Hey Jacob, Hi Scott

Episode 55: Influence vs. Control – and how to walk with strength and compassion in a world at war

Release Date: 10/13/2023

Duration: 64 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: It’s been a minute! Jacob and Scott are back after a six-month hiatus with the first episode of Season 3. After a fairly brief catch-up, they don’t waste much time before diving into the deep end and discussing the collective response to the war between Israel and Palestine. How do we keep our hearts open, how do we stay connected to compassion and love in the face of such monstrous actions? The friends talk about how difficult it is to stay centered in love when invitations all around us are calling on us to hate. They discuss how they navigate these waters and what practices help them to remember their hearts. It’s a doozy of an episode after so much time away and highlights the honesty and vulnerability we’ve come to expect from and appreciate about them both. Don’t forget to get Scott’s new book, Enough as You Are, available everywhere on October 17th! Find it here: https://amzn.to/46sBYE0   Here’s the piece of writing by Ori Hanan Weisberg, an Israeli citizen, that Scott began to share: https://www.facebook.com/photo?fbid=2276492825888934&set=a.122696751268563   Here’s the compassion practice Jacob shared: https://www.mindful.org/just-like-me-compassion-practice/   Jacob’s retreat in Sayulita in February: https://events.healcreate.org/mexico-yoga-creativity-retreat/   Scott’s retreat with David Gandelman in Bali in May: https://www.meditationschool.us/bali-retreat-2024 A Writing Room Collective – a place for writers and those who want to be. https://awritingroom.com/   “We're not on our journey to save the world but to save ourselves. But in doing that you save the world. The influence of a vital person vitalizes.” ― Joseph Campbell

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Episode 54: Poisonous Caterpillars in New Orleans, How to Use the Healing Power of Pleasure, and Developing a Powerful Sense of Safety in Life

Release Date: 4/16/2023

Duration: 61 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about giving and receiving feedback, and how easy it is to get triggered by someone’s experience of you, and to shut down to feedback even from those closest to you. They discuss the importance of looking at what you value in your life — in both an embodied and aspirational sense — and giving energy to creating more alignment with your values. Values are foundational and the more we consider them, the more likely we are to live meaningful, fulfilling lives. The friends also talk about how complex getting honest with yourself can be, and sometimes in our eagerness to eliminate what we see as unhealthy and untrue may actually be a true part of our nature. Scott’s Writing Yourself Workshop on April 29th: https://writingyourselfapril.eventbrite.com Scott’s Spain retreat with David Gandelman: https://www.meditationschool.us/spain-retreat-2023

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Episode 53: Triggers, Patterns, Authentic Self Expression, and How Not to Throw Out Your Best Self While Growing and Shedding

Release Date: 4/1/2023

Duration: 61 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about giving and receiving feedback, and how easy it is to get triggered by someone’s experience of you, and to shut down to feedback even from those closest to you. They discuss the importance of looking at what you value in your life — in both an embodied and aspirational sense — and giving the energy to create more alignment with your values. Values are foundational and the more we consider them, the more likely we to live meaningful, fulfilling lives. The friends also talk about how complex getting honest with yourself can be, and sometimes in our eagerness to eliminate what we see as unhealthy and untrue conditions may actually be a true part of our nature.   Scott’s Writing Yourself Workshop on April 29th: https://writingyourselfapril.eventbrite.com Scott’s Spain retreat with David Gandelman: https://www.meditationschool.us/spain-retreat-2023

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How to steal joy from uncomfortable situations with a key question

Release Date: 2/21/2023

Duration: 64 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about Scott’s rough entrance into New Orleans and his attempts to jibe with the Mardi Gras vibe, even though drunken crowds are decidedly not his thing. They discuss the importance of honoring where you are, and at the same time not being bound to stories about yourself that may prevent you from moving forward. The friends talk about the witness again, that place within each of us that only observes the mind and its thoughts, without becoming attached to any of them.  They leave listeners with a question to consider, in general, and especially when we find ourselves in a circumstance we’re not excited about: what do I need right now? Scott’s Writing Yourself Workshop on Feb. 25th: https://writingyourself.eventbrite.com Scott’s Spain Retreat with David Gandelman: https://www.meditationschool.us/spain-retreat-2023 Scott’s Breathwork Journeys: https://www.scottstabile.com/events

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Episode 51: Enough light for the next step on the path

Release Date: 1/24/2023

Duration: 53 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about the ways in which they’ve been navigating despair and overwhelm in recent months. For Jacob, keeping steady with his daily journaling practice has been a consistent source of grounding. For Scott, remembering to bear witness rather than become the thoughts of his despairing mind has helped create a bit more peace. The friends talk about accepting rather than resisting what is, and moving forward and creating change from this place of acceptance. As well, they remind us that we all have an inner knowing that will (if we let listen) guide us to choices and practices that are likely to serve our growth and healing. Scott’s Spain retreat with David Gandelman: https://www.meditationschool.us/spain-retreat-2023 Breathwork with Scott on Wednesday, January 25th: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/online-breath-belonging-with-scott-stabile-tickets-520667028097 Breathwork with Scott on Thursday, January 26th: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/online-breath-belonging-with-scott-stabile-tickets-520676997917

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Episode 50: Developing meaningful rituals, community, and the truth of "this too shall pass"

Release Date: 12/11/2022

Duration: 55 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation — the 50th episode of Hey Jacob, Hi Scott! — Jacob and Scott talk about the importance of community, and the power within each of us to create community in our lives, whether in person or online. Sometimes, when we’re in compassionate communion with others, we are most able to find our way back to ourselves. They talk about integrating rituals into our lives, especially during the times of year that tend to be most difficult. Jacob offers up some great ideas for easy rituals that can be integrated at any time. The friends speak to how difficult the holiday season can be for many, and to remember the importance of the mantra, “this too shall pass.” Sometimes that’s the one thing we can hold onto when we’re going through a funk. Scott’s visualization workshop “Imagine It” to start 2023: https://imagineimagine.eventbrite.com Order signed copies of Scott’s books for the holidays: https://www.scottstabile.com/books-1 Julia Cameron Virtual Workshop: Write for Life – https://www.healcreate.org/write-for-life-creative-tools-for-every-writer-workshop-with-julia-cameron/ December Stress Relief Sessions: https://www.healcreate.org/december-stress-relief-sessions/ These include Breathwork with Scott Stabile and Therapeutic Doodling with Carin Channing!

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Episode 49: Processing the funk when things feel destabilizing and overwhelming

Release Date: 11/15/2022

Duration: 63 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Scott talks about the funk he’s been in, the loneliness he’s been feeling, and how his mind has had the reins for days and is hellbent on making him miserable. The friends talk about feeling destabilized and how difficult it can be sometimes, even if you’ve got all the tools, to work your way back to a more grounded place. They discuss holding space for life’s many contradictions, and that truth can live in exact opposite perspectives. They talk about how, as teachers, they approach discussing the times they’re struggling: whether to share while you’re in the midst of the struggle or to wait until you have some insights on the other side of it.

