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Securing Sexuality
by Securing Sexuality
Do you know how to protect your pursuit of pleasure? Technology upended how we connect romantically and sexually. But broken apps, hacked toys, confusing privacy settings, and breaches are anything but sexy.This podcast is here to help with tips for safer sex in a digital age.Offering insights into intriguing and often taboo subjects are our hosts, Stefani Goerlich and Wolfgang Goerlich. They’re joined by experts on cybersecurity, cybersexuality, sextech, mental health, and more. Listen in.
Episodes
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96. Building Community in the Age of Censorship
It's hard to build connections, much less businesses, when you can't communicate freely online. For small business owners, online platforms are crucial to promoting their brand to potential customers and collaborators. But for sęxual health professionals, this is hindered by social media policies...
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95. Criminal Minds and Casual Hook-Ups
It's been at least a month since Wolf and Stef have ruined online dating for someone, right? Well, guess who's back, friends! From Stef's love of forensic procedurals to Wolf's fascination with oracle trilateration, we're here to explain and explore a whole new kind of vulnerability in some of…
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94. Vanishing Acts: The Psychology of Ghosting
You know that feeling when you meet someone new, and everything seems to click, and you're super excited to hear from them until, one day... you don't? Yeah. You got ghosted. If you've ever been left thinking WTF after a promising paramour pulls a vanishing act, this episode is for you! This…
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93. Improvise, Adapt, Over...Come?
What do the Gremlins, Feminist Theory, and Stefani's 3rd grade Odyssey of the Mind team have in common? They all got us thinking about adaptive technologies and how we can promote pleasure and intimacy across the lifespan. In this week's free-ranging conversation, Stef and Wolf talk about aging,...
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92. Call Me By Their Name: Identity Theft Today
This week Wolf and Stef are joined by the amazing Mona Terry, Chief Victims Officer for the Identity Theft Resource Center. In an age where it seems like our data is stolen by someone new every day, she's here to help us understand the scope of the problem, the systems that can protect us, and…
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91. Called Out & Cancelled
Wolf and Stef just got back from New Orleans - a city known for daring and debauchery. So it's probably not a huge surprise that the #1 question they were asked by the folks they met in NOLA was, "What can I do to keep from getting called out when I say or do something that rubs others the wrong...
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90. Swingin' (Not So) Singles
Friend of the show and brand new author Stephanie Sigler is joining Wolf and Stefani this week and she is opening up... about all things ENM! A multiple-award winning sėxuality coach, she's here to share her tips on everything from how to navigate a group chat when you're chatting about "group...
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89. Putting the i in Infidelity
A man in Britain is suing Apple for the dissolution of his marriage. Could his wife have been upset about his years of infidelity? No way- clearly, his iOS is to blame. This week, Stef and Wolf sit down to ask why this case is happening, what designers could do differently to prevent these...
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88. Shelter Me: Securing The Ones Who Safeguard Others
Stefani spent many years working in shelters for people at risk: homeless shelters, domestic violence shelters, and shelters for young people who didn't feel safe at home. There's one thing they all lacked: pretty much any kind of cybersecurity. Yeah! The people who are protecting the most...
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87. Gold Medal Gossip
It's summer in an even-numbered year and you know what that means! No, not easier math for numerologists... the Olympics are back! And while neither Goerlich is known for their athletic acumen, Stefani is here to answer all of Wolf's questions about the latest gossip coming out of Paris. From...
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86. The En-Creep-ification of Data
The amount of peer-to-peer surveillance these days has gotten downright creepy. Behavior we'd never tolerate from our neighbors (staring in our windows, jotting down our dog-walking schedule) have become ubiquitous through the use of things like Ring cameras and other "internet of things" home...
