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My Heartsongs

by Victor La Cerva

In our quest to forge a new vision of masculinity, beyond the destructive conditioning that permeates our society, we celebrate the full equality of women, and seek to eliminate gender-based discrimination, prejudice and abuse wherever it exists. You have to do it yourself and you don’t have to do it alone. These weekly podcasts offer positive and practical tools for being an empowered conscious man.

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  1. My Heartsongs Photopoems 10

    #10 Awareness I love this word, whose meaning can be interpreted in so many different ways. Krishnamurti defines it as “the silent and choiceless observation of ‘what is’. In this awareness, a problem unrolls itself and is fully and completely understood.” For me, the energy behind it is about...

  2. MyHeartsongs Photopoem 9 Sacred Part Three

    #9 Sacred Part Three: Body, Relationship and Beauty. I don’t know exactly when I began to see my body as a temple, but it was fairly early on in childhood. Maybe I didn’t apply that term, or consider the notion of sacred, but I began to protect and nourish my corpus as if that were true. Although…

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  3. My Heartsongs Photopoems 8 Sacred Part Two

    #8 Sacred Part Two Today brings the joy of sacred arising in objects and home. I am a bit of an existential outlaw, I think, when I bring up the topic of my love for flea markets and estate sales. It’s not just the ingrained Brooklyn “I need to get a good deal on such and such,” but the curious...

  4. My Heartsongs Photopoem 7 Sacred

    #7 Sacred Where does the sacred live? One initial response might be that it is present everywhere, if only we had eyes to see, and the wisdom to perceive and embrace it. How to define sacred in a way that feels real and accessible? For me, in simplest terms, it is the energy of connection. And I...

  5. My Heartsongs PhotoPoems 6 Vulnerability

    #6 Vulnerability “I’m not complaining, just explaining,” was a favorite phrase of my dad. As he aged, he used it often. At our regular men’s group meetings, we often joke about “medication check-in” and “organ recital” time. So how does sharing differ from just complaining/explaining? I think the...

  6. My Heartsongs Photopoems 5 Choicepoints

    #6 Choicepoints. Those of you who have listened to some of my 333 podcasts might remember my use of this made-up term. It reflects those moments, sometimes days, weeks, months or longer in duration, when we are face to face with “two roads diverged in a yellow wood...” I long ago abandoned to…

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  7. My Heartsongs Photopoems 4 Stuckville

    #4 Stuckville I have noticed that there are distinct times when the big wheel, as I call it, does not move favorably. Often the descent into this undesirable state is subtle, lurking on the edge of my awareness. Obvious only when fully caught in its unkindly embrace. I know the wisdom of “this…

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  8. PhotoPoem 3 Spaciousness

    #3 Spaciousness My main gratitude mantra for some time has been, “I’m not in Gaza, Haiti, Ukraine, Sudan, or other places with horrible human conditions.” Recently added Iran to that mix. A good reminder when I find myself whining about yet another household repair, poor customer service…

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  9. PhotoPoems 2 FLOW

    There are favorite places that always invite. One of those for many years has been the Chama River wilderness area, where I have primitive camped many times, with my children, my wife, some couple friends, a few other guys, or my men’s group. Always, at some point, I do some solo walkabout, and...

  10. MyHeartsongs Podcast 333 Farewell For Now

    Imagine that your physical body is a playing piece on an intricate game board. The rules of the game keep changing, but one thing is certain: forward motion is desirable. Onward through the fog!

  11. My Heartsongs Podcasts 332 Of Conundrums and Baliwicks

    We seem so far from a world that works for everyone. Part of me says I do try to just keep lighting up my little corner of the world, and that is enough. Another part – perhaps an inner protector – exclaims “not my bailiwick.”

  12. My Heartsongs Podcast 331 Now I Surrender

    Mortality is front and center these days, and to ignore, deny, minimize or conceal that as I age does not serve me. As one friend poetically put it, the older we get the less we leave unspoken. And being present and showing up for the people I love seems to be a hallmark of healthy aging. I…

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  13. My Heartsongs Podcast 330 Seven Everyday Miracles

    I have been thinking a lot this week of the many many things I often take for granted. I find it a life affirming practice to regularly honor the wonderful creativity that humans are capable of, producing true miracles that enhance the quality of our lives, tools we can use every day to be…

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  14. My Heartsongs Podcast 329 Gimme some TLC

    Tender Loving Care comes to mind as an excellent bridge between freedom and escape when I am feeling a bit down. Not quite freedom, as in deep release from old habits and patterns that are not helpful. But also not really escape, this taking care of oneself, being kind to oneself, taking a needed...

  15. My heartsongs Podcast 328 MAGA MAHA and MAVMA

    MAHA (Make America Healthy Again) has recently been in the news quite a bit. I personally think RFK Jr is sometimes getting shortchanged by the left. This is someone who has willingly gone after all the stupid dyes and additives in foods, pointed out the significant downsides of processed foods,...