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Episode 48: How to empower ourselves with good questions, choices, and five-minute actions

Release Date: 10/24/2022

Duration: 55 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about the shift from "Can I …?"  (or "Why can't I ...?")to "How can I…?" – and the way in which the latter question automatically assumes a yes and invites into play our creativity and imagination. They talk about conditioned responses versus authentic responses, and how one necessary component of self-growth is bringing awareness to the ways in which we’ve been conditioned, followed by concrete actions that represent what is most true for us. The friends also invite us all to look at the ways in which we can integrate healing actions into our days in bite-sized increments, trusting that even five minutes of intentional action each day will add up to sizable payoffs in time. Heal + Create Writer’s Retreat: https://www.healcreate.org/writer-retreat/ref/5/ Scott’s new workshop, How to Love Yourself (when your mind is determined not to): https://howtoloveyourself.eventbrite.com Scott’s breathwork session on October 26th: https://breathbelong.eventbrite.com

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Episode 47: Living with a scarcity mindset robs you of the life you are meant to live – and what to do about it

Release Date: 10/16/2022

Duration: 73 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: *Note: The previous episode 47 was deleted due to Scott’s audio disappearing at the 10-minute mark. This is the rerecorded episode 47. In this conversation, Jacob and Scott take a deep dive into creating more abundance in our lives — financial, spiritual, creative, emotional, and every other type of abundance we seek to call forth. They talk about their current experiences doing the daily practices from The Abundance Book, by John Randolph Price, and how beneficial resting in the boundless energy of abundance can be for even five minutes a day. They describe their shared understanding that the Source energy within us all is the foundation and the supply for unlimited abundance, and their belief that this energy is working on our behalf. Though some of the ideas may seem a bit woo-woo, Jacob and Scott bring a clear groundedness to the topic of abundance and offer up practices that can help shift you from a scarcity to an abundant mentality. Heal + Create Writers' Retreat with Anne Lamott, Julia Cameron, SARK, and other teachers: https://www.healcreate.org/writer-retreat/ref/5/ Join Scott for Online Breath & Belonging on Wednesday, October 19th: https://yestothebreath.eventbrite.com Join Scott for Online Breath & Belonging on Thursday, October 20th: https://breathworkrocks.eventbrite.com Join Scott for a FREE guided breathwork session through Jacob’s Heal + Create community on Sunday, October 23rd: https://www.healcreate.org/event/breathe-your-way-home-a-special-breathwork-session-with-scott-stabile/ Check out The Abundance Book, by John Randolph Price, that Jacob and Scott refer to throughout this episode: https://www.amazon.com/Abundance-Book-John-Randolph-Price/dp/1561703478

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Episode 46: Shamanic Journeys, the Life-Changing Medicine of Abundance and Gratitude, and more

Release Date: 9/21/2022

Duration: 63 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, nearly six weeks after their last episode, Jacob and Scott catch up on their final weeks of summer and talk about rituals for heading into the Autumn Equinox. Jacob takes us through his recent plant medicine journey in the City of Rocks in Idaho, detailing some wildly profound experiences within which are lessons for us all. The friends talk about the importance of transcending expectations and assumptions, about others and about our own lives, thereby centering us more readily in the present moment. Jacob shares some of the healing he’s created in his relationship with money and how much more available to abundance he’s become. Jacob’s Writer’s Retreat with Anne Lamotte, Julia Cameron, and SARK! CLICK HERE FOR ALL DETAILS AND TO ENROLL Scott’s online breathwork journey on Wednesday, September 21st: https://inhaleandexhale.eventbrite.com The Abundance Book – 40-Day Practice (Jacob mentioned this book) Six Rituals for Honoring the September Equinox (provided by Chani Nicholas)

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Episode 45: Holding space, owning our private hypocrisies, and centering in our souls to navigate a destabilized human era

Release Date: 8/10/2022

Duration: 66 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about what it means to hold space for others – and yourself – in an honest way, and how doing so elicits not only more depth of connection but also a more authentic and heart-centered response. They also discuss the importance of owning our hypocrisy, as Scott shares a story about his own blatant hypocrisy related to podcast reviews and ratings. They take a deep dive into their understanding of the soul, and the importance of connecting to the ever-present peacefulness of that soul-centered place within yourself, while at the same time honoring your very human humanity. Scott’s Detroit breathwork gatherings Saturday, August 20th: https://saturdaybreath.eventbrite.com and Sunday, August 21st: https://sundaybreath.eventbrite.com Scott’s online breathwork journey on Thursday, August 11th: https://onlinebreathing.eventbrite.com Grab Jacob's book, The Creative Cure, on Kindle for just 99¢ or equivalent in the US, Canada, UK, and Australia: Audio or reading sample at https://www.CreativeCureBook.com 

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Episode 44: Breaking out of jail – how self-discovery opens the door to self-acceptance and freedom

Release Date: 7/23/2022

Duration: 62 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about the difference between trying to fix yourself and working to accept yourself, quirks and all. They discuss how the self-help culture makes it easy to get lost in the desire to change ourselves, when what serves us better is acknowledging who we really are, with compassion and love. They talk about the benefit of teachers, as long as they recognize the power to create healing lives within the students, and dependence upon a teacher or guru is not only unnecessary but likely harmful. The friends dive into the Enneagram a bit (as Scott tries to figure out his type) and acknowledge whether it’s with the Enneagram, astrology, Meyer’s-Briggs, or any other system of understanding oneself, the aim is to create more acceptance and healing around whatever personality traits are yours to work with. Oh, and they talk about envy and the other less desirable aspects of the human mind. “I was a neurotic for years. I was anxious and depressed and selfish. Everyone kept telling me to change. I resented them, and I agreed with them, and I wanted to change, but simply couldn't, no matter how hard I tried. What hurt the most was that, like the others, my best friend kept insisting that I change. So I felt powerless and trapped. Then, one day, he said to me, "Don't change. I love you just as you are." Those words were music to my ears: "Don't change. Don't change. Don't change . . . I love you as you are." I relaxed. I came alive. And suddenly I changed! Now I know that I couldn't really change until I found someone who would love me whether I changed or not.” - Anthony DeMello Scott’s Santa Fe workshop this weekend with Ruthie Lindsey: https://loveyourselfwhole.eventbrite.com Scott’s Detroit Breathwork workshops in August: Saturday, August 20th: https://saturdaybreath.eventbrite.com Sunday, August 21st: https://sundaybreath.eventbrite.com

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Episode 43: How to live through the apocalypse

