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The wake up call Brooke spent most of her 30s in a relationship with a man who already had a child and didn't want more. She told herself she was okay with that. She spent 10 years telling herself that. And somewhere in those 10 years, quietly, she started filling out IVF paperwork in the background. She never did anything with it. COVID arrived. She went back to it in 2021. She saw a counsellor, got on the donor waitlist at Melbourne IVF, found the Facebook sperm donation groups deeply uncomfortable, met a recruited donor and drove home knowing that wasn't right either. And then her brother had a brain aneurysm. He survived. But she was 42, and she looked at him and thought: I have one shot at life, and I am going to regret this forever if I don't try. She was 43 when she finally had her egg collection — 11 eggs retrieved, 7 viable embryos — numbers that will give every woman in her 40s something to hold onto. She did not take any special vitamins. She was, in her own words, very much "if it's meant to be." Three transfers. The first didn't work. The second — which she didn't tell anyone she was doing — didn't work either. A reading over Christmas that gave her hope, then didn't. A D&C to prepare the lining, and then a fourth transfer she barely planned for, fitted in between a work secondment in regional Victoria and a visit back to Melbourne. She didn't tell anyone she was doing that one either. It worked. Mia was born in November, 10 days after Brooke's 44th birthday. During the pregnancy, Brooke found out her dad had stage 4 lung cancer. He made it to meet Mia. He got to see her smile. He passed away when Mia was four months old. Brooke has a photo of the two of them smiling at each other. In the months after Mia arrived, Brooke experienced postnatal depression — triggered by a sleep school programme that went against every instinct she had. She recognised it quickly, got onto a helpline that night, and got help fast. She talks about it openly because she wants other women to know it doesn't mean you're a bad mum, and it doesn't mean you made the wrong decision. Mia is almost two. Her name means "mine" in Italian — chosen because Brooke's nonna is Italian, and the donor's family is too. She co-sleeps most nights, wakes three or four times, and is a very determined, very independent little girl who drags a vintage Cabbage Patch doll around the house. There are three embryos still in the freezer. Brooke is thinking about them every day. In this episode: A decade-long relationship with someone who didn't want more children — and what that quietly cost her A gynaecologist who told her she was "too old" to freeze her eggs at 36 — and why she should have found a different doctor sooner Starting IVF paperwork in the background of a relationship that was still ongoing COVID hitting just as she got serious about it — and restarting in 2021 The Facebook sperm donation groups: why they felt wrong, and what meeting a recruited donor in regional Victoria taught her Getting on the donor waitlist at Melbourne IVF, the three-month access windows, and finding her donor with 24 hours left on her final access Her friend who told her to just hit the button — and the glass of wine that finally made her do it Her brother's brain aneurysm at 42 as the moment she stopped waiting Starting IVF at 43 with Dr Weng Chan — 11 eggs, 7 embryos, remarkable results without any special vitamins or protocols Three failed transfers, a chemical pregnancy she discovered on Christmas morning, and why she told no one about transfers two, three, or four A D&C to refresh the lining, and a fourth transfer she almost did on a whim during a work trip Making peace with not getting pregnant — and what that peace did for her body Getting pregnant on the fourth transfer and finding out at her mum's house ("Have you got COVID?") A complication-free pregnancy — and finding out her dad had stage 4 lung cancer in the middle of it Dad meeting Mia before he passed, and the photo Brooke will always treasure Mia's name — what it means, and the Italian connection shared by grandmother and donor Postnatal depression triggered by sleep school — recognising it the same night and calling a helpline Co-sleeping, no sleep training, waking three to four times a night — and why it works for them Three embryos in the freezer and the daily internal debate about a second child What she'd say to Mia, and what she'd say to anyone letting fear stop them Key Takeaways A wake-up call doesn't have to be your own health scare — watching someone you love nearly die can be more than enough Doing paperwork in the background isn't crazy — it's forward motion when you're not fully ready to commit yet 11 eggs at 43 without any special vitamins or protocols — the fertility cliff is real, but it is not a guarantee Making peace with the possibility it might not work is one of the most powerful things you can do during IVF Telling nobody about a cycle removes the pressure of having to update people — and sometimes that's exactly what you need PND after solo motherhood doesn't mean you made the wrong decision — getting help early changes everything A gynaecologist who tells you you're too old at 36 is not the right specialist for you The fear you think will be hardest — bringing a child into the world without another parent — disappears the moment they arrive This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? 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From the Very First Try to Six Months In Some women come to this decision with a clear plan. Alex came with a deadline: if I'm still single at 30, I'm doing it on my own. She hit 30. She went to Bali to celebrate. She came home and got her AMH checked. It was on the lower end of normal. That was enough. What followed was three years, a recruited known donor in Victoria, two early miscarriages, a laparoscopy that found stage two endometriosis she never knew she had, multiple egg retrievals across a bulk bill IVF clinic in Queensland and then their full service program, unexplained implantation failure, a double embryo transfer that finally worked, and a pregnancy spent anxious and cautiously hopeful. All while working full time in a state manager role in child protection — and parenting a 16-year-old foster daughter who has lived with her for the past three years. Ollie was born on the 23rd of January via planned caesarean — except the plan didn't go to plan. Nineteen attempts between the cannula and the spinal tap, a previous spinal surgery that made anaesthesia almost impossible, a general anaesthetic she didn't want, and a best friend waiting outside the theatre. He was out and detached from the anaesthetic in under four minutes. He had some trouble breathing, went briefly to special care, and eventually came up to Alex's room that night. He is now six and a half months old. He has a cow's milk protein allergy requiring prescription formula. He has been to Canberra, Bali and Darwin and is heading to Europe next month. He sleeps through the night. He gets his morning cuddle from his big sister before he's even properly awake. And Alex calls him a unicorn. This is a two-part episode — Part 1 covers the journey to 25 weeks pregnant, Part 2 picks up from birth to now. In this episode: Working in child protection and becoming respite carer to two children at 21 Her 16-year-old foster daughter who now lives with her full-time — and the younger one who comes every fortnight Deciding at 30 to stop waiting — AMH results, initial fertility investigations, and the decision to try a recruited known donor first Finding her donor on Facebook: the legal agreement, the counselling, the interstate coordination, and why doing it properly mattered Getting pregnant on the first try — and an early miscarriage Nearly 12 months of home insemination with two early losses, a referral to an early miscarriage specialist, insulin levels treated at a lower threshold, and metformin Moving to a bulk bill IVF clinic in Queensland — out-of-town scans in Adelaide, flying up for retrievals and transfers, three bulk bill cycles Stage two endometriosis found during a laparoscopy — no symptoms, no history, discovered during an egg retrieval Moving to the full service program: 16 eggs, six or seven embryos, and still unexplained implantation failure Genetic testing the embryos — half weren't chromosomally normal, three tested normal A double embryo transfer (one tested, one C-grade untested) — one took. She'll never know which. Early pregnancy with anxiety, a suspected ectopic, a bleed at 5 weeks, a night in hospital A gender reveal, a boy, and a dad who is very excited about his first grandson Ollie arriving at 38 weeks via general anaesthetic — 14 cannula attempts, 9 spinal tap attempts, and a best friend waiting outside Ollie in special care, feeding journey, and the lactation consultant who gave Alex permission to formula feed Cow's milk protein allergy, prescription formula, and why Alex now advises every pregnant woman to bring a tin to hospital just in case Circadian rhythm sorted by two weeks, sleeping through the night by six weeks, napping properly from three months Bali at four months — what worked, what didn't, and the five-dollar porter who changed everything A 16-year-old who gets Ollie up every morning, takes the backseat in the car, and saves her wages to buy him presents Keeping one-on-one time with the older one after Ollie arrived Promoted during maternity leave, planning a second baby, and wondering whether Ollie the unicorn has been a false reference point for what's coming Key Takeaways If you're going to use a recruited known donor, do it properly: legal agreement, counselling for both parties, STI and genetic testing — these things filter out the people who aren't doing it for the right reasons Unexplained implantation failure is one of the most frustrating IVF diagnoses — PGT-A testing of embryos can provide valuable information even when everything else looks normal A general anaesthetic can delay milk supply and impact oxytocin — knowing this beforehand changes how you approach the early feeding days Bring a tin of formula to hospital regardless of your feeding intentions — having it there removes one decision from a very full first night Formula feeding is not failure — a rested, mentally well mum is the best thing for your baby Circadian rhythm can be established very early with intentional day/night light exposure A foster child can be an extraordinary addition to a newborn's life at the right age — the 16-year-old / newborn dynamic Alex describes is genuinely beautiful You can foster and have a biological baby — the foster care agency had no issue with Alex's plan Recruited known donor to IVF is a natural escalation — try what's available to you first, and escalate when you need to This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? 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Four and a Half Years Later — Alisha's Update A note: this episode mentions the loss of Alisha's son Jeremy, who was stillborn 12 years ago today. She shares it with gratitude and without distress — but as always on this podcast, take care of yourself first. When I recorded my first ever episode of No Need for Prince Charming, Lexi was almost two. She is now six and a half. A lot has changed. I've been meaning to do this update for a while, and today felt like the right day — because it's the 12th anniversary of losing my son Jeremy, and I'm launching something I've been building towards for a very long time. More on that below. But first, let me catch you up. In early 2022, I was working full time in corporate loyalty, Lexi was in full-time daycare, Melbourne was still in lockdown, and I was running the podcast from stolen hours after she went to bed. I knew something was brewing — I just didn't know yet what it was going to be. What followed was four and a half years I would not trade for anything. Quitting a job I loved that had become somewhere I hated. Nearly four years sober. An ADHD diagnosis that explained a lot. Writing My Perfect Family. Building courses. Three Bali trips. A book club. A Facebook group that's now 3,500 members. The Bump Membership, which is still the thing I'm most proud of. Speaking at the Sydney Opera House. Sitting on the ART review committee. A second podcast. And learning, in a book club of all places, that one of my friends used the same donor as me — and that Lexi has a little sister. Today, on Jeremy's anniversary, I'm launching the SMS Membership. It's for established solo mums by choice — women who have their child, who are in the thick of it, who want more than a Facebook group can offer. A real community. Real faces. Monthly expert sessions on things we actually need to talk about — mortgages, perimenopause, body safety, employment rights, identity after motherhood. Plus fortnightly Zoom connection calls, state-based groups for real-life playdates, and specialist chats for neurosparkly mums, double donor families, mums without their own mum, and more. I also want to say this: I wasn't 100% sure when I did this. I wasn't even 50% sure. But I didn't want to look back and regret not trying. And it worked on the second round of IVF, and Alexandra is the absolute best thing that has ever happened to me, and I am so, so glad. If you're on the fence — listen to this episode. And then take the next step. In this episode: Going back to work in 2022 — full-time corporate, lockdowns, my mum in hospital the week I returned, survival mode Starting the podcast and feeling something brewing underneath all of it Writing My Perfect Family and why I wanted to normalise the language of donor conception for other families' children, not just ours Fiji with Rhiannon — and realising I almost certainly have ADHD A bullying boss, a toxic work environment, and the day I resigned with my bonus and Lexi in tow Solo Mum Society was born, and so was the realisation that books don't pay your mortgage Going sober almost four years ago — and why having Lexi finally gave me a reason big enough to make it stick The ADHD diagnosis and medication in 2024 — and how running your own business with ADHD without corporate deadlines is a very specific kind of chaos The first Bali trip: 24 women, total strangers, everything in common The Facebook group growing to 3,500 members — and why I started it when the existing group didn't match the energy of the solo mums I knew The Considering, Expecting and Preparing courses — why I made them, what they cover, and what it feels like to watch nervous women become excited ones The Disney cruise — Cinderella holding our daughters' hands, and every dream I had coming true The book club conversation that revealed Lexi's donor-conceived sibling — before the baby was even born Lexi starting school: Father's Day, a classmate who said she was lying about not having a dad, family week, and navigating all of it with teachers who read My Perfect Family Both Alisha and Lexi being neurosparkly — what that means for their household, and how awareness changes everything The third Bali trip — all-inclusive, strangers becoming people you'd think had been friends for a decade Speaking at the Sydney Opera House about sperm (as you do) The ART review committee — being a voice for solo mums at a national level Motherhood Unmasked and Unfiltered — the second podcast with Rhiannon Jeremy's anniversary — 12 years today, and why she sees his passing as a gift that gave her Lexi and everything that followed The SMS Membership — what it is, what's in it, and why it's launching today Dating? Still no. Genuinely no. And why that's the first time in her life she hasn't felt like she needed someone Lexi at six and a half — kind, empathetic, fun, neurosparkly, and the only thing Alisha ever really wanted Key Takeaways The podcast is a time capsule — if you're considering sharing your story, please do it. Not just for the community, but for your child to hear one day Solo mums by choice are not a monologue — no two stories are alike; the only thing in common is choosing to have a child without a partner The hardest part of this whole journey is still making the decision in the first place If the workplace isn't aligned with who you've become as a mum, it's not a failure to leave — it's clarity Being diagnosed with ADHD in your 40s doesn't break anything — it explains a lot and makes you kinder on yourself Sobriety is possible when the reason is finally big enough — and it changes more than you expect Donor-conceived siblings may already be in your life — join the registers, join the groups, do the things "They need a father figure" — no. They need good men in their life. There are many ways to find that You don't have to be 100% certain to take the first step. You just have to be certain enough that you'd regret not trying This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? City Fertility offers an exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Claim your discount here.   The SMS Membership is live — and this is what I've been building towards. For established solo mums by choice. A real community, expert sessions on the things we actually need, fortnightly Zoom connection calls, state-based groups, specialist chats, and partner offers. Find out more here.

