John Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast

Reaction mode is exhausting because it keeps you living on defense. I want something better for you: resilient faith that can take a hit, tell the truth, and still move forward with purpose. In this shortcast, I share a story from my teenage years at Georgia Military College that branded a lesson into me for life: there are no shortcuts to accountability. Owning your mess is not shame, it is the starting line for growth.I break down a simple framework I use as a therapist, chaplain, and pastor: the sentry and the officer in charge. The sentry is your inner guard, tied to the amygdala and your threat response, always asking “Is it safe?” The officer in charge is your inner leader, guided by the Holy Spirit and Scripture, asking “What are we building?” When the sentry runs everything, we drift into safe mediocrity, controlling our world and avoiding risk. When the OIC develops, we learn to face fear without letting it steer the wheel.We also talk about trauma and the cultural script that says you are only a product of what happened to you. Trauma is real, but it does not have to be your identity. I explain personal responsibility in a way that does not blame victims, and I offer a practical path toward biblical post-traumatic growth: daily disciplines, honest reflection, and grace that leads to progress instead of blame. You’ll leave with three concrete practices, including living Coram Deo, “before the face of God,” plus a quick exercise you can do tonight.If this helps you, subscribe, share it with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find the show.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Fear doesn’t just scare us; it can quietly shrink our lives until we call “stuck” normal. We talk about why fear shows up for everyone, how it can function like a biological alarm, and what happens when that alarm misfires and starts shaping your story, your relationships, and your spiritual growth.We anchor the conversation in 2 Timothy 1:7 and push back on the idea that fear gets to write the last chapter. Then we name six ways fear binds us, from predicting failure with false certainty to hiding behind “being careful,” eroding integrity, stacking up regret, chasing control through safety, and halting growth. If you’ve felt yourself drifting from what you know God is calling you to do, this will put language to it without piling on shame.We also share three simple reframes to move from fear to faith: treat fear as information, remember risk is the cost of possibility, and practice courage as something you cultivate through small, consistent action. Finally, we walk through five practical steps you can start today, plus what to watch for when anxiety becomes constant, and it’s time to seek help from counselors, pastors, or medical professionals.If this encouraged you, subscribe, share it with a friend who feels stalled, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What’s one fear you’re ready to name and face this week?Link to my blogLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Shame can feel like a verdict, but it’s often just an old script that needs a rewrite. We unpack how to move from shame-based thinking to growth-based thinking with clear definitions, simple reframes, and small daily habits that build real momentum. Starting with Regina’s story and the voice that says “not good enough,” we explore the difference between a fixed mindset that treats failure as fate and a growth mindset that treats failure as feedback—then we connect that to the renewing of the mind called for in Scripture.We share a powerful example from Joni Eareckson Tada, whose journey from “Why did this happen?” to “How can God use this?” reframed her life and launched a global ministry serving people with disabilities and veterans. Her story shows how faith, purpose, and community can redirect the brain’s alarms toward hope and action. Along the way, we highlight key verses like Romans 12:2 and Philippians 1:6 that anchor a faith-shaped growth mindset, reminding us that transformation is a process, not a performance.Then we get practical. You’ll hear common shame scripts and their growth-focused counterstatements, plus five daily prompts to build traction: name one small step after failure, find a Scripture that speaks to your fear, coach yourself like a friend, notice what God is already doing, and choose a tiny practice you can repeat today. We also talk about cutting comparison by reframing your social media inputs and building tiny habits that train your thoughts without overwhelm. By the end, you’ll have a toolkit to quiet the inner critic, recover faster after mistakes, and take the next right step with confidence.If this resonates, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs encouragement, and leave a review to help others find it. Your story isn’t over—start the next chapter today.Check out my blog!Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

What if peace wasn’t a rare mood but a trained response? We dig into the tension between the brain’s survival wiring and the life Scripture invites us to live, then map out four small practices that steadily turn panic into prayer and worry into wise action. Drawing on neuroplasticity and the renewing of the mind, we show how repetition creates new neural pathways and why biology is not destiny for your thought life.We start by naming negativity bias—the reason one criticism can overshadow ten compliments—and offer a simple model: Velcro for bad, Teflon for good. From there, we walk through tactical prayer that pairs slow breathing with Scripture to calm the nervous system, a savoring approach to Scripture meditation that embeds truth deeper than fear, deliberate nightly gratitude that teaches the brain to notice safety and provision, and small acts of service that shift attention outward and light up reward circuits. Each practice is short, clear, and doable in real life, designed to be repeated until it becomes your new default.You’ll also hear a client story of 3 a.m. panic transformed through six rounds of breath prayer and a one-page journal, plus practical coaching on setting tiny goals, tracking habits, and recruiting a friend or small group for accountability. The thread through it all is simple: repeat, repeat, repeat. Pick one habit today, keep it tiny, and let the combination of faith and neuroscience reshape your inner world. If this helps, share it with someone who needs calm, subscribe for more tools to build resilient faith, and leave a review with the one practice you’ll start this week.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Ever feel your heart race over a vague email, a late text, or a headline that won’t let go? We explore how to calm that inner sentry—the amygdala—so it protects rather than panics, blending practical neuroscience with rooted Christian faith to build everyday resilience. John opens with a vivid Fort Bragg night watch story to illustrate why your brain is wired for alarms and how negativity bias makes bad news sticky while letting good moments slide away.From there, we unpack why uncertainty fuels worst-case thinking and how modern doomscrolling keeps the alarm blaring. Then we shift to hope: breath-prayer with 2 Timothy 1:7 to steady your nervous system, a simple method to name the alarm and gain mental space, and a fact-grounding habit that pulls you out of runaway assumptions. You’ll learn why movement metabolizes stress chemicals, how connection and prayer regulate our bodies, and what it means to keep watch without living in fear.We also share a repeatable, three-part daily plan that trains your brain through neuroplasticity and spiritual practice: a morning reading of Romans 12:2 with one written truth, a midday five-minute movement break paired with prayer, and an evening reflection on God’s goodness plus five small wins. These habits are small by design, building a stable foundation for emotional health, stronger relationships, and a deeper walk of faith. Your sentry isn’t your enemy—it can learn new orders.Grab the free Tactical Prayer Guide from the show notes to keep the steps close at hand. If this helped, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find tools to breathe steady, think clearly, and live with courage.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Holiday plans look perfect on paper—until the calendar crowds out connection. We unpack a simple, human blueprint for navigating December without sacrificing your marriage: turn toward each other in small, daily ways, share the load with clarity, offer real encouragement, and build margin so you can breathe. Along the way, John shares a lighthearted story about Christmas lights, unspoken expectations, and how a quick conversation can shift the mood of the whole house.We start with the power of tiny rituals: five minutes on the couch, a quiet morning coffee, a short prayer or devotional that recenters the relationship before the day races ahead. From there, we get practical about teamwork: listing holiday tasks, dividing by strengths, and using a shared plan to prevent resentment. Encouragement takes center stage with simple phrases that carry outsized impact, plus ways to use eye contact, tone, and appropriate touch to communicate respect and gratitude when stress runs high.Finally, we make a case for margin. You’ll hear how to decide which traditions to keep, which to simplify, and how to build buffers into travel, hosting, and family events. The goal isn’t doing more; it’s doing what matters most with a calmer heart. Whether you’re juggling kids’ concerts, office parties, or cross-country flights, these four strategies help you create a season marked by peace, presence, and genuine connection.If this conversation encourages you, share it with a friend, subscribe to more resilient relationship tools, and leave a review to help others find the show. Which strategy will you try first?Link to the blogLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

