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I recently coached a client on boundaries, and about ten minutes into the conversation I knew it was something I needed to share with you too. She told me she has such a hard time saying no that she gives everything away, and then feels hurt when someone does not choose her. Then she said the sharper version: I do not say no, I am always looking for how I can say yes. In this episode I walk through the reframe that changes that pattern, the three steps I gave her, and the quiet moment on the call when it finally clicked for her. What you will learn How to flip a boundary from a refusal into a decision you already made Why your priorities lose to other people’s requests, and the one change that fixes it The move one number rule that keeps a new boundary from collapsing in week two How to write present tense statements your brain will actually accept A thirty second tracking habit that proves you can already do the thing you think you cannot Join the Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat October 15 to 18, 2026, CIVANA Wellness Resort and Spa, Carefree, Arizona. A few select women, application only. Apply or schedule a chat at audaciouslyunapologetic.com Connect with Lynsey Website: lynseymulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder If this episode landed, the kindest thing you can do is send it to one woman who says yes too fast

It is the end of August, which means sometime in the next two weeks you will open your calendar, look at what is left of the year, and feel one of two things. The sprint: grab every unfinished January goal and muscle to December 31st on caffeine and sheer personality. Or the quiet quit: eh, we will regroup in January, and coast through four months of your one precious life. Both are traps. In this solo episode, Lynsey offers a third way. You do not have a time problem, you have an energy problem, and no planner has ever minted a 25th hour. She walks you through the energy ledger, a 10-minute audit of where your energy actually goes, and the year-end edit built on three lists: cut, park, and protect. Then she names the real reason we do not cut anything, and it is not discipline. It is fear. Together we will talk about: Why the year-end sprint and the quiet quit are both traps, and what the third way looks like The reframe that changes everything: you do not have a time problem, you have an energy problem The energy ledger, a 10-minute line-by-line audit of last week's calendar marked simply plus or minus The year-end edit in three lists: cut the performative work and ghost goals, park the good-but-wrong-time ideas, and protect the two or three things that actually mattered Why one protected thing must be your own renewal, because renewal is infrastructure, not indulgence The hidden fears underneath a bloated calendar, and why they will quietly veto every boundary until you name them One line to take with you: "Renewal is not what you do after the important work. Renewal is what makes the important work possible. That is not indulgence, that is infrastructure." This week's challenge: Do the energy ledger, then make one cut and name one protect. Just one of each. Then tell someone about both, because a boundary spoken out loud is ten times stronger than one that only lives in your head. The Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat: October 15 to 18, 2026 at CIVANA Wellness Resort and Spa in Carefree, Arizona. Four days and three nights built around clarity, confidence, and connection: inner work to rebuild your foundation, the immunity map that x-rays what has really been in your way, a real action plan for your next chapter, plus sound baths, yoga, private dinners under the desert sky, and a burning ceremony. Co-facilitated by Lynsey Mulder and Paula Shannon. By application, intentionally capped. Apply, or schedule a no-pressure chat with Lynsey first, at https://audaciouslyunapologetic.com/  Connect with Lynsey: Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder Follow Lead with Spark on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Podbean so you never miss an episode

You have been waiting on a memo. The one where your boss, the board, or some committee of very official people sits you down and says you are now allowed to lead your way. Trust your gut. Push back in the meeting. Run the team the way you actually want to. Signed, everyone. Lovingly, here is the truth: that memo does not exist. It was never in the mail. In this solo episode, Lynsey names why so many accomplished women keep their real leadership in a drawer, waiting at a window where no one is working. She traces it back to a lifetime of permission-based success, counts what the waiting actually costs, and hands you three permission slips to write yourself this week. Because the vetting is done. The only approval still outstanding is yours. Together we will talk about: Why waiting for permission is training, not a character flaw, and where the game quietly changed on you mid-career The four costs of waiting: the world gets a photocopy of you, your ideas go unclaimed, the people watching you learn to wait too, and the slow leak of burnout The reframe: permission is not granted to leaders, it is taken, quietly and usually without an announcement Why this is not about going rogue, and the difference between skipping accountability and bringing your actual self to the role you already earned Three permission slips to write yourself: to lead in your own style, to speak before you are certain, and to invest in yourself without earning it first The present-tense trick that helps your brain believe the slip is already true One line to take with you: "Permission is not granted to leaders. It is taken, quietly, confidently, and usually without an announcement." This week's challenge: Write one permission slip this week. Your way, out loud, in present tense, as if it is already true. Put it somewhere you will see it every morning and read it aloud, even if it feels a little silly. Your brain believes what it hears you say, especially in your own voice. The Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat: October 15 to 18, 2026 at CIVANA Wellness Resort and Spa in Carefree, Arizona. Four days and three nights for high-performing women, built around clarity, confidence, and connection: coaching that gets underneath your patterns, sound baths, yoga, meditation under the desert sky, private dinners, and a curated circle of women who become the personal board of directors you have been missing. Co-facilitated by Lynsey Mulder and Paula Shannon. By application, intentionally capped. Apply, or schedule a no-pressure chat with Lynsey first, at https://audaciouslyunapologetic.com/  Connect with Lynsey: Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder Follow Lead with Spark on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Podbean so you never miss an episode

