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Ill-Advised with Jessica Ell
by Jessica Ell
Ill-Advised is a podcast for people who long to free themselves to live the life they want–even if their choices could be considered “ill-advised.”Hosted by Martha Beck life coach Jessica Ell
Episodes
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A Life Update: I made it home
After six years, I finally have a permanent address and all my belongings under one roof again.
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This Will Never Happen to Me Again
I sheepishly raise my hand and acknowledge that I have been known to repeat a cycle one too many times. I'm in awe of those of you who get burned once and stop touching the stove. How are you spending all that free time that isn't spent on wound dressing? But since I seem destined to learn the…
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59. October by the Numbers
Ever think about recapping your life by the numbers? Here's my life in October, by the numbers.
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58: Letting Fear Bounce with Kim Lengling
In this episode, I'm chatting with Kim Langling, a former marketing and sales director turned author and podcast host. We're delving into Kim's journey of overcoming fear, adapting during COVID-19, and launching the 'Let Fear Bounce' podcast. Kim shares her insights on making significant life...
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57: Expand Your Success Zone with Genea Barnes
In this episode, I'm talking to Genea Barnes, a performance coach who helps entrepreneurs grow their businesses and have fun doing it by expanding their Success Zone. Genea is also the host of the Be The Wolf podcast, where she talks to inspiring entrepreneurs about how they’ve created success by...
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56: Stuck? 3 Reasons You Can't Decide
Send us a textWondering why you feel so stuck over a decision? This episode highlights three common reasons it's hard to decide. It'll help you understand your debate at a level that goes deeper than simply weighing pros and cons and moving options around the table.By the end of this episode,...
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55: Am I making the right decision?
Send us a textThree Characteristics of a "Right" DecisionAre you feeling overwhelmed by making big, life-altering decisions? In this episode of the Ill-Advised podcast, we delve into the question: "Am I making the right decision?" Learn about the three qualities that define a right decision -...
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54: Decision-Making Alchemy - Turning Stuckness Into Action
Send us a textFeeling trapped by outside circumstances? Big decisions seem even harder when we feel trapped or at the mercy of other people and our current reality. But stuckness is often a portal to decision-making magic and alchemy.Drawing from research, client experiences, and my own difficult...
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53: Embracing Ambivalence: How to Cope with Indecisiveness
Send us a textEver feel like you can argue both sides of a decision? And does it ever feel like an absolute curse? You're probably high in trait ambivalence.In this episode, we explore how to feel better in states of uncertainty and indecision, especially if you have high trait ambivalence. We...
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52: How to Decide - Temporary Decisions and Short-Term Leases
Send us a textDo you ever feel overwhelmed by making big, permanent decisions? This can be anything from choosing where to live or who to marry (or who to leave). Join me for this episode of Ill-Advised for another way to choose when you feel trapped by high stakes options. ---Work with me 1:1 -...
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51: Taking a Business Leap of Faith, Pivoting, and Brain Balancing with Mercedes Collins of Neurogen Brain Balancing in Chandler, Arizona
Send us a textAre you hesitant about making a hard decision and taking a leap of faith because it might not go as planned? That's what I'm talking about with my guest today. Mercedes Collins is the owner of Neurogen Brain Balancing East Valley in Chandler, Arizona. She provides high-performance...
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50: Indecision Really Hurts
Send us a textIn this episode, I dive into the deep pain of indecision and the struggle of walking away from something that isn’t right for you. I reflect on my personal journey, including a pivotal moment when I chose not to attend law school, despite the immense pressure and expectations.…
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49: Unease, Integrity, and Being at Peace in Your Spirit
Send us a textHow often do you overlook feelings of unease? Don't - it's one of the most important decision-making tools in your "right life" kit. Recognizing and honoring a persistent, subtle sense of unease can indicate when you're veering off your path.Key Takeaways:Unease as a Decision-Making...
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48: The Burden of Doubt
Send us a textOne of the most profound shifts you can make in your orientation toward life is going from the burden of doubt to existing in a state of faith. And one of the best ways to make this shift is through leaps of faith.Key Takeaways: Putting down the burden of doubt often feels like...
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47: Indecision, Making the “Right” Decision, and Thoughts from an Enneagram 6
Send us a textThis episode is about the discomfort of indecision, how to relieve the pressure to make the “right” decision, fear and missed opportunities, and insights on being an Enneagram 6.Key TakeawaysExhaustion from Indecision: Indecision can be exhausting and maddening. The constant...
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46: The Side Hustle Catch-22
Send us a textLet’s talk about the Side Hustle Catch-22, where it feels like your side business would succeed if you had the time to devote to it, but your day job actually pays the bills and it’s sucking up all your time and energy. It feels like you can’t let go of the job, but you NEED to let…
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45: Betting on yourself
Send us a textWe're always told to go after our dreams... but HOW? HOW are we supposed to do that? I've certainly wondered that, and so do many of my clients. They feel trapped in a Catch-22; one that's usually about time and money. So in this episode, we explore the "HOW?" behind taking a leap…
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44: When you change your mind
Send us a textToday, we dive into the powerful and sometimes challenging process of leaving behind unfulfilled goals when what you want changes.Key Takeaways:Understand the significance of changing your mind and adjusting your goals.Learn to recognize when to let go of outdated desires.The…
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43: When you feel trapped
Send us a textToday's episode is about the infrastructure that keeps you feeling "trapped" and how to break free from the things holding you back. If you feel stuck or unable to take a leap of faith, this episode is for you.Key Takeaways:Identify Your Golden Handcuffs: Recognize what’s making you...
