How We're Doing It

Friends of the How Were Doing It podcast have been reaching out to the Musas because it has been quite some time since the Musas released a new episode. Because of the genuine concern from friends of the podcast, the Musas decided to record a quick life update as to what has been going on since the last released episode. Listen to find out the chisme. Let the Musas know if you have a question or suggestion to improve the show at [email protected]

Planning for college? In this episode of How We're Doing It, first-gen parents Tijani and Yazmin break down 529 plans, explaining tax benefits, savings options, and strategies for maximizing education funds. Get clear, practical advice to secure your child’s future! Previous Question: Can U.S territories set up a 529 Plan? Answer: Yes. All 50 States and U.S territories are eligible. Chapter (00:00) Yasmin: Conversations about 529 plans are important now (01:24) Today's conversation is about 529 plans. Like the college saving plans (07:35) Every state has a different 529 plan (08:47) There are two main types of 529 plans: education savings and prepaid tuition plans (12:52) Section 529 plans are sponsored and run by all 50 states including the District of Columbia (14:47) With the 529 plan, you can put money towards your child's retirement (17:06) 529 plan grows tax deferred until student is in college or vocational school (19:00) There is a limit that people can gift you towards the 529 (20:34) So let me talk about some benefits and potential disadvantages of 529s (24:01) So let me talk about some of the disadvantages of a 529 real quick (25:45) The 529 plans have specific transferable transfer rules (30:28) 529 is pretty extensive and it covers a lot of, uh, those things (32:03) How much are you putting towards your 529 account and how often (33:41) Does having a 529 impact your financial eligibility when going to college (37:39) With 529, you can do what they call target funds or target date investment (40:16) Creating a five to nine gives you a tax advantage, which we already talked about Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TiKToK ⁠

In this episode, Tijani and Yazmin are joined by Yazmin's sister, Yeni, an army sergeant, to explore the generational differences between Millennials and Gen Z. Together, they dive into how technology shapes the younger generation’s approach to convenience, responsibility, and family dynamics, especially in immigrant households. They share personal stories about supporting their parents, balancing career aspirations influenced by social media, and managing relationships in a fast-paced, tech-driven world. Discover how Gen Z's reliance on digital tools affects their personal connections and what we can learn from each other across generations. Listen now to this candid conversation on family, technology, and the evolving definition of success. Don’t miss it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, and Google!  Chapters (00:00) This podcast focuses on millennials and Gen Z. Welcome and thanks for joining us (01:47) All right, all right, let's bring in the guests. We don't skip the introduction. You gotta get that introduction (02:17) This is Yeni's fourth episode on the podcast (03:47) The generations that we're discussing were years. Like, years wise, so that people understand we're talking about (05:18) First generation immigrants tend to have a lot of responsibilities within families (11:53) Tijani: You make calls when necessary. This is a misinterpretation of my (16:40) It's the lack of seeking resources, not using them (21:37) As technology improves, younger generations are becoming more reliant on technology (24:56) Some first generation kids are proud that they don't graduate high school (30:45) Yeni says things have gotten easier according to her generation (34:57) Tijani says becoming a parent has led him to seeking older friendships (39:13) If Leo's ever, like, I want to start gaming, (41:27) Yeni says there is a sense of entitlement among younger soldiers (45:52) Studies show that having relationships adds to people's happiness (51:14) You feel like this person rushed into getting, um, married (56:52) Overall, I feel like the generation, they're getting smart. They're doing it on their own terms (59:15) Yeni takes a lingo quiz to test your generation's vocabulary (01:00:31) Your generation still uses slay, according to the Internet (01:01:43) Leo says I'm Gen Z; mom says she's millennial (01:02:21) I think it's really weird when people call mom and dad on social media (01:06:01) Yasmin, thank you for having Leo while I was gone Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TiKToK ⁠

In this powerful episode, Tijani and Yazmin discuss the importance of therapy and mental health, inviting Yazmin's sister, Sergeant Yeni Dzib, to share her courageous journey. From the challenges of military life to personal struggles, Dzib opens up about her experiences with therapy, the obstacles she faced, and the support she received that helped her heal. This episode discusses the stigmas surrounding mental health, the necessity of seeking help, and the impact therapy can have on one's life. Join us for an honest conversation that highlights the strength in vulnerability and the importance of breaking the cycle of trauma for future generations. Chapters (00:00) Two first generation immigrants share their experiences with fun and education (00:57) Today's topic is around therapy. You already know of all types of therapy (01:42) Yazmin: We are strong advocates for premarital counseling (04:28) Yeni was sexually assaulted during his military career (10:10) Tijani, thank you for sharing your story about mental illness (15:06) So I have a question for you. Motivation could be something bigger than you (19:12) Yeni went through four or five therapists before finding the right one (20:01) Why don't people take therapy seriously culturally? Because of stigmas (22:32) You're a mortuary affairs specialist, right? Yes. And let's talk briefly about your specialty (25:59) Sometimes insurance doesn't cover therapy, so it feels very rushed (27:07) Sometimes a stranger is the best option out there, honestly (28:51) During my time in Poland, I paused, completely paused seeking help (30:19) Did you think that the break that you took while you were in Poland affected healing (31:56) Tijani says he relies on prayer to help him deal with life (37:49) Would you prefer a male and or a person of color in a therapist (39:25) Yeni says she prefers female therapists because of past trauma (41:47) I think everybody has some type of childhood trauma that they're holding onto (46:14) Ever considered therapy? My mom doesn't even know what therapy is (49:36) Yeni, what is your take on therapy in general? Do you recommend it (51:02) Would you let your kids start therapy or counseling when they're young (54:09) Yeni, bring up your boy, then, Leo Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TiKToK

