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Hey lifers! Our guest Ask Uncut is BACK! Once a month (ish 😂) we bring in a special guest to help unpack your deep and burning questions, and this month's guest is the phenomenal, fabulous, one-of-a-kind drag queen Hannah Conda! You may also know her as Chris Collins, runner-up on RuPaul's Drag Race and a person who once seriously considered becoming a Catholic priest. The pipeline from seminary to sequins is more logical than you'd think, she assures us. Then we jump into your questions! MY BOYFRIEND CRIES DURING SEX. IS THIS NORMAL?I've been seeing a guy for about four months and he cries roughly one out of three times we have sex. He says he just gets overwhelmed and it's pretty normal. It was cute at the start but now it's putting me off. Is this somewhat normal? Is he telling the truth? I don't have a huge dating history so I genuinely don't know. MY BEST FRIEND LOST WEIGHT AND NOW I DREAD GOING OUT WITH HERMy best friend lost a lot of weight over the past year and looks incredible. I'm so happy for her. But our friendship has shifted. We used to be on the same level socially when we'd go out. Now she gets all the attention. She's more confident, and sometimes she feels a bit dismissive of me. I feel horrible even writing this. Am I a bad friend? I miss how we used to be. I GAVE MY BOYFRIEND A HANDY AND GOT NOTHING BACKMy boyfriend of over five years just laid there, hands behind his head, completely blissfully while I finished him off. He did not touch me once. I left him to clean himself up and didn't speak to him for hours. Do I have the right to be mad? Should I have stopped midway and asked if he was going to touch me back? MY PARTNER WON'T LET ME PEE IN FRONT OF HIMMy current partner of one year is wigged out if I go to the toilet while he's in the room. He'd rather I wait until he leaves. I find this a bit strange; it's never been an issue in past relationships. Are we peeing in front of our partners or not? And when we have kids, he won't have a choice, will he? IS THERE SUCH A THING AS TOO GLAM AT A WEDDING?I've been invited to a wedding and I want to do full glam; lashes, shimmer, colour, contour, the lot. My friends reckon it's disrespectful and that I'll look like I'm trying to be the main character. Is this actually a thing? You can find Hannah on Instagram at @hannahcondaofficial Brothers in Wigs is touring Brisbane, Sydney & Melbourne Comedy Festivals. You can find more from Hannah Conda at her website  Timestamps 0:00 — Introducing Hannah Conda: drag queen, RuPaul's runner-up & surprise birthday guest 1:45 — From Catholic priest to drag queen 8:45 — The Kardashian story: how Hannah ended up on the show  11:10 — How RuPaul's Drag Race changed drag and what Australian media still gets wrong 14:00 — Pettiest hill 16:45 — Listener Q: My boyfriend cries one in three times we have sex — is this normal? 23:40 — Listener Q: My best friend lost weight and now I dread going out with her 32:30 — Listener Q: I gave my boyfriend a handy and got absolutely nothing back 41:45 — Listener Q: My partner of one year won't let me pee in front of him 46:55 — Listener Q: Is there such a thing as too glam at a wedding? 50:45 — Hannah's partner, their love story and why they're skipping the wedding 52:30 — Brothers in Wigs: Hannah's comedy tour with her brother (two Perth boys in wigs 🎭) Ep mentioned: 'Laura Turns 40' when Laura got a personalised surprise performance by Hannah Conda: Apple | Spotify | YoutubeKeep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Surprise! Britt is BACK! Keeshia is filling in for Laura this week while she enjoys the school holidays, and the girls waste no time getting into it: the bonus episodes with Ben that had half of you sliding into Britt's DMs to check if she was okay! We have an honest chat about why some things are easier to talk about from a scar than a wound. Then - the trolls were right. After nearly 4 months straight with Ben (the longest stretch they've EVER spent together), Britt discovered something about her husband on the island of Capri that she genuinely cannot believe she didn't know. What did you find out embarrassingly late in your relationship?  Also, Britt left the country for four months and came back to find Keeshia beating butter with a scarf on her head. We get into cottage core, going crunchy, the microplastics rabbit hole, and the new counter-trend of "wellness anarchism" - because apparently cigarettes are back (they never left Europe). Then it's time for the deep dive: The Love Producer. Julie, Pilot Pete's lead producer on the US Bachelor, has released a tell-all memoir about their secret romance. Britt, who has lived the Bachelor experience from the inside, has THOUGHTS. We break down what a lead producer actually does, the two camps of the internet's reaction, Pilot Pete's response, and whether this was a love story or a gross misuse of power. Britt also opens up about her own finale and whether Nick's producers knew he was picking no one, and how she'd feel if that story ever got the Love Producer treatment. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Welcome back! Britt's surprise return, the Delilah handover standoff & the honest check-in10:38 — The trolls were right: Ben's secret allergy & what did you find out too late in your relationship17:00 — Keeshia's gone full cottage core: going crunchy, microplastics & wellness anarchism22:02 — The Love Producer — Pilot Pete, the tell-all memoir & Britt's insider take on producer power51:00 — Sucks & Sweets Keep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning dilemmas! Full transparency: we arrived at the studio at 8am and it took us approximately three hours to record 45 minutes of podcast because sometimes you just have to sit with your friends and feel each other out first. Efficiency is not always the word of the year in practice. We also need to talk about the fact that Roald Dahl — the man who wrote the BFG — was a World War II spy and fighter pilot before he decided to write children's books. And James Blunt was in the military before "You're Beautiful." You can change your career at any point. Vibes for the week:Laura - @la_sidhu  Keeshia - Worldle Britt - Gone on Stan  LOST AT 30Advice needed for a lost 30 year old. Honestly I’m really struggling being single. I’ve been told my hormone levels are low and the best option is to get my eggs frozen as I’m a single 30 year old. I’m not closed off to doing it but I just feel like a failure and putting it off. I’ve tried dating and any time I think I’ve found someone it’s always the same story ‘you’re amazing but I’ve found someone else, but I still want to be friends’ I’m exhausted with dating but I don’t want to give up because I want the partner and the family all of that. But I just genuinely feel like it’s never going to happen and to just give up on that life I’ve always wanted. How do I get out of this rut, dating is exhausting and the fear of getting my eggs frozen is just all consuming. And honestly I’m shutting down because of it. I just want some advice and preferably not the typical ‘you’ll find love when you least expect It ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS IS ‘DATING’ MY EXOne of my best friends is now “dating” my ex. My ex, my best friend and I have all been friends for around 9 years. 1 year ago my ex and I broke up from a 5 year relationship. It was a fairly mutual breakup but it did come from me. Straight away after the break up my friend and my ex started getting really close and spending a lot of time together. I started to question if something was going on between them, which was always a sensitive spot for me during the relationship (as they were pretty close then but not this close). I felt replaced in my ex’s life by my best friend but I tried to move past it and even spoke to both of them about this which they told me nothing was going on. Fast forward to now where I have just found out they have been sleeping together and are in a situationship for the last ~7 months. I am here to ask you how you would feel in this situation as I am totally over my ex and don’t care if he moves on but not sure how I feel about my best friend and what this means for our friendship. I feel she has totally disrespected our friendship. I think the expected response would be to stop being friends and it’s what I told myself I would do if this happened but now I am here I don’t feel that affected by it. Should I hold a greater standard for our friendship and move on knowing there are better people out there who have my back or should I just move on and continue with our friendship however that may look now?  For context she is very distressed about what this means for our friendship.  DO I REACH OUT TO GUY FROM YEARS AGO?3 years ago I was casually dating two guys at the same time. After about 2-3 months of dating each guy, things started to get serious. I knew it was unfair to continue with both but I found it really hard to choose. Both had great qualities but I ended up choosing Guy A because I felt a deeper connection at the time and he was a friend of a friend (vetted). Fast forward Guy A and I broke up 2.5 years later. It wasn't meant to be. But now I can't help but think, should I try and see if something could work with Guy B? I dont have him on social media so I can't check if he's dating anyone. For context, Guy B messaged me multiple times throughout my 2.5year relationship. Initially he said he'd wait for me if I changed my mind. I never responded out of respect for my relationship. He would message me about mutual interests and even that he saw Guy A and I at a sporting match. Should I initiate conversation? If so, how would I go about it? MY FRIEND GOT ENGAGED AND I FELT NOTHING AND NOW I FEEL TERRIBLE My best friend got engaged last weekend and I said all the right things. I screamed, I cried, I asked to see the ring and asked for the proposal story etc. But privately in that first moment when she told me, I felt nothing. Not happy, not sad, just nothing. And now I feel like a really bad friend. Do I secretly not think he's right for her? Am I jealous? Am I just a bad friend? She is absolutely glowing and I feel guilty for not actually being excited for her. What is wrong with me? TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Three hours of chatting, zero productivity 4:00 — Vibes 12:04 — Q1: I'm 30, single, and been told to freeze my eggs. I feel like a failure. 24:45 — Q2: My best friend has been secretly dating my ex for seven months and lied to my face 36:26 — Q3: I broke up with a good guy for someone else. It didn't work out. Can I go back? 42:45 — Q4: My best friend got engaged and I felt absolutely nothing. Am I a bad person? Keep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers! We're on holidays and that means Matty J is back on the mic!Matt is now also a TV actor (despite being unaware of the genre of the show) and is joining Laura to answer your Ask Uncut questions! Matt is firm on one thing: this is the LAST time you'll hear from him for at least six months - unless you love it, in which case maybe we'll bring him back.  Then we get into your questions! HE CHEATED AND DOESN'T KNOW I CAN STILL READ HIS MESSAGES I charged up my old iPhone that he was previously using and discovered my ex of six years had been cheating on me before we broke up. I can still see his current messages, and I now know he's planning to have the girl over while I'm away on a camping trip. Do I cancel the trip and come home to catch them? Or do I leave it? HIS CLOSEST FRIENDS DON'T KNOW I EXIST AFTER A YEARI've been in a long-distance relationship for almost a year. His family knows about me. We've travelled together. We've talked about the future. But his friendship group, who are mostly women, have no idea I exist. He says he needs more time to "understand the relationship" before introducing me. Am I being unreasonable? MY SISTER-IN-LAW LETS HER KIDS TRASH MY HOUSE AND THEN JUST LEAVESEvery time my sister-in-law comes over with her kids, the house gets absolutely destroyed, and then she bundles everyone up and walks out the door without lifting a finger. I love having them over. I just don't want to be the only one who cares about the mess. How do I bring it up without it turning into a fight? I'M 36, SINGLE FOR 13 YEARS, AND THINKING ABOUT A SPERM DONOR. HOW DO I LET GO OF THE LIFE I IMAGINED?I've always wanted to be a mum. I've been dating throughout my single years but nothing has led anywhere. Now my fertility is lower than expected for my age, and I'm seriously considering becoming a single mum by choice. But I'm scared I'll be undateable. I'm grieving the family I pictured. And I genuinely  TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Welcome back! Matty J is here for the holidays + his acting debut 7:30 — Q1: She charged the old iPhone and can still read all his messages 18:02 — Q2: Long-distance boyfriend whose friends don't know she exists after a year 26:12 — Q3: Sister-in-law who lets her kids trash the house and just leaves 33:30 — Q4: 36, single for 13 years, considering a sperm donor. How do I let go of the life I imagined? 42:00 — Would Matt ever date again? Want more from Matty J? Listen to our other eps here:Ask Uncut with Laura & Matt! Apple | SpotifyA Matty J Special: Apple | SpotifyUNCUT WITH MATTY J - A mans perspective! Apple | SpotifySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Matt is back; dragged in, as per tradition, to cover the holiday break. They kick off with the state of Matt's chest hair, a debrief on Laura's ten days in India while Matt solo parented three kids and the homecoming argument that kicked off. Then your questions!Have they ever considered divorce? Matt's answer is a roast chicken analogy. Do they both orgasm every time? Does Laura's ambition test Matt's patience? And there's the small matter of the Daily Mail article after Matt went on a podcast and casually mentioned that they're drowning in debt. They also get into living with nana, what Matt's tattoos actually mean, whether they'd ever do couples therapy and the vasectomy update. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Matt's back! The half-shaved chest, the India debrief and the homecoming argument 14:15 — How they argue, who apologises first and have they ever considered divorce? 23:30 — The public eye, the Daily Mail debt headline and The Bachelor legacy 33:50 — Laura's ambition, the busyness-anxiety link and would they do couples therapy? 48:20 — Baby number four, the vasectomy update and the pull out method consequences Want more from Matty J? Listen to our other eps here:Ask Uncut with Laura & Matt! Apple | SpotifyA Matty J Special: Apple | SpotifyUNCUT WITH MATTY J - A mans perspective! Apple | SpotifySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We're back with another Aftermath episode! If you've been lying awake wondering what happened to the people behind some of our most talked-about Ask Uncut questions, same. Today we finally get the updates we’ve all been desperate for! The Threesome AftermathThe question that went viral, flooded our DMs for two years, and made Brittany physically reach out and beg for an update. You might remember it: a woman wrote in just weeks before her wedding, after a pre-marriage threesome with her fiancé and a friend resulted in a pregnancy. The condom broke. Nobody said anything. A baby was on the way. "Don't Sleep With Anyone for a Month"A woman going through a devastating breakup asked her ex for one thing: don't hook up with anyone for 30 days while she finds her feet. He said he'd try but couldn't promise. We had pretty definitive opinions at the time. So, did he respect it? And did the one-month boundary actually give her the peace she was looking for? "My Parents Won't Stop Suggesting Names"A listener at 38 weeks pregnant is being driven up the wall by her mum constantly texting baby name suggestions. Is she being too precious, or is naming your child something sacred between you and your partner? This one spiralled because it turns out Laura, Brittany AND Keeshia have very strong feelings about unsolicited name suggestions (and a personal history involving a chatbot that shall not be named). "Did I Betray My Friend Group?"When a group all tries for tickets to a sold-out show and one person scores through a different friend, are they obligated to stay in the original group, even if it means missing out entirely? This one also had a personal twist when it turned out the question may have been written by someone who works in the Life Uncut team. Have we answered YOUR Ask Uncut? We want your aftermath. Slide into our DMs or send us an email; even if you think nothing interesting happened. We just need to know. We need to put a full stop at the end of that sentence.   