Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

When events arise that involve both of us, whether pleasurable or complicated, we never find ourselves…Read more →

Total acceptance can feel like a totally unattainable goal. Yet, we know from direct experience that…Read more →

Being present with each other is something which happens almost automatically in excursions Phil and I…Read more →

After Maude returned from a trip, we both described how we had adored the sense of…Read more →

We’ve been writing a post each week for 15 years, and the starting point has always…Read more →

To fully connect with another person involves bringing your full self – the one that sings…Read more →

When we approach things creatively in our connections, it requires being present and open to that…Read more →

You may appreciate another, but not recognize the need to acknowledge them for what you see.…Read more →

MAUDE: Phil and I recently wrote about a new game we are playing, with some cards … It’s Important to Make Room for Relationships Even When Life is Busy Read more →

Each week, we jam about a topic and record it. This week, the conversation was so … How to Make Positive Choices in Your Relationships Read more →

PHIL: Trust is an essential part of good relationships. The first thing I want to say … The Secret to Deep, Peaceful Relationships is Quiet but Powerful Trust Read more →

PHIL: You talked at lunch about two friends who spend much of their day in each … What’s in the Cards for Your Relationship? Read more →

PHIL: In this culture, there is a strong focus on the individual. It is your responsibility … How Relationships and Community Fulfill the Same Need for Connection Read more →

To pay attention, this is our endless and proper work. Mary Oliver PHIL: I’ve been meditating … Why Stillness and Attention are at the Core of Peaceful Relationships Read more →

MAUDE: I experienced a close friend engaging in the blame game this last week, and it … How to Stop Playing the Blame Game and Actually Feel Peaceful Read more →

PHIL: Besides writing with Maude, I also write independently on Substack. Maude is away on a … How the Play Between Words and Feelings Affects Your Relationships Read more →

MAUDE: Phil is always saying that “we are a social species, and connection is a deep … The Pleasures and Importance of Shared Experience in Your Relationships Read more →

MAUDE: Last night, as we were talking about what we want to write a post about, … Are You Emotionally Present in Your Relationships or Just Not There? Read more →

MAUDE: I’m going to give you an update on the birthday plans I shared in July … How Radical Non-Interference Makes Our Relationship Feel So Peaceful Read more →

MAUDE: The road toward peace within all your relationships begins with your intention to have this … How to Apply Your Intention Toward Peace in All Your Relationships Read more →

MAUDE: Phil and I were sharing our reactions to an event in the neighborhood that we … The Boombox Guy Taught Us a Secret To Peace In Relationships Read more →

PHIL: In any relationship, there are expectations. I expect a sense of fairness, a recognition that … Your Relationship Expectations Make You Miss What’s Happening Read more →

MAUDE: Last night Phil and I were sitting together, and we started talking about how each … Why Communicating Strengthens the Connection in Your Relationships Read more →

Phil and I were talking about how to get some balance between the daily barrage of … Play is How to Add Peace Within Your Relationships Read more →

MAUDE: The word respect has been resounding in my head at various points during this week. … How To Respect Each Other’s Separateness While Being Together Read more →

PHIL: When you’re making plans or looking for solutions, how do you come to agreement? You … The Secret to Agreement is Creating Something Neither of You Imagined Read more →

MAUDE: Phil and I just got back from a little overnight celebration of our first meeting. … Give Your Relationships the Time They Deserve Read more →

PHIL: What we are trying to do in these posts is to describe how we are … Why Being in Continuous Connection is Vital for Peaceful Relationships Read more →

MAUDE: I had a conversation with my friend Dale the other day that I found very … The One Simple Switch That Transforms Every Relationship You Have Read more →

PHIL: One of our realizations has been that we are always on the same side. This … The Secret to a Peaceful Relationship is Realizing You’re on the Same Side Read more →

PHIL: For several reasons, we didn’t have sex for a couple of months, and when we … Why Being Friends is Such an Important Part of Your Relationships Read more →

MAUDE: The world seems filled with darkness these days, and yet, the light shines brighter through … The We That Exists With the Separate Self Read more →

PHIL: Last week, Maude wrote, “I had a partner once who was very there when he … Why Constancy of Connection is Important in Your Relationships Read more →

Hi there, Phil and Maude here. Wishing you a happy New Year and peace within your … Why is an Inner Sense of Safety Vital to Peaceful Relationships? Read more →

Hi there, Phil and Maude here. You may notice that we haven’t done a holiday post … The Secret to Peaceful Relationships is Cooperative Interaction Read more →

MAUDE: Most relationship experts list communication as one of the most important kinds of exchanges between … How Communicating From Your True Self Deepens Your Relationships Read more →

MAUDE: Peace is a choice, as are peaceful relationships. It came to me this morning that, … How To Create A Peaceful Relationship In A World That Says It’s Impossible Read more →

PHIL: Easter and Christmas are the only two holidays that Britain and America share. When I … Find Joy And Peace through Appreciation And Acknowledgment Read more →

MAUDE: What is at the center of your heart, your actions, your decisions? Have you taken … Why Are Your Core Values Important for Having Peaceful Relationships? Read more →

PHIL: When you walk around, you’re probably passing judgment on people all the time: what terrible … Replace “You’re Wrong” With “I Love You” and See What Happens Read more →

PHIL: We’ve written in the past about white lies, and that while social graces help us … Why Is Your Truth So Important In Relationships? Read more →

MAUDE: An experience I had with Phil recently reminded me how important it is to just … In a Relationship, Sometimes Just Being There is Everything Read more →

PHIL: We write about our relationship because it is so good, and we know that other … What’s That Special Connection in Peaceful Relationships About? Read more →

MAUDE: I was reading our post from last week, and came across this statement, which I … Why Peaceful Relationships Start With This One Radical Choice Read more →

PHIL: I have been talking about differences a great deal recently, and that is because it … A Different Approach to Differences in Relationships Read more →

MAUDE: Phil and I recently got back from two weeks driving through the parks and scenic … Why Being Positive is so Powerful in Relationships and in the World Read more →

PHIL: Several lifetimes ago, I shared a house with about a dozen other people. We had … Base Your Relationships On Connection Not Competition Read more →

PHIL: Feeling seen by someone is a wonderful experience. We (most of us, anyway) cover up … The Power of Seeing and Being Seen in Your Relationships Read more →

MAUDE: Phil and I often write about how important it is to your relationships to get … The Balance Between Self-Reflection and Connection in Relationships Read more →

PHIL: I respect Maude in two different senses of the word. One is that I have … R-E-S-P-E-C-T Is One of the Factors of Peace in Relationships Read more →