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I'm Ma'am As Hell
by Sandy Lafazan and Kyra Sposato
Two post-menopausal therapists with starkly different lifestyles have a chance encounter in mid-life. Kyra Sposato NP is divorced and child-free. She is independent, outspoken and adventurous. Sandy Lafazan LCSW is in a long term marriage and has 3 grown children. She sacrifices for her family, is traditional, spiritual and a self-described “square.”Together they’re creating the I’m Ma’am as Hell platform to ignite conversations about life as middle-aged women. Far from being irrelevant and obsolete they’re ready to show the world that women ages 45 to 75 are nowhere near being done.Come join them for candid and often humorous discussions about sex, purpose, dating, marriage and more.
Episodes
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My Relationship Is In A Schlump
Join the Ma'ams for a lively discussion of how they tackle the common woe of relationship monotony. Sometimes all it takes is a touch of initiative to shake off the doldrums that occur in long term relationships.
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The Mind is a Terrible Thing to Waste: ADHD Symptoms in Postmenopausal Women
The Ma'ams delve into an often overlooked casualty of menopause - the mind. What to do if a drop in estrogen is contributing to absent mindedness and forgetfulness due to undiagnosed ADHD?
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Ladies and Gentlemen Of the Class of Boomers, Wear Sunscreen
As Kyra and Sandy take a stroll down memory lane, sharing the wisdom they'd impart to their younger selves, a revelation unfolds. It seems the echoes of wisdom align with the timeless lyrics of Baz Luhrmann's 'Everybody's Free'. Looks like the universal truth persists: they've discovered…
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Are You There God, It's the Ma'ams Talking
The Ma'ams reminisce about their coming of age and the journey that led them into womanhood. Sandy remembered playing spin the bottle and kissing a boy named Ira who was a good kisser. Kyra was focused on the chant "I Must, I must increase my bust" because she was worried her breasts would…
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You Don't Bring Me Flowers, You Don't Text Me Emojis - Anymore
Sandy & Kyra explore their texting styles and discover that it would be helpful to have a texting guidebook for reference.
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It's My Party and I'll Cry If I Want To
Sandy felt abandoned by her husband at his boss' party, when he didn't realize that she had been eating dinner alone while he was at the bar talking to his female and male colleagues. Kyra enjoyed being left alone at parties. In fact she insists upon it. 'Cliff go away, I want to mingle on my own...
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The Golden Bachelor - Not Your Daughter's Show
Sandy and Kyra are giddy over the latest reality tv dating show, The Golden Bachelor, which focuses on finding love in midlife.
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He's Killing It In Midlife, Why Aren't We?
The Ma'ams talk to a 60 year old MAN who is living his best life and question why they aren't?
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I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar: Pushing Through Public Speaking Phobia with Grit and Grace
Sandy stepped way out of her comfort zone by accepting an award that acknowledged her as a Long Island Power Woman. Kyra acknowledges that she's not a public speaker, yet she was able to entertain at her best friend's wedding, presenting a lengthy and memorable toast for the audience to enjoy.
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Why Can't I Do One Thing At A Time?
The Ma'ams have different views about doing less and being in the moment. Sandy and Kyra discuss the concept that doing less is actually a superpower. Sandy says she could benefit by doing one thing at a time, while Kyra says she is more effective multitasking.
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Are You Hitting On My Gal?
Sandy brings up a situation where her husband thought she was being hit on. Kyra thinks innocent banter between men and women is harmless, yet she believes there needs to be a new term for "hitting on".
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What Will Kill Us First, Technology or Old Age?
The Ma'ams candidly discuss their technology frustrations, feeling somewhat out of place in the digital age. Sandy reluctantly acknowledges that her anxiety turns into a high-tech stand-up comedy show whenever she attempts to master the digital world. Kyra, who prides herself on being fiercely...
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You Look Good For Your Age
The Ma'ams wonder if "You look good for your age" is a true compliment or just a polite way of saying "You're old but still holding up.'" Sandy thinks that people can simply say "you look good" and not qualify the statement with "your age". After all, who decides how women should look at any age?...
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Pass the Remote
The Ma'ams grapple with their slower paced lifestyles in middle age. Kyra, a lifelong thrill-seeker and adrenaline junkie, finds solace on her colossal "boat" couch, binge-watching streaming shows and reminiscing about prior adventures. Sandy fondly recalls her party-filled Bar Mitzvah days.
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My Gigunda Suitcase
Sandy admits to being a terrible packer and stresses about her need to take everything with her, clearly making airport travel a nightmare, especially for her husband who must juggle all her suitcases. Kyra has learned to take less on trips, allowing her to check her bag and not schlepp a…
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Martha Pushes the Boundaries on Sports Illustrated
The Ma'ams discuss whether Martha Stewart's decision to appear on the cover of Sports Illustrated was beneficial for older women or if it set higher standards. Sandy believes that Martha Stewart looked fantastic and served as an inspiration for older women, making them feel attractive and sexy....
