Perspective unfiltered🎙️💗

There’s a space that no one really talks about,the space between giving up and trying.The place where you’re tired, uncertain, and questioning whether all your effort is leading anywhere. You're not ready to quit, but you're not as hopeful as you used to be either.In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, I reflect on that in-between season..the waiting, the frustration, the quiet resilience, and what it means to keep showing up when nothing seems to be changing.Maybe not every season is about winning. Maybe some seasons are simply about staying.Article on off campus- https://open.substack.com/pub/bi...

Sometimes it’s hard to be happy for people when you feel like life hasn’t been moving for you.Not because you’re bitter… but because somewhere deep down, you start wondering when it’ll finally be your turn.In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, I reflect on comparison, silent pressure, insecurity, and the fear of being left behind. This is a conversation about learning to celebrate people without questioning your own worth in the process.Maybe their success was never proof of your failure… maybe your story is just unfolding differently.Article- https://open.substack.com/pub/bisolasdiary/p/healing-energy?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=6l0qe5Socials ✨Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/this_is_bisola?igsh=MW9xenBiM2hzY21saQ==Tiktok-https://www.tiktok.com/@yurgal_bisola?_r=1&_t=ZS-96jgIfzIhNt

This episode feels a little all over the place… but maybe that’s the point.I talk about my past obsession with physical appearance, pressure, growth, and what it feels like when you’re trying so hard but nothing seems to be showing yet.Just a quiet conversation about becoming, uncertainty, and figuring things out in real time.The quiet Ramadan article- https://open.substack.com/pub/bisolasdiary/p/the-quiet-ramadan?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=6l0qe5The mindset shift episode- https://open.spotify.com/episode/6VBWOOakndg3brfbe7WtVB?si=mYEWOCAUSzKGS40yMQl6yQ

Hi lovelies, welcome back to another weekly episode of perspective unfiltered 💗✨On today's episode, I talked about how we’re so quick to label things as good or bad…but life doesn’t always feel that simple.In this episode, I talk about the grey areanthe in-between space where things are not so clear, and maybe were never meant to be.To get full episode check Spotify and Apple podcast My latest article - https://open.substack.com/pub/bisolasdiary/p/seeking-validation-as-a-hopeless?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=6l0qe5Where I get all my books from - https://oceanofpdf.com/Dilemma link - https://l.instagram.com/?u=https%3A%2F%2Fforms.gle%2F4uH6192SzB5RHPiS7%3Futm_source%3Dig%26utm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_content%3Dlink_in_bio%26fbclid%3DPAb21jcARhZfFleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZA81NjcwNjczNDMzNTI0MjcAAaeX6huBX9mlB52Oo0xOJk1VK0Uokf3EwMm7yGGSrdqWIFBpoTOHl1Jo0-8baw_aem_SvGCbLVEqOVTWPD_BMUWzA&e=AUCPWfhvC3JlDBIeOKnT4ipFF6zsaMfJbWrVVEvvsXiUZDqGupxkYT8gTtbd2F2ZBthrh07o1TxFwwZBYkKK26CG9KCOVCSVNUcuYvJ2E-FhBxzbzIRbn_rjFuQeugiNMw&utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQPNTY3MDY3MzQzMzUyNDI3AAGnl-obgV_ZpQedjqNMTiZNVStFKJH9xMDJu8hhkq3aliBQaaEzh5dSaNPvG2s_aem_SvGCbLVEqOVTWPD_BMUWzA

At what point does respect start to feel like pressure?In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, I reflect on growing up in an African household where being “respectful” often means being quiet, obedient, and not questioning anything.But somewhere in all of that, it’s easy to lose your voice without even realising it.This isn’t about being disrespectful… it’s about understanding the difference between respect and people pleasing, and learning how to exist without constantly shrinking yourself.My article on people pleasinghttps://open.substack.com/pub/bisolasdiary/p/is-it-people-pleasing-or-just-manipulation?r=6l0qe5&utm_medium=iosThe enmeshment article https://open.substack.com/pub/beautifullyunscripted/p/some-mothers-do-not-like-their-daughters?r=6l0qe5&utm_medium=ios

When everything starts to feel heavy, we rarely stop to ask… is all of this even mine?In this episode, I reflect on the quiet pressure we carry people, expectations, and emotions that don’t always belong to us… and what it might look like to finally put it down.

He did everything right… chose medicine, became a doctor, made everyone proud.But the truth? It was never his dream.In this episode, we talk about what it feels like to live a life that was chosen for you; the pressure, the expectations, and the quiet regret that comes with it.Because sometimes, success isn’t the same as fulfillment.By the way which business do you think he should get into?

