Episodes
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IF 022: Flogging and Magic – Part II
While the world has indeed shifted since Ginger and Ryan recorded this meandering conversation about plans for 2020, the commitment to personal growth is as important as ever. Enjoy this second half of their deep and optimistic musings on one lovely Sunday afternoon. Send feedback or suggestions...
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IF 021: Flogging and Magic – Part I
It's a Sunday morning, well, afternoon actually after an especially adventurous night. Ginger and Ryan are lounging in the afterglow. The conversation then turns deep and introspective as they explore where their paths have taken them over the last year. From flogging to magic to future…
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OTWC 39 – Texting, Sexting, and Messaging
There's a certain art to crafting the right kind of message to convey what we're feeling via characters on a screen. Since so much of modern communication is done on said screens it can be a lot of work figuring out your personal style and mode of messaging. Non-monogamous people spend extra time...
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IF 020: Creating Smooth Sailing in Relationship Communication
Ginger and Ryan take you for another sail while they reflect on communication in relationships. Healthy and unhealthy, effective and ineffective, and strategies for moving through the simultaneity of emotion and challenging communication. In this longer episode the first fifteen minutes of the...
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OTWC 38 – Accountability and Consent – On The Wet Coast
Accountability and Consent can feel like the least fun topics to discuss when it comes to sexy lifestyles but when we really focus on building these factors in a way that lets go of the definitions used by the justice system and focuses on the subjective experiences of the parties, our kink and...
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IF 019: Coming About and About Coming
Ginger and Ryan get frisky and talk orgasms while sailing. While orgasms obtained by any method are delightful, some climaxes create a little more toe curlin' than others. Ginger puts Ryan on the spot to name his top five ways to orgasm and she returns the favor. Come aboard! (Heh.) Send feedback...
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IF 018: Intimacy Through Technology (and Sexy Storytime!)
Ginger and Ryan invite you onto the deck in the sunshine as they opine about one of their favorite sex positions! Eventually they get to talking about different apps, media, and technology that cultivate intimacy between the two of them and also among their whole polycule. One part saucy...
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IF 017: Getting Naughty!
In the first ever episode with guests, Ginger and Ryan are joined by Dr. Dave and Dylan in a bedcast from our trip to Naughty in N'awlins after a stellar dinner and then a creative round one of sexy time. All manner of New Orleans reflection including delicious food, drinks, and desserts parlay...
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OTWC 035 – Sexual Confidence – On The Wet Coast
We're always told that confidence is sexy, but how do we find the confidence to be our true sexual selves? How do we embrace our bodies and our kinks so we can enjoy the kinds of sex we desire? Finding the confidence in ourselves while living in a society that is all about tearing us [...]
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IF 016: Examining our Relationship(s)
Ginger and Ryan dig deep into their own relationship, as well as their current and past poly relationships, and explore what's worked for them and where they've fallen short. They call this process 'holding up the mirror' for each other to reflect back to each other the real thoughts and emotions...
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IF 015: Our Becoming and Truthtelling
Ginger and Ryan pickup from the story of his multiple strokes in Episode 14 and discuss how it's impacted their relationship and life perspectives. (Part 2 of 2)
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IF 014: Back from the Edge
Ginger and Ryan (aka Prof) reveal the story of Prof’s multiple strokes and the myriad ways that this near death experience has shifted both their perspectives and impacted their relationship. (Part 1 of 2)
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OTWC 034 – Chosen Family – On The Wet Coast
Finding your people can be one of the most important things you do as you make your way in the world, and when you find them, it feels like coming home. Feels like family. Many of us have found a group or groups of people we consider to be family. Chosen family as opposed to [...]
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OTWC 033 – Get Your Flirt On – On The Wet Coast
Figuring out how to express our interest in someone can be one of the most challenging things in dating, especially if we find them really attractive, fun, or interesting. What do we say? What if they're not into it? Why is it so hard to express ourselves in a fun, clear, non-creepy way? If what...
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MA 218: I’ve HALTed. Now What? – Multiamory
We had a good ranting session during recording the previous episode in regard to gender specific experiences when it comes to having arguments and yelling. We chat about how raising voices and expressing ones self differs by gender and how it is percieved can be gender specific as well. We…
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MA 217: Commitment in Non-Monogamy – Multiamory
Commitment is so often misunderstood when it comes to non-monogamy. We discuss definitions of commitment and identifying the traditional markers of commitment we've all grown up with. We realize that it can be difficult defining what it means exactly within the confines of non-monogamy as it...
