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Mistress Matisse's Podcast

by Mistress Matisse

Mistress Matisse, Seattle sex columnist and professional dominatrix talks about BDSM, polyamory, sex work, and her life as a sexual outlaw. Adults only!

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Episodes

  1. Twisted Monk Talks About Responding To Recent Fetlife Controversy

    Twisted Monk Talks About Responding To Recent Fetlife Controversy Mistress Matisse listens and talks with Twisted Monk, as he discusses the problems of women on Fetlife being targeted for data-scraping and reposting by online harassers, and possible responses that users can make to that. This is…

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  2. Mistress Matisse and Twisted Monk Return!

    This is an informal test podcast, about 12 minutes. Monk and I talk about one time when I walked in on him when he was getting ready for a BDSM session in my space, and the things were not...quite what I expected. #sexwork #BDSM

  3. Altoids and Listerine Breath Strips

    BDSM techniques, in today’s new podcast: Monk and I talk about putting Altoids mints and Listerine Breath Strips in female pink parts. Naturally, I talk some about boy bits as well. Plus, why you’ll want some milk on hand for this type of play. About nine minutes, not work safe!

  4. Escorts and Strippers: The Sharks and The Jets?

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  5. The New Young Dominants

    In this episode, Monk and I briefly discuss how the Zombie Apocalypse would affect my diet Mountain Dew consumption. A letter from a dominant woman who feels nervous about her scenes. Key point: she’s eighteen years old. How should a young kinky person build confidence? And I also have to blow a...

  6. Baby Steps In Polyamory

    In this podcast, Monk and I riff about phallic microphones and then read and discuss a letter from a reader pondering how to begin a polyamorous relationship. How do you treat the other significant others?

  7. Cut The Ties: Your Kink and Your Parents

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  8. Quick and Dirty Podcast 2: Custom Clothing and How Mistress Matisse Gets Good Service

    TwistedMonk and I recorded what I am calling a "Quick and Dirty" podcast last week. We didn't have access to our usual sound-studio, so this is lower quality than we prefer, but it's better than nothing, right? In this edition, we answer a reader's fashion question, and discuss using one's kinky...

  9. Poetry And Kink

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  10. Threeways, Slaves, and Polyamory Veto

    Another podcast, and another riff from Monk about how I’m playing with my nipple. Even though I’m not. Then letters: a letter from a listener asking about jealousy and a three-way. Threesomes are fraught with peril, in my opinion. The best threesome experiences I have had were in situations where...

  11. No-Rope Bondage, Why Get Involved In The BDSM Community? and Sex Workers and Love

    A new podcast! First of all, I was not playing with my nipple while we were recording, all right? Let the record show. The bomb shelter we’re doing these things in is freezing cold, so I was actually wearing a leather jacket. A motorcycle-style jacket, so that’s two layers of leather over my…

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  12. Primary/Secondary, BDSM Scene Interruptions, and Kink Celebrities

    Normal 0 false false false MicrosoftInternetExplorer4 A new podcast! Monk and I answer your questions about primary/secondary partners in polyamory – can one person in a relationship in a “primary” and the other person be a “secondary”? The seconds question is about dealing with unexpected...

  13. Tell Me Everything and Cover Me Up!

    A new podcast! We answer a letter from someone who is new at being the top in a scene, and who is struggling with playing with people who don't disclose important medical/emotional before the scene. Short answer: it's not perfect, but people do that. Roll with it. Then we hear from someone who...

  14. The Delicate Question of STDs: How To Ask, And How Not To!

    This one's a lulu. Now, let me say that Monk and I are practitioners of safer safe, and we want to help people learn how to do safer sex. We are sympathetic to people who are nervous about STDs. That said, there is a right way and a wrong way to handle this conversation with a new partner, and in...

  15. Too-Sexy Phone Calls And Harsh Judgements?

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  16. Pervertables and Kinky Kissing

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  17. Kinky Lovers and Humiliation Play

    In this podcast, Monk and I read and answer a letter about how to meet kinky romantic partners, and then a letter from a woman who is struggling with her feelings about humiliation in BDSM porn and erotica, and who is wondering if being African-American is part of that. Take-home quote: "It's…

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  18. Sex Negative Sex Workers, and Fisting

    I wasn't going to upload this last podcast. But Monk says I'm being silly. And lord knows, I need the blog-content, I've been way too busy to write much lately. So, I am ignoring a voice in the back of my head that says it's slightly undignified. Unladylike, in fact. Yes, I know – I don't feel…

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  19. Polyamory Letters and Questions

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  20. Fast and Dirty Bondage

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  21. Poly Time Management and Young Poly

    Questions about Polyamory: Time-management for poly people: how many partners is too many? And the difficulty of finding polyamorous partners when you're young. (Meaning: in your twenties.)

  22. Bondage and Kink In Long Term Relationships

    After way too long of an interval - blame it on our busy schedules - Monk and I got together in the zombie-proof sound studio and recorded some silly rants. This one is a little short, only about seven minutes. It's a letter from a reader who asks about sustaining BDSM energy in a long-term...

  23. Apples and Oranges: Comparing Your Partners In Polyamory

    In this one, Monk and I read letters about polyamory. First we talk about the not-so-good idea of comparing your partners. "Why can't Partner B be more like Partner A." Then Monk talks a little about his wife Tambo - and explains why he hardly ever talks about her. (Hint: She is Keyser Soze.)

  24. Safewords, and BDSM With Hearing-Impaired Partners

    In this podcast, first we read a letter about safewords, and make mention of my two favorite safewords: vomit and lawsuit. I promise, those two words will capture any top's attention, anytime. We also talk about the challenges of doing BDSM with a partner who is hearing-impaired. I make a verbal...

