Pretty Lonesome with Madeline Argy

this week i talk about grace, forgiveness, and why i don’t think they’re the same thing at all. i get into this idea that forgiveness is supposed to mean you’re healed, and how that never really made sense to me because i can understand someone, even feel compassion for them, and still be hurt by what they did. i talk about trying to intellectualize my way out of pain, why that doesn’t work, and the moment i realized i’ve been giving everyone else space to be human but not myself. this one’s about letting both things exist at once, peace without pretending, compassion without self-abandonment, and figuring out what i actually owe people after they hurt me. enjoy, love u Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

From dinosaur documentaries to a TSA encounter that became an analogy for friendship, this week's episode helped me understand that everything is kind of a projection. i talk about living out of a suitcase, missing my flight, and falling down a rabbit hole of evolution, extinction, and how nothing we think is permanent actually is. then i get into people, why we get so triggered by certain traits in others, and how most of what we feel is just a reflection of something in us. this one is really about detachment, perspective, and realizing not everything is as personal as it feels. as always, love u Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

guys we are still so back. Ep 100! love u   Link to TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZNR9oqvVS/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

we’re back with another advice session from your submissions and this week we talk about toxic relationships, trauma bonds, and the danger of seeing the good in people who consistently hurt you. i get into why bad relationships can feel impossible to leave, why it sometimes feels like the person who hurt you “wins,” and how compassion can slowly turn into self-betrayal if you’re not careful. we also talk about boundaries, self-honor, and the difference between loving someone and sacrificing yourself for them. this one is about protecting your heart without losing your ability to love. love u enjoy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

exciting new announcement this week and life updates that made me think more about discipline and how I want to learn to trust myself again. recently a lot has come up around trying to outrun old versions of myself and realizing that change doesn't always leave your bad habits behind. i talk about living in my head like it’s a courtroom, why overthinking feels like control, and how doing the small things really matter: drinking water, making the bed, keeping small promises, and calling your energy back. this one’s about rebuilding trust with myself in the tiniest ways possible and betting on me in this new season :) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

presenting: my betrayal list. we also go through your submitted resolutions for 2026 and how they align with mine as well. i talk about the small things that let me down this year, why they stuck with me, and how disappointment builds quietly when you don’t name it. figuring out my ins and outs for 2026 kind of helped me learn where my energy actually belongs. enjoy love u Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

this week i do something a bit different. i go through my camera roll month by month and randomly pick photos from the last year, then explain what was actually happening behind each one. some are funny, some are embarrassing, some are way heavier than they look. it turns into a kind of accidental debrief of 2025, how much i hid, what i avoided talking about, and what all those moments say about shame, alignment, and letting things exist without rewriting them. it’s less of a resolution episode and more of a chance to let you in to the moments I didn't really show you guys but wish I did, while reflecting on them to prepare for this year. enjoy love u!!!! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

we're back with another advice session from your submissions and we talk about girl code, betrayal, and what happens when you do something that doesn’t sit right in your body. i get into female friendships, dating your friend’s ex, why shame hits harder when it comes from other women, and how easy it is to spiral into thinking you’re a bad person instead of a human who made a mistake. we also get into jealousy, moral alignment, male validation, and why doing the wrong thing once doesn’t define who you are forever. this one is about compassion, accountability, and learning who you are by actually living. love u enjoy  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

this week i talk about going quiet for a while and what happens when life forces you to slow down and sit with yourself. i get into my fear of being seen alone, why that feeling has followed me since i was a kid, and how i finally stopped letting it dictate my choices. i talk about traveling by myself, meeting strangers, creative block, curiosity, and relearning how to enjoy my own company without shame. it’s about trusting your instincts, romanticizing the in between moments, and realizing that being alone doesn’t mean you’re lacking anything. enjoy love u Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

this week i talk about how to change your reality when you feel stuck, uninspired, or like you’re living the wrong life. i get into what it means to lose your spark, how to start believing in yourself again, and why sometimes the smallest changes—a different route to work, a new song, a stupid hat—can shift everything. i also talk about self-sabotage, fear of success, and how courage is usually just being scared and doing it anyway. love u guys  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

this week i talk about what it means to actually sit down with the voices in your head instead of just pretending they don’t exist. i get into jealousy, shame, why validation from other people never really fixes anything, and the way we convince ourselves we’re unlovable for the dumbest reasons. i also share what it felt like to disappear for a month, why my ego has a fuck ass bob, and how noticing the scary stuff might be the only way through. enjoy, missed u  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

 I'm done spreading propaganda this week. I love you guys Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

this week i talk about rage baiting men and how it’s actually one of the most efficient ways to figure out who you’re dealing with. i get into the subtle ways misogyny shows up in everyday life, how to use small questions and jokes to poke at fragile egos, and why “i know” might be the most dangerous thing you can say back to a compliment. we also talk male validation, internet rabbit holes, and the false sense of safety we get from assuming “he was raised by a woman” means anything at all. no one is exempt, so let’s have some fun testing them. enjoy love u Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

this week i talk about betrayal and how it never stops catching me off guard, no matter how much i think i’ve prepared myself for it. i get into the way it rewires your nervous system like a mf-ing xmas tree, how it lingers in the body, and why it feels harder to let go of than sadness. i also share how i’ve handled it differently this time, and what it means to finally let myself feel anger. enjoy love u Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

