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Maybe Someday
by Sarah Dobson
Maybe Someday is a podcast about deciding whether to have a child in a culture that makes motherhood seem mandatory. Host Sarah Dobson speaks with guests about the personal and political dimensions of motherhood as she comes to terms with deciding not to have kids.
Episodes
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Reflection: This is it
A couple of months ago I went back and listened to the very first episode of this podcast. I wanted to remind myself of what it felt like to be at that starting point 18 months ago, realizing that I'll never be somebody's mother. Honestly, I was surprised at how emotional it all was. So today…
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Getting unstuck (with Bianetth Valdez)
Bianetth Valdez was born and raised in Texas, straddling two cultures. As a Latina, she grew up believing that being a mother was what was expected of her, and she didn't give it a second thought. But when she turned 25 she started to encounter women who were living fulfilling lives without kids,...
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Choosing the life you already have (with Kerry Graham)
Earlier this year Kerry Graham published an article on HuffPost called: No, I Don't Want To Have Kids And I'm Tired Of Having To Explain Why Not. Kerry reached out to me not long after she published the article, because she had a lot more to say about deciding not to have kids. We talked about…
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Should a childfree life be everyone's goal? (with Rosie Tran)
If you've been around here for a while, you'll know that I'm a big believer in celebrating everyone's choices, no matter what they are. As long as you're comfortable with your decision, or comfortable living with the question for a while, I'll cheer you on. So when Rosie Tran reached out to me to...
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Looking back on your choices (with Antonia Banewicz)
When I talk to people who are grappling with the decision not to have a kid, one of the worries I hear most often is about whether they'll regret the decision when they get older. Will they feel they missed out on something? Who'll look after them? What will their legacy be? Because most of the...
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Surviving combat wounds and infertility (with Casey Jourdan)
Truly, in my eyes, every single one of my guests is extraordinary. But I have to tell you that Casey Jourdan, my guest this week, is remarkable. At just 17 years old, she enlisted in the military. After graduating high school, she was deployed to Baghdad at the beginning of the Iraq war. Years...
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Quirkyalone and childfree (with Sasha Cagen)
In 2004, Sasha Cagen wrote a book called Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics, based on a term she'd created to describe people who are comfortable being single but who want to be in a relationship and won't settle for something (or someone) that doesn't allow them to be who they...
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Enthusiastically childfree (with Laura Belgray)
Laura Belgray (yes, THAT Laura Belgray) has a very happy life without kids. But she spent a long time on the fence deciding whether to have them—she wanted to want kids, but she just didn't. Laura noticed that there weren't a lot of examples of women who were living full, rich, happy lives…
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Childfree for the climate (with Rachael Levasseur)
I get scared sometimes about the state of the world. No matter which way I turn there's hate and turmoil and corruption and climate disasters. It makes me think about what it must be like to bring a child into this moment in history. I think about the children in my life who are living through…
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Reflection: How I learned to trust myself
These last few episodes have got me thinking about listening to your intuition, trusting your gut, and following your own path. I used to believe that I didn't really have much of a sense of intuition-that all my decisions could be made with logic and deliberation and pro and con lists. But that...
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Living life to the fullest (with Briena Sash)
Usually, when people talk about living life to the fullest, they mean having adventures and maximizing every moment for excitement. But I think living life to the fullest actually means having the freedom to go where life asks you to go and letting yourself experience the full range of human...
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Honoring yourself (with Satya Purna)
Like many of the guests I've spoken with this season, Satya Purna knew she didn't want to have kids. What she did know was that she wanted to be her own boss. So that's what she set out to do. This was such a rich discussion about honoring yourself and honoring what makes you come alive…
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Trusting your intuition (with Melanie Scott)
Melanie Scott, the Intuitive Business Strategist, is my guest this week. She takes a spiritual and intuitive approach to being childfree by choice (and really, to making any life decisions). I think this is an important topic for us to cover on the show. Over the last year, I have started tuning...
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Reflection: Am I really childfree?
