Sex Advice for Seniors Podcast

What I Discussed With Dr. Kelly Barron...- How chocolate and sex have always been linked, and the herbs Kelly uses to make that connection real.- Why menopause changes my sex life without ending it, and what "designing a new sexual life" actually means.- The physical and emotional signs that show up when I feel disconnected from my own body at this stage of life.- Why so many women assume there must be a pill for low libido, when the real fix starts with removing pressure and giving myself grace.- The generational silence around sex after 50, and why celebrities like Madonna never talk about what's really going on.- What responsive desire is, and why it takes longer to get in the mood now than it did in my 40s.- Why scheduling sex and building rituals makes intimacy better, not less exciting.- The lingerie storytelling moment that taught me how anticipation can transform a night.Chapters:00:00 – Introduction & Sponsor Spotlight (https://www.ohmibod.com/)00:23 – Why women love chocolate: Science, Pleasure & Midlife Wellness01:42 – The Story Behind Dr. Kellfire’s Functional Chocolates for PMS, stress & libido06:10 – Sensory Experiences: Connecting Taste, Touch, and Intimacy08:00 – The Midnight Carnival: Making Sexual Wellness Fun & Playful09:20 – From Chiropractor to Sexologist: Dr. Kelly’s Holistic Approach to Menopause12:45 – Overcoming Body Image Struggles & Reclaiming Confidence After 5014:31 – Midlife Intimacy Guide (GITM Playbook Sponsor)15:02 – Taking Pressure Off the Bedroom: Body Awareness & Sensate Touch16:16 – Where Are the Older Sexual Role Models? Calling Out Media Double Standards19:46 – Midlife Dating Realities: Younger Men, Age Gaps & Finding Real Connection25:18 – Mastering Responsive Desire: How to Set the Mood for Better Sex26:23 – The Power of Scheduling Sex: Erotic Storytelling & Building Anticipation30:59 – Dating with Boundaries: Knowing What You Want & Vetting Partners34:04 – Desire Doesn’t Retire: Evolving Your Sex Life in Midlife and Beyond34:53 – Episode Wrap-Up & Show Notes LinksShow NotesI love chocolate, and I love talking about sex, so when I found a chocolate brand designed to support women's libido, I knew I had to bring the person behind it onto the show.In this episode, I'm joined by Dr Kelly Barron, a chiropractor, certified menopause specialist and sexologist based in Charleston, South Carolina, and founder of Dr Kellfire's, a chocolate brand formulated with herbs like fenugreek, maca and ashwagandha to support desire, mood and connection. Kelly and I talk about how her work with pregnant and perimenopausal women eventually led her into sexology, and why so many of her clients could get through hot flashes and brain fog, but not the disappearance of their sex drive.What I love about this conversation is how honest it gets. We talk about why menopause isn't the end of my sex life, just the end of the sex life I used to have. We talk about why the media and celebrities like Madonna stay completely silent about what's actually happening in their intimate lives after 50. And we land on one of Kelly's most freeing insights: that at this stage, most of us have shifted from spontaneous desire to responsive desire, and that's not a loss; it's just a different starting point.Whether I'm partnered, dating or figuring things out on my own, this episode is full of practical ideas I can actually use. Including one of my own tricks: making a partner tell me a story before I send a single photo.Listen, learn and enjoy.Key Takeaways- Chocolate formulated with the right herbs can genuinely support mood, desire and connection.- Menopause changes my sex life, but it doesn't end it. It's a chance to redesign it on my own terms.- Body disconnection at this stage often shows up as confidence dips, not just physical symptoms.- There's no single pill for low libido. Removing pressure and building body awareness comes first.- Celebrities and the media rarely tell the truth about sex after 50, which leaves most of us with no real role models.- Desire shifts from spontaneous to responsive with age, and that requires more ritual, not less spontaneity.- Scheduling sex and building anticipation can make intimacy more exciting, not more routine.- Storytelling, texting and drawing things out can reignite desire more than a straightforward photo or invitation ever could.About the GuestDr Kelly Barron is a chiropractor, certified menopause specialist, strength and conditioning specialist, and certified sexologist based in Charleston, South Carolina. She is the founder of Dr. Kellfire's, a chocolate brand created to support hormone balance, desire and pleasure, with formulas designed for both women and couples.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWant More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringRelated EpisodesThe Simple Practice That Brought Intimacy Back After 20 Years: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-waiting-to-feel-in-the-mood-doesntWhy Long-Term Couples Drift Apart, and the Simple Habit That Brings Them Back: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-couples-lose-the-spark-and-howBonus Live: The Relationship Lesson That Ends So Much Conflict: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/bonus-live-the-relationship-lesson This is a public episode. 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What I Discussed With Dr. Jenn Kennedy...- The two problems that bring most couples over 50 into sex therapy, and why embarrassment keeps them away for so long.- Why an unreliable erection doesn't mean the end of pleasure, and what "pivoting" actually looks like in bed.- The surprising sensitivity of a soft penis, and why porn has left us all badly under-educated.- Why sex that "feels like sandpaper" is so common after menopause, and the fixes that work within weeks.- The generational reason women over 50 feel funny about keeping lube by the bed.- Why the low-desire partner usually doesn't dislike sex. She dislikes the sex she's having.- How pressure turns desire into obligation, and what brings real desire back instead.- The two words that reignite relationships after decades together.Episode Chapters00:00 Why couples feel embarrassed to talk about sex problems00:28 The missing word in long-term intimacy: curiosity03:41 The most common issues couples bring to sex therapy05:10 When people see a doctor first vs a sex therapist first06:44 What ageing does to sex, erections, and desire08:32 How to work with what still feels good09:17 Why shame shuts down sexual connection11:02 Why men struggle to move beyond penetrative sex12:35 Practical tips for unreliable erections13:49 Sensitivity, softness, and new ways to think about pleasure16:01 Vaginal dryness, pain, and vaginal atrophy17:32 Lube, suppositories, and vaginal estrogen20:25 Why women over 50 still feel shame about needing lube21:09 The biggest mistake couples make with mismatched desire23:30 Why relational connection matters more than mechanics26:08 How curiosity helps long-term couples rediscover intimacy27:59 The power of asking questions and listening31:52 Dr. Jenn Kennedy’s Pleasure Project courseShow NotesIs it okay to say things aren't working in the bedroom? That's the question, according to my guest, that couples are silently asking as they walk into her office. Erections that have become unreliable. Sex that hurts. Desire that seems to have packed up and left. Most people wait years before saying any of it out loud.In this episode, I'm joined by Dr Jenn Kennedy, clinical sexologist, licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of The Pleasure Project in Santa Barbara. Jenn works with couples and individuals in their 50s, 60s and beyond, and she's refreshingly frank about what she sees: bodies that change with age, partners drowning in shame about it, and simple fixes that nobody has bothered to tell them exist.What I love about this conversation is how practical it gets. We talk about what to do in the actual moment an erection doesn't arrive. We talk about vaginal estrogen, the treatment that clears up painful sex in weeks, and why so many women have never heard of it. And we land on Jenn's most freeing insight: the partner who has "gone off sex" usually hasn't gone off sex at all. She's gone off sex where her pleasure comes last.Whether you're partnered, dating or somewhere in between, this episode is full of things you can actually use. Including, for the men, the simplest question in the entire universe. Ask it daily. Then listen to the answer.Listen, learn and enjoy.Key Takeaways- Dysfunction and dissatisfaction are the two main reasons couples over 50 seek sex therapy.- Pivoting to what feels good keeps shame out of the room, and often brings things back.- Sensitivity doesn't disappear with an erection.- Painful sex after menopause is common, treatable and nothing to be ashamed of.- Lube is not a failure.- Vaginal estrogen can transform painful sex in weeks, yet many women are never told about it.- Pressuring a low-desire partner creates obligation, not desire.- The low-desire partner often enjoys sex.- Desire lives in play, curiosity and banter, not in routine.About the GuestDr. Jenn Kennedy is a clinical sexologist and LMFT specialising in sex and couples. In 2023, Dr. Jenn launched The Pleasure Project, which is dedicated to helping us all have a better sex life.  She hosts a podcast called Pleasure Project: Sex & Relationships and offers small group intensives for women and couples. She recently launched a self-guided intimacy course for women and owns a 9-person group therapy practice called Riviera Therapy. Dr Jenn has been quoted in Redbook, Reader’s Digest, Forbes Health, DailyOm, Shondaland, Parade, Allure, Yahoo!, and others. She is often tapped to discuss intimacy and sexuality for therapists and physicians.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWant More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringRelated EpisodesWhy Long-Term Couples Drift Apart, and the Simple Habit That Brings Them Back: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-couples-lose-the-spark-and-howThe Simple Practice That Brought Intimacy Back After 20 Years: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-waiting-to-feel-in-the-mood-doesntBonus Live: The Relationship Lesson That Ends So Much Conflict: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/bonus-live-the-relationship-lesson This is a public episode. 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What I Discussed With Aine Rock…- Why having the "perfect" life on paper doesn't always mean you're living the life you truly want.- The surprising difference between being happy, being comfortable and feeling genuinely alive.- Why losing intimacy often starts long before couples stop having sex.- How reconnecting with pleasure can become the first step towards rebuilding your entire life.- Why women often don't know what they want in bed—and how to begin discovering it.- What happened when Áine and her husband experimented with opening their marriage before deciding to separate.