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After two months away from the mic, Jim had an itch to sit down and catch up on life. Jim has been increasingly relying on 'chat' in all the areas of life that he finds of utmost importance and Jim's wife is curiously assessing this relationship. Spoiler; some patterns are emerging and we are not just talking about his palm reading. According to chat GPT a slopper is an internet insult associated with someone excessively and uncritically consuming and producing low effort AI content.Additionally, Jim talks about his brief encounter with a throwback celebrity and his idyllic airport experiences. Enjoy!*This episode was not generated with the help of AI, but it includes discussions about AI.

If only Jim could be like Matt Damon, because then he could be himself. Unpacking Jim's fear of the scrabble pieces. It's weird. Mamas and toddlers and being 47...the throughline is striking. Is all the biohacking showing us something about mortality avoidance? Mama birds' regurgitation feeding isn't just for the birds. Chat GPT as a therapist? No. Be forever young? How about.... forever individuating - will we be forever individuating - do you really want to individuate forever - forever and ever? (A play on lyrics to 'Forever Young")

This is a episode of spoilers. Jim and his wife read "The History of Sound" by Ben Shattuck, and they discuss their reactions and reflections on the book, so be prepared for spoilers. They also discuss the most recent Knives Out movie, "Wake Up Dead Man" and that discussion is also full of spoilers. What does, 'okay, Internet' mean and why it should be a movement. And finally, in an unexpected turn of events, Jim is developing a personal relationship with his co-pilot ChatGPT that is uncorking his repressed anger. Enjoy this real time exploratory conversation of playful banter and emerging insights.

Welcome to Nah Fam's last episode of 2025. It's a good one. Jim and his wife explore what has been meaningful and personal to them throughout the year... and what can't be said. They find themselves in a time of transition, 'crisis', reflection, grief and of course...growth. ChatGPT compared Jim's wife's life journey to that of Frodo Baggins. Why? How? This appears to gross out Jim. While the two have not spent much time on this platform recently they hope to change that going forward and will be coming around here more frequently in 2026. Woohoo and Happy New Year!

Join us as we discuss our various concert experiences over the last several months with many of our favorite artists including but not limited to; Bob Dylan, Willie Nelson, DMB, The Lumineers, Mt Joy, and MUMFORD AND SONS! We also recap Jim's recent marathon completion and a brief but beautiful trip to Mexico. Enjoy!

Summer is winding down and we find ourselves in that in between space-caught between the freedom of summer and the structure of autumn. In today's episode, Jim sits down with his wife to catch up on life. He's been pushing through the season's most intense heat in preparation for his upcoming marathon, while she continues to dive more deeply into esoteric interests and admittedly, a moderate TikTok obsession. Together they trade reflections, observations and laughs in a conversation that wanders all over nowhere. Enjoy!

Jim and his wife sit down to record for the first time in months to talk about the recent passing of their dog, marathon training, Aruba, family, their relationship and acceptance of reality. Enjoy!

This episode was recorded two weeks ago. Jim and his wife talk 10 year wedding anniversary, new hobbies, that podcast called The Telepathy Tapes, whether or not Jim is brained washed, his wife's ever evolving journey inward, Blake Lively and Justin Baldoni ... and so much more.

Welcome to the end of the year. In today's episode Jim and his wife talk about what has been going on for them in recent days as well as the thing about a nightstand, a full cup of water and an iPad...The kids have been home for the holidays! Drones and Hollywood and local comedy club shows. Jim talks about what went well for him this year and how he takes the lead at home. And finally, have you seen the movie, Past Lives? We REALLY liked it. Don't listen to us talk about it if you do not want to hear any spoilers. Also, spoiler; Jim's wife gets teary as she reflects on what the movie awoke in her as it relates to her most recent realizations, ever-going healing and life lessons. It's good stuff. Enjoy.

Hello and we are back coming at you with so many updates as life keeps on keeping on. Jim and his wife have been learning so many interesting things about themselves and most of this episode is a conversation about those things... Enjoy.

Jim and his wife are talking about the current headlines in their little world today. Enjoy.

Hello! Today we are reporting on Jim's "obsession" with Noah Kahan and the news that most captures his attention... and why? We connect over our reflections on our ever-evolving family. Jim's wife is realizing that she is experiencing a rebirth, in a way.... We dialogue some about psychoanalysis school, how parenting with only one at home has Jim's wife feeling so chill much of the time, but could someone please do something about the weekly school emails situation?! My gawd.

