Pursue Reality Podcast

In this episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, Lindsay sits down with Sally Jo and Katie for an honest conversation about friendship, vulnerability, sexuality, and following Jesus with truth and grace.Sally Jo shares what it was like to open up about her experience with same-sex attraction, and Katie reflects on how to respond as a friend without fear, pressure, or trying to “fix” someone. Together, they talk about the gift of being trusted with someone’s story, the importance of prayer, the role of the Holy Spirit, and what it looks like to point people to Jesus while loving them well.This conversation is for anyone who wants to be a better friend, navigate hard conversations with wisdom, and grow in a deeper, more honest community. Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, we dive into one of the most overlooked conversations in the church: the idolatry of marriage, sex, and relationships. What happens when we make marriage the ultimate goal instead of Jesus? How should Christians think about singleness, celibacy, intimacy, desire, and sexuality through a biblical lens?Connor sits down with Sally Jo and Katy for a raw, thoughtful, and deeply theological conversation about human sexuality, identity, and the gospel. Together, they unpack how marriage and singleness both point to Christ, why sexual desire itself isn’t something to fear, and how the church can begin having healthier, more honest conversations about intimacy and fulfillment.This episode challenges cultural assumptions, confronts unhealthy narratives inside the church, and ultimately points listeners back to the greatest love and deepest intimacy found in Jesus. Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this powerful and honest conversation, Pastor Connor sits down with Sally Jo and Katie Friesen to tackle one of the most challenging topics facing the Church today: how to stand for truth without losing love.From personal stories to years of ministry experience, Sally Jo and Katie unpack the reality that sexual brokenness isn’t a “them” issue—it’s an all of us reality. Together, they explore how followers of Jesus can navigate conversations around LGBTQ topics, identity, and sexuality with humility, clarity, and compassion.This episode doesn’t offer quick fixes or cookie-cutter answers. Instead, it invites you into the tension—the “dance” between truth and grace—and challenges you to walk alongside people in a real, messy, Spirit-led way.Whether you’re a parent, student, leader, or someone personally wrestling through these questions, this conversation will equip and encourage you to: Engage difficult conversations instead of avoiding them  Love people deeply without compromising biblical truth  Understand discipleship as a process, not a moment  Trust God in the middle of the mess and the unknown At the heart of it all: Jesus isn’t intimidated by brokenness—and neither should we be.🎧 Tune in and learn what it really looks like to stand for truth… in love.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In the final episode of the Big Words, Good God series, Pastor Lindsey, Pastor Connor, and Chris Laustsbaugh tackle a question many Christians wrestle with at some point in their faith: Can you lose your salvation?The conversation explores two historic perspectives held by faithful Christians throughout church history. One view suggests that while salvation cannot be accidentally lost, a person could deliberately reject their faith and walk away from Christ. The other view holds that true salvation is secure because those who are genuinely saved are sealed by the Holy Spirit and cannot ultimately fall away.Rather than trying to settle a centuries-old debate, the discussion focuses on what both views affirm: salvation is not fragile, God’s grace is bigger than our sin, and believers can live with confidence and assurance in Christ. The episode also addresses the spiritual battle believers face, reminding listeners that the enemy seeks to accuse and create doubt, while the truth of the gospel calls us to continually look to Jesus.Ultimately, the encouragement is simple: if you care about your faith and are still running toward Jesus—even after stumbling—you can rest in the confidence of God’s grace and keep pursuing Him.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

You are sanctified—and you are being sanctified.In this episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, Pastor Lindsey and Chris Lautsbaugh talk about one of the most important and often misunderstood words in the Christian life: sanctification. What does it mean to be made holy, and why does the Bible describe it as both something already true of us and something still happening?Together they explore the beautiful tension of the Christian life: in Christ, we are already made holy, and by the Spirit, we are still being changed. If you’ve ever felt discouraged by your lack of growth, this conversation will remind you that God’s grace doesn’t stop at salvation—it continues shaping you every step of the way.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

