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OBSIDIAN - SAFE MEN DON’T MAKE WOMEN FEEL SAFECourse Date : October 4-8.  Catskills, NY.Course Page : https://omrupani.org/obsidian/www.OmRupani.org

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PRIESTESS TRAINING - SOMATIC MASTERY IN THE AI AGECourse Page : https://omrupani.org/#/the-priestess-of-dark-eros/www.OmRupani.org

IF YOUR HUSBAND HAS TURNED INTO YOUR CHILD 04 - YOU HAVE WOUNDING AROUND MASCULINE AUTHORITYA woman's relationship to masculine authority is a crucial factor in how her energies run towards her man.If she thinks masculine power is benevolent, if she thinks masculine power renders her safer, she will logically be in support of men being in their power, of her own man being in his power.If she thinks masculine power is inherently threatening to women, then overtly or covertly she will try to sabotage men's power.The subtle methods a woman might apply to diminish or sabotage masculine power are many. Here is a short list:By intruding into his decisiveness and decision making.By having him constantly lose with her, because the more a man loses, the more his power diminishes.By sowing doubt into his certainty.By resenting him when he is in his ease and rest.By infantilizing him — often by employing some of the methods listed above.www.OmRupani.org

PODCAST - MODERN MASCULINITY AND MAN-WOMAN RELATINGCONVERSATION TOPICS:The Nice Guy PersonaIt’s expensive for women to get fooled by men and their masks.What is the nice guy trying to convince you of?The Nice Guy persona is a control mechanism.Wanting everybody’s approval makes cowards of men.Limitations with mothers and women teaching men how to be men.Most mothers and women in society are wounded in relation to the masculine.Women who fear men’s aggression cannot train men to wield that aggression.Missing fathers leave the burden of mentoring sons to mothers.Fathers who are domineering and bullying end up prompting their sons towards the nice guy persona.What is the example of a good, strong man?I’ve seen men of valor still stuck in the Nice Guy energy.Courage in life situations doesn’t always translate to courage in interpersonal relationships.Niceness doesn’t create Containment.Nice guys fail miserably at giving women Containment.Dom-sub dynamic is still the best modality I know for teaching people Containment.It’s crucial for men to learn to Contain their women.And it’s an unmitigated disaster when men seek Containment from their women.Tantrikas are some of the most difficult students for teaching Containment. The difference between Domineering and Dominance. The qualifications of leadership.If a man is to lead a woman, her life under his leadership should be better than without it.It should be in a woman’s self-interest to have her man leading her.The only good reason for a woman to surrender to a man is that doing so is a positive experience for her.There is only Spiritual Submission for everyone, men and women.www.OmRupani.org

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COUPLES’ COURSE - STUDENT TESTIMONIALSNext Course - November 12-17.  Dominican Republic.Course Page : https://omrupani.org/#/dscouples/www.OmRupani.org

MY NEXT COUPLES’ COURSE & THE STATE OF MAN-WOMAN RELATING TODAYCOURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/#/dscouples/www.OmRupani.org

IF YOUR HUSBAND HAS TURNED INTO YOUR CHILD 03 - YOU ARE ADDICTED TO CORRECTING MENCorrections go down the hierarchy.  Parents are supposed to correct their children.  Teachers are supposed to correct their students.When you pay someone to take you yoga, you graciously receive their corrections.When you pay someone to teach you French Cooking, you receive their adjustments and suggestions.Corrections go down the hierarchy.When a woman corrects her man, she places herself higher in the hierarchy than her man.  This ends up making her STERN MOMMY!The only men who are going to be drawn to stern mommy are underdeveloped men who are still trying to work out the approval issues with their actual mothers.Men who are embodied, men who actually want to lead in their relationships with women are not interested in Stern Mommy.  The addiction in the Modern Woman towards giving corrections to men seems to be such a compulsion, that I am not sure how many women can receive this message.— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

Using the Leadership Polarity bars I use in my classes to explain people’s temperaments and desires and where the discrepancies might be in what people want and what they are able to create in their partnerships.OmRupani.orgwww.OmRupani.org

STUDENT TESTIMONIALS FOR PRIESTESS TRAININGStudent testimonials for my ProDomme Training.Next courses in Jersey City, NJLevel I - September 14 - 20Level II - November 30 - December 6COURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/#/the-priestess-of-dark-eros/Please reach out if you have any questions.— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

