Pretty Messy Human

 Solo episode on why your fear doesn't show up when your dream is far away and why she gets the loudest she's ever been the second you're about to cross the finish line. i'm 27 weeks pregnant recording this with full pregnancy brain, so saddle up. we get into:– the book deal i almost talked myself out of– a real pregnancy update at 27 weeks (and the guilt i've been carrying around for actually loving it)– the lie about "geriatric pregnancy" and why the timeline is fake– why hiding your good thing doesn't help anyone — it just teaches the next woman the good thing doesn't exist– the truth about the ick you feel when somebody else is winning– how to tell the difference between fear talking and intuition talking– the one question that will end-run your fear every time– the chat gpt podcast i had to call out (you'll know who)if you're standing at your own finish line right now and suddenly inventing twelve reasons why now isn't the right time — congratulations. you're close. Let me talk to you about it. ---CHAPTERS00:00  27 weeks pregnant, pregnancy brain warning03:00  why i'm still whitney miller (for now)05:30  the pregnancy story you don't hear09:00  the "geriatric" pregnancy lie14:00  the guilt of having a good thing19:00  i was the girl judging the happy couples22:00  be a damn lighthouse25:00  your girl got a book deal28:00  how to pick the right team (publisher, agent, anyone)30:00  fear at the finish line33:00  fear is slippery and well-researched35:00  birth, boundaries, and the same fear37:00  her volume is your distance42:00  the chat gpt podcast that pissed me off45:00  AI wants to be human while we're losing being human---📖 PRETTY MESSY HUMAN: For People Tired Of Their Own BS — the book is officially happening. follow @prettymessyhumans & @whitnlove so you don't miss release info.🎧 new episodes weekly. follow / subscribe / leave a review — the single biggest thing you can do to support a small show trying to grow.💌 @prettymessyhumans on instagram, tiktok, everywhere#PrettyMessyHuman #FearAndDoubt #PregnancyPodcast #BookDeal #WomenInBusiness #SelfSabotage #SoloEpisodeFollow Whitney on IG: @whitnloveTikTok: @whitnlove

Rejection sucks. But for most people, rejection isn’t the real problem. Their relationship with rejection is.In this solo episode, I’m talking about why rejection hits so hard, why so many people build watered-down lives just to avoid hearing “no,” and how to stop letting rejection define you.I really believe, if you want anything meaningful in life, rejection is part of the deal. Relationships, business, creativity, putting yourself out there… all of it.The goal isn’t to avoid rejection. It’s to learn how to use itIn this episode I cover:Why rejection feels personalHow we attach rejection to our worthWhy fear of “no” keeps people smallHow to reframe rejection into feedbackHow to stop spiraling after setbacksUsing rejection to build confidenceWhy hearing no can actually prove you careHow to keep going when it sucksThis one is honest, edgy, and for anyone tired of letting rejection run their damn life! like me! Subscribe, share, like, comment...I love hearing from yall and it really does help the show more than anything else!Follow Whitney on IG: @whitnloveTikTok: @whitnlove

Ep 7: Want to write a book? You need to hear this no BS advice.In this episode, I sit down with a book coach and “book doula”Rea Frey, who has helped 500+ first-time authors land literary agents, score six-figure book deals, and hit #1 bestseller lists and she does not sugarcoat anything!After getting burned by her own bad publishing experience, she went all in on learning the industry from the inside out. Since then, she’s built a multiple six-figure business helping authors avoid the same mistakes and stop walking blindly into publishing.She’s also written eight traditionally published novels, has seen books win big, watched others flop, and knows exactly where people get it wrong.This is the real conversation most aspiring authors need before they waste time, money, and years. We get into:The real truth about writing a bookWhat nobody tells first-time authorsTraditional publishing vs self-publishingHow to know if your book idea is actually goodWhy some books blow up and others die quietlyHow to get a book dealThe mistakes that waste yearsWhat it really takes to finish and publish a bookIf you’ve been saying “I want to write a book someday”… this is your sign to get honest before diving headfirst. Pretty please subscribe, rate, comment, like! Work with Rea: https://www.reafrey.com/Follow Rea: https://www.instagram.com/reafreyauthor/Follow Whitney on IG: @whitnloveTikTok: @whitnlove

