just pure trust, love, and FUN.I also discuss about the joy of exploring my more dominant, teasing side with other men 😏 and how we’re both learning to lean into new friendships—platonic and otherwise—without tension or fear. There's even a heartwarming moment where I make a new male friend while on vacation, proving that platonic connections can be just as meaningful.Of course next week I'm sure I'll be back to jealous mate-guarding 🤣😭, but for now we're in a really happy spot, ready for the next challenge to spur on new conversations!💫 xoxo Anna📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/

While Aiden was out of town, I found myself on an unexpected solo adventure—one that turned into a surprising lesson in compersion, communication, and just how much freedom turns us on. What started as an innocent night out with a lifestyle friend quickly had me questioning: was this a casual hangout or something more? Meanwhile, Aiden was miles away, glued to Find My, spiraling into a mix of jealousy and excitement—what we now call jealous-ited—where the uncertainty of my night made him want me even more. 😈🔥But the real twist? The more we let go of rules, the more intimate and free we feel—with each other and with those we choose to explore with. By the end of the night, I had a whole new level of clarity on what I want, and Aiden? Let’s just say when he got home, he definitely made me pay for being such a naughty little tease. 😏💥Tune in for the full story of how trust, compersion, and a little bit of jealousy are making our love (and sex life) hotter than ever. 🚀💋.xoxo, Anna & Aiden 📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/

What happens when you really let go of rules about relationships, masculinity, and desire? In this episode, Aiden opens up about his journey from traditional monogamy to non-monogamy—what surprised and challenged him, and how the lifestyle has transformed his confidence in ways he never expected. 👀💪We break down the unspoken pressure men feel in social settings to protect or assert ownership over "their women" , how seeing your partner flirting can go from a threat to a turn-on, and the unexpected ways open relationships actually strengthen trust.If you’ve ever wondered what the lifestyle is like from the male perspective, this episode is for you. 🎧🔥xoxo, Anna & Aiden 📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/

What happens when you realize the label you’ve been using might not fit anymore? In this episode, we take a hard look at where we really belong in the ENM world—are we swingers, open, monogamish, or something in between? Where might you fall? 🤔💭From redefining our play style to unpacking hidden fantasies (like Anna's cheating kink 👀🔥), this conversation is raw and real. If you’ve ever questioned your desires, struggled to speak up in the moment, or found yourself re-evaluating what you really want from non-monogamy, you won’t want to miss this one! 🎙️💡Thank you for listening!❤️ Anna & Aiden📩 Email us: [email protected]'re re-invigorating our stalled Facebook group! Help us keep the conversation going!https://www.facebook.com/share/g/18hLDr987f/

In this episode, we start with a totally relatable email from a listener asking for advice on how to approach the topic of opening her marriage with her (currently reluctant) husband, whom she adores.. 💌 Her questions are likely some that many of you have too--especially if you're new to the idea of opening up.🙋🏽‍♂️ What happens when it's the MAN who's hesitant? (HINT: The approach is the same regardless of which parter it is!)💗 How can you create a safe space for conversation without pressure and create more honesty and intimacy in a marriage--regardless of whether you play right away (or ever!)?😰 How do you deal with jealousy and the fear of losing your partner?😱 And god forbid, what if you run into someone you know at a lifestyle event?We dive deep into real talk on what worked for us, including how to set boundaries, build trust, and avoid common pitfalls.💥 Key moments: Aiden and Anna both share how the initial fears they had when opening up have shifted, and Anna discusses her curiosity about separate dating. Plus, we explore playful strategies (like card games and fantasy discussions) that can open up intimacy and turn up the heat, without pressure to involve others--yet.🌟✨📲 Don’t forget to leave us a ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ review to help us reach more listeners!Email us at [email protected] with your questions—we’d love to hear from you!You can also request to join our private FB Group here: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1B2EEfEQKA/

🎉 Hey Fam! 🔥 We’re back with Episode 25 where we share some unexpected lessons about boundaries and connection.Ever felt overwhelmed by lifestyle expectations? 😱 Same here. Anna discovers the perfect force field for anxiety at play parties! 🦫 Meanwhile, Aidan shares insights from his rave days about “cuddle puddle” culture, where physical touch doesn’t always mean sex—a revelation that challenges Anna's perspective on what it means to cuddle. Or is Aiden or just adorably clueless about women’s signals? 🤔Sexual boundaries are complex, and our podcast proves everyone’s experience is unique. Healthy boundaries strengthen relationships by creating mutual understanding and respect. Consent and comfort are ALWAYS the priority.Would you feel comfortable at a LS party like this? Is it different for men and women? Let us know at [email protected] 💕. 📧✨