IF YOUR HUSBAND HAS TURNED INTO YOUR CHILD 02 : YOU ARE CONTAINING HIM.This is an unmitigated disaster.  A woman containing her man, or a man repeatedly reaching to his woman for containment is a severe breakdown in hierarchy and polarity.The bulk of the blame for this breakdown I would put squarely on the men.  If you have allowed this to happen in your relationship, the fault is yours.  If you have SOUGHT this out in your relationship with your woman, you have ushered in your own breakdown and misery.On women’s part, there are a few shadow pieces that cause them to seek this reversed polarity or at least say yes to it.  These shadow pieces are also worth examining.On the man’s part, if you are not offering your woman consistent, good Containment, your chances of LEADING her in your relationship are nil.If you are not Containing your woman, your chances of Dominating her erotically are also nil.Many men can’t connect these dots.  I hope this will be clearer to you after this video.— Om RupaniOn women’s part, there are 3 significant shadow pieces that cause them to end up in relationships with men who are not capable of Containing them, and whom they end up Containing instead: You don’t know any better.  You have never been Contained in your life.  You don’t even know that is something you should be seeking from your man.2.  You had a weak father who sought Containment from the women in his life, possibly even you.3.  Your Maternal Energies are misfiring and misplaced.COUPLES’ COURSE : https://omrupani.org/#/dscouples/www.OmRupani.org

IF YOUR HUSBAND HAS TURNED INTO YOUR CHILD 01 - AFFECTION minus RESPECTThis is the first video in this series.  This lament from women that their husband/partner has become like their child is far and wide these days.  I believe the lament is genuine.  That the problem and breakdown is genuine.I believe this problem is rooted in the collapse of male leadership, and the collapse of RESPECT from the feminine towards the masculine.  Unless we understand this phenomenon in its correct context, and acknowledge the need for healthy hierarchy between women and men, this problem will persist and will be impossible to solve.Modern culture shuns the idea of a hierarchical dynamic between men and women, and yet the collapse of this hierarchy is the root of so much of the misery and failure in man-woman relationships today.—  Om RupaniCOUPLES’ COURSE : https://omrupani.org/dscoupleswww.OmRupani.org

REDUCING FEES FOR D.R. RETREAT FROM $4400 TO $3200I’m reducing the course fee for BDSM FUNDAMENTALS in the Dominican Republic, June 4 - 10.Course fee was $4400.  I’m reducing it to $3200.The fee includes room and board (with a double room).There are some quad rooms also available for $2800.COURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/bdsmfundamentals——————————————-Many people are feeling understandably stressed and contracted during this time of global upheaval and war.  I really empathize.  I too have felt the desire to just hunker down.  But, from past experiences, I can share that these times of stress and contraction sometimes also can offer us pathways towards having breakthrough and expansion.As annoying as the Covid period was, in retrospect, it turned out to be a very productive and prolific time for my work.I hope more of you will join for this very rich and tested exploration.  Hope the reduced cost will serve as an incentive.I’m listing below the benefits I have observed students have from taking the BDSM FUNDAMENTALS course.  Both singles and couples welcome.BENEFITS OF TAKING BDSM FUNDAMENTALS WITH OM RUPANIBoth men and women will get a proper sense of the Dominant and the Submissive archetypes.  They will also get a better sense of where on these 4 quadrants do each of them mainly falls.1.  Dominant Man.2.  Submissive Man.3.  Dominant Woman.4.  Submissive Woman.Knowing your constitution more clearly in this manner lays out the path for you to more fully accept who you are, and to also seek the correct partnerships that complement your energies.***************************You will learn to give and receive CONTAINMENT.  This skill alone can be a life-changer for many couples.  Men not giving good Containment to their women is one of the biggest breakdowns in relationships.  Fix this, and a ton of other problems you’ve been having may just disappear.***************************You will receive permission for your fuller erotic expression.  This course container is where you are allowed to pursue your desires and be who you really are.  Everyone is in the same boat in this course, so there is a shared vulnerability that we are all creating the permission field for each other’s erotic expression and the shedding of erotic shame.***************************You will get a SUPERLATIVE education in the BDSM arts in these 7 days!  You will learn body safety, impact play, spanking, flogging, sensation play, pain play, combining pain and pleasure.  And that will also bring us to the midpoint of our week.  From there we explore a variety of psychological play — Humiliation Play, Objectification Play, Exclusion Play.  You will move further into different forms of Role Play — Daddy/Little Girl, Master-Slave, and more playful invented erotic roles.In this one week, you will receive a thorough foundation in the BDSM arts.  You will be well on your way to creating effective and fun scenes with your partners.***************************THE 4 QUADRANTS:1.  DOMINANT MAN.  If you discover that your joy is in dominating your woman sexually and leading her in your romantic relationship, that gives you the clarity about which further skills you need to acquire to fully come into your Dominance.  For you, I highly recommend coming with your woman to the Couples’ Training.2.  SUBMISSIVE WOMAN.  Similarly, you will know that your joy is in picking the right kind of Dominant Man who www.OmRupani.org

