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Menopause, Meltdowns & Magic - Two AuDHD, midlife mums. Two countries. Too many tabs open.
by Tanya Valentin and Emma Gilmour
Join Tanya Valentin (NZ neuro-affirming family coach) and Emma Gilmour (AUS alcohol-free & neurodivergent women’s coach) for honest, heart-led chats about being late-diagnosed AuDHD, perimenopausal, parenting teens in burnout, and trying not to lose ourselves (again). We cover masking, menopause, motherhood, identity, friendship, grief, and the messy magic of raising neurodivergent kids.This is a podcast for every mum who’s ever felt like she’s doing it wrong, too much, or not enough.Expect laughter, raw honesty, a little swearing, and a whole lot of validation.
Episodes
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When Support Gets Pulled Apart
Many of us have felt it lately. Just as lived experience,community and neuro-affirming practice seemed to be gaining ground, the conversation in the media, in policy and across neurodivergent spaces appears to be swinging back toward talk of overdiagnosis, deficit and clinical pathwaysas the only...
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Needing Space and Still Loving People with Alice Bramhill
What if needing space does not mean you love people any less? In this episode, Tanya and Emma sit down with Alice Bramhill, a registered mental health nurse, interpersonal psychotherapist and neurodivergent coach, to talk about relationships, retreat and the quiet courage of knowing yourself....
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When School Is Not Working: Unschooling, Burnout and Trust With Guest Melissa Crockett-Joyoue
Some children cannot learn at school, and some parents are left holding that truth while everyone around them has an opinion about it. In this conversation, Tanya and Emma sit down with Melissa Crockett-Joyoue, a Māori, late-diagnosed AuDHD mama of two unschooled neurodivergent children. Melissa…
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Neurodivergent Marriages and Partnerships
Tanya and Emma sit down for an honest, unscripted conversation about what happens to a marriage or partnership when one or both parents are neurodivergent, and when a child moves into burnout. They talk about co-regulation, the invisible load carried by the primary caregiver, the grief of an...
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Rupture and Repair: Healing the Cracks in Our Relationships
Most of us grew up believing that a good relationship never has disagreements, conflict, or angry words. In this episode, Tanya and Emma sit with the opposite idea: that rupture is inevitable, and the real skill we were never taught is repair. Together they trace how their families of origin...
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Insight Isn’t Immunity: Understanding, Feeling, and the Parts of Us Still Learning to Trust Ourselves
This week Tanya sits down with Emma for a wandering,honest conversation about the gap between understanding something and actually feeling it. They talk about why knowing the “why” behind a meltdown, a trigger, or a parenting mistake doesn’t stop it from hurting, and how intellectualising can...
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When Trauma and Neurodivergence Get Tangled Together
In this episode, Tanya sits down with Emma for a conversation that goes right to the heart of a question so many parents in this community carry quietly: "Is it trauma, or is it neurodivergence?" Together they trace how the two get woven into each other from childhood, why masking costs so much...
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Why Fairness Matters So Much: Justice, PDA and the Nervous System
Why do some people seem able to let things go while others feel deeply affected by unfairness, injustice, or double standards? In this episode of Meltdowns, Menopause and Magic, Tanya and Emma explore the powerful relationship between neurodivergence, fairness, social justice, and nervous system...
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When Support Hurts: Burnout, Belonging and Trusting Ourselves Again
In this episode of Menopause, Meltdowns and Magic, Tanya and Emma explore a complicated topic for many neurodivergent families: What happens when the “support” being offered actually causes more harm? Together, they unpack the long middle of burnout recovery, that messy, uncertain stage where...
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What Matters Most: Pressure, Parenting, and Repair
In this deeply honest episode of Menopause, Meltdowns and Magic, Tanya and Emma explore the invisible pressure many parents carry to keep pushing through, even when their nervous systems, relationships, and families are asking for something gentler. Together, they unpack the cultural conditioning...
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The Hidden Struggles of Neurodivergent Friendships
Friendship can feel complicated, especially for neurodivergent women navigating masking, burnout, grief, and identity shifts. In this deeply honest conversation, we explore how our experiences of friendship have been shaped over time—from early moments of exclusion and heartbreak, to high-masking...
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Supporting Trans and Gender Diverse Children with Chris McAllister
In this heartfelt and deeply human conversation, we are joined by comedian and content creator Chris McAllister, The Trans Comedian, who shares his journey of gender exploration, identity, and finding joy through humour. Together, we explore what it means to support trans and gender diverse...
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When Self-Help Harms: Rethinking Growth, Safety, and Healing
In this honest and layered conversation, we explore the often-unquestioned world of self-help, personal development, and “growth” culture, and gently ask: What happens when the very tools meant to help us… actually harm us? Drawing from our own lived experiences as coaches, parents, and...
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When Lived Experience Is Dismissed: Autism, Masking & Why This Conversation Matters
In this episode, Tanya and Emma gently unpack a recent and controversial article by Uta Frith, which has stirred deep conversation within the neurodivergent community. Together, we explore what happens when lived experience is questioned… When progress feels like it’s being pushed backwards… And...
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Polyvagal Theory, Nervous Systems, and the Debate Happening Online
In this episode, Tanya Valentin and Emma Gilmour explore the conversation currently unfolding in the wellness and neuroscience communities around polyvagal theory and recent critiques of the model. Polyvagal theory, originally proposed by Stephen Porges, has become a widely used framework in...
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Midlife Momentum, Neurodivergence & Doing Life Your Own Way with Lisa Corduff
In this very first episode of Meltdowns, Menopause and Magic, Tanya and Emma sit down with author, coach and long-time entrepreneur Lisa Corduff for a deeply honest conversation about midlife, neurodivergence, grief, identity, and the pressure to live life “the right way.” Emma shares the story…
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Meet Emma and Tanya
Welcome to Menopause, Meltdowns and Magic. In this first episode, Emma Gilmour and Tanya Valentin introduce themselves and share what this podcast is really about — the conversations we’re having, the stories we’re telling, and what you can expect from this space. If you are a midlife mother...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Join Tanya Valentin (NZ neuro-affirming family coach) and Emma Gilmour (AUS alcohol-free & neurodivergent women’s coach) for honest, heart-led chats about being late-diagnosed AuDHD, perimenopausal, parenting teens in burnout, and trying not to lose ourselves (again). We cover masking, menopause, motherhood, identity, friendship, grief, and the messy magic of raising neurodivergent kids.This is a podcast for every mum who’s ever felt like she’s doing it wrong, too much, or not enough.Expect laughter, raw honesty, a little swearing, and a whole lot of validation.
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Tanya Valentin and Emma Gilmour
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Join Tanya Valentin (NZ neuro-affirming family coach) and Emma Gilmour (AUS alcohol-free & neurodivergent women’s coach) for honest, heart-led chats about being late-diagnosed AuDHD, perimenopausal, parenting teens in burnout, and trying not to lose ourselves (again). We cover masking, menopause,...
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