Ever wonder where you land on the "lifestyle spectrum"? In this episode, we share specific questions to help determine what kind of approach may apply to those interested in the lifestyle. Join us as we explore the span of relationship models from strict monogamy to polyamory, as we share our personal anecdotes along the way.Key highlights include intriguing discussions on jealousy, attachment styles, and cultivating deeper intimacy. Plus, don't miss the wild update on Aiden's priapism incident and the unexpected outcome!Email us at [email protected] ❤️

In this deeply honest episode, we open up about our relationship challenges, past wounds, and the ongoing journey of healing and growth. On air and in real time, we discover how the scars of old relationships, our own breakup, and childhood traumas cause old patterns to resurface, and continue to shape our present dynamics.We uncover the importance of empathy, consistent honest communication, and quick repair in maintaining a healthy connection. 💬❤️This episode is for anyone who’s struggled with expressing their true selves or navigating the lingering impact of past pain. We share our most personal insights on overcoming insecurities and fears, and how we’re learning to grow together despite it all. 🌟Have a similar story or thought? We'd love to hear from you! Drop us a message at [email protected] 📧#Healing #Relationships #Growth #Vulnerability #Empathy #SelfDiscovery

Ep 22 is packed with heat 🔥 and a big lesson learned. We’re spilling the details about our latest adventure—a steamy session with a long-awaited couple that took our connection to bold new levels. But it’s not all fun and games—this wild night led to an unexpected trip to the ER. (Worth it! 🙌). We’re beyond grateful for your support—keep those emails coming! ✨Email is At [email protected]. 💌

In this episode, Aiden arrives home with a box of sexy questions, leading to an unexpectedly hilarious and insightful evening of revelations, laughs, and maybe some blushes. Join us as we delve into the most intimate conversations, games, pushing boundaries, and ask yourself how you might answer them!Enjoy! 💖Email us at: [email protected]

Inspired by a Reddit post titled 'My Wife Had Better Sex with Someone Else,' we explore our own fears and revelations when faced with the idea that our partner might experience 'better' sex outside the relationship. We delve into our own personal insecurities and discuss how the complexities of emotional and physical connections can create both challenges and opportunities for growth in our relationship. Through candid conversations about jealousy, trust, and intimacy, we uncover the ways in which alternative relationship models can actually strengthen the bond between partners. Enjoy! 💖Email us at: [email protected]

Join us as we dive into Anna's recent coffee date experience and the "nervousitement" that comes with meeting a stranger on a first date. Anna recounts her jitters leading up to the date and how Aidan encouraged her to step out of her comfort zone. From a last-minute mole inspections to heartfelt reflections on trust and autonomy, Anna shares her thoughts on the date itself, highlighting her initial impressions and the importance of honesty in dating profiles. We also discuss the broader challenges of being single in the lifestyle and the unique dynamics that come with it. Meanwhile, Aidan provides his perspective on what it's like to be the partner staying at home, offering candid insights into his own feelings of slight jealousy and support. We wrap up with a candid conversation about what happens when "coming out" to friends and others who might not fully understand the concept of ENM.Enjoy! 💖Email us at: [email protected]

🎉 Welcome Back, Everyone! 🎉 If you’re loving our podcast, please drop us a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review! We're seeing so many of you tuning in – and even emailing us now – it has been awesome! 📬Today, we’re diving into some juicy updates! 🍸 Last episode, we left you hanging on the “Superman and Wonder Woman” saga – where we had a fab time… but got a lil’ ghosted on the group chat 🦗👻. Turns out, they had a lot going on and want to reconnect, which made us wonder: Should we take it personally when people go silent? 🤔Plus, there’s a recap of a wild hippie-themed party where someone (aka Aiden) rocked the DJ booth 🎧💃, and a peek into my upcoming coffee “date” ☕ with a single guy (just for fun, of course 😉). But what if it stirs things up? 😬🔥So if you’re curious about navigating boundaries, bringing up tricky convos, or laughing at our “lifestyle” adventures, you’re in the right place! Drop us an email with your own stories – we'd love to hear from you! 📩💌