The holidays can feel like a pressure cooker—more expectations, more memories, and more chances for old wounds to resurface. We open up about four common pitfalls that quietly steal joy this time of year: bitterness, perfectionism, shame, and anxiety. Through relatable stories and faith-rooted wisdom, we unpack how each trap shows up, why it lingers, and how to move forward with gratitude and grace.We start with bitterness, the silent thief that often hides inside grief, divorce, or strained relationships. Instead of letting it harden our hearts, we talk about practical ways to process pain, pray honestly, and practice forgiveness that frees rather than excuses. From there, we tackle perfectionism—the holiday idol that swaps meaning for performance. You’ll hear simple ways to reset expectations, center connection over presentation, and choose delight over display.Shame and anxiety round out the conversation. Shame says we are defined by our worst chapters; we counter with acceptance, mercy, and a choice to stop rehearsing old hurts. Anxiety often shows up in our bodies before our words, so we share concrete tools: slow breathing, morning prayer, gratitude lists, and clear limits on commitments. We close with a set of practical steps—mindfulness, realistic expectations, new traditions, community, and self-care—and a reminder to anchor the season in hope that doesn’t depend on perfect plans.If the holidays feel heavy, you’re not alone. Join us to trade pressure for peace, find grounding practices you can start today, and remember why this season matters. If this conversation helps, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs encouragement, and leave a quick review to help others find the show.Link to my blogLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

The holidays move fast, but our souls don’t have to. We open Advent with a quiet, steady invitation: slow down, notice God’s presence, and trade frantic for faithful. Drawing on Isaiah 9:6 and the historic meaning of Advent, we explore how waiting with intention can transform December from a blur of tasks into a season of hope, anticipation, and deep peace.We start by reframing Advent as more than a countdown. It’s a twofold lens—looking back to the birth of Jesus and forward to His return—that anchors us when life feels noisy. From there, we share three simple, repeatable practices to help you find stillness: daily scripture reflection that centers your mind on God’s promises, intentional prayer that grounds your days in gratitude and honesty, and small pockets of silence that make room for the Holy Spirit in ordinary moments. No retreats required—just a few minutes woven into routines like coffee time, commute pauses, or bedtime.Along the way, we name what many of us feel this time of year: expectations, hurry, and spiritual fatigue. We also offer grace for imperfect traditions and missed moments—because the Prince of Peace meets us where we are, not where we think we should be. With practical tips, a focus on spiritual resilience, and a return to the titles of Jesus as Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, and Prince of Peace, this conversation helps you root the season in what truly lasts.Ready to reclaim Advent with purpose and peace? Listen now, try one practice today, and share this with a friend who needs a calmer December. If the show encourages you, subscribe, leave a review, and tell us which practice you’ll start this week.Check Out the BlogLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

If the headlines feel loud and your heart feels thin, consider this your invitation to build a gratitude mindset that actually sticks. We take a clear, practical walk through the habits that make thankfulness more than a seasonal feeling—so it becomes a steady way of seeing your life, your relationships, and God’s provision.We start by bridging science and Scripture: how positive psychology’s findings on gratitude align with ancient wisdom that calls us to give thanks. From there, we get tactical. You’ll learn a simple journaling flow you can do in five minutes, why pen and paper beat tapping on a screen, and how that small ritual lowers stress and lifts your mood. We talk about making grace at meals honest and specific, not rote—and why a short prayer can reshape the tone of a table, whether you’re at home or grabbing a quick bite.Then we move into savoring: 30-second pauses that train your brain to notice what’s good, an easy “awe walk” to reset attention, and a nighttime “three good things” practice that improves sleep and nurtures hope. We also tackle the screen-time trap with a realistic plan—start with one phone-free meal and build from there—so presence with the people you love becomes possible again. Along the way, you’ll hear timeless lines from G.K. Chesterton and reflections from decades of counseling work that connect gratitude with resilience, health, and a longer, lighter life.Ready to try it this week? Pick one habit—journal a line, say a heartfelt grace, take a 10-minute awe walk—and tell us how it goes. If this helped you breathe a little easier, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick review so more people can find these tools for a calmer, more grateful life.Link to my BlogLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Feeling stuck in prayer, purpose, or your daily walk with God? Let's change the script. We talk about the trap of a fixed mindset and map a clear path toward a growth mindset that is honest about weakness and bold about progress. You'll hear how humility and persistence fuel fundamental transformation, and why the words "not yet" can reshape your inner world.We connect the dots between Scripture and science to show how minds actually renew. From Romans 12:2 to research on neuroplasticity and the work of Carol Dweck, we unpack how repeated practice literally rewires the brain. That means your habits in prayer, Scripture memory, and service are not just religious chores; they are the training ground where God partners with your effort to build resilience, focus, and hope. Along the way, we tackle the lies of shame and comparison, replacing "I can't" with "not yet" and letting grace power small, steady steps.You'll leave with ten practical ways to grow spiritually, including welcoming challenges, cultivating curiosity in the Word, seeking wise feedback, journaling by hand to lock in learning, and setting measurable goals that you can keep. We talk about integrating Scripture into daily choices, visualizing faithful responses before pressure hits, and staying connected to a life-giving church community. Simple acts, done consistently, compound into a flexible mindset and a stronger faith.If this spoke to you, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review to help others find the show. Tell us: what's one small habit you'll start this week?Link to Blog  Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