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42: The Point of Possibility
Send us a textThis episode is a little bit of inspiration for when you’re thinking of taking a leap of faith.Listen to it when you’re standing at the precipice of a major change, you’re about to jump, and you aren’t sure what things will look like on the other side or if you’ll even make it to…
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41: Tune out the noise
Send us a textIn this episode, I'm talking about the number one advice I give about taking leaps of faith, starting a new business, moving to a new city, or basically anything else you want to do that seems "crazy":Tune out the noise.Tune out other people's opinions. Tune out social media and…
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40: Feeling proud of yourself
Send us a textI used an old blog post as the springboard for this episode on self-pride and how useful the emotion of pride can be. And then I went on a bit of a side quest…So here are the two key takeaways from this episode:Takeaway A, from the blog post: Feeling proud of yourself is the best…
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39: When you get everything you wanted
Send us a textWe need to talk about what happens when you get everything you want. We spend so much time striving and efforting and wanting that we barely have time to consider what happens AFTER the “getting.” What happens when you finally HAVE all (or most of) the things you want?Not happily…
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38: Future Regrets - Preventing regret over things you didn’t do because of fear
Send us a textI'm talking today about Future Regret, a concept that has radically changed the way I live my life, from the criteria I use to make decisions, the guardrails that determine my behavior, and how I feel living in an uncertain world. In your past, if you regret not taking the risk, not...
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37: Jane Fonda, Liberation, and Being Old Before You're Old
Send us a text"Stop being old before you're old," and other lessons on living a damn full life from Jane Fonda. ---Work with me 1:1 - JessicaEll.com/bookJoin my group coaching program, What She's Having - JessicaEll.com/SheJoin the Ill-Advised email list: jessicaell.com/join Instagram:...
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36: Saturn in the 7th House, Soul Collaborators, and Other Thoughts on Partnership
Send us a textFor the first time in my life, I'm experiencing the magic of soul-level collaboration and partnership. This episode is an unscripted, unorganized reflection on partnership, work, and how to attract magical opportunities by attracting the people who are meant for you.Informally, it's...
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35: The Power of Subtraction
Send us a textAre the things you're doing leading you down the road and in the direction that you meant to go in? What about the things you leave behind when you aren't discerning about how to spend your time and energy? If you easily fall prey to the seductive "just one more" lie (just one more...
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34 - The 90 Day Relationship (and the benefits of going all-in)
Send us a textToday's episode dives into the power of committing fully - like, to a 90-day relationship?? What the hell, why not?Jessica is sharing insights from a 90-day relationship experiment, emphasizing the benefits of going all-in, whether in relationships or other life decisions.Key...
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33: Staying When You Want to Leave
Send us a textIn this episode, Jessica discusses the importance of getting good at staying in uncomfortable situations before making a leap of faith. Key Takeaways:Taking leaps of faith is a skill… and so is staying when you want to leaveYou can learn to harmonize staying and leavingThe personal...
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32: It's ALWAYS Hard in the Beginning
Send us a textThis is such an easy thing to forget when you're in the thick of change (big or small), but it's KEY to your ability to keep going:Remember that CHANGE IS HARD IN THE BEGINNING.That's it. Simple and obvious, but oh-so-easy-to-forget when you're struggling to make something work.In...
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31: When You Can't Figure Out Your "Big Why"
Send us a textIn this episode, I’m questioning the “Big Why” as a prerequisite for success and the silly pressure to define a grand purpose for our goals and lives. Key TakeawaysThe Neverending Quest for Purpose - Not every ambition needs a profound reason behind it.Keep It Simple - “Because I…
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30: Pursue Your Possibilities, Not Your Problems
Send us a textWhat does a kitchen renovation have to do with problem-solving and possibility? Everything!Key Takeaways:It’s SO important to get out of constant problem-solving mode. Instead of dwelling on limitations, wipe the slate clean and imagine the highest potential outcomes.Presume a...
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29: Calming Down in Chaos - Chop Wood, Carry Water
Send us a textFinding calm and emotional neutrality during times of chaos isn’t just “nice.” It’s the most important, most USEFUL thing you can do to navigate the uncertainty of Square One.Key Takeaways:Square One is a place of upheaval and uncertainty emotionally, mentally, physically, and often...
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28: Wandering with Purpose: The Art of Coddiwompling
Send us a textMy free guidebook on starting over, “Now What?” will be out this week, so in this episode I’m talking about one of my favorite ways to approach a new beginning - coddiwompling. I chose “coddiwomple” as my Word of the Year in 2020 as my relationship was imploding. I now believe...