- Why small daily pleasure practices can create profound shifts in confidence, creativity and relationships.- How learning to say both "yes" and "no" transforms intimacy at every stage of life.And much more...Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction01:20 What Does It Mean to "Blow Your Life Up"?04:00 Happy on the Outside, Lonely on the Inside07:00 Opening a Marriage—or Ending It?11:00 Rediscovering Yourself Through Dating16:00 Why Women Struggle to Express Desire20:00 What Is Erotic Alchemy?24:00 Reclaiming Pleasure Without Leaving Your Life28:00 Self-Pleasure, Rituals and Knowing Your Body33:00 Final Thoughts on Living More FullyShow NotesHave you ever caught yourself thinking, "Is this really all there is?" Not because your life is falling apart, but because everything looks fine on the surface—and yet something inside you feels quietly disconnected.It's a question many people never admit out loud, particularly women who have spent decades caring for partners, children and everyone else before themselves. When you've built the life you thought you were supposed to want, it can be deeply unsettling to realise you're still longing for something more.In this episode, I'm joined by author and coach Áine Rock, whose new book Blow Your Life Up explores what happens when we stop living by other people's expectations and begin listening to our own desires. After leaving a long marriage, Áine embarked on a journey of rediscovering pleasure, intimacy and identity—not simply through dating, but by learning to understand herself in an entirely new way.What I love about this conversation is that it isn't really about leaving a marriage. It's about asking better questions. What brings you joy? What makes you feel alive? What have you been putting off because you've convinced yourself it's too late—or because you've spent so long putting everyone else first?Whether you're happily partnered, recently divorced or simply wondering what your next chapter might look like, this episode is a gentle reminder that pleasure isn't selfish. It can be the beginning of coming home to yourself.Listen, learn and enjoy.Key Takeaways- Feeling unfulfilled isn't the same as being unhappy.- Long-term relationships can lose emotional and sexual intimacy without obvious conflict.- Reconnecting with your own desires often starts before reconnecting with a partner.- Pleasure is about much more than sex—it includes creativity, rest and self-expression.- Opening a relationship isn't always the answer if deeper intimacy is missing.- Learning what you want requires curiosity and practice.- Clear communication about pleasure creates better intimacy.- Self-pleasure can help women better understand their own bodies.- Small rituals can reconnect you with your sense of aliveness.- It's never too late to redesign your life around what truly matters.About the GuestÁine Rock is an author, coach and facilitator who describes herself as the Modern Priestess of Pleasure. Through her writing, workshops and coaching, she helps women reconnect with desire, pleasure and authentic self-expression after years of living according to expectations rather than personal truth. Following the end of her 15-year marriage, Áine developed a body-centred approach to helping women rediscover intimacy, confidence and what she calls their "erotic aliveness". Her latest book, Blow Your Life Up: The Wild Art of Wanting More, explores how listening to desire can become a catalyst for profound personal transformation.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWant More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringRelated EpisodesBonus Live: The Relationship Lesson That Ends So Much Conflict - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/bonus-live-the-relationship-lessonWhy Long-Term Couples Drift Apart—and the Simple Habit That Brings Them Back - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-couples-lose-the-spark-and-howThe Simple Practice That Brought Intimacy Back After 20 Years - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-waiting-to-feel-in-the-mood-doesnt This is a public episode. 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What I Discussed With Malia Lazu…- Why so many women spend years putting everyone else's needs before their own—including in the bedroom.- What the "pleasure gap" reveals about women's sexual satisfaction and why the issue goes far beyond orgasm.- How shame, social conditioning and unrealistic expectations stop women from asking for what they truly want.- Why learning what gives you pleasure is the first step towards better intimacy with a partner.- How creating emotionally safe spaces allows women to explore sexuality without judgement.- Why being single, child-free or choosing unconventional relationships can be deeply fulfilling later in life.- How letting go of outdated ideas about ageing can open the door to greater confidence, curiosity and sexual freedom.- Why stopping the habit of "faking it" could transform not only your sex life, but your relationship with yourself.And much more... Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction01:10 Why Malia Created Sunflower Spa04:30 The Pleasure Gap and Why Women Fake Orgasms08:00 Shame, Safety and Talking Honestly About Sex12:30 Why Women Need Spaces to Learn from Each Other15:30 Challenging Myths About Sexuality After 5018:00 Being Child-Free, Single and Sexually Confident22:00 Decentring Men and Redefining Relationships27:00 Why Self-Pleasure Builds Better Relationships32:00 Final Reflections: Grace, Purpose, Power and Pleasure Show NotesWho told us that getting older meant becoming quieter, less visible or less interested in pleasure?For many women, the second half of life brings an unexpected opportunity—not simply to rethink relationships, but to rethink the stories we've been telling ourselves for decades. Stories about worthiness, desire, ageing and what we're supposedly allowed to want.In this episode, I'm joined by entrepreneur and community organiser Malia Lazu, founder of Sunflower Spa, a women-centred space dedicated to healing sensuality, confidence and belonging. Rather than seeing pleasure as something frivolous or self-indulgent, Malia argues that it's deeply connected to how we value ourselves and the choices we make throughout our lives.Together we explore why so many women continue to fake satisfaction, remain silent about their needs or feel guilty for putting themselves first. We also discuss what happens when women begin to challenge those assumptions—whether that means exploring self-pleasure, embracing life without children, questioning traditional relationship expectations or simply becoming more honest about what feels good.What stayed with me most is the reminder that pleasure isn't really the destination. It's often the by-product of feeling safe, respected and fully present in your own body. And perhaps that's something we become better at as we age—not despite getting older, but because of it.Because the greatest freedom may not be finding someone else to choose us. It may be finally choosing ourselves.Listen, learn and enjoy. Key Takeaways- Pleasure begins with self-awareness, not with a partner.- Many women fake satisfaction because they struggle to communicate their needs.- Emotional safety is essential for fulfilling intimacy.- Social conditioning continues to shape women's sexuality throughout life.- Self-pleasure helps people understand what they genuinely enjoy.- Relationships shouldn't leave you emotionally exhausted.- Growing older creates opportunities to redefine intimacy and partnership.- Being single or child-free can be deeply fulfilling.- Honest communication benefits both partners.- Self-worth and sexual confidence are closely connected. About the GuestMalia Lazu is an entrepreneur, community organiser and the founder of Sunflower Spa, a women-centred community focused on healing, sensuality and belonging. After years leading businesses and working with major organisations, Malia shifted her focus towards creating spaces where women can explore pleasure, identity and self-worth without shame or judgement. Through workshops, community events and educational resources, she encourages women to reconnect with themselves, embrace authentic relationships and redefine what fulfilment looks like at every stage of life. About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it. Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com Want More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring Related EpisodesBonus Live: What Great Sex Looks Like After 50 - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/live-with-suzanne-noble-sex-advice-738Bonus Live: Does Pleasure Really Get Better With Age? - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/live-with-suzanne-noble-and-avivahDesire Doesn't Retire: The Secret Sex Lives of People Over 60 - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/getting-down-and-dirty-with-kathy This is a public episode. 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I keep hearing the same story from people who are looking for love later in life: they want a relationship that feels good, but they’re not always sure how to tell the difference between real compatibility and a temporary rush of attraction.In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I speak with dating and relationship coach Sandy Weiner, chief love officer at Last First Date, TEDx speaker, author of Choice Points in Dating, and host of the Last First Date podcast. We talk honestly about why so many people second-guess themselves in dating, why the spark can be misleading, and how to build a relationship that actually lasts.podcastmarketingmagic.What Sandy shares is practical, refreshing, and deeply useful for anyone navigating dating after 40, 50, or 60. We get into attachment styles, self-trust, boundaries, and the difference between chemistry that fizzles and connection that grows over time.Getting started with sex toys?GITM PLAYBOOK has a fabulous range of toys, plus a handy guide to help you pick the ones that suit you best.Use my code: SUZANNE20 for 20% off.ABOUT SUZANNE:Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast, one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.CONNECT WITH SUZANNE:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWANT MORE?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringFollow Sandy Here:Website https://lastfirstdate.com/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/lastfirstdateInstagram https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@LastfirstdateChapters:0:00 Chemistry vs compatibility in dating after 501:16 Meet Sandy Weiner, dating coach and founder of Last First Date2:37 How dating motivation changes for women vs men after 403:09 Why women over 50 second-guess themselves in dating7:38 How long does it take to really know someone you're dating?8:04 What it means to be a woman of value in later life dating9:35 How to identify your non-negotiables and real deal breakers10:08 Sandy's three pillars for confident dating10:41 Why your values get flexible when you like someone (and what to do about it)12:46 Dating in your 50s vs your 20s and 30s: what actually changes13:20 How to state your standards early without being difficult14:10 Why chemistry is harder after 50 and how to recalibrate attraction16:50 Dating after 50: body image, confidence, and doing the inner work18:26 Does therapy make someone a better partner?19:14 Why dismissing people based on checklists costs you great relationships21:31 EQ vs IQ in dating: what emotional intelligence actually looks like23:44 How chemistry develops through shared experience (and what kills it)25:47 Why coffee dates kill attraction and what to do instead28:35 What travel reveals about a partner's real personality32:06 Sandy's one piece of advice for seniors navigating dating and relationships today This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

