PODCAST · comedy
picky & selfish
by Sean Kilby
Introducing picky and selfish with talia and sean – A show about... nothing? (Is that taken yet?) Talia is your favorite twenty-something influencer navigating the chaotic New York social scene, and Sean is a thirty-something podcaster finally diving into the New York dating pool for the first time. These two they need each other's help. Fortunately, they’re best friends. Forget "mindful" and "demure" – it’s time to get picky and selfish. This is the podcast for women who are unapologetically putting themselves first... and for the men who want to know exactly what that looks like. Each week, Talia and Sean dive into everything from bad hookups and f*ckboy tendencies, to annoying texting habits and why Crumbl cookies are overhyped. No boring segments, no filler – just the good stuff, every minute. Expect unfiltered conversations with their influencer squad, a parade of fascinating guests, and plenty of wild opinions. picky and selfish isn’t just a vibe – it’s a way of li
Episodes
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it’s raining cats and threesomes.
Talia is back from vacation and Sean is having a horny spring. We talk about our recent trip to Broadway and whether or not unpopular opinions make you interesting (they do). In this ep we discuss: A lively debate inspired by the new Robert Pattinson and Zendaya move (The Drama) Debating whether…
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three is better than two.
Sean has a juicy story to tell this week (about his first threesome) and Talia can’t wait to ask for all the details. Plus, we debate the controversy surrounding Timothée Chalamet after he said “no one cares” about opera and ballet. In this ep we discuss: Talia’s story of a spontaneous hookup in...
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the world is ending. holy sh*t I have déjà vu.
All the signs of the apocalypse are upon us, including Talia tracking sh*t into Sean’s apartment today. Plus, she tells a harrowing tale of sh*tting on the street that you won’t believe. In this ep we discuss: Déjà vu and where it comes from, plus some creepy dreams A Groundhog Day scenario and…
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wouldn’t-stock is fake and ghosts are real.
Talia walked under a ladder today and Sean tries to find out if she’s actually superstitious. This leads to a debate about whether or not ghosts are real and if the Long Island Medium is a fraud. In this ep we discuss: Do aliens exist and if so, what do they watch on TV? Sean’s trip to Woodstock,...
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everybody loves boobs.
Talia is back from vacation and tells Sean what it's like to go through life with amazing tits. In this ep we discuss: Growing up and adjusting to changes in how you lookComing to terms with your body and embracing your appearance Cosmetic surgeries and why we shame each other both for and…
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tin foil hats and heated rivalries
Talia and Sean are fed up with the state of the world, and it all starts with Euphoria and Heated Rivalry. Why does everything feel so bleak? We debate the feminism of Barbie, the female gaze on TV, and why politics have gotten so bad. In this ep we also discuss: Being too idealistic when you're...
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talia purges her apartment. sean finds culture.
Talia’s frontal lobe suddenly developed this week and she tells us all about how she purged her apartment to refurnish like an actual grown up lives there. Plus, Sean is headed to Sundance. In this ep we discuss: The power of saying “you’re not the boss of this one” Making new friends (and a run…
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2016 is back. 2026 needs help.
The 2016 trend is everywhere this week, so Talia and Sean look back on the last year when the world made sense. They tell us why the trend is so easy to pull off (thanks camera roll) and recount their worst day from 2016. In this ep we discuss: Celebrity deaths from 2016 (one of which was very...
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stranger things finale recap
The Stranger Things final season has come to an end, and Sean & Talia saw it together in a theater so they’re recapping everything that did (and didn’t) happen. In this ep we discuss: The biggest internet theories (including which came true) Our rating of the finale and why it didn’t totally work...
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why is your boyfriend liking my stories? ft. alexis barber (part 2 of 2)
Our friend and former collaborator Alexis Barber (Too Smart For This) returns once again to share some dating stories, including the recent return of someone from her past. Plus, Talia and Alexis explain to Sean what a “story liker” is and what it means if your boyfriend is responding to their IG...
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we can’t believe you broke up… ft. alexis barber (part 1 of 2)
Talia and Sean are joined by their former co-host and collaborator Alexis Barber (Too Smart For This) to talk about single life, learning to be alone, and the most important things to you in a relationship. Alexis fills us in on how her life changed after ending a long-term relationship and going...
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stranger things is back. spotify wrapped season is here.
We’re back from Thanksgiving and recapping our time away, including Talia’s date with an older man, her quest to find a matchmaker, and all the love we’ve gotten from Spotify Wrapped. Plus, Sean went to his own version of the Upside Down and tells us whether he’d do it again. In this ep we also...
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accents are for women. xoxo.
