Reflections of Evelyn
by Evelyn Slater-Shew
This show is for real people who feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or confused by modern life. Through honest, no-filter stories and reflections, I talk through real experiences, relationships, and the things we are all quietly thinking about. The goal is not to tell you what to do, but to help you feel less alone, think for yourself, and move through life with more clarity and confidence.
Episodes
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Understanding Avoidance: What It Looks Like And How To Manage And Readjust
Sometimes you just gotta just put your foot down and adjust your life to accommodate what is actually important to you. Sometimes that looks like saying no when you know you need something more. You are not asking too much. Asking “too much” often means you are with the wrong person or the wrong...
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Morro Rock Adventures: A Restful Farewell To My Marriage
I ended up going back to SLO for work and got to enjoy another trip to The Madonna Inn. That $60 actually included an appetizer I forgot about so I feel like I came out ahead. Shout out to my bartender, she makes the entire experience. I met some fun characters at the bar and was reminded that…
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Reframing the Narrative/Politics in Entertainment/Existential Nostalgia/Retroactive Developmental Regret/The Illusion of Readiness
I had to screenshot these concepts “one million times" on my phone to make sure it was fully implanted in my brain and please save this episode for your records so that you may too feel some relief. These concepts are beyond fascinating to me and really are helping me get through my own...
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How To Take Care Of Yourself
I have figured something out in the “Game Of Life” I have going on with the universe & how they operate with me. I don’t understand why it needs to be this way but it is the relationship I have with the world around me. Maybe if I was bleeding out on the floor & couldn’t walk, maybe he would send...
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Apple, T-Mobile, G-mail, Chase Bank, Amazon, State Farm: Never Give Up, NEVER Surrender! Also…Don’t Let The Bastards Grind You Down
Less than one month after my car accident and my bumper was “replaced”, it is now starting to come off again. You would think $1500 would be enough to fix the problem. Just goes to show you an important lesson. You want something to get done right, you gotta do it yourself! I should have stuck to...
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Cannabis: An Honest Conversation With A Friend
I love my friends so much, and this guy in particular has a special place in my heart because I have known him for almost a decade now. We lived together as roommates during a big transition in our lives, and we even met working together. He and I are cut from similar cloths, both crazy and both...
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Space Pioneers Talk About Science, Religion, Mathematics, Philosophy, And Life
My pops and I headed up to Northern California for my cousin's wedding and this is what we do. We talk about everything. Two different generations talking here. The only times I get to really sit down and talk to my dad is our road trips up north for Thanksgiving, special events, and fathers day....
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This Damsel Is Not In Distress: Trafficking On Ocean Blvd
In October of my birthday month, two years after recovering from my first home invasion, I spent a long time afterwards reaching out to the State Assembly, my cities Prosecutors Office, on record with a judge & two attorneys, consumer affairs, BBB…and the one thing they all had in common was,...
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Forge Your Own Path
I want to send a special shout out to a dear friend and loved one who I recently connected with from high school and share some of the love and support she has given me since we have reconnected. It is so lovely to have her as my gal pal from Chicago and wanted to pass along her instagram page if...
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Psychopaths, Society and Culture
In this week's episode we will talk about what projection sounds like, trauma responses, stress, and mental recovery for some. We are ranging from topics of cyber abuse, corruption in hospitals, and even writing checks to the FBI! This episode has it all. I hope this episode gives you some peace...
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Health Care In America…Yikes!
Nuff said honestly. Support and love here! buymeacoffee.com/ProducerEvelyn &...
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Trusting The Process: You Try, You “Fail”. You Try, You “Fail”; And Then You Keep Trying
It took him two weeks to hop back on the apps and start “dating” again, distracting him from his mission but that is a part of his journey. He had to gain confidence in himself that can’t be taught from another person. He could never trust that I wasn’t talking to other guys. For me, dating is...
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Unconditional Love: A love Note For Guido & Claudia (Federico Fellini’s 8½)
This week's episode will be a part of a two week series on relationships & the many forms it takes in our hearts, brain & stomach. For the last almost six years, I have been what you kids like to call, “No Contact”. He is not dead, he can reach out to me any time, but he is on his own journey and...