Eleven years together. Our most recent realizations about ourselves come from the kids moving out. Leaning in or letting go with what we fear? People pleasing parent or possessive parent? You're probably leaning in the direction of one or the other. Repeating history, the idea of intergenerational trauma and how most of us are dealing with it in some capacity. Where does it show up for us? The royal road to awareness, Jim offers his personal thoughts on the emerging field of psychedelics in mental health.

This episode is far and wide reaching in topics... Jim's puzzling communication, aging parents, aging kids, weird times. The move to a new home that still does not feel like home even though you know eventually it will era. A reflection on parenting and owning controlling behavior blind spots and the consequences of owning such behavior. Individuation. Individuation. Individuation.Also, landlines, Sears. Gen Z: from Youtubers to retail.

It has been a bit chaotic over here for the past couple of weeks. We sat down a few days ago to record but we were interrupted in the middle of our conversation. We had planned to return to recording but then we didn't. However, we wanted to share what we have of a discussion over our experience related to moving two of the kids into college and how it's been for us in the days following. This episode does end abruptly and there isn't a closing of any sort. We apologize. Maybe you'll get something from our discussion or maybe you won't! Happy back to school season!

The Childish Gambino concert was out of this word. We watched St Elmo's fire the other day and by the end we were hysterically crying. Literally. Jim's wife had a timely, and moving epiphany this week as it relates to our family, and it left her full of gratitude, and love. Nathan has a very good-looking dad. Clothes; old and new and donated.

A recap of our travels to the unsalted coast last week. How we did with changing a tire on the expressway. What to do about lettuce in toilets. We like social districts and quaint Lake MI towns and when they’re together, its the bee's knees. Can we please just have one episode where we don't talk about the boys' upcoming move to college?! Spoiler; no, at least not for now because it's making our life a little weird right now and we still need to talk about it. Jim admits he is possibly experiencing midlife boredom approaching and is beginning to contemplate what to do about it. Enjoy!

This week our nostalgia tour took us to the meeting place of our adult self with our child self and it was weird. Today we are taking another trip down memory lane and revisiting some of our childhood favorites as some long-lost core memories resurface. Our memories include but are not limited to; Romancing The Stone, American Tail, Hostess treats, newspaper routes, babysitting, Pogo Balls, our favorite cereals, Nintendo cereal, French salad dressing, and flying kites.

We've been biking a lot lately. Jim is asked how he'd like to be at the end of his life. Dissecting the intersection (is there one?) of eastern and western thought...integration and transcendence. What are the motivations and actions of our respective enemies? On the flip side, what is it about us that can invoke an enemy? Jim's wife builds a case for how truth and peace can happen simultaneously. What might motivate manipulation? What a recent dream told Jim's wife about what she needs to know/feel/remember (over and over again) so that she remains fully living this one and precious life.

Jim and his wife just returned from a trip to Michigan's Upper Peninsula. In true UP fashion, it was a trip full of picturesque landscapes, okay food and a couple of magical experiences. We are getting ever so closer to losing 75% of our children to 'adulthood.' We are not going to talk about politics...until we do.

Jim is recapping his wife's romantic gestures as of late, and the current canine scene in the house. Then, Jim talks about his relationship with the word 'awesome' and the underlying force which drives its overuse in his vocabulary. Jim tells us what his coach says about his wife and finally, 'still face." It's all good stuff.

Jim's big ideas about big ideas. The meme that broke Jim.

The new home office. DMB Diaries; the venue, the parking, the pit, the setlists, the people, the dynamics. Jim's wife is hoping to go back to school. Personal aesthetics; how we organize and reveal ourselves through what we wear and how we make our home...and er, Jim's socials. Pink v. Purple. Debates on color. And finally, we talk about how much we can still enjoy each other, thanks much to this undying electric chemistry flowing between us. This episode brought out a lot of goody vibes. Like the Wednesday night DMB setlist, this episode is a real banger. Enjoy!

We hosted the high school graduation parties this weekend. What is next for the graduates? Jim's wife had a bit of a full-blown reality check on her anxious parenting ways. Jim's most recent coaching session asked him to consider his relationship with internal and external authority. And in the midst of telling us about it, he is interrupted by his wife which leads down a rabbit hole... and subsequently, an addendum to the episode. Enjoy. Ha.

There is not more to add in the notes that is not already in the title. Enjoy!

Jim leads off this episode with an update from coaching. We had a very emotional high school graduation day. (Trigger Warning/Disclaimer: This conversation includes a brief discussion about a recent unexpected death of one our kids' classmates.) Soaking in quality family time where and when it presents itself. Parting ways... with things, with time, with control... Jim's oral cavity update. And finally, Gen Xer's and orange Triaminic?