In this episode, Tijani and Yazmin share their candid second trimester updates, diving into the emotional and physical changes experienced during this unique phase of pregnancy. Whether you're an expecting parent or simply curious about the ups and downs of pregnancy, this episode provides an authentic and relatable perspective on navigating the second trimester. Join Tijani and Yazmin as they prepare for their growing family, sharing insights and advice for others embarking on a similar journey. Chapters (00:00) With this second trimester, I am still emotional, but I felt more (00:51) This podcast focuses on our second trimester updates, how it went (01:23) Today we're discussing the second trimester update (03:55) Myth that if you're pregnant with a girl, you feel more beautiful (06:58) The second trimester is when your bump really starts to show (13:48) We had our gender reveal during second trimester during Ramadan and Eid (20:17) Brown: Do I suggest baby moon once you have a baby already (23:53) Johnny was serving me every week during Jasmine's pregnancy (26:06) Yasmin says communication is key to helping with household tasks (30:26) The biggest way we've been preparing for the baby is buying items Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TiKToK

In this episode, Tijani and Yazmin sit down with a special guest, Yazmin's sister, Yeni, to discuss her journey towards financial freedom. Yeni, a single mom and army sergeant, shares her candid experiences of living a carefree financial life, accumulating debt, and the pivotal moment that made her decide to take control of her finances. Whether you're struggling with debt, looking for ways to budget effectively, or seeking inspiration to start your own financial journey, this episode offers practical advice and heartfelt encouragement. Chapters (00:00) Two first generation immigrants share their experiences with fun and education on this podcast (00:57) In the studio today, we have a special guest. We are talking about the one and only, my sister in law (01:53) The listeners know about our financial journey or budgeting (03:53) Yenny, why didn't you engage in living on a budget until now (07:28) As a single mom, you don't have that person to motivate you on debt (11:48) Yenny has paid off her credit card and her car loan (14:19) What does financial freedom mean to you? What does that look like (15:26) TJ says having to restrain from shopping has been difficult during transition (21:08) What do you want your big milestone to be this year (22:09) Do you think Leo feels deprived, like, not doing enough (25:00) The check ins really help. Um, the messages from TJ when he's like, okay (28:07) If someone is debating whether to start budgeting or just live life on a budget Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TiKToK

Whether you're considering premarital counseling, are newly married, or simply curious about how to strengthen your relationship, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice. Yazmin and Tijani's honest and heartfelt discussion underscores the benefits of investing in your relationship early on to build a solid foundation for the future. You May Also Like Essential Questions For a Serious Relationship Ways That Having Children Can Change Your Marriage Chapters (00:00) Look at my wife using the I statements. She all of a sudden, the stuff she learned in counseling kicks in (00:27) Two first generation immigrants share their american experiences with fun and education (00:53) Today's episode is on premarital counseling and our experience with it (02:38) You and your wife went through premarital counseling five years ago (06:13) The guide also includes some personal questions. I was gonna say, outside of the normal questions (11:14) All right. Setting the stage. Okay. So we had to do premarital counseling (13:08) We were categorized as a vitalized couple with strengths in most relationships (16:09) Do you want to give examples of some of our stressors (18:46) Set boundaries for yourself and be each other's priority, April says (21:42) What are we gonna do to make more time for date nights (24:38) Let's ask the listeners to send us ideas. Send them to us so we can start using those (25:06) I think sometimes when I voice an opinion or a concern, it is nothing heard (26:06) The hardest question as an adult is what am I going to eat every week (27:49) Stop using words such as always and never. They are not healthy. I've mentioned to you several times, do not use the word always (29:48) If more people invested in premarital counseling, we would have less divorces (31:29) You scored high on the social scale. Whereas I'm an average social person (35:08) What about emotional steadiness? It says you scored really high (40:12) Premarital counseling has helped strengthen our marriage, Tijani says Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TiKToK

In this episode, Tijani and Yazmin invite listeners into their home for an in-depth "money date," a candid conversation about their finances. They break down their budgeting process, sharing insights on how they manage their income, spending, and financial goals. From the importance of having money conversations within relationships to practical tips on budgeting apps and tracking expenses, this episode is packed with valuable advice for anyone looking to improve their financial health. Yazmin and Tijani discuss the significance of maintaining a healthy relationship with money, whether you're single or in a partnership. They emphasize the importance of regular financial check-ins, setting goals, and understanding personal spending habits. The couple also highlights the cultural barriers that often prevent open discussions about money and how breaking these barriers can lead to better financial outcomes. Whether you're looking to get a handle on your budget, find a financial accountability partner, or simply curious about how others manage their money, this episode offers a transparent and educational look into the Musa household's financial practices. Chapters (00:00) I think it's fair that we compensate your mom for looking after Jasleen (00:48) How we're doing it is podcast where two first generation immigrants share experiences (01:13) Yasmin: Today we are having a, uh, money date (03:13) Having money dates can help couples feel more empowered about their goals (09:11) Leo uses an app called every dollar to track his spending (14:27) We have a transportation category, and then within that we have our monthly gas (18:20) In May, we were over budget by $23.37 compared to April (22:16) Johnny and I have been very disciplined about our spending. We've managed to stay out of debt (25:38) The restaurants tab for Mother's Day was very high (26:16) We have an episode that talks about separate versus joint account (27:07) Um, the next thing is the subscriptions. We weren't expecting the Amazon subscription to renew (28:44) Gas is going to decrease this month because I'm driving less (31:43) Good style. I'm gonna go in and take the candy from them. That's yummy candy (31:58) What else are we looking at for June? The month of June (33:54) We keep using the house as a gift. I mean, Yenny considered us cheap (35:01) One big thing that we need to keep in mind is just looking at finances (37:42) For Jasmine's college fund, we take, I take money every quarter (38:48) For single people, find your money friend. Find someone that you trust Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TiKToK