What if faith isn’t about having zero doubts—but about trusting Jesus even when you don’t have all the answers?Faith is one of the most common words Christians use—but also one of the hardest to define. In this episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, Pastor Lindsey and Chris Lautsbaugh unpack the biblical meaning of faith and explore why it’s much deeper than simply believing certain things are true.Is faith just mental certainty? Is it the absence of doubt? Is it blind belief? Or is it something else?In this conversation, they talk about:Why faith is more than intellectual agreementHow salvation has always been by faith—not by worksWhy Old Testament believers were also trusting in JesusHow faith can include questions, doubts, and struggleWhat it means to keep your loyalty anchored in Christ even when you don’t understand everythingIf you’ve ever worried that your faith isn’t “strong enough,” this episode is a comforting reminder that saving faith is not about having everything figured out. It’s about putting your trust in the One who does.Key Scripture: Romans 3:23–25 Ephesians 2:8–9 Hebrews 11Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, Lindsey, Connor, and Chris continue the “Big Words, Good News” series by tackling one of the most unfamiliar words in the Bible: propitiation. Drawing from Romans 3:25, they explain that propitiation means Jesus took upon himself the just wrath of God against sin through his sacrificial death on the cross.The conversation carefully unpacks what God’s wrath really means—not as God’s cruel or unstable anger, but as his holy justice and rightful response to evil. They explore why justice is actually part of God’s goodness, why sin must be dealt with, and why the cross is such stunningly good news: Jesus absorbed the punishment we deserved so that those in Christ are no longer under wrath.This episode also speaks tenderly to listeners who feel like God is still angry with them. Through the work of Christ, the punishment for sin has been satisfied, and believers can rest in the truth that God’s posture toward them is no longer wrath, but love. Propitiation is a big word, but it carries deeply personal hope: Jesus took our place so we could stand secure in grace.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

What does the Bible really mean when it says we are “redeemed”?In this episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, Pastor Lindsey and Chris Lautsbaugh unpack one of the richest words in the New Testament: redemption.In Romans 3:24 Paul says we are “justified by his grace as a gift through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus.” But redemption wasn’t just a spiritual idea—it came from the real-life world of the first century slave market.Understanding that context changes everything.That single phrase becomes a powerful picture of what Jesus has done for us.In this conversation you'll discover:Why the word redemption would have shocked Paul’s first readersThe historical background of redemption in the Roman worldWhat it means that Jesus didn’t just free us from sin—but adopted us into God’s familyWhy many Christians still live with a “slave mindset” even after being redeemedHow the gospel changes our motivation from fear and obligation to gratitude and belongingIf you’ve ever felt like your relationship with God depends on being a “good slave,” this episode is a powerful reminder:You weren’t redeemed to return to slavery. You were redeemed for freedom.Key Scripture: Romans 3:23–24 Galatians 5:1Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, Pastor Lindsey and Chris Lautsbaugh continue the “Big Words, Good News” series by unpacking the biblical word justification from Romans 3.Many Christians hear words like justified, righteous, and grace but struggle to explain what they actually mean. Using the imagery of a courtroom, Lindsey and Chris explore how justification is a legal declaration from God the Judge that we are righteous—not because of our own lives, but because the perfect life of Jesus is credited to us through faith.The conversation walks through the human reality of guilt, shame, and the fear of judgment, and explains the scandalous hope of the gospel: Jesus takes our place in the courtroom and his righteousness becomes our verdict. The final judgment is no longer a suspenseful trial—it has already been decided through Christ.This episode reminds listeners that justification is not just theological language—it is the good news that the verdict over our lives has already been declared: righteous in Christ.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

Grace is one of the most common words in the Christian faith — but do we really understand what it means?In this episode of our Big Words, Good News series, Pastor Lindsey and Chris Lautsbaugh unpack the deep and life-changing meaning of grace as described in Romans 3. While grace is a word many of us use regularly, Scripture reveals something far more radical than simple kindness or second chances.Together, they explore how grace is God’s free, undeserved, and unearned gift — given not after we prove ourselves, but at the very beginning of our relationship with Him.In this conversation, you’ll hear about:What the Bible actually means by graceWhy grace feels so difficult for humans to acceptHow Christianity differs from performance-based religionWhy grace isn’t an excuse to sin — but our greatest motivation for transformationMoving from relating to God as slaves trying to earn approval to sons and daughters living from acceptanceIf you’ve ever felt like you need to “pay God back” or prove yourself worthy of His love, this episode is a reminder that salvation was never something you could earn.Because grace isn’t a reward for good behavior — it’s the gift that changes everything.Subscribe and continue the journey with us as we unpack the big words of faith and discover why they truly are good news.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