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Playa Del Carmen, Tulum, Chichén Itzá, and Cancún (Part 2)
This week's episode concludes the first season of Reflections Of Evelyn! Whoohoo! I am beyond grateful to each & every one of you who engaged and listened from all over the world. It truly is an honor to be a part of this journey with you. Like most of you, we have no idea where our lives will…
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Playa Del Carmen, Tulum, Chichén Itzá, and Cancún (Part 1)
You really don’t know anything until you travel and see/experience it for yourself. Just know, you take all your issues and baggage with you too. I was very envious for many years of some of my family members who got to travel to many countries with my favorite cousins and I was always left out....
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Maybe It Will Be Okay. Maybe.
I had some pre-flight and travel jitters when trying to prepare for my flight to Cancún, Mexico with a connecting flight from Leon. Wherever that was. My last big trip out of the country was in 2019 when I went to Egypt and a lot has changed since then for me. I had to trust a neighbor with my...
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SEX, Politics, Religion, and Conspiracy Theories…
…you know, all the stuff you “shouldn’t talk about” insert grinch gif Movie mentioned in this episode “Lord Of War” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AXgyoER0aRc ^Because who doesn’t love Nicolas Cage right? I swear a version of this movie is completely true. …The word I could not remember when...
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It’s All In Your Head! Chill Out!! Labels!!!
We are finishing up our Road Trip to Fresno. If you didn’t catch the last episode, “What Is A Predator?” make sure to check that one out before continuing with this one. This morning, the dude I recently started dating, bought me a breakfast burrito because I bought him a special meal last night...
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What Is A Predator? Religion, Adolescence, and Coming Of Age
When I was in junior high, I had a best friend at the time who gave me my very first girl kiss in the jacuzzi of her hot tub and later she broke it off as friends because I guess she thought I was too religious and wouldn’t understand or accept her, but hey, I was there for it. And one day, her…
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Avoidance + Communication = Clarity & Relief
Recently, I received a very big gift, or one I thought was very big as it was consuming my mind a little bit and making me anxious. My sliding glass door and screen was a bit old school and would not lock or shut properly allowing flies to come in and with Long Beach, you never know who wants to...
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TAKE ME TO PROM, Dang Nabbit!
I went to prom the other day, fine, okay, I was working one and I could not get over how much older I felt and so ‘mom’ like when I saw all these girls dressed up and ready to have some fun and all I wanted to do was make sure they were safe and well taken care of. My friend made a comment to me,...
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It Is Not Your “Job” To Be A Good Person. Be A Good One Anyways.
Here are some of my new favorite quotes I recently discovered to help you get through your day. Read 'em and weep! Which one shakes you to your core? Does it change/help your life? Read these very slowly. In your head once, and out loud once. Boom. You are welcome. You can also commit injustice…
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Nothing Is Truly Yours: The System Is Down, The System Is Down, The System Is Down
Recently, a guy bought two Airtags off me, replaced the batteries, and said, "You just have to unpair them.” Insert spiral. I told him they were probably paired to a device that had been stolen years ago. Whoever still has that stolen phone controls the tags forever because Apple refuses to help…
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Sex Education and Condoms. Safety First!
Say condoms one more time in this episode Evelyn and this will become a drinking game. Ha! The girls at the front desk kept saying, “You know you can go to free health clinics to find free condoms right?” And I said, "I ain't trying to attract no small penises in my life anymore”. And what am I...
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Pond Scum, Tadpoles and Baboons: The Evolution of Dating and Romantic Feelings. With Special Guest: Joseph Nochebuena
Until you reach your goal of a secure and confident attachment style, if that is your goal, you still feel the crushing pain of break-ups, situationships, and the all knowing and famous, “it’s complicated”. It does not matter if you break up with them or them you, it is still agonizing in…
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San Luis Obispo, Solvang, and Santa Barbra, Oh My!
Today I went on a road trip and journey, LITERALLY! Life will always have never ending struggles and challenges along your journey, but how you approach them and react to them gets easier over time by putting in the HARD work. Whatever that looks like for you. No one said it would be fun and…
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You Are Not Alone. Period. End of Sentence.
