Popping Perfectionism
by Anna Tibbitts and Alysha Turner
Perfectionism is a highly misunderstood concept. This mindset and lifestyle is often pursued in an attempt to save ourselves from negative life experiences such as awkwardness, embarrassment, and shame. This podcast delves into the negative impacts of perfectionism and how and why it damages individuals, relationships, and families. With 10 years of perfectionism research and a couple decades of life experience, co-hosts Anna and Alysha take you through the different ways you can recognize, cope with, and heal from perfectionism through their mindset of connectionism. @poppingperfectionism
Episodes
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4:8 BONUS EPISODE Featuring: Dr. Kyle Reyes
Dr. Kyle Reyes joins us today to talk about his new book, Lenses of Humanity and how perfectionism can disrupt those lenses and our connection from others. Kyle is one of our most esteemed, respected mentors and we've packed this episode with all of the insights he has to offer. Tune in!
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4:7 WORKPLACE: Does Perfect Leadership Exist?
When we think of great leaders, we usually think of the people who check all the boxes: Inspiring, organized, well-liked, charming, influential, etc. What we don't think about are how these checkboxes can actually get in the way of a great leader doing their job well.
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4:6 WORKPLACE: How to Fail to Succeed
Failure is inevitable. Flaw is unavoidable. Success? Never guaranteed, but especially hard to achieve when perfect is the only path there - or so perfectionism would like us to believe. In this episode, we talk about how to achieve workplace success ADMIST failure, not while avoiding it.
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4:5 WORKPLACE: Can Creativity and Perfectionism Co-Exist?
Failure is an unavoidable part of creativity. Flaw is an inevitable part of creativity. Messiness, chaos, and doubt are all part of the creative process. So how can we be perfectionists and keep being creative? Tune in.
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4:4 WORKPLACE: Professional Development
If you want to advance in your career, perfectionism is gonna get in your way. If you want to develop professionally, perfectionism is gonna hold you back. Trying to be perfect and develop yourself at the same time cannot co-exist. Tune in to hear more!
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4:3 WORKPLACE: Workplace Boundaries ft. Maria Blevins, PhD.
Join us for an episode with Maria Blevins, Ph.D and research extraordinaire on the real-life negative impacts of perfectionism in the workplace, including on our nation's rivers!
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4:2 WORKPLACE: The Perfectionist's Work-Life Balance Pipe Dream
If you think you can be a perfectionist and have work-life balance, think again. In this episode, we dive into modern research on the impossibility of having a healthy split between your work and your life while still aiming for perfection. Think you can do the impossible? Tune in and find out.
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4:1 WORKPLACE: Now Perfectionism Wants My Career Too??
Perfectionism demands it all - the relationship with yourself, with romantic partners, with spirituality, and now, you're about to learn how it demands your professional relationships as well. From work-life balance to imposter syndrome to just getting through the full-time grind, this season has...
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3:10 ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS: Final Thoughts
The long-awaited season finale of our romantic relationships series is HERE! In this episode, we gather all of our best thoughts, research, and insights about perfectionism and romantic relationships to give you the ultimate recap to our 3rd season. You also get a sneak peek at how our own…
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3:9 ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS: Comparison and expectations tainting the reality of love
Perfectionism loves to pollute many things, including our romantic relationships. All three forms of perfectionism fuel comparison and unrealistic expectations, resulting in shattered fantasies of relationships and loneliness. Tune in to hear Alysha and Anna dig into how comparison and…
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3:8 ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS: More vulnerable than ever
Anna & Alysha let you in on their personal recent breakdowns and practice vulnerability.
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3:7 ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS: Perfectionism is Ruining your Sex Life
It's true, folks. Perfectionism is the ultimate spicy time killer. If you want the juicy details on how, tune in!
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3:6 ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS: You Can't Fill Every Role
In this episode, we talk about something almost every perfectionist relationship goes through: expecting you, your partner, or both of you to fill every single role and need for each other. Perfectionism loves painting things black and white, especially when its comes to romance and needs. Tune…
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3:5 ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS: Rejection and Feedback
Rejection and feedback can sometimes feel DEADLY for perfectionists, especially in romantic relationships. Even though honestly and candor is critical to a healthy relationship, it is also the very thing that can cause perfectionists to retreat, overthink, ruminate, and save face, hindering...
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3:4 ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS: Attachment Styles and Perfectionism
We are coming in HOT in this episode with research, theories, and practices all centered on how perfectionism plays into attachment styles. Attachment styles are a HUGE part of romantic relationships and, as it always does, perfectionism loves to find its way into the spotlight with each style....
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3:3 ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS: Event-Based Mentality
So much of perfectionism hinges on the belief that life is a series of events, not experiences. And relationships are no exception - in fact, they may be the poster child for this mindset. This episode talks about how having an event-based mentality can sabotage relationships and how adjusting to...
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3:2 ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS: Chameleon Syndrome and Dating
Do you find yourself people-pleasing, blending in, or only showing specific versions of yourself in order to maintain others' opinion of you? Do you do this especially in dating? Well then, this episode is for you. We lose a lot of connections in dating because we don't allow others to see who we...