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MA 216: What is Emotional Support? – Multiamory
So what exactly is emotional support. How do you ask for it? How do you go about learning what kind of emotional support that you need. What kind does your partner need? Even not knowing what kind of support you need in the moment and admitting it can go a long way! On this episode, [...]
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OTWC 032 – Sex Work Matters – On The Wet Coast
Since the passage of FOSTA/SESTA in the US, sexual content on the internet has been progressively quashed, starting with shutting down places sex workers could advertise but flowing forward until Tumblr was all but shuttered when they were no longer allowed to have sexual content. Various…
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MA 215: The Science of Jealousy – Multiamory
Jealousy happens in all types of relationships, but what is the science behind why we respond with jealousy to certain situations. What happens inside our bodies and minds in response things that make us feel jealousy. On this episode, we explore the scientific why behind jealousy and some ways…
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MA 214: Ghosts of Normativity Past – Multiamory
Are you suffering from a Monogamy Hangover? We'll give you a dose of medicine to help cure what ails you. Many of us have been given a set of relationship expectations growing up and with changing those expectations, some pieces of those old beliefs and expectations are still left over. On this...
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OTWC 031 – Libido & Desire – On The Wet Coast
Our desire for sexual experiences–both solo and with a partner or partners–fluctuates for countless reasons. Stress, fatigue, hormones, depression, body image, and connectivity are just a few of the things that can affect a person’s libido. Since we live in such a sex negative society talking…
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MA 211: Thinking Critically about Sex Positivity and Sex Negativity – Multiamory
What does Sex Positivity and Sex Negativity actually mean? There is a lot of confusion surrounding these terms. People have a tendancy to throw these terms around with little to no explanation which just seems to add to the confusion. On this episode, we attempt to help define these two terms as...
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MA 210: Take the Fight Out of Your Fights – Multiamory
Conflict is inevitable, but conflict can be productive. Everyone gets into fights and arguments but that doesn't mean your relationship is unhealthy or in trouble. On this episode, we talk about fighting fair instead of fighting dirty. Some of us fight with the misconception that we MUST win the...
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MA 209: To Cohabitate or Not to Cohabitate, that IS the Question – Multiamory
Are you currently living together? Thinking about moving in? Why do you want to move in together? On this episode, we tackle some of the situations & questions that arise when cohabitation is on the table as well as statistics about living together for couples. We cover questions to ask yourself,...
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MA 208: Failure Is An Option – Multiamory
Failure is always an option, but it doesn't have to be the end of the world. We hear about failure quite a bit when it comes to schooling and even jobs/career but failure doesn't always get talked about in regard to relationships. It seems to be a dirty word when it comes to relationships because...
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MA 207: Self-Sabotage – Multiamory
Listen all ya'll, it's a sabotage! Okay this episode isn't really about the famous Beastie Boy song, it's about something much more serious. Self-Sabotage can be a vicious cycle. On this episode, we tackle self-Sabotage in relationships and in life. Procrastination, addiction, self-worth issues…
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OTWC 030 – Building Community – On The Wet Coast
If you're lucky, the place where you're living has a thriving sex -positive community and it takes little effort to find and take part in events such as meet-ups, workshops, and conventions. Most likely, that's not the case and either there isn't much of a community or the community that is there...
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MA 206: Attraction Perceptions & Misconceptions – Multiamory
What exactly IS attraction? How important is attraction? Why are we attracted to certain people or attributes? There are a lot of myths and misconceptions floating around out there. On this episode, we tackle what attraction is, how it affects who we choose as partners and even how attraction is...
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MA 205: Anger is Good for You – Multiamory
Anger is usually viewed as bad or something that should be stifled from a very young age. However, anger can be a force for good too! A lot of folks tend to repress their anger or express it in unhealthy ways. In this episode, we cover how to use your anger in a more positive [...]
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MA 204: Metamour Troubles & Struggles – Multiamory
What happens when you don't get along with your metamours? Or perhaps one of your metamours doesn't like you and you feel stuck in the middle. Today, we cover some of the struggles you might face in your polyamorous relationship(s). Things won't always go perfect, so we cover ways on how to...