In this episode, we dive into our first playdate post-engagement.💍 After weeks of build-up with a sexy couple, the other woman boldly texted Aiden, "You have my full permission to bang me”—and it was ON! Recording from the car just before our date, we chat through our nerves, excitement, and our ✨revolutionary✨ plan to "play first, THEN eat."As always, when expectations meet reality the result is hilarious, sometimes awkward, and always fun, like when their very interested dog gave Anna the death stare when she started making out with Superman!🤣Then, in the aftermath of a steamy night, we discuss how to handle the other couple’s post-play radio silence and how easy it is to overthink. We talk candidly about navigating complex emotions, jealousy, and the funny ways relationships grow and surprise us. Tune in to hear the juicy details and laugh along with our misadventures in ethical non-monogamy.Enjoy! 💖Email us at: [email protected]

In this episode, we get candid about our quirks, kinks, and the challenges we face with jealousy and chemistry. From my "jealousy kink" that spices things up, to Aiden’s on-the-spot encounter with "Hot Girl" at a party, to our hilarious realization that we’re basically becoming each other's "secret sluts"—there’s no shortage of juicy moments. We share real stories about balancing spontaneity with trust, setting boundaries, and the surprising ways these experiences bring us closer. Join us as we laugh, learn, and open up about the unique journey we’re on together.Enjoy! 💖Email us at: [email protected]

In this episode of Hacking Love, we revisit some of our early adventures in the lifestyle, focusing on our first visit to a real sex club, revealing our expectations versus reality. We also recount our initial play experiences.From dealing with unexpected challenges and performance issues to finding our rhythm in group dynamics, we discuss how these experiences have helped us learn and grow as individuals and as a couple. Throughout the episode, we highlight the importance of communication, connection, consent and mutual respect.Whether you're experienced or new to the lifestyle, join us as we explore the exciting and sometimes challenging world of swinging and open relationships.Enjoy! 💖Email us at: [email protected]

In this episode, we kick things off with a shout-out to some of our new listeners all over the world. Listen for your city! Thank you all and feel free to reach out to us! 🫶In this episode, we dive into our recent lifestyle experiences and how we've learned to balance feelings of jealousy and freedom. One highlight anecdote of the episode revolves around our date to a concert with couple we like. We share our excitement and the series of funny and real moments, along with in-the-moment recordings before and after the date—one that led to a some sexual frustration!Enjoy! 💖Email us at: [email protected]

Ready to be your best, hottest and most sexy self? We'll show you exactly how!In this episode of Hacking Love, we explore the critical role health and hormones play in transforming your body and preparing you for active, fulfilling lifestyle experiences. Anna draws from her considerable experience in this area, discussing how to achieve hormonal balance and sexual wellness, how to overcome challenges like erectile dysfunction and body issues, and the importance of a functional medicine approach to overall health. Learn practical tips and expert insights to optimize your wellbeing and get lifestyle ready!The information in this episode is for educational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice; please consult your primary care provider before making any changes to your diet, lifestyle, supplements, or medications.We'd love to hear from you! Email us at [email protected] the conversation on our new Facebook Group! 💖

In this episode of “Hacking Love”, Anna grapples with deeply ingrained societal conditioning around sexuality, and her own sense of self-worth. From early-age teachings about the 'proper' roles for women, to confronting double standards, she shares her internal conflicts and evolving perspective shaped by her experiences in the lifestyle community.Listen as we unpack our battles with slut-shaming, hyper-selectivity, and societal expectations, all while navigating our relationship and discovering our authentic desires and quest for personal freedom and autonomy.. The episode reveals Anna's raw, honest exploration of challenging old beliefs, and ultimately seeking personal growth, self-acceptance, and empowerment.We'd love to hear from you! Email us at [email protected] the conversation on our new Facebook Group! 💖

As Aiden and Anna prepare for a lifestyle pool party, beginning the recording just before they head out. Anna candidly shares her feelings of self-consciousness and insecurity, particularly around an attractive single woman, which triggers her jealousy. Throughout the episode, the couple debate and discuss their expectations, anxieties, and dynamics, both before and after the party. As the night unfolds, Anna finds herself navigating her feelings, connecting with others, and ultimately discovering more about herself and her relationship with Aiden. The episode gets real as Anna opens up about her struggles, but they find resolutions and deeper understanding by the end of the night.This one is fun, as we lightheartedly "argue", and then get pretty serious, about feelings of jealousy and how the night might unfold. We come back after the party to compare notes.We'd love to hear from you! Email us at [email protected] the conversation on our new Facebook Group! 💖