If you are carrying a lot, leading a lot, achieving a lot, and still wondering why you feel exhausted underneath all of it, this conversation is for you. Dr. Alicia Newsome returns for Part 2 of our series, and this time we zoom out from the body to the whole picture: the beliefs running underneath your leadership, the exhaustion our culture quietly applauds, and her new book, Worthy of Rest. This is the honest, practical half of the conversation, the one about the story you have been telling yourself since you were eight years old and how it is still shaping the decisions you make in the boardroom. Together we will talk about: The Integrative Leadership Framework: body, business, and belief, and why all three have to move together Why the eight-year-old version of you cannot be the one driving the car, and the pause-and-name practice that puts her safely in the back seat Perfectionism, burnout, and worthiness are symptoms, not root causes; fourteen perfectionists in a room have fourteen different stories The types of rest most of us have never heard of: sensory, emotional, spiritual, and physical, and why a nap is not always the answer Alicia's practice of taking three full weeks off twice a year, what it reveals about your business, and Lynsey's vacation SOP that keeps 500 emails from piling up while she is gone Building a team around your life: hiring for how people think, paid test projects, the human-in-the-loop AI standard, and the three things every hire should do for you Why every yes is a no to something else, and how to give yourself permission to use a two-letter word One line to take with you: "We live in a culture that worships exhaustion." This week's challenge: Look at what you have said yes to this month. Find the one that was never a full yes, the one you hesitated on, and ask yourself what you said no to in order to make room for it. Then practice the two-letter sentence. No is a complete answer. Connect with Dr. Alicia Newsome: Grab her free gift for Lead with Spark listeners at www.draliciagifts.com Learn about working with her, completely virtually, at www.dralicianewsome.com Follow her on: Instagram @ dr.alicianewsome LinkedIn @ dr-alicia-newsome YouTube @ dr.alicianewsome Facebook @ dralicianewsome Watch for her upcoming book, Worthy of Rest, which we dig into in Part 2 Connect with Lynsey: Follow Lead with Spark on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Podbean so you do not miss Part 2 with Dr. Alicia next week, and leave a review if this one hit home Ready to go deeper? Learn about the Audaciously Unapologetic retreat in Carefree, Arizona at audaciouslyunapologetic.com Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder Start here: this is Part 2 of a two-part series. If you missed Part 1, go back for the conversation on hormones, chronic stress, and what your body has been trying to tell you.

When someone on your team is struggling, what is your first instinct? Do you coach them through it, or do you quietly take the thing and do it yourself? If you just went quiet, this one is for you. In this solo episode, Lynsey names what she and her retreat co-facilitator Paula Shannon call the lifeguard trap: the habit of jumping in to rescue that feels like leadership, looks like dedication, and is quietly draining the life out of you. A lifeguard who saves everyone means no one learns to swim and the lifeguard is soaked and exhausted. A swim coach stays on the deck, builds stronger swimmers, and the pool does not fall apart on their day off. Lynsey unpacks the hidden commitment underneath the over-functioning, why you cannot delegate your way out of an identity problem, and three shifts you can start this week. This episode is also the official invitation to the Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat, four days of clarity, confidence, and connection in the Arizona desert this October. Together we will talk about: The lifeguard trap, and why rescuing your team feels like leadership while it drains you The lifeguard versus the swim coach, and what changes when you move from the water to the deck The hidden commitment underneath over-functioning: if everything runs through me, then I matter here Why this is an identity problem, not a calendar problem, and why no productivity system will fix it Three shifts you can make this week: catch the rescue reflex, trade the rescue for a question, and remember that every yes is a no One line to take with you: "Your value was never in rescuing. Your value is in your clarity, your voice, and what you build in other people." This week's challenge: For one week, catch the rescue reflex. Every time you are about to take something off someone's plate, pause and ask: is this person actually drowning, or are they three feet from the wall? Do not change anything yet. Just notice how many times a day that reflex fires. The Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat: October 15 to 18, 2026 at CIVANA Wellness Resort and Spa in Carefree, Arizona. Four days of coaching, sound baths, private dinners under the desert sky, and a curated circle of women who are done running on fumes and ready to lead at full power. Co-facilitated by Lynsey Mulder and Paula Shannon. Attendance is by application and intentionally capped. Apply, or schedule a no-pressure chat with Lynsey first, at https://audaciouslyunapologetic.com/ Connect with Lynsey: Website: https://lynseymulder.com/com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder

If you have ever felt just a little bit off but could not quite explain it, this conversation will open your eyes in the best way. This week kicks off a special two-part series with Dr. Alicia Newsome, a functional medicine practitioner, executive advisor, international speaker, and three-time bestselling author who helps high performers get to the root cause of what is going on inside their bodies, without drugs or surgery. Together, Lynsey and Dr. Alicia unpack the symptoms so many women have been told are normal (the fatigue, the brain fog, the PMS, the two o'clock crash) and reveal what your body is actually trying to tell you. Together we will talk about: The difference between common and normal, and why headaches, exhaustion, bloating, and weight loss resistance are your body's check engine light What is really happening with your hormones and adrenal glands during perimenopause, and why a life of chronic stress makes this season so much harder than it has to be Why high-achieving women say "I'm not stressed" while their labs, and their massage therapists, say otherwise Where hormone replacement therapy fits as a tool, and why dealing with the foundation comes first Alicia's free morning, afternoon, and evening routines: gratitude you actually feel, two daily goals, transition rituals, the nightly brain dump, and binaural beats for deeper sleep How taking care of your body is not selfish; it is what protects your family, your team, and your purpose One line to take with you: "Headaches are common, but they are not normal. You did not have a headache because you had a Tylenol deficiency." This week's challenge: Pick one of Dr. Alicia's free routines and try it every day this week. Start with the morning practice: write down five things you are grateful for, actually feel them, then set two goals for your day. At the end of the month, read your running gratitude list back to yourself. Connect with Dr. Alicia Newsome: Grab her free gift for Lead with Spark listeners at www.draliciagifts.com Learn about working with her, completely virtually, at www.dralicianewsome.com Follow her on: Instagram @ dr.alicianewsome LinkedIn @ dr-alicia-newsome YouTube @ dr.alicianewsome Facebook @ dralicianewsome Watch for her upcoming book, Worthy of Rest, which we dig into in Part 2 Connect with Lynsey: Follow Lead with Spark on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Podbean so you do not miss Part 2 with Dr. Alicia next week, and leave a review if this one hit home Ready to go deeper? Learn about the Audaciously Unapologetic retreat in Carefree, Arizona at audaciouslyunapologetic.com Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder Related listening: E58 The Expensive FYI, on how meeting culture keeps your body in the chronic stress this episode is all about.

Something big is happening this October, and in this episode you get the full reveal. Lynsey is joined by Paula Shannon, founder of Whole Leader Lab, former deputy superintendent, and a leader who spent 30 years in public education before clinical burnout forced a reckoning. Together they announce the Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat, a four-day wellness and leadership experience for women, October 15 to 18 at CIVANA Wellness Resort and Spa in Carefree, Arizona. But this is not just a retreat pitch. Lynsey shares the moment she realized she was juggling so fast she could not even tell which ball she had dropped, and Paula tells the story of the mentor who told her to stop being a lifeguard and start being a swim coach, a shift that gave her 40 hours a week back. If you are the person everyone leans on, this conversation is your permission slip to press pause. Together we will talk about The moment Lynsey broke down in a hallway and what it taught her about holding everything together Paula's lifeguard versus swim coach lesson and how stepping down from the lifeguard stand reclaimed 40 hours a week Why clinical burnout took Paula two and a half years to recover from, and the real cost of not saying yes to yourself sooner What an immunity map is and how it uncovers the hidden fears and big assumptions driving your behavior Everything inside the Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat: sound baths, private experiences, a pre-retreat workshop, an integration call, and a personal board of directors you take home with you One line to take with you “I am two and a half years out of clinical burnout, and it has taken two and a half years to recover. That was the cost of not saying yes to myself sooner.” Paula Shannon   This week's challenge Ask yourself Lynsey's question: are you ready to invest in yourself to gain clarity, confidence, and join a community? What is the pattern you have created costing you? Apply for the Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat. The Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat October 15 to 18, 2026 at CIVANA Wellness Resort and Spa, Carefree, Arizona Four days, three nights, all-inclusive: food, signature cocktails, private dinners, three private experiences, and at least three wellness activities daily Includes a pre-retreat grounding workshop and a post-retreat integration call Capped enrollment. Come solo or bring a friend and share a room. Apply at com Want your organization to cover it? Download the employer funding guide at the bottom of the retreat site. Connect with Paula Whole Leader Lab LinkedIn: @PaulaRShannon Connect with Lynsey Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder

Eight hours of real work capacity. Fourteen meetings on the calendar. The math has never worked, and yet somewhere along the way we all agreed that this is what a workday looks like. In this episode, Lynsey names the meeting culture problem for what it is: not a scheduling issue, but a culture that quietly turns you into a very expensive FYI. Drawing on 26 years in corporate leadership, including the day she logged on to find 21 meetings stacked into an 8-hour day, Lynsey breaks down the four hidden costs of meeting overload and hands you a practical playbook to change it from the inside, without a mandate, a memo, or permission. Together we will talk about: Why meetings became the default answer to everything, and what that is really costing you The four hidden costs of meeting culture: decision fatigue, pressure procrastination, strategic starvation, and the ripple effect that follows you home The leader track: auditing the meetings you own, shrinking default meeting lengths, making attendance honest, and protecting visible thinking time The individual contributor track: the one magic question to ask before accepting any invite, the graceful script for declining, and how to make the meetings you do attend better How to spot the pattern creeping back in, even when you thought you had it handled One line to take with you: "Your calendar is full, but your real work is homeless." This week's challenge: Pick the single meeting on your calendar where you contribute the least, then either ask the organizer what is actually needed from you or ask for the notes instead. One meeting. Watch what it does for your energy, and for the people watching you. Connect with Lynsey: Follow Lead with Spark on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Podbean so you never miss an episode, and leave a review if this one hit home Free Crack Your Code BANK assessment Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder Ready to go deeper? Learn about the Audaciously Unapologetic retreat in Carefree, Arizona at audaciouslyunapologetic.com Related listening: E54 The Tactical Trap, on why tactical competence becomes a ceiling for senior leaders.

Have you ever looked at your life on paper and thought, this all looks right, so why does something feel off? Nothing is broken. Your career is solid, your family is fine, and yet there is a quiet hum underneath it all telling you that this is not it anymore. In this episode, Lynsey digs into the identity gap: the space between the version of you that got you here and the version of you that is trying to emerge. This is a reflection episode with no homework and no five-part framework, because the identity gap does not close through doing. It closes through honest reflection. You will hear why the tension you feel is a signal and not a siren, how the Be Do Have model works when you stop running it backwards, and why the woman you used to be deserves your gratitude instead of your embarrassment. Lynsey also shares the moment she freaked out at a networking event when she realized she had been hiding behind a corporate title for decades, and she walks you through the rocking chair question that reveals what your identity has been about all along. In this episode: Why honoring who you were is the first step to becoming who you are meant to be How the identity gap shows up as small shifts in what lights you up The Be Do Have model, and why society teaches it in reverse The rocking chair question and what it reveals about your real identity Four questions to carry with you (no worksheet required)   Ready to explore your own next chapter? Book a free discovery session with Lynsey at lynseymulder.com. No agenda, no pressure, just space to think through your questions together. And if you are ready for deeper work, join Lynsey and a small group of women this October at the Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat in Carefree, Arizona. Real coaching paired with wellness experiences you have never tried, and you leave with a plan for your next chapter. Details at audaciouslyunapologetic.com.    

Default settings are great for printers and computers. Not for people.   In this episode of Lead with Spark, Lynsey Mulder sits down with corporate communication coach Amy Greensmith for one of the most honest and practical conversations on people-pleasing, burnout, and using your voice that you are going to find anywhere. Amy has been working in the personal development space for over twenty years, and her work lives at the intersection of two things: believing in your own inherent worthiness, and then learning to communicate that to the outside world with confidence instead of guilt.   This episode will challenge the way you think about people-pleasing. Most high-achieving women do not recognize themselves in that label. Amy's first question to them: are you heavily invested in other people's opinions? If the answer is yes, welcome to the club.   You will also hear about fear optimization, a concept Amy coined to replace the impossible standard of fearlessness. About two kinds of burnout and which one you might already be in without knowing it. About the difference between an affirmation and progressive language and why one of them actually works. And about the complaint inventory, the simplest tool Amy knows for figuring out exactly where your boundary work needs to start.   This is a conversation full of tools you can use today. Do not miss Amy's free Boundaries Over Burnout private podcast series in the show notes below.   Together We Will Talk About Why high-achieving women often do not recognize themselves as people-pleasers and the one question that changes that The two types of people-pleasing: self-preservation versus outsourcing your self-worth, and why both matter The fawn response and where people-pleasing comes from at a biological level How to tell if you are people-pleasing strategically versus betraying yourself to keep someone else comfortable How socialization and upbringing shape the way women speak up (or do not) in professional settings Why fearlessness is not real and the concept of being fear-optimized instead The question that separates real danger from something that is just new Progressive language as a tool for getting around your own inner critic How to use evidence-based self-talk instead of affirmations that your brain will reject The two stages of burnout: engagement burnout and systemic burnout, and the warning signs of each The complaint inventory and how to use it to find your first boundary opportunity A real client story about a nurse practitioner who changed her entire relationship with her workplace in one honest conversation   One Line to Take Away with You "Default settings are great for printers and computers. Not for people."   Connect with Amy and Lynsey Amy's free Boundaries Over Burnout private podcast series is a mini-course with scripts, frameworks, and workbook pages you can use immediately. It is available right now at the link below. Free Boundaries Over Burnout Series Amy's website: amygreensmith.com Amy on LinkedIn: @heyamygreensmith Amy on Instagram: @heyamygreensmith Amy on Facebook: @heyamygreensmith   And if this conversation sparked something about how you show up as a leader, in the boardroom or at home, Lynsey would love to continue that conversation with you. Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder

We are halfway through the year. How did that even happen?   In this solo episode of Lead with Spark, Lynsey Mulder gets honest about where her own year stands, the book she is writing, the retreat she is planning, the course she has not started, and what she has learned about protecting summer before it disappears one unplanned Friday night at a time. And she brings all of it back to a question every professional woman needs to sit with before the second half of the year runs away without her.   The time went somewhere. It always goes somewhere. The question is whether you chose where it went.   This is not an episode about doing more or hustling harder or fixing your life by Friday. This is about the mid-year reset: pausing long enough to ask what you actually want to carry into the second half, what deserves your best energy, and how to make your calendar tell the truth about what matters most.   Lynsey covers what the SparkLife framework means in real life, why your rest is not a reward for finishing everything, how to do a team reset without a seventy-page slide deck, and the simple but powerful act of building a summer bucket list with intention. She closes with the SparkLife Calendar Challenge, a thirty-minute reset you can do right now before the second half of the year gets away from you.   Together We Will Talk About What an honest mid-year check-in looks like, including the goals that are moving and the ones sitting quietly in the corner Why the time always goes somewhere and the only real question is whether you chose where How we lose summer not in one big moment but one unplanned week at a time Why blocking PTO before you know the destination is one of the most intentional moves a leader can make What SparkLife really means and how your calendar reveals whether you are actually living your priorities Why your rest is not a reward for finishing everything and your joy is not something you earn after everyone else is taken care of How to do a mid-year team reset that actually creates alignment and does not require a seventy-page deck Why people support what they help create and what that means for how you plan the second half with your team The summer bucket list concept and why anticipation and intention both matter The SparkLife Calendar Challenge: your thirty-minute reset for the second half of the year   One Line to Take Away with You "The second half of the year is not about doing more. It is about choosing with intention."   SparkLife Calendar Challenge Take 30 minutes this week. Sit down with your calendar. Put your top priorities on it first. Not what is urgent. What matters most. Family, PTO, rest, connection, the milestone you want to celebrate. Make your calendar tell the truth about what you are choosing. That is your reset.   Connect with Lynsey If this episode made you think of someone who is carrying a lot and needs permission to choose the second half of her year differently, send it to her. And if you are ready to go deeper on living and leading with intention, reach out and connect: Website: Lynseymulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder

You are the one who delivers. You are excellent at your job, everyone knows it, and yet the promotion keeps going somewhere else. When you ask for feedback you hear a polished version of we need to see you operating at the next level, and inside you think I already am. Here is the part that stings before it sets you free. The problem is not that you are not good enough. The problem is that you are too good at the wrong altitude. In this episode I name the tactical trap, the moment your competence stops being your ladder and quietly becomes your ceiling. We talk about why the very thing you are proudest of can read as the reason you are not ready to lead, and exactly how to climb out. If you are stuck a level below where you know you belong, this one is for you. It is the difference between doing the job and leading the job, and it is the heart of executive presence and real career confidence for women in leadership. Together we will talk about Why the pattern that earned every promotion you have, doing the work and doing it well, flips on you somewhere between manager and senior leader The three quiet reasons it feels so hard to put the doing down, and which one is yours How the tactical trap is a cousin of imposter syndrome, and why that matters The player and the coach, and why the role you want is not better playing Executive presence in plain terms, and the bet your leaders are actually making Why curiosity reads as more senior than certainty in a high stakes room Four moves you can put in your back pocket starting this week One line to take away with you You are not stuck because you are falling short. You are succeeding at the wrong altitude, and the way up is not to do more. It is to lead through other people. Connect with Lynsey Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder If this episode stirred something up and you want a partner for the climb, that is the work I do with leaders every day. Come find me at lynseymulder.com and grab a free discovery session. We will figure out your current altitude and how to get you to the next one, together.

This episode is coming straight from Lynsey Mulder's Iowa backyard, where summer has officially arrived, everything is growing, everything is blooming, and apparently everything has collectively decided to test her leadership skills on the way.   In this solo episode of Lead with Spark, Lynsey turns four very real backyard situations, carpenter bees boring into the deck, barn swallows relentlessly rebuilding their nests, rabbits making themselves at home in her strawberry patch, and deer calmly strolling through the yard near her newly planted trees, into four of the most practical leadership lessons she has shared on this podcast.   Together they form what Lynsey is calling The Backyard Leadership Filter: a framework of four questions every leader can ask about the situations, people, patterns, and priorities in their life and work. Each question points to a different kind of leadership response: redirect, redesign, set a boundary, or protect early.   This is the episode for the woman leader who is absorbing too much, tolerating too much, cleaning up the same thing over and over, or trying to grow something new and wondering why it keeps getting damaged before it has a chance to take root.   Together We Will Talk About Why good intention does not erase real impact, and how to have the conversation anyway The difference between handling a problem and leading through it How the things you keep cleaning up might be telling you something about your system instead of your situation Why the small, cute, non-dramatic energy leaks in your leadership are often the most costly ones How over-functioning can masquerade as helpfulness until it becomes burnout Why prevention is stewardship and what it looks like to protect what is still growing The dangerous side of tolerance and how what you tolerate teaches people what is acceptable The Backyard Leadership Filter: four practical questions to assess any situation in your life or leadership Why you do not have to choose between being kind and being clear   One Line to Take Away with You "You are not being difficult. You are being clear. And clarity is a gift."   The Backyard Leadership Filter Four questions to help you assess any situation in your work or life: Is this valuable but misplaced? (The carpenter bee situation: redirect or reinforce the structure) Is the same problem being repeated? (The barn swallow situation: stop cleaning up and redesign the system) Is this small but quietly costly? (The rabbit situation: set a clear, calm boundary) Is this something new that needs protection? (The deer situation: protect it early before the pressure hits)   Connect with Lynsey Website: lynseymulder.com LinkedIn: Lynsey Mulder Instagram: Lynsey Mulder Facebook: Lynsey Mulder If this episode made you think of your own carpenter bee, barn swallow, rabbit, or deer situation, Lynsey would love to hear about it. Share it with her and send this episode to one woman leader in your life who is carrying too much, tolerating too much, or trying to protect something new.