fletcher is here this week and we talk about what it means to write honestly about the people you’ve loved and sometimes lost and how terrifying it feels to put those stories into the world when everyone thinks they know who your songs are aboutwe get into queerness and music as a home for it the way her new album holds both heartbreak and joy at the same time and why telling the truth can be the most freeing thing even when it makes you want to hide under your bedi also ask if she ever regrets being so raw in her lyrics and she reminds me that there’s power in being messy and human. enjoy love u  17:59 yearning21:14 public relationships23:40 ocd / mental health31:43 new album43:30 struggling with being public48:45 changing your sexuality label50:19 being shocked by liking a boy56:22 falling in love with a girl58:00 distance Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

before i get into the lesbian master doc, i would be remiss not to acknowledge belly betraying herself and rage baiting the audience, jeremiah’s weird possessiveness, and why conrad’s distance was love disguised as avoidance. then it’s onto compulsory heterosexuality, how liking gay or fictional men is safer, and why attraction doesn’t always mean action. also: how society makes us confuse friendship with crushes and why i hate that every guy friend would still sleep with you. welcome to my dissertation! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

i was supposed to talk about female friendships in this episode but instead i spiral about the summer i turned pretty the rise of ai and why your boyfriend is not your son and shouldn’t be your only friend like why are you breastfeeding him emotionally get a gripwe get into man keeping, how jeremiah is actually asking laurel to be his mum and the way laurel carries the weight of everyone’s grief while being the only one with a brain also i accidentally solve the education system and consider letting ai chip my brain so i can go live in a mouse house under a tree. Enjoy love u Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

I spent a week withdrawing from vyvanse, nicotine and caffeine all at the same time and this episode is the result of that. Enjoy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

this week I am talking about your stories and questions that you wrote in by unraveling a truly unhinged advice email about a boy who numbers his sexual partners (yes, literally gives them numbers), has a thing for helicopters (???), and ghosted a listener after prom. we also get into what real friendship looks like (spoiler: it’s not telling you to “do it for the plot”), how to move on from villains you dated, and unexplored queerness in committed relationships. loved getting to yap with you after 3 days in the desert Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

this week I am grappling with ants in my pillows, getting rage baited by my landlord and the idea that the stories you tell yourself about your past form your ‘life story’, therefore your perception of yourself and therefore the behaviour of your future self. and what if we can re write the past and nothing is concrete and we can change things we have previously accepted as true about ourselves by a shift in perspective? like what if our past is up for grabs? filmed at a very stupid hour, I once again missed half the points I wanted to make so maybe ill do a part two on this subject but until then … Story Of My Life: How Narrative Creates Personality - The Atlantic: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/08/life-stories-narrative-psychology-redemption-mental-health/400796/  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

I threw up for the first time since developing emetophobia over ten years agolight trigger warning for people who are very sensitive - nothing gross is mentioned, verbiage only what’s in title and description, and I mostly discuss the emotional impact and how I processed the experienceadditionally, I filmed this episode in my birthday and dove into why I fear aging so much while also being so young and how I turned my mindset into a more positive one so I could stop crashing out and enjoy the best day of the year Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

talking about how i got started on youtube and how weird of a time that was and how i found my team. and then about the ego and how I recently discovered that isn’t just a bad word to use for people with an inflated sense of self but actually an important and useful part of us all Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

back in my habitat. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

I hate this episode because I missed almost every point I wanted to make about political amnesia / why having a clearer understanding of history creates a road map to facilitate the unity needed for social change which is so dumb of me (need to stop recording at midnight) so maybe I’ll revisit this one when I have read more books and make more sense lol https://www.atlasobscura.com/places/mere-royaume Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

why do we let men put their pleasure first Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

learning to have empathy for myself allowed me to love people properly  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

I thought I’d have good points this week on why it’s good to have community and stuff but I just ended up freaking myself out   https://www.newyorker.com/culture/open-questions/does-anyone-really-know-you Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

the tea is us Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

you won’t catch me becoming two heads one body anytime soon Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ok did another one where I tried to get through more. Love you guys Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

this week u guys wrote in and told me your worries and your feelings and whilst I don’t have advice I do always have opinions so this week I’m giving you my opinions on ur problems ur WELCOME write in [email protected] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

I’m really unique Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

I'm so glad you guys finally get to meet my day one  For more information on menstrual equality go to www.thepadproject.org  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

never trust a ho Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Warning: this episode contains content on sexual assault Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

it's been a year since I recorded this and I'm still a Greek mythology smut  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

this was a big deal Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

this is actually cringing me Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Men get everything except souls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Pls drop recs for similar shows I need more Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Attraction is a spectrum and I’m breakdancing on it Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This felt productive did it not Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

you are cordially invited to come hang out with me  in my garage  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This one truly makes no sense I fear Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Still the same bitch 😔 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

can you tell I started taking my ADD meds again? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

So much to learn  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

I’ve been spending too much time alone so I was thinking I might drive across route 69 or whatever it’s called Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This month, Adeline is back in the office to get us some answers on cults from podcaster/author/and an aspiring cult leader herself… Amanda Montell.Come back next month for more answers to Adeline’s most pressing concerns. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

I saw Sabrina carpenter in concert and it made me think about how I used to want to die but her 2015 album was the backing track to the worst years of my life which is funny in my opinion Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.