  25. Staplers and Canes and Dildos, Oh My!

    Monk and I talk about bdsm toys we love.

  26. How To Start A Kink Business

    In this podcast, we read some follow-up letters about kinky relationships, and then Monk rants about the joys of creating a business selling kinky products.

  27. BDSM: Dealing With Family When You're Kinky

    In this podcast, Monk and I talk about the very sticky issue of dealing with parents who get nosy about their adult-children's sex life. Or: What To Do When Your Parents Find Out You're Kinky - And They Aren't Happy.

  28. Geeking Out About Polyamory Language

    In this podcast, Monk and I talk about hierarchy in poly relationships. What does primary mean? What does secondary mean? Do you need these terms? Are they useful or limiting? So if you get off on that kind of analysis, you'll loooooove this podcast. It's heavy polyamory theory.

  29. For The Boys: Cinderella Rope Tops and Male Escorts

    Monk and I answer letters about male rope tops getting overwhelmed by girls who want to ride the bondage-go-round, and then talk about a letter from a woman who says she wants to hire a male escort.

  30. Name Dropping and Furries

    A new podcast, in which Monk and I talk about "name-dropping" versus giving references, and then we say things that will make furries everywhere hate us. (Adult babies, too.) It's a testament to power of good marketing. Or not. About fifteen minutes, not work safe.

  31. "He Likes Chocolate, I Like Vanilla" and "Pro Dommes In the Kink Community"

    Monk and I offer yet another take on the eternal question: how do you reconcile different sexual tastes in a marriage? A woman writes in to ask about her husband's kinky desires and her own not-so-kinky styles. Then, an aspiring professional dominatrix asks about integrating her professional...

  32. Polyamory and Jealousy

    Monk and I answer a reader's letter about dealing with her jealousy in a polyamorous relationship. About 15 minutes.

  33. How TwistedMonk.com Was Born

    Monk and I speculate about Jews and kink, and then Monk explains the story of how he got into kink and became a rope-maker. Also briefly mentioned is my ability to shoot laser beams from my eyes. Enjoy!

  34. Fashion Statements

    A rare podcast that might, actually, be sort of worksafe. Monk and Matisse talk about fashion, and what we wear, and what we think that means. How do people perceive you based on what you wear? How do you play with your image? Monk also makes a controversial statement about men in kilts, and I...

  35. Sex Work - Storefront Busts in Seattle

    Monk and I discuss recent sex work busts here in Seattle. (December, actually, but hey, we're not CNN here.) We comment on how a sex work business we'd noticed was shut down, and talk about how and why it triggered our "ho-dar". I then explain "The Three C's".

  36. Can The Mistress Get Fucked?

    Monk and I read some letters, riff about kink words we hate (like, subbie) and then talk about switching, and how women can get fucked while staying in the dominant role. We use the word "fuck" a lot, although Monk talks dirty in romance novel-speak, as well. (This podcast inspired a column for...

  37. Polyamory Advice: Making The Monogomous Partner Feel Special

    Monk does a crazy 30-second riff on what a porn movie would sound like on radio. (You'll just have to listen to it.) And then we read a letter from a reader who asks "Since monogamy is not an option, how do you make your primary partner feel special in a polyamorous relationship?" Sixteen minutes.

  38. Am I Kinky? How Do I Approach A Pro Domme?

    We read a letter from a woman who asks, "What qualifies someone as kinky?" Then Monk and I address that, and then kid about how East Coast people think too much. Next letter: a man asks me about seeing pro dommes, and Monk and I talk about a kink scene as compared to cooking. Monk talks about his...

  39. Sex Work Questions and Answers

    Monk and I answer reader questions about life as a sex worker... Emotional self-care for sex workers, and legal brothel questions. About 13 minutes.

  40. Show Them How You Like It!

    Monk and I riff about The Venture Brothers, and then answer a reader's letter about dominance/sadism vs. masochism/submission. What do those words mean? Aligning your tastes with your partners… Then we give some sources of "educational porn", and answer a reader who asks: my lover liked kinky sex...

  41. The Fab Four: Matisse, Max, Monk and Puck, All Together!

    Max and Puck join Monk and I for a chat. Max talks about his beginnings as a BDSM person, and how he came to be a rope bondage top and bondage instructor. About 20 minutes.

  42. Questions About Getting Into Kink, And Going Pro

    There's a lot of ranting in this podcast. Monk and I read a letter and then I go off into my "JFGI" rant. Then, Monk talks about being a new male top and a BDSM vendor.

  43. Kink and Technology

    Monk and I riff about the role of tech gear in their lives and how it affects our sex lives...

  44. Can Endorphins From BDSM Be Used For Pain Management?

    A complex question from a reader about harnessing the endorphins often released during physically intense BDSM - can they be used to manage pain from a medical issue?

  45. Letters From Readers: When BDSM Scenes Go Sideways

    Matisse and Monk read a letters asking about what to do when BDSM scenes go awry because of emotional issues.

  46. Polamory: How Much Information Is Too Much?

    Matisse and Monk talk about starting new polyamorous relationships: how much information about new lovers do you share with your existing lovers?

  47. What's Going On With Monk And Matisse

    Monk of Twisted Monk and Mistress Matisse talk about what's going on in both their professional worlds...

  48. Polamory Rules

    Monk and I answer a reader letter about rules in polyamory...

  49. A Good Spanking

    Mistress Matisse and Monk of Twisted Monk discuss impact on the ass - how to give it, how to get it, and dealing with the aftermath...

  50. Jealousy Tactics: Avoid or Innoculate?

    Monk and Matisse talk about the strategies for handling jealousy - avoid the situation vs. face it and get over it.

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Mistress Matisse, Seattle sex columnist and professional dominatrix talks about BDSM, polyamory, sex work, and her life as a sexual outlaw. Adults only!

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