Episodes
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Green Flags and Self Love EP:116
Today’s episode we talk about some green flags and how important it is to decenter relationships and center yourself. So many people are so focused on maintaining all types of relationships that they aren’t even paying attention to the fact that they are neglecting the personal relationship they...
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Love and Heartbreak EP:115
This episode I talk about what inspired me to name my upcoming tour “For The Lovers” heartbreak and love was the inspiration. To experience love is a blessing but to be able to experience heartbreak and learn something is a blessing too. To walk out of heartbreak and not have allowed it to make…
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Life Be Lifing EP:114
Can you believe this podcast is almost 6 years old? I’m grateful. On this episode I talk about exactly what the title says, how life be lifing! Trying to balance motherhood and show up for myself. Not always getting it right but staying committed to taking things one day at a time. It takes a…
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New Year New You EP:113
Happy New Year everyone. On this episode I touch on a few things that would be beneficial to work on in the new year. Locking in with yourself and tapping into discipline. Giving yourself grace and sticking with you boundaries. Being honest about how you really feel and not waiting until you can…
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Growing Apart EP:112
This episode is about growing apart and needing space. Not allowing your ego to get in the way of maintaining relationships or friendships that are meaningful to you. It’s really hard when you love someone or you want to make it work with them but it’s just not happening. If you can relate this...
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Girl Talk EP:111
So many things have happened to me and here is an update of what’s been going on. Just some girl talk and of course some advice. Just reflecting on friendship and love; there is so much that I have learned from my journey . And I’m so grateful that, you all have been growing with me and watching...
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What About Your Friends EP:110
On this episode I talk about a blog that I wrote on my Substack about what friendships have taught me in this season of my life of being on tour. How curiosity can give us the clarity that we need all by just asking our friends questions and not avoiding uncomfortable conversations. Clarity gives...
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He Uses You For Sex EP:109
On this episode I talk about being in a situation with a person who provides the bare minimum to you spiritually but enjoys the benefits of your company and enjoying you sexually. Knowing and understanding that, people are doing what we allow them to do, because we are not properly communicating...
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You Move Too Fast EP:108
On this episode I talk about how it pays for you to take things slow and really get to know someone. Dating for a week and then it turning into sex and then hanging out at your place or their place is not dating. That’s just laying up. I give my opinion on what I feel like dating should look…
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They Don’t Deserve You EP: 107
On this episode I talk about so many different things. Settling, knowing your worth, being exhausted trying to make a relationship work and spreading yourself thin. This was a really good episode. I’m also going on tour and would love to see yall there here are some links for what I have going…
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A Muva EP:106
Happy muvas day to every woman, mother or not. Todays episode I honor a few different dynamics of mothers, sisters and daughters and what it means to be a mother. Today is also my first show of the year on Mothers day and in NY how ironic for it to be today of all days? I am so excited, you can...
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Who Do You love? EP: 105
On this episode of who do you love I talk about nurturing other relationships outside of our romantic ones. I challenge you to prioritize the things that are important to you and that you enjoy doing with the same enthusiasm used to plan a date with your man. We neglect so many aspects of who we...
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Validation EP:104
This episode I talk about seeking validation from our friends and partners. Making our own decisions and being comfortable with the choices that we make. It is so easy to get caught up in how we think other people are viewing us or their perceptions of us. Making choices you are happy with...
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Are They Using You? EP: 103
Are you entertaining transactional relationships by overextending yourself, people pleasing or associating your worth with being needed? Some people love of for what we do not who we are and what we can offer that benefits them . The quote goes “judge a man by his patience when he has nothing and...
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If You Love It Let It Go EP:102
The poem in the beginning is called “you ain’t never loved nothing”. This episode I talk about letting go, being uncomfortable, celebrating yourself and all that you have. I had a conversation yesterday where I mentioned this, but this has always been a theme in my life. Not celebrating myself or...
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Discipline Is Self Love EP:100
Today I talk about Ramadan and fasting. Fasting from social media and people. Starting a 30 day self care challenge. Prioritizing your time so you can take care of yourself and not make excuses for all the stuff you need to be doing. How would you feel if you realized the biggest distractions In...
