Here to Find Love
by Here to Find Love
A show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy shit. We unpack the relationship psychology and dating themes on reality TV shows, especially The Bachelor. Tune in for our weekly analysis of every episode of The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, Bachelor in Paradise, and Golden Bachelor, as well as other popular dating shows and movies. For video recaps, head on over to our YouTube Channel (youtube.com/HereToFindLove). Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow
Episodes
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The most horrific ending to a Bachelorette season | The Bachelorette recap: Jenn’s season finale
We’re in shock. Jenn Tran’s Bachelorette story comes to a horrifying ending in the season finale, and we are devastated and frankly livid with this franchise. In this Bachelorette recap, we review the season finale where we learn Jenn and Devin’s engagement came to a near-immediate end shortly...
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Jenn’s anxious fairytale | The Bachelorette recap: Jenn’s fantasy suites & Men Tell All
Fantasy suites brought us *two* surprise confessions of love, and if we’re being honest, neither of them felt great. In this Bachelorette recap of Jenn Tran’s season episodes 8 & 9, we deep dive into Jenn’s connection with Marcus and why she’s so invested in making their relationship work when...
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Are Jenn’s men falling behind? | The Bachelorette recap: Jenn’s hometowns
Why did Jenn’s hometown dates feel so… concerning? It’s hometowns week on Jenn Tran’s season of The Bachelorette (Season 21, Episode 7). Usually hometowns is a big ol’ nothing-burger, but Jenn’s hometowns with Devin, Jeremy, Jonathon, and Marcus actually raised many new questions and concerns…
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Jenn’s past vs. her future | The Bachelorette recap: Episode 5, Jenn’s season
This episode helped us learn a lot about Jenn - and it was heartbreaking. In this Bachelorette recap of episode 5 of Jenn’s Bachelorette season with special guest Jeremy, we break down her dates with Jonathon and Grant. We chat about Austin self-eliminating created an important vibe shift to her...
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The Jennn and Sam M breakup, explained | The Bachelorette recap: Episode 6, Jenn’s season
Sam M goes off-script, and Jenn sends him packing! In this Bachelorette 2024 Episode 6 of Jenn’s season, Jenn has her first one-on-one date with Marcus. We weren’t totally sure about Marcus — we’ve heard some fairly gruesome allegations about his past and we don’t know if he’s ready to get…
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Jenn and Sam M’s disturbing date | The Bachelorette recap: Episode 4, Jenn’s season
We don’t often get a Bachelor date with so many red flags to unpack all at once, but the one-on-one between Jenn and Sam M. was really chock full of concerning moments. In this Bachelorette recap of episode 4 of Jenn’s Bachelorette season, we break down each interaction from this date and what…
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Can Jenn break her patterns? | Bachelorette recap 2024: Episode 3, Jenn’s season
It’s week 3 and we’ve finally formulated a theory for Jenn’s season! Let’s get into it. In this Bachelorette 2024 Episode 3 recap, the conflict hasn’t stopped and Thomas N and Sam M are continuing to perpetuate a culture of pettiness and negativity. We chat through their (many) red flags…
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The villains emerge | Bachelorette recap 2024: Episode 2, Jenn’s season
It’s only week 2, and the villains are already emerging. But… which guy is it? In The Bachelorette 2024 Episode 2, conflict begins to brew among Jenn Tran’s men—in particular, between Devin, Aaron, and Thomas N. Devin is quickly becoming a controversial character, with some fans on the internet...
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First impressions of Jenn Tran and her men | Bachelorette Season 21 Episode 1 Recap
We’ve been waiting all season for Jenn Tran’s season premiere, and it did not disappoint! The episode kicks off with Jenn’s intro package where she opens up about her Asian-American background, her passion being a physical assistant, and her history with toxic relationships. We start the night at…
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This season was for the girls | Bachelor Finale: Joey’s season
💞 As a special gift to the HTFL community, Dipsea is offering 30 days of FREE access to their steamy universe of hundreds of sexy audio stories. Head to this link for a new steamy Monday night replacement: dipseastories.com/heretofindlove Joey’s season was one for the history books. During the...
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Perceptions, nuance, and reality TV | Bachelor recap: Women Tell All, Joey’s season
💞 As a special gift to the HTFL community, Dipsea is offering 30 days of FREE access to their steamy universe of hundreds of sexy audio stories. Head to this link for the good stuff: dipseastories.com/heretofindlove This was an emotional Women Tell All episode. Rachel opens up about the racist...
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The love story we didn't see | Bachelor recap: Joey’s fantasy suites, episode 9
*** Tap into a steamy universe filled with hundreds of sexy audio stories over at Dipsea, our lovely sponsor of this week's episode! Grab your 30 day free trial here: www.dipseastories.com/heretofindlove In this week’s Bachelor 2024 Episode 9 recap of Joey’s season, we’re getting into Fantasy...
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These hometowns were actually revealing… | Bachelor recap: Joey’s season, episode 8
Joey knew what he wanted this episode - and chaos was not it. In this Bachelor recap, we talk about why Joey sending home Maria was a good idea, and our speculations that Rachel might be next on the chopping block. We analyze his strong connection with Kelsey and how it feels slightly different…
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Maria is all over the place | Bachelor recap: Joey's season, episode 7
You have to know someone to love them, but who is Joey really? In this Bachelor recap, we talk about why we think Daisy’s really not that into him and our surprise on Joey sending home Jenn who is actually super into him. We talk about Maria’s conflict styles and how they’ve been polar opposites...