  16. My Heartsongs Podcast 327 The Power Of Three

    Commonly labeled as the science of vibrations, numerology suggests that one’s birth date is particularly important. It is known as the life path number, which highlights core traits, and the letters of one’s name translated into additive numbers represent the expression number, reflecting…

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  17. My Heartsongs Podcast 326 Safe Or Be Wary?

    Today I want to highlight four aspects of THC use that I believe deserve further societal education and action. DWI, Cannabis Use Disorder, using during pregnancy and research on memory.

  18. My Heartsongs Podcast 325 Danger Danger Drugs Galore

    I discuss the hidden epidemics now affecting those who seek out drug explorations. Nitazenes, Medetomidine, Kratom and smuggling novel drug combos into prison, sprayed on paper and then smoked.

  19. My Heartsongs Podcast 324 Pestiferous Prickly Persnickety People

    During my days actively working for the NM DOH, I would sometimes encounter difficult people. My basic premise, developed early on, and honed through years of personal explorations, is that such folks can be great teachers—whether the lesson be patience, setting good boundaries or just avoiding...

  20. MyHEARTSONGS PODCAST 323 Happy Cancerversary Part Three

    There is an Italian word that captures the much-preferred slowing down to the pace of life quite nicely: Spensierato. Translated as carefree, it implies a relaxed approach to absolutely everything. Which got me musing on the beginnings of my own auto-obituary, which will take some time to…

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  21. My Heartsongs Podcast 322 Happy Cancerversary Part Two

    To honor my ongoing survival and the recent passing of dear friends, I offer some Jewish blessings, and a bit of anonymous humor, in the form of edited excerpts from an obituary that I found to be hilarious.

  22. My Heartsongs Podcast 321 Happy Cancerversary

    On the 3rd anniversary of my cancer diagnosis, I muse about the journey of a thousand miles and the Willow to Nome Iditarod, which started this week with great ceremony.

  23. My heartsongs Podcast 320 Aligning Attention With Intention

    My attention is one of the valuable resources I possess. It involves key areas of the brain that allow me to focus and concentrate on a given task, whether that is making dinner, composing a song, groking some new Italian phrases, or jotting down some notes for a podcast that is yet to emerge.

  24. My h\Heartsongs Podcast 319 Longing

    The hungry ghost realm is one of insatiable desperate desire and greed; one of the lower states of consciousness in the endless cycle of samsara, it represents addiction, the proverbial hole in the soul where no matter how hard one pursues it, the external things never quite fill that inner void.

  25. My Heartsongs Podcast 318 A New Lens For My Daily Doings

    I am trying out a new lens for my daily experiences. Whatever is occurring, I simply ask “do I feel put upon, fairly neutral, or does it bring me joy?”

  26. MyHeartsongs Podcast 317 A Gentle Guide For The Personally Perplexed

    I often talk of the need for both center and edge in these podcasts. While I remain deeply grateful to live where I do, I really do sense a greater fragility in this country, especially since so many fellow Americans think things are humming along just fine. What mental planet do they inhabit?

  27. My Heartsongs Podcast 316 The Warring Ape

    On an individual level, no doubt that lifelong wisdom is often reluctantly acquired through turbulent life passages. As a species we seem to remain locked in an evolutionary snag, when it comes to balancing aggression with cooperation—both of which have ensured our survival for thousands of…

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  28. My Heartsongs Podcast 315 MAGA Make America Go Away

    Sometimes instead of knocking on wood like an ancient Druid attempting to wake up a tree, I tap my frontal skull to get my brain in gear, hopefully aligning attention with intention in the here and now.

  29. My heartsongs Podcast 314 Cowabunga

    I feel quite blessed to mostly take a pause from all the political shenanigans and goings on in the USA. I find myself apologizing to any foreigners we meet for our loco President, who certainly does not represent US. This Italian expression fits the mood perfectly: Avere un’ora d’aria, which...

  30. My Heartsongs Podcast 313 The Power Of Tiny Things

    The world seems to be changing so fast, some days it feels like I have to pinch myself, a la Dorothy in the Wizard of OZ having a moment when she realizes she’s always had the power to go home, even without clicking her ruby slippers.

  31. My Heartsongs Podcast 312 Happy Holy Daze

    This time of year, I am inclined to redouble my efforts to get rid of stuff, even as the inevitable “cheer” of the season will increase – at least temporarily – the number of objects and the amount of clutter in my abode. I often take a walk through my mystery drawers, of which I have two…

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  32. My Heartsongs Podcast 311 Cognitive Debt

    Forget protect, provide and procreate: a generation of young men, cultural victims of both cognitive and emotional brain debt, might be more characterized by denial, despair and dependence.

  33. My Heartsongs Podcast 310 Climate Realities

    Walking the beach in Florida each morning, one understands why the state is such a popular destination. To be able to have the wild seas so accessible for such long stretches, with gulf or ocean and shorebird antics to entertain, and December temps in the 70s, what is not to like?

  34. My Heartsongs Podcast 309 Techno Marvels To The Rescue

    Eventually novel concepts and ideas get incorporated into our day to day, so that they become commonplace, and often not fully appreciated for the wonders they are. Today I want to share and explore four on-the-horizon developments that when they come to fruition will no doubt significantly alter...