What does real forgiveness look like when the wound is still fresh? We open with the powerful moment at Charlie Kirk’s memorial and the courageous grace Erica Kirk offered to the person responsible for his death. Her choice isn’t framed as perfection or passivity—it’s a living example of how faith, scripture, and daily practice can turn a crushing burden into resilient strength. That moment becomes our springboard to examine how bitterness settles in, why it steals peace, and how a clear path forward can loosen its grip one honest decision at a time.We explore forgiveness as a gift you give yourself, grounded in Psalm 34:18 and a trust that God draws close to the brokenhearted. From there, we move on to practical tools you can use today: naming the person you need to release, starting your mornings with a simple prayer, and ending your days by giving everyone and everything to God. We connect these rhythms with cognitive behavioral insights, demonstrating how reframing setbacks, practicing gratitude, and performing small daily kindnesses help rebuild emotional flexibility and mental health. Along the way, we highlight the ripple effect of testimony—how one act of grace can soften another person’s heart and open space for healing.You’ll receive a straightforward action plan: choose forgiveness, pray for grace, reframe challenges as opportunities for growth, and establish a resilience routine grounded in scripture and stillness. We also share resources to keep you going, including the Bible app for reading plans and John Eldredge’s Pause App for morning and evening reflection. The message is simple and strong: you are responsible for your growth, help is available when you need it, and God is near. If this resonates, please subscribe, share the show with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review to help others discover these valuable tools. Then tell us: what’s one step toward forgiveness you’ll take today?Link to BlogLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

When tragedy strikes, where do we turn? The brutal murder of a young Ukrainian refugee and the shocking assassination of Charlie Kirk have left many questioning how hope can survive in such troubled times. These events shake us to our core, yet they also highlight something vital – darkness and hatred may be relentless, but so is the light of faith.Hope isn't merely wishful thinking or passive optimism. It's a deliberate, daily choice – a catalyst for resilience that transforms our perspective even when headlines threaten to crush our spirit. Drawing from Romans 5:3-5, we explore how trials develop endurance, character, and ultimately a confident hope that never disappoints. This biblical foundation reminds us that hope serves as an anchor, turning despair into resilience and obstacles into opportunities for divine redemption.I share insights from Dr. W. Warren's influential book "Hope is the First Dose," where he emphasizes hope as an active pursuit rather than just an emotion. As a neurosurgeon and combat veteran who faced unimaginable trauma, Warren's approach to "self-surgery on the brain" offers practical ways to rewire our thoughts toward hope. Through prayer, community connection, and trust in God's promises, we cultivate resilience that withstands life's darkest moments.When the world feels broken, remember that darkness never gets the final word. God's love shines brighter against the backdrop of our darkest days, filling us with both boldness and a sense of purpose. Subscribe now to continue this journey toward resilience, and share this message with someone who might be struggling to find hope today. Together, we can choose hope anyway – not because it's easy, but because it's essential.Link to BlogLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Have you ever felt completely paralyzed by indecision? That moment when options swirl around you, but taking any step forward seems impossible? You're not alone. The weight of indecisiveness is something we all carry at times – it creates anxiety, frustration, and can even contribute to depression as opportunities slip through our fingers.God doesn't want us trapped in this cycle of doubt and hesitation. Drawing from powerful biblical examples, we see contrasting approaches to decision-making that speak directly to our modern struggles. King Saul's impatience led him to make hasty decisions without waiting for God's timing, resulting in consequences that affected an entire nation. His story serves as a cautionary tale about what happens when we rush ahead without divine guidance. On the flip side, we explore Gideon's journey from doubt to victory and Peter's bold (if imperfect) step out of the boat during a storm – both stories revealing God's patience with our uncertainty and His readiness to catch us when we falter.The path forward isn't about perfect decision-making; it's about developing trust through practical steps. I share four actionable strategies to help you overcome indecisiveness: starting with honest prayer, reflecting on God's past faithfulness in your life, taking small steps of faith, and giving yourself grace throughout the process. These aren't just spiritual platitudes – they're proven approaches that have helped countless people move from paralysis to purpose. Remember: "Inch by inch, anything is a cinch. Yard by yard, it's going to be very hard." Small, faithful steps build the momentum needed to break free from decision paralysis and walk confidently in God's plan for your life. Ready to transform your indecision into divinely guided action? This episode will show you how.Link to BlogLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Feeling stuck at life's crossroads? You're not alone. In this empowering episode, we tackle that all-too-familiar feeling when following God's plan feels like assembling IKEA furniture without instructions—confusing and frustrating.Decisiveness isn't just for naturally confident people; it's a skill you can develop through faith. I share how understanding faith as confidence in God's sovereignty transforms your decision-making from anxious second-guessing to purposeful action. When you build your life on this foundation, you'll stand strong even when storms come—like those that devastated my childhood vacation spot in Mexico Beach, Florida, which has since been rebuilt stronger than before.We explore three powerful biblical examples—Noah building an ark amid ridicule, Abraham leaving everything familiar behind, and Esther risking her life to save her people. None were perfect, but all acted boldly when it mattered. Their stories reveal that faith-based decisiveness isn't about having all the answers; it's about trusting the One who does. I offer four practical steps to strengthen your decision-making muscles: persistent prayer (your divine guidance system), regular scripture reading (spiritual nourishment), seeking godly counsel (external perspective), and reflecting on God's past faithfulness (building confidence for present challenges). Through these practices, you'll discover that even when the path isn't completely clear, you can move forward with courage, knowing God is working everything—even the difficult situations—for your good.Ready to transform your indecision into confidence? Write down one decision you're facing, dedicate it to God in prayer, and take that first step. Your journey toward purposeful, faith-filled decisiveness starts now. Visit johnthurman.net for more resources to help you become resilient in your personal life, relationships, and faith.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

What if the transformation you've been waiting for is simply one decision away? This eye-opening episode challenges the paralysis of indecision that keeps so many of us stuck in patterns of unfulfillment and missed potential.We dive deep into why managing life—not curing it—requires making deliberate choices that align with our purpose. Too many people drift through their days, avoiding decisions about relationships, career moves, personal growth, or faith commitments. This decision avoidance becomes a choice itself, one that surrenders control of our lives to external circumstances or other people's priorities.The powerful story of Jerry, a Vietnam veteran who refused to be defined by his PTSD, illustrates how intentional choices can transform trauma into purpose. Despite still experiencing flashbacks and anxiety, Jerry made deliberate decisions to seek help, build support systems, and use his experiences to benefit others. His transformation didn't happen by accident—it began with a choice.Drawing from biblical wisdom, psychology, and personal experience as a therapist and minister, I explore how taking ownership as the "CEO of your life" creates pathways to meaningful change. We examine the paralysis that comes from blaming past trauma or waiting for perfect circumstances, contrasting it with the freedom that comes from decisive action. The biblical story of the man at Bethesda who waited 38 years for healing until Jesus told him to "get up" provides a compelling metaphor for how transformation often begins.Ready to break free from decision paralysis? This episode offers practical steps to cultivate intentional decision-making: clarifying your core purpose, trusting God's plan, sharing your vision with a supportive community, and moving forward with unwavering resolve. Each day presents new opportunities to choose your path—what bold, purposeful choice will you make today?Link to BlogLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