Timestamps0:00 - Intro 4:17 - The Threesome — she finally wrote back18:12 - The one-month boundary — did he keep his promise?24:00 - Baby name drama — the baby has arrived30:58 - Concert ticket drama   Keep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Ben is back for a bonus round because you sent in way too many questions for just one episode! They kick things off with the reality of living together full time: Ben's answer is "we're doing fine," Britt's answer involves the phrase "truffle pig". Ben shares what it actually takes to make it as a professional footballer and whether he ever tries to get under opponents' skin.  Ben opens up about life pre-Britt, how he knew she was the one, and the biggest fight of their marriage. They also get into the question everyone keeps sliding into the DMs: babies. Britt and Ben speak openly about their fertility journey and what it looks like from here.  0:00 — Welcome & living together full time 7:15 — How to make it as a pro footballer 18:10 — Getting to know Ben: languages, Aussie slang, life pre-Britt and how he knew she was the one 27:18 — The biggest fight of their marriage 38:28 — Babies, fertility and the IVF journey Want more from Ben? Listen to our other eps here:Ask Uncut With Britt & Ben! Embryo Custody, Two Potential Soulmates and Finding Out The... Apple | SpotifyBritt & Ben Got MARRIED!! Apple | SpotifyAsk Uncut - Ask Ben Apple | SpotifySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions! This week we have a very special co-host: Britt's husband Ben is back in the hot seat. They recorded this just before going on a month holiday and their one year wedding anniversary. To mark the occasion, Britt reached out to her parents Nikki and Tony, who have been married for 48 years, and asked them for their best marriage advice! We also revisit the greatest wedding chaos of 2025: Ben picking up his suit jacket the day they flew out, the photographer cancelling days before the ceremony, and the legendary cake gate. One year on and we are still not fully over it. Then it's into your questions! Q1: MY BOYFRIEND RESPECTED MY BOUNDARY ABOUT THE BUCK'S PARTY AND NOW THE OTHER WIVES ARE BULLYING ME FOR IT My boyfriend is best man at his best mate's wedding. The three day buck's party has strippers booked for eight hours on the first night, and strippers are a hard boundary for me. My boyfriend agreed to attend part of the weekend but leave before that part of the night. When he told the groom, the buck was furious and then two of the women I considered my friends added me to a group chat calling me insecure and saying I'm "emotionally damaging" my boyfriend and the friendship. When I reached out to talk, they said they were too busy before the wedding. The wedding is overseas in four weeks. What do I do? Q2: MY GIRLFRIEND HAS ASKED ME TO SIT DOWN TO PEE. IS THIS REASONABLE OR AN ATTACK ON MY MASCULINITY? My long term partner and I have just moved in together. After watching a MythBusters episode about how standing to pee spreads germs, she's asked me to sit down from now on. I have no problems with my aim. I occasionally prefer to sit when tired or hungover. But mostly I prefer to stand; it's more efficient and comfortable. Is this a reasonable request, or is it an attack on my masculinity? Q3: I MOVED TO THE UK FOR MY HUSBAND 16 YEARS AGO. NOW HE WON'T MOVE BACK TO AUSTRALIA. I moved to the UK at 22 for the man I'm now married to. We've built a full life here; a home, a four-year-old, a dog, a cat. On paper everything looks settled. But I have always been clear that I wanted to move back to Australia one day, especially to raise a family, and he has always agreed. Now that I'm actually raising it seriously, he doesn't want to go. He can be stubborn, and the more I push, the more resistant he becomes. On top of this, I've had three consecutive miscarriages with the last ending in a D&C and it's made me feel even more strongly about being near my family. I also feel completely unfulfilled in my job. I feel stuck. How do you navigate this when neither person is wrong, but timing is starting to feel really important? Q4: I'M 34 AND I STILL DON'T KNOW WHAT I WANT TO BE WHEN I GROW UP. WAS THERE A MEETING I MISSED? Everyone around me seems so certain about their lives. How am I supposed to figure it out? TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — One year married, Ben's back & recording from Italy 5:41 — Wedding advice from Nikki & Tony married 48 years 18:21 — Wedding chaos flashback: the suit, the photographer and cake gate 20:22 — Q1: My boyfriend respected my boundary about the buck's party — now the other wives are bullying me 30:40 — Q2: My girlfriend wants me to sit down to pee — is this reasonable? 38:12 — Q3: I moved to the UK for my husband 16 years ago. Now he won't move back to Australia. 53:03 — Q4: I'm 34 and I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up Want more from Ben? Listen to our other eps here:Ask Uncut With Britt & Ben! Embryo Custody, Two Potential Soulmates and Finding Out The... Apple | SpotifyBritt & Ben Got MARRIED!! Apple | SpotifyAsk Uncut - Ask Ben Apple | SpotifySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions! Vibes of the week:Link to the sensor lightsKeeshia 🧲 Adhesive Magnetic Tablet Wall Mount Holder (Two Pack) Laura 👕 Tahnee Kelland T-Shirts Then it's into your questions! Q1: MY BEST FRIEND'S HUSBAND GOT A HAIR TRANSPLANT AND IS ASKING HER TO LIE ABOUT IT My best friend's husband has gone from barely-there hair to a full comeback and he's been telling everyone it's down to diet and stress reduction. She knows the truth. Their friends know the truth. And now she's been put in the impossible position of actively upholding a lie she never agreed to, while everyone around her silently raises an eyebrow. Q2: MY ABUSIVE EX IS NOW WITH ONE OF THE GIRLS HE CHEATED ON ME WITH. DO I WARN HER? I was in an incredibly volatile relationship for three years; emotional abuse, multiple women, dating apps running the whole time. Four months out, I'm working on myself. Now I'm watching him post his new girlfriend all over Instagram. It’s one of the girls he was seeing behind my back. I want to warn her. But am I out of line? Q3: WHO IS RESPONSIBLE WHEN THE HEN GETS BLOTTO AT HER HENS PARTY? The hen got blotto, passed out, the night ended early and now the blame is flying. Is it the guests? The bridesmaids? The maid of honour? Or the hen herself? Q4: I CAUGHT MY FRIEND REHEARSING HER STORIES IN THE MIRROR BEFORE A DINNER PARTY I walked back into the room and my close friend was standing in front of the mirror, running through full sentences and hand gestures for a story she was planning to tell at dinner later that night. I reversed out quietly. She then told the exact same story, exactly as rehearsed. Is this genius? Is this deeply weird? Is this something everyone secretly does? TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Britt's in Sardinia, Laura's off to India 1:19 — Vibes  6:06 — Q1: My best friend's husband got a hair transplant and expects her to lie about it 19:00 — Q2: My abusive ex is now with one of the girls he cheated with — do I warn her? 35:06 — Q3: Who's responsible when the hen gets blotto at her own hens party? 42:33 — Q4: I caught my friend rehearsing her stories in the mirror before a dinner party 50:27 — Wrap up, what's dropping over the break & the Aftermath episode teaser     Keep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome to your little weekend snack!We kick things off with a very pressing issue: Laura thinks there's a mouse living in the roof of her car. Keeshia shares her own rodent origin story where she spent her honours year in a biomedical research lab dosing rats with very high quality drugs. Laura's mouse had a rougher life. We also revisit the great childhood mouse escape where approximately 15 pet mice gnawed through their cage and moved into the family home, which did not end well for them. Then we get into it: Uber has dropped its Lost and Found Index for 2026, and the list does not disappoint.  Patagonia the brand vs Pattie Gonia the drag queen & the trademark war that's taken over everyone's algorithm. Ballmaxxing. Men are injecting saline into their scrotums at home to make their testicles firmer, rounder, and more even. Is this actually so different from what women have been doing for years?  Is it the fear of failure, or is it the fear of people watching you fail?  TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Britt's on holidays, Laura & Keeshia are running the show (nom noms still on ice) 0:50 — Laura has a mouse in her car. Two days in.  6:37 — Uber's Lost & Found Index 2026 11:28 — Patagonia the brand vs Pattie Gonia the drag queen 24:30 — Ballmaxxing (sorry) 32:08 — "Is it the fear of failure, or the fear of people watching you fail?" Mentioned in this episode: "INSIDE THE MANOSPHERE - We Have Thoughts!" Missed it? Listen now: Apple | Spotify Keep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Back in 2020, we released an episode titled  “Talking Miscarriage” where Laura spoke about experiencing not one but two miscarriages. It is an episode that people still message us every week about. Six years ago the topic of miscarriage was still pretty taboo, and it has changed slightly but it’s still an experience that leaves so many people feeling alone and grieving privately.Today’s guest has unfortunately experienced miscarriage a number of times. We first got to know Irena Gilbert on The Bachelor Australia back in 2020. After that final rose, her and Locky have gone on to get married and build a life together! Before welcoming their daughter Ava in February 2024, Irena experienced multiple miscarriages; her first in 2021, her second in 2023, and now another just 2 weeks ago. Today we're sitting down with Irena to talk about something that affects one in four pregnancies in Australia, and yet still so often goes unspoken, pregnancy loss. This conversation is not easy. But it is important, generous, and going to reach a lot of women who need to hear it. Irena brings something rare to this conversation: she is both a woman who has lived through pregnancy loss multiple times, and a nurse with over 15 years of experience caring for women going through the same thing. The gap between what she knew clinically and what she felt personally is something she speaks to with a lot of honesty. We chat: When Irena & Locky spoke about having kids Why their Covid-interrupted season actually gave them something most Bachelor couples never get Her first pregnancy loss and why she felt she wasn't "allowed" to grieve it How the second miscarriage How partners grieve differently, and why their pain gets left out of the conversation What miscarriage actually looks like physically  The statistics: roughly 280–300 miscarriages happen in Australia every day Pregnancy after loss: why Irena couldn't let herself feel excited, couldn't take photos, and was still waiting for something to go wrong on the day Ava was born Her third and most recent loss two weeks ago Why this one hurt the most and what her obstetrician said that finally made sense of it "At least you have a healthy baby" - why well-meaning words can be the most dismissive thing you can say Why pregnancy loss and infertility are different experiences that don't need to be compared You can follow Irena on Instagram Free counselling is available from Red Nose Grief and Support Line  Timestamps 0:00 — Intro 2:20 — Bachelor 2020, meeting Locky, and talking kids on their very first date 4:40 — The Covid season: why six months of phone calls gave them something most Bachelor couples never had 6:40 — Going back to nursing after the show and why it kept her grounded 8:30 — First pregnancy loss 12:00 — Laura shares her own experience: the complicated feelings of an unplanned pregnancy lost 13:40 — How the second miscarriage unlocked everything she'd buried from the first 20:40 — How Locky processed it  23:05 — What miscarriage actually feels like physically 29:25 — The statistics: 280–300 miscarriages a day in Australia, and that's only the ones that are known about 30:00 — Pregnancy after loss: not allowing herself to get excited, not taking photos, waiting for something to go wrong 35:20 — Why she struggled with social media pregnancy announcements and the joy she'll never fully have back 36:00 — The third loss: two weeks ago 38:20 — Why this one hurt the most: her obstetrician's explanation that finally made sense 39:30 — "At least you've got a healthy baby" — why this is the most dismissive thing you can say, even when it comes from love 43:10 — The grief Olympics: pregnancy loss and infertility aren't competing, they're both just really shit 45:20 — Laura's experience of her second loss, and the complicated way miscarriage can clarify how much you want something 49:20 — The shame hangover: why women of our mothers' generation stayed silent, and what that cost us 53:20 — Her mum's stillbirth, growing up knowing about it, and being a rainbow baby herself 54:05 — What she wants every woman who hears this to know See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Britt is living her best life in Italy so it's Laura and Keeshia holding down the fort for this one. Laura gives us a little update on her first weekend away without the kids; two whole nights, dinner at 6:30pm with a seven minute door-to-car turnaround, and it’s pure bliss. She's also heading to India tomorrow at 5am for a ten day work trip and we get a bit of the BTS of what’s in store for the trip.Keeshia is in one of those ‘scattered’ phases where she keeps doing stupid things that frustrate her, the people around her and also can be quite expensive ‘accidents’.  We share your worst roommate stories and they are some of the most unhinged messages we’ve ever read. Some are disgusting, some are absolutely deranged, and one involves a Tinder date being called to fix a blocked toilet.  A self-described comedian posted a video that racked up nearly two million views, cost her a job, and ignited a national conversation about race, satire, and what Australians are and aren't allowed to say; and she has not apologised to a single person. We question if "it's just a joke" can protect you legally in Australia? What are your actual rights as an employer when a staff member's public views trash your company values? And what does it say about us as a society that there's now a $46k crowdfund in her name? “Optimisation culture has made us all miserable.” Steven Bartlett said that three glasses of wine ruined his life for three days. We ask whether we've all been so busy tracking our bio stats that we forgot to actually have fun. We chat sleep scores, going alcohol free, nonna maxxing, friction maxxing (more maxxings, we know, we know, we’re all over them) and adding ‘whimsy’ into your life in 2026. Don't forget to slide into our DMs @lifeuncutpodcast with your questions or any remaining unhinged roommate stories we didn't get to. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Intro 1:45 — What's dropping over the break 3:00 — Laura's heading to India tomorrow — ten days, three kids left behind, 5am flight 8:12 — Keeshia's been having a scatterbrained week 14:36 — Laura's first ever kid-free weekend away  18:26 — Your worst roommate stories  31:32 — Lisa Jane Spencer: the viral racist skit, the firing and the $46k crowdfund 45:30 — Optimisation culture 46:50 — Steven Bartlett had three glasses of wine and it "ruined his life" 1:01:10 — Sucks & Sweets! Keep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deepest, darkest and most burning questions! Big news this week: this is Britt's last episode before she heads off on a month-long holiday through Europe with Ben. Laura and Keeshia will hold down the fort next week and no, they are not wheeling in the big box TV like a substitute teacher. Fresh new content is dropping throughout, so don't go anywhere. Vibes of the week: Britt 📺 Worst Ex Ever on Netflix  Keeshia 🩲 Aunt Flow period underwear  Laura 🧳 Cubey Packing Cubes by Holly Kingston and Jimmy Nicholson  Then it's into your questions! Q1: MY MOTHER-IN-LAW IS POSTING PHOTOS WITH MY HUSBAND'S EX-WIFE ALL OVER FACEBOOK They've been together ten years. He was married before and, from what he's told her, his mum and his ex-wife didn't get along. Then out of nowhere: three separate Facebook posts of the mother-in-law at brunch with the ex-wife. Her friends think it's a deliberate dig. Her husband won't say anything because he hates conflict. Q2: MY FRIEND IS PREGNANT AND I KNOW IT WASN'T AN ACCIDENT Her friend has had an on-and-off friends-with-benefits situation for years with a guy most of their group doesn't approve of. Now she's pregnant. The problem: just weeks earlier, the friend had told her she was thinking about not taking the morning after pill and that "if there was anyone to have an accident with, it was him." She doesn't know how to show up, can't pretend to believe it was a surprise, and doesn't know whether to say anything. Q3: SHE CHEATED. NOW HE'S USING IT AS AN EXCUSE TO BARELY COME HOME OR BE A DAD A six month old baby, both on six-figure salaries, and the husband has decided to take a career change that means he'll only be home once or twice a month. When she raised concerns, he turned it back on her and accused her of not wanting to take responsibility for their child. The reason he's doing this? She cheated on him. Q4: MY EX LEFT ME FOUR MONTHS INTO OUR MARRIAGE FOR THE LOCAL BARMAID. NOW HE WANTS ME BACK. Five years together, two kids, four months into marriage - and he left. It's been two years of courts, separation and his bad behaviour (which he now admits was jealousy over her new partner). He's begging to come back. She still loves him. She misses the family unit. Her little boys keep asking for Mummy and Daddy to live together again. She's now in a new relationship with a man who is wonderful to her kids. She doesn't know what to do. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 - Intro 2:08 - Vibes 9:40 - Q1: My mother-in-law posted photos with my husband's ex-wife all over Facebook 17:10 - Q2: My friend is pregnant and I know it wasn't an accident 25:50 - Q3: She cheated. He's now barely coming home and barely being a dad. 34:00 - Q4: He left me for the barmaid four months into our marriage. Now he wants me back. Keep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome to your little weekend snack! We kick things off with Laura's post-baby-number-three return to exercise, specifically, an aggressive 8.5km power walk that has left her pelvis in absolute ruins. We also cover the lengths we've gone to impress men in our past lives: spearfishing, drones, the works. Then we get into it: Clavicular is… ‘penismaxxing’.  The "high value woman doesn't accept coffee dates" TikTok trend  Young Australians are collectively wasting $2 billion a year on skincare they buy and never finish.  A woman in America has been arrested for posing as a real estate agent to film luxury $12–13 million Bel-Air mansions for her Instagram.  TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Intro 0:56 — Laura's post-baby 8.5km walk broke her pelvis 6:19 — Clavicular is penis maxxing  13:56 — Matthew Hussey on the "high value woman doesn't accept coffee dates" trend 21:45 — Australians waste $2 billion a year on skincare they never finish 27:27 — Woman arrested for posing as a real estate agent to film Bel-Air mansions for Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today’s episode is with one of our very favourite Bach alums Tara Pavlovic. Tara was on Laura's season of The Bachelor back in 2017, and despite the slightly unusual premise of competing for the same man, she's one of the people Laura has genuinely stayed close with ever since. Tara is currently going through a separation. Not in the past tense, not with the benefit of two years of hindsight. She’s currently in the thick of it, while co-parenting two young kids and figuring out what life looks like on the other side. And she wanted to come and talk about it, because she knows there are women out there sitting exactly where she was sitting a few months ago, wondering if it's okay to make the decision to leave. We chat: The post-Bachelor world: fake attention, disingenuous people, and why it made trusting anyone so hard Years of couples counselling, trying everything, and the moment the penny finally dropped What it physically felt like in her body when the relationship was no longer working Why "staying for the kids" isn't always the best thing Separation and equal parenting  The judgment that comes when you're the one who leaves Discovering she can kill spiders, mow lawns, and do everything she thought she needed someone else for "Do I believe in love anymore? Absolutely not"  and what she actually means Life now: calm, present, peaceful, and genuinely happy Tara also teases an upcoming podcast she's launching with Bachelor alum David Lloyd! Watch this space. You can follow Tara on Instagram  Timestamps 0:00 — Introducing our sister wife: Tara Pavlovic 9:45 — Tara's love of kids, starting in childcare at 18, and becoming a mum 11:10 — What the post-Bachelor world was really like 16:00 — Dating again after BiP and why she went back to someone she already knew and trusted 17:15 — Getting into the separation: years of trying, couples counselling, and going quiet 19:45 — The cruise that changed everything — feeling peace for the first time in years 22:20 — How couples counselling helped, and when the counsellor finally said "staying for the kids isn't enough" 24:55 — Why staying together isn't always the answer for kids 28:25 — Did she feel guilty? Honestly, no — here's why 29:00 — The mental load she didn't know she was carrying  33:15 — Navigating what to share (and not share) on social media during a separation 37:30 — The surprising things: friendships shifting, being seen as the one who "broke the family" 38:30 — All the things she's discovered she can do by herself: spiders, lawns, everything 47:00 — Dating with kids: what she would and wouldn't introduce into her children's lives 46:45 — "I'm living the fairytale right now" You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by  Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! We kick off this week with Britt calling in from Italy (hungover, again 👀) and why it took us YEARS to stop performing on camera and actually just be ourselves with our naturally low voices.  Laura had a suspicious parcel arrive at her front door. It was full of syringes, tiny vials, and one very tanned man who came to collect it. We speak about the world of Melanotan, carrot maxing, and the very real question of whether eating 20 carrots a day will make you glow. The roommate phaseIs your relationship resting or rotting? There's a big difference, and we break it all down from the red flags that say you're rotting to why the roommate phase is actually really common, and sometimes even kind of… nice? We chat about the trenches of parenthood, feeling a little flat in your relationship and finding novelty.  Keeshia opens up about where she's at in her relationship and why she's genuinely embracing the rest.  We wrap up with sucks and sweets; Britt is a year into marriage and almost forgot her anniversary, Laura's baby Poppy is pulling herself up on everything and immediately face-planting, and Laura's heading to India with her sister. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Britt's calling from Italy, hungover (again) 2:00 — 7 years of podcasting and our voices have completely changed 7:40 — The mysterious package 14:00 — What IS carrotmaxxing? 17:20 — The roommate phase: is your relationship resting or rotting? 19:30 — Having kids and the relationship shift — does it have to be negative? 22:30 — How to tell if you're just in a lull vs. something more serious is happening 30:00 — Keeshia opens up: she's embracing the roommate phase 35:20 — Resting vs rotting and what the real line is between the two 43:00 — Suck and Sweet You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deepest, darkest and most burning questions! Vibes of the week: Britt - Imperfect Women on Apple TV+  Laura - Kidnapped: Elizabeth Smart on Netflix  Keeshia - Kylie on Netflix Then it's into your questions! Q1: MY BOYFRIEND HAS BEEN USING MY TOOTHBRUSH. REGULARLY. Six months in, she catches her boyfriend putting her toothbrush back in the holder. He casually says, "I thought we were at that stage." She was so shocked she didn't react. Now she has the biggest ick of her life and doesn't know how to bring it up. Q2: OUR FRIENDS COPIED OUR ENTIRE RENOVATION After years of work, late nights, and an enormous amount of emotional labour, her renovation is done and she loves it. Then her friends started their reno, asked a lot of very specific questions — and have now copied the whole thing. Right down to the tiles, stones and room colours. Her husband doesn't see the issue. She does. Q3: I THINK MY BOYFRIEND MIGHT BE SECRETLY RICH AND HIDING IT FROM MEEight months in, she loves him and can see a future with him. But he's weirdly intense about splitting everything to the dollar and she's accidentally seen investment account balances, a large transfer, and a land tax invoice on his kitchen bench. He's never mentioned any of it. Q4: FIANCE BROKE OFF ENGAGEMENT AFTER ‘FALLING OUT OF LOVE’They'd been together four years, engaged for one. Both mid-20s. This was her first relationship and therefore her first heartbreak. He told her he'd been dealing with doubts internally for months before finally saying he'd fallen out of love and ending the engagement. She moved back home to her mum's. They've had three weeks of no contact and it's killing her. She still loves him and wants to know: can people fall back in love? TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Intro 2:57 — Vibes of the week 10:31 — Q1: My boyfriend has been secretly using my toothbrush. Regularly. 15:40 — Q2: Our friends copied our entire renovation 22:52 — Q3: I think my boyfriend is secretly rich and hiding it from me 34:44 — Q4: My fiancé ended our relationship three weeks before our engagement party You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome back to your weekend treat. The nom nom nom discourse is real, it is divisive, and the feedback has been received. Laura is personally victimised. We will poll you. Then we get into it: Taylor Swift is getting married and there’s plus one drama. We ask if wedding guests have a right to feel hurt when their partner doesn't make the cut? A woman on TikTok cried on camera because 39 children took over the pool and hot tub at her hotel; a hotel she specifically chose for the pool and hot tub. You can hire a woman for $500 to turn up to your funeral. It’s petty, but it’s also impactful. The Enhanced Games just wrapped up in Las Vegas. We speak about legal doping, $1 million prize pools, and Aussie Olympic swimmer James Magnussen throwing himself back in a decade after his Olympic career ended. Did anyone break any records? Is the IOC being petty? Should the Olympics just pay their athletes more? We get into all of it. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — The nom nom nom saga 7:56 — Taylor Swift's wedding: no venue on the invites, no plus ones, and is Blake even invited? 21:16 — Woman goes viral crying over 39 kids taking over the hotel pool and hot tub 30:57 — The $500 funeral mourner: arrives in a limo, cries, disappears  39:49 — The Enhanced Games: legal doping, $1 million prize pools, and it just happened in Vegas   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Ellie Gonsalves is an Australian model, actress, podcaster and Wildlife Warriors Ambassador with a collective audience of over 5 million followers. Ellie first rose to prominence in the modelling world and has since built an international career, appearing in major campaigns like superbowl commercials and has transitioned into acting. Ellie has also been very open about some deeply personal experiences like losing her father to suicide, going no contact with her mum and the kind of life she wants to live. One of the things that sparked huge conversation online was Ellie’s viral list of “117 reasons not to have kids,” a post that challenged expectations around motherhood and opened up a much bigger conversation about choice, pressure and what a fulfilling life can look like. We chat: Ellie’s excellent driving skills How a Facebook page turned into a Super Bowl commercial and a Hollywood career 17 years with partner and manager Ross The dark side of Hollywood Losing her dad to suicide and the phone call that changed everything Cutting off her mum completely and how she responds when people say "but she's your mum" The viral list — 117 reasons she doesn't want kids — and what she says to people who call it selfish Why moving back to Australia during Covid made her fall back in love with this country TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Intro 1:20 — Most embarrassing story 4:18 — Growing up a tomboy, modelling rejections & building a following 8:58 — Getting discovered on Instagram & the Super Bowl commercial 10:15 — 17 years with Ross 12:38 — Filming Fighting with My Family with Dwayne Johnson 14:30 — The viral list: 117 reasons she doesn't want kids 26:39 — Losing her dad  33:08 — Estrangement from her mum 42:25 — Ross as chosen family  45:12 — The reality of Hollywood vs the glamour 49:30 — Falling back in love with Australia   You can find everything from Ellie Gonsalves here  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia PettitVideo produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! We come to you today after 2.5 hours of technical chaos. Britt nearly got deported from Italy. With ten days until she legally had to leave the country, Ben revealed he had not, in fact, sorted the visa that he was meant to.  Laura's baby Poppy had what we are calling an incident involving the family dog Buster and sensory play. Buster was mortified. Poppy was unbothered.  There's also a Slimy Rock Johnson update. The garden snail that Marlie Mae brought home five weeks ago, that half of you were very invested in, has been ceremonially released to the garden after Laura quietly became the only one caring for him.  