HER Dating & Relationship Secrets

In “Conscious Beauty (What Your Style & Appearance Says About Who You Are On The Inside)” Barry explains the relationship between our self identity, self image and beliefs about ourself and out outer style & appearance. He gives an example of how conscious beauty starts inside then is reflected on the outside, and how that attracts and keeps the desire of our soulmate.

Listen To And Trust Your Intuition

Barry describes the three stages of major transitions in our lives and relationships. He walks us through making big changes in a conscious, healthy, empowered way! Which of these three stages are you at?

Barry shares the 3 Main Blocks To Male Commitment & Connection, and gives examples of them.

Barry explains how relationships can leave emotional scars and how these can follow you from relationship to relationship. He discusses how family of origin affects this, how the way you end a relationship determines success or failure of your next relationship, how relationship scars can keep you from meeting the right partner, how to tell if you relationship scars are healed or not, and more in this powerful, insight-packed episode!

Barry goes over the “The 3 Keys To Empowered Relationships” — he discusses the obstacles to each and gives examples. These three elements MUST be there to keep your power when dating and in relationships!

Barry goes through the different situations where we can have challenges knowing what to say: from meeting a new guy, to conversation on dates, or with a long term partner. He reviews the reasons these challenges happen and describes the emotional mechanisms that prevent us from or allow us to easily express ourselves. He offers solutions and actions to more easily know what to say.

In “The Way Into A Man’s Heart (To Be The Only One In It)” Barry shares the biggest mistakes people make when wanting a man to love them, how to avoid those mistakes and how to be the ONLY one in a man’s heart! You cannot miss this episode.

Good Friends & Family, Bad Advice

Barry describes how to assess a partner who deserves you — he shares Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh’s 5 elements of a thriving relationship and how to change your focus from your partner or potential partners traits to whether you and this person have these 5 elements in your dynamic.

Barry describes why Self Awareness determines your chances of a reality-based, healthy relationship. He describes how men are usually raised to have lower self awareness in certain areas, and how to spot it in a man. He then explains how to create your own self awareness, reduce your blindspots and strengthen your relationship with yourself, and others! Don’t miss this one. Without self awareness, you can’t have a healthy, empowered relationship!

Barry delves into how our childhood attachment style affects our adult relationships! He also offers a special gift at the end!

Barry covers “How A Man Shows You He Loves You”. He walks through the different ways men express love, the difference between sincere love and him just saying and doing things to get what he wants, and how to tune in to your love radar.

Barry describes how to know if a man will actually change.

Barry gets into detail about ‘Type A’ Personality Men. Why they are attractive to many women. What it’s like to date them and be in relationships with them. What’s really go on inside them, and what’s really going on inside you.

Barry explains how our body environment and it’s health affect our dating and relationships through things like energy level, stress, irritability, appearance, confidence, sexual chemistry, illness and others. He offers a simple, quick action to take today to ensure you are healthier so you can have a healthy, empowered relationship. Listen up!

Barry dissects the different ways your Father figure can impact your current dating & relationships — he gives examples of Fathers who were not present, present but dysfunctional, present and “perfect”, and the current ways your pattern will show up. These include being a rescuer/fixer, have abandonment triggers, safety and control issues, comparing men to an unreal standard, and more.

Getting Out Of Your Head (Stop Over-Thinking)

Barry explains how and why we can think the grass is greener on the other side: single people yearning for a partner, couples yearning for a different partner or to be single. He shares how to begin assessing if this is a healthy intuition or an unhealthy one, then describes the concept of Fantasy Contamination and balancing reality with fantasy. Also, he shares what to focus on to help us stop comparing.

Barry shares how to meet new men or connect with the man you are with. This is a simple change in approach that makes it much easier for a man to connect with you!

Barry shares the secret to having men REALLY listen to you. It’s bot complicated, but we are usually unaware of this as we speak. He also gives you a fun way to practice this!

Barry shares a powerful concept that neuroscience has revealed. Object Constancy is a developmental stage that affects emotional attachment — Barry describes what it is, how it develops, how it can contribute to fear of abandonment and anxious attachment style if not fully developed, plus how to see what your level of object constancy is and how to improve it.

Barry goes deep into the topic of “Bringing The Best Out In A Man”. He covers how to do it, what works, what doesn’t, doing it while meeting & dating new men, doing it with a long term partner, how Man-Mode can be activated simply, and the main subconscious blocks, beliefs and wounds that get in the way. This is a must-listen if you want to be treated well.

Barry cuts right to the chase and gives you one quick exercise to prevent disappointment with men!

Barry describes how a case of the “What Ifs” damage dating and relationships. He describes how our minds are trained to worry about future pain and fear based on past wounds and trauma. Then he gives us a way to separate the unhealthy What Ifs that are just past wounds from the real present moment situation, and how to take action when real issues are present now.