The aftermath of devastating floods in Texas and New Mexico brings a somber reflection on how we comfort those facing sudden, unexpected loss. Drawing from both personal experience and professional expertise as a minister and crisis response specialist, this episode offers ten practical approaches to supporting grieving friends and family members.When tragedy strikes, many of us freeze, unsure of what to say or do despite our genuine desire to help. The traditional wisdom once passed down through close-knit communities about sitting with those in grief is becoming increasingly lost. This guidance fills that gap with compassionate, actionable advice.At the heart of effective grief support is the sacred gift of presence. Rather than struggling to find perfect words or filling silence with platitudes, simply being there matters most. Learn why statements like "they're in a better place" or "I know how you feel" can unintentionally cause more pain, and discover genuinely helpful alternatives. The episode explores practical ways to help—from bringing meals to assisting with household tasks—while honoring the uniqueness of each person's grief journey.Most importantly, grief isn't a sprint; it's a marathon. While communities typically rally during the first few weeks following a loss, genuine compassion means committing to long-term support when most others have moved on. Whether you're experiencing loss yourself or supporting someone who is, these insights provide a roadmap for navigating grief's complex terrain with grace, empathy, and genuine human connection. How might we become better grief companions for those we care about when they need us most?Link to the BlogLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Ah, summer break—that magical time when parental fantasies of peaceful days collide with the chaotic reality of kids declaring "I'm bored" every fifteen minutes. If you're already feeling the summer strain, this episode delivers the perfect blend of practical wisdom and reassuring humor to help you navigate these sun-soaked months without losing your sanity.We dive into seven refreshingly honest strategies that transform summer parenting from overwhelming to enjoyable. First, we explore why abandoning those picture-perfect expectations might be your most liberating summer decision. Your backyard sprinkler may not be a resort water feature, but it can become the setting for genuine joy when we adjust our perspective. We also unpack the surprising benefits of allowing children to experience boredom—that state parents often dread but which actually fuels creativity and self-direction in remarkable ways.The episode offers practical guidance on establishing simple daily rhythms without becoming your family's entertainment director. Those spontaneous ice cream trips and impromptu blanket forts often create more meaningful memories than elaborately planned activities. Most poignantly, we're reminded that our children are only this age for this summer—a perspective that transforms everyday frustrations into opportunities for connection and gratitude.Between the practical tips on prepared snacks and the gentle reminder that self-care isn't optional for summer survival, you'll find permission to embrace the beautiful mess of family life. Whether you're nodding along in recognition or laughing at the universal struggles of parenting, you'll come away with both practical strategies and a refreshed mindset for creating a memorable summer.Subscribe to our newsletter through our website for more resilience-building insights, and remember—this is the day the Lord has made. Choose joy amid the summer chaos!Link to 7 Ways to Enjoy Your Summer Blog by John ThurmanLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Depression silently shadows millions of lives, with over 21 million Americans experiencing major depression annually. Even more revealing is that approximately 7.6 million Christians battle this condition while often facing an additional burden of shame and spiritual confusion. These statistics aren't just numbers—they represent real people struggling to reconcile their faith with their mental health challenges.Depression stretches far beyond temporary sadness or spiritual weakness. It's a complex mood disorder that can drain motivation, steal joy from activities once loved, and even disrupt your sense of connection with God. For Christians, this often creates a painful cycle where feelings of spiritual inadequacy compound the depression itself. The good news? You don't have to suffer alone, and there are numerous practical strategies to manage depression while honoring your faith journey.Before reaching for medication (though it can be appropriate and lifesaving when needed), consider these faith-friendly approaches: morning walks that expose you to mood-enhancing sunlight, handwritten journaling that neurological research shows activates emotional processing in ways digital journaling cannot, challenging negative thinking patterns that distort God's truth, and setting small, achievable goals that rebuild confidence. Scripture repeatedly shows that even faithful servants experienced profound discouragement, yet they found hope through their darkest seasons.Faith offers unique resources during depression: hope when circumstances seem hopeless, strength during times of weakness, a perspective that challenges distorted thinking, and a community when isolation feels safest. As you journey toward healing, remember that self-compassion isn't selfishness—it aligns with Jesus' command to "love thy neighbor as thyself." Whether through the practical tools shared in this episode, the resources on my blog, or my book "Getting a Grip on Depression," know that you can find your way back to joy and purpose. Depression may be part of your story, but with faith and evidence-based strategies, it doesn't have to define your future.#Depressionbiblestudy, #christianbooksondepression, #depressionandfaith, # christiandeppresion,#christianmental health.Link to Coming out of the Shadows #3Link to Coming Out of the Shadows #2Link to Coming Out of the Shadows #1Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

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Have you ever noticed how your thoughts can dramatically affect your emotions and actions? There's profound truth in the biblical wisdom "For as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he" (Proverbs 23:7) – a principle now validated by modern psychological research.When negative thought patterns take hold, they create what therapists call "cognitive distortions" or what I like to call "stinking thinking." These distorted thought patterns can fuel depression, anxiety, and a host of other mental health challenges. The good news? You don't have to remain captive to these harmful thoughts. By recognizing these patterns and applying biblical principles, you can experience remarkable transformation in your mindset and emotional well-being.In this episode, I walk through the top ten cognitive distortions that commonly plague our thinking, from all-or-nothing thinking and overgeneralization to emotional reasoning and personalization. I pair each distortion with powerful Scripture that offers a pathway to renewed thinking. We explore how Romans 12:2 calls us to be "transformed by the renewing of your mind," and how 2 Corinthians 10:5 encourages us to "take every thought captive." These aren't just spiritual platitudes but practical tools for mental health.Remember, your past pain doesn't have to dictate your future. As I often tell my clients, "Do not let your pain become your idol." Instead, let God use that pain as a launching point for a meaningful, purposeful life. Whether you're personally struggling with depression or supporting someone who is, this episode offers both compassionate understanding and practical strategies for moving forward. For additional resources, check out my book, "Getting a Grip on Depression," available on my website. Remember – you are fearfully and wonderfully made, valued, and loved by the God who created you.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Depression doesn't discriminate—even among the faithful. Exploring the often-taboo intersection of Christianity and depression, this episode tackles the persistent question many believers struggle with: Can a Christian experience depression?The answer is a resounding yes. Drawing from scripture, professional experience, and personal struggle, I unpack how approximately 7.6 million Christians in America silently battle depression while facing the added burden of stigma within their faith communities. This stigma creates a painful paradox where those who most need support feel unable to seek it without judgment or shame.Depression manifests across multiple dimensions of human experience. Cognitively, it creates brain fog and difficulty concentrating. Emotionally, it weighs down the spirit with persistent sadness. Behaviorally, it leads to withdrawal from activities and relationships that once brought joy. Physically, it disrupts sleep, appetite, and overall well-being. For Christians specifically, depression often adds a fifth dimension—spiritual struggle—where prayers feel unanswered and God's presence seems distant despite intellectual understanding of His love.As both a therapist with over 65,000 clinical hours and someone who has personally wrestled with depression, I share insights from my recently re-released book "Getting a Grip on Depression." This episode marks the beginning of a five-part series that offers practical, proven tools for understanding and overcoming depression while maintaining your faith. Through it all, we're reminded of the hope found in Psalm 42:11: "Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God." Even in our darkest moments, God's presence remains constant, offering the light that guides us toward healing.If you've ever felt alone in your struggle with depression as a believer, this episode affirms your experience. It offers a pathway forward that honors both your faith and your need for comprehensive support. Subscribe to join me on this journey toward resilience and renewed hope.Get John's book & Bible Study Getting a Grip on Depression, for Free on Kindle Unlimited.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