She never gave up! Some journeys are long. Kate's is one of the longest we've shared on this podcast — and one of the most quietly remarkable. Kate came to solo motherhood later than she planned, and for reasons that had nothing to do with not wanting a child. For much of her 30s she was managing Complex Regional Pain Syndrome, a chronic pain condition so severe she was on strong medication whose effects on a foetus were not yet known. She finished three masters degrees, achieved a third-degree black belt in karate, and built a career — all while navigating a condition she would not wish on anyone. By her late 30s, the pain was behind her. The medication was gone. And the relationship she'd thought might lead somewhere hadn't. So she made the decision that had always been there, waiting. What followed was three rounds of IUI, a move from Melbourne to Tasmania, a job change, eight or more IVF cycles across two clinics, multiple egg retrievals, a chemical pregnancy, and a miscarriage. Years of driving to Hobart and turning back halfway because the embryo hadn't developed. Years of two-week waits that ended badly. Years of holding it all quietly — telling almost no one — because that is how Kate processes things, and because she has Asperger's, and because the fear of what people think runs deep when you've spent your whole life reading the room slightly differently to everyone else. And then in December, a natural FET. Timed around Christmas. A feeling on the way home that she hadn't had before — this one has stuck. She was right. Amelia is 22 months old, about to turn two. She lives with Kate and Kate's parents in northern Tasmania, is looked after full time by her grandparents while Kate works, hates being swaddled, kicks her blankets off, loves doctors' waiting rooms, and is going to Japan in a couple of months. Kate wouldn't swap a single thing. In this episode: Three masters degrees, a third-degree black belt, and a decade managing Complex Regional Pain Syndrome — and how that shaped Kate's decision-making Being on the autism spectrum (Asperger's): how it affected relationships, the decision to pursue solo motherhood, and the parenting experience that followed Deciding to go straight to IUI rather than freeze eggs — and learning the hard way that the IUI donor pool in Victoria was extremely limited Three rounds of IUI: a chemical pregnancy in quarantine, a negative, and a third failure before moving to IVF Transferring to the Tasmanian clinic — a smaller, more personal experience, and a specialist who never stopped looking for solutions Eight or more IVF cycles across multiple years — multiple egg retrievals, fresh and frozen transfers, the physical and emotional toll, and driving halfway to Hobart only to be called back because the embryo hadn't developed The pre-Medicare-change reality for solo mums: needing to fail IUI multiple times before qualifying for IVF rebates A miscarriage and a chemical pregnancy before the natural FET that finally worked Keeping almost everything secret — and what happened when she finally told people A pregnancy she couldn't enjoy, spent waiting for something to go wrong Amelia arriving a day early in a Tasmanian storm — and spending the first week in hospital with no power at home Coming home to mum and a two-year-old who refused to be swaddled Going back to work at four and a half months — a nine-day fortnight, four days from home Her parents as full-time carers: what it's given Amelia, what it's given them What she'd do differently — and what she'd tell anyone on the spectrum who's been waiting for the right time Key Takeaways A health condition is not a reason to stop — it may be a reason to plan more carefully, get better advice earlier, and advocate for yourself at every step Being on the spectrum doesn't mean you can't read your child — you will find your own way of knowing, and it will be enough The fear of what other people will think is almost always bigger than the reality — Kate told far fewer people than she needed to and everyone she told was supportive The pre-2023 Medicare rules forced solo mums through unnecessary rounds of IUI before qualifying for IVF — if you're starting now, you don't have to do that Telling your employer, when you can trust them, makes the practical logistics of fertility treatment enormously more manageable Going back to work is not abandonment — for some brains, it's a lifeline that helps process and move forward The newborn phase is different when your brain works differently — lean into whatever your mum tells you, accept the help that comes, and know that you will find your own rhythm This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? 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Acupuncture for IVF & Fertility — What Solo Mums Need to Know | Dr Michelle Smith, Ova Acupuncture Most fertility specialists will tell you to try acupuncture. Very few of them explain why. This week I'm joined by Dr Michelle Smith — acupuncturist, Chinese herbal medicine practitioner, and director of Ova Acupuncture in Brisbane. Michelle specialises in fertility and women's health, has two clinics in Brisbane, and sees women from all over Australia, including many solo mums by choice. She's also, as of this recording, 13 weeks pregnant via IVF — her first transfer — doing this solo, and very happy to talk about all of it. This episode is Acupuncture 101 for anyone who has been told it might help, has no idea how or why, and wants to actually understand the mechanism rather than just taking someone's word for it. We cover everything — the science and the philosophy, what's actually happening when a needle goes in and why that matters for egg quality and implantation, the ideal timeline for starting treatment before an IVF cycle, what to do if you have PCOS, what's different for known donor home insemination, how acupuncture supports perimenopause, and what to look for when finding a practitioner near you. Michelle is also refreshingly honest about what acupuncture can and can't do, why the pre- and post-transfer appointment is not as essential as the industry often suggests, and why her first priority with most new patients is to get them off half the supplements they're on. If you've been on the fence about whether to add acupuncture to your IVF cycle — this episode will help you make that decision.   Ova Acupuncture — Brisbane, two clinics, telehealth available for interstate patients. Visit ovaacupuncture.au Note: Michelle can also provide referrals to trusted colleagues around Australia for those not in Brisbane.   In this episode: How Michelle came to specialise in fertility — her own PCOS diagnosis, five years of study, and why she says she has the best job in the world Why fertility specialists telling you to "get acupuncture to relax" undersells what it's actually doing The sympathetic versus parasympathetic nervous system — and why the goal of acupuncture is to move you out of fight-or-flight How acupuncture supports IVF: blood flow to the ovaries, follicle quality, immune regulation and implantation The whole-systems approach — why the 12 weeks of weekly sessions before your cycle matters more than a pre- and post-transfer appointment What to do if you haven't had 12 weeks — the alternative protocol for stim phase The post-transfer window — what acupuncture is doing during the two-week wait, and when it's worth coming in What Michelle looks for when reviewing solo mums' IVF histories — and the basic things she sees missed because "we assumed everything was fine" Diet and lifestyle for fertility: Mediterranean diet, blood sugar regulation, eating enough, and why ice baths are off the table Acupuncture for known donor home insemination — optimising ovulation, luteal phase support, and vaginal microbiome testing PCOS and fertility: irregular ovulation, AMH, OHSS risk, and how Chinese medicine treats the individual rather than the protocol Perimenopause and why this generation of women is experiencing it differently — and how acupuncture helps How to navigate acupuncture with a needle phobia or as a neurodivergent person How to find a qualified fertility acupuncturist near you — what to look for and what to ask Michelle's IVF journey: first transfer, 13 weeks pregnant, doing it solo, and what she'd tell anyone just starting out Key Takeaways Acupuncture does more than help you relax — it shifts the nervous system, directs blood flow to reproductive organs, and supports immune regulation for implantation The whole-systems approach means regular weekly sessions in the lead-up to your cycle are more valuable than a single pre/post-transfer appointment Ideally start acupuncture 12 weeks before your IVF stim phase — or twice weekly during stim if you haven't had that lead time Solo mums often have basic things missed in their fertility workup because everyone assumes the only reason for IVF is the absence of a partner — advocate for full investigations Less is more with supplements — a good practitioner will help you stop rattling, not add more to the pile Mediterranean diet, regular meals, blood sugar stability, warmth, and adequate sleep are the foundations — before anything else Ice baths are not recommended when trying to conceive — in Chinese medicine, warmth supports blood flow and a fertile environment For known donor/home insemination: focus on ovulation regularity, luteal phase quality, and vaginal microbiome health When choosing a practitioner, check AHPRA registration and ask about post-graduate fertility training specifically You deserve to feel safe, listened to and advocated for in acupuncture — just as you do in any medical setting This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? 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Nine People, One Tiny Town, and the Boy Who Brought the House Back to Life Kaitlynn was never much of a dater. In her early 20s, her mum — who, as mums do, knew her best — floated the idea of going it alone. It took another six or seven years of on-and-off conversation before Kaitlynn, now 29 and living in a four-generation household in remote Tasmania, finally sat down and started putting the pieces together. When we first spoke to Kaitlynn, she was weeks out from her first fertility appointment — bloods done, paperwork filed, donor shortlisted, waiting on cycle day one. Her closest clinic was a four-hour drive from home; Hobart, where her specialist was based, was seven. She'd chosen her donor through Fertility Tasmania using the Seattle Sperm Bank, picking an ID release donor with a clean health history and an artistic, musical background she hoped her future child would inherit. She funded the whole process through an early release of her superannuation. Two and a half years later, we caught up again. Kaitlynn fell pregnant on her first IUI. She developed gestational diabetes at 30 weeks, managed it through diet, and navigated a flare-up of pre-existing mental health struggles during pregnancy with her family close by. At her 20-week scan, doctors flagged a suspected clubfoot — confirmed at birth. Sully went into his first cast at three weeks old, had a small surgery to release his Achilles tendon at around three months, and has been in boots and a bar ever since, now down to overnight wear only. Kaitlynn talks openly about handing her newborn over to a surgeon, about the four-hour round trips for treatment from a town of 35 people, and about how becoming Sully's mum reshaped who she is — pulling her whole nine-person "village" closer in the process. In this episode: Kaitlynn's mum first suggesting the solo mum path when Kaitlynn was in her early 20s, and what finally made her act on it Living in a four-generation household in remote Tasmania — nine people under one roof, and why "we'll just fit another one in" was the family's reaction The logistics of pursuing treatment four hours from the nearest clinic, seven from her specialist in Hobart Choosing an ID release donor through Fertility Tasmania and the Seattle Sperm Bank — health history, artistic background, and "donor roulette" with her best friend Falling pregnant on her first IUI, and the strange lack of surprise that comes with a fully planned conception Gestational diabetes at 30 weeks and a flare-up of pre-existing mental health struggles during pregnancy Sully's clubfoot diagnosis at the 20-week scan — weekly casts from three weeks old, a small surgery, and life in boots and a bar What it was like handing her newborn over to a surgeon for the first time Four-hour round trips to hospital from a town with a population of 35 How becoming Sully's mum reshaped her sense of identity — and reconnected her with nieces, nephews and her nan Travelling internationally and to Bali with a toddler, and how she built community from hundreds of kilometres away Going back and forth on a second child, and what's stopping her from letting go of the last vial in storage What she wants to say to Sully when he's old enough to hear this episode Key Takeaways Isolation doesn't rule out solo motherhood — it just means the logistics take more planning, and a good specialist will work around your geography rather than against it A quick, straightforward IUI is possible, even after years of thinking it all through Gestational diabetes and antenatal mental health flare-ups are common, not a reflection of anything you did wrong A medical diagnosis picked up on a routine scan doesn't have to define the story — Sully's clubfoot became "just part of what he's known," not a source of ongoing distress Having a wide support "village" doesn't dilute the mother-child bond — if anything, it gave Kaitlynn's whole extended family new life Indecision about a second child is normal, and there's no timeline you're required to resolve it on Distance from other solo mums doesn't mean isolation — online community and events like Bali can close that gapA brief note: this episode includes the death of Jessica's mum from cancer during Teddy's first year, and a hospital stay for Teddy shortly after. It's heavy in places — but told with real warmth, and it ends somewhere good. This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? City Fertility offers an exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Claim your discount here.   Pregnant or TTC solo? The Bump Membership is your virtual village — a private WhatsApp community of solo mums to be, plus fortnightly connection calls on Zoom where we share, laugh, and support one another. Members also receive exclusive discounts on Solo Mum Society courses and products. Find out more.

Every donor-conceived child from an SMBC will ask it eventually. Mummy, why don't I have a daddy? Most of us lie awake at some point worrying about how to answer it. What words do we use? How much do we say? What if we get it wrong? This week I'm joined by Beth Sadowsky — solo mum by choice, life coach, and author of Choosing Rose, a children's picture book written specifically for SMBC families. Beth is based in Florida, USA, and her daughter Lily is 7. The book started as a letter Beth wrote to Lily while she was still pregnant — a way to prepare for the conversation she knew was coming — and it became a beautifully illustrated picture book that leans into the question rather than avoiding it. Choosing Rose isn't a biology lesson. It doesn't explain what sperm is or how IVF works. It's a story — warm enough for bedtime and honest enough to open a real conversation. The kind of book you can hand your child and read together, and the words come naturally because the story does the work. We talk about how the book came to be, what Lily thought when she first heard it read to her, how Beth handled the moment at school when Lily said I wish I had a daddy at a table full of dads, and why Beth believes the question isn't something to dread — it's one of the most beautiful opportunities we have as solo mums. This episode is for any solo mum who hasn't quite worked out how to start this conversation yet. Or who's been putting it off. Or who picked up the book and burst into tears before they even got to page three. You don't have to have it all figured out. You just have to begin. Choosing Rose is available on Amazon, including Amazon Australia. Search: Choosing Rose Beth Sadowsky. In this episode: What inspired Beth to write Choosing Rose — and why it started as a letter, not a book The gap in children's books for SMBC families — what exists, what doesn't, and why it matters Why Beth deliberately kept the book free of biological detail — and what that makes possible How Lily reacted when Beth first read it to her at age 2 — and what she thinks now at 7 The moment at a school event when Lily said "I wish I had a daddy" — and how Beth handled it without making it a big deal Why "I wish I had a daddy" almost never means what we think it means — and what to do instead of panicking The difference between the question being about absence vs. the question being about curiosity How to use Choosing Rose at school to help classmates and teachers understand your family Beth's advice for any solo mum who wants to write their own book — three things she'd tell anyone starting out Why Father's Day is actually a perfect moment to open this conversation Links Choosing Rose on Amazon Australia Beth on Instagram: @choosingmotherhoodbooks or @choosing.motherhood This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? City Fertility offers an exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Claim your discount here.   You're Not Doing This Alone Solo Mum Society's Facebook group is full of women asking the exact questions you're too tired to Google at 3am. Join here.

She Chose Her Mother's Coffin With Her Newborn in the Next Room A brief note: this episode includes the death of Jessica's mum from cancer during Teddy's first year, and a hospital stay for Teddy shortly after. It's heavy in places — but told with real warmth, and it ends somewhere good. Jessica brought Teddy home five days after his birth, straight into a household COVID exposure that saw her evacuated to her brother's for a week. It set the tone. Over the following eight months, her mum's cancer — held at bay through years of chemo — stopped responding. On Christmas Day, watching Teddy on his new swing, her mum said she was done. Nine days later she was gone. Jessica went from choosing her mother's coffin to planning eulogies with her five-month-old in the next room — and that same night, drove Teddy to hospital with a UTI, still in her funeral clothes. She calls it, only half-joking, the worst run she's ever had. What carries the second half of this conversation isn't the hardship — it's what Jessica does with it. A letter her mum left her says three words: look for the joy. It's tattooed on her arm now, in her mum's handwriting. She talks about grief and gratitude sitting in the same two hands, her dad's daily role in getting Teddy to daycare, and why — for now — she's landed on one and done. In this episode: Bringing Teddy home into a COVID household exposure, five days postpartum, and being evacuated to her brother's for a week Her mum's decline over Teddy's first eight months, and choosing to stop active treatment on Christmas Day Choosing her mother's coffin with her newborn in the next room Teddy's hospital admission for a UTI the night of the funeral Why "look for the joy" — her mum's own words — is tattooed on her arm Going back to work at six and a half months, and needing the distraction Her dad's daily role — early starts, daycare drop-offs, and finding purpose in it too The second embryo still in storage, and why she's landed on "one and done" Her message to Teddy for his 21st birthday, and her advice for anyone considering this path Key Takeaways You can hold joy and grief in the same two hands at the same time — becoming a mum and losing a parent aren't mutually exclusive experiences Letting grandparents help in practical, daily ways gives them purpose too, not just support to you Going back to work early isn't a failure of bonding — sometimes it's what makes you a better, more present parent "One and done" is a considered decision, not a consolation prize The advice that gets you through 3am isn't always a professional — it's a Facebook group full of people asking the same question you're too embarrassed to ask This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? City Fertility offers an exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Claim your discount here.   You're Not Doing This Alone Solo Mum Society's Facebook group is full of women asking the exact questions you're too tired to Google at 3am. Join here.

Ten Years, One Afternoon, and a Donor She Wasn't Supposed to Find That Fast A brief note: this episode touches on Jessica's mum's terminal cancer diagnosis, which arrived while she was starting IVF. Nothing graphic — just wanted you to know it's there. Jessica always knew she'd be a mum. What she had, that a lot of solo mums don't, was a role model: her aunt, a solo mum by choice back in the early '90s, back when it wasn't spoken about at all. Jessica set herself a deadline — 32 — and spent the years before it doing the groundwork: leaving a teaching career that had wrecked her mental health, retraining as a nurse through COVID, having bariatric surgery, losing 70 kilos. By the time she walked into her fertility clinic, her mum had just been diagnosed with terminal cancer. Jessica kept going anyway — her mum wanted it that way. She found her donor on the very first afternoon she looked at profiles, then spent days convincing herself it couldn't really be that simple. It was. Her egg collection came back lower than hoped, four eggs, three fertilised — but two became embryos, and her fresh transfer implanted the same day her nan passed away. Her mum was too unwell to be in the room for the caesarean she'd always planned to be at. Her dad stepped in instead, and cut the cord. Jessica calls it the best moment of her life — calm, exactly as she'd hoped, nothing like the year that was about to follow. In this episode: Growing up with a solo-mum-by-choice aunt, and what a good example of the journey looks like when you're young Leaving teaching, moving home, and choosing nursing — specifically anaesthetics — for the job security and flexibility motherhood would need Bariatric surgery, losing 70 kilos, and reversing her PCOS along the way Her mum's terminal cancer diagnosis landing right as she started the fertility process — and choosing to keep going Finding her sperm donor on the very first day, and the days it took her to believe that was real A lower-than-hoped egg collection — 4 eggs, 3 fertilised — and why "still four" was enough Falling pregnant the same day her nan passed away Hyperemesis gravidarum, advanced maternal age, and working as an anaesthetic nurse through a high-risk pregnancy Her dad stepping in for the planned caesarean, and cutting the cord Key Takeaways Groundwork for solo motherhood — financial, physical, mental — can start years before you make the "official" decision Finding your donor fast isn't a red flag. It's allowed to be simple. A low egg collection number isn't the end of the story. It only takes one. You don't have to pause a fertility journey because life gets hard at the same time — sometimes it's the reason to keep going This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? City Fertility offers an exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Claim your discount here.   Pregnant or TTC Solo? Expecting Solo takes you through everything you need to navigate pregnancy solo, share your news with confidence, and bring joy to the journey. Find out more.