Release Date: 7/7/2022

Duration: 65 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this episode, Jacob and Scott talk about the time we’re living through as an actual apocalypse, or an “unveiling,” as the word used to be defined. They ask the question, whether we see the world as crumbling or as flourishing, who do you want to be within it? How do you want to show up in your life, no matter how life around you is showing up?  The friends talk about the overturning of Roe v Wade, how that is affecting them, and the ways in which we humans are entirely too comfortable wanting to control others when we ourselves would never want to be controlled in the same ways.  Jacob gets forceful (for him) in his plea to all of us to live into choices that create more peace and grounding in our lives. It’s not enough to want it without doing anything to create the “it” you want. As usual, there’s lots of heart and many laughs throughout the conversation. Scott’s newsletter: scottstabile.substack.com Jacob’s “peace of heart and mind healing Rx program” https://www.healcreate.org/creative-self-journaling-program-gift/

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Episode 42: Living into the experiment of real miracles, weird forms of prayer, and taking care of our whole self parts in difficult times

Release Date: 6/9/2022

Duration: 65 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about their relationships with prayer, and how and why they use it in their lives. From there, they take a deep dive into miracles, with practical ideas about how to stay open to the possibility of and create miracles in your life. They discuss the power of listening to and acting on those internal nudges and whispers that can be easy to ignore and making a practice of asking for what you’d like to happen or receive in your life. This is an especially high-energy and uplifting conversation and one that will likely have you feeling more empowered to create the changes you’ve been seeking to create. Scott’s Coming Home to Yourself workshop on June 25th: https://cominghometoyou.eventbrite.com Scott’s Online Breath & Belonging on June 14th: https://onlinebreathe.eventbrite.com Jacob's Microdosing workshop on June 28: https://www.healcreate.org/microdosing-101-an-introduction-to-practicing-plant-medicine-for-healing-creativity-and-personal-growth/

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Episode 41: grappling with Uvalde, making the possible changes and working toward what seems impossible but important, and reclaiming moments of sanity

Release Date: 5/27/2022

Duration: 65 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about guns in America, the situation with endless mass shootings, and what paths, if any, there are to healing the current divide regarding gun control. They discuss how to take care of ourselves when the world feels especially brutal, and how to hold space for one another’s humanity when we’re in complete disagreement with their convictions. Jacob and Scott would love to hear your thoughts on any of the topics they discuss, as well as any questions you might have for them moving forward. Scott’s May 31st Online Breath & Belonging breathwork journey: https://onlinebreathjourney.eventbrite.com Scott’s Newsletter: scottstabile.substack.com Jacob's upcoming June 28 workshop on microdosing

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Episode 40: the problem of purpose, the keys to inner sanity are already in your hands, and managing cognitive dissonance

Release Date: 5/19/2022

Duration: 69 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about chewing mastic gum to open your nasal passages and strengthen your jawline (yes, it’s a thing). They talk about the pressures of purpose and the liberation that comes from seeing one’s purpose as whatever it is that’s happening at the moment, even if that’s only washing dishes or brushing your teeth. They discuss the importance of focusing on your inner self and inner circle when the insanity of the outside world feels especially out of control and unbearable. And they reflect on moments in their lives that completely changed their experience of this reality when it was no longer possible to see the world, or their worlds, the same way. Scott’s May 24th Online Breath & Belonging breathwork journey: https://onlinebreathjourney.eventbrite.com Scott’s Newsletter: scottstabile.substack.com Jacob's Heal + Create Writers' Community: https://www.healcreate.org/

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Episode 39: Moving kindly and with humanity through depression; dealing with the inner war; and a guided meditation with Scott at the end

Release Date: 5/12/2022

Duration: 66 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about what depression can look and feel like for the two of them, and what they do when they’re feeling depressed and/or hopeless. They discuss bringing radical acceptance to the experience of being human and seeing how different life can feel when we’re not acting in a constant state of resistance to what is. The friends talk about the power of choice in our lives, and checking in with and listening to the body when it comes to making decisions. Scott ends the episode with a guided meditation that takes listeners into the love of their hearts and the peace of their souls. Subscribe to Scott's Substack content Scott’s May 17th Online Breath & Belonging breathwork journey Get the info on Jacob's Writers' Community launch Catch Julia Cameron's virtual workshop: The Artist's Way Essential Tools

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Episode 38: What to do about abortion, our problem of evolving ethics, and antidotes to fear

Release Date: 5/5/2022

Duration: 85 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about Scott’s experience with the current New Mexico wildfires and holding space for beauty within tragedy and heartbreak. The friends share their views on abortion and the cognitive dissonance we can all feel when discussing our convictions regarding controversial topics. How can we stay aligned with compassion when being confronted with the opposing views of others? We don’t have to compromise our convictions in order to love people who don’t share them. This is the longest episode to date and one of the rawest as well. Scott's May 10th Breathwork Session – Live via Zoom Jacob's Heal + Create Writers' Community Program Launch The Artist's Way Essential Tools workshop with Julia Cameron Scott's BIGGER LOVE substack “The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially. If you are none of these you can be sure it will kill you too but there will be no special hurry.” ― Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms

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Episode 37: Balancing empathic reactions, choosing from a clear place, and how breathing will fix anything in your life

Release Date: 4/21/2022

Duration: 56 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about empaths and highly sensitive people and the need for regular “hygiene” in order to balance out our empathic nature. They discuss returning to one’s innate wisdom and lived experience when it comes to finding the tools that help us recharge and feel more connected to joy, meaning, connection, peace, and whatever else it is we’re seeking more of in our lives. The friends focus on the power of baby steps to create a more fulfilling life, reminding us that you don’t go from A to Z, but from A to B. And Scott obsessed some more about the power of the breath. Scott’s Online Breath & Belonging class on Tuesday, April 26th << CLICK CLICK HERE TO FIND LISA CAMPION'S BOOK: ENERGY HEALING FOR EMPATHS CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD THE ASSESSMENT JACOB TALKED ABOUT CLICK HERE TO REGISTER FOR "THE ARTIST'S WAY ESSENTIAL TOOLS" LIVE VIRTUAL WORKSHOP WITH JULIA CAMERON CLICK HERE TO FIND JAMES NESTOR'S BOOK "BREATH: THE NEW SCIENCE OF A LOST ART"

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Episode 36: What you resist persists, Scott's eating "way too much garbage," and Jacob's preternaturally large head

Release Date: 4/13/2022

Duration: 69 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about what do to with feelings of hopelessness, and how to know, not that it’s always possible, whether you’re rooted in deep acceptance or deep denial (They can look the same.). They discuss the “come-down” from transformative experiences and how tricky it can be to integrate a powerful event into your day-to-day reality, and how much self-grace is necessary while doing so. The friends responded to a listener’s question about worthiness, lack, and feeling less than, focusing on the distinctive voices of the heart, mind, and soul. A question to consider: How would your life look and feel different if you were to accept that every single thing about you is a natural reflection of the human experience? **** Many spiritual people are involved in a radical denial of what is happening.  They want to transcend it, get rid of it, get out of it, get away from it. There’s nothing wrong with that feeling, but the approach doesn’t work because it’s escapism in spiritual clothing. It’s wearing spiritual clothing and spiritual concepts, but it is really no different than a drunk in the gutter who doesn’t want to feel the pain anymore. When you abide and accept everything completely, you automatically go beyond. – Adyashanti **** Subscribe to Scott's Substack feed & content Register for the Julia Cameron "Artist's Way Essential Tools" workshop with Jacob's Institute for Creative Living in May

