Love Strategies: Dating and Love Advice for Successful Women

Look, I get it. You've been the person everyone leans on - the caretaker, the achiever, the one who always puts herself last. And now you're wondering if real love is even possible at this stage of your life. You've convinced yourself you're not worthy of it, or maybe you've just forgotten how to let someone in.But here's what I know: investing in yourself isn't selfish. It's essential. You went to college, built a career, supported everyone around you. So why not invest in finding the relationship you actually deserve? My clients who take that leap - who show up, do the work, and trust the process - are the ones building real, lasting partnerships.If you're ready to stop settling and start attracting a high-quality man who values you, take my free quiz at lovequiz.com to discover exactly what's blocking you from finding love.NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Tired of those awkward first date silences? We've got the ultimate trick that promises to make any conversation sizzle. Uncover the simple yet powerful art of mirroring in today’s brand new podcast.Originally aired: Sep, 30, 2023NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

In today’s podcast, we're going beyond the usual clichés and explore four key traits that men genuinely desire but are often overlooked. These traits aren't just about attracting men; they are qualities that anyone can cultivate for their own personal growth and happiness.Originally aired: Dec. 14, 2023NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Ghosting hurts - no question. It feels like rejection, and your brain spirals: What did I do wrong? Why wasn't I enough? But here's the reframe that changes everything: ghosting isn't a sign you're losing. It's proof your standards are working.When you raise your standards, you naturally repel low-investment people. They see you won't settle, won't chase, won't bend - and they disappear. Good. That's the system working. Emotionally healthy men don't run from standards; they lean in. The wrong people exit fast. The right person will stay.If you want help protecting yourself through this process and building that ironclad mindset, head to loveapply.com and apply for a love strategy session. We'll show you exactly how to stop chasing and start choosing.NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

When you're single, striking up conversations with people you find attractive can seem daunting. So, in today's podcast, Dr. Gary Lewandowski breaks down the The Science of Flirting: 7 Ways to Flirt With ConfidenceOriginally aired: May. 30, 2024NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

I'll be straight with you: talking yourself into the wrong guy doesn't happen because you're desperate or naive. It happens because you're empathetic, capable, and actually really good at making things work. But those same strengths can become your biggest trap when you're dating someone who isn't showing up the way you deserve.In this episode, Gary and I break down the 4 subtle patterns that make you excuse bad behavior, chase potential instead of reality, and slowly erase yourself to make a relationship work. These aren't the obvious red flags—they're the quiet justifications that keep you stuck for months or even years with the wrong man.If you've ever wondered why you keep choosing guys who don't meet your standards, take the free Attraction Archetype Quiz at attractiontype.com. It'll show you exactly why you're ignoring red flags and where to put your energy so you can finally open your heart to the right guy.NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

What if I told you there are incredibly simple yet effective techniques to show interest without uttering a single word? Each of these methods is grounded in scientific research and can catch the attention of someone new or signal your interest to someone you're already seeing.Originally aired: Jan. 05, 2024NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

A man's desire is not proof of his devotion. That single misread is where the confusion, the "slow fade," and the self-blame begin.Once you understand the evolutionary wiring behind male dating behavior, you stop taking his disappearing act personally and start seeing the difference between a man who wants your attention and a man who is ready for your life.NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