One appointment changed everything Emma never romanticised motherhood. She spent her whole career caring for other people's children — as a live-in nanny, a live-out nanny, and eventually a kinder assistant — and somewhere along the way she started asking herself whether she'd regret not having a child of her own. The answer was yes. And that was enough. She didn't come to this with urgency or grief or a ticking clock. She came to it with clarity. When her best friend's AMH results came back unexpectedly, Emma went and got her own tested. Her level was 8, at 32. She booked an appointment with a fertility specialist — not sure yet whether she'd freeze her eggs or something more — and walked out of that appointment completely certain: she was going to do it now. She picked a donor in January 2024, on the first day she allowed herself to look. She found him almost immediately. She chose him on vibe — specifically, on the way he answered a question about how he felt about potentially having a biological child out there. His honesty about the nervousness of it was the thing that landed. One round of IVF, first transfer. Positive. Franklin arrived after an induction and one hour and fifteen minutes of active labour. He was at a wedding five days later. He is now 17 months old, obsessed with his shoes, and recently helped Emma unpack the dishwasher by putting a glass on the shelf at exactly the right height. This is a short, honest, uncomplicated story. Not every journey is long. Not every IVF cycle fails. Emma's wasn't, and hers is here to remind you that it can just work. In this episode: Growing up always around kids — nannying as a career and how it shaped, and complicated, her path to motherhood Why adoption or foster care was always in her thinking — and why the reality in Australia didn't match the idea The AMH test that lit the fuse — and the appointment that made the decision for her Deciding at 32 that she didn't want to wait for a relationship she wasn't sure was coming Choosing a donor almost immediately — and why his answer about nervous anticipation of future contact was the deciding factor IVF at City Fertility: smooth, straightforward, first transfer positive A quick induction and one hour fifteen minutes of active labour Coming home to a full house — her mum, her mum's partner, and a housemate — and how that helped and sometimes didn't Mixed feeding until 8 months — three methods running simultaneously because she couldn't choose Going to a wedding five days postpartum The work complications that caught her off guard — disability job restructured, shifts changed, financially in limbo at 17 months postpartum What surprised her most about having a baby after a career caring for other people's children The FOMO that disappeared, the priorities that shifted, and the softness that settled in Why she wants a second child — and what she'd do differently to prepare Key Takeaways One appointment can make the decision for you — go and get the information before you decide anything A low AMH at 32 doesn't mean this is impossible; it means start sooner rather than later You don't need a partner to take the next step. You just need to take the next step. Working with children professionally does not prepare you emotionally for your own — the connection is completely different Don't go back to work assuming everything will be the same — roles change, rosters change, hours change. Have a contingency in mind Mixed feeding is not failure. It is just one more decision with pros and cons and no clear winner, and you will get through it either way Solo motherhood doesn't have to be hard or long. It can just work. This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? City Fertility offers an exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Claim your discount here.   Pregnant solo and looking for your village? The Bump Membership is a private WhatsApp community and fortnightly Zoom connection calls for solo mums-to-be across Australia and New Zealand. Join here.

Two Kids, One Heart Condition, and No Regrets A brief note: this episode mentions a miscarriage between Kristina's two pregnancies. She shares it with grace and without distress, but we wanted you to know it's there.   Kristina spent her 30s doing what she loved — living in different countries, working big marketing jobs, going out, seeing things. Children were always in the plan. A partner never quite materialised. And then her mum — a retired GP who had spent her career delivering babies — started dropping not-so-subtle hints every time she saw her. By 38, Kristina made the appointment. What followed was a journey that looked nothing like she imagined, partly because of the pandemic that landed in the middle of it, and partly because of the heart condition she had been managing for years — including an implanted defibrillator — that meant nobody quite knew how her body would handle a pregnancy. The answer, it turned out, was better than out of it. Kristina conceived on her first IVF transfer at City Fertility, in Melbourne, just as the borders closed. Her whole pregnancy was in lockdown. She worked from home, mostly unseen, growing a baby in an Art Deco apartment in Prahran while the world tried to work out what was happening. Otis arrived via planned caesarean at Epworth in June 2020 — small, at 2.1 kilos, and with talipes (clubfoot) that hadn't been picked up on any scan. What followed was five months of weekly leg casts, a small operation to release tendons, then months in boots and a bar — a mini snowboard contraption that kept his feet overcorrected while the bones formed. It was hard. He was, as Kristina puts it, a miserable baby. She moved her parents in and went on road trips whenever the lockdowns allowed. She went back for a second child when Otis was 20 months old. There was a miscarriage between them — the numbers weren't going up, and then suddenly they were, and then there was no heartbeat. She managed it medically and ended up in hospital. It was awful. Then she went back, transferred the next embryo, and got pregnant straight away. Seven months into that pregnancy, she packed up the apartment, flew to New Zealand with her mum and Otis, and had Ari via planned C-section at Nelson Public Hospital. This time, everything was fine. He slept. She called the midwife crying, convinced something was wrong. Otis is five. Ari is two and a half. Kristina is about to launch her own fashion brand from Nelson. She rides bikes and scooters to school with her boys every morning. She doesn't regret a single thing. In this episode: Growing up the eldest of four — always knowing she wanted to be a mother, even when she was busy living her best life in her 30s Her mum — a retired GP — planting the seed with increasing persistence, and why she's grateful for it The heart condition and implanted defibrillator that made her wonder whether her body could handle pregnancy — and why it turned out to be the wrong thing to worry about Deciding to keep her IUI cycles secret from almost everyone — and why she told everyone when she moved to IVF IVF at 38-39 at City Fertility: 8 eggs, 4 embryos, pregnant on the first transfer Getting the positive the day the COVID borders closed — her mum, her Canadian friend, and their bags packed A COVID pregnancy — working from home, nobody watching the bump grow, quietly grateful for the rest Otis arriving at 2.1 kilos with undetected talipes — the shock, the five months of weekly casts, the minor surgery, and the boots and bar he wore until he was four What it was really like — the misery, the pacing, the jiggling, the shushing, and the road trips in between lockdowns The miscarriage between her two pregnancies — what happened physically, the hospital trip that followed, and how she feels about it now Going back, transferring the next embryo, and getting pregnant straight away Moving to New Zealand at 7 months pregnant — what she'd do differently, and what she'd tell anyone considering the same move Ari's birth at Nelson Public Hospital — perfectly smooth, and a baby who slept so well she thought something was wrong Finding six solo mums in Nelson and building a community in a small town Leaving the corporate world, turning down a dream Auckland job, and launching her own fashion brand What surprised her most about doing this twice — and which stage she didn't expect to be the hardest Key Takeaways A pre-existing health condition doesn't mean solo motherhood isn't possible — it means you need the right team, honest conversations, and a specialist who will help you get there, not talk you out of it You never feel completely ready — at some point, you have to decide the process is more important than the feeling Telling people matters — the support you get back is almost always better than you expected Moving countries (or even cities) for support with a second child is not retreating — it's a practical, wise decision that makes the whole thing possible The hard parts of the newborn phase fade faster than you think — and that's not a trick, it's biology The hardest stage with two children isn't the newborn period — it's when the younger one develops their own strong personality and the two of them want different things You can build a solo mum community anywhere, even a small town — it finds you once you're there Two boys, solo: they will love you fiercely, and you will take full credit for all of it This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? City Fertility offers an exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Claim your discount here.   Pregnant or TTC Solo? The Expecting solo takes you through everything you need to navigate pregnancy solo, share your news with confidence, build your support network and bring joy to the journey. Find out more.

First Try, Water Birth & Teaching Full Time Lindsay is the kind of person who, when she decides something is happening, makes it happen. She promised herself at 27 — the day she left her marriage — that not having a partner would never mean not having a child. She promised herself again at 30, moving to Scotland on her own without knowing a single person. And she promised herself at 35 that if she was still single, she would make it happen that year. She was. She did. One round of IVF at Melbourne IVF. Nineteen eggs retrieved. Six embryos. A frozen transfer in December, just before her 36th birthday. A positive result over Christmas. A water birth with a doula at 37 weeks and two days — the day after her last day of work, standing in the rain doing tram duty. Aric is now eight months old. She's back teaching full time. She's planning to donate her eggs. Lindsay is a maths and science teacher at an independent school in Melbourne. She navigated her entire IVF journey secretly, before the pregnancy was announced, managing scans and blood tests around the school day. She came back to work at five months and has spent term one figuring out what it actually means to be a full-time teacher and a full-time solo mum simultaneously — including more sick days than she's had in six years, a daycare she describes as phenomenal, and a WhatsApp group of five women from the Preparing for Solo Motherhood course who all had babies in the same year and are now, she says, the best thing in her life besides Aric. This is a story for anyone who's been putting it off, thinks their journey will be long, or isn't sure how it's going to work with their job. Lindsay's answer to all of it is the same: you decide, and then you make it work. In this episode: Leaving her marriage at 27 and her mum's advice that changed everything Living and working in Scotland at 30, dating with the FYI conversation, and the decision point at 35 The public fertility waitlist in Victoria — what it is, how long it takes, and why she's glad she explored private options at the same time IVF at Melbourne IVF: choosing a donor, genetic carrier testing, and the last-minute transfer of funds before getting on a plane to Scotland Nineteen eggs, six embryos, an OHSS risk, and a frozen transfer just before the Christmas clinic shutdown Managing IVF secretly as a teacher — early morning appointments, removing clinic letterheads from medical certificates, and keeping a tight circle of support The embryo transfer day — emotionally the hardest part of the journey, and the Facebook community moment that changed everything A straightforward pregnancy, no complications beyond pelvic pain, and morning sickness managed with medication Working to 37.5 weeks pregnant, tram duty in the rain on her last Friday, and Aric arriving the next day Choosing a doula as a solo mum — why it was a deliberate, empowering choice, and how it shaped her birth A water birth with minimal intervention, just happy gas, and what she describes as one of the most magical things she's ever done Negotiating maternity leave in an independent school — EBAs, school holiday pay, the conversation she had to have with her principal, and going back to work at five months A phenomenal community daycare, full time from five months, and navigating the first term back The Preparing for Solo Motherhood course WhatsApp group — five women, five babies, late-night chats, Sunday check-ins, and a care package sent to a hospital in Sydney Why she plans to donate her eggs — and the take-a-penny-leave-a-penny philosophy behind itKey Takeaways Key Takeaways The Victorian public fertility waitlist is worth joining even if private is your plan — people drop off ahead of you and circumstances change If you're a teacher, ask your clinic for first appointments of the day — most fertility clinics accommodate this, and it's worth asking upfront Tell your employer just enough to get the support you need — but ask about EBAs and maternity leave entitlements early, because independent schools operate differently to government schools A doula is one of the most practical choices a solo mum can make for birth — she is your advocate, she knows your plan, and she doesn't count toward your support person limit The course WhatsApp group is not a nice-to-have — it's one of the most important villages you can build before the baby arrives You don't need a partner to have a rich support network — you need the right community IVF as a solo mum by choice is empowering, not a last resort. The way we talk about it is different — and that mattersYou owe your fertility clinic no loyalty if it's not the right fit — changing clinics can change everything This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? City Fertility offers an exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Claim your discount here.   Pregnant solo and looking for your village? The Bump Membership is a private WhatsApp community and fortnightly Zoom connection calls for solo mums-to-be across Australia and New Zealand. Join here.

Most of the stories on this podcast start at the beginning. This one starts seven years down the track — and it's one of the most valuable perspectives we have. Renee made her first appointment at 37, after a colleague finally said the quiet part loud and told her to just do it already. She did two IUI rounds, had a bad experience with her first IVF clinic and walked away, found Dr David Wilkinson at City Fertility, and on her third and final round — a frozen transfer she specifically advocated for against the default fresh option — fell pregnant with Aria. She was 39. Aria is now seven. She goes to Girl Guides, swimming and karate. She spent time in Bali with the solo mum community and came home telling her teachers about her brothers and sisters. She has decided she can't find Renee a husband because all the good ones are already married. She recently concluded she'd like to learn how to be on her own first before finding a partner — and she's seven. This is a conversation about what the long view really looks like. Not just the birth story and the newborn phase — though Renee shares those too, including a GP who missed her post-caesarean sepsis and a cow's milk protein intolerance that took months to diagnose — but what it means to raise a donor-conceived child who is starting to ask real questions, to build a village from scratch in a new city, and to feel, genuinely, that this life is fuller than anything you could have imagined before it. In this episode: The colleague who finally told her to just do it — and how one conversation changed everything Two IUI rounds and her first IVF clinic — and the moment she realised she owed them nothing and left Finding Dr David Wilkinson at City Fertility, a fresh perspective, and a one-step-at-a-time approach Three IVF rounds at 39 — low numbers, a Bali holiday between rounds, and the frozen transfer she asked for over the default fresh The butterfly effect moment: the embryo she asked to be frozen became Aria Coming home after a caesarean — and the GP who dismissed her concerns, missed her sepsis, and tried to put her on antidepressants Cow's milk protein intolerance: months of a screaming baby, a GP who listened, and 48 hours to a different child Donating her remaining embryo to another solo mum via Facebook — and what that process involved Aria at seven: the donor questions she's asking, what Renee tells her and what she doesn't, and why she won't build up a donor who may disappoint The one and done decision — and the clear-eyed logic behind it The solo mum community: nearly giving up after two bad playground meet-ups, a leap-of-faith camping trip to Phillip Island, and the village she now can't imagine living without The daughters of solo mums — and why Renee thinks they're going to have a fundamentally different relationship with what they need from a partner What she'd say to Aria, and what she'd say to anyone sitting on the fence Key Takeaways You owe your fertility clinic no loyalty if it's not the right fit — changing clinics can change everything Advocate for yourself in IVF decisions — Renee asked for a frozen transfer over the default fresh, and that embryo became Aria Trust your instincts about your baby's health. If a GP dismisses you, find another one and bring your list Building your village takes time, a few wrong fits, and one leap of faith — but it is out there The solo mum community doesn't just support the mums — it creates chosen family for the children too When your child says they wish they had a dad, ask more questions — it's almost never about the dad Raise your child to know they are enough on their own before they look for anyone else to complete them You can donate a remaining embryo to another family — ask your clinic about your options This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? City Fertility offers an exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Claim your discount here.   Pregnant solo and looking for your village? The Bump Membership is a private WhatsApp community and fortnightly Zoom connection calls for solo mums-to-be across Australia and New Zealand. Join here.