In this episode, Tijani and Yazmin explore the profound topic of trusting in God's plan, even when things don't go as expected. They share personal stories of how they prayed for specific outcomes and faced unexpected challenges, only to realize later that God's plan was indeed the best plan for them. From Tijani's heartbreaking experience with a scholarship rejection to Yazmin's job search struggles, they delve into how faith and patience played crucial roles in their journeys. The couple discusses the importance of praying for guidance, accepting God's will, and understanding that sometimes, the answers to prayers come in ways we least expect. They also highlight the significance of being open to God's timing and trusting that He has something better planned, even when immediate circumstances seem disappointing. Whether you're navigating career changes, life decisions, or simply seeking inspiration to trust in a higher power, this episode offers heartfelt insights and practical advice on embracing God's plan with faith and patience. Chapters (00:00) After prayer, normally we, like, sit there and ask God for specific things (01:25) Today we're talking about God's plans. And sometimes when you pray for something, God may not give it (03:28) On this podcast episode, we always try to share how we're doing things (09:53) When the scholarship did not fall through, I was devastated (15:04) 24.3 million land in Australia was destroyed because of devastating wildfires (17:33) So let's put a pause on my story. Your voice just keeps getting louder and louder. Let me relax and drink some agua (17:55) You tell us your example. Okay, so my example is a little more recent (23:54) You applied for a job working with students with visual impairments (30:26) God answered our prayer, right? Yeah. It was so many things that were, like, playing (31:41) You interviewed for a position that was your first choice (34:17) Sometimes the prayer is not answered in the way we want it Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TiKToK

In this episode, Tijani and Yazmin dive into the lesser-known and unexpected symptoms of pregnancy. From the discomfort of carpal tunnel syndrome to the surprising issue of excess saliva, they share personal experiences and practical advice for managing these unexpected challenges. Yazmin opens up about her own struggles with these symptoms, providing valuable insights and tips for other expectant mothers. They also discuss the importance of advocating for yourself when dealing with pregnancy-related health issues and the significance of support from partners. Whether you're expecting or just curious about the realities of pregnancy, this episode offers a candid and informative look into the less talked-about aspects of the journey to parenthood. Chapters (00:00) Excess saliva. Which is gross. It makes you wanna dry heave and gag (00:34) Hello. Welcome to our podcast. If this is your first time joining us, welcome (00:59) Today's episode is unexpected pregnancy symptoms. Women experience it, but they do happen rarely (02:39) Yasmin: Unless you have parent friends or friends becoming parents (03:34) Carpal tunnel syndrome can develop during and after pregnancy (05:49) Wrist numbness can start with the fingers and extend all the way up (12:21) During pregnancy, your gums can feel sensitive, kind of sore (16:12) What about fatigue when you're pregnant? Is that a symptom (16:59) Breast tenderness is one of the first symptoms of pregnancy (21:15) The most uncommon symptom of all of them is the carpal tunnel Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TiKToK

In this episode, Tijani and Yazmin went into the fascinating world of old wives' tales, particularly those predicting the gender of an unborn baby. They share their personal experiences and cultural insights, discussing various symptoms and methods said to indicate whether you're having a boy or a girl. From cravings and heartburn to morning sickness and the shape of the baby bump, they explore the accuracy and fun behind these age-old predictions. Yazmin also recounts a charming family tradition from Mexico involving a fork and spoon to predict the baby's gender. Whether you're expecting or just curious, this episode offers a delightful mix of humor, tradition, and personal anecdotes. Chapters (00:00) Yasmin and Tijani Musa are first generation immigrants (01:11) DK predicts the gender of the baby based on symptoms and old wives tales (05:35) This one talks about hair and nails. It ties right into exactly what my mom said (08:53) This time around, we're expecting a boy. Break it down. What are we expecting this time around (09:41) Based on the position of your baby bump, it can determine gender (10:50) If you have a wide baby bump, it means you're having a girl (12:15) With your first pregnancy, you had a lot of food aversions (14:34) What about the baby's heartbeat? So they say if the fetal heart rate is above 140, (16:01) The last one for this category is sleeping sides. Talk to me about this one (18:35) All right, now let's talk about methods. Predicting based on methods can be difficult (19:45) Take me to the mayan system. Okay, so the Mayans make predictions (21:44) Okay, so now we're gonna move on to the chinese gender prediction (23:29) M. M. was pregnant when this episode was recorded (27:05) You really don't know until you confirm the sex of your baby (29:45) Your mom says in Mexico, you don't get an ultrasound (32:02) Anything else? Do you have any more old wives tales that we haven't discussed Are you having a boy or a girl? If you can’t wait to find out, we have a list of fun old wives’ tales for predicting your baby’s gender!  Visit the Source: Web-Pampers-US-EN to read more.  Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TiKToK

In this episode, Tijani and Yazmin discuss the perplexing world of toddler behavior, especially when a new sibling is on the way. They explore whether their daughter's sudden tantrums and aggressive outbursts are a result of her age or a reaction to Yazmin's pregnancy. Sharing personal anecdotes and practical strategies, they discuss the challenges of navigating toddlerhood while expecting a new baby. From dealing with bedtime battles to managing public meltdowns, they offer insights into maintaining a balanced and loving environment for their growing family. Chapters (00:00) Introduction: Is it toddlerhood or the pregnancy? (Yazmin Musa) Analyzing Jasleen's behavior: Tantrums and hitting (07:09) Changes in behavior since the pregnancy (11:00) The impact of toddlerhood on behavior (15:37) Strategies for managing aggressive behavior (20:01) Toddler routines and the importance of consistency (25:32) Giving toddlers choices to prevent meltdowns (29:51) The role of logical consequences in discipline (32:53) Modeling positive behavior and emotional regulation (38:20) Engaging the audience: Poll question on toddler behavior Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TiKToK