What if intimacy in later life isn’t really about sex at all?In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I speak with George Goulburn, a straight male escort in his 50s, who works with women in their 50s, 60s, 70s, and even 80s.What he shares challenges almost every assumption about escorting, desire, and connection in later life.Far from quick, transactional encounters, George’s clients are seeking something deeper: emotional connection, safety, touch, and the chance to feel seen and desired again, often after years or even decades without intimacy.We explore what women really want as they age, how confidence and sexual identity evolve, and why honest conversations about desire are still so rare.This episode is honest, surprising, and deeply human, and it might just change how you think about intimacy in later life.Getting started with sex toys?GITM PLAYBOOK has a fabulous range of toys, plus a handy guide to help you pick the ones that suit you best.Use my code: SUZANNE20 for 20% off.ABOUT SUZANNE:Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.CONNECT WITH SUZANNE:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWANT MORE?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringCONNECT WITH GEORGE:Website https://www.georgegoulburn.com/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/georgegoulburnofficialYouTube https://www.youtube.com/@George_GoulburnFacebook. https://www.facebook.com/george.goulburn.2023Chapters:00:00 Introduction: Why this conversation matters00:25 Meet George: A male escort for women over 5003:20 Why intimacy takes time, not just sex08:30 Who hires male escorts and why11:20 What women really want16:00 Do clients fall in love?18:40 Ethical non-monogamy and dating life21:40 Creating safety, trust, and consent27:40 Myths about male escorts29:00 Why older women don’t want “perfect” bodies31:20 Why we struggle to talk about sex34:20 Sex with older virgins: a hidden reality35:50 The real outcome: confidence and self-worth This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Most couples say their relationship is their top priority—but their time, energy, and attention often tell a different story.In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I’m joined by relationship coach and Relational Life Therapy practitioner Monica Tanner to explore what really keeps long-term couples connected, emotionally and sexually, well into their 60s, 70s, and beyond.We dive into Monica’s surprisingly simple “3% rule” - a powerful framework for maintaining intimacy, connection, and communication without needing to overhaul your entire life. We also unpack why resentment builds in long-term relationships, how health challenges affect sexual intimacy in older adults, and whether it’s truly possible to change relationship patterns after decades together.If you’re navigating love, sex, and connection in later life, this episode offers practical, realistic tools you can start using today.What You’ll Learn:·       The “3% rule” for relationship success and why small time investments create big intimacy gains·       How to maintain emotional and sexual connection in your 50s, 60s, and 70s·       Why resentment in long-term relationships is often unspoken desire·       The daily habit that keeps couples from drifting apart over time·       How illness, aging, and health issues impact intimacy... and how to adapt·       Why couples delay important conversations about sex, needs, and expectations·       Whether it’s possible to change deeply ingrained relationship patterns later in lifeKey Topics & Keywords:Sex advice for seniors, intimacy after 60, relationships in later life, sexual health for older adults, maintaining intimacy in long-term relationships, marriage advice for older couples, communication in relationships, emotional connection in aging, sex and aging, overcoming resentment in relationships, relationship coaching, Relational Life Therapy, intimacy after illness, rekindling connection in later lifeAbout Monica Tanner:Monica Tanner is a relationship coach, Relational Life Therapy practitioner, and host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast. She helps couples create deeper connection, better communication, and lasting intimacy - no matter how long they’ve been together.Connect with Monica:·       Website: https://www.monicatanner.com/·       Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-and-intimacy-tips·       Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monitalksmarriage·       Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/monica.tanner2·       YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@secretsofhappilyeverafterListen & Follow Sex Advice for Seniors:If you enjoyed this episode, follow Sex Advice for Seniors for honest conversations about sex, intimacy, and relationships in later life. Share with a friend who might need this reminder: your relationship deserves to be a priority... at any age. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this lively conversation with Dr. Trina Read, a globally recognised sexologist, author, and one of the “most trusted voices on long-term intimacy,” we discuss the new wave of sex toys, namely those created by a company called Tracey’s Dog, which is “beta-ing” a toy called Drill Me. Yes, you read that correctly.A company that sounds like it should be making pet products, which is what it originally was, has now entered the world of “teledildonics” (apparently, that’s a thing) to create a product that allows you to have sex with, for example, a werewolf (Hugh Jackman, are you listening?) via an avatar you can create. Or a doctor. A fireman. In fact, any fantasy you might have, whether it’s a younger or older man, a man in uniform, or a sexy beast.You name it, and apparently the Aiphy app can create it, allowing you to move beyond the mediocre sex you may be experiencing in real life and have the kind of sex you’ve always desired. This, folks, is our future.Or is it?Trina and I discuss whether over-50s are ready for, or even interested in, sex toys of this variety, whether AI avatars can replace real people, and the pros and cons of this new technology.I won’t give away the outcome. Instead, I hope you’ll listen to this Substack Live, which was a lot of fun. And, I’d love to hear your thoughts on this! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

The wonderful Amara Charles and I talk about how to design your sexual life as you age. How to experience pleasure, and what if an ageing body isn’t broken, but is simply done performing?Can later life sex become freer, wiser, more playful and more intimate than the sex we had when we were younger? Listen and find out!Go to amaracharles.com to learn more about Amara’s work.Subscriber to Sex Advice for Seniors to hear about my weekly Substack Lives, my regular podcast . Paid subscribers also receive posts of a more intimate nature. :)Ready to Go Deeper?Upgrade to unlock more confidence, clarity, and pleasure in your intimate life.As a paid subscriber, you’ll get:✨ Full access to my sexy stories🎙️ The complete archive of 175+ expert-led podcasts💬 Entry to my private members-only chat room📘 My 32-page guide: Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later LifeIf you’re ready to explore new possibilities and feel fully supported, join today for £6.99/month or £49.99/year.Your support makes the weekly podcast and blog possible and helps keep this work (and me) going. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Erectile dysfunction is often treated as a physical issue, but this conversation explores the emotional, psychological, and lifestyle factors that can sit underneath it. Suzanne Noble opens with a personal reflection on how ED can be an early warning sign of more serious health problems, before introducing guest Tom Jenkins, author of The Drunk Gambler with Erectile Dysfunction.Tom speaks candidly about his early sexual experiences, the role alcohol and gambling played in masking insecurity, and how poor confidence shaped his relationship with sex. He explains how honest communication with a partner, lifestyle changes, meditation, exercise, improved diet, and a major change of environment all contributed to his recovery. He also discusses why he eventually moved away from relying only on medication and toward addressing the root causes of his struggles.The conversation also covers the link between erectile dysfunction and drinking, the pressure men can feel around performance, and why shame often prevents men from seeking help. Tom shares how an ayahuasca retreat became a turning point, helping him confront deeper issues and rebuild his life with more self-awareness and stability. The episode closes with a reminder that every person’s healing path is different, and that responsible, supported approaches matter when exploring alternative therapies.Why listenThis episode is for anyone interested in sexual health, men’s wellness, emotional resilience, recovery from unhealthy habits, and the connection between intimacy and confidence. It offers a grounded, honest conversation about ED that goes beyond quick fixes and into real-life change.Key topicsErectile dysfunction and what it can signal.Alcohol, gambling, and sexual confidence.Shame, performance pressure, and communication in relationships.Lifestyle changes, meditation, exercise, and diet.Medication versus root-cause healing.Psychedelics and responsible use in personal healing.SEO keywordserectile dysfunction, men’s sexual health, senior sex advice, confidence and intimacy, alcohol and erectile dysfunction, gambling addiction recovery, sexual wellness, relationship communication, natural ED solutions, lifestyle change, men over 50, emotional healing, sexual performance anxiety, healthy intimacy, podcast about sexFAQWhat causes erectile dysfunction besides age?Erectile dysfunction can be connected to stress, alcohol use, low confidence, relationship issues, and broader health problems, not just age.Can lifestyle changes improve erectile dysfunction?This episode highlights how better diet, exercise, reduced drinking, meditation, and emotional honesty can support improvement.Is erectile dysfunction always physical?No. In this conversation, ED is presented as a mix of physical, emotional, and psychological factors.Does medication solve erectile dysfunction permanently?Medication can help symptoms, but Tom and Suzanne discuss the importance of addressing root causes too This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

