It's A Lot with Abbie Chatfield
by Abbie Chatfield
Join reality TV queen, entrepreneur and chronic over-sharer, Abbie Chatfield each week as she tackles the deep stuff - from abandonment issues and mental health to important social discourse around feminism and politics. Plus there’s a reliable dose of sex tips, bad dating stories, and interviews with funny, clever, and wickedly cool people. For guest and topic suggestions or to submit your own Nightmare Fuel email [email protected]. Follow Abbie at @abbiechatfield and follow the podcast on socials via https://linktr.ee/itsalotpod.
Episodes
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NMF: "I Pivoted Via My Labia"
We've all done stupid things to impress a crush, but what this diva went through on a rope swing to try and look cool was something else... Tangents include holiday house room equity, school water safety training, and Mr Walter's wanderings. LINKS: Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs…
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Has Nat Lost It?? (LOVE ISLAND RECAPS: WEEK 3 EPISODE 11+12)
It's the end of week 3! Jack and Sammi are really hitting it off, and Nat is reaching new heights of delusion. Plus, one of the boys is sent packing and Abbie and Amy crack up about a hypothetical bombshell idea. LINKS: Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more:...
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LOVE ISLAND'S SHAWNEE: Those Comments, Lachie, and What She'd Do Differently
Love Island alum Shawnee joins Abbie to discuss her elimination, the backlash to her comments about Ava and Sammi, and what she believes was driving those remarks. LINKS: Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Follow It's A Lot on socials...
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None Of These Men Are Good Enough For Sammi (LOVE ISLAND RECAPS: WEEK 3 EPISODE 9+10)
We're on to Week 3 and things are really kicking off!! We've got recoupling, more of Nat’s insecurity around Jack, an elimination, and the villa’s weird games. Abbie also reflects on her similar reactions during The Bachelor, plus some teasers for her upcoming interview with Shawnee... Stay…
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TRISHA PAYTAS: Trolling, Getting Out Of Rock Bottom, and Ethan Klein
Trisha Paytas is many things... A YouTube icon, an actress, a Broadway performer, a (former) professional rage-baiter... Now, a memoirist. In an Australian podcast exclusive, Abbie sits down with Trisha to discuss her new book 'Crying On The Kitchen Floor', and the ups and downs of her long…
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NMF: Surviving a Stinky, Steroid-Fuelled, Manosphere Share-House
It's two of Abbie's favourite topics for a Nightmare Fuel all in one: horrible share-houses AND insecure manosphere freaks!!! Thoughts and prayers to this chook for surviving six months in that hellscape because WOW. There's sharps at the kitchen bench, no bathroom hygiene practices in sight, and...
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Is This Hard Launch Post Legit?? (LOVE ISLAND GOSS - SPOILER WARNING!!)
MAJOR POSSIBLE LOVE ISLAND SPOILER WARNING!! It's broken over the last few days that a certain cast member may have posted a hard launch with another Love Islander to a finsta account... Is this legit?? LINKS: Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more:...
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"This is the Insecurity Olympics" (LOVE ISLAND RECAPS: Week 2 Episode 7+8)
We've got a new bombshell this week on Love Island Australia, with Miss New Zealand AKA Sammi! She seems lovely but a bunch of the girls are immediately rude to her for no reason :( Finishing off week 2 strong with more insecurities, a questionable hook-up, a little bit of gaslighting, but also...
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What I Want To Say To Shawnee (LOVE ISLAND RECAPS: Week 2 Episode 5+6)
Abbie got up at 6am to catch up on Love Island and although we're not at Real Housewives or MAFS levels of drama, things are starting to heat up!! We've got LYING WEIRD MEN, women tearing each other down and insulting each other's appearance, plus jealousy and emotional suppression! WOOHOO! Also,...
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SOLO: I Got Hypnotised!! (And I Took Notes)
ABBIE GOT HYPNOTISED!! She gives Amy a play-by-play of what happened, including some very strange side-effects on the woman hypnotising her (that were actually really helpful for unmasking??). Abbie also reflects on why conventional talk therapy has not always worked for her, how the session…
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The MAGA US mid-term ad attacking childhood sexual assault survivor Amy Acton (ft. Harri James)
Abbie is joined by friend of the show Harri James discuss the use of Amy Acton’s childhood sexual abuse in a political ad during Ohio’s governor’s race. Drawing on Harry’s own experience as a survivor, they examine the harm caused when trauma is turned into campaign ammunition, the hypocrisy in…
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Why Is Nat So Upset (LOVE ISLAND RECAPS: Week 1 Episode 3+4)
New bombshells, an elimination, and a few almost-correct idioms to round out week 1 of season 8 of Love Island Australia! LINKS: Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Follow It's A Lot on socials (video eps coming soon on YouTube!)...
