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Relationship Advice
by Thrive Therapy - Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, and Cayla Bozovich
Relationship Advice helps listeners uncover the stuck spots in their relationships by taking expert advice from three licensed professional counselors and boiling it down into digestible tips and tools. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren help people to see that the first step to connecting with somebody else is by connecting with you. They focus their show on understanding and navigating the cycles that couples face, how to practice individuation, and staying in an emotionally regulated state. Just them each week as they come with a jam packed agenda to help you thrive in your relationships. Looking for old episode from "Relatable"? Click here.
Episodes
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You Don’t See What I’m Carrying
How often do we judge a partner’s apparent inaction while feeling entirely overwhelmed by our own stress? When everyday household friction erupts into an argument, the conflict is rarely about time management—it is a cry to have our unseen emotional burdens recognized. In this episode, we unpack...
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The Passion Triangle with Dr. Cheryl: QUICK ADVICE
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The Difference Between Being Loved and Being Liked with Jonathan Van Viegen
Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy Can a marriage survive when love remains, but genuine likability has eroded? In this episode, marriage and family therapist and author Jonathan Van Viegen joins us to explore why restoring mutual likability matters far more than obsessing…
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Finding The One? Try Becoming The One: QUICK ADVICE with Monica Berg
Join our live coaching call tomorrow at 3pm EST for Relationship Advice listeners! Click here to sign up. Today is the last day to get in at the founders rate! Check out Monica's Masterclass Follow Monica on instagram Stop trying to “find the one” — focus on becoming the one.A strong relationship...
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The Fight Is Not About The Fight
Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy Why do small everyday annoyances so easily turn into explosive arguments? When couples get stuck in repetitive friction, the surface issue is rarely the real battleground. In this episode, we explore how superficial conflicts actually point…
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Why You Keep Having the Same Sex feat. Laurie Watson
Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy Why do so many couples find themselves stuck repeating the same awkward sexual patterns or avoiding physical intimacy altogether? True sexual connection isn't about forced perfection or quick mechanical fixes, but about building attachment...
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Why You Keep Dating The Same Person In A Different Body: Dr. Gillian O'Shea Brown
Join Relationship Academy today for a complementary 1:1 with one of the hosts! Right now, buy one pair of glasses and get 20% off any additional pairs at WarbyParker.com/RELATIONSHIP Dr. Gillian's Book! We often repeat the same relationship pattern with different people because familiar pain can...
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Stop Taking Your Partner's Feelings Personally
Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy When your partner walks through the door in a bad mood, do you immediately wonder what you did wrong or rush to fix it? Taking your partner's emotions personally turns their everyday stress into relational friction, forcing them to manage…
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Quick Advice: HALT
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What Happens When We Betray Ourselves With Jessica Pressler
Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy Why do we so often find ourselves repeating the same painful relational patterns even after promising to choose differently? In this episode, therapist and author Jessica Anne Pressler joins us to unpack how early protective survival…
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Why Anxious And Avoidant Attachment Styles Aren't Red Flags with Dr. Diane Heller
Join us in Relationship Academy to continue the conversation! 7 day free trial and then get the founders rate of $25/month Take Dr. Heller's Free Attachment Quiz Clean out your closet by downloading VINTED for free! In this episode of Relationship Advice, Colter talks with Dr. Diane Heller…
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How Neurodivergence Plays a Role In Relationships
Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy When everyday friction is automatically read as a lack of effort or affection, couples often get trapped in painful, defensive loops. How do we move away from assigning negative intent and toward honoring the literal differences in how our...
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Stop Saying "I Feel Bad"
Join us in Relationship Academy to continue the conversation! 7 day free trial and then get the founders rate of $25/month In this episode of Quick Advice, Colter and Cayla jump into why one partner might just say "I feel bad" rather than tapping into the emotion they are actually feeling. It can...
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How to Use Practical Intuition to Transform Your Relationships with Laura Day
Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy How often do we stay trapped in repetitive relational friction, assuming the answers lie entirely within our overthinking minds? In this episode, author and intuitive consultant Laura Day joins the show to demystify intuition as a grounded,...
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Why Saying the Right Things Still Feels Wrong - QUICK ADVICE with Dr. Sue Morter
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Why Couples Stop Having Sex (And How to Fix It) with George Faller
Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy Why do couples so often fall into standoffs where one partner needs emotional closeness to feel physical desire, while the other needs physical touch to feel emotionally open? In this episode, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) trainer and...
