Living In The Third Degree With BPD
by Brad S.
This podcast is about my experiences of having a wife of 34 years diagnosed with BPD. I talk about the turmoil, challenges and frustrations of my relationship and raising a family when BPD is present.** I do not have any professional experience with mental health all my knowledge is from my own research and living with someone with BPD. If you love someone who has BPD, remember...“Love and understand them, because they find it so hard to understand and love themselves” - 2020 Brad If you have questions or would like to be a guest on an episode, Email: [email protected]
Episodes
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#83 Not making them feel like a part of the furniture...
This episode surprise of making him feel loved honored sexy beautiful and that you're in love with them not just love them!
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#82 Houston, We have a Problem!
This episode is directed and focused on when they have a hallucination one step above a delusion and just make something up out of the blue just to start an argument and it's not merely about what they said it's just merely a title to name their argument.
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#81 Is Rational Reasoning an oxymoron?
This episode focuses on rational reasoning when people with BPD don't know how to reason rationally. Some examples of effective ways that has worked in my relationship situation.
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#80 Unlocking The Demon Within BPD
This episode has to do with if you have a particular situation that includes something that is similar related to a deep-seated fear with the person with BPD you could possibly jump over the extra situation at hand and late night the deep-seated fiera within the person with BPD and after you…
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#79 The absence of compassion can lead to BPD thoughts.
This episode pertains to my experience when you have the absence of compassion and that closeness and loving words can lead to the thoughts Of infidelity from the person with BPD because they figure if you're not acting loving towards them and offering loving words that you must be offering all...
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#78 Splitting and effective ways to control the argument.
These are suggestions that I have used as well as read about and watch videos when it comes to splitting on how to take control of the argument to avoid the person with BPD of them deflecting and getting off track when it comes to the matter at hand but as well as effective ways to show empathy…
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#77 Lying, Impulsivly, Deflecting and Not Sorry.
This episode is about people with BPD lying deflecting and not saying sorry for things they say and things they do
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#76 Dealing with Anhedonia when Combined with BPD.
This episode deals with people who have BPD and are experiencing anhedonia as well. I talk about what I have learned involving the symptoms what causes antedonia the medical procedures and procedures you can do on your own at home with my suggestions and educating yourself from what you can find...
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#75 A BPD Favorite Person
This episode is in addition to one I had done last year in regards to somebody with BPD who has a favorite person. This episode is specifically around someone who has BPD and builds their favorite person up to the point of perfection in a distorted way to get them in their life but this might…
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#74 A defanged rattlesnake will still strike!
This episode clearly outlines even if somebody with BPD can do a 180 they still have the instincts embedded in them from BPD where they split and still have the BPD characteristics of an argument.
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#73 An Unconventional Approach with Loving Tactics
This episode is about an unconventional approach as far as unconventional in mental health standards for the loving tactic if you have the patience and the love for the person in your life who has BPD you can apply this tactic and approach that I have and have a smooth relationship with a person…
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#72 BPD Triggers of Love AND Hate...
Any site that you look up and regards to BPD you always find information about triggers of BPD when it comes to episodes and splitting but very rarely will you find one that involves triggers of love so I want to do this episode involving triggers of love as well as hate.
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#71 Characteristics of BPD during an argument.
This episode is about what I've noticed there are certain characteristics of somebody with BPD specifically during an argument so I'm offering my experience with my wife dating back to when she had full blown BPD starting in 2012 and how she reacts now during full blown argumentative since she…
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#70 What have you got to lose? Try this suggestions to help turn BPD 180 Degrees.
This is suggestions on what I tried with my wife which helped turn her BPD 180° but I can also help any relationship that he's become stale....
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#69 IMPORTANT: I have proof someone with BPD can do a 180!! Yes, even after 11 agonizing years!!!
This episode proves that people with BPD can do a 180° change proven it with my wife who has had BPD since 2011 and after all this time I have seen a 180° changing her so with that being said enjoy this episode and hopefully if you have somebody in your life with BPD or if you have BPD yourself...
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#68 IMPORTANT EPISODE!!! This is about a Surprising BPD change for good and 8 Days of Heaven!
I would invite EVERYONE who has BPD or involved with someone who has BPD to understand that after knowing my wife and her disorder getting progressinly worse since 2012 to the point that she was so consumed by her disorder she became someone I did not know anymore, she was not the woman I fell in...
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#67 Their last interaction is how they perceive you.