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Episode 35: The paradox of seeking the highest good in life, plant medicine, breathwork, and more

Release Date: 4/5/2022

Duration: 69 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott take a deep dive into Scott’s breathwork training and the healing power of the breath. Scott relates some of his experiences during his sessions, including connecting with both of his parents who died when he was fourteen. The friends shift from breathwork to plant medicines, and the ways in which we are called to certain healing modalities/medicines and don’t need to force engagement with them. They also consider the difference between what looks like the highest good (to the ego) and what truly is the highest good (to the heart). It’s a far-ranging conversation, prompted in great part by questions asked by listeners.  If you have a question, go to heyjacobhiscott.com and ask us. The Creative Cure on Amazon – Kindle version at 99¢ (for a limited time) Microdosing For Healing site

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Episode 34: On boundaries and learning to be in relationship with the bumpy, quirky, weird fuckers we all are

Release Date: 3/18/2022

Duration: 71 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott take a deep dive into friendship and relationships in general. As heartbreaking as it can be to part with a close friend, why do we not have any break-up rituals for it? The friends talk a lot about boundaries, what they actually are, and how to enforce them, as well as the need (as difficult as it can be) for honest dialogue within relationships. We hold back the truth for so many reasons, none of which moves a relationship forward in a clear and healthy way. They discuss moving forward after parting ways without closure or having all or any answers as to why things went down the way they did. By poet, feminist leader Adrienne Rich: An honorable human relationship — that is, one in which two people have the right to use the word “love” — is a process, delicate, violent, often terrifying to both persons involved, a process of refining the truths they can tell each other. It is important to do this because it breaks down human self-delusion and isolation. It is important to do this because in doing so we do justice to our own complexity. It is important to do this because we can count on so few people to go that hard way with us.

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Episode 33: Breathwork, Kundalini Erections, and the Spiraling Nature of Inner Growth

Release Date: 3/9/2022

Duration: 58 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott almost talk about sex but don’t … until the end when Jacob tells a story that references his enormous erection. Who knew? Aside from sex, they dive into the different ways our fears can prevent us from showing up in our authenticity, especially when our truth and choices conflict with those we consider to be “on our team.” They also talk about transformational/holotropic breathwork practices and the power of the breath to move energy, release blocks, and create healing. Jacob shares his intention for this season to be more interactive with listeners, so head to heyjacobhiscott.com and submit some questions or discussion topics to the guys.

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Episode 32: If you’re tuned to the rock channel, don’t expect to hear R&B

Release Date: 3/1/2022

Duration: 64 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: It’s been a couple of months, but Jacob and Scott are back with their first episode of Season 2. In this conversation, the friends talk about the stories we tell about ourselves, how important it is to become aware of them so we can extract ourselves from them, and the necessity for committed gentleness throughout the process. They discuss how it feels to be guided in our choices, by energy or forces that seem to exist outside of ourselves, and how the practice of being open to guidance, from the natural world as an example, creates more opportunities for guidance to present itself. They invite us to look at where we are forcing versus allowing. The focus is on self-love and offers some basic steps we can take right now to align ourselves with more of it. It’s a joyful and heart-opening launch to the second season! Click here to visit Scott Stabile's Bigger Love substack page The Reading:  "It's one thing to acknowledge how difficult this life can be, but it's another thing to focus on it, to talk about everything that feels wrong all the time, to act like there is only darkness and misery here. In our compulsion not to deny the harsh realities of this unpredictable existence, we often end up denying the extraordinary beauty. We focus our gaze on division and blind ourselves to real connection, we seek out examples of brutality and ignore the many moments of kindness, we bind ourselves to the opinions of others and silence the deep wisdom of our hearts. In our effort to avoid spiritual bypassing we pass right by the endless exhibits of love on this planet, within this humanity, from one to another and another to one. There is so much hardship here, yes, too much, and there is so much beauty too. Where are you looking and what are you looking for?" – Scott Stabile

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Episode 31: Glow Sticks, Faux-Fur Boots, and High Jumps – Happy New Year

Release Date: 12/31/2021

Duration: 47 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this New Year’s Eve conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about the New Year, and specifically what intentions they hold going into 2022. They discuss remaining fluid as we try new things, not locking ourselves into habitual patterns unless of course, those patterns continue to work for us. They talk about trust, in ourselves, and in life in general, and how the deeper we are able to trust, the more courageous we become in our self-expression. And vice versa. The friends reflect on some listeners’ submissions and invite everyone to enter the new year with an openness to more abundant self-love and the love of others as a guiding force in our lives. Enroll in Scott's "Imagine It"online intensive: CLICK HERE Enroll in the Heal + Create virtual retreat: CLICK HERE Attend Jacob Nordby's open gathering, Creative Healing: the Poems & Poetry of Paul David Shea: CLICK HERE (Jan 5 for live gathering or click to watch the replay!) From Toko-Pa Turner's book, Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home I believe we have more than enough creativity to solve the problems of our times, but we have to make a perilous trek into the wilderness within to reclaim it. There is a stand of undeveloped jungle within each of us, that can never be domesticated. It is a borderless land, beyond personality and convention, even beyond thought, where pure creativity arises. Like the signature song of a tropical bird, the spiraling of an arbutus tree, the evening scent of a jasmine bush, there is an essence in each of us intended to be expressed. Few make the trek into this creative wild because the path requires great vulnerability. To come into our true originality, we must surrender the layers of numbness we use to protect our hearts.

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Episode 30: Practicing New Spells – Language, Feelings, and Aligning with Our Longings

Release Date: 12/21/2021

Duration: 66 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about the difference between “I am” and “I feel” when talking about how we’re feeling, and learning to be present with our emotions without becoming them. They talk about not being committed to things playing out the same way they often played out in the past. How can we be intentional about creating different outcomes for holidays or seasons that have proven to be difficult? They discuss opinions versus truth, as well as the limitations created by all of the polarization in our world. When we get locked in our own certainty, we remain closed to new information and ideas. When we stay open to alternative ideas, we are likely to create more bridges of communication and understanding.  RESPONSE REQUESTED: The friends ask listeners to go to heyjacobhiscott.com and share a desire they’d like to create for this new year, as well as something they want to release. Scott’s January workshop, Imagine It!: https://imagineit.eventbrite.com Jacob’s February retreat, Heal + Create: https://healcreate.org/?sld=1 Scott’s Substack newsletter: scottstabile.substack.com Poem: Go to the Limits of Your Longing, by Rainer Maria Rilke God speaks to each of us as he makes us, then walks with us silently out of the night. These are the words we dimly hear: You, sent out beyond your recall, go to the limits of your longing. Embody me. Flare up like a flame and make big shadows I can move in. Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final. Don’t let yourself lose me. Nearby is the country they call life. You will know it by its seriousness. Give me your hand.