Tijani and Yazmin traveled back in time to reveal essential tips and survival etiquettes for first-generation kids navigating through different stages of life. From high school challenges like prom and graduation to college life and beyond, they share invaluable advice to help first-gen students and adults thrive. They discuss the critical role of school counselors, the importance of attending college orientation, and the necessity of office hours. They also touch on adulting topics such as salary negotiations and the cultural nuances of tipping. Whether you're a high schooler, a college student, or a young professional, this episode is packed with practical tips and personal anecdotes to guide you through your journey. (00:00) School counselors are not well versed in working with first gen students (01:06) Today we're talking about all the things you need to know about life (02:06) I have high school students who went to prom recently (05:55) You should know where you're going to take photos before prom, right (06:45) You mentioned prom to your parents. Do you have anything else on prom (09:30) If you don't know the right people or resources, you won't apply (15:16) I hope she turned it in. I'm hoping she did (15:28) Speaking of graduation, let's talk about high school graduation length (16:26) You need to attend your college orientation. Yes, you do (20:08) How important is going to office hours? This is something that first generation people don't know (26:20) Look, she was a mom. Of course she cared about us (26:53) Do you have anything about regarding college, like graduation? Cause we talked about high school (30:53) You actually have to apply to graduate is wild (32:02) First generation immigrants should know some tips on being an adult (35:53) As a first generation student, we can actually negotiate our salaries (42:39) High school and college grades do not determine your future success, so. Fact. Ah. Wanted to add that (44:42) Send us your suggestions on how to succeed as first gen immigrants Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TiKToK

In this episode, Tijani and Yazmin share their personal experiences and practical tips on traveling with a baby. From planning the first flight to dealing with unexpected challenges, they cover everything you need to know to make your journey smoother. Whether it's packing essentials, understanding airline policies, or managing sleep routines, this episode is packed with valuable insights for parents on the go. Chapters: (00:00) Tijani Musa: It really depends on your situation. Where are you going? Do you really think you're going to need the pack (01:26) Today we're talking about traveling with a baby. You mentioned that this is from a listener (07:09) One parent tried to stuff a bunch of stuff into their baby's car seat (11:00) It really depends on your situation. I traveled to Puerto Rico with Jaslyne (15:37) You can bring breast milk through TSA, but it's not personal (20:01) Make sure you bring plenty of breast milk or formula for baby on airplane (25:32) If you're traveling internationally, your child will need a passport (29:51) If you are at all concerned, just expedited your passport (32:53) Yasmin says keeping your baby comfortable on flights is important (38:20) Make that call and, you know, just make sure that you're in a (38:39) First time flying with baby over two, it was much more comfortable Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠TiKToK

Tijani and Yazmin discusses the challenges and experiences of the first trimester of their second pregnancy. They discuss the emotional and physical hurdles, including persistent nausea, unexpected bleeding, and the importance of having a support system. They also touch on the differences between their first and current pregnancy, sharing personal anecdotes and practical advice. From the significance of waiting to announce a pregnancy to the impact of physical activity on their journey, this episode offers a candid look into the realities of early pregnancy. Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TiKToK

In this engaging episode of 'How We're Doing It,' Tijani and Yazmin dive into the crucial topic of setting boundaries with family. They share personal anecdotes, including a memorable instance where they had to refuse a request to buy alcohol due to their religious beliefs. With their special guest, Yeni, they explore the importance of communication and mutual respect in maintaining healthy family dynamics. From handling cultural differences to establishing rules within the household, this episode offers valuable insights for anyone navigating family relationships. Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TiKToK

Tijani and Yazmin introduce their first product: an ebook designed to help couples navigate essential conversations. They discuss the importance of premarital counseling and share their journey of compiling questions that have strengthened their relationship over five years of marriage. These questions cover various topics, including family, personal values, sex, spirituality, and finances, aiming to deepen connections and prepare couples for long-term commitment. Whether you're dating, engaged, or already married, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice for fostering a stronger relationship. Key Takeaways: The significance of discussing deep, meaningful questions in a relationship Examples of essential questions to ask your partner about family, finances, and intimacy Different versions of the ebook: a free version and a paid version with more in-depth questions Tips on how to use the ebook to create engaging and insightful date nights Connect with us! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TiKToK

In this heartfelt episode of 'How We're Doing It,' Tijani and Yazmin discuss how having children has transformed their marriage. They share candid experiences of navigating parenthood's challenges, including stress, exhaustion, and sleep deprivation, and emphasize the importance of mutual support and communication. Tune in for an authentic conversation about maintaining intimacy, mental health, and building a strong family foundation.Key Takeaways: The importance of setting a strong foundation before having children How sleep deprivation and stress affect communication and partnership Strategies for supporting each other through the challenges of parenthood Dealing with postpartum depression and seeking help Maintaining intimacy and connection as a couple Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TiKToK

In this episode of 'How We're Doing It,' Tijani and Yazmin delve into the pros and cons of joint versus separate bank accounts. They share their journey, discussing how different financial strategies impact relationships, from fostering transparency to maintaining autonomy. Tune in for valuable insights and practical advice on managing finances as a couple. Key Takeaways: Benefits and challenges of joint vs. separate accounts Fostering transparency and unity Maintaining autonomy and avoiding conflicts Connect with us! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TiKToK