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85. Talking S-E-X at RSA
RSA is one of the biggest Information Security conferences in the country, drawing 50,000 people to San Francisco from around the world to learn from some of the leading voices in technology... and for some reason? They gave Stefani a microphone. This week's episode, recorded live at RSA…
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84. The Rise of Digital S3x Work
Friend of the show and all-around badass, Kurt Fowler is back with us to discuss his new book The Rise of Digital S3x Work out now from NYU Press. The internet has revolutionized s3x work perhaps more than any other profession and Kurt is here to tell Wolf & Stefani all about how innovative…
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83. Wolf & Stef Go To PenguiCon
Stef & Wolf were invited to be Guests of Honor at PenguiCon 2024 and they are here to report on 48 hours of pure awesomeness. Lots of talks (they gave four separate presentations) and LOTS of great questions later... they're here to tell you all about it. Have you ever wondered what you get when...
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82. Stopping Data P0rn
Hey there, Mr(s) Incognito Mode! You're doing all the right things when you browse online. No one knows what you're searching for and you know better than to actually make an account on the sexywebz, right? Yeah... we've got some bad news for you. This week Stef and Wolf are joined by Alessandro...
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81. Zoom Dating
Stefani is out sick, but don’t worry- it’s not Covid! Speaking of the pandemic? Since 2020, the rise of Zoom dates has become a fascinating phenomenon. These virtual meet-cutes not only offer a practical solution for distance or health concerns but also introduce a whole new dynamic to the dating...
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80. Deepfakes and the End of Reality
This is the 80th episode of Securing Sexuality. Each week, Stef and Wolf sit down at their desks to chat about the world of intimacy and technology... or do they? How can you tell if the voices you're hearing right now belong to the people you think they do? Can you be sure that the faces you see...
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79. The All-Seeing AI?
One of the top questions listeners ask the Securing Sexuality Home Team is how to minimize the amount of data they feed to "the machine." Unfortunately, we don't have a good answer for you, especially now that AI seems to be developing...gaydar? Tune in this week as Wolf and Stef discuss the...
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78. Gender, Gamification, and GDPR
Keigh-Lee Paroz is a U.K. based data privacy expert who is deeply passionate about human rights, accessibility, gender equality, and the ways in which technology can influence all three. This week, she's joining Wolf and Stef to explain Europe's General Data Protection Regulation and how better...
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77. The New Peeping Toms
We're all familiar with the way that big businesses collect, analyze and sell our personal data. No one LIKES it, but most of us have resigned ourselves to the fact that the stuff we share on social media is going to be, well, shared. But what happens when the entity tracking your location…
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76. The Pleasure Engineer: A Conversation with Raven Faber
What do you get when you cross a Structural Engineer with a pleasure products home party? If you're super lucky, you get Raven Faber- the brilliant mind behind EngErotics! This week she's joining Stef and Wolf to discuss materials science, multilevel marketing, and why everyone needs to pay close...
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75. WTF is FinDomme?
Have you ever wanted to lounge at home while devoted minions pay your bills and send you presents? Living that fantasy might seem relaxing, but in reality? It's a whole lot of work. This week, Stefani is telling Wolf all about the world of FinDomme (or Financial Domination) a majority-female…
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74. This Little Piggy Went Bankrupt
This week, we're learning all about pig butchering! No, Stefani is not forsaking her Jewish roots to go "whole hog," but she is going to learn all about this insidious and devastating form of romance scam. Join Stef and Wolf as they chat with Sean Gallagher, Principal Threat Researcher for Sophos...
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73. Air B & Busted!
Ah, the old No-Tell Motel, where Film Noir gumshoes conduct parking lot stakeouts, illicit lovers find forbidden romance, and every 3rd episode of COPS- Tallahassee is filmed. Sadly, the glory days of by-the-hour shenanigans have largely been replaced by the app-based vacation rental. In every…
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72. Cyborgification and Robotic Relationships: A Conversation with Dr. Jo Ann Oravec
This week, Stefani ventures into dark places she's never been before. That's right! This week, we're gonna get Psychodynamic. Stef and Wolf are joined by robotics researcher and all around badass Dr. Jo Ann Oravec to have a conversation about ego-centrism, artificial intelligence, and the hope…
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71. Taylor Swift and the Stepford Internet
From the Republican Party to the local sports bar, everyone in America is talking about Taylor Swift this week. But why are they so obsessed with her and WTF does it have to do with Securing Sexuality? This conversation starts out with Stefani's desire to finally convince Wolf that football is...