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Keep It To Yourself EP:99
It’s been a while and I have missed all of you. I have still been going to therapy and now back to working on my psychology degree. Being a mom of 3 has been dragging me by the hair but I’m doing my best! On this episode I touch on a few topics Forgiveness Being mindful of who you take advice…
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You Move Too Fast EP:98
On this episode we talk about pacing yourself when dated to give yourself time to see exactly who someone is. It is no benefit to us to move fast when taking our time could not only lead to the same results but more than likely better results. Pacing your love because not everyone deserves it and...
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You Forgave That Man But Not Her EP:97
On this episode we talk about a few things and one of those things are the reason behind why it is easier for some of us women to give more grace to the men in our lives who have betrayed us but not to the women in our lives who we have built friendships with? Granted I do understand that there…
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Who The F Are You? EP:96
If you’re tuned into this episode know that I miss you and am so happy and grateful that you all have been patient with me. But as I said, write down a few things that you do without blaming someone. Because there is always going to be someone who mishandled you, but I want you to focus on the...
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LEAVE THAT MAN ALONE EP:95
On this episode I talk about having the strength to leave a person that isn’t good for you | Giving yourself grace for not knowing better and the patience to do better. | I want people to write down a prayer for themselves that they can go back to, to remind them that they deserve better. Ask...
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Standing On Business EP:94
On this episode we talk about standing firm on our boundaries when it comes to how we allow people to treat us and show up for us. Not being afraid to express exactly what it is that we want. Holding people accountable but also holding ourselves accountable also. And treating self care like it is…
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Seeing Your Inner Child EP:93
On this episode we have our special guest AJ McQueen. I ask him about growing up in St. Louis, mental health, relationships, his inner child, therapy and what does self care mean to him. The episode was really great and he dropped so many gems that people would be able to take away when it comes…
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Why Did You Stay With Them EP:92
On this episode we talk about what the people you have loved had in common and where they a REFLECTION OF YOU? What did certain people show you when it comes to your healing? What did you admire about them if anything? What are some things that your inner child really need as a child that you can...
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Love, Therapy and Boundaries EP:91
On this episode I talk about all of the things that I have been learning in therapy and utilizing in my daily life. Boundaries, communicating, validating emotions and getting my needs met by my partner. This season of my life has felt so transformative and I feel like I’m becoming a different...
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Gratitude And A Home Birth EP:90
This episode is mainly my birthing story and how Hos does so many things in our lives that show us how grateful we should be.
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Thank You To My Man EP:89
This episode is all about love! With Valentine’s Day coming up I wanted to leave you with a few to look for while dating someone or dating yourself!
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New Year New Me In 2024 EP:88
This episode is filled with everything that we need to be leaving in 2023 and not bringing into the new year! It’s a new year and new version of ourselves for everyone! I hope that you use this year to really tap into your full potential and take advantage of all the beautiful things that you…
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Self Sufficient Women Enjoy Help Too! EP:87
Today I talk about why do men help women who bring nothing to the table but are reluctant to help women who they see are already doing so much on their own? Do they feel like since she can do it all what does she need me for? Or do they just naturally have no desire to offer or be of service to…
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Cheesecake Factory First Date EP:86
This episode is about where you are going or not going for first dates and why. They made a list on Instagram of first date places that women don’t want to go to and I also made a list of 9 qualities I think are important for you to notice if someone has when you are dating or in a relationship...
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Love Takes Bravery And Vulnerability EP:85
I start off with my new poem Invisible Girl On this episode I talk about how much courage it takes to walk into love with no wall up. How walls may protect you but they also keep things from coming in, some really beautiful things. Don’t be afraid to show up as your full self in any type of...
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Not Getting Your Needs Met EP:84
On this episode I give a recap and talk about not feeling guilty about expressing what you need. A lot of the times we don’t want to feel like we are a burden or asking for too much so we allow ourselves to continue to be unsatisfied or to feel unappreciated. It is okay to ask for what you need…
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Give Yourself Some Grace EP:83
On this episode I talk about letting people live in their world of delusions, being accountable if you’ve been the delusional one and forgiving yourself but not being too hard on yourself because you are doing your best. Make sure you get tickets below for the last poetry nights that I will be...
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Stop Lowering Your Standards EP:82
Today I talk about not watering down your expectations or desires because you’re with someone you feel like will never give it to you. Don’t make excuses for why someone won’t show up for you or try and convince yourself that you don’t need certain things in a relationship because you’ve accepted...