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Lexi’s surprising decision | Bachelor recap 2024: Joey’s season, episode 6
Relationships are all about timing, and for Joey and Lexi, timing is not on their side. In this Bachelor recap, we talk about Lexi’s surprising decision to leave the show after learning that Joey wants a longer engagement and marriage before having kids - something that she can’t get on board…
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We have mixed feelings on Lea… | The Bachelor recap: Joey’s season, episodes 4 & 5
We were rooting for you, Lea!!! Why?! This week’s two-day Bachelor special brought the demise of one villain and the rise of the next. Maria and Sydney went head to head in a two on one date, and we were disturbed and also just kinda saddened by Sydney’s behavior before she left. Then we get into...
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Sydney, Maria, and the power of language | Bachelor recap 2024, Joey’s season episode 3
Let’s talk about this Sydney and Maria conflict, because there are SO many nuances to this situation. At first glance the drama seems to be about something pointless (a comment Maria made challenging the idea of age 31 being “old”), but Episode 3 unveils many more layers. In this Bachelor recap…
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What Is Joey looking for? | Bachelor Recap 2024 episode 2
Joey’s Bachelor season is upon us, and we are actually super excited! After the season premiere and limo entrances, we have our initial thoughts on who we think Joey Graziadei is most compatible with among his cast of women—and what we think he’s going to struggle most with this season. It’s...
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This is who we’d pick for Joey after night one | Bachelor recap 2024 episode 1
Joey’s Bachelor season is upon us, and we are actually super excited! After the season premiere and limo entrances, we have our initial thoughts on who we think Joey Graziadei is most compatible with among his cast of women—and what we think he’s going to struggle most with this season. We’re…
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Will any of these couples last? | Bachelor in Paradise season finale recap
Even though Bachelor in Paradise is over, some of the couples (Eliza & Aaron B, Kylee & Aven, John Henry and Kat) are still going strong way after the finale. We discuss if we can see them working as a couple, why it’s so hard to date someone with too many expectations, and how everyone is...
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Leslie’s righteous anger | The Golden Bachelor season finale recap
Despite a happy ending engagement for Gerry and Theresa, it was Leslie’s pain that was front and center in The Golden Bachelor season finale. We felt deeply uncomfortable seeing her fall back into her old, ugly stories about herself and witnessing her enduring anger toward Gerry—but in this…
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Is Leslie or Theresa the better match for Gerry? | Golden Bachelor & Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 8 recap
We’re almost to the end of Gerry Turner’s season and it’s giving messy! In the Golden Bachelor Fantasy Suites episode, we see a surprising sex-positive side to Gerry—and we love the way he’s approaching intimacy. However, we don’t love that he’s telling Leslie she’s the one while staying...
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Faith and Gerry had a breakup to remember | Golden Bachelor & Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 7 recap
In a move that surprised all of Bachelor Nation, Gerry Turner sent home Faith Martin after hometowns—but it was their emotionally raw reunion at the Golden Bachelor Women Tell All that we really need to talk about. Back on the beaches of Bachelor in Paradise, let’s just say that we’re starting to...
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We’re worried about Gerry | Golden Bachelor & Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 6 recap
Golden Bachelor Gerry Turner is getting in his feels, and he can't stop saying I love you to his top three women - amazing in the moment but heartbreaking at the rose ceremony. We discuss how the hometown dates went, why meeting their families made things more serious, and if we think it's…
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What exactly is Gerry looking for? | Golden Bachelor & Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 5 recap
Our golden bachelor Gerry Turner has narrowed down to his top 3 women, and the stakes are higher than ever. In this Golden Bachelor recap, we discuss who we think Gerry might choose in the end and what his choice may represent about what he’s looking for from love at this age. Meanwhile on the...
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Why Sean and Rachel’s fight blew up | Bachelor in Paradise 2023 & Golden Bachelor episode 4 recap
Hurricane Kat hits the beach and it causes some *big* waves. Sean takes a page from Kat's book of non-empathy and talks to Jess, inadvertently setting off a chain of events that causes the truth to be revealed... and how he's been painting Rachel as more into him than she is. In this Bachelor in...
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Dissecting Kat and Brayden's breakup | Bachelor in Paradise 2023 & Golden Bachelor episode 3 recap
The Kat and Brayden breakup conversation featured classic examples of defensiveness, right-or-wrong thinking, and (dare we say) a litttttttle hint of gaslighting. In this Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 3 recap, we dissect their breakup conversations in depth and talk about why things got so…
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Truths and fantasies | Golden Bachelor & Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 2 recap
Golden Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise are giving whiplash with the wholesomeness and chaos, and we are here for all. Of. It. In the episode 2 recap, we discuss Gerry Turner's earnest enthusiasm for dating and how cute it is... and our hope he doesn't get hurt too badly in a vulnerable process...
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Olivia brings the mess | Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 1 recap
The newest season of Bachelor in Paradise is already bringing the mess, and it's only week one. In this episode 1 recap, we break down what happened between Olivia, Will, and Kylee. The two of us differed in whose side we took in this conflict, sparking a fascinating discussion on the meaning...
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Rewriting the narrative on aging | Golden Bachelor episode 1 recap
The Golden Bachelor season premiere is finally here! In this episode 1 recap, we dig into the ways the ladies of this season are challenging stereotypes about older women and rewriting the narrative of aging as a woman. We also discuss Gerry's back story, the tragic passing of his wife, and which...
About this show
A show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy shit. We unpack the relationship psychology and dating themes on reality TV shows, especially The Bachelor. Tune in for our weekly analysis of every episode of The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, Bachelor in Paradise, and Golden Bachelor, as well as other popular dating shows and movies.
For video recaps, head on over to our YouTube Channel (youtube.com/HereToFindLove).
Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow
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