Often we use a lot of “Bible words,” but if we’re honest, we don’t always know what they actually mean. Join us on a journey toward confidently understanding the words we read in Scripture.In this first episode of our Big Words, Good News series, Pastor Lindsey, Pastor Connor, and special guest Chris begin unpacking one of the most misunderstood — and often avoided — words in the Christian faith. Starting in Romans 3:23, the conversation explores why Scripture says all have sinned, what sin really is, and why understanding it honestly is essential to understanding the good news of Jesus.Together, they discuss:Why “sin” is more than just bad behaviorHow sin is connected to trust, autonomy, and relationship with GodThe tension between being made in God’s image and living in a broken worldWhy the doctrine of sin actually brings clarity — and hope — to our livesIf you’ve ever heard church language like sin, grace, or salvation and quietly wondered what those words really mean, this series is for you.Because before the good news makes sense… we have to understand the problem problem it answers.Subscribe and join us as we walk through the big words of faith — and discover why they truly are good news.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, Pastor Lindsey sits down with Pastor Connor and Pastor Joel to talk about the real power of God's voice and our need to listen. From sharing the incredible ways God has spoken to each of them in the past, to the rhythms in which God speaks to them uniquely, to the practices anyone can implement to tune your eat to the Lord. This conversation offers both encouragement and clarity for anyone longing to grow in spiritual discernment. Whether you feel distant from God, unsure of His direction, or simply want to deepen your relationship with Him, this episode invites you to slow down, create space, and learn how to recognize His voice in the midst of everyday life.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PALearn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this deeply honest episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, Pastor Lindsey sits down with David to talk openly about pornography, sexual addiction, and the quiet shame so many carry alone. From early exposure and secrecy to marriage, community, and real healing, David shares his story with courage and clarity.This conversation explores why “white-knuckling” rarely leads to freedom, how shame keeps us stuck, and why healing is most often found in honest community—not isolation. If you’ve ever told yourself “this is the last time,” this episode offers hope, wisdom, and a better way forward.Click here to join the Pure Desire Men's Group at our Hempfield Campus.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this deeply moving episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, Pastor Lindsey sits down with Leonard and Cheryl to share their story of pornography, addiction, secrecy, betrayal, and the road to healing. After more than forty years of hidden addiction, a moment of disclosure changed everything—and opened the door to truth, repentance, and unexpected grace.Together, Leonard and Cheryl talk honestly about shame, broken trust, forgiveness, boundaries, recovery, and how God met them in the aftermath of betrayal. This episode offers hope for those walking through addiction, for spouses who feel blindsided and wounded, and for anyone wondering if real healing is possible after years of secrecy. Click here to join the Pure Desire Men's Group at our Hempfield Campus.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

Desire can feel confusing — even dangerous — but what if it’s actually revealing something important about your heart?In this sermon follow-up conversation, Pastor Joe and Pastor Lindsey explore how desire points to deeper longings beneath the surface. They talk honestly about everyday desires, sinful desires, and the tension between growth and self-condemnation. Instead of shaming desire or ignoring it, this episode invites listeners to approach their longings with curiosity, grace, and openness to God’s transforming work.If you’ve ever wondered what your desires say about you — and how God meets you there — this conversation matters.Listen to the full Sunday sermon here.Sign-up for the Pure Desire Men's Group here.Book Suggestion: Unwanted by Jay StringerLearn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this bonus “after the message” episode, Pastors Lindsey and Joe continue the conversation from Sunday’s Advent sermon on Peace Instead of Chaos. They unpack what it means to be a “chaos creator,” what it’s like to live with one, and why so many men resonated deeply with the idea of inner chaos. Together they talk about safety in relationships, the connection between emotional and sexual intimacy in marriage, and why real change is usually slow, messy, and shaped in community. You’ll hear honest stories, practical questions like “What would love require of me?” and encouragement to get help instead of giving up. They end by pointing us back to the gospel—grace for chaos creators and receivers—and inviting us to pray for and invite others to encounter Jesus this Christmas.Watch Pastor Joe's full sermon, "Moving from Chaos to Peace" here.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