LAURIE ELLINGTON PODCAST - THE DISASTER OF THE MODERN WOMAN FALSE ARCHETYPEPODCAST TOPICS:Om’s origin story.The failed experiment of women investigating masculinity.The Modern Woman False Archetype — The Karen archetype.Men have lost their radar while being across from masculine women.How women use their erotic power and energy in a second rate manner.When we use our Eros as a means to some secondary end, we misuse it.Women employing their Eros to prop up their self-esteem is a crucible the feminine has to pass through.Women’s Eros is so much bigger than what most women use their Eros for.The shift happens when a woman begins LISTENING to her Eros, instead of using her Eros as a bargaining chip.The difference is between staying in control and finding a place where you can surrender your control.When you start listening to Eros, Eros is in charge.  Neither partner, neither Dom nor sub, is in charge.When you truly allow Eros to move, often times catharsis happens.  Eros is not hot and sexy; eros is a firehose to our system.Eros is a mess.  It is not controllable.The Modern Woman dreads this chaos of her Eros.The longer a woman avoids her Eros, the greater her fear and aversion gets towards entering her Eros.Men today have become unimpressive.If the woman doesn’t respect the man, nothing else is going to happen.Today, most women don’t respect most men.  That’s why we are in a hole.Most men don’t have the wherewithal to take women into their Erotic chaos.Women seem to be fed up with couples’ work.Women seem tired of working on their relationships with their men.The skilled Dom knows how to listen to their submissive’s system.Women’s feminine embodiment is inspirational and course-correcting for men.Right now, men don’t know how to win with women.CALENDAR OF COURSES : https://omrupani.org/workshops-test/www.OmRupani.org

NEW COUPLES’ RETREAT!Hello Everyone.  I’m very excited to be offering a new week-long, couples’ retreat, especially for men and women who know that they want the man to be in the lead/dominant position in their dynamic, and they want the woman to move deeper into her feminine submission.For the first time, I will be teaching on the topic of RELATIONAL DOMINANCE-SUBMISSION, compared to only sharing about EROTIC DOMINANCE-SUBMISSION (BDSM).This couples’ retreat will be 50% RELATIONAL D/S, 50% EROTIC D/S (BDSM).These are charge-y topics.  There is a lot of misunderstanding and bad ideas around the notions of any hierarchical dynamic, particularly around the idea of a woman submitting to a man.  In this conversation I want to cover two foundation points that might help people clarify their thoughts and expectations around this matter — at least in the manner that I teach these topics.These are the two main cornerstones of how I conceive this exploration: SELF - INTEREST.GOOD LEADERSHIP / GOOD FOLLOWERSHIP.This video/podcast discusses these two cornerstones.One more important point worth touching on early, for all those who think they want to occupy the Dominant position.  These are my 3 basic criteria for what a good Dominant brings — into their Relationship and into the EROTIC field with their submissive: The Dom should deserve to lead their submissive.  Meaning, the Dom should have integrity, be self-contained, keep their word, be consistent, be reliable.  These are not soft prerequisites.The Dom must have the Mastery to Contain their submissive, as well as the Mastery to handle their submissive’s Eros, Under the Dom’s leadership, their submissive’s life and eros should thrive more fully than it would without the Dom’s leadership.COURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/dscoupleswww.OmRupani.org

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WOMEN’S EROTIC RECEPTIVITY, RELATIONAL RECEPTIVITY & LIFE RECEPTIVITYLauren and I are prepping for our upcoming training for women : EROS IN HER HANDS.  This training is as much for female practitioners who want to raise their skill levels in handling the bodies of other women.Even more than that, this training is an invitation to ALL women to come into this immersive container for a week to create more erotic flow in their systems — and as a result to widen their Erotic Receptivity channels.Doing a training that expands one’s Eros is amazing enough, but we believe that opening the aperture on one’s Erotic Receptivity also has deep impact on one’s receptivity in other areas of life, including in one’s partnerships.Lauren and I discuss some of these topics in this video.We hope many of you will join us in this amazing training in a month, in Cyprus!Please reach out to us if you have any questions.Course Page : https://omrupani.org/eros-in-her-hands— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

COURTESAN MASTERY TRAINING - WEBINARLauren and I talk about our expanded Courtesan Mastery Training, and our upcoming Dominatrix Training, Level I in Tulum, December 8-14.CONVERSATION TOPICS:Expanding from Dominatrix Training towards a fuller COURTESAN MASTERY curriculum.Dark Eros is one aspect of a Courtesan’s mastery.The Courtesan Archetype is one of the most ancient and elegant feminine archetypes through history.The Courtesan as Muse, as Consort, as Influencer.Self-activation is a necessary cornerstone for a Courtesan’s embodiment of her mastery.How much Permission we have for pleasure is a big determinant regarding how much pleasure we feel or allow ourselves to feel.Skills in Somatic Mastery are going to be in high demand through the AI job demolishment apocalypse of the next 5  - 10 years.Testimonials from Priestess graduates.Erotic expansion as an aspect of Spiritual growth.People often let their Dom see them more deeply than they allow their therapist to see them.The Dom holds space for whatever comes out of a submissive during a scene.Please reach out if you have any questions.  Lauren and I are happy to get on a zoom call to answer your questions and concerns.COURTESAN MASTERY CURRICULUM : https://omrupani.org/#/modern-priestess-of-eros/PRIESTESS OF DARK EROS, LEVEL I : https://omrupani.org/the-priestess-of-dark-erosEROS IN HER HANDS : https://omrupani.org/eros-in-her-handswww.OmRupani.org