Eight Months from Egg Freezing to Pregnant Ashleigh's story is one of those ones that will genuinely reassure anyone who is at the very beginning of this journey and quietly terrified about how long it might take. She was 33 when a friend planted the seed about egg freezing. She went to an initial clinic consultation — more curious than committed — and on the same day, a colleague at work mentioned she'd just had a baby via IVF with a sperm donor. Two seeds in one day. Eight months later, Ashleigh was pregnant. There were no complications. No failed transfers. No long waitlists. She found a donor quickly, did a fresh IVF cycle alongside her frozen eggs, got six embryos, and fell pregnant on the very first transfer. She still has five embryos in storage. She's a Queensland primary school teacher who now works three days a week at a school ten minutes from home and daycare. She took Z to Europe for a month at nine months old with her mum. She has connected with donor-conceived siblings — one of whom lives ten minutes away. And when asked what she'd tell someone sitting on the fence, she was in tears before she could even answer. This is a lovely, warm, uncomplicated episode. Not every story on this podcast is a long or hard one — and that matters. This is proof that sometimes it really does just work. In this episode: Spending her 20s and early 30s as a dedicated primary school teacher — and how burnout shifted her thinking about what she actually wanted A friend's egg freezing journey planting the seed — and a colleague's announcement on the same day as her first clinic appointment Freezing her eggs at 33 and being pregnant by 34 — eight months from first appointment to positive transfer Choosing an international donor in Queensland: blue eyes, healthy profile, and deliberately not overthinking it A fresh IVF cycle alongside her frozen eggs — 15 eggs, 6 embryos, and a positive first transfer Why she chose IVF over IUI — and the donor consent consideration that drove that decision A straightforward pregnancy clouded only by constant nausea — teaching primary school while vomiting several times a day An emergency caesarean and a surprisingly smooth recovery The newborn phase that was easier than expected — and the 48 hours without sleep in Europe that was not A month in Europe at nine months — what works, what doesn't, and why nine months is probably the cut-off Returning to work three days a week at a school ten minutes from home and daycare Connecting with donor-conceived siblings through the sperm bank's Facebook community — including one family ten minutes away Five embryos still in storage, the question of a second child, and three flights of stairs What she'd do differently: building the support network before baby arrives Key Takeaways The journey isn't always long — sometimes it really does move quickly, and it's worth starting sooner than you think You don't need to overthink donor selection — knowing your non-negotiables and keeping a clear head serves you better than analysis paralysis Choosing IVF over IUI when you want more than one child has practical advantages — embryos offer more protection than stored sperm alone in some circumstances Build your support network before baby arrives — not after you're in it and everyone around you already has children Returning to work part-time in a flexible, local role changes everything about the solo mum juggle Connecting with donor-conceived siblings is better to do on your own terms before they potentially cross paths organically Frozen embryos give you the luxury of time when it comes to the second child decision — you don't have to rush This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? City Fertility offers an exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Claim your discount here.   TTC or in your first trimester? The Expecting Solo course helps you navigate early pregnancy on your own terms — from managing symptoms and setting boundaries to finding the joy in your story. Live or on demand, from anywhere in the world. Find out more here.

Nearly half of first-time mums in Australia will have their labour induced. Most of them have no idea what that actually involves until they're in the middle of it. This episode is here to change that. I'm joined by Nat — Melbourne midwife, solo mum of three boys, and someone who has had three very different births of her own (including one that ended with her in ICU — more on that in her own episodes, which are linked below, but maybe save those for after you've had your baby). Nat works in a Melbourne tertiary hospital, and she's here in a personal capacity to give you a practical, informed, non-scary breakdown of what an induction actually is — and what you need to think about as a solo mum specifically. This is not medical advice. For risks, benefits and research, Nat recommends The Great Birth Rebellion podcast — search your specific situation and you'll find the evidence base you need. What this episode gives you is the foundational knowledge to walk into those conversations with your care provider informed, confident, and asking the right questions. Because here's what Nat — and I — both wish more women knew before they got to this point: there's a significant difference between being offered an induction because it's hospital policy, and being offered one because of your specific medical situation. Knowing which one you're in changes everything about the conversation you should be having. In this episode: What an induction actually is — and the difference between induction and augmentation Why nearly one in three women are induced in Australia, and nearly half of first-time mums The two types of induction recommendation: hospital policy versus your specific medical situation — and why this distinction matters The BRAIN acronym — Benefits, Risks, Alternatives, Intuition, Nothing — and how to use it in any appointment The bishop score — what it is, what it means, and what happens next depending on the result The gel and pessary — how they work, how long they take, and what to expect The balloon catheter — what it actually is, how it works, and why you can ask for gas and air Breaking your waters — what it involves and why it's less dramatic than it sounds by this point The oxytocin (syntocin) drip — how it works, why it's different from natural labour, and why Nat recommends going in with an open mind about epidurals CTG monitoring — what the straps are doing, what the numbers mean, and what it means when they adjust the drip Why an induction can take two to three days — and what that means practically for solo mums with limited support Birth plans, support people, doulas, private midwives, and student midwives — your real options How to advocate for yourself if you're being pushed in a direction you're not comfortable with Birth trauma — what causes it, and how being informed reduces your risk Postpartum doulas and private midwives — what they can do for you after baby arrives Setting your home up for a C-section even if you're aiming for a vaginal birth Key Takeaways Ask your care provider: is this induction recommendation based on hospital policy, or on my specific medical situation? The answer should change how you respond Use the BRAIN acronym in every appointment — Benefits, Risks, Alternatives, Intuition, Nothing An induction can take two to three days — plan your support accordingly, and don't assume you'll have your baby the same day If you're a solo mum without a support person, a doula or student midwife can be your advocate in the birth suite — and they don't count toward your support person limit Research epidurals before you need one — going into an induction without considering it sets you up for a harder experience Prepare your home for a C-section recovery even if that's not your plan — the solo mum who has meals in the freezer and grab rails in the bathroom will thank herself no matter what happens Birth trauma comes from not being heard, not from the type of birth — being informed is protective You can say stop at any point in this process. Even mid-induction. You are not obligated to continue anything without being heard Resources Mentioned The Great Birth Rebellion podcast — evidence-based research on all birth scenarios The Positive Birth Company - bite-sized, scenario-by-scenario birth education The Complete Guide to Postpartum: A mother-focused companion for life after birth by Sophie Walker's postpartum book — highly recommended for solo mums preparing for the fourth trimester Nat's episodes on this podcast — Part 1 and Part 2 (save for after baby is here) This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? City Fertility offers an exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Claim your discount here.   Pregnant solo and looking for your village? The Bump Membership is a private WhatsApp community and fortnightly Zoom connection calls for solo mums-to-be across Australia and New Zealand. Join here.

When Maree came on to record, she had just had her very first IUI. She was 35, freshly into treatment, overwhelmed by the scan schedule, quietly terrified, and moving back in with her parents to make it financially possible. We recorded Part 1 that day. Then we waited. Part 2 picks up on the other side — after two unsuccessful IUIs, a full IVF cycle with PCOS that produced 29 eggs and four embryos, a frozen transfer that worked on the first attempt, and the arrival of Ellena via a planned maternal-assisted caesarean. Maree pulled her own daughter out. She cut the cord herself. In between, she navigated a lot. Fibroids that grew significantly during IVF and were monitored throughout pregnancy. An anterior placenta that meant she barely felt Ellena move until 26 weeks. Nausea so constant and all-consuming that she didn't show until very late — the hospital receptionist didn't believe she was there for a caesarean. Tongue tie, silent reflux, and a Tresilian residential stay that changed everything. And a hip dysplasia diagnosis — DDH — that her maternal health nurse picked up at two weeks, and that her paediatrician almost let slip through. Ellena is currently in a Rhino brace. She's also, by all accounts, obsessed with the nine-year-old next door who has decided that Ellena is her cousin and introduces her as such to everyone she meets. Maree works in disability support, lives with her parents in regional New South Wales, has ankylosing spondylitis managed by immunosuppressant medication, and came to this whole thing alone — no partner, no previous solo mum in her circle, just a childcare worker who remembered a mum she worked with in 2010 who had done it this way, and quietly filed it away. This episode will resonate deeply for women at the very beginning of this journey. And for the women who are already in it. In this episode: Growing up in childcare and knowing motherhood was always the plan — but never meeting anyone A solo mum of twins at her childcare centre in 2010 planting a seed that never went away PCOS, fibroids and ankylosing spondylitis — discovering her health picture only after starting fertility investigations Choosing City Fertility for their transparency, the Adam app, and accessible pricing Navigating CMV-negative donor requirements and genetic carrier matching — a pool within a pool The counselling session that changed how she thought about overseas versus local donors Two IUI cycles — painful, unsuccessful, and the moment she said enough An IVF cycle just before Christmas: 29 eggs, four embryos, OHSS, and a green whistle egg retrieval she was awake for A frozen transfer in January — positive on first attempt, testing every day for three weeks regardless Fibroids monitored throughout pregnancy, anterior placenta, barely feeling movement until 26 weeks A planned maternal-assisted caesarean — and why having some control back made all the difference Tongue tie, nerve pain, and the lactation journey that ended in formula — and peace A Tresilian residential stay she almost refused — and the silent reflux diagnosis that transformed their nights Hip dysplasia (DDH): picked up at two weeks, nearly dismissed at 16 weeks, confirmed by X-ray at four months Living with her parents, building a village from scratch, and finding another local solo mum through the SMS Facebook group Plans for a second child — and why Ellena having a full genetic sibling matters to her Key Takeaways: Get your fertility tests done before you think you need them — PCOS and fibroids are often only discovered when you start looking CMV status affects your donor pool significantly — ask your clinic about this early The fertility counselling session is not a gate check — it's genuinely useful, particularly around donor sibling connections and overseas vs local donors A green whistle egg retrieval (awake, no general anaesthetic) is becoming more common — ask your clinic about your options Maternal-assisted caesarean is an option worth knowing about — you can be the first person to hold your baby, even in theatre Silent reflux doesn't always present with vomiting — constant feeding, gasping and poor sleep can be the signs Hip dysplasia (DDH) in newborns: ultrasounds can miss it in wriggly babies. Push for an X-ray referral if you have any concerns Don't cancel the specialist appointment just because a paediatrician says it's fine — trust your instincts and get the second opinion Moving home temporarily is a practical, sensible, brave choice This episode is brought to you by City Fertility As a No Need for Prince Charming listener, you're eligible for an exclusive 20% discount on fertility services at any City Fertility clinic. Claim your discount here. TTC or pregnant and looking for your village? The Bump Membership is a private WhatsApp community and fortnightly Zoom connection calls for solo mums-to-be across Australia and New Zealand. Join here.

Trigger warning: This episode discusses perinatal loss, pregnancy after loss, premature birth. Some stories hold grief and joy in the same hands. Gemma's is one of them. Gemma is the youngest of three sisters, from one of those enormous, chaotic, deeply close families — her mum one of eleven, Gemma one of twenty-something first cousins, Christmases that required crowd control. Motherhood was never a question. The path to it just looked nothing like she expected. She started IVF at 40 through City Fertility with Dr David Wilkinson, following a PCOS diagnosis that had been quietly there for years, masked by the pill she'd been on since her teens for her skin. Her first cycle gave her three embryos. Her second transfer was successful. She was pregnant, and everything seemed fine — until the 20-week scan. Her first little boy, Thomas, had severe intrauterine growth restriction. He was measuring below the first percentile. She knew in her gut from that day that it wasn't going to end the way she hoped. A month of additional scans confirmed it — he was no longer going to survive. That weekend, while Gemma was at the beach with her mum and sister, Thomas quietly let go. She was induced at the Monash that Monday, and he was born on the 10th of March 2023. She named him Thomas — her papa's name. She talks about all of it. The grief. The immediate instinct to do another egg collection while her eggs were still viable. A third cycle that produced over thirty eggs and no embryos. A fourth cycle that produced one. And then, in March 2024, the transfer of the very last embryo from that very first cycle — the one that had been frozen alongside Thomas — that became Henry. Henry was born via emergency caesarean at 34 weeks, weighing 1.512 kilograms. He spent 37 days in special care. He came home for Christmas. He is now 15 months old, has just started walking, and recently fell off the climbing equipment at daycare head first. Gemma says she wouldn't change any of it. In this episode: Growing up in a huge close-knit family, always knowing motherhood was part of the plan A PCOS diagnosis at 38 — and how she'd been masking the symptoms with the pill for years Negotiating paid parental leave with her employer — and why it's worth having the conversation IVF at 40 with Dr David Wilkinson: one cycle, three embryos, pregnant on the second transfer The 20-week scan that changed everything — and trusting her gut when her body told her something was wrong Losing Thomas to severe IUGR, the weekend at the beach, and delivering him on the 10th of March Going straight back to Dr Wilkinson — and the third cycle that produced thirty-plus eggs and zero embryos A fourth cycle, one embryo, and then the transfer that became Henry The full-circle moment: Henry and Thomas were from the same egg collection, frozen on the same day The donor who agreed to do a blood test for genetic testing during Thomas's pregnancy — and what that meant to Gemma Pregnancy after loss: weekly scans, a private obstetrician, a perinatal psychiatrist, and monitoring her blood pressure daily The emergency caesarean at 34 weeks — and why the decision took about five seconds 37 days in special care, expressing, the decision to move to formula, and six months living with Mum in the country Henry at 15 months: walking, co-sleeping, an early riser, and absolutely besotted with by everyone who meets him Key Takeaways: PCOS is often masked by the pill — if you have symptoms and are thinking about your fertility, ask your GP for an AMH test It's worth having an honest conversation with your employer about paid parental leave — don't assume what isn't available Trust your gut during pregnancy. Gemma knew before the scans confirmed it. That instinct matters Pregnancy after loss requires its own support team — a private OB, a perinatal psychologist or psychiatrist, and regular monitoring are not luxuries Formula is not failure. It can be the decision that saves your mental health Moving home temporarily is a practical and wise choice — not a step backwards Genetic testing after loss can give you important information — and clarity — for future transfers This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Did you know City Fertility has their own sperm bank — ADDAM — with no waiting times and a wide selection of donors? Download the Adam app or visit atomdonorbank.com.au to begin your search. And as a No Need for Prince Charming listener, you're eligible for an exclusive 20% discount on fertility services at any City Fertility clinic. Claim your discount here. TTC or pregnant and looking for your village? The Bump Membership is a private WhatsApp community and fortnightly Zoom connection calls for solo mums-to-be across Australia and New Zealand. Join here.

Part 2: 160 Days, and Then Home Trigger warning: This episode discusses premature birth, NICU and neonatal medical procedures. Missed Part 1? Start with S5:E11 — Luce's IVF journey, multiple losses, and the night her membranes ruptured at 22 weeks. Gabe was born at 10:35am on a Wednesday morning, weighing 598 grams. He was 30 centimetres long. He came out flat and silent, and a team of eight people swooped in immediately. Luce didn't know he was a boy for five full minutes. By quarter past twelve, she was in a wheelchair going upstairs to meet him. What followed was 160 days in hospital — first at Mercy Hospital for Women in Melbourne, then a transfer to the Royal Children's Hospital for specialist ventilation and heart surgery, and then back to Mercy, and finally, finally, home. Luce is a critical care nurse. She understood the ventilator settings. She could read the infusion charts. She knew what the numbers meant. And she will tell you, plainly, that none of that made it easier. It just changed how she processed the information. In Part 2, she takes us through all of it — the five brutal first weeks, the patent ductus arteriosus that needed three rounds of Panadol before surgery was the only option left, the jet ventilator that finally stabilised his lungs, the retinopathy checks she couldn't watch, the first skin-to-skin cuddle, the first bath, the first time the whole family came in together. And the day, 160 days after he was born, that she drove him home. Gabe is now a few months old in corrected age. He came home on oxygen. He is nearly off it. He has big cheeks and tape on his face and Luce is planning his autumn photo shoot. She calls him her screaming one. You can hear him in the background near the end of the episode. He made it. In this episode: The birth at 24 weeks — what happened in the room, and the five minutes before Luce knew she'd had a boy Gabe's first hours — intubated, on a ventilator, wrapped in bubble wrap, and brought over to meet his mum The first five weeks — infection, ventilation challenges, blood transfusions, and constant up and down Patent ductus arteriosus — what it is, why it mattered, and the bedside heart surgery that changed everything Transfer to the Royal Children's Hospital for a jet ventilator — and the 2am crisis she'd told them not to call her about unless it was dire The milestones that matter in NICU — extubation, CPAP, high flow, low flow, open cot, first bath, first clothes Retinopathy of prematurity — the eye checks Luce couldn't watch, and why early monitoring matters Pumping, sleep, driving an hour each way, and learning to leave the hospital to protect her own mental health How she managed mental health through IVF and NICU — including low-dose antidepressants and a counsellor she plans to return to The Gabe Gazette — how sharing publicly became both a coping mechanism and a gift for him to read one day Home at 160 days, on overnight oxygen, nearly off it, with a pediatrician and respiratory specialist and the autumn light waiting "While you're alone — you're not alone."   This episode is brought to you by City Fertility If you're exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia, City Fertility offers an exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. nClaim your discount here   Pregnant solo and looking for support? The Expecting Solo course helps you navigate early pregnancy on your own terms — from managing symptoms to setting boundaries and finding the joy in your story. Live group sessions or on demand, from anywhere in the world. Find out more here   Key Takeaways Having medical knowledge changes how you receive information in a NICU setting — it doesn't make it easier emotionally Setting boundaries with hospital staff about when to call is okay — and sometimes essential for your mental health Getting out of the hospital — fresh air, dinners, watching the grand final with your dad — is not abandoning your baby. It's survival Proactive mental health support through IVF and NICU isn't optional — address it before you're in crisis, not after The NICU community — other parents, nurses, peer support workers — is one of the most unexpected sources of strength The Little Miracles Foundation offers peer support specifically for NICU families in Australia Sharing your journey publicly, on your own terms, can be cathartic and protective — it keeps people informed without you having to repeat yourself If your friend has a baby in NICU, don't ask what you can do. Just do something — bring food, do laundry, show up