Is it hot when a man has an accent? Better yet, is it hot when he sounds like a construction worker? Sean and Talia debate the most attractive accents, and the results may surprise you. Plus, we share our Thanksgiving plans and tell you what we think ruins a good potluck. In this ep we also...
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fixing your dating profile. peeing in front of your partner.
It’s time to look through your Hinge profile and actually show some personality. Talia walks us through the bios from some of her recent matches, telling us which ones stood out and why. Is the goal to be authentic or give people something to engage with? In this ep we also discuss: Tinder…
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this is halloween. this is halloween.
It’s Halloween, and we’re trick-or-treating our way through all things spoooooky! From Talia’s witchy phase and a heated debate over becoming eternal vampires (would you??) to a full rundown of costumes, candy, and chaos. In this ep we also discuss: What it takes to pull off a good Halloween...
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how does sexting work for women? is it ever okay to send emojis?
How should you initiate texting and what do women actually want to hear when you’re talking dirty over text? Plus, are voice memos just as hot as texts and pics? In this ep we also discuss: Using emojis during sexting, including when you want to send reactions What’s your “signature” emoji and…
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marathoners aren’t impressive. male influencers are out of control.
It’s marathon season in New York City and Talia is not impressed. Do runners really deserve congratulations for putting themselves through misery (even though no one asked them to)? Plus, we decide whether climbing Mt. Everest makes you undatable. In this ep we also discuss: Male influencers are...
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sean has a girlfriend. talia has some questions.
Sean has a girlfriend and Talia is thrilled that we can finally talk about it. He spills on the entire saga of going from single life, to an open relationship, to being exclusive with someone new for the first time in years. In this ep we also discuss: Monogamy vs non-monogamy: why both options…
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sean forgot his passport. don’t forget to hide your nudes.
Sean is back from his European vacation and shares all the best stories from his time away, including… how he got a new passport with less than 24 hours notice (miracles really are possible). Plus, we swap stories about accidentally sharing nudes from your camera roll with strangers. Is it time…
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sabrina carpenter’s album dropped. talia nearly died (sort of).
Sean and Talia are back with some heated pop culture debates about Sabrina Carpenter’s new album, the upcoming season of TV we’ve been waiting (way too long) for, and a test of Talia’s memory. In this ep we also discuss: Debate: is it okay to offer your spare bedroom after hooking up? Talia’s...
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travis’s thighs shine bright. it’s a beautiful tuesday in new york.
Taylor and Travis got engaged this week and all we can see are his blinding-white thighs. Also, how much did they plan this proposal and does Taylor really have the best PR? In this ep we also discuss: Is Taylor Swift destined to end up with Joe Alwyn in the end? The weather on 9/11 doesn’t get...
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what does talia actually want?
Talia is in the hot seat this week as Sean grills her about what she wants out of life. Is she looking for a relationship? Does she even need her “person” in life? What does her ideal man look like and is she open to finding him? In this ep we also discuss: Matchmakers and setups: are we less...
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how to talk to girls. everyone’s into butt stuff.
Why is everyone talking about butt stuff these days? Talia and Sean try to get to the bottom of everyone’s obsession with getting… to the bottom. It’s not for everyone, but we share tips for how to make it a more comfortable and enjoyable experience. In this ep we also discuss: How NOT to…
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talia got laid. sean got therapy.
The streak is over… Talia finally went home with a man and he’s a glorious firefighter. But is it already over? She tells us why their politics got in the way and we debate whether or not it’s okay to associate with someone across the aisle. In this ep we also discuss: Boob guy or butt guy……
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talia got punched. sean doesn’t wash his body.
Be honest… does anyone actually use soap on their arms and legs? Talia goes in on Sean for not owning a loofa and letting shampoo do all the work in the shower. Plus, Talia got hit on this 4th of July and it didn’t go as planned. In this ep we discuss: Talia got punched by a random woman in Times...
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talia’s not sharing her location. sean might be on lsd.
Who’s the new consensus “it girl” and “it guy” in Hollywood? Talia and Sean debate who holds the crown right now and what it says about our taste in hotness. Plus, Talia tells us why you shouldn’t care if other people think your boyfriend is ugly (even if it’s true). In this ep we discuss: Sydney...
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friend breakups happen. sean’s not helping you move.
Friends and SATC have so much to teach us. Talia recently learned that she wants her life to be more like the TV show Friends (Sean already knew this) and it starts with getting someone to watch her cat. How offended should you be by a friend not helping you out? We also debate Sarah Jessica...
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men are lonely. sean is hard.
It’s time to talk about sexting – Talia tells us exactly what you shouldn’t say to a woman over text if you want to turn her on (and how to use punctuation. Sean also tells us which dirty word he wants us all to start saying a whole lot more. We also get listener thoughts on last week’s...