Christmas is full people and gatherings—yet so many of us feel alone. Pastor Lindsey sits down with coaches and therapists Brad and Kate Aldrich to name what loneliness really is, how grief impacts this season, and why comfort is not the enemy. Together they offer practical steps and hope for navigating these realities in the Christmas season. Whether you’re navigating loss (death, divorce, distance) or just feeling unseen in a crowded season, this conversation brings language, kindness, and next steps toward real connection.Resources Mentioned:🎧 Still Becoming One Podcast  (Apple or Spotify)Aldrich Ministries - Brad & Kate's services and resourcesBook: Atlas of the Heart by Brene BrownLearn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

The holidays are meant to be joyful—but let’s be honest, family gatherings can also be complicated. In this episode, Pastor Lindsey sits down with Brad and Kate Aldrich—licensed therapists, coaches, and mental health professionals—to talk about navigating those tricky family dynamics that surface during Christmas.Together, they unpack why old tensions resurface, how to set healthy boundaries (and when to simply take a bathroom break!), and how grief, expectations, and family history shape our experiences around the table. Whether you’re dreading an awkward dinner or hoping to build new traditions with grace, this conversation offers wisdom, humor, and hope for finding peace and connection in the midst of it all.Resources Mentioned:Download the Reality Church Advent Guide🎧 Still Becoming One Podcast  (Apple or Spotify)Aldrich Ministries - Brad & Kate's services and resourcesLearn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

 In this Christmas conversation, Pastors Lindsey, Joe, and Joel sit down to share both the joy and the real challenges we face during the holiday season. From overspending to overcommitting to overlooking what matters most, they unpack the three most common mistakes we all make—and how to choose a more meaningful, peaceful, Christ-centered Christmas instead. Filled with personal stories, practical wisdom, and pastoral insight, this episode will help you enter Advent with intention, create space for what truly matters, and keep Jesus and loving people at the heart of the season.Download the Reality Church Advent Guide HereLearn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

Advent is more than counting down the days to Christmas—it’s an ancient rhythm of hope, peace, joy, and love that has shaped Christians for centuries. In this episode, Pastor Lindsey invites you to rediscover the beauty and meaning of Advent, and how engaging a simple traditions can help you slow down and center your heart on Jesus. You’ll also hear how to start your own Advent practice at home, and why joining the tradition of God’s family through the ages can bring life and meaning to your Christmas season.Download the Reality Church Advent Guide Here. Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

