Handled: A Wedding Planning Podcast

Most people think wedding planning is primarily a logistical exercise. And yes — the logistics are real. But in this episode I want to challenge that assumption and share what I've learned after 13 years of doing this work: wedding planning is, at its core, a decision making experience. And the couples who move through it most confidently are the ones who understand that from the beginning.This is my philosophy. And it changes everything....Connect with Alyson:🌐 https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/📲 @birdcageandblushersweddings

If you've been here before, you may have noticed things look a little different. New name, new cover, new energy. In this episode, I'm taking a few minutes to talk about what changed, what didn't, and why this evolution felt necessary. Because the show I kept wanting to make wasn't quite fitting inside the one I had. So I rebuilt it — around my voice, my perspective, and the conversations I actually want to be having with you.This is still me. Just more of me....Connect with Alyson:🌐 https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/📲 @birdcageandblushersweddings

Wedding planning is emotional work. The decisions are endless, the opinions are loud, and somewhere in the middle of all of it, it's easy to lose the thread of what this is actually supposed to feel like.That's exactly why this show exists.I'm Alyson Thompson — Chicago wedding planner, creative director, and the person who's going to challenge you to think about this process a little differently. Let Me Ask You This is a podcast for couples who want more than timelines and vendor checklists. Who want to understand the decisions they're making and feel good about how they're moving through the process.Every episode we'll explore both sides — the logical and the emotional — because you need both to plan a wedding you'll actually love.This isn't a tips podcast. It's a thinking space.New episodes dropping soon. Subscribe now so you don't miss them.

If you’re newly engaged, the pressure to start immediately is real — venues, Pinterest boards, vendor outreach, all at once. But the biggest mistake couples make in the first 30 days isn’t choosing the wrong vendor.It’s planning for aesthetics before their priorities are clear.In this episode of Handled, Alyson breaks down why rushing into decisions often leads to overwhelm, misaligned spending, and unnecessary stress — and what to do instead. You’ll learn how establishing clear priorities early becomes the framework that makes every decision after that feel easier, faster, and more confident.This episode is especially for couples who want a planning process that feels intentional, grounded, and actually enjoyable — not reactive.Let's connect!Instagram: @BirdcageandblushersweddingsWebsite: www.birdcageandblushers.com

This final episode of the year is a reflective one.In this episode of Handled, Alyson shares what she’s most grateful for after a full season of wedding planning — not as a highlight reel, but as a reminder of what truly matters during the planning process.From couples who trusted the process, to being invited into deeply emotional moments, to the quiet wins that never make it to Instagram, this episode explores the unseen layers of wedding planning that shape how a day feels, not just how it looks.Alyson reflects on presence over perfection, connection over performance and more. As we head into a new year and a new wave of engagements, this episode is a grounding reminder that you don’t have to plan perfectly — just honestly, intentionally, and with support that makes you feel safe.Let's connect!Instagram: @BirdcageandblushersweddingsWebsite: www.birdcageandblushers.com

Wedding planning isn’t just about logistics, budgets, or aesthetics — it’s about identity, relationships, expectations, and emotion. And that’s why it can feel so overwhelming, even for the most capable, organized couples.In this episode of Handled, Alyson explores the emotional architecture of a wedding — the invisible layers that make planning feel so big, so personal, and sometimes so heavy. From identity shifts and family dynamics to money narratives, social pressure, and the gap between Pinterest and reality, this conversation validates what so many couples are feeling but rarely hear acknowledged.If you’ve ever wondered “Why does this feel so intense?” or “Why am I struggling with decisions that should feel simple?” — this episode is for you. You’ll leave feeling grounded, understood, and reminded that you’re not doing anything wrong.This is your permission to slow down, lead with values, and plan from a place of intention — not pressure.Let's connect!Instagram: @BirdcageandblushersweddingsWebsite: www.birdcageandblushers.comLearn more about the Venue Shortlist System:https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/venue-shortlist-system

Choosing a wedding venue isn’t just about falling in love with the aesthetic — it’s about making sure the space truly fits your budget, your guest count, your design vision, and your priorities.In this episode of Handled, wedding planner and bride-to-be Alyson Thompson breaks down the real criteria couples should be using before they book a venue — beyond vibes, Pinterest photos, and curated Instagram grids.You’ll learn:• Why beautiful photos don’t tell you the whole story• The three non-negotiables every couple should identify before touring• How guest count, priorities, and budget quietly shape everything• Hidden venue costs couples rarely know to ask about• How rentals, catering models, lighting, and logistics impact your bottom line• Why the venue determines up to 70% of your total budget• How to avoid falling in love with a space that simply can’t support your visionAlyson also shares why she created her signature Venue Shortlist System — a personalized process that helps couples narrow their search to spaces that truly align with their guest count, design goals, logistics, and budget.If you’re in the early stages of planning, or if you have no idea where to begin with venue hunting, this episode is your roadmap to making confident, aligned decisions.Learn more about the Venue Shortlist System:https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/venue-shortlist-systemLet's Stay Connected:Instagram: @BirdcageandblushersweddingsWebsite: www.birdcageandblushers.com