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Hair, Hair, Long Beautiful hair, Grow it, Show it, Grey it?
Grey hair - what to do or not to do? Sandy thinks it's liberating when women let their grey hair shine and aren't subjected to frequent salon visits. Conversely, Kyra has been told by men she dates that grey hair reminds them of their mothers and grandmothers, which can't be sexy.
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Will You Be My Bestie?
Sandy and Kyra reminisce about how their friendship began in midlife, with Kyra in Yellowstone hiking up a mountain and Sandy calling her to discuss a patient. It's hard for Sandy to find time to make new friends, especially when she doesn't see some of her closest friends. Kyra, a self described...
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If These Bones Could Talk
The Ma'ams are diagnosed with Osteoporisis. Kyra feels she is turning into dust. Sandy takes a more pragmatic approach in dealing with and treating this disease.
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Sorry I'm Not Sorry
The Ma'ams delve into why women apologize so often. Sandy frequently offers apologies, aiming to please others, yet aspires to stop. Kyra consciously refrains, viewing it as a potential vulnerability, particularly in professional settings and interactions with men.
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Mirror, Mirror on the Wall, Did the Fairest of Them All Have Plastic Surgery?
The Ma'ams have a lively discussion about their experiences with cosmetic surgery Sandy, usually risk averse, took a bold step into the world of Fraxel treatment. The result? A painful adventure that left her looking red and puffy. After Kyra's positive experience with cool sculpting, she's now...
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Who is Going to Change my Diapers?
Kyra worries about who will take care of her in her older age, due to the fact that she doesnt live with her boyfriend, or have children. Sandy cannot assume her sons will take care of her. After all, they will have partners that will need to be considered first.
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Back in Action
What's going on in your middle-aged bedroom these days? The Ma'am's are back in action and opening up about sex! Sandy and Kyra discuss turn-ons, turning their men down, taking risks and so much more.
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We Are Really, Really Back!
The Ma'ams discuss being back in college with Gen Z's to learn about broadcasting. They are preparing for the I'm Ma'am As Hell podcast to also be broadcast as a radio show!
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When Choosing To Be Happy Is Not An Option
Kyra is troubled by a post on Instagram that advises people to "choose to be happy." Kyra and Sandy treat patients in their practice who don't have that ability. Clinical Depression is discussed from a therapist's and prescribers point of view.
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Our Podcast Hits A Nerve - A Listener Tells Us Why
Sandy and Kyra invite an outspoken listener, Susan Parker, on-air to voice her opinion on a topic that hit a nerve-cosmetic surgery. Susan also discusses her decision to have a double mastectomy and ovary removal surgery after testing positive for the BRCA gene.
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The Circle of Life - From Menstruation To Menopause
Sandy and Kyra have a lively discussion about the delineating milestones in a woman's life, using their menstrual cycles as a timeline.
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To Cheat Or Not To Cheat
Kyra & Sandy discuss the hot topic of Infidelity.
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Reconnecting With Our Mates - How We Made It Happen
Sandy and Kyra describe how they were able to create peace with their partners after periods of disconnect. They discuss the cycle of Connect-Disconnect-Reconnect that is prevalent in all relationships.
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Moving On
Kyra makes a life changing decision to sell her home.
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Through The Lens Of A Mid-Life Man With Our Guest Michael Keller
The Ma'ams have a candid conversation with Michael Keller, a 67-year-old man who was the most successful and prolific stock photographer of the '90s. Michael has never been married or had children. He talks about dating in mid-life and what he finds attractive in women. He also happens to be…
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What Does That Word Mean?!?!
The Ma'ams understand the importance of staying relevant in mid-life. We were recently exposed to three words that have infiltrated the English lexicon. Do you know what it means to be ghosted? Are you familiar with the phrase mansplaining and gaslighting? In our latest podcast, we define each…
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Living As Transgender: Being A Middle-Aged Woman From A Former Man's Perspective
A fascinating conversation with Dr. Gennifer Herley, who in mid-life not only got a Ph.D. but also transitioned to a woman! Dr. Gen discusses what it is like to be a middle-aged woman from a former man's perspective. She experiences firsthand how pervasive male privilege is - after losing it.
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Cosmetic Treatment Options - Explained By Beauty Consultant Jackie Orena
The Ma'ams talk to Jackie Orena a beauty consultant and the director of the popular med spa Truth and Beauty, on Long Island. Kyra and Sandy are blown away by the latest array of cosmetic procedures that are available for both women and men.