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Are You A Placeholder? EP:81
On this episode I talk about being a placeholder. Allowing someone to continue to reap benefits from you while you never get what you want in return, they will use you up while they wait for what they actually are looking for. I talk about people leading you on, being misleading or saying…
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Stop Taking Them Back EP:80
On this episode we talk about how being in toxic relationships also effect the other personal relationships in your life. Everyone from your friends, to your children and family, can get hurt by seeing someone they love constantly being hurt. I talk about choosing yourself, letting someone go,...
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You’re A People Pleaser
Sending love and prayers to my friend and sister Andrea Jones and healing strength to her family. This episode is for my people pleasers, I beg you to stop doing more for people who already don’t appreciate you. Stop going out of your way for people who hurt you, stop allowing people to keep…
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I Had To Get My Lick Back EP:78
On this episode we talk about wanting to get your lick back or revenge on people who have hurt you or embarrassed you. We talk about being hurt by people that we cared for and really having to sit with those emotions of betrayal and embarrassment. I also answer 3 audience questions.
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It Is Not Your Partners Job To Make You Happy EP:77
On this episode here are some of the topics that I talk about Its not your partners job to make you happy all the time Its not your partners job to do the work for you Outgrowing or not outgrowing people Soulties Being proud of yourself Expressing how much you love people and not being afraid to…
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I HAVE BEEN HURT BUT I DESERVE LOVE EP:76
On this episode I talk about how being hurt can change the way that we love and our ability to let people in to also love us properly. I talk about being comfortable expressing your standards, qualities to look for in a partner, breaks during relationships and being with someone on your emotional...
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He Is Not Your Man EP:75
This episode is for the people who are pouring into and building connections with people who have no desire to be with them or take them seriously. Set boundaries and expectations when it comes to dating so that you do not keep wasting your time on dead end situationships
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Lets Talk Sex, Positions and Relationships Ft: Ler and Lionel EP:74
On this episode of Self Care and Chill we talk about everything sex related. From being a late bloomer, trying new sex positions and even relationships. I had a great time recording this episode because it was super funny yet informative. If you were a tom boy like me growing up I know you will...
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I Have A Surprise And Some Advice EP:73
Hey y’all ! I wanted to give y’all some updates on what’s been going on in my life! From my baby turning 1 being in the middle of a sold out poetry tour! Let’s do a little recap and all the things I learned walking into 2023! You can watch this whole recap on youtube too so that you can see some...
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Health, Healing And Relationships Ft: Adjua Styles EP:72
Check this episode out NOW ON YOUTUBE! This episode with Adjua Styles was so great! Adjua a mother, an author, a business woman, health advocate and the wife to Styles P. We talked about health, relationships, healing and dealing with grief. On this never ending journey of healing and discovering...
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A Tired Mom EP:71
This episode we talk about making time for ourselves and our partners as moms. Sometimes it is so difficult to find that balance and find time to not only make your partner feel loved but yourself. I wanted to talk to you a little about what I have been doing and what has been the key to my self...
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Dont Turn Me Off Ft: Nigel Euro EP:70
I sat down with Nigel Euro and we talked about him being on the last season of Too Hot To Handle on Netflix, relationships, dating and holding himself accountable on certain decisions that he has made when it has come to dating and relationships. The interview was very light and fun. Make sure…
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I Got Cheated On EP:69
On this episode I answer 2 questions that were sent to the podcast page @selfcarexchill and I talk about being cheated on. The emotional hurt that you have to deal with when you’re cheated on and all of the things that we “tried to do right” I also have a bunch of shows coming up so make sure you...
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Single But Not Lonely On Valentines Day EP:68
Thank you for tuning into a new episode of Self Care & Chill with Maui. We talk about being single, knowing our worth, standing on our boundaries and not settling. A lot of what we touched will be in my new ebook I am dropping today at www.mauithewriter.com I also took a trip to Scarsdale NY and...
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New Year New Me
A mini episode of motivation. I missed all of you so much. I just wanted to stop by and give you a recap of what has been going on in my life and send you some light.
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Tell Me How To Love You EP:67
This episode I talk about if it is okay to tell someone how you want to be loved or should they just know? At what point are we self sabotaging relationships by expecting people to be mind readers? Or should we not have to explain certain things to someone who is interested in us? What are some...
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A bunch of laughing and finger snapping while we talk about relationships, sex and self love.
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Amirah Morris
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