Then the story that has been living rent-free in our heads for two weeks. Katie Price, UK glamour model, national treasure of chaos, recently married a man named Lee Andrews after knowing him for approximately two days. Lee lives in Dubai. Lee is allegedly a billionaire. Lee has photos with Elon Musk and Kim Kardashian that are so obviously photoshopped you will need to sit down. Multiple women have come forward saying Lee is a serial romance scammer who took significant amounts of money. A Texan nurse lost over £123,000. His previous fiancée is apparently wearing the same ring Katie now has. Lee was supposed to fly to the UK to appear live on Good Morning Britain to prove he could leave the country and instead called Katie from the airport to say he was being bundled into a white van and cable-tied. He has been "kidnapped" ever since.We unpack the whole unhinged saga including Katie’s particularly interesting timing to be doing CBD gummy ads. We speak about tactics that romance scammers use like ‘future faking’ and the ‘double trauma’ that victims of romance scams experience. Britt also has some personal experience with why people might not listen when someone tries to warn you. You can listen to our chat with Cecilie and Pernilla from the Tinder Swindler here  TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Tech chaos, cross-continent recording  2:00 — Britt almost got deported from Italy 12:30 — What life actually looks like in Italy day-to-day 21:00 — Poppy's dog poo incident.  25:00 — Slimy Rock Johnson's farewell ceremony (RIP) 30:30 — Katie Price: who is she and why is the whole world watching right now 34:00 — Lee Andrews, the fake kidnapping and a van with cable ties 45:00 — Why women stay: love bombing, isolation and the psychology of the con 54:00 — The embarrassment of being scammed and why Katie might already know 1:01:00 — Can we laugh at this? Where the comedy ends and the concern begins 1:02:30 — Suck & Sweet of the week You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deepest, darkest and most burning questions! We kick things off with Britt's very public apology to an unnamed language app she accused of scamming her last week. Spoiler: she wasn't scammed. She just used the wrong email. She's back on track to becoming fluent in Italian. Vibes of the week:Britt - Olivia's House podcastKeeshia - Mac Locked Kiss Ink 24 Hour Lip Colour Laura - The Crash on Netflix   Then it's into your questions! IS IT A BAD IDEA TO SLEEP WITH MY EX'S MATE? My ex and I were together for 9 years. The last couple of years were pretty rough. I officially left in September 2025 but didn’t move out straight away. We briefly got back together over December/January for about 5 weeks, but I knew it wasn’t right. I moved out properly in February. We have 2 kids together, and I have them 100% of the time.Anyway, I jumped on Tinder the other night because, honestly, a girl has needs. I came across one of his friends. They used to be really close, but over the last couple of years they barely talk anymore.I always thought he was attractive but obviously never acted on it. We ended up matching and started talking, and we agreed it would just be a one night thing. Neither of us would ever tell my ex, and I genuinely don’t think he would either; he’s not the drama type. So… is this a terrible idea? I’ll probably do it anyway because I trust him, already know him, and find him attractive. Also, I haven’t been with anyone else in almost 10 years, so I’m feeling every emotion right now. DO I KEEP MY WEDDING DRESS AND RING? (CALLED OFF THE WEDDING)I called off my wedding in March last year with 6 weeks to go. However, my fiance and I remained together and tried to work on the relationship. After a year of giving it everything, I finally decided that I could no longer continue the relationship and asked him to move out in March this year. I bought my beautiful wedding dress and also selected and paid for my own ring. My question is, would you keep the wedding dress so you can one day wear it, or is the dress now "tainted" and it's better to sell and buy a new one (if I had another wedding with a different guy). Also, given I paid for the wedding ring, is it weird to wear it on a different hand (like an occasional ring), or is that too sad? IS IT THE NORM TO TELL NEWS PUBLICLY ON SOCIALS SAME TIME AS YOUR CLOSE FRIENDS?Over the past couple of years, I’ve had a few close friends go through major life milestones like engagements, pregnancies and the birth of a baby, and the way that I’ve found out is through Instagram… at the same time as everyone else. I know nobody owes anyone private access to their news, but for me personally, if I had huge life news, I’d instinctively tell my closest friends privately before posting it publicly. So now I’m wondering, is this just the new norm or is this weird and am I justified in feeling a little hurt by it? I also never know whether it’s something worth bringing up with them, or if that just makes it seem bigger than it needs to be.  MY EX CRIED AFTER WE HAD SEX. WHAT DOES IT MEAN? I have an unusual one for you. For context, I was with my partner for a little over a year when we broke up. Now, I recently slept with him after eight months of no contact. And to be honest, it was incredible. But then something happened. He cried immediately after. I don't actually know what this means and I'm too scared to ask. It has been ten days now since the crying sex. What should I do?    TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Britt's apology 1:55 — Vibes of the week 7:52 — Q1: Is it a bad idea to sleep with your ex's mate? 19:48 — Q2: Do I keep my wedding dress and ring after calling it off six weeks out? 26:22 — Q3: Is it normal to find out your friends are engaged/pregnant on Instagram? 36:52 — Q4: My ex cried immediately after we had sex — what does it mean? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to Offcuts, where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Laura's post-baby hormones are cooked Conservatives are calling Alex Cooper's pregnancy a "gotcha moment"  Kylie Jenner wore a ponytail to a basketball game and TikTok called it a revolutionary new hairstyle The plastic bag partner Neutrogena dropped Hayden Panettiere under a morality clause after she spoke openly about her postnatal depression TIMESTAMPS 0:00  Intro 7:30 Conservatives vs Alex Cooper  18:56 Kylie Jenner's ponytail  25:10 The plastic bag partner 34:20 Neutrogena fired Hayden Panettiere for speaking about her postnatal depression   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Harrison James is an award-winning activist, author, and co-founder of the national law reform campaign #YourReferenceAintRelevant. Before all of that, he was a 13-year-old boy who became a victim of abuse that no child should ever experience. After his parents separated, Harri moved in with his father at 13, seeking connection and a fresh start. What followed was years of grooming and sexual abuse at the hands of his stepmother; abuse that resulted in a pregnancy, a daughter Harri was forced to call his sister, and a web of silence and shame that nearly cost him his life. Harri has since channelled that pain into something extraordinary. His #YourReferenceAintRelevant campaign,which he co-founded with fellow survivor Jarad Grice, has now driven legislative change across multiple jurisdictions, abolishing the use of good character references in the sentencing of convicted sex offenders. He's also the author of Transform Your Pain into Purpose, a part-memoir, part-practical guide for survivors and advocates. We chat: The turbulent household Harri grew up in and why his parents' divorce made him so vulnerable How grooming actually works and why it looks exactly like love and care to a child who's starved of both The moment Harry's dad walked in on the abuse and did nothing What it was like to be a 15-year-old boy secretly caring for his own baby daughter while calling her his sister The day his stepmother fled to the Philippines  How Harry ended up at a mental health facility at 19, and why that saved his life His first experience of good character references: watching them being read aloud at his own father's DV sentencing Why good character references are not just unfair they're the very thing that enables abuse to happen in the first place The long, politically complicated road to law reform, and what's still left to do Harry's partner Bella, their unexpected love story, and the baby girl they're expecting You can follow Harrison on Instagram @itsharrijames You can get Transform Your Pain into Purpose at all good bookstores. Timestamps 0:00 — Trigger warning & introducing Harrison James 2:30 — What Harri's childhood looked like before his parents separated 5:45 — Choosing his dad at 13: the appeal of freedom and a fresh start 9:12 — How the grooming started 16:28 — His dad walked in on the abuse. His response was devastating 20:06 — The vasectomy: his dad's impossible denial of what was right in front of him 21:08 — Finding out his stepmother was pregnant on the school bus 33:00 — Telling his mum the truth for the first time 37:12 — Going public in 2022: why Harry posted that raw 11-minute Instagram video 40:30 — The good character references read aloud at his father's DV sentencing and how the campaign was born 46:48 — Writing Transform Your Pain into Purpose  48:30 — Meeting co-founder Jarad over a beer at the pub 52:00 — How abuse warped Harry's understanding of love and how Bella changed everything 56:17 — The campaign's wins: NSW, ACT, Victoria, Tasmania and New Zealand 58:20 — Sitting in the courtroom at Paul Frost's sentencing, and the moment he walked past the Downing Centre knowing it had changed 1:06:00 — Why this campaign isn't just legislative: it's a cultural shift 1:08:30 — His message to every survivor: you don't have to change a law to be worthy You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Have we been scammed by Meta? Britt is trying to learn Italian but she’s faced some hurdles! We talk about Meta ad scams and the great bot clear out of 2026. Laura shares a story about… how do we encapsulate this?? a reformer Pilates machine, a spread eagle and someone who shouldn’t have been there to see it. We also talk about a new phase of parenting that Laura has entered: her kids have worked out how to play Matt and Laura off against each other. How do you get back on the same page when your kids have found the gap? Shoe Gate 2026. An influencer fight that none of us should care about as much as we do. Here's the timeline: Female founder Lexi Ioannou (daughter of Real Housewives' Dina Manzo) sent a pair of shoes from her brand Nou to Bethenny Frankel. Bethenny wore them multiple times but never tagged the brand. However, when a follower directly asked where the shoes were from, Bethenny linked an affiliate dupe instead. Lexi posted a now-viral callout video. Bethenny said that she did this because the shoes were sold out and that would annoy her followers, and that Lexi has played the ‘short game’ and has some business lessons to learn. We unpack both sides: the value of celebrity endorsement even without a tag, whether the exchange is ‘fair’, whether the affiliate link is the villain, and what it means when a small female-founded brand watches their product get replaced with a paid link.  TIMESTAMPS 0:00 - Britt's in Italy and may have been scammed by a language app 9:16 Laura's nanny situation and the thing she shouldn’t have seen 16:00 New parenting phase: the kids are playing mum and dad off against each other 25:19 Shoe Gate 2026: Bethenny Frankel, Lexi Ioannou and the affiliate dupe 49:46 Suck and sweet of the week You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning dilemmas!There’s some very spicy questions going down in our facebook group and most of it is done using nicknames. We need to poll if you want us to keep the nicknames or not!Vibes and UnsubscribesBritt - Unsubscribe from non Aussie actor being used in APEXVibe - Should I Marry A Murderer? on NetflixKeeshia - @jeromecooksfoodLaura - Yuka App  Then we jump into your questions! TRANSACTIONAL W*NKSo I listened to today’s episode when you asked who is wanking their partner off without sex?! The answer is me. I am doing that and have been for many years! My husband and I have been together for 10 years and he often asks for a wank so casually as if he is asking me to put the kettle on. I don’t even pretend to be in the mood, it almost just feels like a transaction and I have told him this, it doesn’t seem to bother him.  For context, we both have very mismatching libidos. I wouldn’t say he wants sex a lot, probably just the normal amount, but I literally never want it. It comes up as a problem regularly in our relationship but we never seem to do anything about it. I have floated the idea of how he would feel about an open relationship if he feels his needs are not being met but he won’t entertain the idea. I also have said he has 2 perfectly good hands if he wants to sort himself out but that doesn’t work either! I have told him I just don’t enjoy sex and I would happily go the rest of my life without it. I’m never satisfied and I just give in to satisfy him but leaves me feeling icky like I’m just pretending. I never orgasm. Both alone and together we have tried using toys but still no joy! Sorry for the long message but would appreciate any advice to help me stop a lifetime of transactional wanks! GRANDPARENTS DON’T CARE ABOUT MY KID, THEIR 9TH GRAND CHILDMy parents aren't really interested in being grandparents anymore, or that is how it feels. I am the youngest child in my family, when my siblings had children, especially the first 2 my parents were besotted, they saw them everyday, took photos, and showered them with affection. My son is the 9th grandchild and it just feels like they are over it, nothing is exciting or new. They never ask about him, they don't ask for photos, they have never offered to mind him. He is beautiful and well behaved most of the time. They are older now and both have health issues, my sister is also a single mom and they have given her a lot of support. I just spent a week at home and I barely saw them. I am starting to feel very resentful toward my siblings even though it's not their fault. I don't feel like I can say anything but I just feel so sad about it. I don't have one but I am finding motherhood so lonely. My husband's parents have passed and it is really hitting me that we won't have support. Has anybody else been through this? I DON'T WANT TO GO TO MY BROTHERS DESTINATION WEDDING - AM I BEING A BRAT OR REASONABLE?My brother is getting married next year and it’s a destination wedding on a tropical island, but the wedding is the day before my 30th birthday. I know a wedding is obviously a way bigger deal than a birthday, and I’m not expecting everyone to make it about me. But turning 30 feels like a big milestone, and I already know my actual birthday will probably just become the recovery day after his wedding. Because it’s mostly siblings and friends going, I also probably won’t even have my parents with me on the day. What makes it worse is that I’m doing a Master’s, working in a hospital, and completing specialist training, so I’m already flat out. The wedding is also one month before my specialist written exam, so the timing feels awful. I feel guilty saying this, but I genuinely don’t want to go. Am I being a brat, or is this understandable? And how do I tell my brother and family without causing huge drama?For more context, this won’t be my brother’s only wedding. They’re also having a bigger wedding back home with our extended family and all the older relatives, so it’s not like I’d be missing the wedding altogether. Part of why I feel so torn is that this island wedding is mostly made up of the bride’s friends and people from her side. On my brother’s side, it’s really just one of his high school best mate, me, and one cousin he’s close with. So if I don’t go, I honestly feel like there’ll barely be anyone there for him from our side, and that makes me feel really guilty. At the same time, I know I’d probably feel so out of place. Her friends and family are all very glamorous, influencer-type people, and I’m just really not that kind of person. I’m pretty low-key, I barely wear makeup, and I’m not into partying or drinking, so a destination wedding like this just isn’t something I’m excited about at all. I’m also worried that if I do go, I’ll be uncomfortable the entire time and it’ll show all over my face. I really don’t want to bring that energy to his wedding, which almost makes me feel like not going would be better than showing up and clearly not wanting to be there. I’d really love to know what you girls think, because I genuinely can’t tell if I’m being selfish or if this is a fair thing to be so torn over. Thank you so much for reading this and for always helping people make sense of life’s messier situations, it really means a lot. PARTNER HAS TOO MANY HOBBIESMy fiancé, the father of our two children (7 and 4 months old) is a rather social butterfly. He is often out at the pub, fishing, surfing, checking the surf and working 5 days a week on top of that. He very rarely plans anything in advance; it's commonly spontaneous (especially fishing and surfing as its condition based). I feel so frustrated with him as he is out living his life like he’s a bachelor. I try to set a time for him to come home. He’s ALWAYS late anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour. I ask him to come home to help with the children and it’s always met with a “yep soon” and that’s always anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour. It drives me crazy! When I speak to him about my frustrations and concern about him being out more than he's spending time with his family he meets me with a “well I’m here now and because I want to be” but I feel like he doesn’t. Like if I didn’t ask or set a time he wouldn’t be home for hours! He spends up to 6 -10 hours at a time with his mates at the pub or out doing other stuff with them…is this normal? Am I crazy? TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Intro 4:43 — Vibes of the week:  14:22 — Q1: The Transactional Wank  26:30 — Q2: My parents have run out of grandparent energy  37:27 — Q3: I don't want to go to my brother's destination wedding 49:40 — Q4: Is my husband living his best bachelor life while I have a 4-month-old? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome to your weekend nom nom nom nom 🎙️ We kick things off with Keeshia finally receiving the long-awaited Santa sacks of Laura's hand-me-downs only to discover Laura accidentally donated a brand new alpaca shirt she never even wore. With the security tag still on it.  A bloke went viral after using Claude AI to be his girlfriend's boyfriend for two weeks while she was in Bali — morning texts, good night messages, inside jokes, weather updates, the lot. He even coded in a jealousy function.  Next, the "ghost lift" — the cosmetic procedure where surgeons are harvesting fat, skin and rib cartilage from cadavers to inject into the living. Bigger lips, chiselled jaws, breast augmentation. All from dead people. PSA 📣 If you're in Australia, you can no longer register as an organ donor on your driver's licence — you now have to sign up separately at Donate Life  Denmark has officially banned the cry-it-out sleep method, backed by 700 psychologists who say the neuroscience is clear. Laura shares what it was really like in the trenches with Lola, and we discuss what this means for exhausted parents everywhere. Australia is revoking passports of parents who owe child support and an Aussie dad who went viral after being pulled aside by the AFP at the airport before his Bali holiday with his fiancée did not get the sympathy he was looking for.  And finally, we came across a survey of a million women in their 30s asking what they miss about life before the internet. We get into phone use at dinner, always being contactable, the pressure to learn every AI tool before you get left behind, and why we all just want to be properly bored again. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura ByrneProduced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Intro 6:36 — Man uses Claude AI to be his girlfriend's boyfriend for 2 weeks 13:06 — The "ghost lift": cadaver fat injections for cosmetic surgery 21:47 — Denmark bans the cry-it-out sleep method — backed by 700 psychologists 30:12 — Passports being revoked for unpaid child support  38:30 —What do women in their 30s miss about life before the internet? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers! Our guest Ask Uncut is BACK! Once a month (ish 😂) we bring in a special guest to help unpack your deep and burning questions, and this month's guest is the one and only Kayla Jade, also known as Blue Eyed Kayla Jade! Kayla Jade is an OnlyFans star, porn creator, podcaster, entrepreneur, call girl, and now a debut author. With over 3 million followers across social media, Kayla Jade is one of the most fascinating, open, and honest voices talking about sex work today. She joins us in the studio to answer your deep and burning questions, but first... the pettiest hill she'll die on.  Then we jump into your questions! HE'S CHEATING AND I HAVE ALL THE EVIDENCE — NOW WHAT? I've been with my partner for almost five years. Long distance, great chemistry. Last weekend I found out he's been living a double life and I caught him via a hiking app. I went full NYPD and connected the evidence back two years. I know I'm the other woman. Do I go along with it, end it, or go nuclear and detonate his entire life? MY EX STARTED GOING TO THE GYM AFTER WE BROKE UP AND I'M FURIOUS For four years I could not get this man to take a 20-minute walk. I suggested the gym approximately 100 times. He said he "just wasn't a gym person." He absolutely is a gym person. He was just not a gym person for me. Do I message him about it? I'M THINKING ABOUT STARTING AN ONLYFANS BUT I'M SCARED I'm 26, working as a DJ, and financially it just makes sense. The thing stopping me isn't the content itself it's what other people might think. My family are conservative, I grew up in a small town and I've moved somewhere that's still not a capital city. Any advice? I LOVE MY KIDS BUT I MISS MYSELF I have two kids and I love them more than I knew it was possible to love anything. But I genuinely grieve the person I was before I became a mum. How can you love something completely and still want to be the person you were before them? Does everyone feel like this? You can find everything Kayla Jade including her book Call Girl Confidential here ⏱️ Timestamps 0:00 — Introducing Kayla Jade: OnlyFans star, porn creator, podcaster & debut author 1:35 — How Kayla got started: from small town to OnlyFans during Covid 3:40 — OnlyFans vs. full service sex work — which pays more? 6:30 — Being doxxed as a mum 9:35 — The biggest misconceptions about sex work 14:50 — Pettiest hill 16:00 — How sex work has affected Kayla's ability to trust and date 20:15 — Listener Q: Caught cheating via a hiking app 27:45 — Listener Q: My ex started going to the gym after we broke up 33:55 — Listener Q: Should I start an OnlyFans? 40:42 — Listener Q: I love my kids but I grieve who I was before becoming a mum 46:30 — All about Call Girl Confidential You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Keeshia Pettit  & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!  Keeshia is back from Bali. If you go on leave, do you want your work team to miss you? Surely we all come back and want to hear how much we are needed! 😂 Happy belated Mother’s Day! Did you celebrate with your own mum or the mother of your children? Nick Cannon most certainly let his thoughts around mother’s day known. We talk about the very online debate over whether Mother's Day belongs to grandmothers or the mums currently in the trenches.  Then, petty exes. It started with a (fake) story about a Dallas Cowboys cheerleader who hired a marching band to follow her ex to work for nine days straight. We wish it was real. We read your best revenge stories! 60 Minutes Australia released a world exclusive this week called Michael Jackson’s “secret” second family break their silence. Tara Brown sat down with the Cascio family, Michael Jackson's so-called secret second family, who are now speaking out about what they say happened to them. With the Michael biopic breaking box office records, Leaving Neverland quietly pulled from HBO, and the estate worth an estimated $3 billion, we unpack why this conversation is so divisive. We talk about the question of whether a biopic co-produced by the subject's own estate can ever be an honest one. ⚠️ Content note: this episode includes discussion of child sexual abuse allegations. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 Intro3:25 Nick Cannon's Mother's Day 7:10 The Mother's Day debate: is it about grandmothers or mums in the trenches?13:03 Britt's spa getaway 20:20 The (fake) marching band revenge 23:11 Your petty revenge stories: prawns, passports, seagulls and fingernails in the post28:00 60 Minutes Michael Jackson world exclusive29:42 Who are the Cascio family and what are they alleging?31:34 The Michael biopic: box office juggernaut41:20 What the Jackson estate is worth 43:54 Can you separate the art from the artist?45:38 "It's just a money grab" — unpacking the Cascio family's allegations50:52 The parasocial defence of Michael Jackson and what the Epstein files taught us You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome to Ask Uncut - your deepest, darkest and most burning questions, answered.  Today’s episode comes to you slightly compromised. Britt had a few drinks in Italy last night… their wedding photographer Cass arrived with his partner Sarah and, well, “when in Rome” turned into a few too many cocktails. She was up at 5:30am, giant glass of water in hand, ready to earn her bacon. She earned it! Vibes for the week:Britt: Raising Chelsea https://www.disneyplus.com/en-au/browse/entity-0b7ad228-5160-4dde-8a64-bd7c9e7f2ebf Laura: A Bit Hippie Hair Repair Kit https://abithippy.com.au/collections/hair-treatments?srsltid=AfmBOooqgRYDlZikT0tq8IB2dgd3pHYKVp1-XPr4pGaPtN_VoUU1Nceb Then we get into your questions! MY PARTNER AND I ARE HAVING A BABY SOON Won't ramble on about how he is a great partner otherwise I wouldn't have chosen him to be my person…The only problem we have is that like most young people these days we used to do cocaine, not a lot..just a few times a year. Mostly at special occasions with friends. Now in our 30's since we started trying for a baby I stopped drinking/drugs to give it our best chance to conceive. My partners use has become more and more regular in the past year, he will bender for a whole weekend once and month and spend $1000+. I thought he would have changed in this new season in our lives together. He tells me he will change when the baby comes. I think he should be supporting this new life now as it makes me really anxious for our future. We have been battling this for a year, constant fighting, I told him how it upsets me when he does it so often. I care about his health, his job, the wasted finances, a possible addiction etc. He tells me he won't change, it's not a big deal as he only does it once a month and it's not a daily/weekly thing and I'm a hypocrite because I used to do it. The last fight we had was really bad because he promised me we wouldn't anymore and then a few days later I caught him doing it. I was so upset | left and stayed with my parents for a few days.. he begged me to come back and that things would change, they haven't. We have been battling this for a year, constant fighting. I love him but it hurts me so much, it feels like he doesn't respect me at all. And the stress on top of being pregnant is not good for me. What should I do? Am I overreacting? Is it not that big of a deal? Do I wait and see if the baby will change him? Is this a dealbreaker? It doesn't feel that easy now as there will be a baby involved. Any advice would be great TO MOVE OR NOT TO MOVE My best friend got engaged last year, and recently we were talking about timelines for weddings. She basically said that if someone in your close circle (like a best friend or cousin) is engaged before you, it’s kind of “rude” to get married before them, like there’s an unspoken order you should follow. Apparently in her family/social circle, people wait their turn so no one “cuts in” with their wedding, and it’s caused actual fallouts when people didn’t follow that. I had literally NEVER heard of this and thought weddings were just whenever suits the couple? But now I’m second guessing myself. She spoke about waiting for her to have her moment before anyone else can have theirs. Personally, I don’t care about my “moment”, I just want to marry the love of my life when it suits us. Is there actually an unspoken etiquette around not getting married before friends who got engaged first? Or is this just a cultural/family-specific thing MY FRIEND WON'T SET ME UP I recently had a friend tell me that she was too busy to organise a set up with a guy whom she had suggested to me without organising. For context: I’m the only single friend in a group of 7 people. This has meant countless weddings, baby showers, first birthdays and general catch ups where I am attending on my own. My friends have struggled to understand the impact that this has on me and at 32, I find all of these interactions pretty hard. Recently my friend told me that a colleague potentially knew someone who they could set me up with, without me even asking for her to do this. When I tried to follow up 2 months later to casually see what the go is (after being ghosted by a guy I liked and having minimal support), she bluntly told me that she and her colleague had been too busy at work. I tried to say that it had been two months so was just curious and I got a list of why she had been too busy. I feel like as the single friend I am constantly turning up for everyone with minimal return; I’ve listened to this friend talk about her fertility struggles and her co-parenting struggles with her step child, and I also listen to her work stressors. I’m also working in a high pressure job as well as living on my own and carry the burden of this on my own with most friends too preoccupied with their partners and children to listen or let me debrief. Am I being overly sensitive or should I raise with her how it made me feel to shut me down and say she had been too busy to send a text CAN YOU USE BINS I was on a walk with my friend the other day and we grabbed a takeout coffee. To add context we were walking around our suburb and it was bin day. Once I finish my coffee, I put it in someone’s bin that was on the curb. Now this bin had already been collected so it was empty but I still put my coffee cup in it. She said that that is so rude and I shouldn’t have done that. I didn’t see an issue with it because it was a little coffee cup and it was a bit. What are your thoughts on this? Thank you. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — Britt accidentally got drunk in Italy and is recording at 5:30am 03:56 — Vibes of the week 11:04 — Q1: My pregnant partner keeps going on cocaine benders - am I overreacting? 23:13 — Q2: Is there an unspoken rule about who gets to get married first? 31:54 — Q3: My friend promised to set me up months ago and still hasn't sent the text! 44:06 — Q4: Can you put your rubbish in a stranger's bin? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Video & Audio Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome to your weekend num num 🎙️ The Met Gala happened and we need to talk about the nipples. All the Kardashians coordinated sheer looks with visible nipples and Britt is calling it... this was a business decision, something Skims is coming. We also cover Kim's limo vlog, the Olympian who shot actual bubbles from her gown, Blake Lively showing up post-trial completely unbothered, and Zendaya quietly pulling the pin, which might be its own statement. Then a Reddit thread where men explained why they didn’t propose or finally left. One had “one foot out the door for years.” Another said the sex was “dog shit” but he was “too emotionally weak to end it.” We get into fertility vampires and why “I didn’t want to hurt her” isn’t landing the way they think it is. Next, a UK corporate worker who suspected her job might not be real and quietly did almost nothing for a year to test it. She sent a 15-minute task list on Monday mornings and a couple of emails to show she was online. No one noticed. She had to quit herself! We debate whether it’s actually her fault and how much work people are really doing anyway... It's Sir David Attenborough100th Birthday!! We celebrate accordingly.  And we close with Holly Butcher’s viral letter, written at 27 before she passed from cancer, urging us to whinge less and give more - her perspective on life is worth sitting with this Saturday morning. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS00:00 — Are we still doing the Met Gala? And why the vibe is shifting03:17 — The nipples: coordinated, intentional, and probably a Skims launch04:25 — Kim's behind-the-scenes vlog: late, lost her phone, can't move in the outfit08:01 — Met Gala chaos, bubble dresses & who actually delivered13:41 — The Reddit thread: why men didn't propose or finally left20:29 — The woman who did nothing at her corporate job for a year and no one noticed33:55 — Happy 100th birthday Sir David Attenborough40:00 — Holly’s letter: a final reminder on how to liveYou can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Video & Audio Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