ALEX LEHMANN PODCASTTOPICS:What can men get out of BDSM training?Holding FRAME vs. Giving CONTAINMENT.Leadership is needed to be a good Dom, to hold a scene from beginning to end.A man needs to be self-contained first if he is going to contain anyone else.It takes a while for men to come into their own.  It makes sense that women pair with men older than themselves.First contain your woman, then see what problems still exist in your dynamic.Women are getting sick of weak men, en masse.There is a difference between showing a woman your heart and asking her to contain you.Arousal lives on the other side of Containment.Understanding archetypes and their necessity.The Dom & sub archetypes hold the erotic reservoir; the husband & wife archetypes do not hold eros.Role Play is a gateway to switching over from domestic archetypes.Human beings seem experts today in screwing up great Loverships.Mastery as a genuine source of self-esteem.Contribution as a genuine source of self-esteem.The man who finds himself right is very attractive.It’s good for men to fail early and often.Leadership mastery translates to different domains — from erotic to professional.Leaders promise a brighter future.— Om Rupani BALI COURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-coursewww.OmRupani.org

WEBINAR—COURTESAN TRAINING FOR PERSONAL EXPANSIONLauren and I have designed our COURTESAN MASTERY CURRICULUM to be a robust enough training to create superlative practitioners.  But this is also a training that can be tremendously valuable to women simply for their own activation and expansion.  A good 30%-40% of women who have done our training have done it simply for their own benefit.In this conversation, we focus on these personal aspects that each of our course modules can serve for women.COURTESAN MASTERY CURRICULUM : https://omrupani.org/#/modern-priestess-of-eros/—  Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

DOM-SUB WISDOM FOR OTHER DOMAINSLauren and I discuss how mastering the Dominant and Submissive archetypes can have applications in other areas of our life.COURTESAN MASTERY CURRICULUM : https://omrupani.org/#/modern-priestess-of-eros/www.OmRupani.org

THE ART OF CONCENTRATED RELATING.  OR, WHY WOMEN ARE IN A DISAPPOINTMENT SPIRAL WITH MEN.Courtesan Mastery Curriculum : https://omrupani.org/#/modern-priestess-of-eros/www.OmRupani.org

MIKAAL BATES PODCASTTOPICS:What it means to be a dangerous man?To be loyal, a man needs to be dangerous.Who were the mothers of feminism?Men need to build before pursuing women.Men need a hierarchy to climb.Men want to be of use to others.Women don’t want to lead their men.Women are in shadow about their desire for submission.It’s difficult for women to create what they are in shadow about.Dominance is about leadership.Don’t try to lead people who don’t want to follow you.Men need to build their life before chasing women.Men should fall in love with women before falling in love with a particular woman.I don’t hate women; feminism hates women.Women are the biggest cock-blockers of other women’s eros.Have the mindset of incremental change in your eros and relationships.Men need an appetite for hearing the bad news in their life.A man in denial is not a good look.You cannot lead if you live in denial.Failure and getting off the dirt is how men are forged.Men should be reality-testing other men.Women’s unconditional eros is indeed magnificent; and it is so big that it scares even women.Women’s eros stops following rules after a certain point.Focus on what you have to offer the other — men to women; women to men.Acquire more mastery so you have more to contribute to others.Give to the right people, and then look for reciprocity.UPCOMING WORKSHOPS : https://omrupani.org/workshops-test/— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

SOMATIC PRACTITIONERS WILL THRIVE IN THE COMING AI JOB DISPLACEMENTLauren are I are thrilled to be launching the next cohort and version of our very successful Priestess of Dark Eros — a premier BDSM training for women — for women who want to be practitioners, as well those who simply want to have this expansion for their personal growth.For those of you who do want to bring the BDSM arts into your mastery as practitioners, let us just say that our graduates are doing quite well and lucratively with our training.  And, we believe that in the coming few years, the need, desire and demand for somatic practitioners is going to skyrocket, while so many other lines of work become obsolete by the coming onslaught of technology.Our Level I of Dark Priestess launches in Tulum in December, 8-14.  Please reach out if you have any questions.  Lauren and I are happy to get on a zoom call with you to answer any questions.Hope to see you in Tulum.COURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/the-priestess-of-dark-erosWarmly,Om www.OmRupani.org