If you keep decoding mixed signals and second-guessing your standards, this one is for you.I wrote about the quieter, behavioral signs that a man has already decided whether you're short-term or long-term, and how to actually see them.No scripts, no games, just a clearer way to read his effort, his calendar, and your own confusion.If you're ready to stop negotiating with "busy" men and start honoring what you actually want, then listen to this.NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Are you ready to dive into the minds of men and discover what truly captures our attention? If so, check out today's podcast: 6 Things Men Notice First in a Woman and Find Massively Attractive.Originally aired: Nov. 26, 2023NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Brilliant at work, baffled by dating? For a woman who thinks for a living, "just flirt more" is not advice, it is an insult.In this episode we break down how high-achieving women turn a discouraging love life around without going casual or lowering their standards.Why pacing, structure, and one simple mindset shift matter far more than perfect photos or the right text.If part of you is ready to give up on love, and part of you refuses to, this one is for you.Delicia almost swiped past the man she's about to marry. Watch our free 7 Little Love Steps training to learn the strategy that changed how she dated: https://go.lovestrategies.com/virtualNEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Thanks to the internet, long-distance relationships (LDRs) have become a popular phenomenon. From spousal separations to meeting someone special online, LDRs are now more common than ever before. But how do you make it work?In this podcast, we share personal experiences and expert advice on navigating the challenges of long-distance love. We ask the most important question: Will it work? We discuss the risks involved in investing in a long-distance relationship and the role that distance plays in creating desire.Join us as we explore different scenarios where we might recommend pursuing an LDR, and discuss strategies for making it work. We'll cover topics like quality time versus constant quantity, having a plan to live near each other within a year, and spending more than just a weekend together.Originally aired: Apr. 09, 2023NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

You've done the therapy, read the books, and know exactly what you want. So why do men still pull back just as things get serious?Often it isn't that you're not enough. It's that the intelligence and self-protection driving your career are quietly sabotaging your love life.Stop unintentionally scaring great men away and learn a proven step-by-step dating strategy: https://go.lovestrategies.com/virtualHere are the five invisible behaviors to watch for, and how to trade each one for real connection.NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

How do you build desire and make a man miss you? Create scarcity without playing games. In this week's podcast, we discuss (debate) the power of making a man miss you through the dating process. Originally aired: Dec. 18, 2022NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Stop wondering if he’s "The One" based on a "vibe" and start using data to find your person.In this episode, we break down the Date Night Debrief, a simple 10-minute strategy rooted in decision-making science to help you stop obsessing and start dating with clarity.Stop overthinking every text and start using our 10-minute post-date debrief to actually see who is worth your time. Learn a Male Mind Map: https://go.lovestrategies.com/mapNEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

When I started looking at why so many accomplished women stayed stuck in love, the patterns were uncomfortably familiar: comforting beliefs, overprotective friend circles, and a quiet refusal to be a beginner at anything.In this episode, I walk through the specific mindset shifts that actually move the needle, without asking you to shrink or pretend to be “less.”If you’ve ever wondered whether your success is secretly working against you in dating, you may find the real answer both confronting and relieving. And more importantly, you’ll see exactly where your power has been all along.NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

In this episode of the podcast, hosts Adam LoDolce and Dr. Gary Lewandowski dive deep into the 7 biggest turnoffs for men. The problem they address is that many women believe that turnoffs have to do with physical attributes, but the reality is that when a man is in the market for a serious relationship and looking for a high-value partner, turnoffs become emotional.Through their own personal experiences and expert insights, Adam and Gary explore the turnoffs that both men and women can relate to. They start with the idea of trying to control the uncontrollable and how it can be a major turnoff for men when women talk about the future or lean into their masculine side. They also touch on the idea of unearned affection and how it can be off-putting when a woman gives too much before a man has done anything to earn it.Other turnoffs that they discuss include a lack of interest, perceived promiscuity, the double O effect (obvious and ordinary), a negative attitude toward love, and being a doormat without clear boundaries. They also explore the idea of playing games in dating, and how it can come off as immature rather than strategic.Throughout the episode, Adam and Gary offer their expert advice on how to avoid these turnoffs and how to cultivate healthy, thriving relationships. So, if you're curious about what makes men tick and how to create a lasting connection, this episode is a must-listen.Originally aired: May. 07, 2023NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Stop agonizing over when you should text, and start using data.We’re breaking down a brand-new study that debunks the "Three-Day Rule" that's actually destroying your dating life. Learn the exact "Sweet Spot" timing that increases chemistry and makes a second date almost inevitable.Skip the confusing “three day rule” and use research-backed texting that actually builds chemistry after a great first date: https://go.lovestrategies.com/beginNEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Most successful women don't struggle in dating because they lack options. They struggle because the same drive that built their career quietly works against them in love. I've coached thousands of women through this. The patterns are consistent, and so are the exits. So if you've ever felt stuck without knowing exactly why, this one's for you.Stop letting limiting beliefs and “I’m not ready yet” thinking quietly stall your love life and watch our free 7 Little Love Steps training to reset your dating mindset and start creating the relationship you actually want: https://go.lovestrategies.com/virtualNEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

