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Have you been crying?

by Harj & Maxxe

Life is hard. People smell. And all we want is more sleep. Join two friends as they catch up and discuss topics that make them cry tears of joy, rage, and sadness.

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  1. Swiping with the stars and bucket lists (Raya, Matthew Perry, Ben Affleck, aging, wellness)

    We learn about the humbling experiences of the rich and famous on the celebrity dating app Raya. Spoiler alert: OMG they're just like us! Then we fully moisturize to discuss our strategies for staying asians-that-don't-raisin. Dermatologists hate them for this one secret.

  2. Going bro-less and DMs on the DL (Reddit, OnlyFans, Instagram, Camgirls)

    We fantasize about 24 hours without men on Earth. The bras are being burnttt! Then we bring to the court of public opinion accusations of microcheating. No kink-shaming allowed!

  3. Hot dirty jungle Asians seeking churros (Avatar, Ali Wong, Tinder, Grindr)

    We swing into a conversation about Jungle Asians and Fancy Asians. Is it ok to call someone by either term? Then we take a stroll to remember 2 of Harjot's worst dates of 2022. Where are the churros, Simon?

  4. Dr. Phil-thy and the flaky fence riders (Oprah, Bhad Bhabie, Jerry Springer, LGBTQ+)

    We burst onto the podcast to officially cancel the Southern fried fake therapist, Dr. Phil. Then, we examine the frustrating people who lack a POV on anything too "political". Are you a fence rider?

  5. Unmarvelous Mr. Maisel and un-virgin Mary (Marvel, Christina Aguilera, slut shaming)

    We snatch the crowns off the mild men that mainstream society celebrates as "hot". We demand more inclusivity in a sea of Chrises! Then we get down to numbers in our discussion about body count and the confusing label of virginity, because "eventually, we're all somebody’s slut."

  6. Ruining Christmas and the comments section (TikTok, Instagram, Drew Afualo)

    We dive into the secretive and surprisingly controversial glitter industry. Is there a shortage? And where is it all going? Then we roll up our sleeves and defend BIPOC creators in the comments section. Harjot has time for this!

  7. Time wasters and TikTok realness (Psychology Today, Julia Fox)

    We make time to discuss the minds of the chronically late and anxiously on-time. Then we talk about our fave place for queer content, bipoc POVs, drama, and trends: TikTok. #IYKYK #finnabeinthepit #bffr

  8. Coffee creamers and creepy cooks (Dane Cook, Billie Eilish)

    We slang our big dick energy all over Episode 3. First Harjot shares another funny personal story from his past, when office chitchat over coffee turned too hot to handle. Then we discuss gross Dane Cook's predatory games night and other disgusting celebrity groomers.

  9. Real Linewives and horrible Hilton (Tiktok, Kathy Hilton, Real Housewives)

    We scroll through TikTok drama and uncover the messy lives of linemen and the linewives that love them. Stay away bucket bunnies! We also take the time to callout another gay-icon-gone-wrong: Kathy Hilton. We try to figure out why she gets a pass for so many problematic things?

  10. Lonely men and Liza Minelli (Psychology Today, Tinder, Judy Garland)

    We come back from our sab-BADDIE-cal spent tackling a year of creative projects (@sailormoonparody) to jump back into pod-ing. We first unpack the trending Psychology Today article “The Rise of The Lonely, Single Man” and then discuss how exclusionary gay pop culture can be. Sailor Moon Parody...

  11. Meowternity leave and unfunny men (LinkedIn, Netflix, Dave Chapelle)

    We discuss the companies considering pawrental/meowternity leave policies for their growing population of Millennial pet owner/fur parent employees. Then we tell stand up comedian Dave Chapelle to sit down because of his lazy transphobic comedy special.

  12. Spilled juice, breastmilk, and buttery leggings (LulaRoe, LulaRich)

    We clean up the misogynist mess that is known as 'Strategic Incompetence', where partners (mainly cis men) pretend they lack the know-how to perform traditionally women tasks (cleaning, cooking, childcare). And then we discuss 'LulaRich', the Amazon Prime documentary that exposes the multi-level...