In this episode of Handled, Alyson breaks down the part of wedding planning no one likes talking about: the budget. Not the line items, not the price tags — but the feelings, confusion, misconceptions, and comparison culture that make couples feel shamey, stressed, or totally lost when it comes to money.You'll learn why budgeting feels so emotional, the truth about DIY “savings,” where couples overspend without realizing it, and how to make aligned, confident financial decisions based on your values — not panic or pressure. Alyson also shares insider tips on labor, rentals, florals, catering styles, and why “cheap” often isn’t cheaper.If you’re overwhelmed, conflicted, or wondering why this part of planning feels so hard, take a deep breath. You’re not alone — and this episode will help you handle it with clarity, confidence, and calm.Book a Planning Power SessionInstagram: ⁠⁠⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠⁠⁠Work with me: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠⁠[email protected]

You got engaged — now what?Before you make a Pinterest board, book a venue tour, or say yes to anything with a deposit attached… there are foundational steps every couple should take first. And most couples skip them.In this episode, I’m breaking down the exact process I walk my Birdcage & Blushers couples through the moment they get engaged:✨ getting crystal clear on your vision✨ understanding your budget without the shame spiral✨ learning how to approach the venue search strategically, not reactivelyIf you want to avoid months of stress, overwhelm, and costly wrong turns, this episode is your starting point.And if the venue search already feels like too much? I created my Venue Shortlist System specifically to save you time, money, and decision fatigue — so you can start your planning with confidence and clarity. Learn more about the Venue Shortlist System: https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/venue-shortlist-systemLet’s stay connected!Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode of Handled: A Wedding Planning Podcast, Alyson shares the insider truths every couple should know before they book their planner. From understanding what a planner actually does (and doesn’t do) to knowing what makes a great planner-client relationship thrive, this conversation is equal parts eye-opening and empowering. Let’s stay connected!Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠

In this episode of Handled, Alyson is pulling back the curtain on how she builds timelines that keep couples calm, organized, and fully present on their wedding day. She talks about everything that goes into a seamless timeline — from vendor load-ins and hair and makeup schedules to photo timing, transportation, and even pre-wedding setup and rehearsals.Let’s stay connectedInstagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠

In this episode of Handled: A Wedding Planning Podcast, Alyson unpacks why tension shows up during planning (spoiler: it’s rarely about napkin colors), how to understand the emotions beneath disagreements, and ways to communicate and compromise without losing connection.Let’s stay connectedInstagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠⁠⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠

Choosing your wedding vendors shouldn’t feel like navigating a maze of emails, contracts, and conflicting opinions. In this episode of Handled, Alyson breaks down how to find the right vendors for you—the ones who align with your values, energy, and vision, not just your budget.Let’s stay connectedInstagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠⁠⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠

Money and emotions are deeply connected — especially when you’re planning a wedding. In this episode of Handled: A Wedding Planning Podcast, Alyson opens up about the pressure couples feel around wedding budgets, from navigating family opinions to comparing costs online.She shares how to reframe budget stress into clarity and confidence, what to focus on when decision-making feels heavy, and why social media’s “what you should and shouldn’t spend on” advice often does more harm than help.This episode is your reminder that budgeting isn’t about restriction — it’s about alignment. You deserve a wedding that reflects your priorities, values, and peace of mind, no matter the number.If you’ve ever felt anxious about what you’re “supposed” to spend, this episode will help you breathe again....Let’s stay connectedInstagram: ⁠⁠⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠⁠⁠Work with me: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠⁠[email protected]

Wedding photos are more than beautiful portraits—they’re emotional time capsules. In this episode of Handled: A Wedding Planning Podcast, Alyson sits down with Chicago-based photographer Winterlyn Stebner of Winterlyn Photography to explore the feelings behind wedding photography and what it means to be truly seen on your wedding day.Together, they talk about vulnerability in front of the camera, the importance of trust between couples and their photographer, and how emotion, movement, and connection shape the most meaningful images. From first looks to quiet in-between moments, this is a heartfelt conversation about capturing not just how your day looked—but how it felt.Where to find WinterlynWebsite:Chicago Wedding Photographer | Winterlyn PhotographyInstagram: @winterlyn_photographyLet’s stay connectedInstagram: ⁠⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠⁠Work with me: ⁠⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠[email protected]

In this episode of Handled, Alyson Thompson discusses the essential roles and responsibilities of wedding party members, emphasizing the importance of clear communication and setting expectations. She contrasts traditional wedding party roles with modern practices, highlighting the need for support rather than production. The episode concludes with key takeaways for couples to ensure a smooth wedding day experience.✨ Let’s stay connectedInstagram: ⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠Work with me: ⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠Email: ⁠[email protected]