In this insightful episode of 'How We're Doing It,' Tijani and Yazmin reflect on their first year of homeownership as first-generation immigrants, sharing lessons learned from maintaining a new build home to navigating homeowners insurance and HOA regulations. They offer practical advice on balancing indoor and outdoor tasks, utilizing smart appliances, managing home-related expenses, and tackling DIY projects. With tips on interior decoration, landscaping, and budgeting, this episode is a treasure trove of insights for new homeowners or anyone planning to buy a house, especially first-generation immigrants. Tune in for valuable knowledge and personal anecdotes to help you navigate homeownership with confidence. Check out the following episodes: Family Harmony: Living Peacefully With In-Laws Do Theses! Before Moving To A New State Challenges You Face When Moving To A New State Connect with us! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TiKToK

Tijani and Yazmin dive into the emotional journey of navigating genuine care for their daughter, from friends and family. They discuss setting boundaries, showing empathy, and teaching independence while highlighting the importance of genuine connections. And how they avoid forcing their child on unloving friends and family members. Learn how simple acts like a text or FaceTime call can impact relationships and get practical advice on building strong support systems for your child. Whether you're a parent or soon-to-be, this episode offers valuable insights and heartfelt advice on protecting your child's innocence and fostering meaningful relationships. Tune in for an authentic discussion on genuine care and empathy. Also check out the Being The First In Your Circle To Have A Baby, Help! episode on Apple and Spotify podcasts or your favorite podcast platforms. Connect with us! ⁠Website⁠ ⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠TiKToK

In this heartfelt and joyous episode of 'How We're Doing It,' Tijani and Yazmin share the exciting news that they are expecting their second child! The Musas take us through the emotional journey of discovering their pregnancy, from the early symptoms to the creative way Yazmin revealed the news to Tijani. They also discuss the challenges and differences between this pregnancy and their first with their daughter, including dealing with early symptoms, spotting, and the importance of having a strong support system. Join them as they navigate the chaos of pregnancy while balancing family life, work, and their passion project—the podcast. This episode offers a genuine glimpse into their lives, filled with love, laughter, and a few unexpected cravings along the way. Key Takeaways:  - The emotional and physical journey of discovering a new pregnancy - Dealing with early pregnancy symptoms and spotting - The importance of a strong support system during pregnancy - Balancing family life, work, and personal projects - Preparing their daughter to become a big sister Whether you're expecting, already a parent, or simply enjoy heartfelt family stories, this episode is packed with personal anecdotes and valuable insights. Tune in for an authentic and intimate look at the Musas' journey to becoming a family of four. Connect with us and share your own stories, questions, or tips about pregnancy and parenting. We're all in this together, learning and growing one episode at a time. Subscribe for more episodes and join our supportive community. Listen to Being The First In Your Circle To Have A Baby, Help! Connect with us! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TiKToK

In this eye-opening episode of 'How We're Doing It,' Tijani and Yazmin discuss the significant money lessons they've learned through personal experiences and the challenges they've faced as first-generation immigrants. From navigating hefty medical bills to the pitfalls of co-signing loans, the Musas share candid stories and practical advice on managing finances while supporting their families. Listen as they recount the journey of paying off nearly $35,000 in debt, dealing with unexpected financial emergencies, and setting clear boundaries with family members. This episode is packed with valuable insights on how to maintain financial health without compromising family values. Key Takeaways: Understanding the impact of co-signing loans and why it's crucial to avoid it Strategies for budgeting and managing debt while supporting extended family The importance of setting financial boundaries with loved ones How to bounce back from financial setbacks and stay the course Lessons on financial literacy and the need for basic money management education Whether you're a first-generation immigrant or simply looking for practical financial advice, this episode offers a blend of personal anecdotes and actionable tips to help you navigate your financial journey with confidence and clarity. Connect with us and share your own stories, questions, or tips about managing finances. We're all in this together, learning and growing one episode at a time. Subscribe for more episodes and join our supportive community. Listen to the episode on Apple and Spotify podcasts or your favorite podcast platforms. Related Episodes Love, Debt, and Dream: Our Story Living Consumer Debt-Free (Updated to Debt-Free Journey) Our Journey From Consumer Debt To Financial Peace (Deb-Free) Connect with us! Website Instagram TiKToK

Are you ready to tackle the potty training challenge? Join Tijani and Yazmin in this relatable and insightful episode of 'How We're Doing It' as they share their experience transitioning their two-year-old daughter from diapers to potty independence. Discover the signs that your toddler might be ready, the importance of mindset, and why kids sense fear in the potty training process. The Musas dive into the practical steps they took, from going cold turkey to understanding their daughter's cues, and how they made the training a fun and rewarding experience for everyone involved. Whether you're looking for guidance, motivation, or just a few laughs along the way, this episode provides a mix of personal anecdotes and actionable advice. So if you're standing at the threshold of the potty training adventure, wondering how to proceed, tune in for some real talk on navigating this developmental milestone with patience, consistency, and a good sense of humor. Key Takeaways: Introduction to the potty training journey- Recognizing readiness and preparation strategies The step-by-step process from naked time to fully potty trained Handling setbacks and accidents with a positive attitude Insights on night-time training and the decision to delay The Musas' stance on rewards and finding what works for your child Encouragement for parents in the midst of potty training Connect with us and share your own stories, questions, or tips about potty training. We're all in this together, learning and growing one episode at a time. Subscribe for more episodes and join our supportive community. Connect with us! ⁠Website⁠ ⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠TiKToK

Embarking on the journey of parenthood? Dive into today’s episode of ‘How We’re Doing It’ where hosts Tijani and Yazmin share their personal experiences and practical tips for packing the essential hospital bag. From choosing the right onesie size for your newborn to ensuring mom and dad have everything they need, this episode is packed with advice to prepare you for the big day. Whether it's comfy PJs or a playlist to ease labor, tune in for an authentic and educational guide to getting your hospital bag ready—because when baby decides to arrive, you'll want to be prepared for anything! Connect with us! ⁠Website⁠ ⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠TiKToK

Tijani shares his harrowing journey from Sierra Leone to the United States, highlighting survival, resilience, and triumph. Despite facing homelessness and financial struggles, Tijani overcame obstacles with determination and mentorship, achieving academic and financial success. His story inspires gratitude and celebrates life's victories, showcasing the human spirit's capacity to endure. Connect with us! ⁠Website⁠ ⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠TiKToK

In a candid conversation, Yazmin recounts her childhood in Veracruz, Mexico, her family's humble beginnings, and the poignant moment of crossing the border to reunite with her father in pursuit of the American Dream. She shares the challenges of assimilating into a new culture, the struggle with language barriers, and the eventual embrace of her Mexican heritage. Yazmin's journey is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the power of education. But this episode is more than just an immigration story; it's a reflection on identity, family, and the sacrifices parents make for their children's futures. It's a story that resonates with anyone who has ever strived for a better life, and it's a reminder of the common threads that bind us all in the pursuit of happiness and success. Join us as we explore the complexities of growing up between two worlds and the profound impact of Yazmin's experiences on her life today. It's an episode that promises to move you, educate you, and perhaps even change the way you view the immigrant experience. Next week, we'll hear Tijani's story and continue this powerful dialogue. Don't miss it – subscribe now and be part of the conversation. Connect with us! ⁠Website⁠ ⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠TiKToK

Discover the importance of life insurance with Tijani and Yazmin Musa as they explore this critical safety net for families. In this episode, they discuss the cultural taboos, financial implications, and the peace of mind that comes with being insured. Their conversation is a mix of valuable information, personal experiences, and a guide for first-generation immigrants on how to navigate life insurance. Tune in to learn why life insurance isn't just about death—it's about life and living without financial fear. Sites Mentioned: https://www.ethoslife.com/ https://www.zanderins.com/ Connect with us! ⁠Website⁠ ⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠TiKToK

In this engaging episode, we shared tips on how you can create your own family's core values. We do so by offering insights into navigating life as first-generation college graduates and parents. We discussed the importance of service and community engagement, the role of faith in our daily lives, and the transformative power of education. Listen in to gain valuable parenting tips and be inspired to foster a home environment centered on love, trust, and responsibility. Tune in for a heartfelt discussion that serves as a blueprint for nurturing a family culture rooted in intentionality and shared values. Connect with us! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TiKToK ⁠

In this enlightening episode of How We're Doing It, hosts Tijani and Yazmin got into the ever-changing dynamics of our relationships throughout life. They explored a series of thought-provoking data points that reveal how the time we spend with family, friends, coworkers, partners, children, and even ourselves evolves as we age. From the peak of childhood friendships to the steady companionship of a life partner, the Musas unpack the emotional and practical implications of these shifts. They touched on the importance of celebrating life's varied milestones, whether it's a job promotion, a move, or simply surviving a tough day. Listeners are invited to reflect on their own lives: Are we cherishing our parents while we can? How do we maintain deep connections with friends as time and distance grow? What makes a work environment energizing rather than draining? And as the time spent alone increases, how do we find joy in solitude? Join the Musas for a rich conversation that encourages us to prioritize the people and moments that matter most, to never settle for less in love, and to embrace the personal growth that comes with life's transitions. It's not just about the quantity of time, but the quality of our connections that truly counts. Connect with us! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TiKToK ⁠

In this heartfelt and empowering episode of How We're Doing It, Tijani and Yazmin Musa share their intimate journey through the challenges and triumphs of exclusive pumping. Yazmin opens up about her unexpected path to becoming the "thick, mean milk making machine," a title she wore with pride as she navigated the complexities of breastfeeding with flat nipples. The couple discusses the early days of syringe feeding their daughter with donor milk and transitioning to formula while waiting for Yazmin's milk supply to establish. The episode is rich with practical advice, from finding the right pump to mastering a pumping schedule that mimics a nursing baby's routine. Yazmin offers an abundance of tips, including the importance of flange sizing, the benefits of a hands-free pumping bra, and the necessity of a supportive partner. They touch on the emotional aspects, too, addressing the pressures new mothers face and the power of positivity and self-affirmation in overcoming obstacles. Listeners will discover a treasure trove of resources, such as the supportive exclusive pumping community and helpful accounts like Be My Breast Friend on Instagram. Yazmin's story is a testament to the determination and resilience of all mothers who choose to pump exclusively, and the episode serves as a reminder that a fed baby is a happy baby, no matter the method. Join the Musas for an episode that celebrates the strength of mothers, the importance of support, and the beauty of doing what's best for you and your baby. It's a conversation that's not just about exclusive pumping, but about empowerment, love, and the incredible bond between parents and their children. Connect with us on Instagram and TikTok, and don't forget to subscribe for more inspiring stories and practical advice on navigating life's challenges. Connect with us! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TiKToK ⁠

In this engaging episode of How We're Doing It, hosts Tijani and Yazmin extend a warm thank you to their listeners for the incredible support since the show's inception in August of 2023. They discuss the importance of audience interaction and how it fuels their passion for podcasting. The duo outlines various ways fans can connect and contribute to the show's growth, from simple actions like rating and reviewing on Apple Podcasts to participating in Spotify's interactive Q&A features. They emphasize the value of sharing episodes with friends, engaging on social media platforms like Instagram and TikTok, and providing feedback to shape future content. The Musas also invite listeners to join their exclusive mailing list for early scoops on episodes and behind-the-scenes content. Tune in for a heartfelt conversation about community, growth, and gratitude, and learn how you can be an integral part of the How We're Doing It journey. Connect with us! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TiKToK ⁠