  13. Drag Racism and Super Soakers (RuPaul, Toderick Hall, cupcakKe)

    We pull out a seat and take them as we LEARNT from Silky Nutmeg Ganache's (@silkyganache) discussion about RuPaul and Todrick Hall's POV as QPOC expressing themselves in the queer community. Then we talk about the 'soaking' loophole that religious youth are using to avoid the sin of premarital…

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  14. Teenage dreams and dying (Sailor Moon, LinkedIn)

    We pull out our teen diaries to gossip and compare our pubescent dreams and ambitions. Then we discuss how people of colour and children of immigrants can experience grief, and the racial and cultural gap in bereavement policies. Sailor Moon Parody Linktree: https://linktr.ee/sailormoonparody…

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  15. Cams and culture vultures (Zoom, BTS, Rachel Dolezal)

    We stay off-cam to discuss the expectations and impact of going on-camera during work meetings. Then we talk about two problematic/controversial figures who claim to have 'transitioned' races.

  16. Teacher's pets, puppets, and false prophets (Sesame Street, Covid-19 vaccine)

    We get into the back-to-school spirit and remember our favourite teachers from our childhood, and have storytime about a past chance to be on Sesame Street. Then, we discuss problematic wellness/spiritual influencers who are spreading misinformation about covid and the vaccine.

  17. A shot of cheugy (Tila Tequila, MTV, TikTok)

    We re-live the rise and fall of early 2000s iconic MySpace/AsianAvenue social media celebrity, Tila Tequila. Then, we discuss the origin and discourse around the term 'cheugy', and its problematic connection to misogyny. Video explaining Cheugy: https://youtu.be/AJb25SOjEjI

  18. Muppet non-binary babies and teenage love sorry

    We celebrate the new genre of children's television that embraces trans stories, then visit a memory of awkward teen regret and romance.

  19. Wherever, whenever, whoever

    We're back for Season 5 to share relationship advice for staying together by keeping things very separate. And we plan the logistics of running away during a Millennial midlife crisis.

  20. Dr. Pepper and Missed Crush (Access Alliance, Rainbow Health Ontario)

    We examine bias when choosing healthcare providers, and take a stroll down Sherway Gardens to reminisce about a cardigan-clad, customer service crush. Learn more about Access Alliance: www.AccessAlliance.ca Learn more about Rainbow Health Ontario: www.RainbowHealthOntario.ca

  21. Cancel coaching and ally etiquette (Covid-19 vaccine, Grindr, U-Haul)

    We prepare for a post-vaccinated world with the worst tips for cancelling plans. Then we test our ally IQs with an eduGAYtional segment.

  22. Justice and judgemental uncles (Derek Chauvin, George Floyd, BLM)

    We acknowledge the monumental guilty verdict against George Floyd's murderer (Derek Chauvin), the well-intentioned whoopsie responses of awkward allies, and touchy topic of family vs. career.

  23. No body-shame game and panty problems (Khloe Kardashian, Hanes)

    We dig deep into the topic of Khloe Kardashian's reaction to her unfiltered bikini pics. Then we talk about how often you need to throw out your panties, and reveal which one of us is the more responsible underwearer.

  24. Alien inclusion and TikTok bipoc hijacks (UFOs, Addison Rae, Jimmy Fallon)

    We talk about making space for beings from outer space, and problematic TikTok celebrities (like Addison Rae) building their fame off the backs of bipoc and qpoc creators.

  25. Hella gay music and fight yourself club (Lil Nas X, Trans Visibility Day)

    We tell a sh!tty story, acknowledge Trans Visibility Day, and put a spotlight on Lil Nas X's music video, Montero (Call Me By Your Name). Then, we get spicy and callout our most toxic critics.

  26. Really bad day and quiz-no-thank-you

    We take a pause to acknowledge the f*cked up, senseless hate crimes committed against (mostly Asian women) Xiaojie Tan, Delaina Ashley Yaun, Daoyou Feng, Soon Chung Park, Hyun Grant, Paul Andre Michels, Suncha Kim, and Yong Ae Yue. Then, we try to lighten the mood with a lightning quiz segment.

  27. Burger King bungle and office chair Karen

    We flame broil Burger King over their tasteless sexism, and tell racist markkketers to take several ergonomic seats with their cultural appropriation.

  28. Coors Light-skinned and McKarma

    We put the Fair & Lovely down to talk about representation in Power Rangers and anime; then make a hard left to reveal a shameful origin story.

  29. ASMR, daddy deity issues, tickle me no-no

    We’re back for another season! Starting off the first episode with sugary stimuli, rants about dusty holy bros, and teaching tickle consent.

  30. Code switch bish, blessed mess, BBQ ban

    We shed our fake personas for real talk about code switching while WFH, theories of messy benefits, and flaming BBQ boneheads. Messy: The Power of Disorder to Transform Our Lives by Tim Harford: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/28815513-messy

  31. Lac-tease, suddenly polyamory, conn-ASS-seur

    We grab a milking stool to talk about old milk maids tales, playing around with anal play, and learn about the positives of polyamory. Featuring special guest: Trish (fire enthusiast) Get more from Trish on Twitter: https://twitter.com/himynameistrish Learn about Halo Brewery:...