What if executive presence is not only about how you show up in a room, but how you sound in every email, proposal, message, and comment with your name on it? In this episode of Lead with Spark, Lynsey Mulder sits down with Grace Aldridge Foster to unpack why writing is part of your brand and how leaders can use words more intentionally at work. Grace is the co-founder and principal of Bold Type, a writing training company that has helped professionals at organizations including UPS, Capital One, Johnson & Johnson, Biogen, the Aspen Institute, the National Park Service, and the U.S. Special Operations Command communicate more clearly and effectively. She is also a Forbes Careers and Leadership contributor, a guest lecturer at Georgetown, and a judge for the Center for Plain Language. Together, Lynsey and Grace talk about journaling as a tool for clarity in an AI-heavy world, the ART framework for stronger communication, how to create a personal voice statement, and why style guides can save leaders from rewriting everyone else's messages at 10:30 p.m. Again. This conversation is practical, energizing, and full of tools your audience can start using right away. Together we will talk about why your writing shapes your executive presence, influence, and reputation why journaling is having a moment again and how to make it simple, useful, and not performative the ART framework: Audience, Result, Tone how to create a personal voice statement so your writing sounds like you why style guides and clearer writing standards strengthen teams and culture one practical one-week challenge to improve communication immediately One line to take away with you Your writing speaks for you before you ever walk in the room, so make sure it sounds like the leader you are. Connect with Grace Website: boldtype.us Forbes contributor page: forbes.com/sites/gracefoster LinkedIn: Grace-Aldridge-Foster Instagram: Bold_Type Connect with Lynsey Website: lynseymulder.com LinkedIn: Lynsey Mulder Instagram: Lynsey Mulder Facebook: Lynsey Mulder

She used to walk into work with her shoulders squared and her ideas ready to go. She loved her job. She was good at it. People counted on her to figure it out, hold the line, and deliver.   And then something shifted. Not all at once. In small increments over months. A comment in a meeting that landed harder than it should have. A decision made about her without her. A version of events she knew was not quite right but did not know how to challenge. The quiet realization that instincts that had served her brilliantly for years were now being treated as inconvenient.   By the time she finally left or started seriously planning to leave, she did not just need a new job. She needed to learn how to trust again.   If you know her, this episode is for her. Or maybe it is for the friend you are about to send it to.   In this episode of Lead with Spark, Lynsey Mulder names something most career advice completely misses: the trust tax. That invisible erosion that a difficult reporting relationship leaves behind. The second-guessing of instincts that used to come easy. The hedged opinions. The disproportionate reactions in the new role that no one at the new place caused and no one can see.   And she gives you the path forward. A three-layer trust rebuild framework that you have to work in a specific order: trust in your own read, trust in discernment over defensiveness, and then trust in another leader. Skip a layer and the next one will not hold.   This episode is for any high-achieving woman who has come out of a hard reporting relationship and is doing the quiet, daily, invisible work of getting herself back.   Together We Will Talk About What the trust tax actually is and why career advice almost never addresses it Why leaving a difficult boss is the beginning of the rebuild, not the end of it The three layers of trust that a difficult manager erodes and why they must be rebuilt in a specific order The 30-day practice for rebuilding trust in your own instincts The one question that separates healed discernment from protective defensiveness Why high-achieving women tend to skip directly to layer three and why that backfires What rebuilding actually looks like in daily, real life Why you do not have to be fully healed before you move forward The BANK framework and how understanding your communication code is one of the fastest ways to quiet the noise from the last environment   One Line to Take Away with You "The rebuild is not a prerequisite for moving forward. The rebuild is something you do while you move forward."   Listener Reflection Prompt Of the three layers, trust in your own read, trust in discernment over defensiveness, and trust in another leader, which one is the most fragile for you right now? That is the layer you start with. Not the next one.   Connect with Lynsey Before you walk into your next role or your next interview, take the free Crack Your Code BANK assessment. It takes about ninety seconds, and understanding your own communication and decision-making blueprint is one of the fastest ways to start trusting your own read again. The link is in the show notes. And if this episode landed somewhere real for you, send it to one woman in your life who you know is in the middle of a rebuild. She may not have had words for what she has been going through. This episode might give her some. Free Crack Your Code BANK assessment Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder