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talia has hit rock bottom. tracey carnazzo is still digging.
Talia’s having a tough week so our friend Tracey Carnazzo stops by to help her dig an even deeper hole for herself. We talk about what it takes to get out of a rut, why it’s more fun to flirt than it is to seal the deal, and how you can actually learn to de-center men in your life. In this ep we...
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how to make a guy go away. what are your five compatibility non-negotiables?
Did we just discover the perfect breakup text? Talia tells us how she stumbled upon the ideal sentence designed to let a guy down easy and make him go away forever. In this ep we also discuss: Your five non-negotiables for finding someone you’re truly compatible with How important sex and...
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talia wasn’t invited to the influencer met gala. sean isn’t invited to serenade talia.
Talia needs to step up her influencer networking game because she wasn’t invited to Jaz and Kevin’s wedding (aka the influencer event of the season). Is Sean joking when he says he’s never heard of any of these people? Also, what’s an Etsy witch? In this ep we also discuss: Talia got a side part...
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clout chasing dead celebs. what do married people talk about.
What’s the longest you’ve ever spent sitting in a public bathroom? We discuss our strategies for getting it over with (and discover some things about how we may be doing it wrong). In this ep we also talk about: Celebrity deaths and posting on social media for attention (RIP George Wendt) Talia’s...
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the renaiSeance. talia’s tragedy anthem.
Sorry this episode is late, Sean was on vacation. He’s been on a renaiSeance tour for the past year and we talk about what he’s learned. Plus, we hear the AI song his friends made for his birthday (remember: he’s kissed a girl before) and we ask AI to write Talia her own anthem in real time. On...
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gorillas vs six-year-olds. fixing the group text (sorority-style).
What’s with men wanting to fight gorillas? Talia and Sean take issue with the latest viral debate and tell us who would be easier to take down: one gorilla or 100 six-year olds. Also discussed on this episode: A detailed (and flawed) summary of the Karen Reid trial How to deal with an interloper…
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manifesting with the O method. katie perry needs a break from earth.
Katie Perry went to outer space and she's getting too much heat for being so cringe. Would a man get the same treatment? We debate. Sean makes an outrageous claim about making people orgasm and Talia has her doubts. And is the “O Method” TikTok trend really the secret to manifesting your hopes…
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let’s (not) get this girl married.
Talia got a spray tan, shaved her legs, and her date cancelled anyway. How late is too late to cancel on someone, and is it better to lie or tell the truth about why you’re bailing on plans? We also get picky and selfish with a new game. On this ep we talk about: Coachella and why Bernie was a…
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werewolf smut is in. innies are out.
Is it time to start telling our friends to be pickier with the (sh**ty) men they choose to date? Talia has some thoughts on why it’s better to be a Miranda than a Samantha, and Sean gives his take on ‘Mirror Theory’ - including why some people avoid sharing uncomfortable details. We also cover:...
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sydney sweeney is free. sean blew his big chance.
Our long national nightmare is finally over - Sydney Sweeney is free from her longtime engagement and Talia has strong thoughts on whether or not she’s better off (plus speculation about Glen Powell). We cover all the trending pop culture including: Morgan Wallen’s abrupt exit from SNL (good luck...
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talia doesn’t hate dogs. taylor doesn’t love penetration.
Talia needs to call an emergency press conference (just kidding, what kind of loser would do that?). It’s time to address the controversy. No, Talia still doesn’t hate dogs. Yes, we’re going to talk about it. We’re also joined by our friend Taylor Strecker and discussing her least favorite…
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be picky. be selfish. *this is our first episode
Welcome to picky & selfish. Thanks for listening. No, Talia doesn’t hate dogs. No, we’re not talking about that whole thing until our next episode. Yes we are focused on rejecting toxic masculinity and not giving advice (sorta). On this episode we talk about: Being single for the first time in…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Introducing picky and selfish with talia and sean – A show about... nothing? (Is that taken yet?)
Talia is your favorite twenty-something influencer navigating the chaotic New York social scene, and Sean is a thirty-something podcaster finally diving into the New York dating pool for the first time. These two they need each other's help. Fortunately, they’re best friends. Forget "mindful" and "demure" – it’s time to get picky and selfish. This is the podcast for women who are unapologetically putting themselves first... and for the men who want to know exactly what that looks like.
Each week, Talia and Sean dive into everything from bad hookups and f*ckboy tendencies, to annoying texting habits and why Crumbl cookies are overhyped. No boring segments, no filler – just the good stuff, every minute. Expect unfiltered conversations with their influencer squad, a parade of fascinating guests, and plenty of wild opinions. picky and selfish isn’t just a vibe – it’s a way of li
HOSTED BY
Sean Kilby
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