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Lost in Txtlation
by Tristan Pope
Welcome to 'Lost in Txtlation', a podcast delving beyond 'I love you', with a focus on why Love is Not Enough. Hosted by someone who believes love is an action, the show explores online dating trends and delves into the host's "stream of conscious" like thoughts on love, compromise, and self-discovery. Each episode sparks conversations, deepening our understanding of love's intricate puzzle. 'Lost in Txtlation' invites you to explore diverse facets of dating, love, and relationships. The podcast where love is more than just a word—it's an ongoing exploration of the heart and mind.
Episodes
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Awakening Without Hooks, my internal notes After a Wedding
This started with my step sister’s wedding. It was beautiful. The love was real. I drove home a little teary. That heave in the chest kind of full. Not because it was not beautiful. It was. I was happy for them. I was also wondering if I will find a love like mine. I know my love will look...
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Sarcasm and Sunsets: #mycomicreleifisonvacation
Modern dating is fantastic if people knew how to use it properly. But alas, 98% of the population prefers to follow the road traveled to get to Point B from A. So finding someone who uses it in a unique way is often hard to find. And before you get upset that I am putting people into a bubble of...
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A Metro Lumberjack with Wifi
If you are looking for the guy who is mysterious, I may not be your choice, not because I am not good at keeping the intrigue going, keeping you on your toes, or being a “man”, but because I choose communication over fighting down the road over notions of “who I am with you” and “who I am with...
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She is Better Than The Girl of My Dreams... She is Real!
What would I describe love as? Or perhaps better put what would I describe the feeling I yearn for from another in my life? I suppose my ears could tell you through the voice of a beautiful song. The way the tone resonates through my heart and body. The tremble the sound carries to my ear drums...
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A Snowy Spring Night - Two Minds Connecting in Judgment-Free Listening
The evening started alone. Sitting at the table wanting to look busier than I was but being comfortable doing nothing all while being uncomfortable thinking I was perceived doing nothing by those around me. Holding my phone up to cast the cold, glow on my face, to let the world know I was not...
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Mindful Explanations: The Art of Communicating Boundaries and Triggers
One of the things I had to learn in life that has been instrumental in building me as a human being has been the ability to tell people when something bothers me at the time of it bothering me. We all have some baggage. We all have bad experiences. But we also don’t know these things when we are...
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From Facetime to Face-to-Face: Redefining Intimacy in Modern Dating
Disclaimer: If you are someone who believes it is not healthy to talk about past relationships for what you learned and grew from, you might wanna start with my podcast: “Embracing the Past, Verbalizing the Present” first. Otherwise, carry on. The last relationship I had that was truly connected...
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Love will find you... but stop hiding!
My mother always told me to “wait, be patient, love would come to you”. If and when I hear this today, I can’t help but think this is the furthest idea from the truth. Either it is my innate need to rebel against my mother’s advice or it is my sense of self being defined enough to know that the...
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Will I end up on your Podcast?
Ya know, I get the “I would be afraid I will end up on your podcast” a lot, especially since I share it openly on my dating profiles. So, while not really a question allow me to answer the statement the best I can. Honestly, someone who is in my life as a partner should kind of hope they actually...
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Socks and Misconceptions - the silent judgements
I saw an image that depicted what society thinks to be love between a woman and a man. The heart is located in the mans crotch and the woman's heart is in the chest, but next to it, it has the “reality”: The mans heart in his chest and the woman's in her head. For me love has always started in my...
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Online Dating is no less organic than Analog Dating
What do online dating and analog dating (in person) have in common? I mean we could break it down like my previous Podcast Online dating is simple, you are the one making it difficult by the two simple truths of what we all look for in a potential date:1. Is the other person attractive to us? 2.…
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Convincing Explanations
I find myself learning more and more about my securities and defenses. I often consider myself someone without walls, which is true to a point, but then I see an act, albeit a very sincere one, being played out in front of me at times. My own mouth the main actor. I could tell you I think sharing…
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The "Swallow, Kiss" and "Hi"
WARNING YOU MAY BECOME EXTREMELY SELF AWARE OF THIS IF YOU READ, AND IT MAY DRIVE YOU NUTS FOR A LITTLE. KINDA LIKE IF I SAY, RED CAR, YOU WILL SEE RED CARS. These are micro expressions/motions/verbalizations we go through when with a partner that are easy for anyone to spot. Be it the first kiss...
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Embracing the Past, Verbalizing the Present.
Why should we not talk to those we meet along the way about our past, including past relationships as long as we are sensitive to how we present it. Such as what I learned yesterday... ...I learned something important about what I need in a future relationship by leaning into the inevitable...
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Why is Love NOT Enough?