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A Model's Reinvention
The Ma'ams meet up with former Ford/Elite model Shawn Ehlers who keeps reinventing herself by embracing new opportunities.
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To Heel Or Not To Heel
In an attempt to dress sexy and please her man, Kyra wears high heels and breaks 2 bones in her foot.
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Life After Divorce
In their latest podcast Life After Divorce, Kyra and Sandy tackle the topic of divorce and offer their insights from a personal and professional perspective.
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A Labor of Love - Melissa Davey's Film Release
For their 39th podcast, "A Labor of Love - Melissa Davey's Film Release," Kyra and Sandy are excited to speak with a former guest Melissa Davey, who recently released her film "Beyond Sixty" to rave reviews. This is a dream come true for Melissa, who had no prior film experience. At age 70, she…
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Getting Salty In A Cave
For their latest installment of "Ma'ams on the Move," Kyra and Sandy visit The Montauk Salt Cave West in Huntington, where they recorded their latest podcast, "Getting Salty in a Cave." Listen to their lively and informative discussion about the benefits of salt therapy!
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The Shingles and Poison Ivy Summer Saga
Kyra and Sandy begin the summer with unexpected health struggles. Sandy not only experiences a bad reaction to The Shingles vaccine but she also has to care for her son after jaw surgery. Kyra develops a severe case of poison ivy requiring steroids.
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Finding Joy With Sandy Joy
A lively conversation with an authentic Ma'am who uses humor and wisdom to inspire others. Sandy Joy Weston is an author, podcaster, and a fitness & lifestyle maven who found her joy and freedom during a period of pain & suffering.
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What Turns Men On In Midlife - From A Man's Perspective
For their 35th podcast, "What Turns Men on in Midlife - From a Man's Perspective," Kyra and Sandy are thrilled to have Rich Keller, a married middle-aged man, as their guest. Rich shares his thoughts on women's topics in midlife such as weight gain, painful intercourse, going gray, and menopause.
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Men Can Be So Clueless
Kyra and Sandy talk about what makes them feel sexy and share some of the conflicts they are experiencing with their men.
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Volunteering For A Living
Kyra and Sandy talk with Rachel Rosen, a woman who changed the course of her life by taking a chance on an invitation to attend a social group for moms with young children. She turned a casual interest in volunteerism into what has become a passionate and lifelong endeavor. Rachel is now Nassau...
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I'll Pick Up The Check
Sandy shares her discomfort when her adult son wants to treat her to lunch for her birthday. Her parents and in-laws have always picked up the check.
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Death...I'll Be Seeing You
Sandy and Kyra share their contrasting thoughts about death. Because of her work with patients dying of AIDS in the 80's and 90's, Kyra has been fascinated with the topic. Sandy reveals several serious health issues she has faced but admits although she was frightened she did not think about…
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Shame On You For Being Fat
Do you struggle with weight issues? Can you imagine what it would be like to live your life as a morbidly obese woman? Meet our guest Lorena, a 57-year-old woman who believed she was not entitled to happiness because of her size. Lorena takes us on her journey from not being able to fit in…
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I'm Coming Out - Adjusting To Life After The Pandemic
Kyra and Sandy respond to a listener's request for a discussion on how to cope with the anxiety surrounding returning to a normal-ish life post-COVID.
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Choosing To Be Happy
We all have the ability to choose to be happy and grateful for what we have, rather than focus on what we want. Kyra and Sandy look at the mindset of abundance from two very different perspectives.
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My Vagina Is Committing A Mutiny
What is happening to our vaginas? Kyra and Sandy have a lively and informative conversation with their guest Dr. Sharon Mass a leader in the field of Obstetrics and Gynecology, who helps Ma'ams understand the changes they are experiencing with their bodies and their sex lives related to…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Two post-menopausal therapists with starkly different lifestyles have a chance encounter in mid-life. Kyra Sposato NP is divorced and child-free. She is independent, outspoken and adventurous. Sandy Lafazan LCSW is in a long term marriage and has 3 grown children. She sacrifices for her family, is traditional, spiritual and a self-described “square.”Together they’re creating the I’m Ma’am as Hell platform to ignite conversations about life as middle-aged women. Far from being irrelevant and obsolete they’re ready to show the world that women ages 45 to 75 are nowhere near being done.Come join them for candid and often humorous discussions about sex, purpose, dating, marriage and more.
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Two post-menopausal therapists with starkly different lifestyles have a chance encounter in mid-life. Kyra Sposato NP is divorced and child-free. She is independent, outspoken and adventurous. Sandy Lafazan LCSW is in a long term marriage and has 3 grown children. She sacrifices for her family, is...
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