Secrecy might be the discipline we talk about the least—but need the most. In this episode, Pastors Lindsey and Connor dive into Jesus’ invitation to practice good works without applause or performance. They identify the warning signs of craving recognition, unpack how hidden obedience purifies our motives, and show how secrecy creates room for humility, freedom, and true intimacy with God. This episode will open up a whole new way of walking with Him that purifies our hidden desires and deepens our relationship with Jesus.Resources:You can hear Pastor Connor's Sunday sermon on Spiritual Disciplines here.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In the finale of our Spiritual Disciplines series, Pastor Lindsey sits down with Pastor Joe and Danielle to unpack the discipline of service—an outward practice that forms our inner life. Starting with Jesus’ words in Mark 10:42–45, they reframe greatness as giving away power in love, offering a counter-cultural path that resists recognition and reshapes the heart.They talk candidly about seasons of life (when serving feels hidden or thankless), the difference between “helping” and Christlike service, and how to cultivate a posture of generosity with our time, energy, gifts, and skills—often in ways no one sees.An Idea to Get Started:Pair service with your real life this week—do one unseen and generous act of love. Start by praying,“Jesus, make me aware of where you are serving today—and let me join You there.”  Listen and look to where He might invite you to join him in service as your day and week unfolds. Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Celebration of Discipline by Richard FosterThe Spirit of the Disciplines by Dallas WillardSacred Rhythms by Ruth Haley BartonLearn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, Pastor Lindsey sits down with Pastor Joe and Danielle to talk about the often-overlooked discipline of silence and solitude. Together, they unpack what it means to step away from the noise, hurry, and constant input of everyday life to rest in the quiet presence of God.They discuss the biblical roots of this practice—from Jesus withdrawing to lonely places, to the ways saints throughout history have sought stillness with God—and share how it’s shaped their own spiritual journeys. You’ll hear honest reflections about why silence can feel intimidating, how it confronts our inner noise, and why it might actually feel harder before it feels peaceful.Whether you’re just beginning or looking to deepen this rhythm, this conversation offers practical ways to start: pairing silence with daily activities, setting aside short moments of stillness, and trusting that God is working even when you can’t feel it.Mentioned in this episode:Book: Invitation to Silence and Solitude by Ruth Haley BartonQuote: “Silence and solitude is not about doing nothing—it’s about creating space to be with the One who does the transforming.” — Dallas WillardLearn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this honest, hope-filled episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, Pastor Lindsey sits down with Worship Pastors Calvin and Ezra to unpack two practices that belong together: confession and worship. They discuss why ongoing confession is a grace-filled discipline for people who are already forgiven, and share how bringing sin into the light leads to healing, freedom, and deeper community.From small-group moments of courageous honesty to the weekly rhythms that keep our hearts tender, the conversation shows how confession doesn’t push us away from God—it draws us near to the reality of His presence. You’ll come away with practical next steps for confessing to God and trusted friends, and a renewed vision for living a life of worship that reshapes your desires and strengthens your joy. The episode closes with a moving benediction from the book, Every Moment Holy.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this joyful episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, Pastor Lindsey sits down with Pastors Mike and Calvin to talk about a spiritual practice that might surprise you—celebration. Together they explore how God not only allows but commands His people to celebrate, feast, and remember His goodness. The conversation dives into the biblical roots of celebration, why gratitude is at its core, and how shared joy strengthens families and church communities.From feasts in the Old Testament to family “waffle days” and church barbecues, this episode paints a picture of what it looks like to intentionally practice joy—even in a world full of sorrow. You’ll come away inspired to mark moments of God’s faithfulness, celebrate with others, and remember that joy is not a distraction from reality—it’s a declaration of hope.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, we explore the spiritual disciplines around Scripture—both meditation and study. Too often, we either rush through reading the Bible or approach it only for information. But God invites us into something deeper through two wonderful spiritual disciplines around scripture. Meditation, a slowing down, listening, and allowing His Word to shape our hearts and transform our lives.  Study, slowing down to understand and learn the meaning of this ancient text so that it shapes and transforms our lives. Whether you’re new to engaging the Bible or looking to grow in your practices, this conversation will equip you to encounter God’s Word in a richer, more life-giving way.Mentioned in this Episode:The Bible Project Videos on YoutubeThe Bible Project Website for Free Tools & CoursesBlue Letter Bible Resource WebsiteLearn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, Pastor Lindsey sits down with Pastors Joe and Joel to explore the gift of Sabbath. Together they unpack why Sabbath is more than just a day off—it’s an invitation to stop, rest, delight, and trust God in a culture of constant busyness. The conversation dives into biblical foundations, personal stories, and practical ways to rediscover Sabbath as a life-giving rhythm that brings freedom, joy, and deeper intimacy with God.Mentioned in this Episode:Book:Common Prayer Pocket Edition - Shane Claiborne & Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove(Final prayer that was read was taken from this book of prayer)Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, Pastor Lindsey sits down with Pastors Joe and Calvin to talk about the spiritual discipline of prayer. They share honest stories, name some of the struggles we all face, and offer simple, practical ways to make prayer part of everyday life—like using Bible apps or praying through the Psalms. Together they remind us that prayer isn’t about following a rigid formula, but about walking with God in real relationship. You’ll leave encouraged to take small, doable steps toward a deeper and more authentic prayer life.Mentioned in this Episode:Books:Celebration of Discipline by Richard FosterWith: Reimagining the Way You Relate to God by Skye JethaniPrayer App:Lectio 360 by 24-7 Prayer (only available on iPhones)Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, Pastor Calvin and his wife Jacqlene get real about the spiritual discipline of simplicity. They share personal stories of cutting back on stuff, dialing down distractions, and making more room for God, family, and community. It’s an honest, practical conversation about how less really can be more—more peace, more gratitude, and deeper connections. You’ll walk away challenged to take a fresh look at your own rhythms, push back against cultural pressure to always have more, and discover how simplicity can open the door to a fuller, freer life with God and others.Mentioned in this Episode:Podcast: Fight Hustle, End Hurry by John Mark Comer & Jefferson BethkeApple Podcasts || Spotify PodcastsBooks: To Hell With the Hustle by Jefferson BethkeThe Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark ComerLearn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