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What I Discussed with Scot McKay…- Why many people over 50 are abandoning dating apps and what they are doing instead to find meaningful relationships. - How online dating evolved from a genuine way to meet people into a swipe-based system that often prioritises engagement over connection. - Why dating after 60 may actually be easier than dating in your 30s and 40s for people seeking authentic relationships. - The surprising reasons more women over 50 are choosing younger partners and what this reveals about health, lifestyle and modern expectations. - Scot McKay's "Big Four" framework for attraction: confidence, masculinity or femininity, appreciation for the opposite sex, and character. - Why many long-term relationships fail after the children leave home and how couples can avoid drifting apart. - The concept of "Deserve What You Want" and why becoming the partner you want to attract may be more important than finding the perfect match. - Why optimism, generosity and strong character remain some of the most attractive qualities regardless of age, technology or dating trends. And much more...Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction02:15 How Modern Dating Has Changed Over the Last 20 Years07:40 Why Dating Apps Are Failing So Many People14:30 Is Online Dating Dead?20:10 Finding Love and Connection After 6025:45 Meeting People in Real Life Instead of Online31:20 Why More Older Women Are Dating Younger Men38:10 Health, Attraction and Ageing Well45:00 Scot McKay's Big Four Principles of Attraction52:30 Dating After Divorce and Rebuilding Confidence58:40 Why Some Long-Term Relationships Fall Apart01:04:15 The Philosophy of "Deserve What You Want"01:10:30 What Creates Lasting Love Later in Life?01:14:00 Final ThoughtsShow NotesHave dating apps ruined modern relationships? Or have they simply exposed problems that were already there?When I first started dating online in the early 2000s, it felt exciting. You could meet interesting people, have fascinating conversations and genuinely believe you might stumble across someone special. Fast-forward to today, and many of us seem trapped in an endless cycle of swiping, ghosting and disappointment.In this episode, I speak with dating and relationship coach Scot McKay, who believes we've reached a tipping point. After spending more than two decades helping people navigate dating and relationships, Scot argues that modern dating has become increasingly transactional, with many people focusing more on what they can get from a relationship than what they can contribute to one.Together, we explore why dating apps no longer seem to deliver the results they once did, why some women over 50 are choosing younger partners, and whether finding love later in life might actually be easier than many people think. We also discuss the qualities that create lasting attraction, the mistakes many couples make after raising children together, and why character may be far more important than chemistry when it comes to building a successful relationship.Scot also shares his philosophy of "Deserve What You Want"—the idea that finding a great partner starts with becoming the kind of person a great partner would want to be with.Whether you're actively dating, happily partnered, divorced, widowed or simply curious about how relationships are changing, this conversation offers plenty of food for thought.Listen, learn and enjoy.Key Takeaways- Dating has changed dramatically since the rise of smartphones and social media.- Many people now approach relationships from a transactional mindset.- Authenticity remains one of the most attractive qualities in dating.- Older adults can still find success through online dating when expectations are realistic.- Meeting people in real life is becoming increasingly important.- Health and lifestyle compatibility matter more as we age.- Confidence and character are more attractive than superficial traits.- Successful relationships require mutual contribution and partnership.- Rebuilding after divorce starts with self-awareness and personal growth.- To attract the right partner, focus on becoming the right partner.About the GuestScot McKay is a dating and relationship coach, author, speaker and host of The Mountaintop Podcast. For more than two decades, he has helped men and women improve their confidence, relationships and dating success. Scot is the creator of the "Big Four" framework and is widely known for his philosophy of helping people "deserve what they want" in life and relationships.Connect With ScotThe Mountain Top Podcast https://mountaintoppodcast.com/welcome/X https://x.com/scotmckayFacebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/mountaintopsummitInstagram https://www.instagram.com/realscotmckayTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@scotmckaySubstack https://scotmckay.substack.com/YouTube https://www.youtube.com/scotmckayAbout SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast, one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWANT MORE?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring This is a public episode. 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What I Discussed With Anthony Canapi…- Why many gay men over 50 are turning away from dating apps and looking for more personal ways to find meaningful relationships.- The unique dating challenges faced by older gay men, including grief, ageism, relationship loss and the legacy of the HIV/AIDS crisis.- Why some older gay men are drawn to younger partners and what may be driving that attraction.- How decades of discrimination and social stigma continue to influence dating and relationships later in life.- Why finding love after losing a long-term partner is often about restoring hope as much as finding companionship.- What professional matchmaking actually involves and why it goes far beyond simply introducing people.- The importance of shared values, lifestyle goals and plans when dating in your 50s, 60s and beyond.- Why authenticity, emotional readiness and flexibility are often more important than having a perfect list of requirements.And much more...Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction01:00 How Anthony Became a Matchmaker03:00 Why Many Gay Men Are Leaving Dating Apps06:30 Finding Love Again After Loss and Bereavement10:00 The Unique Dating Challenges Facing Older Gay Men14:30 The Lasting Impact of the HIV/AIDS Crisis18:00 Why Some Older Gay Men Seek Younger Partners22:00 What Professional Matchmaking Really Involves27:00 Emotional Readiness and Relationship Success31:00 Shared Values, Lifestyle and Future Goals35:00 Why It's Never Too Late to Find Love39:00 The Future of Dating and Matchmaking42:00 Final ThoughtsEpisode DescriptionIs it ever too late to find love?For many older adults, dating can feel overwhelming. Add in the unique experiences that many gay men have lived through—including discrimination, loss, grief and decades of social change—and finding a meaningful relationship can feel even more complicated.In this episode, I speak with Anthony Canapi, founder of Best Man Matchmaking, psychotherapist, dating coach and one of the few professional matchmakers dedicated exclusively to helping gay men find long-term relationships.Together, we discuss why dating apps are leaving so many people frustrated, what older gay men are really looking for in a partner, and why matchmaking is becoming an increasingly attractive alternative to endless swiping and ghosting.Anthony also shares some of the deeper psychological factors that can influence dating later in life, including the impact of missed experiences, relationship trauma and the desire for connection after years of independence. We explore how attitudes towards ageing, partnership and intimacy are changing, and why finding someone who shares your vision for the future may matter more than ever.Whether you're dating after divorce, grieving the loss of a partner, or simply wondering if meaningful love is still possible later in life, this conversation offers hope, insight and practical wisdom.Listen, learn and enjoy.Key Takeaways- It is never too late to find love or begin a new relationship.- Many older adults are becoming increasingly frustrated with dating apps.- Older gay men often face unique dating challenges shaped by history and lived experience.- Grief, loss and trauma can influence relationship expectations later in life.- Matchmaking provides a personalised alternative to online dating.- Emotional readiness is often more important than simply finding the right person.- Shared values and future goals become increasingly important with age.- Flexibility can be more valuable than rigid dating preferences.- Meaningful relationships are built on compatibility, communication and connection.- Hope remains an important part of finding love later in life.About the GuestAnthony Canapi is the founder and CEO of Best Man Matchmaking, a specialist matchmaking service dedicated exclusively to helping gay men find meaningful, long-term relationships. With a background in psychotherapy, psychology and dating coaching, Anthony combines emotional insight with personalised matchmaking to help clients navigate modern dating and build authentic connections. He works with gay men across the United States, including many clients seeking companionship and partnership later in life.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWANT MORE?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring This is a public episode. 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What I Discussed with Tanya Leake…- What clitoral atrophy is and why many women have never heard of it.- How menopause can affect sensation, arousal and orgasm.- The connection between clitoral health, blood flow and hormonal changes.- What clitoral adhesions are and how they can develop over time.- Whether regular sexual activity can help maintain sexual function during menopause.- The role of vaginal oestrogen, testosterone and other treatment options.- Non-hormonal approaches that may support vaginal and sexual health.- Why many women struggle to get accurate information about menopause-related sexual changes.And much more...Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction02:40 What Is Clitoral Atrophy?05:00 How Menopause Affects Sexual Function07:40 Blood Flow, Sensation and Pleasure09:30 Does Sexual Activity Help?13:20 Treatment Options and Hormonal Support18:30 Why Women's Sexual Health Is Often Overlooked22:00 Menopause Care and Healthcare Gaps26:00 Breast Cancer, Menopause and Sexual Function28:30 Non-Hormonal Treatments and Emerging Research32:00 Advocating for Your Sexual HealthEpisode DescriptionWhy does nobody talk about clitoral atrophy?Most women have heard about hot flushes, brain fog and vaginal dryness during menopause. Far fewer know that menopause can also affect the clitoris, potentially impacting sensation, arousal and sexual pleasure.In this episode, I speak with Tanya Leake, menopause mindset and lifestyle coach, about a topic that remains surprisingly absent from many conversations about women's health.Together, we explore what clitoral atrophy is, why it happens, and how hormonal changes can affect sexual function during and after menopause. We discuss the role of blood flow, tissue health and nerve sensitivity, as well as practical ways women can support their sexual wellbeing as they age.Tanya also explains the differences between vaginal oestrogen, testosterone therapy and non-hormonal approaches, while highlighting why so many women struggle to get the information and support they need from healthcare providers.Whether you're currently navigating menopause, supporting a partner, or simply want to understand more about female sexual health, this conversation offers valuable insights into a subject that deserves far more attention.Listen, learn and enjoy.Key Takeaways- Clitoral atrophy is a real but often overlooked aspect of menopause.- Hormonal changes can affect sensation, arousal and orgasm.- Blood flow plays an important role in maintaining sexual function.- Clitoral adhesions can develop when tissue changes occur over time.- Regular stimulation may help support tissue health and sexual wellbeing.- Vaginal oestrogen can be an effective treatment option for many women.- Non-hormonal alternatives may be available for those who cannot use hormones.- Breast cancer survivors often face additional sexual health challenges.- Women should feel empowered to discuss sexual health concerns with healthcare providers.- Education and self-advocacy are important parts of menopause care.Understanding Clitoral AtrophyWhat Is Clitoral Atrophy?Clitoral atrophy refers to changes in the clitoris that may occur when declining hormone levels reduce blood flow and tissue health. These changes can affect sensation, arousal and sexual pleasure.Why Does It Happen?During menopause, lower levels of oestrogen and other hormones can impact blood circulation, tissue elasticity and nerve sensitivity within the genital area.What Are the Signs?- Women may notice:- Reduced sensitivity- Difficulty reaching orgasm- Changes in arousal- Discomfort during stimulation- Changes in genital tissueWhat Can Women Do About It?- Treatment options may include:- Vaginal oestrogen- Testosterone therapy (where appropriate)- Regular sexual stimulation- Pelvic floor exercises- Non-hormonal moisturisers and treatments- Specialist menopause supportAbout the GuestTanya Leake is a menopause mindset and lifestyle coach, board-certified patient advocate and creator of the Hot Flash newsletter. She is passionate about helping women better understand menopause, advocate for their health and make informed decisions about their wellbeing. Through her work, Tanya translates emerging research into practical, accessible information that empowers women to navigate midlife with confidence.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWANT MORE?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring This is a public episode. 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What I Discussed With Joe Bains…- How growing up in a traditional Indian family with an arranged marriage shaped Joe’s views on relationships, sex and personal freedom.- Why Joe deliberately pushed himself from being an extreme introvert into a highly social and adventurous life.- What biohacking actually means and how optimising your health can improve vitality, energy and sexual wellbeing as you age.- Why Joe believes good health is one of the most powerful aphrodisiacs available.- How loneliness and social isolation can affect wellbeing later in life, and why community matters more than many people realise.- Joe’s journey into tantra and how it changed his understanding of intimacy, pleasure and connection.- Why mindset, self-examination and personal growth play a significant role in sexual fulfilment.- What it means to continually reinvent yourself rather than allowing age or circumstance to define your future.And much more…Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction01:30 From Extreme Introvert to “Extrovert Nerd”03:00 What Is Biohacking?06:00 Why Health Is the Greatest Aphrodisiac07:30 The Importance of Social Connection as We Age09:15 Growing Up in a Traditional Indian Family12:00 Discovering Tantra and Conscious Sexuality13:15 Pickup Culture, Dating and Personal Transformation15:30 Escaping Cultural Expectations and an Arranged Marriage21:00 Mindset, Philosophy and Personal Growth25:00 Measuring Sexual Vitality and Success26:30 Understanding Tantra and Multiple Orgasms28:15 Why Tantra Is About More Than Sex31:00 Life After Tantra: Entrepreneurship, AI and New Challenges33:00 Final ThoughtsEpisode DescriptionWhat happens when you reject the life that was planned for you and decide to create your own?When I first read Joe Bains’ biography, I wasn’t entirely sure how to describe what he does. Biohacker. Tantra practitioner. Entrepreneur. Philosopher. Self-described “extrovert nerd”. Naturally, I had to invite him onto the podcast.In this episode, Joe shares his remarkable journey from growing up in a traditional Indian family, where an arranged marriage and a very different future were expected of him, to spending decades exploring personal development, health optimisation, tantra and conscious living.Together, we discuss what biohacking really means, whyhealth and longevity are closely connected to sexual wellbeing, and how social connection can dramatically influence how we age. Joe also explains how tantra transformed his understanding of intimacy and why he believes many people focus too much on performance and not enough on connection.Along the way, we explore mindset, philosophy, ageing, relationships and the importance of continually challenging yourself to grow.Whether you’re curious about tantra, interested in healthy ageing, or simply fascinated by people who take unconventional paths through life, this conversation offers plenty of food for thought.Listen, learn and enjoy.Key Takeaways- Good health plays a significant role in maintaining sexual vitality as we age.- Biohacking is about optimising health, energy and longevity.- Social connection may be just as important as diet and exercise for healthy ageing.- Personal growth often begins outside our comfort zones.- Cultural expectations can shape our attitudes towards sex and relationships.- Tantra focuses on awareness, connection and intentional intimacy.- Mindset has a profound impact on wellbeing and quality of life.- Reinvention is possible at any stage of life.- Lifelong learning can help keep us engaged, curious and resilient.- Age does not have to limit personal development or exploration.About the GuestJoe Bains is a London-based biohacker, tantra practitioner, entrepreneur and lifelong student of personal development. His work explores the intersection of health optimisation, sexuality, mindset, nervous system regulation and human potential. Drawing on decades of experience in biohacking, philosophy and tantric practice, Joe is passionate about helping people challenge assumptions, improve wellbeing and live more intentionally.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWANT MORE?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring This is a public episode. 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What I Discussed With Amy Color… - Why many couples mistakenly believe that better sex starts with talking more rather than connecting differently.- What Amy learned from her own sexless marriage and why traditional therapy didn't provide the answers she was looking for.- Why erectile dysfunction often creates shame, pressure and disconnection for both partners.- How couples can build intimacy without focusing solely on penetration or performance.- Why many men struggle with the language of therapy and how a different approach can help them engage.- The surprising reason "date nights" often fail to solve deeper intimacy problems.- How pleasure, play and exploration can reignite emotional and physical connection.- Why intimacy and sex are not the same thing—and why understanding the difference matters.And much more...Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction01:35 Amy's Journey From a Sexless Marriage to Intimacy Coaching04:00 Why Traditional Therapy Didn't Work06:00 Helping Couples Rebuild Connection Through Pleasure09:00 Why Men Often Disengage From Therapy11:00 Coaching vs Therapy: What's the Difference?14:00 Dating, Desire and Sexual Connection16:30 Why Penetration Isn't the Whole Story17:30 What Intimacy Really Means21:00 Erectile Dysfunction, Shame and Relationship Stress25:00 Practical Skills for Better Sexual Connection29:00 Final ThoughtsShow NotesCan a relationship survive when sex disappears? And if it can, what does it actually take to rebuild intimacy?In this episode, I speak with intimacy and relationship coach Amy Color, whose own experience of navigating a sexless marriage led her to completely rethink how couples approach connection, desire and intimacy.Like many couples facing challenges in the bedroom, Amy and her husband sought help from therapists, sex therapists and medical professionals. But what she discovered was that much of the advice focused on analysing problems rather than teaching couples practical ways to reconnect.That experience led Amy on a mission to understand what actually helps couples rebuild emotional and physical intimacy. Today, she works with couples around the world, helping them move beyond performance pressure, shame and frustration towards a more playful, connected and pleasurable relationship.Together, we discuss erectile dysfunction, mismatched desire, why traditional therapy doesn't always work for everyone, and the difference between sex, love and intimacy. Amy also shares her unique coaching approach, which uses practical exercises, sports metaphors and real-world skills to help couples reconnect.Whether you're in a long-term relationship, struggling with intimacy, or simply curious about what keeps connection alive over time, this conversation offers a refreshing perspective on modern relationships.Listen, learn and enjoy.Key Takeaways- Many couples need practical intimacy skills, not just more conversations.- Erectile dysfunction affects both partners and often creates shame and pressure.- Emotional and physical connection are closely linked.- Traditional therapy doesn't work for every couple.- Intimacy is different from both love and sex.- Pleasure and exploration can help couples reconnect.- Performance pressure often makes sexual difficulties worse.- Men and women may communicate about intimacy in very different ways.- Building connection requires intention, practice and consistency.