In this candid episode, we tackle the pervasive and often damaging "bounce back culture" that pressures new moms to rapidly return to their pre-pregnancy bodies. Tijani and Yazmin share personal anecdotes and the emotional toll such expectations can have. They dissect the double standards between new fathers and mothers, with society celebrating the 'dad bod' while scrutinizing mothers' postpartum bodies. From unwarranted advice to the lure of quick fixes, they discuss the struggle against unrealistic standards and the importance of prioritizing healing over appearance. The Musas provide thoughtful insights on embracing the postpartum journey, advocating for self-care, and rejecting the toxic narratives that overshadow the beauty of new parenthood. They offer heartfelt advice for both moms and dads on how to navigate this transformative phase with compassion, support, and understanding. Tune in for a supportive conversation that challenges societal norms and champions the wellbeing of new families. Connect with us! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TiKToK ⁠

In this informative episode, we explored into essential breastfeeding tips and techniques. Yazmin starts by dispelling the myth that breast size affects milk production, emphasizing that successful breastfeeding is more about technique and commitment. She highlights the importance of skin-to-skin contact immediately after birth to initiate breastfeeding and explains the production of colostrum in the early days. Proper latching techniques are crucial for effective nursing, ensuring that the baby gets enough milk and the mother remains comfortable. Other valuable tips include recognizing signs of a full baby, tracking feedings using apps like Huckleberry, and understanding cluster feeding patterns. Yazmin stresses the importance of staying hydrated, maintaining a nutritious diet, and taking prenatal vitamins. She advises against giving water to newborns and explains the significance of baby's first poop, meconium. Engorgement of breasts and its treatments, as well as the need for vitamin D drops for babies, are also discussed. Yazmin's overarching belief is that a fed baby is a happy baby, and she encourages mothers to find a comfortable position, seek support from other mothers, and accept help from loved ones. Additionally, she recommends resources like The Nursing Mother's Companion book and websites such as KellyMom.Com and La Leche League for further guidance and support. Connect with us! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TiKToK ⁠

In this episode, we explore Yazmin's emotional labor and delivery journey, navigating the challenges of Cholestasis of Pregnancy and the decision for a C-section. Yazmin shares her unexpected experiences and emphasizes the need for support and validation in the journey of becoming a new parent. She offers valuable advice for expecting mothers, advocating for self-care and open communication about the emotional aspects of childbirth. Join us as we dive into this deeply personal and insightful episode. Connect with us! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TiKToK ⁠

In this engaging episode, we delve into the journey of Tijani and Yazmin as a married couple with a two-year-old daughter, exploring their growth together. Starting with their college days, where Yazmin found Tijani loud and obnoxious, attributing it to his extroverted nature, while Tijani believes Yazmin's introverted nature colored her perception. Despite this, they ended up married, showcasing a remarkable life journey. Both grew up poor as first-generation immigrants, Yazmin from Veracruz, Mexico, and Tijani from West Africa, Sierra Leone, later becoming the first in their families to graduate college. Their relationship flourished through college, multiple jobs, and long-distance challenges when Yazmin pursued Teach for America in North Carolina. They married in 2014, and together paid off a $34,329.20 consumer debt in under a year. Their story is a testament to perseverance, love, and building the American Dream. Connect with us! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TiKToK ⁠

In this episode, we delve into a thought-provoking discussion: "Are men intimidated by successful women?" We explore how cultural norms and upbringing contribute to this dynamic, as men may feel challenged by women who excel. Rather than viewing successful women as competition, we advocate for collaboration and mutual respect. We encourage men to shift their mindset and embrace successful women as partners in life and work. For women, we advise against settling for less than they deserve and emphasize the importance of knowing their worth. We also touch on the challenges of modern dating and offer guidance on finding a compatible life partner. Join us for a candid conversation that challenges stereotypes and promotes understanding between genders. Connect with us! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TiKToK ⁠

In this episode, we delve into the art of harmonious cohabitation with your in-laws. Our decision to live with them stemmed from a desire to save money during Tijani's schooling. Key tips include setting clear boundaries, effective communication, timely rent payments, mutual respect, conflict avoidance, appropriate humor, understanding personalities, shared household responsibilities, conflict resolution, respecting personal space, patience, and flexibility. We also touch on Yazmin's experience living with her parents, the importance of celebrating differences, fostering family bonds, mutual support, and how their involvement helps with childcare and maintaining a healthy relationship dynamic. Join us as we explore the nuances of this unique living arrangement and share insights on making it a fulfilling experience for everyone involved. Find us on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠ Join our Mailing List (Copy paste link) https://mailchi.mp/5b100b98a511/howweredoingit

In this episode of the How We're Doing It podcast, we dive into effective parenting strategies for the digital age as a First-Generation Immigrant parents. We explore the importance of experiential learning in parenting and how it shapes our understanding of parenthood. From adapting to your child's needs to managing screen time, we discuss practical tips for spending quality time together as a family, whether it's sharing meals or exploring outdoor activities. We also touch on setting boundaries, supporting your partner, and fostering effective communication within the family. Discover helpful resources like the Huckleberry App and strategies for shared responsibilities using tools like iPhone Notes and Calendars. Join us as we navigate the complexities of modern parenting and provide support for one another. Mentioned Oh Crap! Potty Training: Everything Modern Parents Need to Know to Do It Once and Do It Right by Jamie Glowacki Find us on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠ Join our Mailing List (Copy paste link) https://mailchi.mp/5b100b98a511/howweredoingit