With everything that's come out recently about AI tools like Grok, online predators, and disturbing cases emerging from childcare centres, the question every parent is asking is ‘how do I actually keep my kids safe?’ It's a topic that feels bigger and more frightening by the day and one that parents constantly think about. Today we're sitting down with Kristi McVee. Kristi McVee is a former Detective Senior Constable and Specialist Child Interviewer. After 10+ years investigating child sexual abuse, Kristi shifted her focus to prevention to give families the tools, language and the confidence to protect kids. She’s the author of Operation KidSafe: A Detective’s Guide to Child Abuse Prevention, a speaker, educator and the founder of CAPE-AU, where she teaches parents and educators how to talk about consent, spotting red flags, online dangers and building trusting conversations with kids. Today’s conversation isn’t about scaremongering, it’s about learning real strategies and assessing both physical and online risks to keep our kids safe. We chat: The sobering statistics every parent needs to know - 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 5 boys will be sexually abused before the age of 18 The biggest myths surrounding child sexual abuse, including why "it won't happen to my family" is dangerous thinking Why nearly 50% of child sexual abuse is perpetrated by other children and what "harmful sexualised behaviours" actually means When and how to start body safety conversations with your kids  Why using correct anatomical language could one day be critical to a legal case The grooming red flags hiding in plain sight and why grooming looks a lot like nurture The difference between in-person grooming and online grooming, and why kids often don't even recognise what's happened to them The sleepover question How to assess the safety of your child's daycare or early childhood education centre Red flags in your child's behaviour that could signal something is wrong The importance of connection: why predators use your lack of connection with your kids against you timestamps: 00:00 — Introducing Kristi McVee: former detective and specialist child interviewer 01:43 — Kristi's background: joining the police with a two-year-old and becoming a child abuse detective 04:11 — How do you come home to your own child after seeing this every day? 06:34 — The biggest myths about child sexual abuse  08:26 — What age are children most at risk, and who is most often the perpetrator? 10:11 — Harmful sexualised behaviours between children: what parents need to know 13:09 — When to start body safety conversations  16:22 — Should you use correct anatomy names with your kids?  17:30 — Why are convictions so rare?  20:21 — Red flags to watch for: grooming looks like nurture 22:03 — The "don't tell mum" problem and why secrets are a grooming tactic 23:22 — Online grooming vs in-person abuse: what's the difference? 25:16 — Has the social media age limit actually made a difference? 26:52 — What is Grok, why is it dangerous, and what can parents do? 28:41 — Should your kids go on sleepovers? A former detective's honest answer 31:23 — How do you explain to a six year old why they can't photograph their body? 36:00 — Behavioural red flags that could signal something is wrong 38:26 — The daycare safety crisis: how to assess risk and ask the right questions 41:23 — How often do offenders reoffend  42:26 — How Kristi keeps going when the weight of this work feels impossible 43:26 — The single most important thing parents can do You can find Kristi on Instagram  You can visit Kristi's website    You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Laura had a very unexpected visitor pop into her ToniMay store in Bondi - none other than Sydney Sweeney, who came in with her best friend and walked out with two bespoke solid gold pieces. The thing is, there had been zero press about Sydney being in Sydney (yes, really) - so did this little shopping trip and Laura’s socials accidentally out her location?  Britt's update comes with a hot warning, and we mean that literally. During a lovely morning in bed with her husband in Italy, she managed to burn herself in a very unfortunate place with a very hot coffee. We’ll say no more… And in other news: Laura's daughter Marlie-Mae has a new best friend. It's a snail. She's already been scoping out enclosures. We support this era. We unpack all things The Devil Wears Prada. The iconic cast reunited to dish on fashion faux pas, and we took the opportunity to go deep on the trends we are absolutely not letting back through the door.  And then there's Emily Blunt, who is copping serious backlash online after telling fans to quit their jobs and chase their creative dreams, even if it means making "no money." Easy to say when you're Emily Blunt? Or genuinely good advice? We get into it. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:01 - Sydney Sweeney walks into the ToniMay Bondi store! 7:50 - Britt's update: the great Italy coffee burn incident 13:19 - Marlie-Mae's new pet snail & the terrarium saga 20:22 - Devil Wears Prada 2 - the sequel, the cast, and the cultural shift in fashion 29:40 - Fashion faux pas: what we never want to see return  36:00 - Emily Blunt's "just quit your job" advice - tone deaf or actually real talk? 51:42 - Suck & Sweet  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Video & Audio Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions. Britt is officially Britally, coming to you live from Italy. Laura did a full wardrobe purge and has made peace with the fact that her sequined mini skirt era is over. Keeshia is the hand me down bin chicken. Vibes of the week: Laura - The Founder podcast — I Started a Jewelry Brand With $25K and the WRONG Business Model Britt - Vietnamese iced coffee. Espresso shot over condensed milk  Keeshia - Hasan Minhaj Doesn’t Know Podcast - Fighting The Crypto Cult with Ben McKenzie Then we jump into your questions! Q1: Two of my close friends have fallen out. I'm hosting a dinner party with Friend B this weekend. Friend A has a flair for drama and is asking who's coming. Do I tell her or withhold to avoid the fallout? Q2: I introduced my work colleague to my friend's ex. I said he was a great guy and fully encouraged her. They've been together for five months. I have just found out the real reason the relationship ended — secret brothel visits, SA’ing her friend in a taxi, and inviting her friend into the shower. Do I now tell my colleague he’s different to who I thought he was? Q3: I'm pregnant, my husband has a higher sex drive than me, and he keeps asking me for handjobs when I'm not in the mood. I find it really awkward. Am I being a bad partner? Q4: My housemates chew with their mouths open. Loudly. I love them. How do I tell them without it being weird?  ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — Britt is officially Britally  01:04 — Laura did a full wardrobe purge 04:34 — Vibes of the week 13:45 — Q1: Do I tell my dramatic friend she's not invited to my dinner party? 24:53 — Q2: I vouched for him. Now I know more. Do I owe her the truth when I gave the character reference? 33:40 — Q3: My husband keeps asking for handjobs when I'm not in the mood — am I a bad partner? 42:19 — Q4: My housemates chew with their mouths open — how do I say something? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome to your weekend num num num num!We chat: Kris Jenner has quietly pulled off the greatest momager flex of all time.  NASA had a problem. Astronauts were choosing the wrong size for their in-suit urine collection device (yes, the penis pee bag).  Younger men are actively choosing to date older women. Ben weighed in with his own answer that wasn't in the article! The millennial propaganda we all fell for And are 40 year olds aged out of coachella? ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — Intro 01:53 — Kris Jenner's trifecta 05:55 — NASA's astronaut penis sizing crisis and the genius rebrand 12:33 — Why younger men are choosing to date older women 23:04 — The millennial propaganda  32:12 — Is Coachella actually age-gated or is this about women specifically? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! We have a very special guest in the studio today! It’s Sam Fischer. You might know him as the man behind This City, one of the most viral songs of the TikTok era. We know him as Britt's personal wedding singer. He wrote and recorded a surprise wedding song for Britt and Ben! Sam is currently in Australia opening for Guy Sebastian on his national arena tour, and he's got a debut independent album on the way! We start with some industry chat where Sam explains how things work with music artists behind the scenes with record labels, pay, royalties and what it’s like to go independent! Then we get into your questions! MY MUM IS DATING SOMEONE I GENUINELY CANNOT STAND AND I DON'T KNOW HOW MUCH LONGER I CAN FAKE IT My parents divorced five years ago after my dad had an affair. It was devastating for our whole family but we got through it. My mum spent a couple of years on her own and she seemed like she was really finding herself again, which was beautiful to watch. About a year ago she started dating someone new and I really tried to like him, but there is something about him that just doesn't sit right with me. He's not outwardly awful, he's never been rude to me or my siblings, but he talks over her, he makes little digs disguised as jokes, and I've noticed she apologises a lot when he's around in a way she never used to. I've gently tried to bring it up once and she got really defensive and told me I just wasn't used to seeing her with someone new. Maybe she's right. Do I keep saying something or do I zip it and keep my opinions to myself? I SLEPT WITH MY BEST FRIEND'S EX AND IT'S EATING ME ALIVE My best friend and her ex broke up about two years ago. It wasn't a great relationship, he wasn't particularly good to her, and when they split she was upset but I think she knew deep down that it would be for the best. They've had zero contact since. A few months ago I ran into him at a party. We had been drinking and I guess one thing led to another. He ended up stumbling back to my apartment and we had sex. In the morning I kind of expected it to feel awkward and him to high tail it out of there but he didn’t. It felt weirdly comfortable and he stayed and hung out for a few hours. It's happened a few more times since and I think I might be starting to get the feels a bit. I haven't told my best friend and the longer I leave it the worse it gets. She's one of the most important people in my life. I genuinely don't think she has feelings for him anymore but I also know that doesn't necessarily mean she'll be okay with it. When is the right time to tell her and is there even a right way to do it?PARTNER WANTS ME TO REMOVE UPPER LIP HAIRWhat are your thoughts on your partner asking you to remove your upper lip hair. My partner asks me every month to remove my upper lip hair. It takes him about 2 weeks to notice it has grown back after I get it threaded off. If he wants it removed should he pay for it? Are our partners allowed to ask us to remove our facial/body hair? IS IT TOO LATE TO START OVER?I'm 34 and I have spent the last decade building a career in marketing that I genuinely do not care about. I took the job at 24 because I’d finished my degree, it paid pretty well and I didn't really know what else to do and then I just kept going because that's what you do. I've been promoted, I earn decent money but I dread Monday mornings with a consistency that I think at this point is probably worth paying attention to. What I actually want to do is work in film or TV probably in some type of production role. I've just never had the guts to try to get into it. The problem is every time I look at job listings or internship opportunities I'm looking at roles filled by 22 year olds and I feel like I'm already a decade behind. I know 34 isn't old. I know that intellectually. But it feels old when you're starting from scratch in a competitive industry and you've got a mortgage and a life that requires a certain income to function. I'm not even sure I'm asking for permission, I think I'm asking whether anyone has actually done this and whether it was worth the chaos it caused. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — Welcome back Sam Fischer, Britt's personal wedding singer 05:16 — Leaving Sony after a global hit and going independent, new music and the debut album coming July 11:58 — Sam's petty hill: close talkers 13:41 — Q1: Mum is dating someone the family can't stand — do you say something? 21:35 — Q2: I slept with my best friend's ex and now I have feelings for him 30:47 — Q3: My partner keeps asking me to remove my upper lip hair — should he pay for it? 38:04 — Q4: I'm 34 and I hate my career — is it too late to start over in film and TV? 47:11 — Where to find Sam on the Guy Sebastian tour and what's coming next You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! 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Hey Lifers! Britt is living it up in Italy. It’s only been a week but she’s already tried to replace us. She’s gone on a blind-ish friend date and it didn’t exactly go perfectly.  Meanwhile Laura’s oldest daughter Marlie-Mae has a new arch nemesis from the community garden. What did your kid have to learn the hard way? We need to talk about Victoria's Secret and whether children should ever be involved in the marketing of ‘sexy’ brands. Their Mother's Day campaign features model Elsa Hosk alongside her four year old daughter. Elsa is in revealing lingerie. Her daughter is in… a trench coat, a robe and her mum’s high heeled shoes. Victoria's Secret has since removed the carousel from their page, but the images are still on Elsa’s instagram. We walk through exactly what's in each photo, why we all felt uncomfortable when we saw it, and the much bigger question of whether this was an oversight or something far more deliberate; especially given Victoria's Secret's deeply tainted history with Jeffrey Epstein.   ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — Britt is in Italy and went on a blind friend date 03:20 — The seagull attack 10:16 — Marlie-Mae’s community garden nightmare 14:30 — Victoria's Secret's Mother's Day campaign  27:09 — Les Wexner and the Jeffrey Epstein connection explained 33:22 — Was this an intentional decision or a genuine oversight? 35:00 — Should the model have said no? And where does responsibility lie? 35:55 —Does the brand even matter when a child is in an underwear ad? 42:00 — Suck and Sweet You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome to your weekend snacky snack. Laura has discovered a hidden talent, ventriloquism. It came out of a three hour drive back from Ulladulla. We also take a trip down memory lane with Healthy Harold the giraffe. Henry Cavill has gone viral for his dating advice: "if you like her, just ask her out. It's always worked for me." The internet has thoughts. We do too. When your face card is Superman, you are officially disqualified from giving the rest of us romantic guidance. We also can't stop talking about little 12-year-old Billie Eilish crying over Justin Bieber and the full circle Coachella moment that just happened that is genuinely the most wholesome thing on the internet right now. Laura had the same energy for Zac Hanson.  Then we unpack the Ugly Duckling Theory. David Haye on I'm A Celebrity described his model girlfriend as having "the personality of an ugly girl" as a compliment. We unpack why the intention doesn't really matter, why this theory only ever gets applied to women, and what it says about how we value women's personalities as a consolation prize for looks. And finally Jimmy Nicholson's lawn war. His neighbour mowed right up to the property line and left Jimmy's one metre strip wild. We debate whether that's un-Australian. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — Intro  00:37 — Laura is a ventriloquist now  07:52 — Henry Cavill's viral dating advice and why he's not allowed to give it 13:30 — Billie Eilish's 2013 Justin Bieber obsession and the Coachella full circle moment 21:50 — I'm A Celebrity's David Haye and the Ugly Duckling Theory explained 33:15 — Jimmy Nicholson's neighbour mowed only his side of the lawn. Is this un-Australian? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you're in need of a laugh and a reminder that life in your 40s can actually be the best chapter yet, this is the episode for you. Our guest today is Lizzy Hoo. You'll know her from Have You Been Paying Attention, The Cheap Seats, and her own Amazon Prime special. She's also the host of The Lizzy Hoo Show podcast and has been performing standup comedy all over the country since 2017, when she walked into a standup course on a complete whim and accidentally found her calling. We chat: Taxidermy pigeons  Growing up with a Chinese Malaysian dad and an Irish Australian mum Quitting her corporate career at 32 to do standup, the year she made $50 from comedy, and the moment she realised it was actually a viable career What it was like to be fast tracked in the industry and go from open mics to the Opera House within a year Being in an open relationship in her 40s, how it ended and what she actually took from the experience What dating in your 40s actually looks like compared to your 30s Coming to terms with not wanting kids, trying for a while, facing the question of IVF, and finding genuine peace in the decision Why the loosest people Lizzy knows are her mum friends, and the 20 year tradition of their annual Christmas party Navigating friendships when everyone is in completely different life stages You can find more from Lizzy’s website  and her Instagram  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Britt has officially landed in Italy with a one way ticket! She's back with her husband after nearly four months apart and we are a cross-continental podcast once again. But before she left, something scary happened. On the last day of filming MAFS After The Dinner Party, Britt completely lost track of what year it was. Her neurologist says it's a new type of migraine symptom.  Laura meanwhile survived a truly feral Sunday with the kids, and then found something in a memory box from her mum that explained a lot; her old school report cards. A five year old Laura's year one teacher wrote that her "incessant talking is annoying" and her "incessant fidgeting distresses others." We get into what that means for a kid who probably just needed support, the difference between how schools talked about kids then vs. now, and Laura's secret coping mechanism she's never fully explained before. We also had a one hour Uber ride with a man who hunts Yowies, Australia's answer to Bigfoot, and believes one tried to save him from alien abduction. Then we talk about Aubrey Plaza, who recently announced she's pregnant with her new partner less than a year after her ex-husband died by suicide. The internet has had a lot to say, and we unpack why: Why she was always going to lose no matter what she did The biological reality of being a 41-year-old woman  The Victorian widow — the actual rulebook women were held to for 150 years, and how little has changed Whether men in the same situation would be judged the same way Why grief and happiness are not mutually exclusive See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions. Vibes for the week:Laura - Habitual Beauty Hydrating Sleep Mask Britt - Tell Me Lives on Disney Keeshia - Trust Me: The False Prophet on Netflix  Then we jump into your questions! SEXY STALEMATEMy partner and I have been together for nearly 4 years. We’ve always had a healthy and positive sexlife. Recently he expressed that he’d love me to wear sexy lingerie for him. We picked something out together (and shared the expense of it) and it started that I’d wear it for more ‘special’ occasions. But recently he’s been more insistent that I wear it every time we’re intimate or that I surprise him with it on when he gets home (which I have done a couple of times). He often asks me to change into a particular lingerie set even when we’re just kissing etc. and he is disappointed when I don’t want to wear it. It feels performative to me and I want to be enough as I am for him without wearing something ‘sexy’ every time. I’ve told him how I feel and he said ‘it’s what turns him on’. He says he understands why I’m upset but it’s caused a stalemate in our sex life as his insistence for the lingerie has given me the ick. Am I being unreasonable? I’d like to add, I enjoy dressing up occasionally and the lingerie makes me feel sexy but I don’t want it to be the condition as to whether we have sex or not. HUSBAND CHEATED WITH MY SISTER, THEY’RE STILL TOGETHER 4 YEARS LATER I CAN’T MOVE ON5 years ago I eloped with my boyfriend, 5 months after getting married we separated due to many issues. A couple of months later, I found out he was cheating on me with my sister. My sister is younger, and has been my best friend since she was born. Our relationship fell apart, but continued to talk on a family basis to keep the peace and half of our family doesn’t know, as she keeps him and family life very separate, they are still together now, 4 years later. It has been an exhausting and difficult time for me, having a massive impact on my mental health. I was hoping eventually their little game of sneaking around would become boring and they would move on, however, that is not the case and they have now brought a house together. This has completely broken me and I don’t know what to do. I guess my question is, should I continue keeping the peace with my family and talking to her as she still keeps things separate? I don’t want to lose my family over this. Do I call a family meeting and try again on telling her how I feel even though I have tried many times, and she doesn’t care. Do I completely cut ties with her and distance myself? Which might be difficult at family events. I’m just so angry, and hurt, and don’t want to have to keep dealing with this anymore, I need to move on somehow!  IS “TAKING TIME APART AND FINDING OUR WAY BACK’ EVERY REALISTIC?I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years — he’s truly my person and has made me incredibly happy. We’ve lived together for 3 of those years, but recently moved apart so he can save money while studying and living with his grandma. I’m planning on moving away from the city also for a while (and he will also be going overseas next year). We have talked about possibly separating in a few months and maybe coming back together in the future after growing individually. As we truly see a future together. For context we are both in our late twenties. But recently, over the weekend he told me he was studying, but actually went out with our mutual friends and didn’t invite me. I felt a bit hurt, especially as my birthday had just passed, but I didn’t think too deeply into it at the time. A couple of days later, he told me he kissed one of the girls that night — a mutual new friend. He said it was just a small kiss and that he regretted it straight away, but also mentioned that he thinks sleeping with other people could be “fun.” Now I just feel really confused and hurt as we have always been truthful with each other. I’m trying to figure out if this is something we can work through, or if it’s a sign that we’re no longer on the same page. And is “taking time apart and maybe finding our way back” actually realistic — or just delaying the inevitable?  SHOULD THE WAITRESS HAVE TAKEN OUR FOOD?Ok this is a bit of a lighthearted one but interested to see what you think is the right way to handle this. Went out for dinner just with my 2 kids and so I was solo parenting the night (6 and 4yo) kids ate free so wasn’t passing that up, plus $6 wine One kid had to go to the toilet so that meant taking both. I left all our stuff on the table to indicate we were still there. I covered my drink with a coaster, and I covered the kids with their kids pack hoping that all this would give the impression we weren’t done. Came back and they had taken the kids food The lady was there so I just mentioned “oh we weren’t done with those” she responded with “you left your table unattended” and I just gently said “yeah but with all our things still here”. She insisted there wasn’t much food left anyway and that we didn’t see the items (there was definitely a decent amount of food). We ended up getting an extra bowl of chips so all ok but she was rather rude about it all.  I have worked in hospitality previously, and for a long time, pubs, bars, restaurants etc and usually in those instances we would just leave the food and drinks until we definitely knew they had gone or checked with the customer. So what do you think? I left the table so basically free range? Or the servers should have just left it? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy PugsleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to Offcuts, your weekly delivery of everything that caught our eye, wrapped in a light, fun package to kickstart your weekend.  This episode is bittersweet- it’s our final one with Britt for a while before she heads overseas!  In true Britt fashion, she’s leaving us in a whirlwind of chaos, including the minor detail of forgetting to book her own farewell dinner at one of Bondi’s busiest spots.  We chat:  Britt forgets to confirm her own going away dinner! Apart from the drama of MAFS, Britt has another bone to pick with the MAFS Australia Cast Jo Malone ‘surprised and sad’ after being sued for $370,000 for using her name on fragrances. Scientists have located a SECOND male g-spot?! Gleb Savchenko slams ex Brooks Nader as ‘worst sex of my life’ You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy PugsleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today’s episode is going to have you in a belly laugh. We have had Joanne McNally on the pod before and if you listened to that episode you already know that she is one of the funniest, most chaotically brilliant people we have ever had on this show. In that episode, “The art of riding a lover to sleep” we spoke about what led her to comedy, being adopted, her non-existent pelvic floor and wild dating past. Since we last spoke, Joanne's life has changed a lot. On the career front, she's absolutely on fire. Her current tour Pinotphile has already sold across the world and she is about to make history as the first Irish female comedian to headline the 3Arena solo. She has come to the conclusion that she is, possibly, in the middle of a midlife crisis. Or as she now prefers to call it, a midlife audit. We chat: Dating younger men and how it’s different How she got the name ‘Pinotphile’  The fake Instagram account she shares with a friend  Whether men are genuinely intimidated by funny women, and the power shift that happens when someone makes you laugh Deciding she wants to have a baby with her gay best friend and why she doesn't want to do it completely alone Finding her biological dad on Facebook, her half brothers in Melbourne, and what their relationship looks like now What it actually looks like to run a friendship and a business with Vogue William and why being professionally obligated to each other makes the friendship deeper You can follow Joanne on Instagram at @joannemcnally You can listen to My Therapist Ghosted Me Get tickets to Joanne's Pinotphile tour here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Britt is officially leaving on Friday and flying back to Ben after nearly four months apart. We also have an update on the plan (or lack thereof) for the rest of 2026. We also get into white lies in relationships; the ones partners tell each other and know the other is telling. Laura lied to Matt about the fence quote. Keeshia is apparently unaware of what a missing testie looks or feels like. Then we're deep in MAFS territory and this one is big. Spoilers ahead from the ‘After the Reunion’ episode! We unpack: The hot mic moment. Danny's leaked audio and what it reveals about who he really is The vox pop footage where Danny demands producers "bring him better women" Why Bec's behaviour made more sense when you understand what Danny was saying to her off-camera Whether it's possible to wear a mask for three months and what finally makes it slip Why Danny never came back on After the Dinner Party once things started going south Are we outsourcing our relationships to AI? We polled you and 40% of lifers said yes, they've used ChatGPT for relationship advice. We get into: The guy who asked a chatbot if he should be in love after 3 months before his girlfriend saw it Why men turn to AI more than women for this kind of thing Using AI to vent instead of fighting with your partner. Is it a healthy coping mechanism or avoidance? Whether AI can be a useful tool or whether convenience is actually the trap You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions. A question came up in our Facebook Discussion Group about a partner who plays soccer 4 nights per week with a baby and a pregnant partner at home. We unpack whether the prioritisation of exercise is a common ‘issue’ in relationships and whether it’s ‘fair’. Vibes for the week: Britt - Amanda Knox Hosts | DOUBT: The Case of Lucy Letby  Keeshia - Pivot podcast  Laura - Love on the Spectrum Season 4 on Netflix  HE LOVE BOMBED ME AND NOW I MISS THE FAKE VERSION OF HIM I’ve been in a relationship for 7 months now. It started like a movie. He texted constantly, planned elaborate dates, told me I was the one within weeks and even introduced me to his family after a month. I felt more seen than I ever had in my life. Six months in and he's a completely different person now. He’s often distant, distracted and puts in almost zero effort. I know what love bombing is and I know logically that the first version of him wasn't real. But I genuinely miss that version so much that I'm staying in the relationship hoping that one day it might get back to that phase. Do you think it’s worth sticking around and waiting for him to put more effort in and prioritise me like he used to or is this just a normal part of a relationship that turns into a long term relationship? I’ve never dated anyone for more than a few months.  