- Healthy relationships thrive when both partners feel seen, valued and understood.About the GuestAmy Color is an intimacy and relationship coach with more than 20 years of experience helping couples rebuild emotional and physical connection. Inspired by her own experience navigating a sexless marriage, she developed a practical, skills-based approach that combines relationship coaching, intimacy education and therapeutic techniques. Amy is also a TEDx speaker and creator of a range of programmes designed to help couples strengthen communication, deepen intimacy and create more fulfilling relationships.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWant More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringRelated EpisodesThe Simple Practice That Brought Intimacy Back After 20 Years - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-waiting-to-feel-in-the-mood-doesntRedefining Intimacy: Sex, Ageing, and Emotional Connection - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/redefining-intimacy-sex-ageing-andThe Intersection of ADHD and Intimacy: Insights from Sabrina Baldini - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/how-does-adhd-show-up-in-your-sex This is a public episode. 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What I Discussed With Jon Plate…- Why erectile dysfunction is one of the most common but least discussed side effects of prostate cancer surgery.- The shocking number of men who experience erectile dysfunction after a radical prostatectomy—and why many aren't warned beforehand.- Why surviving cancer and maintaining quality of life should be part of the same conversation.- How shame, stigma and poor communication can prevent men from seeking help for erectile dysfunction.- What stem cell therapy is and how it may help repair the underlying damage that causes erectile dysfunction.- Why treatments like Viagra, injections and pumps may address symptoms but not necessarily the root cause.- How men can become better advocates for their sexual health before and after medical treatment.- What the latest clinical research reveals about stem cell treatment for erectile dysfunction.And much more...Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction01:50 Why Suzanne Cares So Deeply About Erectile Dysfunction04:00 The Hidden Impact of Prostate Cancer Surgery07:00 Why Sexual Side Effects Are Often Overlooked10:00 Advocating for Your Sexual Health11:30 Introducing Stem Cell Therapy for Erectile Dysfunction15:00 Why Costa Rica Became a Stem Cell Treatment Hub16:30 What the Treatment Process Involves19:00 Recovery, Results and Success Rates21:45 Who Is the Best Candidate for Treatment?23:45 Erectile Dysfunction Treatments: Symptoms vs Root Causes30:00 The Future of Stem Cell Therapy33:00 Why Sexual Health Matters at Every Age35:00 Final ThoughtsEpisode DescriptionWhat if erectile dysfunction wasn't simply something men had to accept after prostate cancer treatment?One of the things I've become increasingly passionate about through this podcast is helping people understand that sexual health is health. Yet far too often, conversations about erectile dysfunction are avoided, dismissed or treated as an inevitable part of ageing.In this episode, I speak with Jon Plate, COO, CEO and co-founder of Nordic Stem Cells, a company pioneering an innovative approach to treating erectile dysfunction using a patient's own stem cells.Together, we explore one of the most common but least discussed consequences of prostate cancer surgery: the loss of erectile function. Jon explains why so many men are shocked by the impact of radical prostatectomy, how current treatments often focus on managing symptoms, and why stem cell therapy may offer a very different approach.We also discuss the emotional toll erectile dysfunction can have on relationships, the importance of patient advocacy, and why sexual function deserves to be part of every conversation about recovery and quality of life.Jon shares the results of early clinical research, explains what the treatment process involves, and discusses who may benefit most from this emerging therapy.Whether you're dealing with erectile dysfunction yourself, supporting a partner, or simply interested in the future of sexual medicine, this conversation offers a fascinating look at one of the most promising developments in men's sexual health.Listen, learn and enjoy.Key Takeaways- Erectile dysfunction is a common side effect of radical prostatectomy.- Many men feel unprepared for the sexual consequences of prostate cancer treatment.- Sexual health remains an important part of quality of life at every age.- Shame often prevents men from discussing erectile dysfunction openly.- Current treatments frequently focus on symptom management rather than tissue repair.- Stem cell therapy aims to address the underlying biological damage.- Clinical research has shown promising results in selected patients.- Overall health plays a significant role in treatment outcomes.- Patients should ask detailed questions before undergoing major procedures.- Advocacy and education are essential parts of sexual healthcare.- Understanding Erectile Dysfunction After Prostate Cancer SurgeryWhat Is It?Erectile dysfunction following radical prostatectomy occurs when the nerves, blood vessels and surrounding tissues involved in achieving an erection are damaged during prostate cancer surgery.Why Does It Happen?Even when surgery successfully removes cancer, the procedure can affect delicate nerve pathways and vascular structures that are essential for erectile function. Recovery may take months or years, and some men never fully regain function without additional support.What Are the Common Signs or Symptoms?- Difficulty achieving an erection- Difficulty maintaining an erection- Reduced rigidity- Loss of spontaneous or morning erections- Reduced confidence around intimacy- Relationship stress related to sexual functionWhat Can People Do About It?- Treatment options may include:- PDE5 inhibitors such as Viagra and Cialis- Vacuum erection devices- Penile rehabilitation programmes- Lifestyle improvements to support vascular health- Counselling or psychosexual therapy- Emerging regenerative treatments such as stem cell therapy- Open conversations with healthcare providers about recovery expectationsAbout the GuestJon Plate is the CEO, COO and co-founder of Nordic Stem Cells, a company focused on advancing regenerative medicine for erectile dysfunction. Working alongside researchers and clinicians who pioneered stem cell treatment protocols in Denmark, Jon is helping bring innovative therapies to men affected by erectile dysfunction following prostate cancer surgery. His work focuses on translating clinical research into real-world treatment options that aim to improve both sexual function and overall quality of life.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWant More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringRelated EpisodesThe Hidden Habits Destroying Men's Erections | ft. Tom Jenkins - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/the-real-cause-of-erectile-dysfunctionLive with Suzanne Noble and Ken Schafer - Uncovering the Root Cause of Erectile Dysfunction - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/live-with-suzanne-noble-and-ken-schaferThe Intersection of Prostate Cancer and Sexual Function - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/episode-155-navigating-sexual-health This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

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What I Discussed With Kathy Kay…- Why many women discover greater sexual confidence and freedom later in life.- The surprising reason some people become more adventurous in their 50s, 60s and beyond.- How communication—not necessarily better sex—is often the key to happier long-term relationships.- Why fantasies, fetishes and kinks are far more common than most people realise.- What Kathy has learned after interviewing more than a thousand people anonymously about their sex lives.- Why swinging, ethical non-monogamy and alternative relationships aren't always what people assume.- How shame prevents many people from exploring their sexuality—and why that often changes with age.- Why older adults shouldn't feel embarrassed about pursuing pleasure, curiosity and sexual fulfilment.And much more...Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction01:30 Kathy Kay's Journey into Anonymous Sex Storytelling04:30 Why Many Women Become More Sexually Confident After 5008:00 Older Adults, Swinging and Sexual Reinvention11:30 How Craigslist Changed Kathy's Podcast15:00 Fetishes, Fantasies and Why You're Not Alone19:00 Exploring Kink Later in Life22:00 Ethical Non-Monogamy and Swinging Relationships25:30 Why Communication Is the Secret to Better Relationships30:00 Why Older Adults Should Stop Feeling Ashamed About Sex33:00 Final ThoughtsEpisode DescriptionDoes age make us more sexually adventurous?For many people, the answer might be yes.In this episode, I speak with Kathy Kay, host of the long-running podcast Strictly Anonymous Confessions and author of Secretly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. Over the past decade, Kathy has interviewed more than a thousand people who have shared their most intimate experiences completely anonymously, giving her a unique perspective on what really happens behind closed doors.Together, we explore why so many people experience a sexual awakening later in life, how confidence often replaces shame as we age, and why older adults are far more adventurous than society gives them credit for.We also discuss fantasies, fetishes, swinging, ethical non-monogamy, online communities and the importance of honest communication in long-term relationships. Kathy shares some of the most surprising stories she's collected over the years and explains why many couples rediscover intimacy simply by talking openly about what they want.Above all, this conversation is a reminder that sexuality doesn't have an expiry date. Whether you're curious about exploring new experiences, wondering if your fantasies are "normal", or simply looking for reassurance that desire doesn't disappear with age, this episode offers humour, honesty and plenty of encouragement.Listen, learn and enjoy.Key Takeaways- Sexual confidence often grows with age.- Many people become more adventurous after 50.- Honest communication strengthens intimate relationships.- Fantasies and fetishes are more common than most people think.- Shame often prevents people from exploring their sexuality.- Ethical non-monogamy can work when built on trust and communication.- Older adults continue to seek novelty, intimacy and pleasure.- Online communities have helped reduce stigma around sexual interests.- There is no "right" way to experience sexuality between consenting adults.- Desire doesn't retire simply because we get older.About the GuestKathy Kay is the creator and host of Strictly Anonymous Confessions, one of the longest-running podcasts exploring anonymous real-life stories about sex, relationships and intimacy. For more than a decade, she has interviewed over a thousand guests about everything from swinging and ethical non-monogamy to fetishes, fantasies and relationship dynamics. Kathy is also the author of Secretly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers, a collection of some of the most fascinating stories shared on her podcast.