The focus for this season of the podcast has mostly been on stories about being childfree by choice. I've put myself in the childfree by choice camp because I've decided not to conceive a child or to raise one. But I always feel a bit uncomfortable talking about being childfree because I don't…
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Going all in with your bonus kids (with Patricia Qhobela Jenkins)
Patricia Qhobela Jenkins always knew she didn't want to have biological kids. When she met and married her husband, she got two "bonus" kids in their teens. On this episode, Patricia talks about what it was like for her to become a parent to those two kids and to be all in. I very selfishly…
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Defending your childfree life (with Jennifer Rogers)
Jennifer Rogers never felt that ticking biological clock. So she and her husband (who also doesn't want kids) decided to focus their love on their four rescue dogs, their nieces and nephews, and their friends' kids. On this episode, she shares a lot of hard-won wisdom about what it's like to step...
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Changing your mind about having kids (with Tia Johnson)
Tia Johnson grew up spending a lot of time with her grandmother and step-grandfather. When they died, Tia went through a period of deep grief and transformation. Tia's spiritual journey after the death of her grandparents helped her to redefine herself, her life, and her outlook on having…
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Reflection: Will I regret not having kids?
Sarah reflects on the conversations she's had recently about mixed feelings and potential regret around not having kids. Ambivalence doesn't have to mean that you're indecisive. It means that you're thoughtful and introspective about how you want to live your life. Continue the conversation!…
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Grappling with ambivalence (with Sara Hopkins)
Sara Hopkins is ambivalent about having kids. She's decided that she won't have them, but she still struggles with the choice. She wonders why her ambivalence keeps showing up, she wonders what to do about her ticking biological clock, and she wonders whether she might be missing out on "the...
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Facing your fertility expiration date (with Leslie Cason)
Leslie Cason is getting close to her "fertility expiration date", as she calls it, but she hasn't spent a lot of time thinking about it - until now. Our conversation explored ambivalence, grief, legacy, and restlessness towards the end of our fertile years. Leslie is at the point in her life…
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Refusing to repeat the past (with Veronica Armstrong)
Veronica Armstrong has a complex and painful family history. That history played an important role in her decision not to have children of her own. In this episode Veronica opens up about how her past influenced her choices to nurture and set an example as an auntie. Visit the episode webpage...
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Reflection: Please believe me
Sarah talks about a recent experience in the medical system, what it's like to live with a rare and progressive genetic disease, and how it feels to have your pain dismissed. Hang out with me on Instagram! Become a patron of the show and join the Maybe Someday community
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Taking charge of your own destiny (with Meng Wang)
Meng Wang gave up her steady, comfortable dental practice in the city to work in the Australian outback. She travels long distances by road and air to visit remote communities in North Western Queensland, where she provides dental services to people in need. Meng has interned and volunteered as a...
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Healing difficult relationships (with Karen CL Anderson)
Karen Anderson doesn't remember a time that she ever wanted to have children. She just assumed she'd have them anyway. She thought she'd go to college, meet a guy, get married, and have kids. Cause that's what you do, right? When she had an unwanted pregnancy in her senior year of college, she...
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Queering parenthood (with Bon Jon)
Bon Jon is a self-described queer feral cat. A few weeks ago, in a hot, cramped sound booth at the Vancouver Public Library, I sat down with Bon for a long conversation about gender, parenthood, and family. Bon identifies as genderqueer and goes by the pronouns they/their/theirs. I asked Bon to...
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Season 2 preview
The second season of Maybe Someday launches on May 16, 2019. Sarah talks about what you can expect from Season 2. Listen to Season 1: http://bit.ly/maybesomedaypodcast
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Reflection: A Part-Time Someone
In this final episode of Season One, Sarah reflects on her relationship with her boyfriend's daughter. Learn more about all this season's episodes at: www.maybesomedaypodcast.com/episodes
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My So-Called Selfish Life (with Therese Shechter)
Therese Shechter is a documentary filmmaker based in Brooklyn. Her latest project is My So-Called Selfish Life, a feature-length documentary about choosing not to have children in a society where motherhood feels mandatory. Find out more about the film at: myselfishlife.com
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Many paths to motherhood (with Sonja Overhiser)
When Sonja Overhiser was diagnosed with a rare hereditary form of leukemia in her mid-twenties, she and her husband Alex had to rethink their plans for starting a family. In this episode Sonja and I talk about the different paths to motherhood and the choices we make to create our family. She...