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Episode 29: Practicing the Art of Belonging – to Ourselves

Release Date: 12/10/2021

Duration: 76 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: What does it mean to find a way of belonging – and a feeling that we belong in our own lives? In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about the social constructs that create the false notion of separation, and the importance of moving beyond us vs. them thinking. They discuss the direct correlation between how we feel about ourselves and how we show up with others, and how critical self-love is in terms of creating more fulfilling relationships. They also speak to the difficult reality for many of us during the holidays and the benefits of not putting too much pressure on ourselves to be wise and awakened humans when we’re around our family members. The friends dive into the power of intention and visualization to create more meaningful (and magical lives) and speak about the importance of integrating the tools we learn from podcasts, and books, and workshops, and whatever else. Scott’s Substack newsletter: scottstabile.substack.com Scott’s January workshop, Imagine It!: https://imagineit.eventbrite.com Jacob’s February retreat, Heal + Create: https://healcreate.org 

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Episode 28: Choosing and living into your worth

Release Date: 12/3/2021

Duration: 51 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about self-worth, and how it affects our willingness to put our art/work into the world and ask for money in support of it. They talk about the energy of scarcity and how that naturally limits the opportunities for abundance, and ways in which giving and receiving are actually operating from the same energetic channel. The friends call on us all to bring awareness to how we are seeing ourselves and to understand we set the example for how others see us. There is always an opportunity to consider different choices than those that feel unhealthy, and that the consideration alone creates a shift in what’s possible. As always, the friends apply these concepts to day-to-day realities and give tangible examples of how to integrate them into our lives. Scott’s Substack newsletter: scottstabile.substack.com Scott’s January workshop, Imagine It!: https://imagineit.eventbrite.com

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Episode 27: Amazing wisdom barfed all over you

Release Date: 10/25/2021

Duration: 70 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about the difference between being responsive and reactionary. How can we grow in our truth without needing to turn others into enemies? How can we connect to the humanity in everyone, even those we vehemently disagree with? They discuss using questions as a way of interrupting negative, often self-abusive energy. What happens when you ask yourself, “What is love inviting me to do at this moment?” The friends dive into self-love (as always!) and remind us of the importance of acknowledging the ways in which we are showing up for ourselves in loving ways. Everything is energy, after all. When we focus on how loving we are, we are that much more likely to be that much more loving. Affirmation from Chani Nicholas:  “Honoring my lineage sometimes looks like a radical departure from my family system, patterns, and propensities. Showing love to all those that brought me here includes being brave enough to heal what they could not.”

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Episode 26: Tell me the truth, as long as it’s what I want to hear

Release Date: 10/20/2021

Duration: 68 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about healthy and unhealthy communication, and the struggle to be as honest as we feel called to be with those we love, and with ourselves. Do we really want the truth, even when it’s something we don’t want to face? They discuss the power of listening without needing to offer an opinion or advice and the power of being heard without needing to be fixed. The friends dive into the differences between heart-centered and ego-centered communication, offering tools to keep us in our hearts more often. Reading, by Adrienne Rich An honorable human relationship — that is, one in which two people have the right to use the word “love” — is a process, delicate, violent, often terrifying to both persons involved, a process of refining the truths they can tell each other. It is important to do this because it breaks down human self-delusion and isolation. It is important to do this because in doing so we do justice to our own complexity. It is important to do this because we can count on so few people to go that hard way with us.

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Episode 25: Psilocybin, Paradoxes, and the Incredible Complexity of Living Through a Renaissance Era

Release Date: 10/11/2021

Duration: 75 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about a recent plant medicine journey Scott took in Austin and the ways in which it opened him up to the expansiveness of his masculine and feminine energies (and everything in between). This led to them discussing sexuality and gender and the growing rapidness with which our world is evolving around these and other realities, and how that can feel exciting and/or destabilizing, depending on one’s perspective. The friends talked a lot about lived experiences, and how important it can be to partake of stories from others who are having different lived experiences than you, how that creates a pathway to understanding and to offering compassion and love for one another. Reading, from The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle “Once you have disidentified from your mind, whether you are right or wrong makes no difference to your sense of self at all, so the forcefully compulsive and deeply unconscious need to be right, which is a form of violence, will no longer be there. You can state clearly and firmly how you feel or what you think, but there will be no aggressiveness or defensiveness about it. Your sense of self is then derived from a deeper and truer place within yourself, not from the mind. Watch out for any kind of defensiveness within yourself. What are you defending? An illusory identity, an image in your mind, a fictitious entity. By making this pattern conscious, by witnessing it, you disidentify from it. In the light of your consciousness, the unconscious pattern will then quickly dissolve. This is the end of all arguments and power games, which are so corrosive to relationships. Power over others is weakness disguised as strength. True power is within, and it is available to you now.”

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Episode 24: Now is the new black

Release Date: 10/4/2021

Duration: 69 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about befriending the present moment. The future is an illusion, and the past is no longer, so all we ever have to work with, to be with, is the present. The now. The friends discuss the power of playing witness to your thoughts, remembering that you are the sky and not the weather, that you are no more your mind than you are your arms and legs. Your mind is a part of you, yes, but not the whole of you. When we remember to observe rather than become, we stand to create much more ease and peace in our lives, no matter what is happening in the outside world, or in our minds. They talk about ways to create grounding rituals during destabilizing moments and times, and how the energy of intention adds power to whatever rituals and habits we create. And, Jacob reads from the Mystical Shaman Oracle! Submit your questions, comments, arguments at www.heyjacobhiscott.com Reading: The Child, from the Mystical Shaman Oracle deck ( https://amzn.to/3uGToul ) THE ESSENCE: The Child knows the way to joy and happiness. The Child offers the return of a second innocence, a time born of wisdom and not of naiveté. This card allows you to correct your course and offers you a second chance. It brings you the possibility of redemption and entering heaven while on Earth. THE INVITATION: The Child is here to release you from the habit of being yourself, and to help you acquire a beginner’s mind so that you can see life as if for the first time. Remain open to learning and discovery. Who is your spouse or partner today? Can you see them with fresh eyes? Who is looking back at you in the mirror this morning? Become a mystery unto yourself and reconnect with a sense of childlike wonder. THE MEDICINE: The Child comes to show you how you can correct the course of your life without being punished. Set yourself free from your conditioning for suffering; you were born unfettered and happy and can be so again if you make the choice right now! The Child will help you climb out of the hole you may have dug yourself into, to recover your sense of play.