The Long Road & the Night Everything Changed Trigger warning: this episode discusses pregnancy loss and premature birth. This is a two-part episode. Part 1 ends at the birth. Part 2 — the NICU journey and life now — drops next week. Some stories you have to tell in two parts. Lucia's is one of them. Luce is a nurse based in regional Victoria who froze her eggs at 36, made the decision to go solo shortly after, and then spent the next four years navigating one of the most complex IVF journeys I've heard on this podcast. Four egg collections. Multiple transfers. Multiple losses. A late endometriosis diagnosis that may have changed everything. And finally — on the most chaotic, stressful, nothing-going-right transfer day imaginable — the embryo that stuck. What happened next nobody could have predicted. Luce got to 22 weeks before noticing spotting one evening. She messaged her midwife friend. She messaged her obstetrician. She drove herself to the appointment the next morning, convinced it was nothing. And within hours she was in an ambulance, lights and sirens, being transferred to a tertiary hospital in Melbourne — four centimetres dilated, membranes visible, 22 weeks pregnant with the baby she had spent four years trying to have. What follows — the week-by-week countdown in hospital, the handouts for each gestational age, the conversation about resuscitation at 22 weeks that no one should have to have alone — is one of the most honest, clear-eyed accounts of premature birth I've heard from a solo mum. Luce is a nurse. She asked for the facts. She made the hardest decisions she could with the information she had. And she shares every part of it here, without flinching. In this episode: Growing up in regional Victoria, training as a nurse and paramedic, and spending her 30s building a career while her friends got married Freezing her eggs at 36 after watching friends navigate fertility challenges — and giving a relationship a deadline Making the decision to go solo, finding City Fertility, and choosing a donor Her first transfer — a positive, a heartbeat, and then a missed miscarriage at nine and a half weeks Three subsequent transfers, multiple early losses, and the decision to do a second egg collection Changing specialist to Dr David Wilkinson and trying new protocols — including PRP treatment A third and fourth egg collection, endo discovered via laparoscopy, and her best-ever collection of 47 eggs at 40 Nine embryos, three normal on PGT-A testing — and all three failing to implant The chaotic final transfer — stuck in traffic, blood pressure through the roof — and the embryo that finally stuck Getting to 22 weeks, spotting, and the morning that changed everything Ambulance transfer to Melbourne, four centimetres dilated, and the conversation about resuscitation at 22 weeks Counting the hours each week in hospital — and what it means to get to the next handout Next week: Part 2 — the NICU journey and life now. Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? City Fertility offers an exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Claim your discount here. TTC or pregnant and looking for your village? The Bump Membership is a private WhatsApp community and fortnightly Zoom connection calls for solo mums-to-be across Australia and New Zealand. Join here.   Key Takeaways IVF timelines are unpredictable — building an emotional support system separate from your fertility clinic is not optional, it's essential Endometriosis is vastly underdiagnosed; if you have painful or heavy periods and are struggling with implantation, it's worth asking your specialist about a laparoscopy PGT-A tested embryos do not guarantee success — the science is still evolving and unexplained implantation failure is real Having a medical background doesn't protect you from the emotional weight of this journey — it just changes how you process information Knowing your why before you need to make hard decisions matters. Luce had thought through her values long before she needed them. A private obstetrician for a high-anxiety pregnancy is not a luxury — it's mental health support as much as medical care

Why Making the Decision is the Hardest Part — with Carrie Meckler This is a different kind of episode. No birth story. No IVF timeline. No newborn update. Just a conversation about the stage that doesn't get talked about nearly enough — the one before any of that happens. Carrie Meckler is a licensed therapist based in North Carolina who is also a solo mum by choice to a beautiful two-year-old boy. She runs a six-week group program specifically for women in the considering stage, and she joins me this week to talk about what she sees in her clients — and what she went through herself — when women are first sitting with the idea that this might be their path. Because here's the thing: making this decision is genuinely the hardest part of the entire solo motherhood journey. Harder than the fertility treatment. Harder than the newborn phase. And almost nobody talks about that. We cover a lot of ground in this conversation — the grief that comes with letting go of the life you always thought you'd have, the fear of judgment, the pressure of the biological clock, the question of how long to keep waiting, and what it actually looks like to start taking steps forward without having it all figured out. We also talk about something I think about a lot: why so many women base their assumptions about solo motherhood on single-parent households that came about through very different circumstances. And why finding women who are already living this life intentionally is one of the most important things you can do when you're in the considering stage. This one is for the woman who's been sitting quietly with an idea she hasn't told anyone about yet. In this episode: Why the considering stage is the most underrated — and most emotionally demanding — part of the solo mum journey The grief of letting go of the traditional path, and why it's normal to feel both grief and excitement at the same time Fear of judgment, fear of running out of time, fear of missing the partner who might be just around the corner Why we can't make the decision by the same framework we were raised with — and how to start seeing a different path The difference between solo mum by choice and single motherhood by circumstance — and why it matters for your mindset The power of finding women already living this life and letting their reality replace your assumptions Carrie's three pieces of advice for anyone just starting to sit with the idea Why handwritten journaling is different from typing — and what it unlocks How therapy helps — and why finding a therapist who has actually lived this experience makes all the difference Why all the overthinking you're doing right now is actually making you a better parent Key Takeaways The considering stage is emotionally the hardest part of this journey — and you don't have to rush through it You can feel grief and excitement at the same time. Both are real. Both are valid. You don't have to be ready before you take the first step. You just have to take the first step. Finding women who are already living this life intentionally is one of the most powerful things you can do right now The overthinking you're doing is not a problem — it's evidence of how intentional a parent you're already going to be Solo motherhood by choice is fundamentally different from single parenthood by circumstance — and your frame of reference matters Solo vs single: intention and conception are everything 🏥 This episode is brought to you by City Fertility Exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia? City Fertility offers an exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Claim your discount here.   💛 Still in the considering stage? The Considering Solo Motherhood course will help you make an empowered, informed decision about whether this path is right for you — without spending hours lost in a Google vortex. Live or on demand, from anywhere in the world. Learn more here.

The long wait, the leap & life on the other side Michelle always knew she wanted to be a mum. What she didn't know was that the path to getting there would involve a two and a half year wait just to choose a donor. She made her first appointment at Fertility Associates in New Zealand in 2014 at the age of 34, was told there were five donor profiles to choose from, and was promptly put on a waitlist. She spent the next two and a half years living in parallel — open to meeting someone, but keeping her eye firmly on this path. When the call finally came in 2016, she sat down with her five profiles, eliminated three for minor medical reasons and two for wanting more contact than she was comfortable with, and chose the tallest one. Vayda-Rae was born after four IUI cycles — a chemical pregnancy, a negative, an overstimulated cancelled cycle, and then a successful fourth round at 37 — partly funded by her parents. She's now nearly nine, and this episode is something we don't have enough of on this podcast: a genuinely long view. What does solo motherhood actually look like at year eight? What are the conversations you're still having? What gets easier and what catches you off guard? Michelle is warm, funny, and completely honest — including about the moments that were harder than she expected. Vayda-Rae going through a phase of calling her best friend's husband "dad." The Father's Day questionnaire at school. Being the only family that looks like theirs in a small New Zealand town. The very different thing it is to raise a donor-conceived child when there are no other families like yours within reach. But she also talks about the things nobody tells you going in. The unusually close relationship you build when it's just the two of you. A daughter who is emotionally mature beyond her years. The adventures they've had together. The lotto win that changed things. And the letter she wrote to Vayda-Rae's donor-conceived siblings — still waiting on a reply, but trying anyway. This is a story for anyone at the very beginning, wondering if it's worth it. Michelle's answer is unambiguous. In this episode: Making the decision at 34 and facing a two and a half year donor waitlist in New Zealand How the counselling at Fertility Associates NZ walked her through how a donor-conceived child might relate to their story at different ages — a framework Michelle found genuinely useful Choosing between five donor profiles and the logic (and laughs) behind the decision Four IUI cycles at 37 including a chemical pregnancy, a cancelled cycle and a successful fourth round Gestational diabetes and an emergency caesarean The newborn days — and why having no partner to disappoint made it simpler than she expected Raising Vayda-Rae in a small New Zealand town as the only solo mum family around The Father's Day questionnaire, the school trip questions, and navigating a daughter who sometimes just wants to be the same as everyone else How she's approached the donor-conceived sibling conversation — including the letter she sent Deciding to be one and done — and the donor consent timeline that influenced that decision What she wishes she'd worried less about — and what she'd say to anyone sitting on the fence right now   This episode is brought to you by City Fertility If you're exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia, City Fertility offers an exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Claim your discount here.   Still considering whether this path is right for you? The Considering Solo Motherhood course was made for exactly where you are. Explore donor options, fertility timelines and the emotional side of the decision — live or on demand, from anywhere in the world. Learn more here.   Key Takeaways A long waitlist doesn't mean stop living — keep going in parallel and let the path unfold Good fertility counselling should prepare you for your child's questions at every age, not just the medical process Being the only family of your kind in a small community is a real challenge — connection with other solo mum families matters more as children get older The two-person household actually simplifies the newborn period in ways that surprise most women Trying to reach donor-conceived siblings is worth doing early, even if the response takes time The decision to have a second child involves more than just wanting one — finances, support networks and donor consent timelines all factor in The fears about judgment are almost always bigger than the reality

Solo Mum by choice from the start: Nicola & Luca Most women who come to solo motherhood have a moment — a relationship that ended, a birthday that passed, a realisation that waiting wasn't working. Nicola never had that moment. She just always knew. From the time she was young, she never pictured a partner. She pictured kids. Solo motherhood wasn't a plan B for Nicola — it was the only plan. And what makes her story so valuable for this community is that the hard parts she navigated weren't about the decision itself. They were about trusting herself enough to actually go through with it. Nicola is an optometrist, self-described planner, and someone who came to this journey with an unusual degree of self-awareness. She grew up in a home affected by domestic abuse, and she spent time in psychology making sure that her choice to parent alone was coming from a place of strength — not fear of intimacy. That clarity shaped everything that followed. Her wake-up call to start came from watching her sister go through seven IVF transfers. Once she saw how unpredictable fertility could be, she stopped waiting. She started IVF at 33, attempted two IUI cycles first (one was cancelled when she ovulated too early), then moved to IVF. Her stimulation cycle was painful — both ovaries haemorrhaged — but she went to work through all of it, not knowing yet what was normal. She ended up with two embryos. She got pregnant on her first transfer. And then she found out her sister was pregnant at exactly the same time. Two weeks apart. Same obstetrician. Their own private mother's group before their babies were even born. In this episode we cover a lot of ground — the practical and the emotional, the things that went to plan and the things that didn't. Nicola chose an elective caesarean with clear medical reasoning, went back to work at five and a half months on a four-day week structure that she credits as genuinely game-changing, and has built a life with Luca that she describes, simply, as magic. She also talks openly about the harder things. When her donor later withdrew consent, her remaining embryo was destroyed — a consequence of legislation that has since changed, but that caught families off guard at the time. She holds that loss with grace, and talks honestly about where she's landed on the question of a second child. We also talk about donor-conceived sibling connections — why Nicola sought them out early, what they've given Luca, and why she sees them as one of the most meaningful parts of this path. Not because they replace anything, but because they give donor-conceived children a biological anchor that doesn't depend entirely on a donor they may not meet for eighteen years. This is a calm, grounded, deeply reassuring episode. Nicola's advice for anyone sitting on the fence is characteristically direct: "You definitely can, 100%." In this episode: Why Nicola always knew she'd be a solo mum — and what it took to finally start Growing up with domestic abuse and using psychology to trust her own motivations Her sister's seven-transfer IVF journey as the catalyst to stop waiting IVF at 33: ovarian haemorrhaging, two embryos, and a positive first transfer Falling pregnant at the same time as her sister — two weeks apart Choosing an elective caesarean and what informed that decision Returning to work at 5.5 months and the schedule structure that made it work Donor consent withdrawal and the destruction of her remaining embryo Donor-conceived sibling connections — what they mean and how they found each other The financial reality of considering a second child as a solo mum What she wishes she'd worried less about — and what she'd tell you right now   This episode is brought to you by City Fertility If you're exploring fertility treatment as a solo mum in Australia, City Fertility offers an exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Claim your discount here.   Looking for your village while TTC or pregnant? The Bump Membership is a private WhatsApp community and fortnightly Zoom connection calls for solo mums-to-be across Australia and New Zealand. Join here.   Key Takeaways Solo motherhood can be a first choice, not a fallback — and that changes everything about how you approach it Therapy isn't a luxury on this journey — it's how you make sure you're choosing from strength, not fear The practical fears around money, work and logistics are almost always bigger in your head than in reality Building your village before baby arrives is one of the highest-impact investments you can make Going back to work can be a genuine positive — how you structure it matters more than when Donor-conceived sibling connections can offer children biological context that doesn't rely on the donor The things you think will be a total disaster — you just figure them out. It's never as bad as you think.

From Chronic Illness to Solo Mum: Nelly’s Long Road to Violet ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of miscarriage, fertility challenges, and medical complications during pregnancy. Season 5 continues with Nelly’s story — one of resilience, persistence, and navigating an incredibly complex path to motherhood. Nelly didn’t grow up assuming she would have children. With a history of renal failure, transplants, and years of medical treatment, motherhood didn’t feel like a given. But over time, that quiet desire became impossible to ignore. In this episode, she shares: Living with chronic illness and how that shaped her path to motherhood The unexpected discovery of a rare genetic condition during fertility testing A long IVF journey with multiple cycles, losses, and setbacks The decision to move forward with an egg donor — and how a friend changed everything Navigating complex medical care throughout pregnancy A sudden and traumatic early birth at 30 weeks Life in NICU and the emotional reality of becoming a mum in those circumstances This episode is raw, honest, and deeply human. Key Takeaways The journey to motherhood can be far more complex than expected. Advocating for yourself and asking questions can change everything. Support networks can shape your entire experience. There is no “perfect” path — only your path. Even the hardest journeys can lead to something incredibly meaningful. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. The best support you could ask for when TTC or pregnant as a solo mum-to-be Trying to conceive or pregnant and want your village? The Bump Membership is your private WhatsApp community + fortnightly Zoom Connection Calls with solo mums-to-be across Australia & New Zealand. Join the Bump here.

Megan’s Solo Mum by Choice Journey: Taking It One Step at a Time Season 5 continues with Megan’s story — and her journey to becoming a solo mum by choice. In this episode, Megan shares how she approached this decision step by step instead of focusing on the end result, and how that made the process feel more manageable. In this episode, she talks about: Listening to other solo mums and how that helped her feel less alone Taking the process step by step instead of focusing on the end result Known donor conversations and why facilitated conversations are important Adjusting her relationship with work after becoming a mum Living with her mum and raising her son together Trusting that you will figure out parenting as you go This conversation is thoughtful, calm, and very reassuring for anyone who feels overwhelmed by the idea of making such a big decision. If the idea of solo motherhood feels too big to think about all at once, this episode is a really comforting reminder that you don’t have to make every decision today — you can just take the next step. Key Takeaways Taking the process step by step can make big decisions feel more manageable. Facilitated conversations can help when making known donor decisions. Motherhood can change your relationship with work and priorities. Support can come from family and different living arrangements. You may not know what you’re doing at first, but you will figure it out. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. The best support you could ask for when TTC or pregnant as a solo mum-to-be Trying to conceive or pregnant and want your village? The Bump Membership is your private WhatsApp community + fortnightly Zoom Connection Calls with solo mums-to-be across Australia & New Zealand. Join the Bump here.