A long time ago, I wrote a journal entry called “Love is Not Enough”. It was focusing on the idea that when you find love, you tend to stop caring. You tend to stop showing. You tend to just say “I love you” and think that is all that is needed to keep a future going. But to me it was about the...
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As time goes on, the apple rots.
Why is it that we find it necessary to carry on multiple relationships rather than taking our time with one. If you are interested in a person, then perhaps you should take the time from your life to enjoy that moment. Why multi task a pleasure filled activity such as human connection.... ....So…
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Relationships Post Swipe
The thing I am missing the most with this swipe to date world is the actual feeling of anticipation or joy after bolstering the courage to talk to someone in a real life encounter. The most amazing feeling is when you actually click with said person. You know you are physically attracted them…
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The First Time - Let's be awkward, together.
Disclaimer: apparently this is about as vulnerable as I can be with my writing because I met someone a long time ago, we slept together, and they said afterwards, "Wow that was just like what you wrote". Never have I felt so naked before in my life, while being naked haha. With the current trend…
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The “Romantic Spark” is Burning Your Chances
But to me I think it is a deeper problem. An addiction to the feeling of “new romance” the addiction to the massive exposure to so many people and the excitement of puppy love, that what is happening is people are no longer aware of how to actually build a foundation for a relationship. How love...
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Define Compromise
Don't compromise on yourself, on who you are, and on how you date. But when you do meet that person who is right for you, remember this... Compromise is a beautiful thing we done by the actual definition, but do it by the socially accepted viewpoint and it has a tendency to break you down....
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Practice Dating and Lists
When I was young, as many others did, I had created a list of “wants” for a significant other. While this seemed to work when I was 14, as I got older I realized this was a really poor way to approach dating. I guess I figured “must have beaten the third stage of the fourth boss in my favorite...
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I’m not your bodyguard, I am your boyfriend.
I am tired of this paradigm of “I want to feel protected by my man”. Now don't be fooled by this sentence, it doesn't mean I do not believe you shouldn't protect someone and your partner should not feel protected! If the guy was raised with any morals or compass for good, of course he is going to...
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My Space, Your Comfort
As someone with anxiety I understand the importance of comfort in a new space or environment. So I try to make my space as welcoming with as many of life’s comforts as possible. You should see my bathroom: Fans for sound, smelly things to cover the scent of smelly things, shower stuff, candles,...
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The Law of Relativity
I have heard before that this blog has helped people. Actually without a doubt, 90% - 95% of people who have read the list of links in “Love is Not Enough” in the menu above, have been able to separate from a bad relationship within 5 days of reading it. So what does that mean? Does that make me…
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Listening to more than the words.
“You get me” “You really listen” “Wow you really figured me out quick”‘ This is what many people have said that I have had a relationship with. I think something I have always done well is listen. But not in the conventional way. It is hard to be the person who “listens” because it often comes…
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Ready to purge, the modern form of dating.
It seems like today we are just itching to purge people from our lives. We have forgotten what it is to disagree with others, what it was like to not have a swipe at our finger tips when we felt down or alone or loss. We forgot what it was like to debate, let alone get things wrong when we can…
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We Need to Start Getting Hurt Again
We are breeding a generation of pampered “feelings”. We are breeding a generation protected by the “block” button. We are breeding a generation of “ghosts”... ...When I say a generation, I don’t just mean “millenials” or “Gen Z”, I mean everyone who is adopting online dating into their life. It…
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Things Change, making a conscious effort.
I used to believe there was this conscious effort that went into finding the right person quicker than others. I am not talking about meeting them and then getting to know each other, but through personal exploration, sense of self, cultural differences, there was a possibility to see fireworks/...
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The Two Face Theory
There are two faces to every person. The face you see when you come home from work, the face you see when you are covered in daily dirt, even the face you see when you cry. That is face one. Now there is face two the one where you are so close you can barely see....
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I like your face! I think...
So online dating has taught me something new, I have to be really critical of people’s faces. God, Tristan, you are so shallow! Wait let me explain… So an online dating profile is comprised of 10 or so images of the person. https://www.lostintxtlation.com/i-like-your-face-i-think/
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The feeling of the chase.
Sometimes we need to FEEL like we are teenagers again in the very basic sense, where our own age in our minds becomes that of a pubescent adolescent, which honestly, when do we NOT feel that anyway, we don’t age mentally as much as we think we do.. anyway I digress, if we apply that to what we…
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This feels like a movie! Perhaps I shouldn’t want it to?
With the right color correction and depth of field you are going to miss the world around anything that may seem imperfect. Instead of the feeling of bliss when your relationship turns into a movie, it should be a warning that you are only watching the highlights of the complete picture....