What colors paint your mental landscape? Are they vibrant and life-giving, or dull and limiting? In this thought-provoking exploration of mindset, John Thurman weaves ancient wisdom and modern psychological research to offer a uniquely Christian perspective on personal growth and transformation.Drawing from the profound words of Marcus Aurelius that "your soul takes on the color of your thoughts," alongside biblical warnings against double-mindedness, Thurman creates a compelling case for developing what psychologist Dr. Carol Dweck calls a "growth mindset." He contrasts the limitations of a fixed mindset—believing talents and abilities are static—with the liberating perspective that we can grow through effort, learning, and perseverance.The episode walks listeners through biblical examples of growth mindset in action, from Deborah's courageous leadership and David's journey from shepherd to king, to Ruth's risk-taking adventure and Peter's remarkable transformation after his failures. These stories illuminate how faith and psychological principles complement our spiritual development.Most valuably, Thurman provides ten practical, actionable strategies for cultivating a growth mindset within a Christian framework. These range from embracing spiritual growth as a lifelong journey and viewing challenges as opportunities to journaling insights and actively engaging with a church community. Each strategy is grounded in scripture while incorporating evidence-based approaches to mindset transformation.Ready to break free from limiting beliefs and experience the vibrant colors of transformed thinking? Subscribe to John Thurman's Resilient Solutions Shortcast and discover how aligning your mindset with biblical truth can revolutionize your personal life, relationships, and faith.Link to Morning with Monette, "From Victim to Victor Mindset"Link to John's Blog "10 Ways You Can Develop a Growth Mindset"Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Discover powerful tools that combine enduring faith, post-traumatic growth, and neuroplasticity to transform trauma and trials into triumph through rewiring your brain.• Faith serves as a powerful tool guiding us through difficult times, illuminating hope when facing challenges• Post-traumatic growth allows individuals to not just recover from trauma but experience meaningful life changes• Neuroplasticity represents the brain's ability to adapt and reorganize even after traumatic events• Resilience has evolved beyond just bouncing back—it's about leveraging experiences to find purpose in pain• Spiritual practices like prayer, Bible study, and community support are conducive to healing and transformation• Avoiding making trauma an idol is crucial—recognize it, address the pain, and move forward• Personal testimony shared about working as a chaplain in a burn unit while processing brother's death• Integrating faith principles with post-traumatic growth creates opportunities for spiritual and emotional change• Mindset matters—understanding the difference between victim mindset and victorious mindsetCheck the show notes for a special Bible study resource to help rewire your brain using Scripture, available on my website. Join me next week as we discuss the difference between closed and open mindsets for experiencing growth.Link to ArticleLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

We explore how understanding brain function can unlock a growth mindset and enhance spiritual resilience, beginning with five brain basics that affect our thinking patterns.• Our brains are naturally negative with a "negativity bias" that makes us Velcro for bad experiences and Teflon for good ones• The brain constantly scans for danger, which helps survival but can create unnecessary anxiety• Worry becomes habitual when we allow our brains to amplify stress and focus on what could go wrong• Our minds dislike uncertainty and fill in knowledge gaps with assumptions based on past experiences• We crave predictability and need strategies to handle unexpected situations effectively• Romans 12:2 offers a biblical framework for transforming our thinking patterns• Philippians 4:6-9 provides practical guidance for managing anxiety and directing our thoughts positivelyLink to Blog: How to Build a Growth Mindset Pt# 1Join me next time as we continue this series on developing a growth mindset. If you'd like to learn more, visit johnthurman.net or covertmercy.com or email me at [email protected] John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Have you ever wondered why some people bounce back stronger from life's harshest blows while others feel stuck and broken? Tune into our latest episode of the Resilient Solutions Shortcast, where I will unpack the four primary ways we react to trauma, adversity, and challenges. Drawing from my experience as an Army Chaplain, Licensed Mental Health Professional, and Crisis Response Specialist, I offer a unique lens on resilience. Inspired by Dr. W. Lee Warren's transformative book "Hope, the First Dose," this episode delves into the emotional turmoil and psychological barriers we face in times of crisis, providing you with practical tools to navigate these stormy waters.Join me as I explore the concept of "crashers"—those who find it challenging to regain their footing after traumatic events—and how these reactions intersect with the disorders discussed in "The Character Edge." You'll gain a deeper understanding of the patterns that lead to emotional numbness and learn strategies to break free from them. With the support of expert insights and research, this discussion is designed to equip you with the knowledge and strength to face adversity head-on. Walk away with not just hope but a robust toolkit to foster resilience in your personal life, relationships, and faith.Link to Blog: 4 Responses to Tragedy, Trauma and AdversityLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Resilience is a complex journey that intertwines the ability to bounce back from adversity, experience personal growth, and foster a sense of community and purpose. This episode illuminates the evolving understanding of resilience and its vital role in overcoming trauma, rooted in psychological research and biblical principles. • Evolution of resilience as a concept over decades • Importance of personal experiences in understanding resilience • Introductory definitions of resilience, resistance, and post-traumatic growth • Role of community and shared purpose in recovery • Connection to biblical examples of resilience • The potential for growth and healing after traumaLinks to Resources:Link to blog - How to Expasnd Your Resilience in 2025Link to "High Hopes" by Frank SinatraFirst, a Dose of Hope by Dr. W. Lee WarrenDr. Marty Seligman's three books bundle: Authentic Happiness, Learned Optimism, and Flourish - Amazon Special.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Discover how debunking common myths can breathe new life into your marriage. Join me, John Thurman, as we tackle the widespread misconception that thriving relationships hinge on shared interests. It's not about forcing hobbies but about meaningful engagement with your partner. We also shed light on the idea that a peaceful relationship is inherently superior, revealing how well-managed arguments can actually foster growth and communication. Lastly, find out why venting every emotion unchecked might not be as healthy as it seems; instead, learn ways to express feelings constructively.This episode promises a fresh perspective on building resilient and fulfilling relationships with candid insights and practical advice. By reevaluating these myths, couples can embrace each other's unique qualities, navigate disagreements positively, and foster genuine companionship. Personal anecdotes and actionable tips provide listeners with strategies to enhance their relationship dynamics and strengthen their bond. Tune in for an enlightening conversation that encourages understanding and growth in your partnership.Link to Revitalize Your Marriage, Blog Pt# 1Link to Revitalize Your Marriage, Blog Pt# 2Link to Revitalize Your Marriage, Blog Pt# 3Marriage Makeover: Six Exciting Ways to Energize Your Marriage, Blog5 Ways to Improve Your Relationship, BlogLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