PODCAST - ABOUT UPCOMING BALI WORKSHOP TOPICSTimestamps : 02:53        Why Relationships Thrive With Good Sex 05:54        How Containment Unlocks A Woman’s Femininity 09:03        Why Women Feel Attracted To A Man Who Leads Her11:56        What You Can Do To Improve Your Sexual Mastery 15:01        How Men & Women Can Build Genuine Esteem 21:02        The Trait That Helps Men Get Good Fast 38:07        Why Misrepresenting Yourself Is A Bad Deal 41:58        What Is A Permission Field49:10        Exploring Edgy Topics: Cuckolding and Open Relationships56:06        Navigating Eros in Long-Term Relationships01:01:09   The Alchemy of Desire01:05:35   The Science of Desire and Functionality01:12:37   The Importance of Discovery in RelationshipsCOURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-coursePlease reach out if you have any questions.— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

COURTESAN MASTERY CURRICULUM Lauren and I are very excited to have expanded our very successful THE MODERN PRIESTESS OF EROS into a wider COURTESAN MASTERY CURRICULUM.This new curriculum contains 6 Modules.  Each Module will be taught as an independent week-long retreat.Here’s more information about the curriculum : https://omrupani.org/#/modern-priestess-of-eros/Please reach out if you have any questions.Omwww.OmRupani.org

Q&A ABOUT UPCOMING RETREAT IN AUSTRIA - AUGUST 5-11, 2025.1.  WHAT IS CONTAINMENT?2.  CHALLENGES OF EROS BETWEEN HUSBANDS AND WIVES3.  SELF-INTERESTED REASONS FOR DOING HIERARCHY4.  BDSM PLAY THROUGH THE CHAKRAS5.  WOMEN’S HESITATION IN EXPLORING THIS MATERIALCOURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-coursewww.OmRupani.org

WHY MEN SHOULD ATTEND MY TRAININGS — BECAUSE WOMEN ARE INDEED SCARY!Many men out there follow my writings and podcasts.  They write to me expressing that they are benefiting from my material.  They express desire to deepen their mastery and to learn more and go deeper.  When it comes time to show up for a workshop I’m offering, many of those same men hesitate, stall and disappear.I can be pretty hard on men when I coach them.  My first inclination tends to be to yell at them for not following through.  But this phenomena of not showing up has been going on for so long that I’ve had the opportunity to talk to many of the men and gain some understanding of what is happening for them underneath the surface.  The more I see and understand, the more I sympathize.What keeps men from showing up to be trained in sensuality in a class alongside women is FEAR.  It not just one fear, it is a stack of fears.  It is a layer-cake of fears.And these fears the men are facing are nothing to scoff at.  This is tender stuff.  I will list three main categories of their fears:They fear getting a report card from women that they, the men, have always been mediocre lovers.2.  They fear getting a direct and live confirmation from women in front of others that the women don’t prefer this particular man.  That the women prefer other men over him.3.  They fear being publicly humiliated by being publicly evaluated as sexually incompetent and undesirable.This is a pretty scary list!  I feel like hiding under the covers when I read.I can’t completely assuage these fears for men.  I know they are real and they are brutal.  What I can try to do is express some counterpoints to these concerns in this video.  I have the follow 3 counter propositions for you:1.  LET WOMEN INITIATE YOU!2.  ENTER THIS HUMILIATION SCENE VOLUNTARILY!3.  KNOW THAT ANY FAILURE IS NOT FINAL!Hope to see some of you in class.Next Course : Austria, August 5-11.Course Page : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-coursewww.OmRupani.org

WHY WOMEN SHOULD COME TO MY BDSM TRAININGI see the men and women who come to my training benefiting slightly different from what I offer.  I wanted to make two videos sharing what benefits I see my students gaining.  Men’s video to follow soon.1.RECEIVE GOOD CONTAINMENT2.GET IN TOUCH WITH YOUR LITTLE GIRL3.YOU WILL KNOW HOW TO VET A DOM GOING FORWARD Or truly, how to vet any man you are considering of taking as a lover or a partner.— —AUSTRIA - August 5-11; 2025Course Page : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-courseDOMINICAN REPUBLIC - February 8-14; 2026Course Page : https://omrupani.org/tantra-bdsm——Both retreats are $3200 per student.  Room & Board included in course fee.www.OmRupani.org

UNDERSTANDING WOMEN’S FUCKING ENERGYI believe women have at least two distinct modalities of turn-on or arousal.  I believe there is a particular ‘frequency’ of women’s arousal that is their fucking energy — where they want to be penetrated.Men’s erections occur in response to this energy.If this observation is correct, the implications that come out of it are many.This is a starting conversation on this topic and on this premise.  Others to follow soon.— Om RupaniCourse Mentioned In Video : https://omrupani.org/eros-in-her-handswww.OmRupani.org

