RAW with J

You are not broken. You are rebuilding. And what if the loneliest, hardest season of your life is the very thing that hands you your purpose?In this episode of Raw with J, I do something I have never done before. No guest, no co-host, just me, straight to the camera, telling bits of my story for the first time.I am Jacintha, though most people call me J. I am a family and child counsellor, art therapist, play therapist and kids yoga teacher, and the founder of Happy Souls Kids. But before any of that, I was a little girl who stopped smiling, a woman who spent fifteen years in an abusive relationship, and a single mum who hit rock bottom and then went lower. This is the story of how I found my way back to myself.Together, I take you through the moments that shaped me: the secret meditation teacher who handed me a pencil when I had no words, the decision to get sober that no one around me understood, the brutal separation during COVID, the thousands of people who walked away, and the offhand moment ("LeBron James meditates") that became Happy Souls Kids.In this episode I cover:How turning to sugar and then alcohol became the way I suppressed emotions I was never taught to feel. What fifteen years in an abusive relationship taught me about self-worth and the questions I had been asking all wrong. The day my body said, "This isn't you anymore", ten years of sobriety began. Why separation, divorce and single motherhood are impossible to understand until you live them, and how little support single parents really receive. Why I trained as a child counsellor and art therapist, and how I used every modality on my own son. The birth of Happy Souls Kids and the mission to give kids the tools we were never given. Friendship circles, the people who vanish when you can no longer be useful to them, and learning that there is no greater power than standing on your own two feet. How to actually show up for someone in trauma, even when you are not good with the feelings.Connect with me:Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/jacinthafieldTikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/jacinthafieldYouTube → https://www.youtube.com/rawwithjLinkedin →⁠ https://www.linkedin.com/in/jacinthafield/Connect with Happy Souls Kids:Instagram → ⁠https://www.instagram.com/happysoulskids⁠TikTok → ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/happysoulskidsYouTube →⁠ https://www.youtube.com/happysoulskidsLinkedin →⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/happysoulskidsRAW with J is the podcast that has the conversations that matter. Real, raw and honest conversations about parenting, children's wellbeing, education and everything in between. If this episode made you feel seen, hit follow so you never miss a conversation.CHAPTERS00:00 Given to someone else on a silver platter00:25 My first-ever solo episode00:56 The girl who stopped smiling01:13 Sugar, suppression and "you'll be right"01:42 15 years in an abusive relationship02:23 The meditation teacher who told me to draw02:56 Brené Brown, Oprah and the start of healing03:18 Pregnancy as an unexpected gift04:53 The night my body said "this isn't you"05:52 10 years sober06:49 Separation, COVID and rock bottom08:03 Glennon Doyle and painting the house08:44 Pulled over with nowhere to live09:21 Healing at the beach10:21 Fighting for what I wanted12:05 Four years of solo driving12:45 Thousands of people walking away14:12 Why I trained as a child counsellor15:48 The slime lady16:49 "LeBron James meditates": the birth of Happy Souls Kids19:40 Betrayal in the wellness industry20:02 My real gift: the repair22:56 Chasing stability24:12 Fired after two weeks for being a single mum25:21 What single parents carry26:40 Friendship circles: who belongs29:50 The friends who vanish31:46 How to show up for someone in trauma33:07 What do YOU need?33:52 Happy Souls Kids and sign-offLLG, Jxo

You are not failing your child. And your child is not a bad kid. What if the behaviour that is driving you to your absolute limit is actually your child's way of telling you something they do not yet have the words for?In this episode of Raw With J, I sit down with Karen Young, psychologist, children's author and the brilliant mind behind Hey Sigmund, to have one of the warmest and most practically useful conversations I have ever had on this podcast.Karen has spent her career helping children, parents and schools understand anxiety, big feelings and behaviour in a way that is deeply human, completely accessible and immediately actionable. Her books including Hey Warrior, But We Are Not Lions and Dear You: Love From Your Brain have helped millions of families around the world navigate some of the hardest moments of childhood.Together we unpack why your child's behaviour is never about you, what anxiety in children really is and how the smallest shifts in the way we show up for our children can change absolutely everything.In this episode we cover:Why child behaviour is always communication and what your child is really trying to tell youHow mindful parenting and conscious parenting starts with being radically compassionate with yourselfWhat anxiety in children actually is and why we need to stop treating it like something to fixPractical parenting tips for helping anxious kids feel bigger than their anxietyWhy child psychology tells us co-regulation is the only way children truly learn to self regulateHow child development and early experiences shape the way we show up as parents for our own childrenWhat teen mental health really needs and why shared family spaces matter more than we realiseWhy parenting strategies like repair and accountability are more powerful than getting it right every timeConnect with me: Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/jacinthafield Happy Souls Kids → https://www.happysoulskids.com/Connect with Karen Young: Website & Books → https://heysigmund.com/shop/ Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/karenyoung_heysigmund/Raw with J is the podcast that has the conversations that matter. Real, raw and honest conversations about parenting, children's wellbeing, education and everything in between. If this episode made you feel seen as a parent, hit follow so you never miss a conversation.