Jane’s Solo Mum Journey: IVF, Identical Twins & A Pregnancy That Changed Everything Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of pregnancy complications, pregnancy loss, premature birth, and NICU. Please listen with care and skip this episode if now is not the right time for you. Season 5 continues with Jane’s story — and this is a story that will stay with you. Jane always knew she wanted to be a mum, but after years of dating and never finding the right partner, she made the decision at 35 to pursue solo motherhood. What followed was a long IVF journey, big financial decisions, and learning to back herself even when the path felt uncertain. When Jane finally fell pregnant, she received a surprise she never expected — identical twins. But her pregnancy quickly became high-risk, and what followed was a rollercoaster of fear, resilience, impossible decisions, and navigating motherhood before her babies had even arrived. This episode is about: IVF and the emotional toll of trying to conceive on your own Making big life decisions without a partner High-risk pregnancy and how quickly things can change Grief, fear, resilience and becoming a mother in very unexpected circumstances The reality of doing this without a partner — but not without support This conversation is raw, honest, and incredibly powerful — and a reminder that solo motherhood doesn’t always look the way you think it will, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t worth it. Key Takeaways You don’t have to have everything figured out to start. IVF is often much harder than people expect. Support networks matter more than you think. Solo motherhood requires courage — but also community. Even when things don’t go to plan, you can still find your way. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Sounding Board Sessions Need to talk through something that’s stressing you out, confusing you, or keeping you stuck? Book a Sounding Board Session — a one-off 60-minute coaching call to get clarity on your next step. Book your call here.

Hayley’s Solo Mum by Choice Journey: From “One Day” to Done Season 5 continues with Hayley’s story — one that will resonate with so many women sitting in the “I know I want a baby… but when?” stage. Hayley didn’t wake up one day suddenly certain. Instead, her journey was gradual. Thoughtful. Honest. In this episode, she shares: When she realised motherhood wasn’t something she wanted to gamble on The internal shift from “maybe later” to “now” Navigating the donor process The emotional reality of doing this without a partner What surprised her most about stepping into solo motherhood This conversation isn’t dramatic. It’s grounded. Calm. Clear. And that’s exactly what makes it powerful. If you’ve ever felt stuck between waiting and moving forward, this episode will feel like someone gently holding up a mirror. Key Takeaways Clarity often builds quietly, not explosively. Waiting can feel safe — until it starts costing you time. Donor selection is emotional, not just practical. You don’t have to feel 100% fearless to move forward. Choosing solo motherhood isn’t about rejecting partnership — it’s about prioritising what matters most. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. The best support you could ask for when TTC or pregnant as a solo mum-to-be Trying to conceive or pregnant and want your village? The Bump Membership is your private WhatsApp community + fortnightly Zoom Connection Calls with solo mums-to-be across Australia & New Zealand. Join the Bump here.

Solo Motherhood at 29, IVF in the USA & Raising a Donor-Conceived Child Rhiannon didn’t spend years planning to become a solo mum. In fact, for most of her twenties she wasn’t even sure she wanted children at all. Then one night she had a vivid dream about a baby girl named Beatrix — and the feeling never left. At 29, she decided to pursue motherhood on her own terms, travelling to the United States for IVF and gender selection. She became pregnant on her first embryo transfer and later welcomed her daughter Bunny during the COVID lockdowns. In this episode, Rhiannon shares the surprising twists of her journey — from choosing treatment overseas, to navigating pregnancy during a global pandemic, to connecting with donor siblings across the world. She also reflects on the unexpected personal growth that came with becoming a parent, including receiving a later-in-life diagnosis of ADHD and autism. Rhiannon’s story is funny, honest, and refreshingly real. It’s a reminder that motherhood doesn’t always arrive through the path we imagined — but sometimes the unexpected road leads exactly where we were meant to go. Key Takeaways A moment of clarity — how a dream about a baby girl led Rhiannon to pursue solo motherhood at 29. IVF overseas and gender selection — why she chose to travel to the United States for treatment. Pregnancy during COVID — the unexpected calm of experiencing pregnancy and newborn life during lockdown. Donor sibling connections — how meeting families who used the same donor created a global extended family. Parenting and self-discovery — how raising Bunny led to a late ADHD and autism diagnosis and a deeper understanding of herself. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Expecting a baby on your own, or trying to? Pregnant or TTC as a solo mum? The Expecting Solo course is designed for your first trimester—helping you feel informed, confident, and supported from the start. Includes 2 live sessions + expert resources - View the next course dates

From Car Accident to IVF: Carly’s Solo Mum by Choice Journey Carly always knew motherhood was non-negotiable. Marriage? Optional. A partner? Nice, but not essential. But children? Absolutely. After a serious car accident in 2020 forced her to stop and re-evaluate everything, Carly realised she couldn’t keep waiting for “someday.” What followed was a journey through public hospital waitlists, donor shortages, IUI disappointment, IVF pressure, and the emotional intensity of choosing a donor in a system where options are limited and timing is everything. In this episode, Carly shares: The breakup that made her confront her fertility timeline The moment her dad said, “There are many ways to have a child.” Being hit by a car on the way to a first date Why donor selection was far harder than she expected The stress of donor availability disappearing in seconds Losing “her donor” and getting him back The emotional impact of failed IUIs Why IVF ultimately changed the trajectory This episode is honest, grounded, and full of perspective for any woman considering solo motherhood. Key Takeaways Motherhood can be non-negotiable, even when partnership isn’t. Public fertility systems can involve long waitlists and limited donor access. Donor shortages are real, particularly for Caucasian donors and IUI cycles. Extended genetic screening can reduce stress during donor selection. IUI success rates are low (around 10–15% per cycle). IVF may feel more clinical, but it can provide reassurance through embryo grading and higher success rates. Emotional resilience is just as important as medical readiness. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Free Download: 10 Things I Wish I Knew Before Becoming a Solo Mum If you’re at the very beginning of your journey and wanting clarity, confidence and a calm starting point, this free guide is a must-read. It will save you hours of Googling and help you understand what actually matters when you’re deciding whether to go it alone. Download your copy here.

From IVF Loss to Solo Motherhood: Bec’s Honest Journey to Becoming Liam’s Mum Season 5 begins with one of the most raw and honest conversations yet. In this first episode of the new season, Alisha sits down with Bec, who never imagined becoming a solo mum — until fertility timelines, life circumstances, and a quiet realisation changed everything. Bec shares how a routine fertility check planted the seed that ultimately led her toward donor conception, and the emotional process of choosing motherhood without waiting for the “right” partner. But this story doesn’t stop at pregnancy success. Bec opens up about: navigating IVF and miscarriage the emotional complexity of pregnancy after loss an unexpected early birth and emergency caesarean the realities of newborn life as a solo parent postnatal depression and the bond that took time to grow learning to ask for help — and why no one should do this alone This episode is honest, grounding, and deeply reassuring for anyone wondering whether solo motherhood is possible — or what life actually looks like on the other side. Season 5 begins with a reminder that there is no single way to become a mother — and no single way to feel once you arrive there. Key Takeaways Solo motherhood is often not a lifelong plan — but a path discovered along the way. Fertility conversations and medical guidance can shift life decisions dramatically. IVF journeys are rarely linear and often involve emotional resilience. Pregnancy after loss can feel anxious rather than joyful. The newborn stage doesn’t always bring instant bonding — and that is normal. Asking for help is essential, even when choosing solo motherhood. Community and support networks are critical for solo parents. Motherhood can fundamentally change identity and perspective. Many solo mums experience overwhelming strength alongside vulnerability. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Considering Solo Motherhood? Feeling overwhelmed about becoming a solo mum? The Considering Solo Motherhood course walks you through everything—from emotional readiness to finances and fertility—so you can make a confident decision. - Find out more

Laura’s Solo Motherhood Journey: Grief, Genetic Testing & Welcoming Baby Celeste TRIGGER WARNING - This episode of the podcast discusses baby loss. Laura never expected to walk the path of solo motherhood. After the heartbreaking loss of her daughter Emilia due to a chromosomal abnormality, she found herself navigating grief, timelines, donor selection and the pressure of changing legislation around donor sperm. In this episode, Laura shares how she moved from devastation to determination — pushing through delays, unexpected clinic issues, multiple rounds of IVF, genetic testing, and intense time pressure due to new donor-family limits coming into effect. She also describes the powerful signs she felt from her daughter Emilia throughout the process, including how the start and end of her IVF cycle aligned with the anniversaries of Emilia’s due date and her father’s passing — and the moment the name “Celeste” arrived unexpectedly, long before she had even confirmed she was pregnant. It's a deeply emotional, insightful conversation about loss, intuition, timing, and choosing yourself even when the path is nothing like you imagined. Key Takeaways Grief shaped her path — after losing Emilia, Laura needed time before deciding when and how to try again. External pressure accelerated her journey — legislation around donor limits forced faster decisions than she’d planned. Donor selection was intuitive — despite logistical delays, she kept returning to one donor whose childhood photo felt right. Genetic testing became essential — after Emilia’s diagnosis, testing embryos gave her clarity and reduced fear of recurrence. Moments of meaning guided her — cycle start dates, anniversaries and the spontaneous arrival of Celeste’s name all felt like signs. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Solo Mum Bundles Want the best value? Grab a Solo Mum Society Bundle — curated sets of courses, memberships or resources to support you at your stage — and save when you buy them together. View all bundles here.

Kristi’s Story: Solo Motherhood, Mental Health & Finding Donor Siblings for Imogen Kristi didn’t follow a traditional path to motherhood. After rebuilding her mental health and reaching 40, believing she had missed her window, she eventually found the courage — and the right medical support team — to pursue solo motherhood. In this powerful and vulnerable episode, Kristi shares her experience with depression, the fear of postpartum relapse, and the detailed medical advice she received to continue her mental health medications safely through conception, pregnancy and breastfeeding. She also opens up about using an overseas donor, how she first located donor siblings, and her evolving views on DNA, family, and chosen connections. Later in the episode, Kristi talks through her cancer journey, how she prepared Imogen for the return of chemotherapy, and why her daughter's resilience and creativity continue to anchor her through every challenge. This interview is raw, insightful, and full of heart — a testament to strength, self-advocacy and solo motherhood in the real world. Key Takeaways Mental health support is crucial — Kristi’s psychiatrist helped her prepare safely for conception, pregnancy and breastfeeding. Donor siblings came via online searching — including the DSR and the clinic’s own registry. Cancer relapse reshaped everything, but Kristi prioritised protecting Imogen emotionally through each step. Chosen family matters — Kristi’s views on DNA vs lived connection have shaped how she talks to Imogen about donor siblings. Donor Conceived Families Australia - Kristi is using her skills and passion to support important advocacy for issue impacting donor conceived families - learn more about what she talks about at https://www.donorconceivedfamilies.au City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Solo Mum Society Private Facebook Group If you’re in Australia or New Zealand, connect with other women considering, creating or conquering solo mother life in the private Facebook group. Join here.

The Best Books for Donor-Conceived Children: DCP Hub’s Top Recommendations If you’ve ever wondered which books are the best tools to help your donor-conceived child understand their story, this episode is a goldmine. Alisha is joined by Meike and Fiona from DCP Hub, two solo mums by choice who have built a powerful resource for families navigating donor conception. Together they share their favourite books across every age group — from baby board books to primary and teen reads — and explain why stories are one of the most effective ways to start, deepen and normalise donor conception conversations at home. You’ll also hear personal reflections, tips for adapting books to your family, and even some adorable special guest reviews. Whether you’re just starting your solo mum journey or supporting older kids who are forming their own identity, this episode is full of practical, thoughtful recommendations. Useful Links: DCP Hub for their bookshop, events and to join the mailing list Download the Solo Mum Society book list for more book reviews (a lot of which are available at DCP Hub) Get your own copy of My Perfect Family Key Takeaways Books help start tricky conversations — especially when parents struggle with wording or timing. Books evolve with your child as they grow. Representation matters — seeing families like theirs reduces “otherness”, boosts identity, and normalises donor conception in classrooms and communities. You can adapt any book — change wording, add details, or personalise to suit your story (kids can’t read early on!). There are now great options for older kids & teens — mystery adventures, identity-focused books, and stories written by donor-conceived authors. DCP Hub exists to support donor-conceived people — through events, education, and resources that help parents make informed and compassionate decisions. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here.

How Sammy Created a Second Baby Solo After Separation: A Donor Conception Story When Sammy’s marriage ended while her daughter was still a toddler, she grieved the future she thought she’d have. But she also knew, deep down, that she still wanted to grow her family — even if that meant doing it alone. In this heartfelt episode, Sammy shares how she moved from heartbreak to empowered action, navigating donor selection, finances, co-parenting, and ultimately conceiving her second daughter, Betty, on her very first IUI. Her joy is infectious. Her vulnerability, grounding. And her story is a powerful reminder that happy endings can look different — and still be everything you dreamed of. Key Takeaways Grief and hope can coexist — Sammy reflects on separating from her husband and the deep desire to create the sibling relationship she always imagined. Choosing donor conception after separation — how she navigated finances, support, and the emotional decision to grow her family solo. A successful first-try IUI — why she trusted her intuition (and her sisters!) despite advice to head straight to IVF. Healthy co-parenting dynamics — how she built a positive relationship with her ex and his family for Athena’s sake. Honest reflections on newborn life as a solo mum — managing guilt, juggling school routines, and finding her rhythm with two children and no partner. City Fertility offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Preparing for treatment or TTC solo? Download 10 Diet & Lifestyle Tips to Boost Your Fertility — created with a fertility dietitian — and get practical, easy ways to support your body for conception. Download your free guide here.

Two Solo Mums, Two Very Different Updates: Pregnancy, Donor Siblings & a New Baby From “I did it on my own” to “I’m doing it again” — this episode brings back two of our previous guests to share where their journeys have unfolded since you last heard from them. In this episode, Alisha checks back in with Hayley (Season 1) and Maegan (Season 2) — two women who have already taken the leap into solo motherhood… and now return with major updates. Hayley shares how becoming a solo mum radically shifted her self-belief — and how that shift led her to welcome a second baby on her own. She also opens up about connecting with her children’s donor siblings and what that unfolding has been like for her family. Maegan returns with her own big news — she’s now pregnant. She talks about what it felt like to start this again, how different this round has been emotionally, and how she’s approaching this pregnancy from a place of deeper confidence and grounded trust in herself. Their stories are a reminder that this path doesn’t end with “you had the baby.” For so many solo mums — that’s where the next chapter begins. Key Takeaways Growth Creates More Choice: When you see what you’re capable of for the first time, you stop questioning if you can. You start deciding if you want to. More Than One Version of Solo Motherhood: For some women, one baby is their vision. For others, it opens the door to building the bigger family they always imagined. Donor Sibling Connections Can Evolve: When (and if) you choose to connect, it can expand your child’s world and introduce relationships you never expected. Pregnancy Round Two Feels Different: When you’re already a solo mum, pregnancy isn’t just a possibility anymore. It’s an expansion. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Expecting Solo? Trying to conceive or pregnant and want your village? The Bump Membership is your private WhatsApp community + fortnightly Zoom Connection Calls with solo mums-to-be across Australia & New Zealand. Join the Bump here.