Happy 100th episode to us! Today's yoga lesson asked us to consider the concept of improving self over proving self. A few years ago, we started watching the show Couple's Therapy and this week we rediscovered it. Have you seen it? We absolutely love this show, and we think you will too. You'll surely identify with many of the couples on the show, as have we. We dig into that here. Jim asks his wife about some of her experiences working with couples and what she really admires about the show's therapist and her treatment approach. We saw Hozier twice this week! It was amazing. A family quest of Dungeons and Dragons kicked off this week, as did all things high school graduation. Please enjoy this episode.

This conversation is really quite loaded with a lot of honesty, tears, frustrations, perseverance, and gratitude. Listen if you dare.Enjoy!

This episode was originally posted on 12/31/2022Listen to some live, real-time conversation about where we are today, how we got here and what's in store in the new year for each of us.

Jim has decided to start seeing a Jungian life coach and in preparation for that, he is beginning to record his dreams. His first dream focuses on brick and mortar... R style vs J style, electrical unions...confronting bullies, and face cream in a mirror. Wild stuff. Do your dreams have a theme? Do you ever dream about being unprepared for a college final exam, not knowing your high school locker combo, being forced to return to an old job that you hated or being thrust from a moving car on a kayak and thrown into a river? How about being forced back into a first marriage and pining for your current one? Could reoccurring dreams about our home really be a reoccurring dream about our blissfully blended family? What does all of this mean?! We don't know, but we have fun talking about possible explanations. Enjoy!

Have you taken your D & D character test? We are D & D curious. We know just about nothing about D & D but we might try and learn more. Maybe. Jim's wife answered a call to duty this week, and Jim did not. Yet, he scored higher on the D & D character level portion of the character test. How did our responses to calls to duty impact our D & D character results? How honest do you think his answers really were? ; ) Barefoot running gone wrong. We had a lovely and enjoyable and introspective Mother's Day over here that started with an attitude from Jim, a tasty breakfast and an intense yoga experience.

This episode was originally posted on 12/28/2023.Our love story with this old house.

This episode was originally released on 12/28/2023Podcast insecurities, setting boundaries, relationship dynamics, and some.

Sound baths and blue eyed white wolves. On boobs and telepathy with David Sedaris. The Fifth Agreement- Share it with Your Kids. Grieving Sue Johnson, Emotion Focused Couple's Therapist. Why does Jim clean the bathroom sink with his bare hands but leave the countertops soiled and grubby? Validation, when it gets contentious... Our respective curricula of the week. Can You Do Religion Wrong?

Hello! Today Jim and his wife are talking about the tension of opposites. Where is it showing up and what is going on? Jim's wife dreamt about her greatest parenting fears and it presented as a game of high school water wars. Non dominant hand drawing, and barefoot running- let's go! Turn signals. Age and attraction. The second wives' club; calling out double standards? And finally, as we continue to prepare for an emptier nest, we continue to reflect on observations we have about step family life from over the years and how so very unnecessary so many things have been. It's also so very lovely to be where we are. Enjoy!

We really love this episode. We read The Four Agreements this week. Have you read it? It's pretty good and here we do a synopsis of what we took away from it. Jim actually leads this discussion (sorta) so you won't want to miss it. Also this week, Jim's astrology AI affirmed his ADHD. His wife has something neurodivergent going on, but her AI refuses to divulge the details. Jim's wife builds a case for Jim's life journey as a sperm. Just hear her out. She's likely on to something. More astrology readings. Is Jim a believer or just blowing smoke? The Batemans. What Jim's wife as to say about Justine and Jason. She's talked to one of them and sometimes feels like she might be the other. Hmmmmm.... We hope you enjoy this [fun] episode!

This episode was originally posted on 12/27/2022

This episode was originally posted on 12/25/2022This is the first of our recordings and was recorded without the intention of every being posted, and then...it was posted.

Jim's wife sent him a podcast today from 'Living Myth' by Michael Meade. He listened to it prior to recording so that the two could break down their takeaways for this episode. What does your relationship with story say about you? The parts of a story that resonate most with a person is a treasure trove for self discovery. Jim answers questions about his current take on what his life is all about and where it should go from here. We learn that he's a bit adverse to quest for meaning type things and thus there is reluctance to engage much with this topic. So, in the spirit of fairness, his wife shares her ideas on all the same things. Enjoy.