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Episode 23: The Uncomfortable Magic of Uncertainty

Release Date: 9/23/2021

Duration: 62 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about cognitive dissonance, the ease with which we disregard information that goes against our ingrained understanding of things, or of ourselves. They talk about the importance of not being so fixed in our ideas, in holding space for openness, in being willing to learn, even when it’s uncomfortable to do so. The friends discuss the importance of being proactive when approaching a new reality, asking good questions, setting oneself up for successful transitions with intentional communication and action. They also talk about our deep connection to the natural world, the endless lessons being provided to us by nature, and the deep truth that it is not nature but humans that need the saving. Reading, from The Overstory, by Richard Powers We found that trees could communicate, over the air and through their roots. Common sense hooted us down. We found that trees take care of each other. Collective science dismissed the idea. Outsiders discovered how seeds remember the seasons of their childhood and set buds accordingly. Outsiders discovered that trees sense the presence of other nearby life. That a tree learns to save water. That trees feed their young and synchronize their masts and bank resources and warn kin and send out signals to wasps to come and save them from attacks. “Here’s a little outsider information, and you can wait for it to be confirmed. A forest knows things. They wire themselves up underground. There are brains down there, ones our own brains aren’t shaped to see. Root plasticity, solving problems, and making decisions. Fungal synapses. What else do you want to call it? Link enough trees together, and a forest grows aware.

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Episode 22: You’re a hypocrite and I am, too

Release Date: 9/9/2021

Duration: 66 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about hypocrisy, about the ways in which we have a tendency to judge others for doing the very things that we ourselves do. They discuss the importance of being honest with ourselves if we really want to grow, and taking ownership of our hypocrisies when they show themselves. The friends talk about social media, the way in can distort connection and incite people to be aggressive in ways they would likely never be in person. And, with the help of some words from Marianne Williamson, they ponder our capacity to be powerful beyond measure, and that our fears are not always rooted in our inadequacy but in our potential for radiance. Reading, by Marianne Williamson from her book, A Return to Love: Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

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Episode 21: We're all f*cked so follow your heart

Release Date: 8/26/2021

Duration: 69 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about the importance of honoring your soul, despite the fears and insecurities that push you to do otherwise, despite a lifetime of conditioning and the expectations of others, despite the ease with which we can choose to pretend and play small. They talk about developing our capacity to listen — to nature, to our inner-beings, to the mysteries and miracles all around us. The friends reflect on this time in our reality, when they and many across the globe are choosing to honor what’s true for them, as scary and difficult as that can be. They talk about energy and momentum and how much sense things can make when we start paying attention to our choices and noticing what those choices create. Today’s reading, from Emma Zeck: hey guys, i wanted to let you know that i checked the news today and Fox and CNN and NPR and the NYT all had one very important announcement to make: everything is absolutely fucked!!!!!!!! so if we’re gonna be f*cked, there’s no time for blinking or thinking or shrinking!!!! we must f*ck good and deep and long! call it a day! call it a life! there’s only time for buying every jar of parmesan and making cheese candles! i don’t know! sell them! sneak into every abandoned castle in the city! marry an owl! makeout every day! clap your feet at the concert! wear heelies! move to Tibet! become a sheep herder! prank call your ex! spend all your money! dress in a jellyfish costume for no reason! decorate your home with parrot feathers! dazzle your neck with salami links! speak with a british accent! convince everyone! only eat spam for the rest of your life! lose all your teeth! go to jail in a foreign country! become a member of parliament! Tuesdays are for powdered wigs! tell someone off! there are 4 million reasons we are all totally f*cked! so walk around with a unicorn head! request the pizza be delivered by donkey! take scuba gear for the bathtub! rent a clown for the day! decide you hate your job! quit! start a business! fail horribly! embarrass yourself! go back to the high school! disguise yourself as the janitor! put shrimp in the vents! take up competitive dog grooming! get your heart broken! cry about it! then ride off on a horse! you’re now on the back of a motorcycle in Zimbabwe! tell the woman she has spinach in her teeth! wax your nipples in public! kiss every person on the street! tell every stranger you love them! sell your entire wardrobe! only wear bedazzled hobble skirts! pierce your buttcheeks! disappear! change your name to Regina! reappear! wear a tophat! it’s 90 degrees! wear fur to the beach! have your own parade! make a victorian float! invite no one! wear a lampshade over your head! run into everyone! twerk down the boardwalk! show up to the party naked! ride a bull! adopt 30 cross eyed cats! join the circus! backflips every night! hopscotch every morning! throw away your phone! only communicate via pigeon! flower petals for eyelashes! live til you’re 120! retire at 25! jetpack or unicycle instead of a car! who cares! the news says we’re f*cked! bye!!!!

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Episode 20: Medicine In a World of Pain

Release Date: 8/18/2021

Duration: 61 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about the collective grief and overwhelm so many of us are feeling in the wake of tragedy after tragedy, and how to stay sane in a world mired in insanity. The friends discuss Scott’s past month camping across the country and the many gifts given to us through Nature. They remind us how important it is to pay attention to where we give our energy and make choices from a deeper awareness about what does and does not feel good. They end the episode by guiding listeners through a short meditation to center us back into our hearts, into our connection to divinity, into love.

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Episode 19: Getting naked, stripping codependence, and talking to shadows

Release Date: 7/26/2021

Duration: 64 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about feelings of unworthiness, and the importance of distinguishing between what is real and what is true. So often what we believe to be true is in fact a distortion of our mind. They discuss nudism, and conditioning as it relates to what could be considered natural ways of being. How would you be showing up differently in your life if you felt less bound to your conditioning – if you weren’t as concerned with the opinions of others? The friends also respond to a listener’s question about knowing whether to invest in a difficult friendship or to walk away. “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ― Rumi Books Jacob mentioned:  Co-Dependent No More – Melody Beattie  Scream Free Parenting – Hal Edward Runkel

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Episode 18: Life as a dynamic, intuitive jungle dance with the universe