A peculiar trend has emerged in the ever-evolving landscape of modern dating, leaving many to wonder, "What in the world are guys doing?" The scenario is all too familiar: you're texting a guy, the conversation is flirty, sparks are seemingly flying, and then suddenly, it all fizzles out to nothing. You might even suggest going out sometime; he agrees enthusiastically, and then... radio silence.Here’s how to know if he likes you, or if he’s just breadcrumbing.Originally aired: Mar. 03, 2024NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Think he’s just checking out your eyes? Think again. Men are subconsciously "thin-slicing" your behavior from the very first minute to decide if you're a partner or a "project."We’re diving into the 5 specific things high-character men prioritize and why being "impossible to please" is the quickest way to lose a great guy.Want to stop wondering if he’s genuinely into you or just being polite and start sending clear green-light signals that high character men actually respond to? https://go.lovestrategies.com/capNEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

So what do men REALLY find attractive in a woman? Is it her physical appearance, or are there other more important attributes that matter? In this week's podcast, Gary and Adam discuss what men find attractive in a woman, and it has very little to do with age, hair, or makeup. Originally aired: Jan. 17, 2023NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

If your past dating choices have left you questioning your own judgment, it’s time to stop "following your heart" and start recalibrating your discernment.This episode breaks down why your gut feelings might be failing you and provides a high-level framework for rebuilding self-trust and spotting red flags before they become regrets.Start rebuilding your dating instincts so you stop second-guessing yourself and stop attracting the wrong men: https://go.lovestrategies.com/mapNEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Whether you’re dealing with a one-time ghoster or a guy who’s suddenly MIA mid-connection, here’s what his behavior is actually telling you—and how to respond without losing your sanity (or your standards).Originally aired: Jun. 25, 2025NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

In this special episode, join Executive Love Coach Robin as she reveals how to master feminine confidence without losing your professional edge.Learn why "feminine energy" isn’t about being less powerful, but about installing the right "software" to transition from the boardroom to a romantic connection.Robin shares practical scripts and shifts in appreciation that will transform how you show up on your next date. You'll learnWhy feminine energy is a tool, not a makeover.How to transition use more feminine energy without feeling inauthentic.Real-world scripts: What to say instead of "Why are you still on the apps?" or "Just come to my house.Want practical, real-world examples of how to stop over-functioning in your masculine and start dating from your true feminine energy instead go to https://go.lovestrategies.com/beginNEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Are you tired of attracting the same type of partner? In this episode, we're moving beyond identifying the wounds that attract unhealthy partners and shifting the focus to what truly matters: your worth. Tune in for five powerful strategies to help you break old patterns and attract a fulfilling partnership built on a foundation of self-love and confidence.Originally aired: Oct. 11, 2025 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

We’ve all seen the script play out: The texting is solid. The effort is visible. You feel a genuine connection sparking. And then, silence.Ghosting become the "new normal" of the digital dating era. But as we tell our clients, while ghosting is common, it is never random. Here is the psychological reality behind why men vanish.Stop making his silence mean something about you and start using ghosting as a filter, not a verdict on your worth: https://go.lovestrategies.com/beginNEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

In this special client interview, Gary sits down with Tracy, who went from crying on a consultation call to finding her "above average Joe" just weeks after her lowest moment. After 22 years in a dysfunctional marriage, Tracy learned to trust herself and build healthy boundaries.Discover how Tracy found the kind of love where someone would "move mountains" for her—and how the skills she learned improved every relationship in her life, including with her adult daughter.Originally aired: Aug. 18, 2025NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

