Episodes
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4 Reasons You Attract Narcissists & How To Repel Them
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO Social Media: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschoo Have you found that you keep attracting narcissists? Narcissists make awful partners, so why do some people get entangled with…
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Can You Change Your Partner?
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO Social Media: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Do you have someone in your life whom you love and care deeply for, but being with them makes you miserable? You can't help but wish…
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Why Does Your Partner Put You Down or Devalue You?
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO Social Media: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool "My partner puts me down, and I don't know why." Is this your reality? If so, you need to know what's behind your partner's belittling...
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How To Be "Lucky In Love"
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO Social Media: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschoo Being lucky in love isn’t like being struck by lightning — it’s a lot less random (and painful) than we think. So what's the secret? In...
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Crucial Dating Mindsets For The Anxiously Attached
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO Social Media: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschoo If your attachment style is Anxiously Attached, dating is often far from fun. Waiting for text messages, confirming plans, and not…
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How To Break The Anxious-Avoidant Trap
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO Social Media: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschoo Do you tend to choose partners that don't want as much intimacy as you or the reverse? Are you tired of drama-filled, push-pull...
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6 Things To Stop Doing If You Want To Be More Confident
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO Social Media: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschoo People often ask me what they can do to stop feeling insecure and improve their confidence. But the curious thing is… Self-confidence is...
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6 Mindsets to Dramatically Speed Up Your Healing
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO Social Media: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschoo Emotional trauma, whether it's abuse or a painful event, can leave you struggling with difficult emotions, memories, and flashbacks that...
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Anxiously Attached Relationship Strategies That Do Not Work (And What Do To Instead)
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO Social Media: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschoo Because of deep-seated insecurity from their past, Anxiously Attached people often can behave in ways that seem desperate, insecure,...
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8 Signs of Borderline Personality Disorder
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO Social Media: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschoo Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental health disorder that affects roughly 1.5% of the population. It impacts the way people...
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Signs You Might Have the Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO Social Media: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool In relationships, do you oscillate between anxious behaviors like clinginess, jealousy, and keeping score and avoidant behaviors such…
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Healing the Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO The Fearful-Avoidant attachment style is rare; only about 2% of people have this as their predominant attachment style. This style combines the worst features of the Anxious and...
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Understanding the Fearful-Avoidant Partner
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO The fearful-avoidant attachment style is both the rarest and least understood form of attachment style. This attachment style is generally born out of trauma and is a combination of…
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How to Do Low Contact Like a Pro
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO Is there someone in your life that drains your energy every time you spend time with them, but you have trouble letting them go? Maybe it's a family member, a friend you've known for a...
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3 Reasons Your Partner Give For Not Marrying That Are Just Excuses
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO Have you been in a relationship for a while, but it doesn’t seem to be progressing toward marriage? In this episode, I cover some of the most common reasons people bring up for not...
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Is Cohabitating Before Marriage a Good Idea?
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO If you've been dating for a while, the topic of whether to move in together will come up. Close to 70% of people cohabitate before marriage, and the number has been rising over the…
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Anxiously Attached: Handling Abandonment Triggers in Relationships
Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO If you have the anxious attachment style, there's a high chance that you could misread your partner's behavior as a sign of abandonment. You get into a vicious cycle in which you have fear…
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What happens when you love someone with Low Self-Esteem
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO Are you dating someone with low self-esteem? We all know that people who have low self-esteem suffer from feeling unlovable and not good enough, but being in a relationship with…
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What Keeps People Stuck In Toxic Relationships
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO Is there someone you care about that's stuck in a toxic relationship and can't seem to leave? Maybe they left then went back, and this back and forth happened repeatedly over the…
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Why Do I Miss My Toxic Ex (And How To Stay Strong Post Leaving)
TRIBE Women-Only Membership Program: https://bit.ly/Anchor2TRIBE Free Self-Love PDF: https://bit.ly/Anchor22xOTO If you've just left a toxic relationship but are struggling emotionally, you are not alone. Many survivors of toxic relationships are baffled why they still miss their ex when the...
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How to Connect with A Dismissive-Avoidant Partner
Free Self-Love PDF: https://lifeisloveschool.krtra.com/t/fS5TorkWjNXc TRIBE Women-Only Program: https://www.lifeisloveschool.com/TRIBE Connect with fellow survivors: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool If you want more intimacy, dating a partner who has the dismissive-avoidant attachment style can...
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What To Do When Someone Guilt Trips You
Free Self-Love PDF: https://lifeisloveschool.krtra.com/t/fS5TorkWjNXc Connect with fellow survivors: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool For many people, breaking the people-pleasing pattern and setting boundaries poses a unique challenge during the holidays. If you were taught that your value…
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9 Dating Mindsets Mistakes (And What To Do Instead)
Free Self-Love PDF: https://lifeisloveschool.krtra.com/t/fS5TorkWjNXc Connect with fellow survivors: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool The wild world of dating can be a tricky one to navigate. After all, "How to Date" is not a skill they teach you in school, but dating well is essential to your...
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When To Leave A Relationship
Free Self-Love PDF: https://lifeisloveschool.krtra.com/t/fS5TorkWjNXc Connect with fellow survivors: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool It isn't always clear when to leave a relationship. How do you know if your partnership can be fixed, or is beyond repair? Of course, emotional and physical…
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Autumn's Story: How healing myself healed my children
Free Self-Love PDF: https://lifeisloveschool.krtra.com/t/fS5TorkWjNXc Connect with fellow survivors: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool In today's episode, I interview Autumn, TRIBE founding member, mom of four sons, ICU nurse manager, and one of the most courageous, inspiring, and growth-minded...