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3:1 ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS: Dating, Marriage, All of it
Are you READY for this next series?? We talk about ALL things relationships and perfectionism. Relationships are the BREEDING GROUND for perfectionism. They put our insecurities in the limelight and make our egos absolutely squirm. From dating to divorce to marriage to singlehood, this series…
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2:10 LDS CHURCH SERIES: Final Thoughts
We've made it people! The last episode of this series. After everything we've covered with perfectionism within the LDS culture, this episode contains our final, juiciest, most emphasized thoughts. Everything we want you to remember how perfectionism and God, yourself, and your relationship with...
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2:9 LDS CHURCH SERIES: Gray Areas
If you're a member of the church, you already know about the plethora of "gray areas" within the church that each member chooses to approach differently. These gray areas range from R-rated movies to modesty to Sunday activities and more. Perfectionism plays a large part in how we view ourselves...
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2:8 LDS CHURCH SERIES: Missions and Perfectionism
One of the most magnified environments for perfectionism to fester is missions. If we're talking about people-pleasing, image maintaining, unrealistic expectations, and self-criticism, missions are the perfect storm. And it's a storm we don't talk about enough. Tune in to hear how perfectionism...
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2:7 LDS CHURCH SERIES: Grace and Perfectionism
We keep teasing you with these surprise off-weeks, but we are back now with another episode - and one of our best yet! We just got done hashing out repentance and perfectionism and now we are talking about one of the most beautiful concepts in the church: Grace. Grace is a gift from God. We don't...
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2:6 LDS CHURCH SERIES: Repentance and Perfectionism
WE'RE BACK! Did you miss us?? Thought we'd give everyone a week off to catch up on this season - but now we're back with (as always) one of our favorite episodes: Repentance and Perfectionism. Perfectionism is one of the leading culprits in why repentance has gained such a negative connotation...
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2:5 LDS CHURCH SERIES: Questions from YOU!
We've had tons of people dm-ing us questions about our episodes and perfectionism in general and we wanted to take an entire episode to address them! We didn't get to all of them, but we will do more of these in the future. Tune in to hear how we answer questions such as the following: Where did...
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2:4 LDS CHURCH SERIES: How the Adversary Uses Perfectionism
Perfectionism can be used as a weapon - sometimes we use it against ourselves, sometimes we use it against others, but it is very often used by Satan to isolate and sever us from our true selves, others, and God. Some of our best outside resources and analogies are used in this episode to paint…
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2:3 LDS CHURCH SERIES: God is Perfect, Not a Perfectionist
Perfectionism bleeds onto everything, including God's character! And once God's character has been colored in a perfectionist light, it warps everything else about the church, its culture, and how its members view themselves and others. In this episode, we talk about WHY God is not a…
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2:2 LDS CHURCH SERIES: Perfectionism and Zion
Perfectionism seems to find its way into everything, and Zion is no exception. Zion is a place where everyone has a place, unconditionally. Perfectionism convinces us that others need to meet certain benchmarks before they can be accepted and loved. Zion is about keeping baptismal covenants and...
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2:1 LDS CHURCH SERIES: How Did We Get Here?
We're BACK with a brand new series and loads of new content! In this series, we talk about something no one really seems to address: Perfectionism and the LDS culture. LDS is short for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (also known around the world as Mormons or Latter Day Saints).…
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1:6 - Our Stories and Final Thoughts
We made it!! We are at the final episode of this series. We decided to use this episode to share our full personal stories with perfectionism and some final thoughts that we weren't able to touch on in the previous episodes. Some of our best nuggets of wisdom are packed into these 45 minutes, so…
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1:5 - Socially-Prescribed Perfectionism
In this episode, we cover our last form of perfectionism. Socially-Prescribed perfectionism derives itself from pressures set by a culture, society, or other external groups. A lot of elements play into this from of perfectionism including social media and social circles. Tune in to hear ways to...
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1:4 - Other-Oriented Perfectionism
In this episode, we explore the relationship-killing form of perfectionism: other-oriented. Being an other-oriented perfectionist has a double-edged sword. It can be a very lonely way to live in addition to being really toxic for yourself and others. Often, other-oriented perfectionism is born…
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1:3 - Self-Oriented Perfectionism
Welcome back to Popping Perfectionism! Today we dive into the inner-workings of one of our most familiar and dreaded topics: self-oriented perfectionism. This form of perfectionism packs quite a punch and is where the other forms of perfectionism (to be discussed in coming episodes) typically…
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1:2 - Chameleon Syndrome & Two Dimensions
In this episode, we talk about the two foundational dimensions of perfectionism as well as a common side effect of perfectionism: The Chameleon Syndrome. By participating in the two perfectionism dimensions of unrealistic goals and self-criticism, we train our minds to constantly beat down on our...
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1:1 - Perfectionism and Connectionism
In this episode, we explore the "what" behind perfectionism, Connectionism, and how this podcast came to be. The world has perfectionism all wrong: it's not a virtue - it's a vice. We talk about ways to recognize a perfectionist mindset and even more importantly, ways to combat it - through...
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Popping Perfectionism - Official Trailer
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About this show
Perfectionism is a highly misunderstood concept. This mindset and lifestyle is often pursued in an attempt to save ourselves from negative life experiences such as awkwardness, embarrassment, and shame. This podcast delves into the negative impacts of perfectionism and how and why it damages individuals, relationships, and families. With 10 years of perfectionism research and a couple decades of life experience, co-hosts Anna and Alysha take you through the different ways you can recognize, cope with, and heal from perfectionism through their mindset of connectionism. @poppingperfectionism
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Anna Tibbitts and Alysha Turner
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