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWant More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringRelated EpisodesHow to Turn around your Sex Life in 6 Weeks - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-most-couples-get-sex-completelyMagnificent Sex in Later Life: Why Aging Can Be Your Erotic Awakening - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/still-juicy-sex-selfworth-and-reinventingReplanting Desire: How to Grow an Authentic Sex Life in Midlife and Beyond - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/weeding-our-sexual-gardens-reclaiming This is a public episode. 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What I Discussed With Chris Bustamante…- Why more men over 50 are seeking treatments to improve erectile function, confidence and sexual wellbeing.- The difference between improving penile function and enhancing penile appearance—and why many men choose both.- What the P-Shot (PRP therapy) is and how it may help improve blood flow, sensation and erection quality.- How shockwave therapy works alongside medications like Viagra and Cialis to support erectile health.- Why penile Botox ("ShowTox") is becoming an increasingly popular treatment for erectile dysfunction.- What men should know about penile fillers, scrotal fillers and the latest aesthetic procedures.- How testosterone replacement therapy can affect the testicles and the options available to address those changes.- Why confidence, body image and sexual wellbeing remain important at every stage of life.And much more...Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction01:35 Why Men Seek Sexual Health and Penis Enhancement Treatments04:00 What Is the P-Shot (PRP Therapy)?07:30 How Shockwave Therapy Improves Erectile Function10:15 Penile Botox ("ShowTox") Explained13:00 Penile Fillers and Girth Enhancement16:00 Testosterone Therapy and Testicular Atrophy19:30 Scrotal Fillers: Restoring Confidence21:30 Costs, Safety and Recovery24:00 How Chris Specialised in Men's Sexual Health27:00 Final ThoughtsShow NotesHow much does confidence influence a man's sex life?While erectile dysfunction is often discussed, many men are also concerned about changes in appearance, sensation and confidence as they get older. Yet these conversations are still surprisingly rare.In this episode, I speak with Chris Bustamante, better known as Injector Chris, a board-certified nurse practitioner specialising in men's sexual health and aesthetic medicine.Chris explains the latest non-surgical treatments designed to improve erectile function, restore confidence and address some of the physical changes that naturally occur with age. We discuss the science behind the P-Shot (platelet-rich plasma therapy), shockwave therapy and penile Botox, and how these treatments work alongside conventional medications such as Viagra and Cialis rather than replacing them.We also explore penile fillers, scrotal fillers and why more men are choosing aesthetic procedures as part of their overall wellbeing. Chris discusses testosterone replacement therapy, why it can cause testicular shrinkage, and the treatment options now available for men who want to restore their confidence.Whether you're curious about the latest developments in men's sexual health or simply want to better understand the options available, this episode offers an honest, informative and judgement-free conversation about a topic that many men think about but few openly discuss.Listen, learn and enjoy.Key Takeaways- Erectile dysfunction often has multiple physical causes that can be addressed together.- Shockwave therapy and PRP aim to improve tissue health rather than simply treating symptoms.- Penile Botox may help improve erection quality by increasing blood flow.- Penile fillers focus on cosmetic enhancement rather than erectile function.- Testosterone replacement therapy can cause testicular shrinkage over time.- Scrotal fillers offer a cosmetic option for men concerned about changes in appearance.- Many treatments work best alongside prescribed medications rather than replacing them.- Men's confidence and body image continue to matter throughout later life.- Choosing an experienced practitioner is essential for safety and good outcomes.- Open conversations about men's sexual health help reduce stigma and encourage informed decision-making.Understanding Non-Surgical Penis EnhancementWhat Is It?Non-surgical penis enhancement includes a range of medical and aesthetic procedures designed to improve erectile function, sensation, appearance or confidence without surgery. Treatments may focus on restoring blood flow, improving tissue health or increasing penile girth.Why Do Men Seek These Treatments?Ageing, reduced circulation, hormonal changes, erectile dysfunction, body image concerns and changes following testosterone therapy can all affect confidence and sexual wellbeing.What Are the Common Signs or Symptoms?- Difficulty achieving or maintaining erections- Reduced penile sensitivity- Decreased erection firmness- Concerns about penile size or appearance- Testicular shrinkage during testosterone therapy- Reduced sexual confidenceWhat Can People Do About It?- Treatment options include:- Lifestyle changes that support cardiovascular health- Medications such as Viagra or Cialis- Shockwave therapy- Platelet-rich plasma (P-Shot)- Penile Botox- Penile girth fillers- Scrotal fillers- Consultation with an experienced sexual health specialistAbout the GuestChris Bustamante, widely known as Injector Chris, is a board-certified nurse practitioner and founder of Lushful Aesthetics in New York City. Specialising exclusively in men's sexual health and aesthetic medicine, Chris offers non-surgical treatments designed to improve erectile function, confidence and penile aesthetics. His practice combines regenerative therapies such as platelet-rich plasma and shockwave therapy with advanced injectable procedures, helping men explore personalised options for maintaining sexual wellbeing as they age.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWant More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringRelated EpisodesThe Hidden Habits Destroying Men's Erections | ft. Tom Jenkins - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/the-real-cause-of-erectile-dysfunctionLive with Suzanne Noble and Ken Schafer - Uncovering the Root Cause of Erectile Dysfunction - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/live-with-suzanne-noble-and-ken-schaferThe Hormone Your Body Has But Can't Use (And What Changes When You Fix That) - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/dan-from-valens-health-hormone-intelligence This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

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What I Discussed With Junie Moon…- Why so many women struggle with body confidence long after menopause—and how healing is possible.- What inspired Junie Moon to strip naked for her documentary Shed the Shame and what she learned from the experience.- Why nudity isn't necessarily about sex—and how it can become a powerful act of self-acceptance.- How negative body image affects intimacy, dating and relationships later in life.- Why confidence, not perfection, is often the most attractive quality we can bring into a relationship.- How movement, fitness and feeling healthy can naturally improve desire and sexual confidence.- Why both men and women carry insecurities about ageing bodies—and how compassion can change the conversation.- How learning to love your body can transform both your relationships and your sex life.And much more...Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction01:00 Why Junie Chose to Be Painted Naked03:30 Nude Beaches, Body Image and Self-Acceptance06:00 Menopause, Ageing and Learning to Love Your Body09:00 Dating, Confidence and Feeling Attractive Again12:00 Why Lingerie, Confidence and Attitude Matter More Than Perfection15:00 Are Men Really More Visual Than Women?18:30 Ageing Bodies, Health and Self-Compassion24:00 Fitness, Movement and Feeling Sexy After 5028:00 Why Feeling Alive Fuels Sexual Desire30:30 Final ThoughtsEpisode DescriptionHow comfortable are you in your own skin?For many of us, the relationship we have with our bodies changes dramatically as we get older. Menopause, weight gain, wrinkles and the natural ageing process can all chip away at confidence—especially when we've spent decades believing we're supposed to look a certain way.In this episode, I speak with love coach and relationship expert Junie Moon, whose powerful documentary Shed the Shame follows her decision to be painted completely naked as an act of self-acceptance and healing.Our conversation quickly becomes much bigger than body painting. We explore how body image affects dating, intimacy and sexuality after 50, why confidence is often far more attractive than physical perfection, and how both men and women carry insecurities about ageing.We also share our experiences of naturist beaches, discuss why movement and physical wellbeing play such an important role in feeling sexual, and reflect on how learning to appreciate our bodies can transform the way we approach relationships.If you've ever looked in the mirror and wished your body looked different—or worried that age has made you less desirable—this episode is a gentle reminder that confidence, connection and self-compassion are far more powerful than perfection.Listen, learn and enjoy.Key Takeaways- Body confidence is something that can be developed at any age.- Confidence is often more attractive than physical perfection.- Negative body image can affect intimacy and dating.- Both men and women experience insecurities about ageing.- Self-compassion is an essential part of healthy relationships.- Movement and exercise support both physical and sexual wellbeing.- Naturist environments can help people develop healthier body image.- Feeling healthy often increases confidence and desire.- Loving yourself makes it easier to receive love from others.- Ageing doesn't mean becoming less attractive or less sexual.About the GuestJunie Moon is a certified love coach, relationship expert, speaker and host of the Midlife Love Out Loud podcast. She specialises in helping women over 50 overcome limiting beliefs, build self-confidence and create healthy, fulfilling relationships. Through coaching, workshops and her documentary Shed the Shame, Junie encourages people to embrace self-acceptance, heal old emotional wounds and rediscover love, intimacy and joy later in life.