If you’re tired of hearing "fine" and "nothing" every time you ask a man how he’s doing, it’s time to change the input to get a better output.We’re breaking down the 10 power questions that bypass the "small talk trap" and get him to open up faster than years of hinting ever could.Want to stop getting one-word answers and start having real, vulnerable conversations with men that actually build connection? Book your free Love Strategy Session: https://go.lovestrategies.com/beginNEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

I’m not here to sugarcoat things… I’m here to tell you the brutal truths about dating men that most women never hear. If you’ve been attracting the wrong guys—emotionally unavailable men, commitment-phobes, or “man-children”—this video is for you.These 7 truths might sting a little, but they’ll also set you free. I’ll show you what’s really holding you back in love, and how to finally open the door to the kind of relationship you truly deserve.Discover your Attraction Archetype by visiting: http://www.attractiontype.com/Originally aired: Sep. 24, 2025NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

We've got 5 must-hear dating tips for men...but ladies, this isn't all about men. You'll want to hear what we have to tell them, because all the same advice will help you in your dating life as well.If you want to deeply understand how men think so you can connect with them in a smarter, calmer way, watch the free Male Mind Map seminar here: https://go.lovestrategies.com/mapNEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Tired of feeling like finding a high-character man is an impossible solo mission? We're changing the script on traditional dating advice. Discover the surprising power of community and how your "tribe" can become your greatest asset in attracting the love you deserve.Originally aired: Jun.14, 2025NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Ever wonder why the "perfect on paper" guy feels like a snooze fest, while a three-second glance at a coffee shop feels like a lightning bolt?It isn’t a mystery and it isn’t just luck, it’s biology.This week, we’re breaking down the science of testosterone and oxytocin to show you exactly how to trigger his drive to pursue and his desire to stay.Want to stop guessing why men pull away and start creating real desire and devotion rooted in science and strategy? https://go.lovestrategies.com/beginNEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Are you unknowingly sabotaging your dating life? This episode reveals the surprisingly common mistakes people make that actively push potential partners away. Learn the key behaviors that lead to loneliness and how to avoid these self-defeating patterns to finally find the fulfilling relationship you deserve.Originally aired: May. 03, 2025NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Think that "How is someone as amazing as you still single?" line is just a sweet compliment? Think again.We’re pulling back the curtain on the secret playbook of "guy moves" used to size you up, from the social circle "investigations" to the one toxic test you need to believe the first time you hear it.Stop getting blindsided by “little tests” on dates and start responding with quiet confidence instead: watch this, then grab your free Love Captivation seminar at https://go.lovestrategies.com/capNEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Let’s be honest: Love is addictive.So why do some women get hooked—and end up with breadcrumbs—while others flip the script and have men addicted to them?In this episode, I reveal five powerful (and unexpected) ways to make a man emotionally addicted to you—no games, no gimmicks. Just real connection, desire, and pursuit. If you’ve ever wondered what makes a man crave you long after the date ends… this one’s for you.Originally aired: Aug. 06, 2025NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Think all men are "basic"? Think again.If you’re looking for a high-character guy, you need to understand the hidden motivations, from the desire to be approached to the need for a "peaceful sanctuary," that he’ll never admit out loud.Unlock the 5 things emotionally mature men quietly look for in a partner so you can stop attracting “sex and steak” guys and start connecting with men who actually want real commitment: https://go.lovestrategies.com/mapIn this episode, discover the 5 secret desires of mature men and how to stop the "looks trap" for good.NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Ever wonder what emotionally mature, relationship-ready men are really looking for? In this special pod, I peel back the curtain on what men (not boys) find irresistible—and how it’s completely different from what younger guys value (and why that’s a very good thing).Originally aired: Jun. 01, 2025NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Are you addicted to the "chase" but exhausted by the results?It’s time to talk about why the "boring" guy is actually the one who will make you happiest.Ready to stop chasing elusive players and start choosing a stable, “spicy vanilla” man who actually feels safe and long term? Apply for a complimentary Love Strategy Session here: https://go.lovestrategies.com/beginDiscover why your brain is wired to give you "the ick" for the wrong reasons and how to find a "Spicy Vanilla" partner who can actually crush a Tuesday with you.NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