From heartbreak to IVF to identical twin boys — Rochelle shares how she found her power and joy doing this solo. In this inspiring episode, Alisha chats with Rochelle — a solo mum who went from quietly grieving the “traditional family” she once imagined… to owning her choice and becoming a proud solo mother of identical twins. At 37, Rochelle booked her first fertility specialist appointment and everything changed. She went from “I wish I had someone to do this with” to “I’m actually choosing this.” She found her donor through Seattle Sperm Bank, conceived on her first embryo transfer… and at the dating scan discovered she wasn’t having one baby, but two. From the shock of hearing “I can see two heartbeats” to navigating an MCDA twin pregnancy, early hospital monitoring, a planned C-section at 36+1, and the wildness of feeding two newborns solo, Rochelle has built a family that feels not just possible, but magical. Rochelle’s story is a reminder that choosing solo motherhood isn’t last-choice energy, it can be the most joyful, fun, self-expanding decision you ever make. Key Takeaways From Grief to Empowered Choice: Rochelle originally saw solo motherhood as the “last option on the shelf”, until her specialist made her feel celebrated, not pitied. Donor Selection Became Emotional: She cried when she found the right donor. it felt romantic, meaningful, and instantly “him.” The Biggest Plot Twist: Rochelle thought she was pregnant with one baby, until the sonographer calmly said she could see two heartbeats. MCDA Twin Pregnancy: Fortnightly scans, irritable uterus, steroid injections, and a planned C-section at 36+1 before seven days in special care. Doing the Newborn Stage Solo: It’s chaotic, yes, but she’s surprised herself with how resilient, capable, and joyful she’s become. Rochelle’s message for anyone wondering if they can really do this? Not only can you, you might just discover the strongest, happiest version of yourself on the other side. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Free Download: 10 Things I Wish I Knew Before Becoming a Solo Mum If you’re at the very beginning of your journey and wanting clarity, confidence and a calm starting point, this free guide is a must-read. It will save you hours of Googling and help you understand what actually matters when you’re deciding whether to go it alone. Download your copy here.

Trailblazer: Jessica’s Journey to Solo Motherhood, Strength, and Pride In this inspiring episode, Alisha chats with Jessica, a proud solo mum who shares her powerful story of courage, resilience, and self-belief. At just 30, Jessica decided she wasn’t waiting any longer for “the right person” to build her family — and began her IVF journey that would lead to her beautiful son, August. From choosing her donor and facing a high-risk pregnancy, to surviving severe morning sickness, preeclampsia, and sleepless newborn nights, Jessica opens up about every part of her journey with raw honesty and humour. With the unwavering support of her sister, family, and newfound solo mum village in Newcastle, she’s created a beautiful life filled with love, laughter, and deep pride in what she’s achieved. Jessica’s story is a reminder that solo motherhood isn’t a backup plan — it’s a bold, empowering choice. Her message? You’re not failing by doing it alone — you’re leading the way. Key Takeaways From Fear to Fierce Pride: Once worried people would see her as a failure, Jessica now sees herself as a trailblazer — proving there’s nothing she can’t do. IVF at 30: She chose to stop waiting for a partner, met with her fertility specialist, and conceived on her first embryo transfer using a local donor. Navigating a Challenging Pregnancy: Despite complications and weeks of sickness, Jessica found strength she didn’t know she had. A Village Before Birth: She shared her journey openly, building support early and avoiding isolation — including a “family meeting” before birth to map out how her village could help. Easier Than Expected: Jessica says doing it solo can sometimes be easier than with a partner: “I only have to think about me and August — no resentment, no disappointments.” City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Expecting Solo? Pregnant or TTC as a solo mum? The Expecting Solo course is designed for your first trimester—helping you feel informed, confident, and supported from the start. Includes 2 live sessions + expert resources - View the next course dates

Trust Your Gut: Verity’s Journey to Solo Motherhood, Autism, and Adventure In this heartfelt episode, Alisha chats with Verity, a solo mum who shares her powerful story of resilience, self-trust, and love. Once told she’d never carry a baby, Verity began her solo motherhood journey at 37 after setting herself a deadline - and ended up with her beautiful son, Leo. Together they’ve faced huge highs and lows: a diagnosis of autism and anxiety, homeschooling, perimenopause, and caring for Verity’s mum with dementia, all while building a joyful, adventurous life filled with travel, laughter, and chicken nuggets. Verity opens up about finding her donor through Monash IVF, establishing contact with him and Leo’s donor siblings, and why solo motherhood has filled a lifelong void she once thought only a partner could. Her message is clear - trust your gut, take the leap, and you’ll never regret it. Key Takeaways From Doubt to Determination: Told she couldn’t have children, Verity pursued IVF solo at 37 and conceived Leo on her first round. Donor Connection: She built a positive, ongoing relationship with her donor and Leo’s donor siblings, enriching their sense of identity and community. Autism & Perimenopause: Navigating dual diagnoses, her son’s autism and her own perimenopause, taught Verity to prioritise self-care and self-advocacy. Solo but Not Alone: Verity found freedom in doing it her way - no compromises, no negotiations, just following her instincts. Adventure Awaits: Homeschooling has opened the world for them, from England to Japan, proving solo motherhood doesn’t mean giving up travel or dreams. Fulfilment, Not Loneliness: Verity says she’s never felt more complete than since becoming a solo mum, “that hole inside me is finally full.” City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Considering Solo Motherhood? Feeling overwhelmed about becoming a solo mum? The Considering Solo Motherhood course walks you through everything—from emotional readiness to finances and fertility—so you can make a confident decision. - Find out more Expecting Solo? Pregnant or TTC as a solo mum? The Expecting Solo course is designed for your first trimester—helping you feel informed, confident, and supported from the start. Includes 2 live sessions + expert resources - View the next course dates The Bump Membership Pregnant or trying to conceive on your own using a donor? Join our warm, supportive monthly membership made just for solo mums-to-be. Includes connection calls, WhatsApp group, discounts, and free resources - Find out more

Journalist Hannah joins Alisha to expose how outdated laws still discriminate against solo mums—and how International Solo Mothers and Parents by Choice Day (ISMBCD) is turning awareness into action. In this powerful episode, Alisha speaks with journalist Hannah Bambra, whose groundbreaking article has sparked national discussion about how Australia’s Family Law Act continues to discriminate against solo parents. Together, they unpack how the law’s outdated wording leaves single mothers by choice legally vulnerable—and why reform is urgently needed. They also celebrate the launch of International Solo Mothers and Parents by Choice Day (ISMBCD) on 17 November, a global initiative led by Australian solo mums to recognise and celebrate diverse family structures. Key Takeaways: The Legal Gap: Australia’s Family Law Act assumes every child has two parents, leaving solo mums legally exposed even with donor agreements. Donor Risk Awareness: Known and recruited donors present the highest risk of future claims, but no one is exempt—clear laws protect everyone involved. Misinformation Runs Deep: Even fertility professionals may not realise how the current law disadvantages single parents. Lobby for Change: Use this letter template to contact your local MP and the Attorney-General. Choice = Power: The “choice” in Solo Mother by Choice symbolises autonomy, courage, and conscious motherhood. Celebrate ISMBCD: Join community celebrations worldwide on 17 November—because all families deserve recognition and protection. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Loved this episode? Follow for more and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more solo mums and solo mums to be, as well as spread stories of empowering women making their own dreams come true. Follow, subscribe, and leave a review on your favourite podcast and social platform! Plus, make sure you're following @noneedforprincecharming on Instagram.

Genetic Counselling for Solo Mums: Screening, Donors & Informed Choices When you’re considering or embarking on solo motherhood, the science and medical jargon can feel overwhelming. In this bonus episode, Alisha speaks with Mona from DNA Down Under, a genetic counsellor who helps women simplify the science, understand their options, and make informed choices. You’ll learn: What genetic counsellors actually do and how they support solo mums by choice The difference between standard and expanded carrier screening What happens if you and your donor are carriers for the same condition How donor screening works and what information you can expect from clinics Why age, ethnicity, and family history matter for fertility and genetic risk Options like pre-implantation genetic testing (PGT), NIPT, CVS, and amniocentesis How to prepare for an appointment with a genetic counsellor Why informed decision-making is empowering, not scary Whether you’re just starting to explore donor conception, already deep in fertility treatment, or supporting someone on this path, this episode will help you gain clarity, confidence, and peace of mind. Find out more about Mona and DNA Downunder here. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Loved this episode? Follow for more and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more solo mums and solo mums to be, as well as spread stories of empowering women making their own dreams come true. Follow, subscribe, and leave a review on your favourite podcast and social platform! Plus, make sure you're following @noneedforprincecharming on Instagram.

Grief on the Solo Motherhood Journey: From Letting Go to Healing and Hope Grief isn’t always about death — it can be the invisible companion on the journey to solo motherhood. From letting go of the dream of a partner, to infertility, failed cycles, miscarriages, or even navigating life as childless not by choice, grief can show up in surprising and complex ways. In this empowering bonus episode, I sit down with Judy — a certified grief coach and practitioner — to unpack the many layers of grief that women face on the path to (or through) solo motherhood. Together, we explore: Why grief starts earlier than most of us realise — often with the first fertility appointment The hidden grief of letting go of the “traditional” family fairytale How infertility, miscarriage, or failed cycles deepen the grief experience The social isolation and relationship challenges grief can create Practical ways to process grief, find self-compassion, and move forward What it takes to reimagine a fulfilling life — with or without children Whether you’re just beginning your journey, in the thick of treatment, or navigating life on the other side, this episode is here to remind you: grief doesn’t define you, and you are not alone. Resources: Download the practical strategies for when you are feeling overwhelmed Find out more about Judi and her support services here.   The Buddist Prayer of Forgiveness: If I have harmed anyone in any way, either knowingly or unknowingly, through my own confusions, I ask their forgiveness. If anyone has harmed me in any way, either knowingly or unknowingly, through their own confusion, I forgive them. And if there is a situation I am not yet ready to forgive, I forgive myself for that. For all the ways that I harm myself, negate, doubt, belittle myself, judge or be unkind to myself through my own confusions, I forgive myself. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Loved this episode? Follow for more and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more solo mums and solo mums to be, as well as spread stories of empowering women making their own dreams come true. Follow, subscribe, and leave a review on your favourite podcast and social platform! Plus, make sure you're following @noneedforprincecharming on Instagram.

Lisa’s Journey to Solo Motherhood: From GP to Life With Baby Bonnie In this powerful two-part episode of No Need for Prince Charming, Lisa takes us through her journey from preparing to become a solo mum to life with her daughter Bonnie at nine months old. As a GP, Lisa approached the process with research and logic, but nothing could fully prepare her for the emotional highs and lows of donor selection, IVF, and solo pregnancy. Lisa speaks candidly about navigating conservative family expectations, the reality of solo parenting, and the surprising joy found in the smallest milestones. From facing feeding challenges to finding new routines as a working solo mum, Lisa’s story is both practical and deeply inspiring. Her message for other women considering this path? If your heart desires it—go for it. Key Takeaways Making the leap: Why Lisa decided to pursue solo motherhood at 33 and the influence of her conservative Christian family’s mixed reactions. Choosing a donor: Navigating limited options, rapid-fire donor selection at her clinic, and focusing on connection over medical history. IVF & pregnancy: A strong response to treatment, six embryos, and falling pregnant on her first transfer. Managing fatigue, food aversions, and family dynamics during pregnancy. Life after birth: Coping with feeding challenges, cow’s milk protein intolerance, and eventually transitioning to formula for mental health. Building new routines, starting daycare at four months, and returning to work at five months. Reflections & growth: The joy of small milestones, building her village, and how motherhood has made her more patient, empathetic, and purposeful. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Considering Solo Motherhood? Feeling overwhelmed about becoming a solo mum? The Considering Solo Motherhood course walks you through everything—from emotional readiness to finances and fertility—so you can make a confident decision. - Find out more Expecting Solo? Pregnant or TTC as a solo mum? The Expecting Solo course is designed for your first trimester—helping you feel informed, confident, and supported from the start. Includes 2 live sessions + expert resources - View the next course dates The Bump Membership Pregnant or trying to conceive on your own using a donor? Join our warm, supportive monthly membership made just for solo mums-to-be. Includes connection calls, WhatsApp group, discounts, and free resources - Find out more

From Endometriosis to Empowered Solo Motherhood: Bel’s Journey to Aura In this heartfelt episode of No Need for Prince Charming, Bel shares her powerful journey to solo motherhood. From navigating a severe endometriosis diagnosis, heartbreak at 30, and unexpected IVF complications, to finding her perfect donor and welcoming her daughter Aura, Bel’s story is one of courage, resilience, and unconditional love. She opens up about the challenges of pregnancy, postpartum recovery, and the joy of building her own village as a solo mum by choice. Her wisdom for women considering this path? Trust your heart—and do it. Key Takeaways Making the leap: How Bel’s endometriosis diagnosis and heartbreak at 30 led her to explore solo motherhood. Choosing a donor: The challenges of limited options, her “goosebumps moment” finding the right profile, and why she tells others “don’t sleep on it.” IVF journey: Navigating complications from egg collection, a long 18-month wait, and the miracle of her very first transfer resulting in Aura. Pregnancy & birth: Coping with hyperemesis gravidarum, postpartum preeclampsia, and leaning on her mum’s support during recovery. Life as a solo mum: Building her own village, embracing spiritual signs of the matriarchy, finding joy in everyday moments, and why she encourages others to “just do it.” City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Considering Solo Motherhood? Feeling overwhelmed about becoming a solo mum? The Considering Solo Motherhood course walks you through everything—from emotional readiness to finances and fertility—so you can make a confident decision. - Find out more Expecting Solo? Pregnant or TTC as a solo mum? The Expecting Solo course is designed for your first trimester—helping you feel informed, confident, and supported from the start. Includes 2 live sessions + expert resources - View the next course dates The Bump Membership Pregnant or trying to conceive on your own using a donor? Join our warm, supportive monthly membership made just for solo mums-to-be. Includes connection calls, WhatsApp group, discounts, and free resources - Find out more

Egg Freezing, Fertility Mindset & Boosting Egg Quality with Dr Tash Should you freeze your eggs? What really influences egg quality? And how do you walk into a fertility appointment prepared instead of overwhelmed? In this episode, Alisha is joined by fertility specialist, gynaecologist and holistic health coach Dr Natasha Andreadis — aka Dr Tash, The Fanny Mechanic. Together they explore egg freezing, lifestyle factors that support fertility, and how your mindset, expectations, and support system can make all the difference on this journey. Whether you're considering solo motherhood or already in the thick of fertility treatment, this episode is filled with real talk and expert insight. Key Takeaways: Why Egg Freezing Isn’t a Guarantee – Dr Tash shares how many women pursue egg freezing without fully understanding what it can and can’t do. She explains the importance of informed choices, realistic expectations, and using the time to prepare your body and mind. Egg Quantity vs. Egg Quality – We’re often told to worry about egg count, but Dr Tash explains why quality is actually more important. She talks about how egg quality changes with age and what you can do to support it naturally. What to Ask in Fertility Appointments – Instead of going in overwhelmed, Dr Tash encourages women to come prepared. She outlines how to advocate for yourself, ask the right questions, and avoid default treatment plans that may not be right for you. The Power of Lifestyle and Environment – From nutrition to mindset, Dr Tash explains how small changes in your lifestyle, sleep, and stress levels can make a meaningful impact on your fertility — especially if you’re planning ahead. Support Makes All the Difference – Whether it’s a friend, therapist, or coach, Dr Tash and Alisha discuss how critical emotional support is during this journey. Knowing you’re not alone can shift the entire experience. Resources: If you loved Dr Tash as much as I did and want to hear more from her, follow her on instagram and check out her podcast "“The Fanny Mechanic” on all major platforms.If you are in Sydney and would like to see her as a patient, she can be found at Newtown Fertility Centre part of the City Fertility family. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Loved this episode? Follow for more and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more solo mums and solo mums to be, as well as spread stories of empowering women making their own dreams come true. Follow, subscribe, and leave a review on your favourite podcast and social platform! Plus, make sure you're following @noneedforprincecharming on Instagram.