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5 REASONS YOU SHOULDN’T PARTNER WITH NEGATIVE PEOPLE NEGATIVE PEOPLE ACTUALLY DON’T KNOW HOW TO DO RELATIONSHIPS.A successful relationship is two are more people coming into agreement.Chronically unhappy people tend to be out of agreement with life itself.They are ungracious.They are ungrateful.They have no appreciation for the good that is around them.Such a person has true inclination to be gracious towards other humans, to be thankful for the good that others bring into their life.  If a person seem determined to not come into agreement with you or with life, you will not have a successful connection with them.2.  NEGATIVE PEOPLE ARE DREAM KILLERSTo be negative is to be negative about the future.I would in fact define whether a person is officially negative or not by this particular metric : WHAT’S THEIR ATTITUDE TOWARDS THE FUTURE — THIER OWN FUTURE AND THE WORLD’S FUTURE?If a person is future-forward, they are not negative.Those who are negative people by this definition — don’t ever share your future plans with these people.  They will do their utmost to snuff your flame.3.  YOU WILL FAIL AS A ROMANTIC PARTNER WITH THEM.This particular point applies even more to men than women.  We all have the desire to please our partner, but men feel this metric at an even deeper level.  When our woman is happy, we feel like kings.  When she is unhappy, it lands in us as failure.Pick a woman who is chronically unhappy, and you set yourself to being and feeling like a chronic failure.4.  THEIR NEGATIVITY IS OFTEN MALEVOLENTMaybe there is a small number of negative and pessimistic people who just live their sully ives in the corner, but most people who are future-negative are deeply envious of others who are optimistic, future-forward, creative, endeavoring, taking chances, succeeding.Be double careful of inviting such malevolent energy into your creation and production circle.  They are saboteurs.5.  AS YOUR PARTNER, THE NEGATIVE PERSON IS ROOTING FOR YOUR FAILUREA truly negative person cannot tolerate progress and success anywhere.  They won’t make an exception for you even if you are married to them.The very core purpose of a good relationship ought to be that the two people are rooting for each other.  You are a stand for each other.  You want the other to succeed and thrive.  If you can’t say this about yourself, you suck as a partner and your other will suffer because of it, and vice versa.— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

THERE ARE 2 TYPES OF WOMEN IN THE WORLD1.  Those who believe that their full SOUL EXPRESSION can only occur independent of any   man, independent or any relationship with a man, independent of any marriage with a man.  That taking her full soul journey as a woman is a solo path, independent of men and relationships with men, and that men and relationships with men are distractions, detours and obstacles to that true SOUL journey of hers.2.  Women who believe their SOUL JOURNEY can only be completed through the archetypes of wife and mother.  That only in a deep partnership with a man, only in a deep marriage with a man, in going through all the ups and downs that a marriage entails, in upholding and living out all the marriage vows of sickness and in health, for richer or poor, that only in that life-long journey can she realize and make her SOUL JOURNEY.My prompt to women is that they examine their belief system and see what programming they are carrying in their system.  Be true to the belief you are carrying.  If you are in the first category, please stop trying to pair bond with men, please stop seeking long-term partnerships with men; please don’t even cohabitate with a man, and most certainly, please don’t get married.  It wont’ work out for you.  You yourself will sabotage your relationships, because your core belief is not in agreement with long-term bonding with a man.— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

PODCAST WITH KELLY BROGAN - BDSM SCENE CONSTRUCTIONS FOR CATHARSISTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[03:05] How BDSM intersects with trauma, pleasure, and healing[05:12] Understanding the father-daughter dynamic in relationships[06:08] How childhood experiences shape adult desires[07:20] Why reenacting childhood wounds can be healing[08:14] Common father-daughter wounds and their emotional impact[09:05] Revisiting painful childhood memories in a controlled way[10:18] How a dom can rewrite past trauma[11:10] Why people internalize childhood neglect as self-blame[12:02] How reenacting childhood wounds can change self-perception[13:15] The role of theater and psychodrama in BDSM[14:09] How women can relive and heal rejection from their fathers[15:30] Why BDSM scene design is structured like a play[16:22] Examples of how childhood wounds show up in adult relationships[19:02] The impact of revisiting parental rejection in scene play[20:10] The emotional release that comes from reenacting past pain[21:04] The psychological effects of feeling preferred or not preferred[22:15] The deep-rooted nature of childhood wounds in adult life[23:09] How re-experiencing childhood emotions can reframe memories[24:03] The importance of acknowledging that parents are human[25:12] Using BDSM to address self-worth issues rooted in childhood[26:08] Why people carry childhood pain into adulthood[27:00] The difference between memory, narrative, and reality[28:15] The role of the dom in guiding emotional catharsis[29:05] How the body holds onto past trauma[30:10] The connection between physical sensations and emotional healing[31:12] How BDSM can address and release stored trauma[32:20] The impact of feeling powerless as a child[33:08] How physical expression can help process past pain[34:04] Why talk therapy alone cannot resolve deep trauma[35:10] Jealousy as a common relationship challenge[36:02] How BDSM can be used to work through jealousy[38:00] How playing out jealousy can lessen its intensity[41:08] Why understanding your fears can give you more agency[42:04] How women can shift their perspective on their partner’s attraction to others[45:02] How body shame impacts relationships and intimacy[46:10] How BDSM can help heal body insecurities[47:15] Why body shaming is common in BDSM play[48:02] How men and women experience different types of body shame[49:08] The role of worship and cherishment in healing body shame[50:05] Why aftercare is essential in BDSM scenes[51:10] How physical play can anchor emotional healing[52:02] Why BDSM is not just for “kinky” people[53:08] How scene play can be an effective tool for personal growth[54:12] Why BDSM should not be stigmatized in therapeutic settings[55:05] How this approach can complement traditional therapy[56:02] The importance of embracing taboo topics for healingLearn more about Om Rupani’s School for Dominance & Submission on his website, YouTube channel and Instagram.Listen to the Om Rupani Podcast on Spotify or AppleInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comwww.OmRupani.org