This episode debunks three critical marriage myths: that great relationships don’t require sexual intimacy, that a marriage can’t survive a flawed partner, and that there’s a singular right way to navigate a relationship. The conversation emphasizes acknowledging intimacy, embracing imperfections, and creating personalized paths to strengthen marriages.  <br>• Discusses the significance of sexual intimacy in relationships  <br>• Emphasizes the importance of accepting each other's flaws and vulnerabilities  <br>• Debunks the myth of a 'one right way' to handle relationships  <br>• Encourages creativity in developing unique relational practices  <br>• Suggests practical actions to strengthen intimacy and connectionLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Unlock the secrets to fighting fairly in your marriage and learn how to communicate effectively with your partner. Join me, John Thurman, as I share ten proven tips to help you and your spouse handle conflicts constructively. Drawing from over five decades of marriage and insights from Dr. John Gottman's research, we tackle the common pitfalls in relationships where conflicts are recurrent and often unsolvable. Learn how to keep disputes private, prioritize solvable issues, and protect your children from emotional harm while building a more resilient and loving partnership. Ever wonder why specific phrases can escalate an argument faster than a wildfire? Discover why words like "you never" or "you always" are best left unsaid and how staying on point can transform your disagreements into productive conversations. With actionable strategies, we'll explore how active listening and maintaining respect can bridge the gap between misunderstanding and connection. Plus, find out why taking a break during heated moments isn't just okay—it's necessary for conflict resolution. Equip yourself with the tools to differentiate between solvable and unsolvable issues, ensuring your energy is directed towards building a stronger, more resilient relationship.Check out the article5 Ways to Improve Your Relationship, BlogLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

We explore practical strategies to enhance intimacy in marriage, discussing the importance of trust, communication, and connection. Couples can reignite their passion and strengthen their bond with ten actionable tips. • Understanding the reality of no-sex marriages • The essential role of communication in intimacy • Importance of giving full attention • Acknowledging and encouraging positive attributes • Being assertive without being critical • Avoiding the critique trap in conversations • Listening to understand rather than judge • Practicing active listening techniques • Skipping the blame game and taking mutual responsibility • Managing conflict effectively • Seeking help when needed and knowing when to pause When you sign up for my newsletter, you'll receive my 2025 stress-busting strategies list for free.Here is a link to the article Ignite Your Passion: 10 Ways to Boost IntimacyLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Can you imagine what your marriage would look like if you stopped believing in relationship myths that only hold you back? Join me, John Thurman, as we unravel some of the most pervasive misconceptions that could be affecting your relationship dynamics. In this episode, I debunk three common myths about marriage, including the idea that genuinely understanding your spouse is a one-time achievement and that perfect romance is a constant in significant relationships. We'll explore how cultural narratives, generational influences, and social media shape these myths while sharing how embracing differences can fortify your partnership. You'll gain practical insights and timeless biblical wisdom to nurture a more genuine and resilient connection with your partner.With the guidance of principles from 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, we delve into patience, kindness, and resilience — essential ingredients for enduring love. Reflect on these attributes as we discuss how they can transform your approach to conflicts and everyday challenges in your relationship. By acknowledging and moving past these myths, you can find joy and gratitude in each day shared with your spouse. Don’t forget to visit my website, johnthurman.net, for additional resources and insights. Check out my blog, linked in the show notes, for a more in-depth discussion on the topics covered in this episode.Here is a link to the article Revitalize Your Marriage Pt#1Sign up for my email list, join our community, and receive your 2025 Stress-Busting Strategies.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

stopWhat Makes Resolutions Work?Have you ever noticed how easy it is to make resolutions but how tough it can be to keep them? According to one survey, 23% of people will quit their resolution by the end of the first week, and 43% will quit by the end of January. Why does this happen? One reason is that people fail to connect their goals to a more profound sense of purpose. By linking your resolutions to our faith, we are more likely to make them happen. When you and I view our resolutions through the lens of faith, we can focus on what matters. Goals rooted in our spiritual values tend to resonate more deeply. For example, if you desire to improve your health, consider how a healthier lifestyle will enhance your relationships with family members. Setting Faith-Based ResolutionsSpiritual GoalsHealth and Wellness GoalsFinancial GoalsPersonal GrowthStrengthening RelationshipsBuilding Resilience with Your GoalsStay FlexibleSeek SupportEmbrace SetbacksPractice GratitudeRead the articleLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Do you ever struggle with your faith? I have, and after you read How to Forge a Resilient Faith, you will have additional tools in your faith toolbox.Here are the Six Principles of a Resilient Faith:The First Principle of How to Forge a Resilient Faith is to Demonstrate Active Optimism or a Vibrant Faith.The Second Principle of How to Forge a Resilient Faith is Taking Decisive ActionThe Third Principle of How to Forge a Resilient Faith is to be Guided by God’s WordThe Fourth Principle of How to Forge a Resilient Faith is TenacityThe Fifth Principle of How to Forge a Resilient Faith is Personal ResponsibilityThe Sixth Principle of How to Forge a Resilient Faith is to Understand the Importance of Interpersonal SupportHere is a link to the BlogLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

One of the questions I ask many clients is, “What is your purpose or mission in life?”The inquiry usually leads to a pause, and they often say, “I’ve never been asked that question before.” If they have a church background, they say something like, “To love and serve God” or “To get married and raise a family.” But for the most part, they lack a personal mission statement or a clearly defined purpose. They usually need more focus, and a specific point to aim for.Focus is essential to living an intentional life because it allows us to be mindful of our actions and make decisions that serve our highest purpose. When we focus on doing what is necessary for growth, transformation, and success, we can create a more meaningful existence for ourselves.To learn moreJohn Thurmanwww.johnthurman.info505-343-2011Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