Episode was originally posted on 9/26/2023There is a lot of content covered in this episode. We explore early childhood behaviors that persist into adulthood. What do those behaviors reveal about who we are today? Stepfamily scenarios and reflection. Integrative therapies we like and others we want to try. We recently watched 'Girl Interrupted'... Wisdom from Jane Fonda. Aging body language.

Have you heard of Ordinal Linguistic Personification? Its a form of synesthesia, it's rare, and it's pretty cool. Despite the fact that it's known prevalence is low (some sources estimate about 4% of the general population has some form of synesthesia-google it) there are four of us in this family that 'have' it and today, we sit down and share our stories...just for the fun of it.*****At the beginning of this episode there is a comment referencing "mental illness" that may elicit some type of feeling for some. If so, take time to listen to the beginning of episode 64 where that comment is discussed further.Original Release Date; 9/22/2023

This week we have been fully immersed in the world of the deeply feeling, highly perceptive, tragically wounded, Holden Caulfield and somewhat immersed in the world of his mysterious creator, Jerome David Salinger.After completely reading the book for the first time, Jim and his wife (who just read the book for a second time) could not let last week's conversation on Caulfield stay where it was left. There is so much more to talk about. Enjoy our deep dive into the tortured inner world of a 17 year who has kept people talking since 1951, when he first arrived on the scene.

Jim and his stepfamily just returned from their spring break vacation in Cancun, Mexico! They have returned to the US fully bronzed and not without some lingering battle wounds with Montezuma's Revenge. What is your relationship with Holden Caulfield? What does that say about you? Communication. In this episode Jim and his wife share (as honestly as possible) some of the trip's highlights. We continue to examine and work through some of our greatest challenges together; grounded in our respective values, maintaining wide open hearts and incorrigible humor.Wondering what happened to all our episodes? Listen here for answers.

Beyond what is written in the episode title we also talked about the origins of Jim's problem with public speaking, our international audience, a recap on our respective reactions to LIB season 6, thus far and that big Taylor Swift victory from last week.Original release date: February 18, 2024

There are some things that Jim's wife has been wanting to talk about.... And then we also want to talk about AI at the vet vs AI when it comes to mental health and the natural inclination toward resistance to change, especially as we age. Trigger warning; Jim's wife does share some of her experiences with postpartum depression and how that experience might have been impacted by AI. We then move onto some fun new realizations about the power of prayer, the wounded healer, forgiveness, modern science, insights from ordinal linguistic personification and last but not least, astrology! Enjoy!Original release date: February 23, 2024

Chris is in the throes of college planning and asked if he could sit down with us today and talk about it and we enthusiastically accepted. Chris tells us about all that he's looking forward to, while his mom talks about all that she's not looking forward to and they both reflect on where they drive each other nuts. Jim chimes in from time to time. :) Once Chris leaves the conversation, Jim and wife reflect on, because there's just a lot of processing needed with such transitions. Enjoy!Original release date: March 2, 2024

It's been a week full of personal challenges for us both. Channeled journaling? Jim has been sticking to his heart shaped sticky notes of love. Why is it working? Jim's wife tells all. What are your relational wounds? Do you tend more towards a fear of abandonment or a fear of rejection? How can you tell? Love is Blind commentary. Are you a partner that asks for crazy bread at 8:30pm or the partner that goes to get the crazy bread at 8:30pm? Don't say neither, you're either one, the other or both. :) Knitting sweater vests. We saw Jon Batiste in concert and it was an incredible show. And finally, suddenly and fully in our midlife era.Original release date: March 8, 2024

Today, Jim tells us about his executive coaching session and how the mirror family therapy experiences. That through line of truth. Chiron in astrology is where our deepest emotional and spiritual wounds are represented. Jim's wife tells him a little bit about how and were his are represented. The other day, Jim told his wife that she reminds him of Dax Shepard and Bradley Cooper. Hmmm. It's a presidential election year. How does one navigate around the pervading malignancy of politics, the media, but stay informed and of service to the greater good? (I don't think we ever answered that question, but we will keep trying.) And finally, who will Jim be voting for come November.Original release date: March 15, 2024

Developmentally appropriate packing lists. Why doesn't Jim wear his favorite expressions of clothing n some places or all places? Authenticity. Copycat Jim. Jim the Prophet. Jim is soooo friendly at work. Boundaries are a bid for connection not division. Recent personality changes. Swiss Miss and wet boots in the 1980s. Honey nut cheerios and early winter nights in the 1980s. Is Jim a brat?Original release date: March 22, 2024