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70. Making the Scary Stuff Fun
This week Stef and Wolf are joined by the cybersecurity's Ring Master, Ean Meyer! He's here to tell us all about manatees, muppets, and how to make scary topics accessible- a challenge many clinicians and educators also wrestle with. How can we get folks to learn skills to keep themselves safe?…
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69. I've Got A Bingo!
From fashion trends to SCOTUS rulings, this episode has a something for everyone. Join us as we try to get a cover-all on the 2024 Predictions Bingo card put out by one of Stefani's favorite brands. There's no sponsored content here- just rollicking conversation about abortion pills, TradWives…
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68. The Science of Femme Tech with Dr. Ashley Winter
One of the biggest complaints that Stefani hears in her practice is that there are so many treatment options for men who struggle with arousal disorders and relatively few available for women. It can be disheartening for many clients to feel like the medical community isn't taking their needs (or...
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67. His & Hers, Part Two: Revisiting Stefani's Favorite Episode of 2023
This has been a busy year for the Securing Sexuality Home Team! Wolf and Stef talked to some incredible experts and recorded dozens of podcast episodes, Comms Director Frank and the crew helped us host our first ever live conference, and we even visited a cyber brothel! But which episodes were…
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66. His & Hers, Part One: Revisiting Wolf's Favorite Episode of 2023
This has been a busy year for the Securing Sexuality Home Team! Wolf and Stef talked to some incredible experts and recorded dozens of podcast episodes, Comms Director Frank and the crew helped us host our first ever live conference, and we even visited a cyber brothel! But which episodes were…
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65. For Mature Audiences Only
It's that time of year again! PornHub has released its annual report on viewer trends and Stefani can't wait to unwrap it. Join Wolf and Stef this week as they discuss what surprised them about 2023's top fantasies, offers their insights into why some themes are more popular than ever, and they...
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64. Is Kinky Social Media Safe?
It seems like it's impossible to live in the 21st century without sharing parts of our lives on different social media platforms. LinkedIn for professional networking, Facebook to keep up with the family, the website-formerly-known-as-Twitter when you're just dying to ruin your mood. Every facet…
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63. Under His Eye: Covenant Eyes and Shameware Security
Perhaps the most common question people ask Wolf these days is how they can evaluate an app or other digital product before using it themselves or sharing it with others. This week, we'll use the recent example of Speaker of the House Mike Johnson's revelation that he and his son use the Covenant...
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62. Spending Thanksgiving in The Matrix with Tilly Bridges
Life is weird these days. Everyone is polarized. The news is a clusterf!ck. And now we have to hang out with Racist Uncle Joe and eat some overcooked turkey. Thankfully (see what we did there?!) Wolf and Stef are joined this week by Tilly Bridges, the author of Begin Transmission: the Trans...
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61. Your Body Or Your Bank Account
How much would you pay for a stolen credit card number? A social security number? Can you put a price on someone's online identity? What about just their medical records? In this weeks episode, Stefani has questions about healthcare hacking: why it happens, how to recognize it, and why someone...
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60. Being the Better Man: 21st Century Masculinity with Eric FitzMedrud
Social media is full of commentary on masculinity these days. As gender norms change and evolve, more and more men are thinking about what it looks like to be a good man in the 21st century- both online and off. This week, author Eric FitzMedrud is here to join Wolf & Stef in these conversations....
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59. 24 Days of Pleasure (Unwrapping the Season with Lovehoney)
Wolf and Stef got an early holiday gift in the mail from Lovehoney! Join us this week as Sarah Tomchesson, Lovehoney's Resident Sexual Wellness Advisor, guides Wolf & Stef through unboxing a sexy advent calendar! As each new treat is revealed, Sarah, Stefani and Wolf share tips, tell stories, and...