What if someone had already invented the technology to keep your kids safe online and nobody in power was listening?In this episode of Raw With J, I talk to Ric Richardson, the extraordinary Australian inventor known as the man who sued Microsoft and won, to have one of the most important and urgent conversations I have ever recorded.If you are a parent trying to navigate the digital world with your children, trying to understand what is really happening on platforms like Roblox, Instagram and Snapchat, or wondering why the Australian government still hasn't done enough to protect our kids online, this episode is for you.  Ric invented software activation technology in 1992, the system now used by every major software company in the world. His patent was worth half a billion dollars by 2012. He is now turning that same brilliant inventor's mind to the most urgent problem facing families today and he already has the solution. The question is why is nobody implementing it.This is not just a conversation about technology. This is a call to action for every parent, every government and every social media platform that is currently failing our children.In this episode we cover:How Ric invented software activation technology in 1992 and took on Microsoft and wonWhat digital safety actually looks like in practice and why current measures are failing our kidsWhat SafeGen is and how it definitively solves the problem of online grooming and protecting kids onlineWhy Roblox predators and online predators are a far bigger problem than most parents realiseWhy social media regulation in Australia is stuck in a cycle of blame shifting and inactionWhat online grooming actually looks like and how predators are targeting children right nowWhat the Australian government needs to do right now to protect child safety onlineWhy kids and social media is one of the most urgent conversations parents need to be havingHow kids screen time and online safety are connected If this episode made you angry, made you emotional or made you more determined to fight for our kids please subscribe, like and share it with every parent you know. It helps more families find conversations like this.Connect with me: Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/jacinthafield Happy Souls Kids → https://www.happysoulskids.com/Connect with Ric & SafeGen: SafeGen Website → https://www.safegen.com.au/ SafeGen Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/safegen123/ Ric's Website → https://ricrichardson.com/

What if everything you were told about yourself was wrong? And what if the way you show up in your relationships, your patterns, your people pleasing and your self doubt all lead back to one place: your childhood?In this episode of Raw With J, I sit down with Dr Nicole LePera, world renowned psychologist and the mastermind behind The Holistic Psychologist, to have one of the most profound and personal conversations I have ever had on this podcast.Together we go deep into the wounds that childhood leaves behind, why your nervous system is still running patterns that were formed before you even had language, and what it actually takes to come home to yourself after years of gaslighting, enmeshment and emotional survival.This conversation is raw, deeply personal and at times confronting. But it is also one of the most healing and empowering episodes I have ever recorded. If you have ever doubted yourself, struggled to set boundaries, wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns or felt like you were never truly seen,  this one is for you.In this episode we cover:What inner child healing actually means and why reparenting inner child is the foundation of all emotional healing and trauma healingHow childhood trauma and healing childhood trauma explains people pleasing, overachieving and emotional shutdown in adulthoodWhat attachment styles really are, the difference between anxious attachment and avoidant attachment and why we repeat the same patterns in every relationshipWhat an enmeshed family is and why setting boundaries in a toxic relationship feels so impossibly hardWhy setting boundaries is so often met with accusations of abandonment and what your nervous system healing journey actually looks likeSmear campaign narcissist, covert narcissism and psychology of narcissism explained — why the person often genuinely believes their version of eventsGaslighting explained — what it really is, how emotional dysregulation and manipulation destroy self trust over timeNarcissistic abuse recovery and why your self healing journey requires more than just awareness to create real changeWhat limerence is and how childhood trauma and trauma response follow us into our adult toxic relationshipsThe difference between intuition and a trauma response and how nervous system regulation helps you learn to trust yourself againHow reparenting yourself and nervous system healing through emotional healing can help you reclaim your sense of selfConnect with me: Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/jacinthafield Happy Souls Kids → https://www.happysoulskids.com/Connect with Dr Nicole LePera: Website & all social media platforms → https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/ Self Healer Circle → https://www.selfhealercircle.com/Mentioned in this episode:Reparenting the Inner Child by Dr Nicole LePera: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/books/reparenting-the-inner-child/Raw with J is the podcast that has the conversations that matter. Real, raw and honest conversations about parenting, children's wellbeing, relationships and everything in between. If this episode resonated with you, hit follow so you never miss a conversation.