 Watch out for anger.Get closer to your partner. Be creative in finding ways to support your partner and grow your relationship.Integrate fun, special days into your routine.For Guys only - get off the couch and engage with your wife.By the way, be sure to download my 21 Ways to Improve Your Marriage ebook.Here is a link to the entire article.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Here are the 4 Tips - Be sure to check out the entire article to learn the right way to encourage your kids.Tip# 1 - Model ResilienceTip# 2 - Raise a Problem SolverTip# 4 - Praise Your Child Purposefully and IntentionallyTip# 4-  Set the Pace, be the Example because these life skills are more caught than taught.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

In the last episode, I discussed 4 points:1. We need to help our children become treasure hunters and not trash collectors.2. We want to teach and model optimism to our kids, and show them how being made in God's image can make a positive difference in the world.3. You and I want to encourage our kids to do their best and to achieve what they can while helping others.4. We want to remind them that failure is not final, only an opportunity to learn and do better.In part two, of this episode, I cover the remaining three points about raising resilient kids.1.  Both teach and model the importance of living a life of integrity.2. Show your children the importance of taking full responsibility for their actions.3. Help them understand the power of community and connection.Link to the articleNext Week: 4 Practical, Proven Strategies to Build Your Child's Resilience and Improved Their Self-Esteem.Contact info:  www.johnthurman.infoOffice: 505-343-2011Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Point # 1There are two basic types of people in the world—those who edify and build up and those who detract and tear down. Choose to be the former. One of our goals as caring adults is to teach our kids that the best way to develop a happy, intentional, successful life is through their achievements and contributions toward the betterment of others. Point # 2We have to teach our kids to be optimists and believe that as individuals created in the image of God, they have the creative power to make a difference in this world. Point # 3Seeking to achieve in your personal life and contribute to the betterment of others is not an easy path.“Those who dare to fail miserably can achieve greatly.”Robert Kennedy.We must both model and teach our children that anything worth doing or having is worth potentially failing for.Point # 4How do we operationally define failure? First, failure is never final. We must instill in our children that failure is not a lack of achievement. Failure is determined by the lack of effort or refusal to try. Life is filled with scary and sometimes tough decisions; they need to learn how to make the best decisions given the information they have at a given moment.Don't allow decision constipation to steal your capacity to make wise, life-enriching decisions. Refuse to become a victim of failure. “I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”The Apostle Paul – Philippians 3:14 ESVLink to articleLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

A recent Pew Research study has shown that 76% of parents are concerned about their children’s mental health, particularly depression, and anxiety. This is a worrying figure, as it indicates that many parents are unaware of the signs and symptoms of depression in their children. Parents need to understand how to recognize if their child is depressed or suicidal so that they can get the help they need.In mid-February, numerous news outlets reported an alarming number of teens are feeling depressed and suicidal, and teen girls are at the highest riskAccording to a CDC Report reported by FOX News, released earlier this year:Fifty-seven percent of high school females reported feeling sadness or hopelessness in 2021, a 58 percent increase from 36 percent in 2011.Thirty percent of females seriously considered attempting suicide in 2021, an almost 60 percent increase from 19 percent in 2011.Twenty-four percent of females made a suicide plan in 2021, a 60 percent increase from 15 percent in 2011.How would you know if your teen is depressed? Listen, read, and learn!Learn more by reading the entire article with linksLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

ResistanceResistance is essentially stress inoculation. It refers to the ability of an individual, group, organization, or even an entire population to resist manifestations of clinical distress, impairment, or dysfunction associated with critical incidents, terrorism, and even mass disasters. Resistance is a form of psychological/behavioral immunity to distress and dysfunction.ResilienceThe second is resilience. According to Dr. George Bonanno, resilience is a naturally-occurring tool most people have always had in their psychological lockers, which is enhanced or weakened by experience and circumstances. In a nutshell, resilience is the power to overcome adversity, trauma, and low self-esteem and to be strengthened.My friend, trauma survivor, and fellow author Danielle Bernock says, “To be resilient is the ability to thrive instead of being traumatized.”5 Tips for Dealing with TraumaTip # 1 – Supervise your self-talk.Tip # 2 – Stop comparing yourself to others.Tip#3 – Stretch your limiting beliefs.Tip # 4 – Build up others.Tip# 5 – Get help.Here is a link to the blogBlessings,John Thurmanwww.johnthurman.infoEmail: [email protected] Events with JohnFeb 26th - Dealing with Anxiety - Sunday, February 26th @ Grace Church 9:00 and 10:30 am.  Church is located @ 6901 San Antonio NE, ABQ. This is a public eventMarch 3rd and 5th - Marriage and Family Conference - Evangel Christian Center 4901 Montgomery Blvd NE, here is the link. This is a public event.March 25th - Book Signing - Bibles Plus 2740 Wyoming NE Times TBAApril 1st - Mental Health for Church Security Teams - Private eventLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Every one of us has been injured by life. How to Deal with Old Wounds: A Biblical Perspective is the first of a three-part series to give you some tools to help you become more resilient as you work through life’s challenges with the Lord’s help.Four Reasons Men Don’t Deal with WoundsThere are several reasons but in this article, I will focus on four common reasons that men struggle with their wounds.First, culture has trained us to believe that real men don’t cry.Second, masculinity is under pressure. Current cultural nuances and the innuendos of “toxic masculinity” in the media have scared our daughters and caused many young men to fail to embrace their masculinity.Third, sadly, some men feel that church life is irrelevant to their needs.Fourth, because many men don’t have a support system, many will bury their woundedness. The result is various addictive behaviors, drugs, gaming, sexual addictions, food, pleasure, drinking, and even hyper-religious involvement. For many men, if this woundedness is not addressed, it will significantly negatively impact their lives and relationships.Food for ThoughtC.S. Lewis once wrote, “God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains…[Pain] is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world”- C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain.The Lord is more concerned with our character than our comfort; at times, He chooses to use calamity to refine us.Link to the BlogLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

There are three final stages in How to Grow as a Man of Faith Pt 2: the Lover Stage, the King Stage, and the Sage Stage.The Lover StageThe lover needs the warrior to act decisively and restrain his passions.The lover stage (the 20s to 30s) is the awakening of the heart. This could manifest as a love of poetry, nature, music…and eventually romance.This is the stage in which men learn how to love themselves by loving others. It can also deepen your awareness of how you are created in God’s image.There are two extremes of lovers we need to look at before we move on.The addicted lover becomes consumed by short-term pleasure at almost any cost. This person is a collector of experiences, women, and toys. The addicted lover resists structure and pursues pleasure.The impotent lover lives in a muted world. His world may be void of color and flavor.The King StageIn the king stage (age 40-60), the man is mature, centered, and decisive. He lives with integrity and purpose. He protects his realm and serves his community.Read the entire articleLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