  35. My Heartsongs Podcast 308 In Praise Of Impermanence

    From a Buddhist perspective, embracing impermanence is a tool for navigating the changing elements and treacherous shoals of old age, sickness and death. Lately I have been thinking about impermanence in relation to other aspects of being beyond my declining body and diminishing abilities.

  36. My Heartsongs Podcast 307 Procrastination Promises

    Ben Franklin famously remarked, "Don't put off until tomorrow what you can do today," counseling against the pitfalls of procrastination, and meant to encourage immediate action. My philosophy of late seems more aligned with, “Why put off today what you can put off until tomorrow?”

  37. My Heartsongs Podcast 306 Different Kinds Of Minds

    Our species seems to have favored cooperation, curiosity and cognitive enhancement as key developments that benefit survival. I explore the importance of neurodivergence: ADHD, Multiple intelligences, Autism, Savants.

  38. My Heartsongs Podcast 305 Choicepoints Part Four

    Sometimes, even often, things just don't go as expected. In Part Four of this limited series on Choicepoints, we'll explore together the pathway to being responsive – rather than reactive – to life's challenges.

  39. My Heartsongs Podcast 304 Choicepoints Part Three

    Hopefully one enters the magical realm of parenting by conscious choice, rather than through unintended consequence. Becoming a parent is less about biology than about showing up with the awareness that this is a life changing process. I offer some research and thoughts on parenting styles.

  40. My Heartsongs Podcast 303 Choicepoints Part Two

    Apparently, Ben Franklin was fond of often asking a very simple philosophical question, What good shall I do this day? Choicepoints arise multiple times a day, especially in terms of how I treat others, and how kind I am to myself.

  41. My Heartsongs Podcast 302 Choicepoints Part One Guns

    Awareness creates choice. This simple principle is evident throughout my daily life. Only once I become mindful of something – in the physical, mental, emotional or spiritual realms – can I then shift and transform what is happening. Check out my favorite gun violence prevention ad:...

  42. My Heartsongs Podcast 301 Our Children Our Future

    For many years, as Medical Director of Family Health for NM, I relied upon an annual report issued by the Children’s Defense Fund, which highlights and summarizes the status of America’s children in 11 areas. I offer some thoughts about what needs doing.

  43. My Heartsongs Podcast 33 Mi Casa Es Tu Casa

    My favorite Italian word for home is actually dimora, which is a more poetic description of home, evoking charm, and history – think ancestors and what they went through to make the home possible – and a sense of timelessness, a place that represented or portrays the true center of my life.

  44. My Heartsongs Podcast 299 What is Revealed And What Is Concealed

    A recent study from Japan demonstrated that optimists have similar brain activity patterns, especially in the medial prefrontal cortex, the home of imagining future happenings. An exploration of soundness of mind.

  45. My Heartsongs Podcast 298 Country Western Music Wisdom

    Even if one eschews traditional religions, and explores the perspective of spirituality as a choose your own adventure camp, living and embodying the values one believes in remains a lifelong pursuit. Hopefully I am capable of using the past to make better choices in the future, elevating my...

  46. My Heartsongs Podcast 297 My Inner Feminine

    Men have been very conditioned to provide, perform and protect. What are the female equivalents? As I’ve reflected upon it, I think nurture, be perfect and connect. Do I believe in an inner feminine?

  47. MyHeartsongs Podcast 296 Mankeeping

    Real connection asks for authenticity, a component of which is honesty – with self and others – which in turn requires some contemplation and vulnerability, as well as some skills in expressing what is inside to the outside in ways not destructive to self or others. Test mentioned in the podcast:...

  48. My heartsongs Podcast 295 DIY & Dessert Too!

    Wandering around Home Depot looking for assistance this week reminded me of all those digital self-help marketplace voices whispering “I have what you need!” Sooo many offerings that supposedly will help us get what we most desire, whether that is weight loss, permanent inner peace, the key to...

  49. My heartsongs Podcast 294 You're Not The Boss Of Me

    Here are my 5 C’s: foundational principles for a vital healthy relationship. Commit, connect, communicate, clear conflict and create. Check out cupofempathy.com, created by Marianne van Dijk, who has many short insightful you tube videos on Non violent communication, mentioned in the podcast.

  50. My Heartsongs Podcast 293: 76 Trombones In The Orchestra

    Healthy relationships have the capacity to assist us in changing, growing, evolving for the better. A young friend puts out a brief but insightful weekly newsletter (Sign up and read articles on WholeManMethod.com ), and in the last one he mused, “The cost of ignoring your authentic life will...

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In our quest to forge a new vision of masculinity, beyond the destructive conditioning that permeates our society, we celebrate the full equality of women, and seek to eliminate gender-based discrimination, prejudice and abuse wherever it exists. You have to do it yourself and you don’t have to do it alone. These weekly podcasts offer positive and practical tools for being an empowered conscious man.

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Victor La Cerva

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