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NMF: I dated a man-child who is also a TikTok influencer
There's weaponised incompetence, and then there's this guy... LINKS: Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Follow It's A Lot on socials (video eps now on YouTube!) https://linktr.ee/itsalotpod Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts...
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My Love Island Premiere Thoughts (LOVE ISLAND RECAPS: Week 1 Episode 1+2)
A hot new recaps series just entered the villa... Abbie is here to tell you all you need to know about Season 8 of Love Island Australia! Episodes 1 & 2 we get to know all our islanders and sow the seeds of some drama to come... LINKS: Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more:...
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BONUS: The "Silent Killer" Cancer Carly Findlay Didn't Know She Had
CW: This episode contains discussions of cancer, bowel movements, fear of food, and suicide. In 2024, appearance activist Carly Findlay thought she just had a gastro bug, or maybe IBS. One person told her she might even have caught dysentery on holiday. Five months later she was in hospital being...
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GRETTA RAY: How a Hidden Heart Infection Triggered a Stroke at 26
Gretta Ray's new album Heartsong is born from grief - but not just the grief of a relationship ending, and the loss of loved one. For the first time, Gretta shares the full story of her hospitalisation in 2024. She takes Abbie through the almost 6 weeks she spent in hospital, when she was forced…
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BRIDIE CONNELL'S NMF: He Turned Our Texts Into A Play
Have you ever been down so bad you made verbatim theatre? Well... Writer, producer, actor, and comedian Bridie Connell has seen it happen first hand... She shares a high school inspiration behind her sensational show Fuccbois: Live In Concert, and makes Abbie's dreams come true with a very…
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SOLO: Unpacking That Kikiva TikTok & Filip From MAFS Has Advice For Women
It's a big one today!! Abbie unpacks the Kikiva TikTok live drama, and why a lot of the response online is not only disappointing, but problematic. Plus, Filip from MAFS has been posting some interesting videos, and Abbie brings in a special guest to talk about it. LINKS: Check out Mondrof on IG...
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NMF: An Urchin, A Kiwi Cheater, and An Attempted Mugging
This all-time Euro summer (mis)adventure story proves not only the figurative, but literal, power of female friendship ✊⚢ #ytg LINKS: Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram.…
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BBNO$ On Dating, The Antidepressent Honeymoon Phase, and Being Whatever He Wants
Before sculling a litre of milk on stage with him at Yours & Owls, Abbie brought her friend - Canadian rap icon / internet boyfriend - bbno$ into the studio for a lovely lil chat! They talk about his insane work ethic, dealing with hate online, and why he doesn't really think about masculinity....
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MICHELLE BUTEAU'S NMF: "This is First Testament Sh*t"
Michelle Buteau loves Australia, but she does NOT love creepy crawlies... LINKS Buy tickets to see Michelle Buteau - The Surviving And Thriving Tour in Brisbane, Sydney and Melbourne: https://michellebuteau.org/tour/ Watch Survival of the Thickest on Netflix...
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SOLO: Why The Cornell 7 Are Not Separate From Society
The Cornell 7 case has been dominating headlines and social media feeds. It's equal parts horrific, frustrating an maddening. Abbie deconstructs how misogyny and power structures all intertwine to allow this kind of behaviour, and what men actually need to do to help prevent this. CW: This…
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SOLO: I'M BURNT OUT!!! HELP!!
Abbie is trying to get out of burn out land but having adult problems and responsibilities makes it so much harder to recover?? So what the hell do we do divas?? Abbie shares her experience with an ADHD coach and what's helping her at the moment, but let us know in the pod form or in the comments...