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Charisma Is A Real Thing With Olivia Fox Cabane: QUICK ADVICE
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Decoding the Digital Age with Bridget Todd
Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy Can artificial intelligence ever truly replace the messy, necessary friction that defines genuine human intimacy? While emerging technology promises seamless interactions and shortcut solutions to interpersonal conflict, relying on smooth...
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Why Do People Cheat? QUICK ADVICE with Dr. Glenn Hutchinson
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What We Can Learn From Pursuers
Is the partner who constantly pushes for conversation actually protecting your relationship? While pursuers often get labeled as demanding or hyper-vigilant, their relentless focus on connection holds vital lessons for withdrawing spouses. In this episode, we explore how shifting from defensive...
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Would You Get Rid Of "Fear" If You Could?
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! Would you get rid of fear if you had the choice? In this episode, we explore what fear actually is, why it exists, and how it affects us both physically and psychologically. We also discuss the evolutionary purpose of fear…
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Why Relationships Make Us Feel Like Children Again
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! Why do our deepest relationship conflicts have the power to make us feel like children again? In this episode, we explore how interactions with partners and family members can activate old attachment wounds, causing us to regress...
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The Power of Caring with Dr. Tony Nader
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! Dr. Tony Nader joins the podcast to explore ideas from his book, The Power of Caring, and how deeper self-awareness can transform the way we connect with others. He explains how our mind-body tendencies, subconscious patterns, and...
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What if we are incompatible?
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! Why do the same conflicts keep showing up in our relationships, even when the surface issue changes? In this episode, we explore how everyday disagreements can activate childhood attachment wounds, leading us to protest, withdraw…
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Healing Attachment - What Pursuers and Withdrawers Need To Work On In Individual Therapy
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! Healing attachment wounds begins with understanding how early relationships shaped the ways we seek connection, respond to conflict, and protect ourselves from rejection. In this episode, we explore how insecure attachment patterns…
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Breaking Old Patterns for Deeper Love with Stefanos Sifandos
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! In this episode, we talk with Stefanos Sifandos about how old wounds, relational patterns, and emotional reactivity can shape the way we show up in love. He shares why healthy relationships require self-awareness, repair, and a...
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Relational Injuries
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! Today we dive into Relational Injuries! Relational injuries come in all kinds of relationships and we will cover what it is, and how it happens. We explore the distinction between relational injuries and typical relationship...
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What Our Withdrawer Spouse Can Teach Us
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! In this episode, we explore what pursuers can learn from withdrawer partners instead of seeing them as the “problem” in the relationship. Withdrawers often bring steadiness, pacing, self-regulation, and a needed reminder that not every...
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How To Treat Trauma
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! In this episode, we talk about what trauma treatment actually looks like and why healing is not as simple as “telling the story” or getting the memory out of your brain. Trauma is not only stored as information. It is often held in the...
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How To Know If They Are "The One"
How do you know when someone is truly the person you want to build a life with? In this episode, we talk about the big question so many people ask in dating: How do I know if they’re “the one”? We share how we each knew with our own partners, then walk through the real-life markers that can help...
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What Is Trauma?
[2:13 PM]This week on Relationship Advice we dive deep into the definition of trauma and its profound impact on our lives. In this episode, we unravel the essence of trauma, defining it as anything that overwhelms our capacity to cope, persistently leaving unmet needs in its wake. Join us as we...
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How To Stop Jealousy From Sabotaging Your Relationship
Jealousy and envy can feel shameful, but they often reveal important fears, longings, and unmet needs beneath the surface. In this episode, we explore the difference between jealousy, the fear of losing something we already have, and envy, the pain of wanting something we do not feel like we…
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Emotional Regulation and Why It’s Important In Relationships: Part 2
In part two of our Emotional Regulation series, we’re talking all about co-regulation — how to regulate with your partner, friend, or someone you trust.While some people naturally want closeness and support when they’re overwhelmed, others need space before they’re ready to connect. In this...
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Connection vs Safety
In this episode, we talk about how couples can use simple “scales” to better understand each other’s energy, desire, and capacity. Instead of assuming what your partner means when they seem tired, anxious, disconnected, or resistant, naming where you are can turn confusion into context. These…
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Emotional Regulation and Why It’s Important In Relationships: Part 1
Today we are discussing what it really means to regulate. You know that feeling when you are suddenly not quite in control of yourself? Maybe your body gets tense, your thoughts start moving fast, your tone shifts, or you feel like you might say or do something you would not normally say or do....
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Anger in Relationships
Anger can feel disruptive in relationships, but it often shows up for a reason: it signals that something important feels blocked, unfair, or violated. In this episode, we explore how anger can either push partners into blame, shutdown, and disconnection, or help clarify needs, values, and...