Money and church—it’s a topic that can feel awkward, confusing, or even taboo. In this episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, Lindsay sits down with Lead Pastor Joe and Executive Pastor Mike to discuss why we talk about money on Sundays and beyond.If you’ve ever wondered why churches talk about money or if it is even healthy to do so, we hope this conversation helps you understand our approach and heart on this important topic.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this episode of the Pursue Reality Podcast, pastors Lindsey, Calvin, and Danielle dive into one of the most tender and often misunderstood topics in the church today: healing from church hurt and spiritual abuse. Together they unpack what these terms really mean, share their own honest experiences, and offer wisdom for anyone wondering if they can ever trust a church community again.Rather than rushing past the pain, the conversation highlights the slow, grace-filled journey of recovery—emphasizing the need for patience, supportive community, and spaces where questions and doubts are safe. With both empathy and practical guidance, this episode points listeners toward hope and renewal, reminding us that even after being wounded by leaders or systems, it is possible to experience restoration, healthy relationships, and a fresh vision for faith.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

At some point, almost everyone struggles with feeling like an outsider in your local church. It can be when you first join or it can last for years. Pastors Calvin, Connor and Lindsey share personal stories, address emotional barriers to belonging, and offer practical advice—like taking initiative, embracing vulnerability, and serving others—to help listeners build authentic community. While churches can create welcoming environments, we actually play the key role in forming connections. That is actually good news for all of us. We hope you are encouraged to take intentional steps and trust that genuine belonging is possible.Resources Mentioned in this PodcastThe Art of Community: 7 Principals for Belonging by Charles VoglLearn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

When do you stay and when do you know it's time to move on from your local church? In this episode we discuss how to discern when it’s time to move on, the different reasons we might be consider leaving and how to exit well with honesty, grace, and open communication. Almost every Christian has asked this question yet we don't talk about it enough. Join us in an honest and, hopefully, helpful conversation. Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this episode, we talk about what it really means to move from just showing up at church to truly feeling like you belong. We share honestly about the challenges of building community in a culture that often treats church like a product or event, and why commitment, vulnerability, and taking initiative matter so much. Whether you’re brand new or have been around for years, you’ll find practical encouragement and real-life ideas for getting connected. We also take time to talk about healing from past church hurt, and we want you to know—it’s okay to take steps at your own pace. True belonging is built over time, through intentional relationships, serving together, and trusting God to guide the journey.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

In this episode of the New Reality Podcast, Lindsay, Danielle, and Mike from Reality Church discuss how to choose, engage with, and belong to a local church. They share personal experiences, practical advice, and address common challenges like finding community, balancing doctrine with preferences, and moving from passive attendance to active involvement. Emphasizing the importance of belonging, realistic expectations, and service, they encourage listeners to prayerfully explore, engage, and commit to a church where they can grow in faith and community. This episode offers insights for anyone seeking a church home.Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

