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Pinoy Love Language
by Roanne de Guia-Samuels, LMFT
Roanne is a licensed Psychotherapist mom and an immigrant twice in America. She has frequented 500 Filipino homes and is the author of the book: 5 Pinoy Love Languages. Episodes include a deep dive into cultural nuances rarely talked about in Filipino American Psychology, trauma-informed conversations AND her fav Pinoy Love Languages, the unique ways Filipinos seek and express affection.
Episodes
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EP #53: When You are Considerate of Others and Inconsiderate with Yourself
What's wrong with being overly considerate of others? In this episode, we will explore: The beauty and shadow of being considerate Why you are inconsiderate with yourself: culture & conditioning How being overly considerate of others can affect your life Why the western approach to self care tips...
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EP #52: The Pity (Awa) Trap & Transforming in Into Empathy
The problem with pity as it relates to your Filipino relationships. In this episode, we will explore- What is Awa(Pity) How does culture shape Awa in you and your family? What's the difference between Awa and Empathy Harm that Can Result from Awa Reshaping Awa to Empathy ...atbp This episode is...
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EP #51: Managing Difficult conversations: Political Views Disagreement
In this episode, we will explore- research why we spend less time in family gathering especially with loved ones with differing political views Reasons why we disagree and the different conversation styles used by immigrants and Filipino Americans. Ways to have better connection despite...
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EP #50: Managing Challenging Relationships: Filipino In-Laws
In this episode, we explore- Difficulties navigating relationships with Filipino in laws when it comes to boundaries Why Filipino parents seem to discount your personal space What you can do today today to navigate this challenging relationship with love. If you need support navigating your...
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EP #48: Why Healing Entails Using Your Imagination NOT just Thoughts
Are you running with an old, outdated edition of your story that keeps you safe but limits your life to be the greatest-story-ever-told? In this episode, let's explore: How you have been conditioned to believe an outdated story about yourself The power of your imagination to update your story The...
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Ep 45: Why Healing Takes More Than Changing Your Thoughts
Are you running with an old, outdated edition of your story that keeps you safe but limits your life to be the greatest-story-ever-told? In this episode, let's explore: why you will need more than changing your thoughts to change your story the power of your imagination, for better or worse...
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EP #44: Inner Child Wounds: When Pain Isn’t Fluent In Words
What do you do when you want to evade or can't completely remember your childhood memories? You want to transform your inner critic, your wounds, but at a loss of words. In this episode, let's explore: the hurting child turned hurting adult why you need more than talk therapy how to give voice to...
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EP #43: CULTURE AS AN EXCUSE PART 2
When culture is a better explanation than not giving an explanation or feeling what needs to be felt. This is part 2 of Culture as Excuse episode. In this episode, let's explore the purpose of culture is it me or my culture? who's behind the mask of culture atbp...many more To read the blog...
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EP #42: CULTURE AS AN EXCUSE? Trauma or the Filipino Culture
When culture is a better explanation than not giving an explanation or feeling what needs to be felt. In this episode, let's explore the purpose of culture is it me or my culture? who's behind the mask of culture atbp...many more To read the blog article:...
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EP #41: KUSANG LOOB
Why does the word "loob" often use in the Filipino language? Is it indicative of the inner workings of the Filipino psyche? In this episode, let's explore- the concept of loob What does it say about the worldview of the Filipino? What is kusang loob? How does the concept of kusa cause conflict in...
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EP #40: LAKAS NG LOOB: FILIPINO INDIGENOUS TRAIT
Why does the word LOOB appear so often in the Filipino lexicon? The English language do not do justice in its translation. At best, I translate it as the innermost workings of the Filipino psyche/soul. In this episode, let's explore: the concept of loob and its indigenous qualities what it means…
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EP #39: MOM IS GETTING THERAPY: WHAT TO DO
In this episode, we explore, how to support a Filipino mom in her healing journey through accessing therapy for herself. Let's talk about: How to be supportive from the lens of an immigrant Filipino receiving therapy How to ask questions about mental health care while giving space to save face…
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EP #38: DIFFICULT FILIPINO RELATIONSHIPS: ON SETTING BOUNDARIES
Healthy boundary setting is essential but when its not culturally relevant can bring more harm to the relationship than good. In this episode, let's explore- What does boundary mean to you? Cultural nuance of boundary setting and space in the Western vs Filipino culture Blessing and Curse with…
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EP #37: UNCOLONIZE TO DECOLONIZE
DECOLONIZATION is not a linear process but a route that is similar to a rotonda (round-about) where there are multiple entry points and exit routes. In this episode, let's explore: the Myth around a linear path to DECOLONIZATION the difference between (the mindset) UNCOLONIZED vs COLONIZED…
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EP #36: THE UNCOLONIZABLE FILIPINO
There is no doubt the years of colonization has deeply influenced the Filipino but has it completely colonized the Filipino psyche? In this episode, let's explore: the uncolonizable Filipino his practice and ancestral leaning to pre-colonial knowing how the uncolonizable Filipino manifests itself...