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‘You Can’t Do This’ Is NOT A Boundary
If there is one thing to know about boundaries, it is that a boundary is not about what you need somebody else to do. It is about what you are going to do in response to somebody else’s behavior. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren discuss boundaries from a psychotherapeutic lens and give tools for how to...
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Withdrawers: When Keeping the Peace Backfires
In this episode, the crew dives into the “withdrawer” role in relationships and how rigid, all-or-nothing responses can quietly create disconnection. They unpack why withdrawers often appease, shut down, or avoid conflict altogether — not because they don’t care, but because disappointing their...
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Before You Pack: The Conversations Every Couple Needs Before Vacation
Vacation stress usually isn’t about the trip itself — it’s about the unspoken expectations couples bring into it. In this episode, the hosts unpack the conversations that can completely change the tone of a vacation before you ever leave the driveway: money, planning, intimacy, parenting…
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Finding Secure Attachment with Trevor Hanson
This week we are joined by Trevor Hanson who shares his personal journey from anxious attachment and relationship struggles to becoming a therapist focused on helping others build secure attachment. He emphasizes that real transformation comes through emotional experiences—not just…
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Everything That Comes Before Intimacy with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith
What does “true intimacy” actually mean—and why do so many couples feel disconnected even when they love each other? In this episode, we sit down with Matthew Raabsmith and Joanna Raabsmith, relationship experts and co-authors of Building True Intimacy, to unpack the deeper layers of connection...
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When To End A Relationship
Ending a relationship is rarely about one big moment—it’s usually a pattern that keeps repeating despite effort, conversations, and growing awareness. This episode explores how to tell the difference between normal relationship challenges that can be worked through and deeper signs of...
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Don’t Punish the Vulnerability You’ve Been Begging For
This episode explores the common relationship dynamic where one partner struggles to share vulnerably, and when they finally do, they’re met with criticism, correction, or defensiveness. The hosts explain how these responses unintentionally “punish” vulnerability and reinforce shutdown patterns,...
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Attachment Styles on First Dates (What to Watch For)
This episode explores how attachment styles subtly show up on first dates and what to watch for without overanalyzing every interaction. The hosts emphasize that instead of trying to “screen perfectly,” the real work is understanding your own attachment patterns and how they influence who you’re...
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Stop Saying "Calm Down"—Do This Instead
Telling someone to “calm down” usually does the opposite—it makes people feel dismissed, misunderstood, and even more activated. In this episode, the hosts explore why that phrase backfires in moments of anger, anxiety, disappointment, or excitement, and why it often comes from the other person...
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The Mental Load in Relationships (Why It Causes Stress)
The mental load in relationships refers to the invisible work of planning, remembering, organizing, and anticipating what needs to happen in a household or family. When one partner carries more of this cognitive responsibility, it can lead to stress, resentment, and the feeling that the other...
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Navigating Friendship Conflict & Changing Friendship
Friendships change as people grow, and those shifts can bring up grief, confusion, frustration, or fear.In this episode, we unpack how growth, life transitions, shifting values, and changing capacity can create tension in friendships, and why our first instinct is often to fix, judge, withdraw…
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Motivation To Change In Relationships
Most relationships start with “I love you, you’re perfect”… and quickly turn into wanting your partner to change. The real problem isn’t usually whether they want to change—it’s that change is rarely A→B; it’s a process that requires understanding barriers, reducing shame, and building support....
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Emotional Availability
Emotional availability isn’t about feeling emotions loudly or perfectly — it’s about presence, regulation, and the ability to hold space without shutting down or exploding. Our capacity shifts based on stress, attachment history, neurodivergence, and what’s happening in our window of tolerance....
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If I Have To Ask, It Doesn't Count
Why does it feel so disappointing to ask for what you want? In this episode, we unpack the hidden belief that “if I have to ask, it doesn’t count” — and how that mindset turns simple needs (compliments, celebration, affection) into silent resentment. We explore the shame, fear of failure…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Relationship Advice helps listeners uncover the stuck spots in their relationships by taking expert advice from three licensed professional counselors and boiling it down into digestible tips and tools. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren help people to see that the first step to connecting with somebody else is by connecting with you. They focus their show on understanding and navigating the cycles that couples face, how to practice individuation, and staying in an emotionally regulated state. Just them each week as they come with a jam packed agenda to help you thrive in your relationships.
Looking for old episode from "Relatable"? Click here.
HOSTED BY
Thrive Therapy - Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, and Cayla Bozovich
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