Hot Mess Happy Hour

Send us Fan MailADHD people are more likely to be people-pleasers as a survival mechanism to avoid rejection and cope with emotional regulation. I am guilty of it too, but we need to find a way to break this cycle of pleasing. It is okay to be kind and do things for others but don't make it cost your personal values. Recognize what you want to do versus what you feel obligated to do to keep the peace. Gradually set small boundaries to get back to having confidence without the fear of negative reactions. If your friends don't care what you value, or criticize you often, it might be time to move on to better people who respect your boundaries and feelings. You got this! I am here for you! Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailThe fun continues with our insightful and hilarious guest Nate, as we discuss what not to say to people with depression or ADHD. Best practices if you will, and you should. We also do a deep dive into LEGO minifigs, vegetarian foods, and feature the song "Game Boy" by Zack Cokas, with a sample of this rockin' tune. Don't miss the Yard Sale stories, as those are too funny! You can see that no topic is off limits. Thanks for listening!! We love you. Check out Spotify for more Zack Cokas and Cam Cokas hits! They are talented musical twins with completely different styles. Enjoy!Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailSing it: "He is 16 .... going on 35..." Nate is back and talking about the disparity of the solos assigned to the seven von Trapp siblings during the infamous "So Long, Farewell" song. Fun fact: Georg had 3 more children with Maria making it a grand total of 10 von Trapp kiddos! We also discuss potential dog dating websites, (we're copywriting eBark) and much more! Join us for our happy hour filled with Trader Joe snacks and lots of laughs. Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailBack by Popular Demand — NATE! Your favorite ADHD duo is back....and even more off track than ever! We discuss Nate's brief but illustrious bowling career, his many balls, his fun-filled rolling skating party to celebrate his early thirties, Trader Joe's (because why not?) and the benefits of physical therapy (PT). This is all coming to you from Nate's very high-security, top secret location. I had to be buzzed in and even then, there are two areas with the same number. NO ONE CAN FIND YOU NATE! But join me in wishing my friend a very happy birthday!  Hope you enjoy the show! There are two more episodes on the heels of this one starring Nate the Great. Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailWoop Woop! You'll cheer for this method to help you meet your goals! WOOP stands for Wish, Outcome, Obstacles, Plan and it challenges you to identify what your true wishes are, and what stands in your way. I have started using this mental exercise and it is helping me prepare for things I want to achieve. Deceptively simple but effective! Thank you to the class I took from a Yale professor who introduced this WOOP approach to us that was conceived from Dr. Gabriele Oettingen. I hope it helps you move forward towards the things you would like to do but feel paralyzed like I do sometimes. Cheers!Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailNo one is SAFE from us! Join us for Hot Mess Happy Hour as Craig and I drag a stranger from a bar on St. Patrick's Day into the podcast to share her fun stories! We talk about driving through Ireland from Cork to Dingle. Jaqueline attended Johnny Cash's funeral and almost blew up a gas station! She fit the bill for hot mess and we love her! Craig shares his love of proctologists and how yearly exams are just not enough! He then shares his fun colonoscopy experience. Then we discuss the difference from people in the Midwest, the north and the south. We are all over the place and wouldn't change a thing! Cheers! Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailMake a toast with your finest green beer and celebrate St. Patrick's Day with my friend Craig and me as we discuss "Fun-employment" and how when one door closes...a trap door opens...in the floor...so you can slide down further into your very own hot mess basement! We haven't hit rock bottom yet! We also discuss signs to look for if your company is downsizing, gym memberships, dogs and more! Please join us for Happy Hour!! To see my latest rescue pup and support the show, click this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/scokas2Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailIt's almost tax time, but if you have ADHD like me, taxes hit you all year round! The ADHD taxes I mean. Forgetting where you put a gift card, or letting things expire or not paying a bill on time and racking up late fees, the list goes on. Listen in for some tricks and tips to help lower these taxes so we can save money, time and a whole lot of frustration! Take care! Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailShe's never ANNE-noying and always Anne-tertaining! Hear this second episode with our fave legal eagle improvisor Anne! She's had a few more glasses of chardonnay and is ready for some funny smack downs, including offering this show some hosting tips. (Mainly for Norm). Fergus weighs in and is anxiously waiting for some pizza crusts. We have moved to a heavenly environment and she has like 50 white blankets so we are cozy! Get ready for more laughs and some barks. Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailGet ready to lawyer up for this episode with my hilarious friend Anne who is not only funny, she's a Diamond-level athlete who was also on a case that went all the way to the supreme court! She speaks Russian but wasn’t ready to Rush In to being an undercover honey pot. Take a look into her legal briefs and enjoy the ride! If you liked this episode and would like to help my rescue pups get treats, you can go here: https://buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailWe all have "to do" lists. I have several all over the place on post-its and what have you. But here's a new one, for me at least, make a "to don't" list. Things that don't serve you, aren't worth doing, or things that just don't bring you joy. Just don't do it! Don't go to that party where you don't know anyone and you're tired. Don't send out Christmas cards to people you no longer are close to or who don't bother to tell you they have moved. Take them off the list. Don't sign up for something you feel obligated to do, only volunteer for something you love or makes a real difference to someone you care about. THEN, focus on the shorter to do list, after you have trimmed off the things you won't do. Good luck! I am trying this with you. Cheers!Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailIf you are trying to make big changes in 2026 and are not quite succeeding, this podcast is for you. STOP with the scary huge goals or resolutions and go SMALL! You'll still get there... and doing it a bit slower with little tweaks along the way will actually get you there faster than trying to go big or go home. You'll just end up going home and you know it! With nothing to show for it. So join me in our 2026 small improvement plan and let's go from HOT mess to slightly warm mess in no time! YOU CAN DO THIS!! I am here for you. Always be kind to yourself. xoSupport the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailIn this part 2 episode, we continue the discussion including needy ghosts, being haunted, Tadum! and more theatre talk with our good improv friend Norm, whose name is just so perfect for creating just the right puns and we thank him for being such a good sport! We also discuss getting attention you do not want during work video conference calls, Zoom call fails, and major meeting snafus. It's perfect for all my ADHD and hot mess listeners. Enjoy! Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailA NORMal hot mess episode featuring NORM, my improv friend. He enjoys signing up to mentor people and then ghosting them soon after! He discusses fun improv show stories and all things "Yes, and." He loves his own kids but not other random people's kids and pets. His dog Benji also joins him on this podcast. Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailJoin me for this feel-good Friday mini episode where I talk about volunteering and how it connects you to others and can help reduce stress, anxiety, and depression, while boosting your happiness, giving you social connections, and a sense of purpose.  It shifts focus in your mind from your own worries to helping others. I remotely most days and it does feel isolating at times. Volunteering can help counteract feelings of isolation and loneliness. I share my volunteer story and hopefully leave you with some positive ways to get started! Do it!!Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailJoin us as our conversation continues to wander all over the place, shocking I know, bringing you even More Malarkey with Michael covering a wide range of topics like ADHD meds, rubber necking, Andrew Lloyd Weber (for some odd reason) and of course out of tune pianos! Because, why not? Thank you Michael for your time and for coming on this wild ride of a hot mess podcast. Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailSaving cats, the new pope, eating too many burritos, grabbing snakes by accident and ranking wines and musicals... it's all in one episode and much more with Michael! He's entertaining and an all around fun person to be around. Catch us as we catch up after being apart for more than a year! If you liked this episode and would like to help my rescue pups get treats, you can go here: https://buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailFocus mode, Post-Its, labels, alarms, forgetting to name your phone alarms so you then forget why it is going off...you know the drill! Nate helps us navigate through the time blindness and myriad of ADHD hurdles we both face and a few helpful tips to get through the day without being overwhelmed, and of course we get sidetracked and somehow talk about colonoscopies, climbing mount Kilimanjaro,  and other super relevant topics. Thank you Nate my Mate for being such an awesome and amazing guest! Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailJoin Nate and me as we relive the tale of our hero coworker Cory who started AND quit the very same day! He read the vibe within 8 hours and said "immediately no" to our house of horrors. Also hear the tale of our poor coworker who was fired, had stomach flu and was bit by a rabid fox...all in the same week! A camera crew was waiting for her at her house after getting 10 shots in her stomach. Also, you'll meet a very jarring employee, who collected multiple jars of all sizes. There's no end to the crazy stories we survived and lived to tell the tale! Special thanks to my amazing guest Nate!Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailNate is everything you want in a fave coworker — funny,  kind, and smart with a great sense of humor! We worked in a crazy nut house of a place with see-through walls and had to entertain ourselves to get through it all with laughter. He joins me today with a non-alcoholic beverage and calls himself "Nate the Cheap Date" with all you'll save on wine and liquor. This will be a multi-parter as he has a lot of hilarious stories to share! Sit back and get ready to laugh. Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailCoworker Craig demanded more episodes and so his Trauma Dump continues as he tells us how he once worked for hair cuts (BAD ones! ... yet he went back) and old shoes. He would prefer working for money. We also worked at an ad agency where the owner was (unknown to us) laundering money and then fled the country. We were "fun-employed" at the same time. That's the unpredictable world of advertising for you! Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailTalk a walk down memory lane with us as my old coworker Craig sits on the therapy couch (unfortunately I am NOT a therapist, but if you are, we'd LOVE to hear from you!) and tells the tale of our mutual boss who woke him up very early to say that he was soaked with gas and all our creative work he needed for a presentation was also somehow covered in gas!! It is a mystery to this day how that happened, but Craig did come to save the day and the boss made his flight — still smelling of gas. This episode is a GAS! Part 2 of Crazy Craig is on it's way next week! Stay tuned!Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailI of all people have no place telling others how to declutter, but I have been doing some research and reading actual books on the topic so I am sharing what has worked for me so far and it is helping! Shout out to Marie Kondo for her indirect input on this topic. I hope I spark Joy! Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailSome days, even one task seems overwhelming! We got you with hacks for ADHD folks like us, including focus music, flow state, helpful resources on YouTube, books and Reddit posts! Great advice from a younger and way smarter sister who also struggles with that ADHD brain that seems to be a family trait. People with ADHD need to have even MORE self compassion because you were born this way and you are awesome! I'm okay, you're okay. We're gonna be okay. (Also sorry about recording this while I didn't realize I had Covid and sound like something is really not okay! But that's still okay!) Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailI flew out to Seattle to get more ADHD survival tips from my smart sister Molly (and to go to a Coldplay concert) and this first part is so off track we end up discussing Bidet toilets, visiting the Space Needle, adult diapers and more! Hot mess at its finest — or worst? Molly gives a few actionable tips towards the end and part two is CHOCK full of ADHD tips so feel free to skip ahead or join us for the crazy ride that is our family. Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailHi fellow hot messes! This short episode talks about breaking big tasks into smaller, more manageable chunks and also a fun aside about me mailing a package to Bulgaria! I hope it helps and be easy on yourself, you'll get it all done, it just might take a bit longer than someone who has it more together! But we got this!Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailKate and I might not have it all together, but we have each other, and that counts for something? We are always way off course...unless it's an appetizer. This episode covers our time at the Billings, Montana Rockin' Rock and Gem show where Kate bought a 30-pound box of dirt hoping to find some precious stones in there. We realized we kept saying we were going to the Rock and Gem show and folks thought we meant "Rockin' Jam show" which might be fun as well, but once they found out it was literal rocks and stones, it seemed less enticing? But not for us! As Kate says" "Don't be fooled by the rocks that I got, I'm still Katie from the block!"Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailTime blindness is a REAL thing! If you have ADHD like me, you are probably a tad forgetful and tend to run late all day. If you forget your keys, or don't even know where they are, you might learn a trick or two during this Hot Mess Minute. Let's try together to be more on time and not forget ALL the things (lunch, phone, workout clothes, papers, etc.). I'm pulling for you! Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailI flew out to Montana to meet my fellow Hot Mess lady and favorite cousin KATE! We come from an EXTREMELY large family with something like 50 cousins, we lost count. Our Grandmother had 10 children so this was bound to happen. She is a self-proclaimed Trash Panda and we talked about eating too much Mexican street corn at yet another huge family gathering. The next day, the street really came out! We sound tired after four days straight of picnics, white water rafting, brunches, potlucks... our family loves to eat apparently. We just wanted to hide and sleep! This is unedited for MAXIMUM Hot Mess content. (Part two uncovers our sneak out trip to a rock show in Billings, MT.) The fun never stops with this fam!If you liked this episode and would like to help my rescue pups get treats, you can go here: https://buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailMy first fabulous guest on the Hot Mess Happy Hour podcast is my lovely coworker Jessica from a few jobs back. She has hilarious tales from her many dating attempts starting during the pandemic and beyond. You'll here about "Cheesecake" guy, a real-life swinger and someone who literally said they were looking for a trophy wife... ON THE FIRST DATE! Thank you Jessica for being my brave pioneer guest and for sharing wine and laughs with me always! Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3 

Send us Fan MailThis is my Hot Mess Happy Hour origin story! If this podcast entertains just one person, helps them feel okay being a bit "messy," and makes their life better for listening, then I have done my job! Settle in and get ready to laugh. Happy Hour starts now!Support the showTo mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3