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NMF: Never Trust A Tate Lover
That's right, we're treating you with two eps today!! We thought we're all in need of a classic listener story and this chook's is like something off of Abbie's NMF bingo card! LINKS: Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out…
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"How Do I Co-Parent with a 'Boys Don't Cry' Dad?" - Dr Billy Garvey Answers Your Parenting Questions
Even after a big chat on Tuesday, there was so much we didn't get to with Billy. So, we've got him back to answer your questions! LINKS Buy Billy's book Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Raising Boys: https://www.penguin.com.au/books/ten-things-i-wish-you-knew-about-raising-boys-9781761620850…
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DR BILLY GARVEY: Raising Boys, Masculinity, and Ending the Cycle of Violence
From the manosphere, to mental health, to sexual assault and family violence - it is more apparent than ever that we must reckon with how boys are being raised, and the damaging behaviours that are normalised. But how do we raise boys into emotionally healthy men? Abbie sits down with…
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Sage Advice From Granny Bingo
The wonderful ladies of Granny Bingo, Edith and Maureen, stuck around for a special bonus episode where they're doling out their sage wisdom to you the lucky listener! LINKS Watch Another Cuppa on YouTube or ABC iView, and listen on ABC Listen or wherever you get your podcasts Follow Granny Bingo...
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GRANNY BINGO'S NMF: Setting Fire To A Lesbian & Retail Wars
Get yourself a piping hot cappuccino and settle in with Australia's favourite women of a certain age, Granny Bingo's Edith Vale & Maureen McGillicuddy!! The ladies tell their own on-stage Nightmare Fuel, and take clear sides when they hear a listener's story. LINKS Watch Another Cuppa on YouTube…
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Am I Actually AuDHD?? Chatting Neurodivergence with Dr Monique Mitchelson
What's the difference between a hyperfixation and a special interest? When is a symptom anxiety and when is it ADHD or autism? Why are so many women still struggling to get diagnosed with autism and ADHD? How do our hormones affect symptoms? Could Abbie be AuDHD? Abbie sits down with…
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BENSION SIEBERT'S NMF: The Threat That Made Him Go Public as a S*x Worker
As a sex worker and investigative journalist, Bension Siebert does in practice what some only do in theory, f*ck's around AND finds out! He tells Abbie about how the NMF client who spurred him to come out, and why he decided to pursue both careers. Plus, some chat about some true nightmare fuel -...
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IT'S A LITTLE: The Problem with the Lindsay Clancy Trial Discourse
The trial of Lindsay Clancy has made headlines around the world and has sparked countless debates and conversations, some more productive than others. Abbie unpacks some of the extreme manosphere reactions, why we still have a long way to go when it comes to talking about mental illness, and why...
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SOLO: 'Why Men Don't Listen And Women Can't Read Maps'
Abbie found a new op shop book about gender roles!!! This one is called Why Men Don't Listen And Women Can't Read Maps, and of course features complete fabrications about 'caveman times', among many other hilarious takes that attempt to turn sexism into science. Plus a nice, long tangent about...
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NMF: Everything's A Conspiracy!!
It's a NMF situation we've all had to endure; listening to a co-worker's insane opinions because you're stuck on shift together at a minimum wage job. But some of these conspiracy theories even WE haven't heard of!! Abbie didn't take a dexie today so this NMF comes with extra rants! LINKS: Send…
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MARC FENNELL: How AI Is Already Changing Us
Abbie has made it well known on this podcast that she is not a fan of generative AI and LLMs. But, as journalist Marc Fennell found in his new podcast series Unreal, AI is already fundamentally changing the way we relate to each other and understand ourselves. Abbie and Marc talk about why he...
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SOLO: Are Gen Z More Misogynistic Than Boomers??
Is misogyny really that bad? Well, yes, obviously! But now it's not just us screaming into the void. A new study from Melbourne University details the findings of research into the link between misogyny and youth radicalisation in Australia. Abbie has printed it out, gone through with the...
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NMF: Playlists, Triple Lives, and the Lion King Panic Attack
Producer Amy has been saving up some quickfire stories and boy oh boy you chooks are outdoing yourselves! You think you've heard it all, and then you hear a story that Joe from 'You' would probably take notes from. Also, sound off in the comments if seeing Ewan McGregor in Trainspotting was a...
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JENNIFER ROBINSON: How Defamation Laws Silence Women
Defamation laws have a long and strange history, and in recent years, these laws have been leveraged in order to silence women who attempt to speak out about abuse. In the midst of the cultural reckoning incited by the #MeToo movement, many women across the globe are facing a legal reckoning.…
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HIGH SCROLLERS NMF: The Infernal Redneck Wedding (Ft. Brittney Saunders and Alright Hey)
It's the crossover you've all been waiting for!!! After filling in for Brittney Saunders with Alright Hey over at High Scrollers, Abbie thought she better have them both in to listen to a NMF! And boy is this one a doozy, we may have set the record here for longest NMF ep?? Wagon wheels, troughs,...