In this heartfelt episode of No Need for Prince Charming, I sit down with Tash — a midwife, nurse, and proud solo mum by choice — as she shares her empowering journey to motherhood. From deciding to go solo, selecting the perfect donor, and navigating IUI, to managing hyperemesis, birth decisions, and thriving as a working solo mum, Tash’s story is honest, inspiring, and practical. Whether you’re considering solo motherhood, pregnant, or already parenting, you’ll take away relatable insights and confidence-building lessons from Tash’s experience. Key Takeaways Making the leap: How Tash knew it was time to pursue solo motherhood and prioritise work-life balance. Choosing a donor: Using the Addam app, trusting gut instincts, and understanding how to interpret donor profiles. Falling pregnant: Why Tash chose IUI, and the emotional process behind donor selection. Pregnancy & birth: Managing hyperemesis, navigating induction pressure, and making informed decisions about a last-minute caesarean. Life after birth: Building her village, recovering postpartum, and balancing work, breastfeeding, and daycare as a solo mum. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Considering Solo Motherhood? Feeling overwhelmed about becoming a solo mum? The Considering Solo Motherhood course walks you through everything—from emotional readiness to finances and fertility—so you can make a confident decision. - Find out more Expecting Solo? Pregnant or TTC as a solo mum? The Expecting Solo course is designed for your first trimester—helping you feel informed, confident, and supported from the start. Includes 2 live sessions + expert resources - View the next course dates The Bump Membership Pregnant or trying to conceive on your own using a donor? Join our warm, supportive monthly membership made just for solo mums-to-be. Includes connection calls, WhatsApp group, discounts, and free resources - Find out more

IVF Pivot, Planned C-Section & Building a Village: Bunny’s Solo Mum Story From IUI plans and donor list hiccups to IVF with genetic testing, a breech baby, and ten weeks of carefully organised support, Bunny’s story is one of persistence, planning, and proving that solo motherhood can be full of joy. She always wanted to be a mum. After years of travel and teaching, Bunny decided she wasn’t going to wait for the “right” relationship. Starting with IUI, donor complications pushed her to pivot into IVF at Melbourne IVF, where she qualified for Medicare and created five embryos. Her very first transfer worked. Pregnancy was smooth, but a calcified placenta at 36 weeks and a breech baby meant a planned C-section at 38 weeks. Recovery was tougher than she expected, but the village she organised—ten straight weeks of family and friends rotating through—made the newborn stage manageable. Breastfeeding worked, Frank slept through most nights, and Bunny embraced hacks, humour, and support. Now thriving with her son, she’s excited about the future and clear in her advice: “Go for it—and have fun.” Key Highlights: Early Clarity, Open Conversations - Bunny always loved babies and knew she’d parent solo. She told family, friends, and colleagues early—openness brought enthusiasm and practical support. From IUI to IVF with Genetic Testing - An IUI-eligible donor wasn’t approved, forcing a pivot. At Melbourne IVF, with counselling and Medicare access, she created five embryos. The first transfer succeeded. Planned C-Section for Breech & Placenta Issues - At 36 weeks her placenta was “very calcified.” With Frank breech, she had a planned C-section at 38 weeks and a more painful recovery than expected. The Village She Built - She stacked ten weeks of rotating support: her best friend (a new midwife), mum, aunt, cousins, dad—plus freezer meals and dog-walking. Each arrived as the last left. Practical Wins & Looking Ahead - Breastfeeding worked, Frank sleeps well at night (usually one wake), though afternoons are fussy. She prepped finances with a bigger mortgage buffer, embraced hacks (baby seat in the shower), and is considering another child when the time feels right. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Considering Solo Motherhood? Feeling overwhelmed about becoming a solo mum? The Considering Solo Motherhood course walks you through everything—from emotional readiness to finances and fertility—so you can make a confident decision. - Find out more Expecting Solo? Pregnant or TTC as a solo mum? The Expecting Solo course is designed for your first trimester—helping you feel informed, confident, and supported from the start. Includes 2 live sessions + expert resources - View the next course dates The Bump Membership Pregnant or trying to conceive on your own using a donor? Join our warm, supportive monthly membership made just for solo mums-to-be. Includes connection calls, WhatsApp group, discounts, and free resources - Find out more

IVF First Try, Birth Emergency & Dating Again: Alex’s Solo Motherhood Story From teen conviction to IVF with genetic testing, an emergency C-section, reflux, and a new identity as a working mum. She always knew she’d go it alone—and when the time came, she didn’t wait. Alex’s journey from a teen conviction to IVF success, a rare birth emergency, and thriving again after a tough start is a testament to resilience and self-trust. Alex decided as a teenager that she wanted to have a child on her own and didn’t want anyone else involved in parenting. She set herself a deadline of 30 and stuck to it—choosing IVF with genetic testing due to a family history of disease, and falling pregnant on her first try at 29. But her birth didn’t go to plan: after decreased movements led to an induction, a cord prolapse triggered a crash C-section under general anaesthetic. The newborn stage brought reflux, severe sleep deprivation, and postnatal anxiety and depression—made worse by a comment about child protective services that stopped her seeking help. With reflux medication, Tresillian support, and a return to work at nine months, she found her footing again. Now, with Lucy almost four, Alex is thriving, dating more than ever, and proud of the life she’s built. Key Highlights: Teen Conviction, Firm Cut-Off - From her teens, Alex knew she’d parent solo and set a hard age limit to start—she stuck to it without compromise. IVF with Genetic Testing—First Time Success - Because of a genetic condition, she chose IVF and preimplantation genetic testing. Her first round produced the embryo that became Lucy. A Rare Birth Emergency - Induced for decreased movements, Alex experienced a cord prolapse that required an emergency C-section under general anaesthetic. Postnatal Struggles and a CPS Threat - Reflux, weight loss, and exhaustion led to PPA/PPD, but a comment about calling child protective services made her hide her struggles. Turning Point and a Thriving Life - With reflux under control, Tresillian support, and a return to work, Alex regained her confidence and energy. She’s now dating, raising Lucy, and living life on her terms. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Considering Solo Motherhood? Feeling overwhelmed about becoming a solo mum? The Considering Solo Motherhood course walks you through everything—from emotional readiness to finances and fertility—so you can make a confident decision. - Find out more Expecting Solo? Pregnant or TTC as a solo mum? The Expecting Solo course is designed for your first trimester—helping you feel informed, confident, and supported from the start. Includes 2 live sessions + expert resources - View the next course dates The Bump Membership Pregnant or trying to conceive on your own using a donor? Join our warm, supportive monthly membership made just for solo mums-to-be. Includes connection calls, WhatsApp group, discounts, and free resources - Find out more

From Heartbreak to Solo Mum: Roni’s Journey Through Donor Drama, Failed Transfers, and Finding Herself Again She nearly gave it all up for love—twice. But in the end, she backed herself. Roni’s story is a raw, relatable reminder of how strong women really are. After a divorce in her early 30s, Roni spent years travelling, dating, and living a vibrant single life. But deep down, she always wanted the chance to become a mum. Her journey into solo motherhood was anything but linear—from a known donor who pulled out just before fertilisation, to falling hard for someone else who wasn’t ready, to freezing her eggs at 40, switching clinics, and navigating IVF on her own. In this deeply honest episode, Roni opens up about the emotional toll, the post-birth reality no one warned her about, and the surprising joy she’s found raising Leon solo. Key Highlights: From Love to Loss, Then Back to Herself - Roni was ready to try solo motherhood—but twice, she put her plans on hold for relationships. Her story is a powerful reminder to trust your gut and never delay your dreams for someone else. The Known Donor That Pulled the Pin - She thought she’d found the perfect known donor—until he pulled out at the last minute, claiming he didn’t want to donate to a “couple.” What followed was heartbreak, anger, and a clinic that offered no support. A New Clinic, a New Plan, and Her Last Embryo - After a healing trip to New York, Roni found a new clinic (and a donor with blue eyes!). Her very last embryo was the one that became Leon. Pregnancy Was Rough—and So Was the Newborn Phase - From nausea to complications, then a brutally hard postnatal period, Roni is refreshingly honest about not loving pregnancy or the early days. Bonding took time, and that’s okay. Identity, Independence, and a Life She’s Proud Of - She’s not “just a mum.” Roni shares how reclaiming her time, making career moves, and nurturing friendships makes her a better parent—and a fulfilled woman. Thinking of Using a Known Donor? This episode highlights the emotional risks of using a known donor. If you’re considering this path, make sure you’ve got the right support in place. The Considering Solo Motherhood course includes questions to ask, red flags to watch for, and how to protect yourself legally and emotionally – Find out more Felt blindsided by the newborn phase? You’re not alone. The Preparing for Solo Motherhood course includes the honest conversations no one is having about post-birth reality, support planning, and surviving the early weeks – View course options Pregnant or TTC solo? Join The Bump Membership to connect with other solo mums-to-be, get expert support, and never feel alone on the journey – Find out more City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here.

ADHD in Solo Mums: How My Late Diagnosis Changed Everything How being diagnosed with ADHD at 43 explained… almost everything, and how it’s reshaping Alisha as a mother. This episode discusses ADHD, emotional regulation, binge behaviours, and postnatal mental health. It is based on personal experience and is not a substitute for medical advice. If anything resonates or you suspect you may have ADHD, please speak to your GP or a qualified mental health professional. In this powerful solo bonus episode, Alisha opens up about her ADHD diagnosis at 43 and what it revealed about her past, her parenting, and her patterns. From school struggles and emotional intensity to people-pleasing and binge behaviours, she explores the signs she missed, and how they finally made sense. If you're a solo mum feeling overwhelmed, distracted, or like you're failing at things others seem to manage with ease, or if you’re starting to think you may be neurodiverse, this one’s for you. Key Takeaways: Why So Many Women Are Diagnosed Late – ADHD often looks different in girls. Alisha reflects on how masking, people-pleasing, and emotional sensitivity kept her diagnosis hidden until adulthood. The ADHD Brain in a Neurotypical World – Using the “caveman vs farmer” analogy, Alisha explains how ADHD is a wiring difference, not a disorder, and how traditional systems (school, work, motherhood) aren’t built for brains like hers. Motherhood Was the Breaking Point – For a lot of women, the wheels start coming off when they become mums. Executive function crashes, mental loads explode, and self-judgment reaches a peak - ADHD can give you a framework to understand it all. Binge Cycles and Dopamine-Seeking – From alcohol to sugar to work and phone scrolling, she shares how ADHD drives impulsive, all-or-nothing behaviours, and how understanding this has changed her relationship with herself and has informed her decision to live a life of sobriety. ADHD as a Superpower (Once You Understand It) – With the right tools, awareness, and compassion, ADHD has become a source of creativity, resilience, and power. Alisha shares how her diagnosis helped her finally stop fighting herself. Resources: If this episode resonated and you’d like to explore ADHD further, here are some helpful tools and organisations: ADHD for Smart Ass Women podcast by Tracy Otsuka - this is the podcast I recommend to any woman just wondering if she could be neurodiverse - it was the first resource I found and I love how it focuses on the positives. The episode talking about how ADHD shows up in teenage girls was life changing for me. ADHD Australia – National information, resources, and support ADDitude Magazine - ADHD Symptom Test (for Women) – Free online screening tool and lots of great practical articles Talk to your GP or psychologist for a referral or diagnosis pathway City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Loved this episode? Follow for more and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more solo mums and solo mums to be, as well as spread stories of empowering women making their own dreams come true. Follow, subscribe, and leave a review on your favourite podcast and social platform! Plus, make sure you're following @noneedforprincecharming on Instagram.

From Teen Decision to Solo Mum: Georgia’s Journey with a Known Donor and Postnatal Depression Georgia knew she’d become a mum, partner or not. From a teenage plan to postnatal survival, she shares it all. Georgia first considered becoming a solo mum at 15, and she meant it. After years of dating men who didn’t want children, she took action, navigating IVF during Melbourne’s lockdowns and eventually choosing a known donor. But her journey didn’t stop there. In this raw and powerful episode, Georgia shares the highs and heartbreaks of solo motherhood, from co-living with her best friend, to surviving postnatal depression and building an unshakeable village around her and Elliot. Key Highlights: Early Clarity, Unwavering Determination – Georgia decided as a teenager that she’d have a baby on her own if needed. That quiet promise shaped her timeline, and when the time came, she followed through without hesitation. Known Donor, Child-Led Connection – After exploring anonymous and known donor options, Georgia found a gay donor she could trust. They created a child-led agreement, and now Elliot has biological cousins he may one day choose to meet. Postnatal Depression & the Mother Baby Unit – Georgia shares a brutally honest account of surviving D-MER and severe PND. She credits the mother-baby unit, her village, and ongoing mental health support with saving her life. Co-Parenting Without the Romance – Living with her best friend (and her daughter) created the family life Georgia wanted, without the pressure of a romantic relationship. Two single mums, two kids, one shared vision. Village Building is Non-Negotiable – Georgia’s biggest advice? Build your village early, nurture it, and be willing to ask for and accept help. Her story shows it’s possible, even without family nearby. Useful resources If you, or someone you know, may be experiencing post natal depression, or other post birth related mental health challenges, these are the resources Georgia mentions in her episode that helped her: The Edinburgh Perinatal Depression Scale (EDPS) test COPE.org.au PANDA.org.au City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Considering Solo Motherhood? Feeling overwhelmed about becoming a solo mum? The Considering Solo Motherhood course walks you through everything—from emotional readiness to finances and fertility—so you can make a confident decision. - Find out more Expecting Solo? Pregnant or TTC as a solo mum? The Expecting Solo course is designed for your first trimester—helping you feel informed, confident, and supported from the start. Includes 2 live sessions + expert resources - View the next course dates The Bump Membership Pregnant or trying to conceive on your own using a donor? Join our warm, supportive monthly membership made just for solo mums-to-be. Includes connection calls, WhatsApp group, discounts, and free resources - Find out more

From Lone Wolf to Solo Mum: Cat’s Unexpected Path to Motherhood How COVID, spreadsheets, and a love of independence led Cat to solo motherhood—and a life she never saw coming. When Cat hit her mid-30s during COVID lockdowns, she realised she didn’t want to wait around for the “perfect” partner. Instead, she created her own timeline—with spreadsheets, GP referrals, and her signature impulsiveness. In this episode, Cat shares how she went from free-spirited adventurer to solo mum to Niko, and how her fierce independence led to one of the best surprises of her life. Key Highlights: Choosing Logic Over Fear – When COVID hit and a good relationship ended, Cat realised she didn’t want to settle. A spreadsheet helped her weigh the emotional and financial realities, and once it made sense, she moved fast and never looked back. Donor Red Flags and Gut Choices – Cat didn’t want the most impressive resume; she wanted someone she’d be proud to introduce to her son one day. Her final decision was based on values, not vanity, and it paid off. First Transfer, First Miracle – Despite a lower-than-expected egg count, Cat’s first embryo transfer worked. Her story is a refreshing reminder that not every IVF journey is long and hard; it can be simple and successful. The Emotional Load of Solo Parenting – From career trade-offs to solo decision-making, Cat opens up about the mental and financial weight she carries, and the guilt that comes with knowing her choice affects her son’s world too. Finding Her People in Solo Mum Society – As a self-proclaimed lone wolf, Cat didn’t expect to need community, but joining Solo Mum Society and attending the Bali trip gave both her and Niko a sense of belonging they didn’t know they were missing. City Fertility Offer I couldn't continue to make this podcast without the help of our fabulous sponsor, City Fertility. If you're looking into fertility treatment on your own, make sure you take advantage of the exclusive 20% discount for No Need for Prince Charming listeners. Learn more here. Considering Solo Motherhood? Feeling overwhelmed about becoming a solo mum? The Considering Solo Motherhood course walks you through everything—from emotional readiness to finances and fertility—so you can make a confident decision. - Find out more Expecting Solo? Pregnant or TTC as a solo mum? The Expecting Solo course is designed for your first trimester—helping you feel informed, confident, and supported from the start. Includes 2 live sessions + expert resources - View the next course dates The Bump Membership Pregnant or trying to conceive on your own using a donor? Join our warm, supportive monthly membership made just for solo mums-to-be. Includes connection calls, WhatsApp group, discounts, and free resources - Find out more