This episode of the Pursuit Reality Podcast is part of a special series from the Women in Mental Health seminar at Reality Church in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. This session helps us engage God's presence, emotional engagement, and strength in hard seasons.  Highlighting the critical role of community and relationships in mental well-being, you will be encouraged to embrace vulnerability and connection for healing and support.In this episode:Intersection of faith and mental healthTheme of suffering and its various forms (trauma, grief, mental illness)Understanding the concept of God as a shepherdImportance of God's presence and emotional engagementRole of scripture in providing sustenance during difficult timesSignificance of community and relationships in mental well-beingFacing the realities of loneliness and isolation in our livesEncouragement to embrace vulnerability and seek support from othersUnderstanding how scripture shows us God's care and understanding of human painPractices for fostering connections and reflecting on God's presenceTo find out more about Reality Church in Lancaster, Pa go to: www.pursuereality.orgLearn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

The stories of our past shape who we are, yet we often leave them untold, misunderstood, or ignored. By avoiding these stories, we miss the opportunity to truly understand our present and step into the future with purpose and freedom. In this breakout episode, you’ll learn how to engage your past with curiosity and compassion, unlocking the transformative power hidden within your story. Led by Kate Aldrich, a compassionate guide trained through the Allender Center, this workshop will equip you to embrace your story and live with deeper connection and renewed hope.In this episode:Explore the concept of "story work" and its role in personal healing and understanding.Importance of examining personal life stories, particularly childhood experiences.Distinction between "big T" trauma and "little t" trauma.Impact of family dynamics on personal development and emotional responses.Balancing honor and honesty when reflecting on past experiences.Common tendency to minimize personal narratives and the validity of individual experiences.The significance of storytelling as a means of expressing genuine experiences.Challenges of processing childhood trauma and its effects on self-perception and relationships.The role of self-care and emotional needs in navigating personal history.To find out more about Reality Church in Lancaster, PA go to: www.pursuereality.orgLearn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

Day-to-day challenges can be hard but many of us have lived through bigger events. These traumas can deeply impact every aspect of our life or those we love; influencing emotions, physical well-being, relationships, and faith. In this break-out session, we learn how to recognize trauma's effects and discover practical, compassionate steps toward healing and restoration. This episode was taken from a break-out session at our Women & Mental Health Seminar. While the seminar was for women, the content applies to all people - both men and women! This session is taught by Dr. Stephanie Van Deusen, an expert in helping people heal from trauma and its effects. She is a licensed therapist and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (SEP) with over 25 years of experience in the field of mental health and trauma.  In this episode:Understanding the nature and impact of trauma on individuals, particularly women.The importance of safety when discussing trauma and healing from it.Exploring the effects of trauma on relationships and attachment styles.Identifying triggers and understanding trauma responses, including fight, flight, or freeze reactions.The concept of trauma as an "invisible wound" and its implications for self-perception and personal development.The role of social accommodation and people-pleasing behaviors in relation to trauma.The significance of connection and community in the healing process.Encouraging self-reflection and the sharing of personal narratives to facilitate healing.Envisioning a future beyond trauma and the importance of passing on healing to future generations.To find out more about Reality Church in Lancaster, PA go to: www.pursuereality.orgLearn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

Anxiety has a way of weaving itself into our daily lives, often feeling unavoidable or even normal. But what if life could be different? In this breakout session, you'll discover practical tools and meaningful insights to understand and manage the anxiety you experience. Led by Brad Aldrich—a licensed professional therapist and co-founder of Aldrich Ministries—this session will equip you with hope, courage, and a clear path toward peace. This episode was taken from a break-out session at our Women & Mental Health Seminar. While the seminar was for women, the content applies to all people - both men and women!In this episode:Understanding and navigating anxietyEmotional components and manifestations of anxietyDifferentiating between worry, dread, and fearThe role of the brain in anxiety (prefrontal cortex vs. amygdala)Strategies for recognizing and managing anxietyGrounding techniques to alleviate anxiety symptomsThe importance of self-affirmation and present-moment awarenessWhen to seek professional help for anxietyThe impact of anxiety on relationships and personal narrativesTo find out more about Reality Church in Lancaster, PA go to: www.pursuereality.orgLearn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

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Like what you heard?Check out Marriage & Family Therapist Brad Aldrich and Relationship Coach Kate Aldrich on their podcast "Still Becoming One," on all streaming platforms for more! Learn More About Reality Church: www.pursuereality.orgFollow Reality Church:InstagramFacebookYouTubeJoin Us In Person in Lancaster County, PA

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