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Reflection: Am I Enough?
Sarah reflects on her follow-up conversation with Myriam and what it brought up for her around making life-changing decisions.
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Catalogue Baby Part 2 (with Myriam Steinberg)
Sarah catches up with Myriam Steinberg from Episode 1: Catalogue Baby. Myriam reveals some surprising news! To hear Episode 1, visit: http://bit.ly/MaybeSomedayEp1 For more information about Myriam, visit www.cataloguebabynovel.com
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Reflection: The Disappointment of Strangers
In this episode, Sarah reflects on her conversation with Maggie Reyes and what it means to be childfree by choice.
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Childfree by choice (with Maggie Reyes)
When Maggie Reyes got married, she and her husband both assumed that they'd start a family eventually. But every time they checked in with one another, the answer, for both of them, was 'not yet'. Eventually they realized that their marriage would not include children. In this episode Maggie…
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Devotion (with Carol Egan)
In small-town Connecticut in the late 1970s, Carol Egan got pregnant—quite unexpectedly—at 18. In this episode Carol describes her experience being sent away to a home for unwed mothers to give birth, being forced to give up her child and fighting to get him back, and raising her son as a young...
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Little Corners (with Tammy Cannon)
Tammy Cannon lives near Seattle, WA with her husband and three teens. In the early days, she was at home with her three children, who were all under the age of three. I wanted to talk to Tammy about the expectations she had for herself as she shifted from working at a job she loved to being at…
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Reflection: Guides and Witnesses
Sarah reflects on Nicole's observation (Episode 3: Guiding a Child's Becoming), what it meant to her growing up, and what it means to her now.
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Guiding a Child's Becoming (with Nicole Gulotta)
Nicole Gulotta is a writer based in Los Angeles. There's a myth that creative types, writers especially, are solitary creatures with vast amounts of time available to devote to their calling. Most of us need to juggle family and career and life on top of our creative work. Nicole understands this...
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Reflection: The Voice In Your Head
All of us—mothers and non-mothers—have that voice in our head asking, "Am I good enough?" It's a question about worthiness, but it's also a question about our place in the world. In this episode, Sarah reflects on what that question is really about.
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Discovering What's Essential (with Jen Riday)
Jen Riday is a mother of six. She has a PhD in in human development and family studies, and runs an online business helping women heal their hearts and build self love. In this wide-ranging conversation, Jen shares how raising her children has helped her discover what's essential. Become a patron...
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Reflection: The Ghost Ship
How do we know what we'll regret? Sarah reflects on her conversation with Myriam Steinberg. Listen to Sarah's conversation with Myriam (Catalogue Baby): http://bit.ly/MaybeSomedayEp1 Read the original Dear Sugar essay: http://bit.ly/DearSugarGhostShip Have something to say? Get in touch: Email:...
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Catalogue Baby (with Myriam Steinberg)
Myriam Steinberg is a writer based in Vancouver, BC. Myriam's in her forties and she's been trying to have a baby on her own for the last five years. She's documenting her experience in a graphic novel called Catalogue Baby. Sarah talks to Myriam about the decision to conceive a child as a single...
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Reflection: Who Am I?
If I'm not a mother, who am I? In this preview of the Reflection episodes, Sarah talks about the questions that led her to create the show. You can find all the episodes of Maybe Someday at www.maybesomedaypodcast.com Want to support the show by leaving an iTunes review? (It's a huge help!)…
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I'll never be somebody's mother
Sarah always imagined that she'd have children of her own. But, you know, maybe someday. Now, at 37, she's in a relationship with someone who already has a kid and doesn't want more. So she has to decide what she wants: stay in the relationship (and develop a bond with someone else's kid), or…
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Maybe Someday is a podcast about deciding whether to have a child in a culture that makes motherhood seem mandatory. Host Sarah Dobson speaks with guests about the personal and political dimensions of motherhood as she comes to terms with deciding not to have kids.
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Maybe Someday is a podcast about deciding whether to have a child in a culture that makes motherhood seem mandatory. Host Sarah Dobson speaks with guests about the personal and political dimensions of motherhood as she comes to terms with deciding not to have kids.
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Maybe Someday is created and hosted by Sarah Dobson.
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