Release Date: 7/22/2021

Duration: 66 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about the importance of choosing yourself over the expectations of others, and the challenges of other people’s opinions and projections when you make choices that align with your truth. They discuss the importance of listening and allowing, rather than trying to force certain narratives or feeling bound to old stories. How can we be more fluid than constricted in our day-to-day experiences? What happens when we consciously consider our well-being in all the choices we make, even and especially in environments that don’t naturally consider our well-being? The friends remind us all that when you honor your truth, and trust in its guidance, you will be led to something (many things) beautiful. Readings: From Silent Spring, by Rachel Carson “Those who contemplate the beauty of the earth find reserves of strength that will endure as long as life lasts. There is something infinitely healing in the repeated refrains of nature -- the assurance that dawn comes after night, and spring after winter.” A Little Bit of Everything, by Dawes With his back against the San Francisco traffic, On the bridges side that faces towards the jail, Setting out to join a demographic, He hoists his first leg up over the rail. And a phone call is made, Police cars show up quickly. The sergeant slams his passenger door. He says, 'Hey son why don't you talk through this with me, Just tell me what you're doing it for.’ 'Oh, it's a little bit of everything, It's the mountains, It's the fog, It's the news at six o'clock, It's the death of my first dog, It's the angels up above me, It's the song that they don't sing, It's a little bit of everything.’ An older man stands in a buffet line, He is smiling and holding out his plate, And the further he looks back into his timeline, That hard road always had led him to today, And making up for when his bright future had left him, Making up for the fact that his only son is gone, And letting everything out once, His server asks him, Have you figured out yet, what it is you want? I want a little bit of everything, The biscuits and the beans, Whatever helps me to forget about The things that brought me to my knees, So pile on those mashed potatoes, And an extra chicken wing, I'm having a little bit of everything. Somewhere a pretty girl is writing invitations, To a wedding she has scheduled for the fall, Her man says, 'Baby, can I make an observation? You don't seem to be having any fun at all.' She said, 'You just worry about your groomsmen and your shirt-size, And rest assured that this is making me feel good, I think that love is so much easier than you realize, If you can give yourself to someone, Then you should. 'Cause it's a little bit of everything, The way you choke, the way you ache, It is waking up before you, So I can watch you as you wake. So in the day in late September, It's not some stupid little ring, I'm giving a little bit of everything. Oh, it's a little bit of everything, It's the matador and the bull, It's the suggested daily dosage, It is the red moon when it's full. All these psychics and these doctors, They're all right and they're all wrong, It's like trying to make out every word, When they should simply hum along, It's not some message written in the dark, Or some truth that no one's seen, It's a little bit of everything.

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Episode 17: Is it My Intuition or the Voice of Fear?

Release Date: 7/8/2021

Duration: 56 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott do a deep dive into intuition. What is it and do we all have it? (Yes, we do.) How do we know whether it is our intuition or our fear guiding us? What tools can we use to strengthen our connection to the intuitive voices within us? They discuss the innately intuitive nature in each of us and the gifts that come from exercising it. They also talk about what to do when our minds freak out over the call to use our intuition (and the mind always freaks out where intuition is involved). This is an important conversation about one of the most profound, and most ignored, aspects of being human. Go to www.heyjacobhiscott.com to submit a comment or question Today’s Reading: The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift. Attributed to Albert Einstein

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Episode 16: You Are Not a Machine + Real Life Magic + Surrender Avenue

Release Date: 7/1/2021

Duration: 71 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about choices, about the belief systems we build around the choices we make, and how we can stop limiting what is possible for ourselves and instead open ourselves up to the boundless imagination of life. Jacob shares a beautiful story reflecting on a profound moment of surrender in his life, and the friends discuss the power of surrender versus the paralysis of resistance. Scott shares his frustrations with social media and his (likely) upcoming, difficult decision to deactivate his Facebook author and personal page. They also talk about the earthing/grounding movement, and their experiences with their respective grounding mats, as well as the positive ways in which science can support the exploration of metaphysical (and generally unexplainable) realities. Visit www.gatheringofthecreatives.com to join Jacob in Santa Fe this September! Use code JACOBFRIEND for $50 off your registration.  Books mentioned:  The Untethered Soul, and The Surrender Experiment – by Michael Singer The Alchemist, and Aleph – by Paulo Coelho Reading: Paulo Coelho, from Aleph Signs are an extremely personal language that we develop throughout our lives, by trial and error, until we begin to understand that God is guiding us.

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Episode 15: Growing Deep Healthy Relationships

Release Date: 6/22/2021

Duration: 73 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott dive into the complexities of relationships, and the need in sustainable relationships — whether romantic, platonic or familial — for honest communication and a desire to grow together. The friends draw on their own experiences in past relationships to highlight the healthy and unhealthy ways they’ve shown up with others, and with themselves. They discuss the importance of speaking the things that continue to be left unsaid, and trusting that by doing so, you move a relationship forward, even when forward doesn’t look like you’d expect. Above all, the friends invite us to consider the relationships to which we give our most energy and whether or not that energy is well served. Reading: Pema Chödrön “The only reason we don't open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we don't feel brave enough or sane enough to deal with. To the degree that we look clearly and compassionately at ourselves, we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else's eyes. ”

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Episode 14: The Power of Yes

Release Date: 6/15/2021

Duration: 66 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about the ways in which we can curate our choices to create more peace, or joy, or meaning in our lives. They discuss the importance of giving yourself over to the energy of YES when it comes to your relationship with yourself, and thereby inviting in your imagination to create new possibilities in your day-to-day. The friends invite us all to look at where we’re centering our focus and how we feel by doing so, and to remember that the more we allow for thoughts, words and actions that feel empowering, the more empowered we naturally become. Rather than a reading, they end this episode with a guided visualization that carries us away to one of Scott’s favorite places on the planet.

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Episode 13: Crooked Teeth and Hairy Backs

Release Date: 6/8/2021

Duration: 67 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about body image, and their personal relationships with their bodies. They reflect on how we’ve all been conditioned to see only certain bodies as beautiful, and how difficult (seemingly impossible) it can be to transcend this harmful conditioning. Especially for women, because the conditioning is that much more intense. Both share deep-seated insecurities they carry and how their relationships with these insecurities have and have not changed. As they explore the body-positivity movement, they also look at our excessively triggered society and realize they are triggered by how triggered people can be. This is one of their most revealing conversations to date. Readings: Anne Lamott “Oh my God, what if you wake up someday, and you're 65, or 75, and you never got your memoir or novel written, or you didn't go swimming in those warm pools and oceans all those years because your thighs were jiggly and you had a nice big comfortable tummy; or you were just so strung out on perfectionism and people-pleasing that you forgot to have a big juicy creative life, of imagination and radical silliness and staring off into space like when you were a kid? It's going to break your heart. Don't let this happen.” “Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people. It will keep you cramped and insane your whole life, and it is the main obstacle between you and a shitty first draft. I think perfectionism is based on the obsessive belief that if you run carefully enough, hitting each stepping-stone just right, you won't have to die. The truth is that you will die anyway and that a lot of people who aren't even looking at their feet are going to do a whole lot better than you, and have a lot more fun while they're doing it.”