In this episode of Handled, Alyson Thompson discusses the phenomenon of decision fatigue, particularly in the context of wedding planning. She explains how overwhelming choices can lead to stress and frustration, and offers practical strategies to manage this fatigue. ✨ Let’s stay connectedInstagram: ⁠⁠⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠⁠⁠Work with me: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠

In this episode of Handled, Alyson Thompson discusses the true value of hiring a wedding planner, debunking common misconceptions and highlighting the emotional and logistical benefits that come with professional support. She emphasizes that a good planner not only manages logistics but also provides emotional support, helping couples navigate the complexities of wedding planning with confidence and peace of mind. Alyson also shares practical advice on how to choose the right planner for your needs.✨ Let’s stay connectedInstagram: ⁠⁠⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠⁠⁠Work with me: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠

In this episode of Handled, Alyson Thompson delves into the intricacies of venue contracts, emphasizing their importance in the wedding planning process. She discusses key elements to look for in contracts, such as inclusions, timing, vendor restrictions, and cancellation policies. Alyson also highlights potential red flags and smart questions couples should ask to ensure they fully understand their agreements. The episode aims to empower couples with the knowledge needed to navigate venue contracts confidently, ultimately leading to a smoother wedding planning experience.Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠⁠⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠

Not sure what to do when—or if you’re already behind? In this episode of Handled, I’m walking you through why a planning timeline matters, what a customized one looks like for my couples, and when to book your key vendors. I’ll also break down the difference between your planning timeline and your day-of schedule (and who’s managing what). Whether you’re feeling stuck or just want to get ahead, this one’s for you.✨ Let’s stay connectedInstagram: ⁠⁠⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠⁠⁠Work with me: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠

When it comes to planning your wedding, everyone suddenly has something to say. Whether it’s opinions about your guest list, your budget, or the color of your napkins—outside voices can get loud, fast.In this episode of Handled, Alyson shares how to navigate the flood of feedback while staying true to your vision. She reflects on why this is such a common challenge for engaged couples, what you can do to stay grounded, and how she advocates for her clients when opinions start to overwhelm.If you’re feeling torn between what you want and what others expect, this one’s for you.✨ Let’s stay connectedInstagram: ⁠⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠⁠Work with me: ⁠⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠

Venue or guest list—which one comes first? I get this question all the time, and my answer is clear: make the guest list first. In this episode, I walk you through why starting here gives you more clarity, less stress, and way fewer regrets down the road. We’ll talk about how to actually make that list (even when family dynamics are messy), why it’s the real roadmap for your planning, and how it helps you find a venue that actually works. It’s not easy—but it’s worth it.✨ Let’s stay connectedInstagram: ⁠⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠⁠Work with me: ⁠⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠

In this special episode, I’m joined by my fiancé to share how we’ve navigated our own wedding planning process as a couple. From budget convos and venue visits to decision fatigue and division of labor—this is a real, behind-the-scenes look at what it’s like when a planner gets engaged and suddenly becomes the client. (Spoiler: it’s still hard sometimes.) We talk about communication, compromise, and why having each other’s back is the most important part of it all.Vendor Shout outs:Caterer: Food For Thought Catering: Event & Business Catering in Chicago | Food For ThoughtCustom Stationery: The Word Paperie DesignThe Word Paperie Design: Elevated Stationery for Memorable Events✨ Let’s stay connectedInstagram: ⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠Work with me: ⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠

Not sure if you need a full-service planner, just a little coordination help, or something in between? In this episode, I walk through the different types of wedding planning support available—what they mean, what’s included, and who they’re best for.Whether you’re Type A, overwhelmed, or somewhere in between, you’ll walk away with more clarity (and a lot less guilt) around getting help.✨ Let’s stay connectedInstagram: ⁠@birdcageandblushersweddings⁠Work with me: ⁠https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-planner⁠Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠

In this first episode, I’m sharing why I created Handled—and why planning a wedding is about so much more than checklists and color palettes.As a wedding planner and a bride, I’ve seen how overwhelming this process can be—not just logistically, but emotionally. So this podcast is here to support you through both.Whether you’re in the early stages or deep in the details, I hope this episode helps you feel seen, supported, and a little more grounded as you plan.🎧 Listen in and let’s get into it.✨ Let’s stay connectedInstagram: @birdcageandblushersweddingsWork with me: https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-plannerEmail: [email protected]

Welcome to Handled, a wedding planning podcast for modern couples who want more than checklists and timelines. Hosted by Alyson Thompson—Chicago-based wedding planner, bride-to-be, and founder of Birdcage and Blushers Weddings—this show explores both the how and the heart behind getting married.Each episode blends real talk and reflection to support you through the emotional, logistical, and very human side of planning a wedding. If you're feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or just need someone to say, “yes, that’s normal”—you’re in the right place.Follow now and get ready to plan with more clarity, more calm, and a whole lot more support.✨ Let’s stay connectedInstagram: @birdcageandblushersweddingsWork with me: https://www.birdcageandblushers.com/contact-chicago-wedding-plannerEmail: [email protected]