Getting a first class is one thing… but stepping into real life is another.In this episode, I sit down with Afeez as he shares what it actually feels like stepping into the real world, navigating the labour market, and figuring life out beyond the books. This is a conversation about expectations, pressure, growth, and the quiet realities nobody really prepares you for.For land deals you can contact: leisure court on Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/leisure_court?igsh=Nmp6ZmVqYWNpdzU1

Motherhood is often seen as beautiful and fulfilling, but there’s so much more beneath the surface. In this episode, I sit down with my aunt to talk about the real transition into motherhood the emotions, the changes, and the realities people don’t always speak about.Dunn.homedecor- https://www.tiktok.com/@dunn.homedecor?_r=1&_t=ZS-94r1yg46L1m

I didn’t think restarting would feel like this… quiet, slow, and a little uncertain. But maybe that’s the point. In this episode, I’m sharing what it looks like to begin again not perfectly, not loudly, just honestly. If you’re in a season of starting over, this is for you. My Substack article https://substack.com/@bisolasdiary?r=6l0qe5&utm_medium=ios

Turning 19 feels a little unreal. In this episode, I’m reflecting on growth, faith, quiet fears, and the strange feeling of realizing you’re not the same girl you were a year ago.Btw I clocked 19 February My Substack page: https://substack.com/@bisolasdiary?r=6l0qe5&utm_medium=ios

Journaling isn’t just cute pages and aesthetics. It’s where I go when my thoughts are loud and I don’t know how to say them out loud. In this episode, I’m talking about the real essence of journaling — the messy, honest, healing kind. If you’ve ever needed a safe space that’s just yours, this is it.

Next year I’ll be 20 — and that still feels unreal. I thought I’d have more answers by now, but honestly, I’m still figuring out so many things about life, myself, and who I’m becoming. In this episode, I talk about the lessons I’m learning, the things I don’t have figured out yet, and the quiet truths that come with growing up. No pressure, no pretending — just me being honest in the middle of it all.

We talk a lot about aesthetics — the soft life, the clean looks, the perfectly curated routines — but we don’t talk enough about the pressure that comes with them.In this episode, I’m unpacking how aesthetics quietly shape our lives, our choices, and even how we judge ourselves. How we sometimes stop living for real and start living to look like we’re doing life right.Because real life doesn’t come in one aesthetic — it comes in all shades of imperfection.Unfiltered, as always. ♡

Not Another Repeated Year is me sitting with myself and asking the uncomfortable questions.What if the year changes but I don’t? What if I’m busy but not growing?In this episode, I talk about vision, alignment, and the quiet fear of doing life on autopilot. No pressure to reinvent yourself — just a gentle reminder to be more intentional, in your own way. For more explicit details check my YouTube video- https://youtu.be/drSdjNOgKoA?si=jBb7IBHnA9O_e-X1

One whole year of talking, learning, growing, healing, and unlearning together. Perspective Unfiltered is officially one.Honestly, it still feels strange that something I started from a place of confusion and growth has become this safe space for me — and for you.In this episode, I’m just sitting down to talk about how PU started, what this year taught me, the moments I disappeared, the moments I came back, the episodes that shaped me, and how much I’ve grown without even realizing it.It’s a little reflection, a little gratitude, and a soft reset for Season 2.Thank you for listening — even when I didn’t have it all figured out. 🤍

2025 is wrapping up, and everyone is posting wins… but what if your year didn’t look like that? What if you tried, failed, paused, healed, or simply survived? In this episode, I talk about the pressure of year-end achievements — for both the people who feel behind and the ones who actually achieved something but still feel anxious about the future. It’s a reminder that growth isn’t always loud, and timelines aren’t competitions. Let’s talk about the in-betweens, the quiet progress, and entering 2026 with peace instead of pressure. Xoxo Bisola 🫶🏼✨ Article: https://open.substack.com/pub/bisolasdiary/p/what-if-you-didnt-achieve-anything?r=6l0qe5&utm_medium=ios