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Episode 12: Creativity, Commerce, Success, and a Radical Reorientation to the Inner Voice

Release Date: 6/1/2021

Duration: 65 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about the many aspects of sharing oneself, either creatively, spiritually, or from a healing perspective. They look at the need to focus on the specific gifts you feel called to share, rather than on how many people respond to those gifts, or how they respond, or how much money your specific offerings generate. The friends talk about money dynamics and hone in on our energetic relationship with money (and all things) and the possibility and benefit of realigning ourselves in healthier ways to money (and all things). They discuss establishing an aware yet friendly relationship with our egos, and the beautiful possibilities that come with allowing the heart to lead and the mind to act as support staff. Embedded in much of this discussion, as always, is a call to get honest with ourselves, and to trust in what that honesty, when aligned with love, can create in our lives. Books mentioned: The Gift by Lewis Hyde Sacred Economics by George Eisenstein The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist Reading: Tosha Silver Divine Beloved, Allow me to give with complete ease and abundance, knowing You are the unlimited Source of All. Let me be an easy open conduit for Your prosperity. Let me trust that all of my own needs are always met in amazing ways and it is safe to give freely as my heart guides me. And equally, allow me to feel wildly open to receiving. May I know my own value, beauty and worthiness without question. Let me allow others the supreme pleasure of giving to me. Let me feel worthy to receive in every possible way. Change me into One who can fully love, forgive and accept myself so I may carry your Light without restriction. Let everything that needs to go, go. Let everything that needs to come, come. I am utterly Your own. You are Me. I am You. We are One. All is well.

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Episode 11: To Forgive or Not To Forgive

Release Date: 5/25/2021

Duration: 71 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott take a deep dive into forgiveness. Does everyone deserve forgiveness? Is it a necessary part of healing? How do we (if we even want to) forgive the unforgivable? Scott shares his process of finding forgiveness for the man who killed his parents, and by doing so relieving himself of years of rage, hatred and blame. The friends talk about the path to forgiveness, the unhealthy pressure to forgive, fake forgiveness, and self-forgiveness. It’s an incredibly powerful episode focused on one of the most provocative and important subjects out there. Here’s what Scott read, by Mark Nepo: I have seen myself doing what was done to me,  never as cruel or as harsh.  But it has been enough to make me tremble at how easy it is  to be cruel when afraid, and how difficult it is to accept  that we are all capable of terrible things,  and how cleansing it is to realize that  true kindness breathes just beneath this acceptance.

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Episode 10: You have a right to be here

Release Date: 5/18/2021

Duration: 67 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about dealing with loneliness and disconnection, particularly during this time in our world where there is such uncertainty and so many calls for separation and divisiveness. They reflect on core questions like “Who am I?” and “Why am I here?” and the importance of being able to answer these questions from a practical as well as spiritual level. They also dive into conditioning, specifically around the compulsive need to be productive. Both Jacob and Scott share, with openness and vulnerability, their current struggles and how they’re currently navigating through some of life’s less pleasant waters. This is perhaps the deepest and most expansive episode to date. Here’s the poem Jacob read:  Desiderata by Max Ehrmann Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

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Episode 9: Finding Courage at the Crossroads

Release Date: 5/11/2021

Duration: 57 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: *This episode was recorded at cabins in the woods on both ends! There was a tech glitch near the end but we cleaned that up as well as we could, you'll just miss the usual sign-offs.  In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about… * the rollercoaster of thoughts that play through our minds * remembering our humanity within whatever we’re feeling * the intensity of these current times and the many uncertainties * making time for nature, no matter where you are (plants!) * the power of visualizing nature through meditation * not “shoulding” our thoughts away, not even the hard ones * the fears and insecurities we feel at major crossroads * how we stay in miserable situations just to avoid the fear of change * our soul’s desire for evolution, not comfort * Jacob’s decision process in ending his marriage * the importance of focusing on the potential benefits of a change, especially because our minds will always focus on the negatives * the ability within each of us to call on our courage, to be willing to be courageous * distinguishing between an intuitive impulse and an ego-driven impulse * taking small steps when making big changes * the willingness to consider our comfort, especially in uncomfortable situations * our inherent intuitive gifts * Jacob’s experience doing the exercises he recommended in his own book Here’s the poem Scott read today, by e.e. cummings: I thank You God for most this amazing day For the leaping greenly spirits of trees And a blue true dream of sky And for everything which is natural, which is infinite, which is yes I who have died am alive again today And this is the sun's birthday This is the birth day of life and of love and wings And of the gay great happening illimitably earth How should tasting, touching, hearing, seeing, breathing any Lifted from the no of all nothing Human merely being doubt unimaginable You? Now the ears of my ears awake And now the eyes of my eyes are opened

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Episode 8: Cabin Fever

Release Date: 5/3/2021

Duration: 64 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this conversation, Jacob and Scott talk about… * the things our minds tell us when we need a break from productivity * i.e., you don’t have value if you’re not working * i.e., you are worthless period * the healing power of creating daily practices * the impact of the Industrial Revolution on our need to be productive * the overwhelming nature of the information onslaught * the importance of being selective with what information we consume * how the things we suppress can oppress us in return * the power (and difficulty) of shining love on those you don’t like * letting go of putting your healing on a specific timetable * the importance of acknowledging our successes, however small * creating space for rest * being intentional about carving out needed space in our lives * practices for clearing negative energy from our beings * the value of creating personal rituals * the need, at times, to just stop * the need for a more holistic approach to mental well-being * creating the kind of life you don’t need to escape from Books mentioned: Ishmael by Daniel Quinn The War of Art by Steven Pressfield Inner Work by Robert A. Johnson Article mentioned: Bring Back the Nervous Breakdown, in The Atlantic, March 2021 issue The Still Cup - Hafiz (translated by Daniel Ladinsky) For God To make love, For the divine alchemy to work, The Pitcher needs a still cup. Why Ask Hafiz to say Anything more about Your most Vital Requirement?

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Explicit: No

Episode7: Yes, rest for the weary

Release Date: 4/26/2021

Duration: 64 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this episode, Jacob and Scott talk about the importance of rest in a world bent on productivity, as well as their respective understandings of what God is, and how the divine manifests in our beings and in our world. Happy Full SuperMoon in Scorpio! Here’s what Scott read today, from Braiding Sweetgrass, by Robin Wall Kimmerer: Even a wounded world is feeding us.  Even a wounded world holds us, giving us moments of wonder and joy.  I choose joy over despair.  Not because I have my head in the sand,  but because joy is what the earth gives me daily and I must return the gift.

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Episode 6: The Powerful Space Between Stimulus and Response

Release Date: 4/20/2021

Duration: 58 Mins

Authors: Jacob Nordby Scott Stabile

Description: In this episode, Jacob and Scott talk about… * the teachers we choose and the expectations we place on them * the shift away from the guru/disciple paradigm * their respective experiences in their cults * our proclivity to put our teachers on pedestals as better than * the inherent pull of cult-like behavior in most of us * the difference between belief and knowing * the importance of getting in touch with our own inner truth and knowing * the parallels between cult and culture * the human compulsion for safety and certainty * how fear directs our responses to one another * the power of teachers who act as guides rather than gurus * the difference between doubt and fear where our knowing is concerned * tools, like meditation, walking, and journaling, to create more peace in our lives * the power of being intentional with our choices * the importance of micro-practices for creating a more centered reality * the gap between stimulus and response as a place of power Books mentioned: Inner Gold: Understanding Psychological Projection by Robert A. Johnson Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl Here’s what Jacob read today: I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in your darkness, the astonishing light of your own being. - Hafiz

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