HERIS / edit

In episode seven of The HERIS Edit, Brittany and Kristen step into a nuanced conversation about modern dating, self-respect, and the behaviors that keep men and women disconnected. After previous episodes explored avoidant partners, mixed signals, and the ways men can show up poorly in dating, this conversation brings balance to the table by asking a harder question: where do women also have room to grow? This is not an episode about blaming women, excusing men, or policing anyone's choices. It is a conversation about discernment, honesty, healing, and whether certain behaviors are actually aligned with the love, partnership, and respect women say they want. Brittany and Kristen unpack the tension between empowerment and self-abandonment, the difference between sexual freedom and seeking validation, and why "do it for the plot" can sometimes stop serving you. They talk about dating apps, party culture, social media, thirst traps, the illusion of endless options, and the ways both men and women contribute to distrust in today's dating landscape. They also explore the importance of healing before projecting old wounds onto new partners, listening to your body when something feels off, and becoming the kind of person who can actually receive the relationship you desire. This episode is a thoughtful, honest conversation about women's rights, women's wrongs, self-respect, and choosing with more clarity in a dating culture that desperately needs more honesty on both sides.

In episode six of The HERIS Edit, Brittany and Kristen talk about the cost of becoming — the unseen tradeoffs that come with growth, success, authenticity, entrepreneurship, relationships, and choosing a life that feels more aligned. They unpack the freedom and pressure of entrepreneurship, the security and limitations of corporate life, the loneliness behind building something meaningful, and the relationships, habits, and identities that sometimes have to shift as you become someone new. This episode is a real conversation about making space, knowing your why, choosing your hard, and remembering that growth may cost you something — but it can also give you yourself back.

In episode five of The HERIS Edit, Brittany and Kristen are coming off Memorial Day weekend in Indianapolis — which means one thing: Indy 500 energy is everywhere. They gush over the magic, chaos, and emotional fuel of race weekend, from the sound of the cars to the heartbreak of a near-win, and use the race itself as a metaphor for life's momentum: the starts, the stops, the crashes, the restarts, and the moments where everything can change by a bumper. From there, the conversation turns toward authenticity, community, and the people who make you feel safe enough to be fully seen. Brittany and Kristen talk about friendship shifts, finding your tribe in adulthood, the grief of outgrowing old dynamics, and the beauty of calling in people who can meet the real version of you. They also explore the duality of modern womanhood — mom mode and feral energy, softness and ambition, staying home to bake and going out in stilettos, building a full life while still carrying parent guilt.  This episode is a permission slip to be both. To find the people who feel like home. To let safe spaces fuel the next version of you. And to keep racing toward the most authentic version of yourself.

They explore why asking for emotional safety can feel so vulnerable, especially in dating dynamics where needs are often dismissed, minimized, or labeled as "too much." The conversation moves through avoidant patterns, midlife dating, the difference between authentic reassurance and reassurance you had to beg for, and how women can slowly become conditioned to stop bringing up what hurts. Brittany and Kristen also discuss the cultural shift around dating, Gen Z's lower tolerance for mixed signals, the harm of "simp" culture, and why adoring, protecting, and showing up for your partner should be seen as strength — not weakness. They reflect on feminine intuition, emotional needs, friendship safety, relationship polarity, and the importance of creating new templates for communication. This episode is an invitation to stop performing chill, stop shrinking your needs, and start saying the thing — even when it feels scary. Because reassurance is not neediness. It is part of emotional safety, and the right relationships should have room for both honesty and softness.

In episode 3 of The HERIS Edit, Brittany and Kristen explore why high-functioning, successful women often find themselves drawn to avoidant partners - and what avoidance can actually look like inside a relationship. They unpack patterns like discomfort with emotional closeness, shifts in consistency, conflict avoidance, and responses shaped by early attachment experiences. The conversation explores how competence can feel regulating to an avoidant partner, while high-achieving women may unconsciously treat mixed signals, emotional distance, or "I'm not ready" as something to solve, prove, or overcome. Through personal reflection, they discuss how abandonment wounds, performance conditioning, and the desire to be "chosen" can keep women stuck in confusing, disorienting cycles. This episode is an honest conversation about hard conversations, behavioral change, emotional safety, and learning to soften without abandoning yourself. Brittany and Kristen invite listeners to get clear on what they want, what they no longer want, and what it actually takes to build a relationship where both people can feel safe, seen, and met.

Pretty & Paid is not just about looking good and making money. It is about the women who are polished on the outside but quietly carrying pressure, grief, transition, ambition, desire, and reinvention underneath it all. In episode two of the HERIS Edit, Brittany and Kristen explore what Pretty & Paid really means — the duality of being successful and still searching, independent and still craving support, beautiful and still healing, powerful and still tired. Through stories of entrepreneurship, burnout, divorce, motherhood, money, relationships, polarity, and learning to listen to the body, this conversation becomes an invitation to stop performing perfection and start telling the truth. Because two things can be true at once. You can be pretty and paid. You can be soft and ambitious. You can be celebrated and still need a safe place to land. This episode sets the tone for Pretty & Paid, a women's day party experience in Indianapolis created for beauty, connection, celebration, and real conversation. Join us May 17 from 4–7 PM at Thieves. 

Welcome to The HERIS Edit — where becoming her is not about fixing yourself. It is about remembering who you are. In their debut episode, Brittany and Kristen introduce the meaning behind HERIS, the power of "the edit," and the energy behind this new space for women. They explore inheritance, ownership, embodiment, softness, ambition, intuition, burnout, and the beautiful tension of being a woman who wants more without abandoning herself. Kristen brings her background in product management, hospitality, and life design after divorce. Brittany brings her work in embodiment, intuition, branding, retreats, and somatic healing. Together, they set the tone for conversations rooted in permission, duality, and authentic becoming — and introduce Pretty & Paid, their 4–7 PM Indianapolis day party hosted at Thieves. The edit starts here.

maybe you found us because you're becoming someone new. or maybe… you're finally remembering who you've always been. welcome to HERIS / EDIT. this is for the girls who've done the work, healed, evolved, checked every box… and still know there's another level waiting for them. the pretty & paid. the soft but dangerous. the women learning how to hold their standards, their power, and their peace all at once. this isn't about becoming her. it's about embodying like her. fully. finally. unapologetically. think feminine energy, real conversations, identity shifts, luxury, truth, edge, embodiment… and the kind of room you never want to leave. this is for the girls… and those who love them. welcome to your Edit babe.

Welcome to HERIS / edit — a podcast for women becoming the main character in their own lives. Hosted by Kristen Alderson and Brittany Renee, HERIS / edit blends real conversations about identity, confidence, feminine power, money, reinvention, relationships, healing, and what it actually takes to build a life that feels as good as it looks. This is not about becoming someone else. It's about editing out the noise, reclaiming your energy, and stepping into the version of you that was always there. Subscribe now and come back for the first full episodes.