This is a cross between one of my older episodes of every time we fought she sound like a broken record along with a couple of new ideas that I had read in a couple of magazines and books about borderline personality disorder and how they perceive you with their last interaction.
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#66 360 degree of hate and negative emotions
This episode is about somebody who has BPD when they're splitting they have a 360° circle of emotions they will attack everything that you are to them a father a husband a lover a friend or anything that they ever said good about you they will reverse it when they're splitting.
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#65 fueling the demon
This episode is called feeling the demon and I'm trying to teach people how to not feed the BPD side of your loved one the more you feed into it the more it fuels them that's what they're looking for there's certain characteristics of BPD that you can fight by different actions for every action...
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#64 Trauma Bond Relationship Signs
After receiving an email from a listener asking if I thought my relationship with my wife was a trauma Bond relationship but I had never heard of that before so I had done some reading and figured I would bring to you what I learned about a drama relationship.
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#63 A war during a nuclear disaster!
This is the worst episode of recorded to date... My wife just went through extremely tragic event and because we were fighting she refused to allow me to be involved in this incident and pushed me away and I haven't spoken to her and afraid of going to be a long time they're so sweet to me and...
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#62 Interview With My BPD Wife! - PART 1
**(To date part 2 has still not been recorded...) This is very special episode I never ever thought that I could get my wife Michelle to have an interview with me, considering I kept this podcast hidden from her for over a year!!! Unfortunately there was supposed to be a part 2 to her interview…
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#61 Trying a different approach when accused will give you a different result...
I hope you find this episode interesting I figured three different ways of approaching the same kind of situation and it actually made my wife open up and tell me the one approach not to take because it actually hurt worse than me denying an accusation I think you'll find it very interesting and...
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#60 The Hypochondriac BPD
This episode is about her being a hypochondriac but got so much worse once she was diagnosed with BPD and when stresses come on it triggers more of her hypochondriac behavior.
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#59 My 9 Hours In Heaven
This episode is a follow-up from a couple of episodes back where I said I have not had contact with my wife and almost 2 months and the next time I did have contact with her that I would do a follow-up episode to let my listeners know what transpired and what came about during the visit and how…
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#58 My Secret Digital Identy
So in this episode I talk about an embarrassing thing I've been doing and how i created a second personality which I call my digital personality it's the only way that I can find out the true feelings of how my wife thinks about me I think you'll enjoy this episode but it was very hard for me to...
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#57 Anticipation and Impatiently Waiting!
In this episode this is a part one of a part 2 episode of taking advice of family members and staying away for at least a month with no communication and see if she can appreciate all the things I was doing for her including love and attention and financial support....
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#56 Listener Email "Taking teasing to another level into his own hands!"
This was an email sent in from a listener...."Hey listen I sent you an email on how he had made the conscious decision to make her see how it felt to get hurt with words as soon backfired on him I think you'll find this episode very intriguing and insightful as I did."
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#55 Writing a letter to your loved one, with the useful outline...
I'm passing on my advice on the outline that I use that's been mostly effective when we're not together it's not so much an apology letter but it's a general letter outlining that I don't like arguing not putting anybody at flame but saying how much I love her and how I'm willing to discuss…
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#54 After 6 weeks of heaven I was sent to hell! #WTFONCEAGAIN
After 6 weeks of being together and most of it being like heaven she opened up to me we had great talks and the worst time in her life she did everything she could to make me leave so I did.
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#53 Back together again! (for now...)
This episode is what I've been experienced over the past 6 weeks since me and my wife have gotten back together.
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#52 My visit after almost 3 months Also being our anniversary of 34 years
This episode deals with the incidents on my last visit at my wife's house after almost 4 months of not seeing her and having her ignore any of my phone calls text and attempts to visit her it lasted less than 72 hours of her sending me away once again only because I repeated myself twice which is...
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#51 First Interview! With my son Matt speaking about growing up in the dynamics of a BPD family
This is my FIRST INTERVIEW and it happens to be with my son Matthew who is 26 years old and happens to be an inmate at the NH State Prison For Men in Berlin, NH. He speaks about his childhood through adulthood growing up and having to deal with the turmoil and chaos of having a parent with BPD....
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#50 Honey You Foiled My Plan!!!
This is a few tips and tricks you can try to use that work for me when you're being accused of something before it actually happens it's kind of a reverse psychology but letting her know however she wants to take it but to look at reality and it can prove if you're guilty but also it can prove…
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#49 Bite your tongue and bite the bullet!