ANSWER YOUR CALL!  OR GET OFF THE POT!Lauren and I giving some tough love to you women who are on the fence about answering your call.  We wholeheartedly urge you to take courage and step towards the bit of uncertainty that might be the start of an adventure.With love.Om & Lauren.Priestess Training : https://omrupani.org/practitioner-masterywww.OmRupani.org

PODCAST WITH EYLA CUENCA —TOPICS:I feel for you people who binge watch my material.Containment for a birth doula.  Containment in birth space.The energetics of Containment.Containment in Man-Woman dynamic.Men’s initiations, or lack there of, these days.Where the men drop contentment and boundaries, women step in to pick up the slack.You will never get the best out of a woman who is chronically uncontained.What women look like after a good scene.The downward spiral of distrust that results in long-term frustrations.Reversing the downward spirals.Men want to be found right.Discerning non-consensual Domination & submission from the consensual.Using scene-play for release and catharsis.Flipping trauma for Eros.The coolness of the Dom energy.Balancing energies between Dom & sub.Archetypical mismatch when both woman and men are submissives.Women being more yes to their submission than men are to their Domination.A functional dom-sub dynamic is a co-conspiracy.www.OmRupani.org

SHIFTING PRIESTESS TRAINING FROM VIENNA TO NEW JERSEYHello Everyone.  Lauren and I are pivoting our next Priestess Training from Vienna back to Jersey City, NJ.We are doing so in response to the needs and desires of our students.  Many more students are a yes to doing it here right now than traveling to Europe for it.Please look at the course page if you are interested : https://omrupani.org/practitioner-masteryPlease reach out if you have any questions.  Lauren and I are happy to get on a zoom call with you to answer your questions.— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

POLARITY GLITCHES : 01 ARE YOU FOLLOWING YOUR MAN?  OR, ARE YOU ‘LETTING HIM LEAD’?Many couples who have switched from an egalitarian model of relating towards a more polarized form of relating are still feeling quite exhausted.  The sweet rewards of ease and greater functionality that polarity relating has promised them still seem elusive in their dynamic.  The women are still feeing over-stretch and tired.  The men are not quite feeling like they have arrived in their element in leading in their relationship.When I’m coaching couples and listening to their conflicts and complaints, I am often able to spot a handful of glitches in their dynamic.  It’s almost as if their habits and ways of doing things need to be ‘debugged’ like in a computer program.  I thought I’d make a series of videos addressing these glitches.This video deals with one of the most common shadow pieces I see — where the woman thinks or acts like she is really in favor of her man leading, but in fact she is stuck in the shadow energy of ‘letting him lead’,  or ‘allowing him to lead’.  There is a world of difference between trusting and following your man and this underhanded energy of ‘letting him lead’.There are many beliefs and energies that can live behind this phenomenon of ‘letting your man lead’ instead of whole-heartedly wanting his leadership.  Here are 2 of them:You simply don’t know how to turn off your controlling mechanism.  Behind this drive to control is a deep distrust — perhaps of everyone, but more likely a distrust towards men and the masculine.You feel following your man makes you inferior to him.  So you are holding your surrender in reserve, because you don’t want to render yourself weaker and inferior to him according to your beliefs.  Constantly checking your man, on the other hand, implies you are more competent than him and thus superior to him.— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

PRIESTESS TRAINING - BALANCING PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL ENERGIESIt’s a common inquiry among women considering this training about balancing their work life with their desires for personal partnerships.  Lauren and I discuss this topic in this video.COURSE INFORMATION : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-course— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

