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Salt and Light Marriages
by Ian and Shannon
You know that moment you wake up & say “I think today is the day I’m gonna blow my world up?” No? Just us? Unfortunately, we found out it’s not just one moment or even one choice that leads to that life altering moment when you are sitting in front of your spouse saying, “I want out, I don’t think I love you, or there is someone else.” This is OUR RESCUE story & we want to give hope to those out there feeling like they don’t know their way out, but know they were made for more.
Episodes
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Renewed!
Join us for an up close and personal guest visit to our vow renewal. 20 years of “marriage” but a lot of those years as a checklist. Growing up together turned into actually growing old together and learning what it means to choose each other.
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Growing Pains
Either you’re growing or you’re dying. That applies to you individually and to your marriage. Growth is to be celebrated and something to look forward to. That doesn’t mean it comes without pain. No matter how long you are together, there is always something to learn and you always have to keep...
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It shouldn’t be so hard
Join us this week as we catch up! Life has been lifeing and it brought up all sorts of feelings and a reminder that everything is not always sunshine and rainbows- even good things. Society makes you think it shouldn’t be so hard if it’s the right job, house, person… But the truth is that’s not...
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New Normal
We’re back for another season. We had a summer that was anything but normal. We learned new lessons about ourselves, our marriage and gained perspective we never knew we needed.
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2 options: Change or stay the same
As we close out season 1 of the podcast we decided to end on a truth some people aren’t loving. You have 2 choices: Change or stay the same. So many couples have come to us saying they want to know how we healed? How we saved our marriage? How do they get where we are? They love our words, not…
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Man up! Leadership & Vulnerability in marriage
Leadership and vulnerability on their own sound like they don’t go together. How can you be a man, be a leader, and be vulnerable with your wife? We want to offer the perspective that the two actually work together to make a man a leader and actually filter into other traits men desire like…
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I’m trying, they’re not
To “TRY” requires action. Seems obvious, except in marriage. So many people think they are trying. They tell us I tried, my spouse didn’t. But they never have any actions to back up the “try” If you are trying to save your marriage or trying to have a better marriage take a step back and see what...
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Share it anyway
Sharing your “screw ups,” your mistakes, your testimony is not easy, but there is ONE. One person, one marriage, one family, one child whose life will be changed by your story. Your experience is the hope one person needs to know they aren’t alone. It will get easier, but it won’t always be easy....
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It Takes Two
Like it or not, it takes two to make AND break a marriage. No one is ever showing up as their best self 100% of the time. Sometimes we recognize that in ourselves and sometimes not so much. Here is what’s 100%- Marriage will show you exactly who you are, how you react under stress, what you carry...
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The Comparison Trap
Comparison isn’t just “keeping up with the Joneses’” and all of their stuff. It goes way beyond what you see online. It’s the small thoughts that creep on when you compare someone else’s behavior to your spouse. How someone dresses, talks, laughs. Or when you judge someone else because if you…
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Words Matter
PSA: Ian’s mic went out towards the end - ugh. So we apologize in advance for that inconvenience, but appreciate your continued support in our very real life, authentic life. We hope it helps! This week we talk about how much words matter in your marriage! Not just the words you speak out loud…
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Why not just leave?
The question that plagues everyone after a betrayal situation. If you are the betrayed spouse you want to know why didn’t they just leave you? If you are the family and friends, you want to know why the person who got betrayed didn’t just leave? How did it even get to a point where this...
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Hindsight is 20/20
It’s “easy” to see what you missed after you went through it. That’s where we come in. If not us, find someone to help you walk through the most important relationship you will have because hindsight is 20/20. Join us this week as we recap what we learned during the Salt & Light couples retreat…
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It can be you
We are on retreat this weekend & we couldn’t be more excited & humbled. We have an amazing rescue & redemption story that we get to share. As we prepped for retreat we couldn’t help but look back on how far we have come. From the absolute darkest, most hopeless marriage to living and loving the...
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A gravel road full of potholes
You often hear the road to hell is paved with good intentions. What about the road to a happy marriage? Or anything worth having is worth working for, but then if it’s meant to be it shouldn’t be this hard? The reality is everything in your life takes intention which is work. It doesn’t just come...
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Expect the unexpected
It’s not just the expectations you have for your spouse that affect your marriage, but also the ones you have for yourself. Often this causes your pride to take a hit and instead of saying “I need you” we begin to get more critical of ourselves and in turn, our spouses. It also can cause us to...
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Feed the Feeders
Is there someone in your life that is always taking care of everyone and everything? Maybe your spouse, best friend, mentor? Part of making meaningful connections is the give and the take. It’s creates intimacy and vulnerability and a relationship that will stand the bad times and the great…
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Boys to Men- Part 2
The first step in cultivating great relationships is creating the space for great communication. Join the guys for the second half of their conversation. The touch on faith, having kids Vs not, standards for themselves and others and much more.
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Boys to Men- Part 1
Yall. There are not enough words to describe this episode! It’s so good and it’s only part 1!! Join Ian and two of our close friends in a guys side of the story. The guys sit down to discuss marriage as a newly wed, divorced and remarried and of course, recovering from a betrayal husband. Get the...
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Agree to disagree
It’s so important to be on the same page as your spouse. To be a team. But what happens when you don’t agree or have the same goals? We discuss how we have incorporated our “meeting of the minds” time into our marriage. It has been a game changer in so many ways. And it’s not some lovey dovey...