What if the most powerful leadership move you could make right now had nothing to do with adding something new to your life, and everything to do with quitting something that has quietly been draining it?   Lynsey Mulder just finished a book about a group of friends who made a pact. They called themselves the Quitters Club. And the concept stopped her cold, because every single woman she has ever coached has needed one. She just did not know she was allowed to join.   In this episode of Lead with Spark, Lynsey makes the case for quitting on purpose, not your job, not your marriage, not anything dramatic, but the smaller, quieter things you have been doing on autopilot that are slowly draining the life out of you while you pretend they are important. She shares six things she personally quit after reading the book, three signs it is time to quit something in your own life, and a surprisingly simple tool from the end of the book that will tell you how you already feel about any decision you have been agonizing over.   Because quitting did not shrink Lynsey's life. It expanded it. And it might do the same for yours.   Together We Will Talk About Why high-achieving women are often the last to give themselves permission to quit anything The difference between quitting as giving up and quitting as giving in to who you actually are now Six things Lynsey personally quit and what each one made room for instead The three signs that something is ready to be let go of, even if it used to matter deeply The sunk cost trap and why continuing to drain yourself never earns back what you already spent The emotional labor women carry for everyone else and what happens when you finally put it down The coin flip tool that bypasses your overthinking and exposes what you already know Your homework: three things to write down and what to do with them How to get support if you know you are ready to quit something but have no idea what comes next   One Line to Take Away with You "Every quit is a yes to something else. When I quit that networking group, I said yes to ninety minutes back in my week. When I quit comparing myself, I said yes to my own life. Every quit is a yes."   Connect with Lynsey If this episode landed for you and you are ready to figure out what is on your list and what comes after it, book a collaboration hour with Lynsey. It is one conversation, just you and her, to sort through what you are ready to put down and what to build next. The link is in the show notes at lynseymulder.com. Book a collaboration hour Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder And if this episode resonated with you, send it to one friend you would invite into your own Quitters Club. She has a list too. She just has not written it down yet.    

Every woman Lynsey Mulder has coached in the last sixty days who is in the middle of a pivot has said the same thing, almost apologetically: I just feel like I should have figured this out sooner.   Sooner than what? Sooner than the body breaking down? Sooner than eighteen months of broken trust with a manager? Sooner than the blood pressure reading that finally told the truth about the calendar?   In this episode of Lead with Spark, Lynsey unpacks what the word pivot actually means, and why the way most professional women have been using it is keeping them stuck. A pivot is not a sign that you got it wrong. A pivot is a sign that you finally got honest. And there is a massive difference between those two things.   Lynsey walks through the foundation she uses with every coaching client in the middle of a pivot, including three specific signs that it is time to make a real move (not a panic move), two clarifying questions to separate discomfort from genuine misalignment, and why sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is stop, take a break, and let clarity find you.   If you are sitting in the middle of a pivot right now and feeling like you should have seen it coming sooner, this episode is for you.   Together We Will Talk About Why the story we were all told about changing direction is quietly keeping brilliant women stuck The difference between a reversal and a recalibration, and why that distinction changes everything Three signs that it is time for a real pivot (not a panic move) Why your body will pivot before your professional identity is ready to admit it The question to ask when you are defending a decision you would not make today What it means when the version of you that is emerging can no longer fit into the container you built How to tell the difference between running from discomfort and honoring a truth Two questions that have changed the paths of more of Lynsey's clients than almost anything else she has asked Why taking a break is sometimes the most strategic thing you can do in the middle of a pivot How to make micro-movements toward what is next without having to know the whole plan   One Line to Take Away with You "A pivot is not a sign that you got it wrong. A pivot is a sign that you finally got honest."   Connect with Lynsey If this episode sparked something in you, Lynsey wants to hear about it. Share your pivot with her so she can celebrate with you. And if you are ready for a real conversation about what your next season looks like, reach out at lynseymulder.com. Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder

There is a gap in leadership development that almost no one is talking about. The higher you climb, the less support you get. Senior managers, directors, and VPs are running multimillion-dollar budgets, leading complex teams, and navigating organizational politics, all while figuring it out largely on their own. Sound familiar? In this episode, I sit down with Lori Lalonde, a leadership development expert with 30 years in the tech industry, including senior roles at Microsoft partner organizations. Lori noticed the same gap I did: the training gets thinner the higher you go, and women in the messy middle of management are often the ones carrying the most weight with the least runway. So she built a program to fix it. We talk about her 12-week leadership development program for women, how she is weaving AI fluency into every module, and why she believes women are positioned to be the most credible thought leaders in AI right now, not despite their hesitation, but because of it. We also get into the real talk: how to actually start using AI without feeling overwhelmed, where hallucinations can burn you if you are not paying attention, and why the fear that AI will take your job is the wrong thing to be afraid of. This one moves fast and it goes deep. Let us get into it.   Together We Will Talk About Why leadership development disappears at the senior manager and director level, and what that costs organizations The messy middle of management: what it is, why women feel it hardest, and what to do about it Lori's 12-week leadership program designed for women in senior manager to VP roles The skills the program builds: strategic leadership, financial acumen, AI strategy, board readiness, and crisis leadership Why women are slower to adopt AI, and why that actually positions them to lead responsibly How to start using AI today without technical expertise, starting with the tasks you hate most AI hallucinations, fact-checking, and how to evaluate AI outputs instead of accepting them The environmental cost of AI infrastructure and why it matters for how we use it How to use AI to communicate better across different personality types and cultural backgrounds   One Line to Take Away with You "If this program doesn't exist for us, I'm just gonna build it."   Connect with Lori Lalonde Web: herexecutiveascent.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/lorilalonde Substack: https://herexecutiveascent.substack.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/her_executive_ascent Leadership Recalibrated Podcast Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/73cQNaSjQdDTAKC5fiEf0D Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/leadership-recalibrated/id1869939398   Connect with Lynsey Go check out everything Lori is doing using the links in these show notes, and listen to her podcast. Then come back here and get your spark on. Pick one thing from this episode, one task you would love to hand off, and go play with it. I mean it. Start today. Ready to build your own leadership strategy? Connect with Lynsey at lynseymulder.com. Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder

Picture your week. Not the highlight reel, not the version you would put on social media, but the real one. The walk you skipped because someone moved a meeting. The lunch you ate at your desk for the third day in a row. The text from a friend you keep meaning to answer and still have not. Now ask yourself one question: was the reason all of that happened actually urgent? Or was it just loud? In this solo episode of Lead with Spark, Lynsey Mulder tackles one of the most common patterns she sees in the women she coaches right now: we have gotten really good at responding to loud and really bad at protecting what actually matters to us. And she is not here to sell you a calendar overhaul, a new app, or a five o'clock morning routine. She is here to help you find the fifteen-minute pockets that already exist in your life and start making different choices in them. This episode walks you through a practical three-part framework: a simple audit to see where your time, money, and energy are actually going, a comparison to your real top priorities so you can find the gaps, and a way to protect what you reclaim with small, specific, durable decisions that do not require permission or flexibility from anyone else. Plus, Lynsey breaks down the one question you need to ask every time something comes buzzing at you, and what the honest answer to that question actually means for how you respond. Together We Will Talk About Why the gap between what you say matters and how you actually live is not laziness or poor planning, and what it actually is The three-part audit that shows you exactly where your time, money, and energy are going right now How to compare your real priorities to your actual calendar and find the pockets you did not know existed What a genuine decision looks like versus a wish, and how to tell the difference The two things that must both be true for something to actually qualify as urgent Why small, consistent decisions are more durable than dramatic overhauls How to communicate what you are protecting before the collision happens, and what to actually say The one question to ask yourself every time something makes your shoulders rise toward your ears One Line to Take Away with You "The life you say matters most to you is built in the 15-minute pockets that you choose to protect." Connect with Lynsey If you are sitting there thinking you do not even know where to start anymore, there is a free coaching conversation waiting for you at lynseymulder.com. No pitch, no pressure, just a real hour to get clear on what is loud, what is urgent, and what is actually yours. Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder And if this episode hit close to home, send it to one woman you know who needs to hear it. The friend who keeps saying she is fine, but you can tell she is not. She will know what to do with it.

What does it actually take to lead at a high level without burning out? In this solo Lead with Spark episode, Lynsey Mulder shares a powerful reflection from a recent leadership panel centered around one question: what does it really take to lead well without losing yourself in the process? Drawing on her own experience in corporate leadership and decades of coaching, Lynsey unpacks the truth about burnout, the difference between activity and impact, and the leadership shifts that lead to sustainable success. She walks through four key areas: redefining high performance, protecting your time and energy, building habits that sustain you, and leading others without losing yourself. If you are a high-performing leader who feels constantly busy, stretched thin, or quietly exhausted, this conversation will challenge how you think about leadership and give you a clearer, more grounded way forward.   Together, we will talk about Why burnout often shows up quietly, not dramatically The difference between activity and impact in leadership How identity gets tied to productivity and performance Why boundaries must be visible, not just internal The importance of energy management over time management How non-negotiables create clarity and sustainability Why leaders set the cultural thermostat for their teams Practical habits that sustain long-term performance   One line to take away with you You do not need to do more to lead better; you need to lead with more clarity, intention, and sustainability.   Connect with Lynsey Website: lynseymulder.com LinkedIn: Lynsey Mulder Instagram: Lynsey Mulder Facebook: Lynsey Mulder