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5 Tips to Finding a Healthy Relationship If You Are Anxiously Attached
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool If you’re constantly worrying about your partners, feel like they don’t like you as much as you like them, want to see them 24/7, need constant reassurance from them, then you’re probably anxiously…
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How to Handle Gaslighting
Connect with fellow survivors and access healing resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool A form of emotional abuse common to many toxic family systems is gaslighting. Experiencing gaslighting in any relationship is damaging, but the effects can be even more devastating when coming from a...
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How to Overcome the Fear of Failure
Connect with fellow survivors and access healing resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Have you ever wanted to take a risk, whether that's in your love life, your career, or moving to a new place, but fear of failure holds you back from taking that first step? Children and adults who have...
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How To Deal With My Sister's Criticism
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool We often think that our friends and family should have our back, but sometimes they are the ones that pour a bucket of cold water down our heads. In this episode, I answer a question about how to handle…
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Understanding The Dismissive-Avoidant Partner
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool The dismissive-avoidant is one of the most misunderstood attachment styles. A dismissive-avoidant often show up in relationships as someone who: Prefers keeping the connection on the surface-level Focuses…
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Revictimization Why Bad Things Keep Happening To You?
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Freud coined the term “repetition compulsion” to describe the puzzling phenomenon where an abuse victim repeatedly puts themselves in situations that replicate the distress they experienced in an earlier...
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How to Find a Great Partner After Experiencing Abuse (Part II)
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool In this episode, I continue from the last episode (Listen to Part I) and cover additional tips for how to date smart so you find a great partner and prevent the common traps that suck survivors into…
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How to Find a Great Partner After Experiencing Abuse (Part I)
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool People who suffered childhood abuse tend to do one of two things as adults: isolate to avoid getting hurt again, or turn to toxic individuals who remind them of their abusive caretakers. Revictimization…
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How to Break the Trauma Bond
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Have you ever been in a toxic or even outright abusive relationship but find it next to impossible to leave? A part of you that knows the relationship is unhealthy and wreaking havoc on your mental health....
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How to Stop Self-Blame After a Breakup
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool When something bad happens, do you automatically think it's your fault? Many childhood trauma survivors tend to default to self-blame. When you were little, developmentally, you could not see beyond…
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Why People Don't Recognize They Were Abused in Childhood (Part II)
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool This is a follow up to part I: https://anchor.fm/life-is-love-school/episodes/Why-People-Dont-Recognize-They-Were-Abused-in-Childhood-Part-I-e148i15/a-a4969gp
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How to Trust Again After Experiencing Trauma
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Do you tell yourself: I don't need anyone. I can do everything myself. If I let people in, they will hurt me. If you suffered abuse at the hands of people you once trusted, feeling that you have your back…
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Why People Don't Recognize They Were Abused in Childhood (Part I)
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool It takes the average childhood abuse victim 24 years to reveal their trauma history, even though disclosure is often the key to recovery. Some survivors choose to keep silent to avoid potential stigma, but...
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5 reasons people don't recognize they're being abused
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Have you ever counseled a friend who is obviously in an abusive relationship but they don't seem to recognize it? To an outsider, it can be baffling why someone chooses to stay in an abusive relationship...
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How to Stop Over Apologizing — Say This Instead
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Over-apologizing is when you have the habit of saying "I'm sorry" when you don't need to. Here are some examples: You approach the receptionists at your doctor's office by saying, "I'm sorry to bother you.…
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Why People Don't Recognize They Were Abused in Childhood (Part II)
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool It takes the average childhood abuse victim 24 years to reveal their trauma history, even though disclosure is often the key to recovery. Some survivors choose to keep silent to avoid potential stigma, but...
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7 Signs You're in a Healthy Relationship
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool People often spend a lot of time talking about red flags and how to spot a toxic relationship, but there is a lot less discussion about what constitutes a healthy relationship. In this episode, I share 7...
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Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Attachment Styles
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Do you ever wonder if there's a link between Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and attachment styles? When people think about NPD, they think of someone like a Don Draper — A person with an inflated...
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How to Heal the Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Do you feel insecure in relationships? Have you acted out because of your overwhelming insecurity? Are you worried that your protest behavior (acting clinging, jealous, upset) is pushing your partner away?...
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6 Simple Ways to Stop Self-Sabotaging Behaviors
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Do you know what kills the most dreams? It’s not lack of education, money, preparation, but our internal resistance. The more we want something, the stronger the resistance inside of us fights back....
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How to Crush Stress at Work with Lolita Guarin
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Do you work for an unreasonable boss? Do you wish that you are better at saying no so you’re not always overwhelmed? Do you want to feel more peace but struggle with the how? If so, this episode is for…
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How To Redesign Your Life in Midlife
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool Midlife is when many people start to wonder if they are on the right path. This question could feel unsettling, even scary. After all, by midlife, most of us have invested a few decades in our chosen line…
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How to Talk To Your Partner When The Stakes Are High
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool The sign of a healthy relationship isn't that two people never fight. In fact, it's often a sign of problems. Either the couple suppresses their emotions, which leads to mounting resentment, or one or both...
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30 Signs You Suffered Childhood Trauma Part II
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool As a follow-up to the previous episode, which covers signs 1 through 15, in this episode, I cover 16 through 30 of the common signs that you suffered childhood trauma. If you think you are uniquely broken...
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30 Signs You're Dealing With Childhood Trauma Part I
Connect with fellow survivors and access free resources: https://linktr.ee/lifeisloveschool In the USA, nearly 700,000 children are abused in U.S each year. Unfortunately, trauma leaves a legacy; research by the CDC shows that trauma survivors are more likely to die by suicide, suffer chronic...
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