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Was it worth it?
During the interview with Shannon’s parents, Shannon’s dad said loosing his wife and his marriage was not worth any one else. This is something that hits different when you are in a marriage that has walked through betrayal, especially in the beginning stages of healing. Whether you stay or…
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The In laws- Part 2
This week we continue the conversation with Shannon’s parents on not only their marriage, but the front row seat they had to the destruction of ours. They will share their perspective on how they not only knew we weren’t in a good place, but also their reactions when they found out just how bad…
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The In Laws
Your in-laws. You either love them or hate them. There is just as much stereotype built around that relationship as there is around marriage itself. But what about after broken vows, a betrayal of trust, hurting somebody’s “little girl” or “momma’s boy” Then what? In this two part series, part 1,...
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Ghost of Christmas Past
This one is super short and sweet. A reminder to learn from our mistakes. Your presence is the best present! As cheesy as that sounds it’s true. Especially when you look back and realize all you missed out on. Have a Merry Christmas!
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Growing pains of staying together
Now that you have decided you want more for your marriage and everything is out in the open everything will be easy! Sunshine and rainbows!! The hurt goes away, the unmet and unsaid expectations go away and it’s like a fresh start! Or is it??
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Welcome to the War Room
Why are we doing this? Why put our business and lives out in the open? Because it matters- it matters more than we will ever know. It matters more than you may know. We believe vulnerability and authenticity are the key to amazing relationships and we want to create the space for that to happen....
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Bless Their Hearts
In this episode we talk about the expectations of what doing a podcast about our personal life would mean and how shocked Ian is at the feedback. We also talk about how easy it is to open yourself up to sticky situations in your marriage with the opposite sex- especially if you aren’t in a great...
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How 75 Hard affected our marriage
75 Hard- a mental toughness challenge meant to bring out the best in you… or does it? We both committed to this challenge at different times for different reasons and learned so much about ourselves in the process- good and bad. It also created the space for conversations around topics or...
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Holiday healing, boundaries, & traditions
The holidays are supposed to be the most wonderful time of year. However, sometimes we fill up our calendars, rush around, eat and drink too much, all the things we’ve just always done. Which often means we forget to even check in with who matters most- our spouse. Not to mention if you are in a...
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Masculine & Feminine- who’s who?
What roles you play in your marriage don’t necessarily add up to a great relationship. Sometimes it’s just the unsaid, unmet expectations. Join us we dive into what it looks like when you can’t show up in the energy that makes marriage not only thrive but fun!
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Free Will
Actions speaks louder than words especially after betrayal. God is in every story, but so is free will. You always have a choice and so does your spouse.
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Broken Vows
Everyone knows the biggest marriage vow, the one that says forsake all others. But, we tend to gloss over all the other vows that go along with that one. Not many people get married and say their vows with the intentions of one day breaking them, yet it happens all the time. Join us we dive into...
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Our Greatest Adventure: Pt 2
In this episode we dive deeper into why we think trips and getaways together are so important in a marriage. We discuss what has changed from our past trips to now and why they used to be an area of disconnect and expectations. We also talk about the planner and the non planner and how that plays…
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Our Greatest Adventure: Pt 1
In this episode we talk about the importance of getting away. Short and sweet, just like a getaway weekend should be… or a night not at home! It gives you chance to forget about household responsibilities and just be husband and wife.
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Who has a seat at your table?
Keep your friends close, your enemies closer… or not. The 5 people you are around the most is who you become most like. How you act is what you attract… We have all heard these sayings but rarely do we really think about them. In the process of rebuilding our marriage, we revamped our entire…
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Happy Wife, Happy Life
You often hear the phrase “happy wife, happy life,” basically do what she says and all is well. But we found that was the exact opposite. We dive into how not speaking up about your true feelings, on both sides, for the greater good actually make things not good at all, build resentment, and…
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Why Date Night matters
We will forever preach how important date nights are to us and our marriage. But they weren’t always fun or easy. Now they are our favorite day of the week! We get into all of that this week and how we didn’t even date much before we got married!
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Fix Yourself
Have you ever thought about how happy your marriage or life would be if only your spouse would do this one thing? Or maybe many things? Did you ever consider it’s not them, but you? In this episode we share our experiences that not only helped us find our way back to a better marriage, but as...
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Rebuilding Trust and boundaries
It is often said that”trust is gained in drops, but lost in buckets.” That is never more true than when there is a betrayal in your marriage. In this episode we dive into the months following our separation as well as what not having boundaries did to contribute to us getting there.
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I Want Out
Our marriage was over. We both were done. This episode is interview style to introduce you to who we were, how we got where we were, and the start living the life we always dreamed. We just had to hit rock bottom to get there. His side. Her side. Here we go!
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
You know that moment you wake up & say “I think today is the day I’m gonna blow my world up?” No? Just us? Unfortunately, we found out it’s not just one moment or even one choice that leads to that life altering moment when you are sitting in front of your spouse saying, “I want out, I don’t think I love you, or there is someone else.” This is OUR RESCUE story & we want to give hope to those out there feeling like they don’t know their way out, but know they were made for more.
HOSTED BY
Ian and Shannon
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You know that moment you wake up & say “I think today is the day I’m gonna blow my world up?” No? Just us? Unfortunately, we found out it’s not just one moment or even one choice that leads to that life altering moment when you are sitting in front of your spouse saying, “I want out, I don’t think...
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