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EP #35: ISLAND TALK IN AMERICA PART II
This is Part II of Island Talk , the first part is the very first episode of the Pinoy Love Language podcast. thank you po for listening! In this episode, we will explore- Ancestral communication style of early (indigenous) Filipinos Why the Filipino speaks in codes When what is conveyed is the...
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EP #34: SHADOW SIDE OF KAPWA
Kapwa is the value of deep interconnected-ness from which a Filipino traditionally navigate his world from. It is the ability to see someone as a part of you and you in them. In today's episode, we will explore the light and shadow side of this core value & why it can be a challenge to adhere to...
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EP #33: THE ART OF RESPONDING
What's an artful way to respond to tita and her intrusive questions and comments? In this episode, we will explore- Why Filipinos asks personal questions How to enter spaces so that you can have a better cultural and familial experience Strategies to artfully and gracefully respond to tita so you...
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EP #32: WHY FILIPINOS ASK (PERSONAL) QUESTIONS?
Why do Filipinos like to ask personal questions? Why do they greet by posing a question which feels more like an interrogation? In this episode, let's explore- the cultural function of asking questions for a Filipino difference between task oriented and relationship oriented questions the…
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EPISODE#31: GUILT VS SHAME
What's the difference between shame and guilt and is there any evolutionary function for each? Does culture influence our feelings of shame? In this episode, let's explore- the evolutionary function of guilt guilt in a collectivistic culture vs in America how the focus on function and…
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EP #30: SHADOW SIDE OF UTANG NA LOOB & GRATITUDE
Honoring our elders and those who came before us is a beautiful gesture. When does the concept of utang na loob and the expectation to be grateful create harm in ourselves and in our relationships? In this episode, let's explore: the difference and adaptive use of being grateful versus…
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EP #29: FILIPINO RELIGIOSITY IN AMERICA VS IN THE PHILIPPINES
Are Catholics/ Christians the same elsewhere? In this episode, let's explore: Filipino religiosity in the motherland vs in America how immigration can transform the Filipino spirituality/religiosity how folk Catholicism is a buffer to colonized form of religiosity how do you see your God? ....and...
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EP #28: ON GRIEF & FRIENDSHIP: THE STORY OF ANT AND SNAIL
Grief is not something you get over with, for it is from the seed of love that grief sprouts from. In this episode- explore the concept of GRIEF through the eyes of two friends: Snail and Ant How grief can be a challenge to those supporting the Griever How the Griever can facilitate his own…
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EP #27: COMMON REASONS FILIPINOS SEEK THERAPY
There is a misconception that you have to be diagnosable Mental Health condition to seek therapy. In this episode, let's explore- myths about therapy vs coaching common reasons Filipinos seek therapy what to do next if you find yourself needing support, and more Learn more about Story Therapy…
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EP #26: THE ART OF SLOWING DOWN
Honoring the wisdom of your body through the art of slowing down. Slow is fast. In this episode, let's explore how productivity mindset can wreck a havoc on your mind and body using your calendar to remind you to slow down the art of noticing, what you forget to do when you're moving too fast the...
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EP #25: HOW CULTURE INFLUENCES YOUR DECISIONS
Do you decide on your own accord? Social Psychologist and anthropologist tells us that culture is like water to fish. You can't deny its existence absent of noticing it. In this episode, let's explore- How culture influences your decision-making how shared identity is an invisible thread that...
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#24: THE CURSE OF THE GOOD CHILD
What’s the cost of being the “good one,” the one expected to follow the path promised with lavish confetti and head nods of approval in the family? In this episode, let's explore- Who is the good child? the conditions that raise the good child the curse of the good child, manifestations and cost...
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#23: WELL FED BUT EMOTIONALLY HUNGRY
Were you well-provided for- a roof over your head, meals that don't go out of style, went to a good school but feel emotionally malnourished? In this episode, let's explore: how immigration for a Filipino immigrant may aggravate this malnourished cycle manifestations that you are emotionally…
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#22: PASALUBONG: THE MOST ENDEARING PINOY LOVE LANGUAGE
EP 22 What is Pasalubong and why is it so endearing to many Filipinos? In this episode, explore- the definition of pasalubong and why it's valuable in the Filipino culture the light and shadow side of this Pinoy Love Language a case example of using pasalubong to ease up tension in a relationship...
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#21: LIGOY: GOING AROUND THE BUSH
EP 21 Why is it that when you asks a Filipino sometimes that they go around the bush rather than telling you straight up what’s on their mind? What is the Pinoy Love Language of Ligoy? In this episode, let's explore- what is ligoy? What is the cultural and social implications of this Pinoy Love...
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#20: COLLECTIVE COREGULATION VS CO-DEPENDENCY
EP20 What is collective co-regulation? In this episode, we will explore- What's the difference between self-regulation (self-soothing) and co-regulation Is coregulation the same as co-dependency? If not, how are they different? How the Filipino culture hone coregulation over self-regulation the...
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# 19 ISUSUMBONG KITA SA TATAY KO!