Sometimes your life doesn’t change — you do.And that change starts in your mind.In this episode, I’m talking about the mindset shifts that quietly shape who you become:how you see yourself, how you respond to pressure, how you handle advice, and how you stop living in survival mode.We’re diving into awareness, emotional maturity, old patterns, bounce-backs, and the mental habits that keep you stuck without you noticing.If you’ve been craving growth but don’t know where to start, this episode will feel like a reset for your mind.Let’s shift together.Podcast I have listened to that has helped meThe glow up secrets- https://open.spotify.com/show/4SX9D7Bsx1LetrS2G1VdXb?si=EOv1NRM_RHKykejV9b9QyQThe baddest you- https://open.spotify.com/show/2vjHT35jIzaNSTgtMFGF2X?si=2V4GWCI7SQGaiHK5usGhTAHabits of a goddess- https://open.spotify.com/show/1f5qJO8KnSJbOo8HXhySh6?si=-4tXUQfDQqmNZTapm7j0fwToni told me with Toni tone- https://open.spotify.com/show/3XwJch8Tbq2iHEfaifYAYs?si=owZrcT1TQcmAwWI2TFVXfAThe on purpose podcast- https://open.spotify.com/show/5EqqB52m2bsr4k1Ii7sStc?si=oTmtDorMTiCrLbX4r2g5IwThe diary of a ceo - https://open.spotify.com/show/7iQXmUT7XGuZSzAMjoNWlX?si=_oDjKTKnTN2RQSDciW9WmQAnd most importantly..Bahja Abdi- https://m.youtube.com/c/bahjaabdi

This episode is one of those conversations we don’t really have.Advice is everywhere .. friends, strangers, TikTok, parents but nobody teaches us how to actually receive it.So today, I’m talking about the part we don’t admit:how our pride reacts, how our emotions get in the way, how we sometimes feel attacked even when the person means well… and how receiving advice is its own skill.I’m sharing my honest thoughts on why some advice feels heavy, why some hits differently, and how to open yourself up without feeling judged or controlled.This is for anyone who wants to grow but still struggles with being corrected or guided.If you’ve ever asked for advice but still didn’t listen… or felt yourself shutting down the moment someone tries to help you — this episode will make you feel seen.Let’s talk about it, unfiltered. ♡

Let’s be real… not every girl is elegant and that’s fine. In this episode, I’m talking about what elegance really means beyond looking pretty or acting “soft.” It’s not about your outfit, your perfume, or your voice it’s about how you carry yourself, how you treat people, and how you handle life. We’re unlearning the idea that elegance is just for “that kind of girl” and realizing it’s more about growth, grace, and presence. So yeah… let’s talk about it unfiltered, as always. 💭✨

I have been away for a while majorly because of sickness but now I am back better than ever.In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, we dive into a question that hits a little too close to home .Are we constantly losing ourselves while trying to find who we are? Sometimes, in the chase for identity and self-discovery, we start to drift from our true selves. I talk about how the pressure to “figure it all out” can make us forget who we already are, and how to slow down, breathe, and reconnect with the person underneath all the change. It’s an honest reflection on growth, confusion, and self-acceptance — unfiltered as always.

In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, we’re diving deep into the difference between empathy and sympathy — two emotions we often mix up but that carry very different meanings. 💭Why do some people truly feel others’ pain while some only feel sorry from a distance? Can empathy be your superpower, or does it sometimes become your weakness?

We always say, “I saw the signs,” but somehow… we still stayed. In this episode, we’re getting real about the red flags we often brush aside — in friendships, relationships, and even within ourselves. From confusing comfort for love to thinking we can “fix” people, we talk about why we ignore what we already know deep down.It’s honest, unfiltered, and a reminder that sometimes, growth starts when you finally stop making excuses for what’s breaking you.

This is literal. I decided to go on a retreat, a break from life and actually focus on myself no one else and it completely did not change me but gave me the the tools to and I shared all my lessons, pain and discovery here. So have a good listen✨

Everyone loves to talk about growth like it’s this shiny, exciting thing — but nobody really tells you about the messy parts. In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, I’m pulling back the curtain on the side of growth that isn’t glamorous: the confusion, the loneliness, the setbacks, and the doubts that come with trying to become a better version of yourself.Growth isn’t just glowing up — sometimes it’s losing friends, questioning yourself, and feeling like you’re starting all over again. But here’s the truth: the “ugly side” is what makes the beauty of growth real and lasting.

We don’t talk enough about the moments when life feels confusing — when you don’t know if you’re on the right path, if you’re even doing what you’re meant to do, or if you’re just… lost. In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, I dive into the reality of feeling stuck, unsure, and questioning yourself.From navigating the pressure of making the “right” choices to learning how to slow down and find clarity, this episode is a reminder that being lost doesn’t mean you’ve failed — it means you’re still on the journey of finding yourself.

We live in a copy-paste generation — where it’s so easy to follow trends, copy routines, or even practice faith like “Monkey See, Monkey Do.” 🐒In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, I unpack why we imitate others, the dangers of losing yourself in comparison, and how to build an identity that’s truly yours.From social media aesthetics to staying grounded in your religious beliefs, this is a real talk on breaking free from blind imitation and learning how to live with intention.🎧 Tune in for laughs, raw truths, and the reminder that growth doesn’t come from copying — it comes from choosing who you really want to be

In this unfiltered episode, I sit down with my bestie to unpack the age-old question: Is it better to be ghosted or rejected? 😭We talk situationships, emotional confusion, and why both can hurt in different ways.But it doesn’t stop there — we also dive into what it really means to stay grounded in our religious beliefs as teens in a world full of pressure, trends, and distractions.This one is deep, hilarious, and real.Tune in for laughs, lessons, and late-night bestie energy.