CAN RELATIONSHIP SURVIVE WITHOUT ROMANCE?I’ve been with my partner now for just over two years. From the start we’ve always talked about marriage and aiming for a long term relationship. We’ve recently moved in together & most aspects are going so well. We’re best friends, have great sex & share the same opinions about big life things. My question is, can a relationship survive without romance? Something I’ve always found difficult & confusing to understand is our lack of romance outside of the bedroom. We’ve had many conversations about it & still nothing has changed. My partner doesn’t buy me flowers, organise dates, plan trips away, write me letters, etc. These have always been initiated by me. It's something I recognised early on in the relationship but I ignored it and brushed it off at first, thinking it would automatically improve. But I’m now beginning to feel lonely, neglected and resentful of our relationship. My frustration is growing given I have communicated my desires many times and nothing has changed. Do you think my expectations are too high to desire these things? Given it’s my first relationship I’m struggling to understand whether I’m expecting too much IS PORN RUINING HIS DESIRE FOR ME?Married for 4 years. My husband & l have an 8 year age gap, l’m in my early 30s & he is in his late 30s. We have no kids yet, currently 5 months pregnant. My husband is a good guy in some areas however l feel we have mismatched libidos which is causing a problem in our relationship. I tend to want sex more than he does. I sometimes try to initiate sex when l feel like it, however most of the time he turns me down which leaves me feeling like shit and rejected. This tends to make things awkward as l really get into my head about it. We seem to only have sex when he feels like it. I don’t want to use a toy on my own as l get intense guilt from using a toy (I’m from a Christian background). l don’t mind when using it with him. I have tried to talk to him in the past however he says he will fix it but nothing has changed. Recently while l was helping him with something on his phone l found a private browser that was locked and in the browser he had porn websites open. I deleted the browser and didn’t ask him as l didn’t want him to feel like l was snooping around in his phone. This has been bothering me ever since, l have multiple questions in my head and l just don't have the answers to. A few days after l checked again and saw he had the porn browser open again which makes me think that he probably watches porn often. I’m going mad with all these questions in my head. Does he prefer to watch porn than having sex with me? Is he a porn addict? How do l handle this? He doesn’t take feedback well at all; he gets defensive and feels like it’s an attack. We usually have sex once every week to a fortnight. Or maybe l’m just wanting too much. I FEEL GUILTY ABOUT SPLITTING IVF COSTSAfter a few unsuccessful rounds of ovulation induction, I am going to be progressing to IVF. The fertility treatment is needed because of my PCOS. My partner and I have been together for 6 years and own a unit together. My partner earns about $15k more than me atm and is currently paying off our car but I have more in savings. I feel like it is fair for me to pay the IVF costs given it is my issue that requires it and I am in the fortunate position that I can afford to pay the whole amount. However, my mum is adamant that this should be a shared cost. My partner is extremely generous and I’m sure would not bat an eyelid about splitting it but I just feel uncomfortable about it. Is this an expression of my guilt that I’m robbing him of the joy of trying for a baby naturally? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Laura's made headlines for her 'wild' birthday party Bonnie Blue has rage baited us again The price of privacy and the interior design scandal Mount Everest guides allegedly ‘poisoned’ climbers as part of a $30 million scam Fart blocking underwear   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers! Our guest Ask Uncut is BACK! Once a month (ish 😂) we bring in a special guest to help unpack your deep and burning questions, and this month's guest is friend of the show Mitch Churi! You know his voice, you love his chaos, and he may or may not have broken Brittany's chair during an important TV meeting, but that's a whole other story. Mitch is a comedian, actor, host, podcaster and apparently now a videographer (don't ask).  Then we jump into your questions! I CAME OUT AT 31. AM I BEHIND? I came out at 31 and while I have zero regrets about who I am, I sometimes feel quite jealous of people who knew earlier in their life. I feel like I've missed a whole chapter and that my teens and 20s felt a bit fake, like I wasn't even myself. I also wonder if I'm taken as seriously in the queer community because I'm so new to it. My straight friends have a decade of relationship experience on me and I feel like I'm starting from scratch in my 30s. Is this a weird feeling and should I just get over it, or is it a common experience? CAN I FAKE A DIETARY REQUIREMENT TO AVOID MY IN-LAWS' COOKING? Is it okay to fake a dietary requirement to get out of a dinner situation? My partner's family does a big group dinner every few months and I genuinely dread it. The food is always aggressively bad. Everything tastes like it has ten times the amount of herbs and spices it should. I've started considering telling them I've developed a gluten intolerance so I have a built-in excuse to either bring my own food or bow out entirely. I am, in fact, not gluten intolerant. Is this really wrong, or would you do the same thing? MY BEST FRIEND IS TRYING TO BE AN INFLUENCER AND I WANT TO MUTE HERMy best friend has recently started posting so much on Instagram and I think she's trying to become an influencer. It's a mix of fitness and mummy blogging content. She posts stories all day, every day, and usually at least two posts a day. She will sometimes send me posts and ask me to share or comment on them. Am I allowed to just mute her? I love her to death but I cannot take it anymore and find myself eye-rolling every time something comes up. She has around 2000 followers so surely she's not checking who's engaging... right? MY PARTNER LOST HIS JOB AND I DON'T RECOGNISE HIM ANYMORE My partner was let go from his job six months ago. He worked in tech sales and it came as quite a shock. He was always motivated, but fast forward to now and he's become a shell of the person he was before. He's tried to find a job in a similar field but has had no luck, and I feel like he's stopped looking as hard. He's sleeping in a lot and when I try to talk to him about it, he gets really defensive and shuts down. Financially we are okay because he was a good saver, but that pot is declining and I'm being expected to cover more and more. Our sex life has completely dried up and we haven't been on a date night in months. I don't recognise him anymore. What can I do to get him, and us, back on track?Want more from Mitch? Listen to our other eps here:He's Back! Reunion With Our Cohost - Apple | SpotifyFrom a Rooster to a Radio Star - Uncut with Mitch Churi - Apple | Spotify  You can find Mitch on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Easter has come and gone and Laura has a very controversial take. She thinks Easter is actually kind of a bad holiday. Britt meanwhile spent four days completely alone; not in a zen way, in a "I didn't speak to a single human for four days" way. She's shining a light on the single people we forget about at family holidays. Britt also accidentally superglued herself to her luxury sheets with press-on nail glue. More on that. We're deep in the final stretch of Married at First Sight and this part of the episode contains spoilers from the episode that aired last night! We chat: Gia finally coming on After the Dinner Party after seven weeks of cancellations The monkey branching, the lying, and what's really behind Gia's behaviour Why this season's female-on-female bullying is especially badly timed given the manosphere moment we're in The Final Vows - Is walking away before letting the other speak taking power back or just plain disrespectful? Whether you can actually ‘fake’ a relationship for 3 months What's coming: the reunion episode and a juicy "where are they now" bonus episode You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy PugsleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions!Vibes for the week:Britt - Love Trapped Podcast Keeshia - Virgin River on Netflix Laura - La Casa Homewares  Then we jump into your questions! MET A GUY BUT HE IS SO YOUNGI‘m 36 years old and I met a guy on an intercontinental flight a month ago. It was weird, because even before ending up talking I felt completely relaxed around him and had the urge to rest my head on his shoulder (I didn’t btw). My friend, who was sitting across the aisle from me, even snapped a picture, because she thought we looked good together. In the final hour of the flight he finally started a conversation and that last hour just flew by. He asked for my number and texted me a few hours later and we’ve been texting ever since. I suspected he might be younger than me from the beginning, but didn’t put too much thought into it. He’s from a different country than me, works in the military and is currently deployed abroad. He has now invited me to his home country this summer and put together a full itinerary to give me a real experience of his home. And let’s just say our interests align 100%.Yesterday I finally asked how old he is and it turns out that he is only 24 years old!This is a much bigger age gap than I would ever have imagined, because he comes across as very mature (more mature than many men my age honestly). But I‘m at a loss - how do I proceed from here? Interested to hear your take on this!  BF SAID IM NOT AT ATTRACTIVE AS OTHER GIRL FIRENDS (AFTER 8 MONTHS)I’ve been seeing a guy for 8 months and it has been the most amazing time. We’ve got similar values and hobbies, get along amazingly, have never fought once and have aligned goals for the future. From the moment we met, we haven’t stopped texting, our chemistry was amazing, and he was the first to introduce me to his family, as well as say I love you. True penguin material. Then 2 weeks ago, I asked him his thoughts on whether in a year’s time, we should move in together (we both live alone currently). He said he had to think about it, then two days later, he turned up at my house out of the blue in tears and said we needed to break up. When I asked him to talk through what had happened, he said something felt ‘off’ about us but when I asked if it was something I did, he couldn’t give me any examples. After talking it through, he agreed that he was having a meltdown from other life troubles and he wanted to give us another try.Two days later, I asked him if being together is really what he wanted and he completely backflipped on having ever wanted to break up. He was extremely happy to stay together. When I asked him why, he paused and said ‘please don’t take this the wrong way, but you’re not as attractive as my previous partners. But I am attracted to you! More than enough! And I talked to my Dad about what’s important to me and everything else in our relationship is perfect!’ Given we met through an app, I didn’t alter my photos, plus we’d been together for 8 months, I thought that wouldn’t be an issue. But now I’m second guessing our relationship. What would you girls do in this situation? Extra info in case it helps with context, I’m 32, he’s 30, and we both came out of long term relationships, 1 year prior to getting together. DO I GO FOR IT WITH MY SISTERS GROOMSMANHelp- am I overthinking this? Last weekend was my sister’s wedding, a beautiful day celebrating love! One of the groomsmen, someone who went to uni with my now brother-in-law, was also single, and I sensed a kinda flirty vibe over the night. He has messaged me since and now I’m wondering if it is a bad idea to engage. He seems like a nice guy and our chats were lovely and lord knows the dating apps are not offering up anything better but if we date and it doesn’t really go anywhere, or worse it goes badly, then every time my family are reflecting on my sister’s wedding photos then BAM there will be this guy, and me, in the bridal party. Or worse, I make things awkward between my sister who has to be on my side and her husband who has been good friends with this guy for years.I’m leaning toward don’t engage because it’s not worth the potential drama but help me weigh up the pros and cons here. FRIEND SWEARS AROUND OUR KIDS AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO APPROACHHey girlies, I have a close group of girlfriends and we all had kids around the same time and catch up pretty often. The kids range in age from 18 months - 3.… I’m starting to notice varying parenting styles and one friend in particular often yells / swears at her toddler… but swears A LOT around the kids in a more general sense. It’s VERY different to how I parent. I don't yell or swear at my kid ever and try not to swear in front of my kids…. and it is starting to make me a bit uncomfortable. How would you navigate this? I haaaaaate confrontation but I feel like it might have a negative effect on my kid and that’s my biggest concern. Thanks guys, hope you can help me with this one  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Kim Novak “Would Never Have Approved” Sydney Sweeney Casting Clavicular arrest goes viral after claiming that he is 6’2” when the authorities claim that he is 5’11” AI Fruit Love Island FRUIT  Composer behind 'The Lion King' opening vocals sues comedian for $27M over 'Circle of Life' joke   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lately, TikTok and Instagram have been flooded with content about something called “Trimester Zero”. It’s the idea that pregnancy preparation should start months (or even years) before conception. And while some of the advice is genuinely sensible, a lot of it veers into expensive, anxiety-inducing territory: detoxes, organ meat diets, “non-toxic everything,” DNA panels that cost thousands, and the suggestion that if you’re not doing all of this, you’re somehow failing before you’ve even conceived. Today we’re joined by Dr Devini Ameratunga, a board-certified reproductive endocrinologist, gynaecologist and co-host of the Fertility Untamed podcast.We speak about: How common infertility is and whether it’s increasing Is trimester zero marketing preying on vulnerabilities? How common unexplained infertility is Why we are finally speaking about how men’s health can affect fertility Does men’s sperm quality affect miscarriage risk or nausea during pregnancy Myth busting yes or no; folic acid, choline consumption, detox teas, organ meats, cutting out caffeine completely, giving up alcohol, expensive supplements, creatine and stress alone causing infertility Dr Dev’s personal experience of Hyperemesis Gravidarum (HG) and how much it impacted her life You can find more from Dr Dev’s website  Instagram  Fertility Untamed Podcast Life Fertility Clinic  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.