Everyone has a bad day. Or two. Or three. It’s “fun” when you can get to a point where the pain only lasts a couple of hours because of your growth and you are able to hold on much easier. Whether it is music, a therapist, your favorite sport, treating yourself to a yummy sausage breakfast…
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SOCIAL MEDIA! …And the “Internet”
If “words” are too much right now, just look below for some very helpful and inspiring quotes that very eloquently describe this episode, perfectly. I must say, I am particularly proud of this episode. The more you know, the more at peace you feel with your decisions. Knowledge is in your power…
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Ernie Maxwell Scenic Trail: Capitalism, Relationship Dynamics, and Solitude
Life can be full of wonderful surprises when you least expect it if you are open to it. How else can life bring joy into your life unless you make room for it? I mean, I guess you can get hit by a car or be smacked in the face, if you want. Or, you can receive a gentle nudge/guidance to remind…
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Domestic Violence: Accountability, Responsibility and Emotional Intelligence
Each generation comes with its own set of societal rules and trends and all come with their own struggles. You know what you know at the time you are experiencing it and change can come on an individual level if you choose to think and act differently for yourself. When generations start to mix…
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Jury Duty… “Your Civic Duty!”
Watch Law Abiding Citizen and Seven Psychopaths if you are looking for good films to watch as they are a great depiction of bits I talk about in this episode when I had to miss work to attend Jury Duty. Nuff said. Enjoy! "It's not what you know. It's what you can prove in court". -Law Abiding...
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"I do desire we may be better strangers"-William Shakespeare
I had an online, psychic reader yesterday tell me that for $475 and a team of 7 working round the clock for 7-10 days, can break my cursed roots from my Egyptian past life and be with my soul partner now. She said we freed so many slaves that dark energies were so enraged that they kept us apart...
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San-CLA-mente, Bird Watching Episode
For any of you folks who are paying attention, congratulations, you smart person you, this is not the heart break episode, I made a boo boo, and that will be #10. This episode is some beautiful life reflections on a great drive in San Clemente, California off Ortega Hwy. I highly recommend it if...
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Happy Halloween! You Filthy Animals.
I know some of you thrill seekers and goblin chasers out there celebrate year round and this episode is for you. And for you nasties out there, I don’t know who Miguel is, (Coas) or however you would say that artists name; I can only make educated guesses; all I know is that he had a billboard...
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R-E-S-P-E-C-T-ing yourself
Self respect comes in many forms, not limited at all, and can be very individualized, person to person, situation to situation. In my case, it’s strange to think about. If I want to find love or be loved fully, the way it is in my heart, apparently, life doesn’t want to show me what love is, but...
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You Spineless Coward, LIMP NOODLE! Episode 6 Part 2
Welcome back to Part 2! Here are some notes I have taken from some of my favorite philosophers on indirect communication and ironist theory. Their words transcend time and hold relevant truth even today. Meditate on these if it resonates with you during the episode. Relatable? Søren Kierkegaard,...
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The Stages of Grief: Bargaining, Denial, Depression, Anger and Acceptance Part 1
Hello? McFly? Anyone there? Am I talking to a wall here? Just calling it out the way I see it. One of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite artists, Rufus Wainwright “Do you really think you go to hell for having loved?”. In this episode I will show you a real life conversation, verbatim, of...
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PTSD Symptoms and Moving On and Through the Pain
In this episode we will talk about the different avenues of pain, ptsd, and coping along the way through hardship. In reality, what does that look like? How can you go about not only feeling better but doing more than just taking it day by day? How to thrive and not just survive. How to sit with...
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Dreaming of Independence: is it worth it?
Episode 4 is a moment of gratitude for all, a reflection of hard work and efforts, the payoffs and the drawbacks of getting what you asked for. This is real life. Be careful what you wish for because you just might get it. This show is for real people who feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or confused...
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Don't text your creepers! :D
What am I going to do? Text a creeper and tell him that he is being a creeper?! Today we are navigating the full spectrum of communication styles, how to approach sticky situations that you want to avoid at all costs, and understanding the multi-faceted layers of personality types and human…
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Take a hike! What even is crazy, anyways?
Today Evelyn goes on a hike to the Angeles Forest in beautiful California. We will talk about different perspectives and viewpoints and to debate who is right and wrong and who is flat out crazy! This show is for real people who feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or confused by modern life. Through...
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Introduction/About Me
This show is for real people who feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or confused by modern life. Through honest, no-filter stories and reflections, I talk through real experiences, relationships, and the things we are all quietly thinking about. The goal is not to tell you what to do, but to help you...
About this show
This show is for real people who feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or confused by modern life. Through honest, no-filter stories and reflections, I talk through real experiences, relationships, and the things we are all quietly thinking about. The goal is not to tell you what to do, but to help you feel less alone, think for yourself, and move through life with more clarity and confidence.
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Evelyn Slater-Shew
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