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27: "Now what?" Square One aka Death, Rebirth, and Tough Beginnings
Send us a textIn this episode, I'm talking about starting over and the very beginning of new beginnings: Square One. Tough beginnings are par for the course when you make a major life change. You'll know you're in Square One when you look around at your life and think things like, "WTF," and…
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26: What I Believe
Send us a textI went off-script in this episode to talk candidly about what I believe. This episode is the kind of conversation we’d have over dinner or drinks - how I make sense of the world and how I understand “purpose” and “meaning” when it comes to living a rich life. Takeaways:Destiny is an...
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25: Suspend Your Disbelief to Take a Leap of Faith
Send us a textI love it when my fiction writing and coaching overlap. In this episode, I have some fun exploring the concept of the willing suspension of disbelief and its relevance to personal growth and taking leaps of faith. Suspending disbelief can open up new possibilities and help overcome...
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24: Lessons Learned in My Early Thirties - #5 Change is just around the corner
Send us a textLet’s talk about change and transformation. One thing about the process of reinvention is always the same: Bursts of change are preceded by periods of stillness. And the change you want comes when you believe you're good enough for it. If you’re impatiently waiting for the next...
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23: Lessons Learned in My Early Thirties - #4 Bloom Where You're Planted
Send us a textIn this episode, I'm talking about my favorite way to live a life of deep, continual transformation without feeling like you're in constant chaos: Bloom where you're planted. And if you're looking for the secret to attracting better and better things into your life, it's making the...
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22: Lessons Learned in My Early Thirties - #3 I have to do things My Way
Send us a textIn this episode, I'm talking about another major lesson learned in the first half of my thirties: I have to do things My Way. After years of following other people’s plans and instructions, I believe that the path to your most vibrant, interesting, fulfilling life is found by...
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21: Lessons Learned in My Early Thirties - #2 Style Matters
Send us a textIn this episode, I'm talking about another major lesson learned in the first half of my thirties: style matters. Up until my early thirties, I thought style was a vapid waste of time. Now, I believe that the things we wear go far beyond clothing, influencing how we approach life and...
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20: Lessons Learned in My Early Thirties - #1 Clarity Comes from Action
Send us a textTo celebrate entering the second half of my thirties, I'm sharing five lessons learned from the first five years of this decade.The first lesson: Clarity comes from action, not from thinking. You don't need to "figure things out" before you move forward--in fact, if you're trying to...
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19: The Cycle of Reinvention
Send us a textIn this episode, I'm talking about the four-stage cycle you can expect to go through when you embark on a personal or professional reinvention. Personal reinvention isn't easy (and it often isn't pleasant), but knowing what to expect can make it much easier to go through. Bookmark...
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18: Year of the B*tch - Defiantly Being Your Authentic Self
Send us a textIn this episode, I'm talking about ending 2023 on a high note by expressing my authentic self--a version of me some might call a "b*tch." I'm sharing a couple anecdotes from my dating life to illustrate mistakes I've made by being accommodating when I wanted to be rigid, and "chill"...
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17: Reinvent Yourself in 2024 - A fresh perspective on goal-setting
Send us a textIn this episode, I am talking about a new paradigm for setting goals that doesn't include timebound metrics or obsession with things that are not strictly under your control. If you're tired of SMART goals and the frustration of not hitting metrics, here's a new approach to…
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16: Experiments and Failure - What I'm failing at and what I'm learning these days
Send us a textIn this episode, I'm bringing you behind the scenes of the lessons I'm learning - RIGHT NOW - about reinvention, building a business, and going all in. I'm talking about marketing experiments, frustration, branding, and why calling experiments "failures" might actually be a good...
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15: The Best Non-Career Career Advice I've Ever Gotten
Send us a textIn this episode, I'm sharing the best career advice I've ever gotten--and it wasn't even about my job; it was about buying my first house.Listen in for life-changing advice that you can apply to your career right now, whatever stage you happen to be in. ---Work with me 1:1 -...
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14: Everything is Narrative - How to change your career by changing your story
Send us a textIf you want to change your career, you have to change your career narrative. The story you tell about your work experience--and yourself--is the most powerful tool you have in creating the career of your dreams. In this episode, I discuss why it's important to write a strategic…
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13: The "Burn It Down" Approach to Career Transitions
Send us a textIn this episode, I'm talking about the approach I've often taken to my career--which is to go all in on myself and my dreams. From giving up a scholarship at a top ten law school in favor of making thirteen bucks an hour as a nonprofit "events girl" to leaving behind a six-figure…
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12: Make It Fun, Make It Easy - Tips on How to Enjoy the Process
Send us a textIn this episode, I'm offering a few practical tips and journal prompts so you can make the journey toward your goals as fun and easy as possible. So often, we're told we have to "enjoy the process" but aren't told HOW to do that. Here are some ways to reduce suffering, stress and...
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Ill-Advised is a podcast for people who long to free themselves to live the life they want–even if their choices could be considered “ill-advised.”Hosted by Martha Beck life coach Jessica Ell
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