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The sparkle in your eyes
Does this, turned cheesy pickup line, have actual validity? I feel as though there is a moment in any date, relationship, meeting, where the “glimmer” usually enhanced by a dimly lit wine bar or restaurant’s candle light turns from the casual side effect of ambient lighting to an emotional…
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The “Perfect” You
If you are open to yourself and can be open with me, I want to get to know you not based on finding the perfect outfit for a first date, and then canceling because you can’t, but on the person you are every day, which leads to better conversation and a more relaxed meeting....
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Multi Task Me
I just want you(meaning anyone) to read past the lines, I am not a dead poet but dammit a little analysis never hurt. https://www.lostintxtlation.com/multi-task-me-3/
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Cause(s) and Effect(s)
I desperately need someone in my life who understands that a question doesn’t only consist of Cause and Effect, but Causes and Effects. https://www.lostintxtlation.com/causes-and-effects/
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Online dating is simple, you are the one making it complicated.
Online dating is and always will be as simple as: “Finding the other person attractive” “Seeing if there might be some similar likes/dislikes” And hey guess what… that is no different than meeting in, wait for it, real life....
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Are we all that important to one another?
Have you ever waited for the phone to ring? Have you ever just waited in general, even if you didn’t know the person more than a conversation or a glance, for the next time you could be in the same place at the same time. https://www.lostintxtlation.com/are-we-all-that-important-to-one-another-3/
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Stronger together is not being weaker alone.
I often wonder why people think they are stronger on their own. While I myself do feel strong in my own right and enjoy doing things myself, I often feel if I were to be able to find the right person to bring into my life and me theirs, I would be stronger not in my own person persay, but in the...
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Give my brain a breather…
Trauma in my past built in this amazing ability to process a thousand possible scenarios from something as simple as a sudden breath, micro expression on a face, or even the lack of words. https://www.lostintxtlation.com/give-my-brain-a-breather/
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Observation vs Analysis
See I love to observe people. I totally understand what it means when you say you want to talk with someone rather than talk about them. I feel like that is becoming a lost art these days, talking “With” someone. BUT TRULY talking with them. Not surface passing conversation but being ok with...
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The Second Date Limbo
It is so incredibly complicated getting to the second date these days. The rules of “3 days before a call” have long been muddied, if not completely forgotten. https://www.lostintxtlation.com/the-second-date-limbo/
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Intimi”dating"
Dating can be intimidating.. with all the different dates we go on, it feels like a rush to the metaphorical finish line of “pulling full attention”. So we work hard to get it, but do we compromise just being ourselves for the “win”? It’s all about perception, state of mind, and timing....
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Sustainable Relationships
We need to stop treating our potential significant others so carefully, formulaically, differently. Ya know that crude you, you show to your best friend? Or that goofy side to your family? Or that weird crazy side to your cat or dog? THAT is what you should be showing to someone you want to get…
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You can’t always be comfortable.
People are idiots when it comes to boundaries of their partners and understanding not EVERYONE is the same. Trust works differently for different people. And the best way to be a good PARTNER to your PARTNER is to understand their comfort and your comfort and meet in the middle of said comfort so...
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Please stop caring!
I meet so many people who are under the assumption that I want them to “impress me” when I meet them. That I want them to be the ultimate version of themselves that is unsustainable for any elongated period of time. To be this person who will make me love them. Only one problem, if I do fall in...
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Time is the mitigating factor.
People often set timelines for when they can start being vulnerable in a relationship. The truth is, to find someone who understands you even when you are vulnerable and open, that it doesn’t mean you have uncovered all the multi faceted parts of your person. Time tells this, time is the…
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You make me too comfortable
“I feel like we have been dating for years and I am so comfortable with you!” But instead of going with the flow of life, I am going to project my own insecurities I have with commitment on your ability to just be someone who adapts to situations, enjoys calm, talks to new people as if they have...
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Do I actually miss you?
You can say I miss you to someone within the first few minutes of meeting them, but what are you truly missing? I think I have always thought it would be nice to miss someone or just default to saying it as a kind way of saying I was looking forward to seeing them again. However, I am starting to...
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Define "Trying too Hard"
But this who “Don’t try too hard” mentality is ridiculous. Compounded by the ability to hide behind inflectionless texts and the prospect of the next swipe, we are not even trying at all, let alone “too hard”. https://www.lostintxtlation.com/define-too-hard/
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Welcome to 'Lost in Txtlation', a podcast delving beyond 'I love you', with a focus on why Love is Not Enough. Hosted by someone who believes love is an action, the show explores online dating trends and delves into the host's "stream of conscious" like thoughts on love, compromise, and self-discovery. Each episode sparks conversations, deepening our understanding of love's intricate puzzle. 'Lost in Txtlation' invites you to explore diverse facets of dating, love, and relationships. The podcast where love is more than just a word—it's an ongoing exploration of the heart and mind.
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Tristan Pope
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