  32. Sponge bad sad rants, Goldigger and the prank scares

    We get soaked in all our wet ass feelings, drop facts on pickup artists, and smash dat unsubscribe on misogynist 5s.

  33. Miserable, mad, prime

    We fall truly, madly, scientifically in love with misery, embrace our doorbell demons, and serenade a forgotten Canadian icon.

  34. Pet reading, ghost ghosting, tiring terror

    We celebrate Halloween with a surprise pet reading, sharing tales of phantom fucbois, and crying over horror hangovers. Featuring special guest: Durga Magnetta (Medium, Intuitive Reader, and Life Coach). To learn more about Durga and book an appointment: https://www.freetobeauthentic.com To…

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  35. Funk-town, conspira-city, traum-attic, Fenty-wood

    We boogey down with mental health maintenance work, theories about Charlotte's dark web, heirloom trauma, and knee-shattering confidence that trolls could never.

  36. Destiny’s Childhood trauma, care-dashian, reheated racism

    We dig into some grave feelings about independence, empathy in strange places, and zapping bigotry.

  37. Stripper, ego tripper, woe tow-er

    We bare our feelings about strip clubs, the oppression of the 'narcissist' label, and empathy for service workers.

  38. DomiNOs, ambassaDONTs, emotional BADeries

    We dig into slices of Instagram scams, adventures of Harjy the Emotional Vampire Slayer, and LinkedIn novellas.

  39. GoCD, to be COVID-ued, LinkedOff

    We kick it and kiki about Keeping up with Kharjot, personal space, and the Human Resource arts.

  40. Season 2: Complains, shames, and automobiles

    We handpick tasty bits and sound bites of our second season. Low in calories. High in facts. Special heartfelt thank you to our guests/friends: Art Komarov, startup founder and entrepreneur. ([email protected]) Anisha Lad (@empoweredspice), founder of Empowered Spice. (https://empoweredspice.com)…

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  41. Receipts, reasons, rhombuses

    We get vulnerable to discuss cancel culture, 'Does everything happen for a reason?', and professional attire.

  42. Low carb, loss of family, lightning quiz

    We virtually sit down for a discussion about losing loved ones, humour, resilience, and how not to make someone else's grief experience about yourself. Featuring special guest: Eugenia (Host of the podcast Eugenia Talks A lot ). Learn more about Eugenia's podcast:...

  43. Flapper dress, Canada Day hat, black cap and kaftan

    We chatter about how time travel is problematic for BIPOC people, our Canada Day triggers, and overcoming ice breaker anxiety.

  44. BIPOC Rock, Fast & Flirtatious

    We chat about the experiences of BIPOC queer women in the music industry. Featuring special guests from the alt-pop and indie rock band Madame Psychosis: Michelle Mondesir (lead singer) and Jaina Tharakan (drummer, background vocalist). Learn more about the band: https://madamepsychosislive.com...

  45. Ally, best friend for-anger, Ben & Jerry

    We dial in to chat about Zoom allyship tips, rage-bonding, and tasty loads of emotional baggage.

  46. George Floyd, Black Lives Matter, POC privilege

    We take this time to address the murder of George Floyd and the importance of the Black Lives Matter movement. We share the self-work we are doing to be better allies, and helpful resources for people looking to support the cause: LEARN What Is Optical Allyship? 3 Ways To Be Actively Anti-Racist:...

  47. Spirulina, altruism, Rumpelstiltskin

    We savour a discussion about women entrepreneurs, and turning passion projects into compassion projects. Featuring special guest: Anisha Lad (Founder of the superfood spice company Empowered Spice). Learn more at: empoweredspice.com

  48. Talbots, tough girls, therapy

    We get vulnerable and share our bully memories and therapy origin stories.

  49. Entrepreneur, imposter, Grwlr

    We invest in a conversation about mentally surviving and thriving as an entrepreneur. Featuring special guest: Art Komarov (startup founder and entrepreneur). You can reach Art at: [email protected]

  50. Cam etiquette and age appropriate

    We hit unmute to share tips for surviving video calls and becoming not-young.

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ABOUT THIS SHOW

Life is hard. People smell. And all we want is more sleep. Join two friends as they catch up and discuss topics that make them cry tears of joy, rage, and sadness.

HOSTED BY

Harj & Maxxe

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health fitness mental

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