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58. The Modern Matchmakers: Michael Kaye, Archer, & Online Dating for GSRD Folks
Michael Kaye is the Director of Brand Marketing & Communications for Archer- a new dating app for gay men. He's here to give Stef & Wolf a glimpse into the world of online dating platforms- how sites are designed, how safety and inclusivity are prioritized, and how folks from under-represented...
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57. We Got Conned! Our Conference Proves It Can Happen To Anyone
It's finally here! The Securing Sexuality Conference is live in Detroit and it's sold out!! People are making new friends, learning from experts, and picking some locks... but just beneath the surface, a scheme is brewing. Join us as Wolf and Stef share their favorite conference moments and…
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56. (Block)Chain Me Up - Maya Brooks and Privy Labs
Maya Brooks is a legit genius. An award-winning educator, speaker, and entrepreneur, she is Founder & CEO of Privy Labs, an anti-piracy protocol designed to protect media content from harm, abuse, and misuse. And this week, Maya is here to tell us how to keep our spiciest images safe online. In...
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55. Pics or It Didn't Happen: Unpacking Online Infidelity
What counts as cheating online? Is watching porn cheating? Is having friendships with folks you only know from social media emotional infidelity? Is buying time with your favorite cam performing the same as having an affair? The answer is YES. Or maybe no. It all depends on your specific...
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54. Strange New Worlds: The Science of Space Sexology
If you've ever wondered what the coolest job EVER was, Simon Dubé has it. Simon is a post-doctoral research fellow at the Kinsey Institute, where he specializes in erobotics, sextech and space sexology. YES.... he is a space sex scientist! And he is here to tell us all about his work in…
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53. We're Breaking Up
Breakups are never easy. It never fails to surprise us how quickly love can turn to anger and hurt. Knowing that our now-ex has a record of the good times, the sexy times, can make a breakup feel even more stressful and disorienting. This week, Wolf and Stef are here to talk about how to navigate...
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52. Way Cooler Than We Are - Rachel Lark
Sex-positive Punk-Folk musician Rachel Lark, creator of the rock comedy musical "Coming Soon" which explores themes of connection and healing from trauma, visits Securing Sexuality this week! Her hits include “Polyamory Blues,” “Shut Up & Hit Me,” "Warm, Bloody, And Tender,” “It’s Hard To…
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51. RevengeBabyHippos.com Doesn't Exist: DMCA Basics for Everyone
What do you do when your photo pops up somewhere you DON'T want to be? Do you have any options? Heck... do you even own your image? Inspired by a recent call from a concerned therapist, this week Wolf tells Stefani all about the Digital Millennium Copyright Act- how it can protect you when…
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50. Screw You, Pay Me.
Shakun Sethi had a vision: she wanted to create a user-friendly, approachable s3x education platform that would let people get answers to the questions they were too embarrassed to ask anywhere else. She wanted to teach, to empower, to amuse. So when her site, Tickle.Life was deplatformed by her...
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49. The Authenticity Patch
This August, Stefani was invited to speak at SquadCon- one of the many community events that happen in Las Vegas at Hacker Summer Camp. Join us as Wolf offers color commentary on her presentation, hear her thoughts on why developers need to be designing with mental health in mind, and learn why...
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48. More Than Just Fans
We all know someone who logs on to Only Fans these days, either as a content creator or as a consumer. But what many of us don't realize is that the nature of the site has changed dramatically. In this episode, we are joined by Christine Leistner, a relationship scientist and public health…
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47. The Cross-Over Episode
Tune in for our first ever cross-over episode and listen in as our intrepid hosts join Rachel Arnold and Will McCullen for an episode of The Coffee Table Talk cybersecurity podcast. Join us for a heavily caffeinated conversation between three cybersecurity experts (and Stefani) as they explain…
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Do you know how to protect your pursuit of pleasure? Technology upended how we connect romantically and sexually. But broken apps, hacked toys, confusing privacy settings, and breaches are anything but sexy.This podcast is here to help with tips for safer sex in a digital age.Offering insights into intriguing and often taboo subjects are our hosts, Stefani Goerlich and Wolfgang Goerlich. They’re joined by experts on cybersecurity, cybersexuality, sextech, mental health, and more. Listen in.
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