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SOLO AMA: Robert Irwin's Logies Joke, Burnout, and Beauty Standards
It's time for an AMA!!! Abbie's been asked to unpack what happened on the Logies, as well as an update on her mental health, her thoughts on current beauty standards and more!! LINKS Stream the new Peking Duk album!! https://pekingduk.komi.io/ Ecomind, climate mental health charity mentioned by...
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CHLOE MIRA'S NMF: "Just Kiss Each Other"
Chloe thought her Nightmare Fuel wasn't up to scratch... our reactions would prove otherwise. Tashi Duncan eat your heart out. LINKS Follow Annie Knight on IG @anniekknight Follow Chloe Mira on IG @chloemiraa Watch Turned On: Dirty Sexy Money only on Stan Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions,...
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Are Stunt Creators Bad For OnlyFans? Ft. Annie Knight & Chloe Mira
Where's the line between engagement and exploitation? So-called 'stunt creators' on OnlyFans have stirred up a lot of controversy in the last few years, with some creators targeting teenagers at Schoolies, or attempting to break records for having sex with the most people. These stunts have led…
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DR JENI HAYNES: How Her 2,681 Personalities Helped Her Find Justice
CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains discussion of child sexual abuse. Help is available from the National Sexual Assault, Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service on 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) and Lifeline on 13 11 14. Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly Multiple Personality Disorder)...
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MICHELLE BRASIER'S NMF: "I'm Laying An Egg In Newark Airport!"
We are so blessed to have one of the funniest (and smallest) women in the country on the pod for a NMF - it's MICHELLE BRASIER!!! Seat backs and tray tables up for an all-time tale that has to be heard to be believed! LINKS Vote 1 Michelle Brasier for the Silver Logie!!...
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SOLO: Nara Smith Was Never A 'Tradwife'
UPDATE FROM ABBIE: "Please note I've gotten two new pieces of information since publishing this episode; The first is that I had seen screenshots of Nara Smith using #tradwife, but I have since been told they were not real thanks to a follower! Any references to this have now been edited out of…
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NMF: Trouble In The P*ssy Palace
We were screaming SO loud at this NMF that Mr Walter got up to check we were okay #ally LINKS Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram. Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts...
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LILY SCHUBERT: "I Spent Six Years Totally Bedbound"
CW: This episode contains discussions of mental ill-health, chronic illness, and suicidality. If this raises any issues for you help is available 24/7 via Lifeline at https://www.lifeline.org.au/ or by calling 13 11 14, as well as Beyond Blue at 1300 224 636 or https://www.beyondblue.org.au. At...
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#AnklesOutForAndrew
Andrew and Tristan Tate were arrested in Florida last week, and are facing extradition to the UK to face 38 additional charges. The Tate brothers deny any wrongdoing. Abbie and Amy are breaking down what happens next, but not before a big long rant about why the discourse around reactions to the...
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NMF: Bunker Boy's Cursed House Party
CW: This episode contains mention of animal cruelty. This NMF had our jaws ON THE FLOOR!!! Still in shock tbh... This is why you never go to a party alone. LINKS See Abbie on tour! https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more:...
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SOLO: Sludge Update, Tour Tales, and Calling WHO??
It's been a minute since Abbie's been on the mic solo, so it's time for a little life update, mental health check in, and Abbie randomly remembering she got in touch with someone from her past... NOTE: If any content in this episode raises issues for you, please remember that help is always...
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NMF: Looksmaxxing, Birth Rates, Climate Change - A Male GC Perspective
It's our first Nightmare Fuel from our new Reddit page!! This group chat drama story's got everything with mentions of the 4B movement, looksmaxxing, birth rates and more... LINKS See Abbie on tour! https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more:...
About this show
Join reality TV queen, entrepreneur and chronic over-sharer, Abbie Chatfield each week as she tackles the deep stuff - from abandonment issues and mental health to important social discourse around feminism and politics.
Plus there’s a reliable dose of sex tips, bad dating stories, and interviews with funny, clever, and wickedly cool people. For guest and topic suggestions or to submit your own Nightmare Fuel email [email protected]. Follow Abbie at @abbiechatfield and follow the podcast on socials via https://linktr.ee/itsalotpod.
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Abbie Chatfield