Barry describes the experience of asking ourselves, “Is He Worth It?”. Whether it’s a single woman deciding if it is worth the time and energy to go out on a date on a weeknight, or a woman in a relationship asking if the person she is with is worth the sacrifices and tolerations, Barry explains how to handle the situation. This episode ends with an action-focused question for you to ask yourself! Listen to this and make sure you are getting a real return on the emotions you’re investing!

Barry shares about the role of laughter in dating and relationships. He discusses how it can be sought out in a partner to compensate for an imbalance in our own life, or can be used positively in attraction and dating, or as a very healthy component of a long-term relationship. He explains how to incorporate healthy laughter into your dating and relationships.

Barry explains “The Real Reason People Don’t Have The Relationship They Want (And What To Do About It)”. He gives examples of this overlooked, underestimated factor then teaches an exercise that will help you solve it.

Barry explores the common worry “Does he love ME or my ____?” (Money, Looks, Status) and gives two solutions.

Barry discusses how studies show self-reported ‘wants’ tend to be inaccurate in dating, and the importance of distinguishing wants from needs to have a healthy relationship. This helps avoid narcissists and people pleasers, creating an equitable dynamic based on self knowledge and what really matters most.

Barry explores the different stages of “Living Together & Living On Your Own” as a single person and a person in a relationship — each one can bring up emotional needs and fears. He details these and what to do to experience the joy, love and connection of living together without losing yourself in the process.

How Relationships Are Like Investments. Barry shares how to invest your heart wisely.

Barry describes “How To Have Men Open Up And Talk About Feelings”. He explains the challenges men have with expressing feelings, why they have those challenges, the difference between Open Masculinity and Closed Masculinity, and exactly how to get a man to be more emotionally expressive.

Barry describes how stressful times affect your dating and relationships. He explains why that happens, and how to handle stressful times in a way that allows a healthy, empowered, less stressed you, and thereby a healthy, empowered relationship! If you deal with any stress in your life, you need to listen to this!

Dating and relationships don’t have to just be effort and self-growth, they can be fun and easy! Today, Barry shares a simple approach to make it fun and easy!

Create Meaningful Connection With Meaningful Conversations

Barry explains the 9 Environments we usually use in coaching to improve all 9 areas of our life, and then teaches you how to apply these 9 Environments for date ideas and relationship activities that are fun, connective and help you get to know one another more deeply!

Barry explains how we all have moments of full certainty and knowing about guys amd relationships; whether it’s realizing he’s the wrong guy, realizing they are the “One” for you, realizing you don’t love your partner anymore, or something else — our intuition, gut instinct, deep wisdom KNOWS. Barry explains how this occurs, discusses the neuroscience of gut instinct, how and why we often ignore it and how trusting your intuition in key moments is key for healthy, empowered relationships.

Barry explains why we are attracted to certain people and not others, the psychology of attraction, our past pattern, how our wounds and unmet needs are involved. and how to be more conscious of why we are feeling attraction.

Barry describes how and why we can get disrespected, and the real cause. He gives a quick adjustment you can make today to instantly get more respect!

Exercise: Why are you listening? Finding your big WHY.

Barry describes a different approach to your dating amd relationships that empowers you. He gives detailed examples of how a single client and a married client used this approach to immediately get better results in their dates and in their marriage. Barry gives one simple activity for you to try today to move towards a healthy. empowered relationship This is a must listen and a game change!

Barry describes how Gratitude creates positive focus, dispels negative emotion and creates a healthy state to meet and attract a healthy partner,, or connect lovingly with a current partner. He walks you through two short gratitude exercises for healthier, more empowered relationships!

Barry talks about how attention os a developmental aspect of our psyche from infancy, through our childhood and teenage years, and how it affects our adult relationships. We don’t want attention, we need it. Here’s how to start getting it in a healthier way.

Barry describes how ambition is a positive but can be viewed as a negative in dating & relationships. He teaches us how to spot partners who lack ambition, how some men fool themselves into thinking they can handle ambitious women but end up feeling insecure with them, how to spot partners who have the right type of self esteem to be in a healthy relationship with an ambitious woman, and how to be ambitious in a was that still shows yourself love and compassion so you are healthy enough for a healthy, empowered relationship. We all deserve to pursue our dreams and full potential, and have a partner who is supportive of that as they do the same!

Going Too Fast Or Too Slow In Relationships

Barry explains the concept of emotional dysregulation, how it contributes to reactivity and cause problems with dating and relationships, and offers methods to emotionally regulate so you and any partner have less stress, anxiety, fear, conflict and anger and more love, joy and connection.

Barry reviews how to effectively use “Affirmations For A Healthy, Empowered Relationship”. He describes why affirmations used incorrectly don’t work, and how to use affirmations more effectively.

Barry describes Pre-Flirting, an approach to being ready to flirt. He gives you one inner emotional action and one outer action to effectively prepare for great flirting! Enjoy!

For single and coupled people alike, this episode gives you the three keys to being deeply in love without losing your self, without putting your own needs aside. Barry explains how the union with another person feels amazing but can threaten our needs and boundaries, then he teaches the three steps to being a healthy empowered woman in a relationship!