What if the key to becoming irresistible to high-character men has nothing to do with your looks and everything to do with your energy? In this video I invite you to discover 5 surprising ways to become deeply attractive to men, without playing games, pretending to be someone you’re not, or obsessing over the “perfect” dating profile. Watch now to unlock your magnetic edge.Originally aired: Jul. 23, 2025NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Stop wondering "is he the one" and start knowing.In this podcast episode, we’re sharing the 5 essential ways to qualify a man’s character quickly so you can stop wasting months on the wrong ones.Learn how to create a "Love Vision" you can’t cheat and why your "afterglow" is the most honest data you have.NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

When a man is ready to commit, it’s not about your résumé, your looks, or even how perfectly you check his boxes. It’s about how you make him feel—and there are five specific emotions that tip the scales from “she’s great” to “she’s the one.”Let’s break them down—and show you how to tap into the emotional blueprint that makes a man fall deeply (and lastingly) in love.Originally aired: Jun. 11, 2025NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

When I say “never settle,” I don’t mean what Instagram usually means by it.In this episode, I walk you through how I actually think about standards, trade-offs, and non-negotiables in a way that successful women rarely get told.If you’ve ever wondered whether your bar is high in the right places, this will give you a calmer, more strategic lens. And it might quietly explain why some very good men never make it past the first date with you.NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Thinking about dating a divorced man—or already in a relationship with one? 🤔 Discover the do’s, don’ts, and dealbreakers so you know exactly what to look for (and what to avoid).Originally aired: Jan. 25, 2025NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

What if the secret to your future was hidden in the past?We’re diving into the "Lost Art of Dating" to show you why your grandmother’s approach to romance was actually more effective than any algorithm.Learn how to slow down the rush, build genuine emotional intimacy, and use our "No Pen Pal" policy to filter out the flakes and find a man of true integrity.Stop letting modern dating eat up your energy with pen pals and low-character men; watch this and then go here to follow our full 7 Little Love Steps process: https://go.lovestrategies.com/virtualNEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Feeling discouraged by the idea of dating after 40? It doesn’t have to be that way. In this episode, we reveal The 5 S’s of Successful Dating After 40—so you can navigate love, relationships, and the modern dating scene with confidence and ease.Originally aired:  Feb. 22, 2025NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

You didn’t choose the relationship patterns you inherited, but you can choose whether they end with you. Discover how becoming a "Cycle Breaker" creates a ripple effect that transforms not just your love life, but the lives of everyone watching you.Become the cycle breaker in your family and finally stop repeating toxic relationship patterns so you can model healthy love for the next generation. https://go.lovestrategies.com/virtualNEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the ever-changing landscape of modern dating? It's easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of apps, algorithms, and endless options. But before you throw in the towel, let's debunk some common misconceptions about dating in the digital age.Originally aired: Oct. 19, 2024NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Stop asking your single friends why "all men are the same" and start looking at the data that proves they aren’t. It’s time to stop using myths as emotional armor and learn what high-character men are actually looking for in a partner.Ready for personalized support to shift your patterns and attract a committed partner who values you for your strength and warmth? Apply for FREE Love Strategy Session here: https://go.lovestrategies.com/beginNEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Are you unknowingly sabotaging your love life? We're flipping the script on red flags and asking: what if you're the problem? Discover the 7 hidden habits that might be sending good guys running, and learn how to transform them for lasting love.Originally aired: Mar. 29, 2025NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session