Why is sumbong a language of love for Filipinos and how do you love someone back who's using this love expression? In this episode, we will explore- the PInoy Love Language of Sumbong. What is it? How does it manifest? The shadow and light side of this PLL how to set healthy boundaries Don't…
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#18 COREGULATION: SEEKING OTHERS FOR COMFORT
Are Filipinos coregulators (someone who finds soothing in reaching out proximity with others)? In this episode, we will explore: what coregulation means codependency vs coregulation what happens to Filipinos in immigration & theis soothing strategies how to coregulate in a healthy manner with...
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#17 SELF-REGULATION: FILIPINOS ON SELF-SOOTHING
How does self-soothing strategies vary between individualistic and collective cultures? In this episode, explore- what self-regulation is and how our caregivers tend to you influence our ability to self-soothe how you learn to cope as children when caregivers do not fulfill your emotional need…
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#16 DISEASE CAUSALITY: NAMALIGNO (BEWITCHED)
Met anyone who was taught to be namaligno? This is one disease causality that is used in the motherland to explain an unexplained phenomenon. In this episode, let’s explore- What is namaligno? What use does this concept play in the Filipino culture? Does namaligno help heal or delay health care...
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#15 DISEASE CAUSALITY: SUMPA (CURSE)
Why is it important to culturally understand how Filipinos explain the cause(s) of diseases? Does this still influence in diaspora? In this episode, let’s explore- Meaning of Sumpa The difference between Sumpa and Gaba How this disease causality renders delay in care (physical and mental health)...
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#14 DISEASE CAUSALITY: LIHI
Lihi is one way Filipinos in the Islands may use to explain a cause of a disease/ deformity based on maternal deprivation during pregnancy. In this episode, we will explore- What is Lihi? How Lihi affects our help-seeking behaviors How Lihi still influence our modern Filipino mind-set ...and many...
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#13 DISEASE CAUSALITY: MANA
Naku, manang-mana ka sa tatay mo! (you're just like your father) In this episode, let's explore- the disease causality of Mana. what is it? How does it affect the way Filipinos perceive care and treatment how does Mana continue to manifest in our modern world and recommendations on how to bridge...
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#12 WHY FILIPINOS DON'T ACCESS MENTAL HEALTH CARE
Your mental health is your health. There is a deep stigma in seeking mental health services that lies in the veins of many Filipinos. In this episode, let’s explore- Why Filipinos don’t (easily) access mental health care Filipino mental health and why the language we use especially with our...
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#11 PLL: SUYO
In this episode- Discover the antidote for the PLL of TAMPO which is SUYO. What is suyo? How can you attune with your loved one while negotiating a new way of speaking a language you both understand And many more.... HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by...
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#10 PLL: TAMPO
Have you experienced mom upset but not quite angry and when you try to speak to her she claims she’s fine. You give her more distance because you think that’s what she needs and her upset feeling becomes lethal…. In this episode, let’s explore- The PLL of Tampo. What is it? Why someone uses this...
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#9 PINOY LOVE LANGUAGES: WHY WE SPEAK IN CODES
Why can’t you just say what you mean? Many times, socio-political, geography and many other variables that influence culture including history of colonization influence cultural norms and behavior. In this episode, let’s explore- How/Why history shapes our language Why the cultural context of how...
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#8 WALA KANG UTANG NA LOOB!
You might ask when does utang na loob OR debt of gratitude ever gets repaid. Many children of immigrants feel the burden to not just pay but to overpay I debt they are grateful for but never asked for. In this episode, let’s explore- The concept of utang versus utang na loob What is utang na loob...
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#7 SCARCE COMMODITY: CULTURAL WHISPERERS
What is a tagapamagitan and why are their roles scarce in the diaspora? In this episode, explore- The role of cultural mediators in the everyday life of a Filipino How the breakage in communication between immigrant Filipinos and their offspring can be harmed or bridge by a tagapamagitan The...
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#6 PAKIRAMDAM: THE MOST MISUNDERSTOOD FILIPINO CORE VALUE
Filipinos are known to have “mataas na pakikisalamuha,” which means the depth of relationality with others goes skin deep. Children in the motherland are taught to heighten their cultural sensing of the other beyond words. Pakiramdam, the sensing of the other beyond words through reading…
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#5 FILIPINO VERSUS AMERICAN WAY OF COMMUNICATION
Despite the fact that most Filipinos are bilingual, our ways of expression from the American language of expression differ in many ways. In this regard, Filipino immigrants and their children may experience cultural gaps and miscommunication in their relationships. Some of these miscommunication...
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#4 FILIPINO MONEY MIND-SET BLOCKS
What cultural stories have been keeping your from living an abundant life? From your riches? Money is simply a manifestation of your abundant mind-set but does not end there. What stories have you heard growing up about money? About the rich? Or the poor? In this episode, explore: How soap operas...
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Roanne is a licensed Psychotherapist mom and an immigrant twice in America. She has frequented 500 Filipino homes and is the author of the book: 5 Pinoy Love Languages. Episodes include a deep dive into cultural nuances rarely talked about in Filipino American Psychology, trauma-informed conversations AND her fav Pinoy Love Languages, the unique ways Filipinos seek and express affection.
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Roanne de Guia-Samuels, LMFT
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