PODCAST : WOMEN’S DISCONTENTMENT WILL END THE WORLD. TOPICS:Challenges of Eros in long-term relationships.The correct purpose of a long-term partnership.Dropping birth rates.Adversity as the source of meaning.Accumulating experiences of betrayal in hook-up culture.The chronic dissatisfaction of the modern woman.Men want to make women happy; modern woman has vowed to not be happy.For most women, submission is weakness.Women’s submissions as men’s reward and fuel.Ownership in relationships.It’s not a man’s job to bring a woman into submission.Attitude towards naysayers.Women’s fantasies.BDSM in long-term relationships.Your Permission Field in a relationship.Men’s path to dominance.Real sexual mastery.Casual sex vs. partnership.Women’s sex and self-worth.Women can’t submit to a man they don’t respect.Money beliefs in family lineage.Healthy dynamic between mother and son.Masculinity in media.Feminism’s efficiency in destroying man-woman relationships.Relationship mastery as prerequisite to sexual connection.Too many men these days are boring.-- Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

Priestess Training in Vienna!  March - July 2025The next run of the Priestess Training will be in Vienna.All the course details are at : https://omrupani.org/practitioner-masteryPlease reach out if you have any questions.— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

Of Vegans and Nice Guys and SubmissivesA broad conversation on my favorite topics of BDSM, Masculinity and Man-Woman Relating in today's culture.— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS ARE ABOUT GIVING YOUR PARTNER WHAT THEY NEED, WANT & DESIRE.My personal relationship philosophy is no more complex than the above statement.  Give your partner want your partner wants.  Contribute to them.  Make their life easier.  Make their life better.  Contribute to their expansion.  Two people doing that for each other — that’s the golden state.  That’s heaven on earth as far as human relating is concerned.Do whatever works.  I personally have no particular philosophy or ideology on HOW A WOMAN SHOULD BE, or HOW A MAN SHOULD BE.Be however you want.  You are a free and sovereign soul.  Do your thing.  Express yourself as you please.  Your life is yours to live.But, if you want to play the man-woman game, or any relational game, then who you are, how you are, what you do, how you do it - all of that goes into whether you will succeed or fail at being able to give your partner what your partner needs, desires and wants from you.Everything I teach and talk about is constructed on this metric.  My personal approach to creating successful man-woman relating is trying to find as many big pieces that are valid generalizations as to what men want from women and what women want from men.  I personally have no other measuring stick, no authority, no higher source regarding men & women.  What works?  What works most of the time?  Let’s try that.What generalizations are consistent regarding what women want from men?What generalizations are consistent regarding what men want from women?Let’s follow those.  Let’s build on that data.  It’s a pretty reasonable approach.What makes this simple approach a bit more complicated to implement, is that human beings are not obvious creatures.  Our needs and desires are not always plain to see and understand.  Many times, men and women themselves don’t have clear understanding of their true needs and desires.  This is where a little digging is needed.  This is where insight into our nature is needed.These insights often ruffle feathers among people when they go against people’s self-concepts of what it means to be a good man or woman.  But arguing with the insight, or the insight-bringer, is not really necessary.  You be the judge of what is working in your relationships.  If you and your partner are mutually happy and thriving, ignore everyone blabbering their relationship advice.  What do you care?  You are already succeeding at your relationships.  You are happy and thriving.  Keep doing what you are doing.If what you have been doing has not been working and creating great results in your relationships, then it might be worthwhile to consider that some new data and action might be needed for you to create the needed success.  Try something new if you want, or don’t.  All up to you.— Om Rupanihttps://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-coursewww.OmRupani.org

10 BDSM Skills That Can Inform All Relationships : 06 - Own Each Other! / Or, How Relationships Die!Owning a human being is a concept that is a bit out of date by normal standards.As with all things in the BDSM realm, distinctions need to be made between the CONSENSUAL and the NON-CONSENSUAL.Consensual Ownership might be an energy that is direly needed in our culture today.My offer is that ownership is at the heart of what makes all relationships work.  This certainly applies to romantic relationships, whether they be kinky or not.  Beyond that, it even applies to familial relationships and even work relationships. Our life energy flow into that which we own.  When we own the people we care for, we nurture them, and as a result, those relationships flourish.When we withdraw our ownerships energies from a relationship, that relationship begins to wither and deteriorate.It could even be said that the bulk of the lies we perpetrate in relationships are lies about how much we truly own someone.— Om Rupani.www.OmRupani.org

ANNOUNCING NEW IN-PERSON, 7-DAY RETREAT.  IN CYPRUS!  FEBRUARY ’25.I’m very excited to be announcing a new Intensive BDSM Retreat that I will be offering, starting in February 2025.  The workshop is titled BDSM PRINCIPLES & DOM-SUB EXPLORATION.  Over the course of 7days / 6 nights, we will take a deeper dive into the various possible in this realm.Please explore the course page for full details : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-course— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org