How to Grow as a Man of Faith Pt # 1: The first three stages.When I was a child,  I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. 1 Corinthians 13:11 NLTTo grow as a man of faith, you must understand the stages of masculine development. This is the first part of a series that will show you a map as you continue your journey.A man of faith is someone with a sense of purpose. He knows he has a life mission and understands what it means to be a man. This understanding comes from his faith, but it also comes from the relationships he has with others. He understands a well-lived life is in the context of a community.A Christian man is a man made in the image of God. If married, he is responsible for being the head of his home and leading his family. He is a man who is faithful to his wife and children, and he makes time for them every day. A Christian man is a man who knows he is created for greatness, but instead of chasing after it, he chooses to live humbly as an example to others.In this article, my heart desires to encourage you to be the man God called you to be. To help you to become a God-loving, courageous, resilient man with an enhanced ability to lead, love, serve, and leave a legacy in this world. To do this, I will review one roadmap to understanding some developmental markers we men face.As with any "journey," there must be a starting place. Here is an overview of the process.The Beloved SonThe Cowboy StageThe Warrior StageHere are four general things about a real warrior, whether single or married.        1. A warrior is trained        2. A warrior is humble        3. A warrior is accustomed to sacrifice       4. A warrior is connected to othersRead the articleJohn [email protected] John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Here are the Four Ways:1. What are the results you are seeking?2. What measurable actions are you going to take?3. What is Your timeline?4. What is your motivation for doing this?Here is a link to the entire article.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

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This is the second in the How to be a Man of Faith in Today’s World series, where we will examine the second half of Dr. Jordan Peterson’s 12 Rules of Life as well as some important scriptural concepts to remember as you and I seek to be the men God has called us to be.Summary:7.    Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient).8.    Tell the truth. Or at least don’t lie. 9.    Assume the person you are listening to knows something you don’t. 10.  Be precise in your speech. 11. Do not bother children when they are skateboarding. 12. Pet a cat when you encounter one in the street.Link to my blogLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

There was a time in recent history when masculinity came with a clear purpose of being a provider-protector (e.g., warrior, contributor, sole breadwinner). Many of us grew up imprinted that men are designed to serve. We are to serve our family, church, the Lord, community, and nation. We were raised with a sense of mission and a sense of purpose. Today, according to Warren Farrell (The Boy Crisis 2018), “Many men are experiencing a purpose void.” Young and old alike seem to be wandering through life without a sense of mission. Due to multiple factors that, for the sake of space, will not be covered in this article.In my coaching and work-life mentoring practice, one of the alarming shifts I have seen in the past ten years is the sense that many men seem clueless about their roles, purpose, and mission. I believe the Scriptures guide us clearly on what it means to be a man. I hope you and I will be challenged to look at where we are in our lives and “get back on mission” if we need to.As I begin this series, I will give you a rapid overview of his first major best-selling book, 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos. Don’t be surprised if these remind you of some of the original values of the Boy and Girl Scouts. The bullet points are his; the commentary is mine.Here are the first 6 Rules, be sure to check out all of this blog.Stand Up Straight and hold your shoulders back.Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for.Befriend people who want the best for you.Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.Don't let your kids do anything that makes you dislike them.Get your own house in order before you criticize others.Get in touch with John.  Call: 505-343-2011, email [email protected], or send him a message at www.johnthurman.infoLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Laughter is a powerful tool that can have long-term positive effects on your health. It can improve your mood, relieve pain and infuse you with hope. Laughter has the power to enhance your autoimmune system and decrease the risk of heart disease. It can also reduce stress and anxiety, help with depression, lower blood pressure, and increase the production of endorphins which make you happy.Benefits of Laughter:It connects you with othersIt can smooth out differencesIt strengthens and promotes resilienceIt increases energy and helps your body relaxI can refresh your perspectiveIt increases productivityHere is a link to the articleHere are some links to some great laughs!Michael JrSmall FryTim HawkinsDr. Dennis SwanbergChonda PierceKen DavisAnita RenfroeContact John Thurman.  [email protected] or call 505-343-2011Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

In this episode, you will be able to identify your "Dad style" and learn how to be a better dad using Faith-Friendly Tools.Dad TypesThe Distant or Passive DadThe Angry, Abusive DadThe Inconsistent DadThe Dependent DadThe Overindulging DadThe Balanced and Engaged DadThe Eight Traits of a Growing Christian DadThey are learning how to love their wife and kidsThey are learning to lead their familiesThey are working on being better communicatorsThey provide for their familiesThey actively pursue wisdom and insight on becoming a better man and family leader. They provide age-appropriate correction and edification to their children They demonstrate grace by being ready to extend and receive forgiveness  They demonstrate love toward their wife.Here is the link to the articleLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!

Why Dads Are Important1.              School Achievement.  Grades are better when dd is around.2.              The 3 Rs. The more involved his dad is, the more significant the boy's increase in verbal intelligence and the better both boys' and girls' math and quantitative abilities are.3.              School Dropout Rates. The more years children spend with no or minimal father involvement, the fewer years of school they complete.4.              Employment. While boys from two-parent homes are two times more likely to be employed as young adults.5.              Suicide. Living in a home without a dad correlates more with suicide among children and teenagers than any other factor.6.              Drugs. Father involvement is at least five times more important in preventing drugs than any other influence. In addition, it is a more potent determining factor than the child's gender, ethnicity, or social class.7.              Homelessness. Around 90 percent of runaways and homeless youths are from fatherless homes.8.              Bullying. The American Psychological Association found in its 153 studies that father absence predicts the profile of both the bully and the bullied: poor self-esteem, poor grades, and poor social skills.9.              Victimization. Children between ten and seventeen living without their biological dad were likelier to be victims of child abuse, significant violence, sexual assault, and domestic violence.10.       Violent Crimes. Every 1 percent increase in fatherlessness in a neighborhood predicts a 3 percent increase in adolescent violence.11.           Rape. Among rapists specifically assessed as raping out of anger or rage, 85percent came from father-absent homes.12.           Power and Mobility. Children born poor and raised by both married parents have an 80 percent chance of moving into the middle class or above; conversely, children born into the middle class and raised without a married dad were almost four times more likely to end up less fortunate.13.           Trust. The more contact children have with their dads, the more quickly they make open, receptive, and trusting contact with new people in their lives.14.       Empathy. The amount of time a father spends with a child is one of the strongest predictors of the child’s ability to empathize in adulthood.[i] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25518696/Source: The Boy Crisis  Check out the blogLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my websiteFacebook LinkTactical Prayer Guide Link!