Embark on our latest episode as we delve into the daunting challenges of relocating from one state to another. From navigating the logistics of renting moving trucks to deciding on shipping belongings or opting for a road trip, we cover the spectrum. Tune in for insights on managing moving expenses, including renting trucks and associated costs. We share personal experiences of moving with family and pets, shedding light on the unique challenges faced. Join us as we discuss the invaluable help from friends and tackle post-move adjustments, such as building a new community, making friends, and adapting to a fresh environment. 🚚 Find us on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠ Join our Mailing List (Copy paste link) https://mailchi.mp/5b100b98a511/howweredoingit

In this captivating episode of the How We're Doing It podcast, we openly share our personal pregnancy journey. Delving into the concerns that often occupy the minds of first-time parents, we touch upon pivotal moments, from the initial nerve-wracking appointments at 8 or 9 weeks to verify the pregnancy to genetic testing, the 20-week anatomy scan, and navigating the probabilities of miscarriage. We explore the highs and lows, including the unique challenges of morning (aka all day) sickness, the bliss of the second trimester, and the excitement of feeling that first kick. From maintaining fitness routines during pregnancy to the nuances of a good diet and considerations for vaginal versus C-section birth, we cover it all. Our conversation extends to emotional support for the pregnant partner, thoughtful gestures, and shared responsibilities like home chores. Dive into this episode for insights on cravings, food aversions, the essential pregnancy pillow, and the intricacies of intimacy during pregnancy. Throughout, we provide a wealth of resources, including popular applications like What to Expect, The Bump, Baby Center, and Pregnancy Podcasts such as Pregnancy Podcast 40 weeks, ensuring our audience is well-informed and supported on their own parenting journey. #PregnancyJourney #ParentingPodcast #NewParents #BabyOnTheWay Recommend Apps/Resources What to Expect App/Website Baby Center App The Bump App Pregnancy Podcast - 40 weeks by Vanessa Merten Find us on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠ Join our Mailing List (Copy paste link) https://mailchi.mp/5b100b98a511/howweredoingit

Get ready for the newest addition to your family with our latest episode! We're sharing essential tips on bringing a newborn home, covering everything from pediatric visits and lactation consultants to baby formula and crib safety. Tune in for our take on creating a cozy and safe environment for your little one. 🍼👶 #NewbornTips #Parenting101 #BabySafety #FamilyLife Find us on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠ Join our Mailing List (Copy paste link) https://mailchi.mp/5b100b98a511/howweredoingit

Embarking on the journey to forever? Listen to our latest episode where we dive deep into the crucial topics to discuss with your potential fiancé – from pre-marital counseling to finances, kids, generational traumas, and beyond! Get ready for a thoughtful exploration that sets the foundation for a strong and lasting union. #LoveTalks #EngagementJourney #RelationshipGoals #PodcastLife Find us on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠ Join our Mailing List (Copy paste link) https://mailchi.mp/5b100b98a511/howweredoingit

Join us on “How We’re Doing It” Podcast as we dive into our latest story, "Living Consumer Debt-Free” Discover easy strategies for financial freedom. Budgeting tips Define large purchases Eliminating unnecessary expenses Delay instant gratification Limit buyer's remorse Savor moments with loved ones and indulge in your passions. #PodcastUpdate #DebtFreeJourney #LivingDebtFree #Budget #LifeonaBudget #MoneyManagement Find us on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Join our Mailing List (Copy paste link) https://mailchi.mp/5b100b98a511/howweredoingit

Join us on the "How We're Doing It" Podcast as we explore valuable tips on supporting friends entering parenthood! Learn practical ways to lend emotional support, provide assistance with errands, offer babysitting help, thoughtful gifts, and be a compassionate listener. Tune in for insightful guidance on being an amazing support system to your friends on their parenting journey! #ParentingSupport #NewParentsTips #FriendSupport #ParenthoodJourney #FamilyPodcast Connect with us! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TiKToK

Join us on the How We're Doing It podcast as we delve into the profound journey of parenthood, conceiving! Discover insightful tips and the essential 'Do's for first-time parents aiming to conceive. Tune in to explore our personal experiences and gain valuable insights into the path of conception. #ParenthoodJourney #ConceptionTips #FirstTimeParents #TryingToConceive #ParenthoodExperiences" Find us on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Join our Mailing List (Copy paste link) https://mailchi.mp/5b100b98a511/howweredoingit

Join us on the How We're Doing It Podcast as we share our empowering journey towards financial freedom! Discover our strategies, including Dave Ramsey's Baby Steps, that helped us become debt-free and build a solid financial foundation. From creating an emergency fund to paying off debts and investing wisely, we unveil our path to financial stability. #FinancialFreedom #DebtFreeJourney #DaveRamseyBabySteps #MoneyManagement #PersonalFinanceAdvice Find us on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Join our Mailing List (Copy paste link) https://mailchi.mp/5b100b98a511/howweredoingit

Welcome to "How We're Doing It" Podcast! Meet our hosts from Veracruz, Mexico, and Sierra Leone, West Africa. Join us in our debut episode as we share our proud, multi-ethnic, and inclusive journey, celebrating diversity and cultural richness. #FamilyPodcast #ImmigrantStory #CulturalDiversity Also mentioned in this episode: The Early Identification Program (EIP) George Mason University Find us on ⁠Instagram⁠ and ⁠TikTok⁠ Join our Mailing List (Copy paste link) https://mailchi.mp/5b100b98a511/howweredoingit

Join us on the "How We're Doing It" Podcast as we delve into our cross-country move from Virginia to Dallas, Texas! Discover essential tips and steps to ease your decision-making process for a successful relocation. From researching your new area to committing to the move, we've got you covered. Tune in before your leap of faith!