Part 1: Our favorite rock drummer, and unofficial therapist, Ryan Meyer is back for a real, unfiltered conversation about masculinity, identity, and why so many people feel disconnected right now.We get into what’s happening with young men. Like the lack of grounded role models, the influence of the Manosphere, and the pressure to figure out who they’re supposed to be in a world that keeps shifting. And … how that’s showing up in relationships.We talk about:- What healthy masculinity actually looks like- Why young men feel lost or confused right now- The rise of the Manosphere documentary (and why it’s gaining traction)- Relationship roles — and how they’ve changed- The disconnect between men and women today- Confidence vs ego vs emotional intelligence- Pregnancy, productivity, and the pressure to keep upThis isn’t about blaming men or women. It’s about understanding what’s missing and how we can actually show up better for ourselves and each other.If you’ve felt like something is off in dating, relationships, or just the way people are navigating life right now… this conversation will land.Subscribe, rate, commet to support and stay up to day on more real, unfiltered conversations on relationships, identity, and living like a pretty messy human.Follow Ryan Meyer: https://www.instagram.com/ryanmeyer/Follow Whitney on IG: @whitnloveTikTok: @whitnlove

I sat down with Michelle Waterson-Gomez — UFC fighter, mom, and someone who knows how to take a hit — to talk about what it actually means to be strong.Not the highlight reel version....We get into the real version.We talk about reinvention, identity shifts, motherhood, and how to keep going when life doesn’t slow down.Because the fight isn’t always in the cage. And that’s usually the harder part.Subscribe for more raw, unfiltered conversations on life, relationships, growth, and becoming a pretty messy human.Follow Michelle: https://www.instagram.com/karatehottiemma/Follow Whitney on IG: @whitnloveTikTok: @whitnlove

For most of my life I was pretty clear about one thing… I didn’t want kids.I wasn’t the girl dreaming about motherhood. I didn’t grow up around babies, and honestly I felt awkward around them. I just assumed my life would go in a completely different direction.And now… I’m pregnant.So in this solo episode I’m talking openly about what this experience has actually been like so far. The good, the weird, the emotional, and the things no one really prepares you for.We get into:• why I spent most of my life thinking I didn’t want kids • the mindset shift that surprised me the most • the gross and strange pregnancy symptoms nobody warns you about • why pregnancy can feel weirdly lonely even when you’re surrounded by support • why I decided to share my pregnancy earlier than most people do • my birth plan and how I’m preparing mentally and physically • the biggest realization pregnancy has shown me about lifeI’ve been calling pregnancy my “expander” because it feels like I’m meeting a new version of myself I didn’t even know existed.If you’re pregnant, thinking about becoming a parent, or just curious about what pregnancy actually feels like beyond the horror stories…this episode is for you.Follow Whitney on IG: @whitnloveTikTok: @whitnlove

If you’ve ever been told “everything looks normal” but you still feel like crap…this episode is for you. Sheeva is a Functional Medicine Practitioner and Brain Health specialist. We get into hormones, mold, ADHD, overtraining, nutrition, and why so many women feel like crap but can’t get answers. Follow Sheeva: @sheevawellnessFollow Whitney on IG: @whitnloveTikTok: @whitnlove

Whitneys husband Ryan Meyer — founding member & drummer of the Grammy nominated rock band Highly Suspect — chats with Whit on all the things no one sees: the ego hits, therapy, band life behind the scenes, emotional strength, and what actually makes a man ready for marriage.We get into dating, masculinity, mental health, rebuilding after success, secure love vs. chaos… and becoming parents.Follow Ryan on IG: @ryanmeyer Check out Highly Suspect for upcoming tour dates. Follow Whitney on IG: @whitnloveTikTok: @whitnlove

The bitch is back. And I’m ready to chat.Welcome to Pretty Messy Human After years of keeping parts of my life offline, this episode is the real catch-up. This is for anyone that has ever outgrown their life and is ready for some real change from someone who is still messing up along the way.  We get honest AF about the breakup, the silence, the identity spiral, the reinvention, and how my entire life flipped in a way I never saw coming.We’re talking about:– Why doubt is actually a green light – Starting messy instead of waiting to feel confident – The truth about open relationships  – Why “time heals” is crappy advice – Reinventing yourself in your 30s – Choosing a partner who expands your life instead of shrinking itWelcome to Pretty Messy Human. Spicy. Honest. Unfiltered. New episodes weekly.Follow Whitney on IG: @whitnlove Tik Tok: @whitnlove Follow Whitney on IG: @whitnloveTikTok: @whitnlove