Another unsolicited episode is here!!! and this week I explored a deeper route than all we are used to talking about the pressures we face as teens in this society now where everything is vibes and not too deep, Trust me I'm fighting it out myself. I hope you enjoy listening I would love your reviews. 💋 The books I've read as a guide to finding my path in Islam: * smart teenage muslimah by Farhat Amin * Reclaim your heart by Yasmin Moghaed * light upon light by Fadhilah Wahid

Everyone is scared of being tagged as "to much" or "too caring ". Being nonchalant is the trending thing and it feels cool to do it but is it hindering us from a lot of things. Why are we soo afraid to feel in a world that tells us our feelings can be a lot. Anyways join us in this discussion as we give our own opinions and crack some laughs in between. warning ⚠️: Its a very chaotic but interesting episode.

A very random episode with factual truths. Aren't we tired of the societal pressures, norms, beauty standards, culture... deep dive with me while you listen to me rant

Ever found yourself saying yes just to avoid disappointing someone—while you’re falling apart inside? In this episode, we’re getting real about why we choose being liked over protecting our peace. From people-pleasing habits to the fear of setting boundaries, it’s time to stop shrinking yourself to make others comfortable. Let’s talk guilt, growth, and the power of finally saying no—without the drama.

What would you do if the person you trusted most suddenly betrayed you? I brought my friend Glo on the mic to get real about friendship, trust, and all the messy feelings that come with betrayal. Spoiler: It’s not as simple as you think. Hit play and hear us unpack the drama, the heartbreak, and maybe even some surprising answers.

lets talk about this topic and our honest reviews and answer about this!!!

Am I meant to feel something because I hit a legal age?

Hi my loves, should we lower our standards? should we compromise? in different aspects of our lives especially relationships. listen to find out!!

just some intuitive thoughts I wanted to share

I am just tapping bruhf

"Cancel culture—does it hold people accountable or has it turned into a modern-day witch hunt? In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, we’re breaking down the good, the bad, and the messy sides of cancel culture. Are we calling out harmful behavior or just jumping on the outrage bandwagon? Let’s talk about it

"Are open marriages as freeing as they seem, or do they come with more challenges than expected? In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, we’re exploring the tricky side of open marriages—jealousy, boundaries, and the emotional toll. Let’s break it all down and see if this modern relationship setup is worth the hype."

Just a continuation of the previous episode. spoiler!!!! You'll be wowed😉🤭

Ready for some juicy, unfiltered gist? In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, I’m sharing real-life scenarios—some messy, some hilarious, and some straight-up mind-boggling—and breaking them all down. From tough dilemmas to unexpected twists, we’ll analyze the choices, spill some truths, and maybe even laugh a little along the way. So, grab your favorite snack and let’s gist!

"Social media trends are fun and exciting—but are they secretly messing with how we see ourselves? From unrealistic beauty standards to constant comparisons, it’s easy to feel like we’re not measuring up. In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, we’re breaking down the hidden ways these trends impact our self-worth and exploring how we can navigate social media without losing ourselves in the process. Let’s talk about the good, the bad, and the filters in between!"

continuation??....Yess "Love or hustle-can you really have both? In this episode of perspective unfiltered we will continue our discussion on part 1🤭

"Love or hustle—can you really have both? In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, we’re talking about the tough choice between chasing your dreams and making room for love. Is staying single the key to success, or does the right partner make the journey even better? Let’s unpack the challenges, share some real talk, and figure out what really matters in the balance between love and ambition."

"What is it about toxic relationships in TV and books that keeps us so hooked? Whether it’s the chaos, the drama, or just the tension, we can’t seem to get enough. But let’s be real—why are we so obsessed with characters who would be absolute nightmares to date in real life? In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, we’re breaking down why these messy romances are so addictive and how they might be messing with how we see love. Let’s get into it!"

In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, we take a deep dive into the world of hustle culture and its impact on Gen Z.Join me as we uncover the roots of hustle culture, its toll on mental health, and how we can redefine success to prioritize balance and self-care. Tune in for real stories, honest reflections, and practical tips to escape the burnout cycle.Is it time to ditch the grind and embrace a healthier way of living? Let’s talk about it!

In this episode we would be talking about the pressure late teens and young adults face to have their life all mapped out. Whether you’re 18 or older, this is a relatable conversation about self-discovery, growth, and breaking free from unrealistic timelines.