I'd like to give some advice to win somebody with BPD or even doesn't have BPD and when they're accusing you rather than blasting back at them and having an unnecessary argument try to take these tips that I'm giving you it's worked in many times that I've had arguments with my wife about her...
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#48 Listener Email Telling me it's not my fault for being abused
This is a very special episode to me, this is a listener who's email I read on a previous episode and he tells me the abuse is not my fault even though I have blamed myself even publicly. I want to thank him for his thoughtful response! ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions,...
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#47 Men Hurt Too!
Men by societies standard are supposed to e strong, not cry, deal with not being loved or having affection, that is all women stuff right? WRONG! Men are equal with needs and hurt and sometimes leads to suicide because of having to hide or suppress those feelings of shame. ****** Please feel free...
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#46 A new approach when looking for forgiveness
After listening to many other podcasts and reading material not just on BPD but marriage in general I have some tips that I picked up in pieces to put together in one episode to share with you. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to...
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#45 Connecting the dots Part 2
We dont understands all the time how to communicate with our loved ones and its even harder with BPD! I have put together some facts and personal feelings into making wrongs into rights, it maybe be too late for mem, but I hope it's not for you. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with...
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#44 Connecting the dots correcting wrongs to rights
We dont understands all the time how to communicate with our loved ones and its even harder with BPD! I have put together some facts and personal feelings into making wrongs into rights, it maybe be too late for mem, but I hope it's not for you. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with...
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#43 All black and white ignoring the gray
no matter how much you speak or write to someone with BPD about anything between the black and white they will ignore due to there is no middle ground with BPD. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to [email protected] ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM...
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#42 Emails that listeners send in to thank me
These are emails that listeners send in to let me know how my show have impacted their lives and relationships. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to [email protected] ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS *** Click the link below…
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#41 Paranoid Delusional Stories (Part 3)
My wife had paranoid delusions and it would be the silliest noise, sound or situation that would send her into a whirlwind and argue sometimes embarrassing us both in public and sparking a stormy fight that sent me sleeping in my car or elsewhere. This will be just one of many collections of...
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#40 A look into season 2 - Starting with Family and children affected by BPD
I figured I would start with Family and children affected by BPD, with the statistics of my listeners age group and emails that I have gotten Im surprised that I mostly hear about a girlfriend/boyfriend or husband/wife but very, very rarely talk about family life and/or children involved and the...
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#39 Listener Email: His Girlfriend has Paranoia and delusional episodes.
This episode is about a listener who his girlfriend had paranoia and delusional thoughts and actions and related to my mentioning how my wife had the same actions and he requested that I record episodes sanded on this subject. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments…
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#38 BPD the Cancer of the mind that keeps living
This episode is how I compare someone that is diagnosed with cancer, they are given a time that their life might expire and both of you are prepared and see the physical downhill of losing their life, but with BPD it takes their life away from you mentally but they continue to live on just like...
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#37 Runaway Thoughts, Perceptions and Misconceptions with time
This episode touches on my thought that the longer that me and my wife were apart from an argument that the time apart collected negative boundaries that makes it harder and harder to return back into her life even when the negatives have nothing to do with me. ****** Please feel free to send me…
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#36 Paranoid Delusional Stories (Part 2)
My wife had paranoid delusions and it would be the silliest noise, sound or situation that would send her into a whirlwind and argue sometimes embarrassing us both in public and sparking a stormy fight that sent me sleeping in my car or elsewhere. This will be just one of many collections of...
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#35 When their favorite person is someone else
Most people with BPD have a favorite person which I use to be my wife's FB but since we separated and got a divorce she had a new FP and even thopugh it was a 6 month fling this person has threatened the polic on her, called her every name in the book and begged her to stay away but she is…
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#34 Putting yourself in their shoes by trying alternatives
These are a collection of some tips that I gathered by researching online or listening to audio books that I have tried in situations with my wife (who has BPD) and they have worked many times and I wanted to offer them to you. If YOU HAVE BPD: I would suggest that you think of situations in the...
About this show
This podcast is about my experiences of having a wife of 34 years diagnosed with BPD. I talk about the turmoil, challenges and frustrations of my relationship and raising a family when BPD is present.** I do not have any professional experience with mental health all my knowledge is from my own research and living with someone with BPD. If you love someone who has BPD, remember...“Love and understand them, because they find it so hard to understand and love themselves” - 2020 Brad If you have questions or would like to be a guest on an episode, Email: [email protected]
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