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWant More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringRelated EpisodesBonus Live: Your body isn’t broken — it’s just done performing - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/live-with-suzanne-noble-w-amara-charlesFrom Style to Sensuality: Sarah Ward on Reclaiming Pleasure and Shedding Shame - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/from-style-to-sensuality-sarah-wardReclaiming Women’s Pleasure: Tackling Low Libido and Sexual Health with Michelle Jermy - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/pressure-pleasure-and-pain-the-scale This is a public episode. 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Walk into an AARP event expecting walkers and wheelchairs. Leave rethinking everything you thought you knew about senior dating. That was Dr. Gilda Carle’s experience, and she has never looked at this age group the same way since.Gilda spent eight years as a columnist and spokesperson for Match.com, writing the widely read Ask Dr. Gilda column. When the company sent her to a Washington DC event for AARP members, she assumed she’d be done in five minutes. “I thought these people were going to be so over the hill,” she told me. “I’m going to make my presentation and five minutes later I’ll be out of the door.”Standing room only. A packed auditorium. Questions coming faster than she could answer them. These were not people with one foot in the grave.The women’s burning question? How do I find a man who drives at night? Gilda responded by asking every man in the room to raise his hand. What followed, she says, was a mob scene.The men had a different concern. They didn’t want their age displayed on the platform. One man made the argument with complete confidence. Short, bald, slightly bent. Ninety-two years old. He told Gilda he liked to date women in their sixties, and that he had what it takes. She believed him. She went back to Match and lobbied on his behalf. They declined.From there, our conversation covers a lot of ground. Gilda talks about why she walked out mid-sentence on a date who had shown up twenty years older than his profile claimed. (She had given a fake name online for safety: Sparkle. He chased her out of the restaurant calling after her. Loudly.) We discuss a Bumble study showing women are now dating ten years younger on average, and why their younger partners are enthusiastic about it. And Gilda shares the story of a PhD psychologist who found love by reading the obituaries, tracking down recently widowed men in her neighbourhood, and arriving with casseroles. One of them married her.We also get into something I hear about constantly from women my age. Men who retire without hobbies, without purpose, without much to offer in a conversation. Gilda shares a statistic that stuck with me: people who retire with nothing to replace the work tend to live only seven more years afterward. The grind ends and there is no plan for what comes next. That’s not just a health problem. It’s visible when you meet someone. It’s not attractive.Gilda’s position is simple: get vital before you try to get seen. Work out. Present well. Have a life. Know who you are. Because older women, as she points out, already do. We have done the difficult relationships, made the mistakes, and come out the other side with something younger women often cannot offer: directness, self-knowledge, and zero interest in playing games.Jane Seymour said she has had the best sex of her life at 74. Four husbands, one brilliant partner, no judgment, no interference. That is the standard Gilda is holding out for. Honestly, so am I.What Matters* Ageist algorithms are real. Lying about your age online is a rational response to being made invisible, not a character flaw.* Women’s top priority in senior dating is vitality, not youth, not money. Vitality. Men who let themselves go are not losing out to the competition. They are losing out to indifference.* Men who retire without purpose often become dependent on a partner for entertainment. It shows in every interaction, and it is not appealing.* Older women are increasingly dating younger, and the men are into it. Bumble data confirms it. Transparency and confidence are the draw.* One woman read the obituaries to find love. She brought casseroles. It worked. Do not dismiss unconventional approaches.* Essence matters more than age. The goal is to find someone who wants your presence, not your practicality.Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber.You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life.If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year.More than ever, I rely on your financial support to help produce each weekly episode of the podcast and blog post. Do consider becoming a paid subscriber if you are able. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Most couples have their story memorised. When they met, what went wrong, why things aren’t what they used to be. They’ve told it so many times it feels like a fact.And that’s the problem.Dr. Dan Sneider is a couples therapist and the founder of IntimacyShift.com. He works with two distinct groups of older people: couples who’ve been together for decades, and people starting over in their 50s and 60s but carrying years of history with them. Both tend to arrive stuck in the same way, often telling a story about their relationship that stopped being accurate a long time ago.One of Dan’s favourite tools comes from researchers John and Julie Gottman. He calls it the Story of Us. He asks couples to tell the story of their relationship and he says, that most have it memorised. That, he says, is where the work begins because if part of that story is “the passion faded,” that belief is now embedded, and better communication alone won’t shift it.We also talked about something I personally found frightening in my marriage : disclosing my desires. Not the everyday stuff but the wants you’ve kept quiet about for years, maybe decades. The ones that feel genuinely risky to say out loud.Dan’s approach isn’t to say everything at once. He talks about volume knobs. Turning down the fear a little, not eliminating it and scheduling regular time to talk about intimacy the same way you’d schedule the gym. Building safety in small stages rather than waiting for a perfect moment that never comes.We got into conflict too. Specifically, why couples who live for big dramatic ups and downs are actually hardwiring themselves for pain. You know, the stuff of which movie romances are made. The repair is harder and the dopamine hit of drama becomes part of what they expect from love. Dan’s antidote sounds deceptively simple: I-language. “I feel unseen” instead of “you never.” It changes everything about how the repair goes.Dan uses emotionally focused therapy, a model developed by Dr. Sue Johnson. He recommended her book Hold Me Tight to anyone who wants to understand it. The model runs 12 to 20 sessions, and Dan is refreshingly transparent about this: if you’re not seeing progress within that window, more sessions won’t fix it.He also runs a 12-week online programme through IntimacyShift.com for couples who can’t access therapy locally or want to do the work on their own schedule. Yes, it’s expensive and that’s the point. Couples who invest are the ones who show up and do the work.There’s a free tool on his website as well: a six-step framework for unlocking intimate conversations. A good place to start if everything else feels like too much right now.What Matters* The story you tell about your relationship shapes how you feel about it. It can be rewritten.* Disclosing desires doesn’t require going all in at once. Build safety in stages.* Schedule intimacy conversations like any other practice that matters to you.* Fight with I-language, not you-language. The repair is easier, and so is the making up.* Rebuilding after infidelity or betrayal is possible. Dan has seen it happen.* Emotionally focused therapy runs 12 to 20 sessions. That’s the research-backed window for lasting change.Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber.You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life.If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year.More than ever, I rely on your financial support to help produce each weekly episode of the podcast and blog post. Do consider becoming a paid subscriber if you are able at https://sexadviceforseniors.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

There’s a version of male ageing that’s become so familiar we’ve stopped questioning it. Energy drops. Interest fades. The man who used to be the life of the party just… stops showing up. His partner wonders where he went. He probably wonders too.Dan Leach hears this story constantly.Dan runs Valens Health, a UK-based hormone optimisation clinic focused on men’s health, though as our conversation made clear, hormones are very much a shared concern. His path into this work started personally, noticing his own vitality shifting in his 40s and finding that mainstream medicine didn’t have much to offer beyond a shrug. So he built something that did.The core problem, he explained, is that conventional medicine is set up to treat disease. Hormonal decline in men involves gradual drops in testosterone, DHEA, and thyroid from age 40 onward. It often doesn’t register as pathology. The numbers land inside the “normal range.” The patient gets sent home. Nothing changes.But the normal range is enormous. And there’s a significant difference between landing somewhere in that range and being where you were in your prime.That distinction is what Valens Health is built around. Dan calls it hormone optimisation rather than replacement: finding where each person actually functions best, not just keeping them out of the red zone.The testosterone conversation tends to carry a lot of baggage. People hear the word and think aggression, shortcuts, something vaguely illicit. Dan’s reframe is simple: testosterone doesn’t make you someone else. It makes you more of who you already are. If your energy has dropped off, your libido has gone quiet, you’ve lost motivation and muscle mass: it amplifies what’s been suppressed. The lights come back on.I’ve been taking prescription testosterone myself for a few months now, and the difference has been real. Better focus. More physical stamina. More interest in things generally, including sex. I wouldn’t have discovered it through a doctor. I found out through a friend. That’s a story I hear far too often.One thing I hadn’t known about before talking to Dan: DHEA. It’s not a hormone most people have heard of, but it plays a critical role in whether your body can actually use the testosterone it has. Some men have reasonable testosterone levels and still feel terrible, because the activation pathway isn’t working. DHEA is essentially the key that turns the lock. Adding it, Dan said, tends to produce a fast, noticeable effect.Thyroid rounds out the picture. It sets the pace for your entire metabolism. When it drops, even to a level that still reads as “normal” on a standard test, everything slows: mood, energy, concentration, libido. Optimising all three together is where people start describing themselves as feeling 30 again at 57.There’s also a serious health reason not to ignore this. Dan was clear that unreliable erections aren’t just a sex problem. They’re a cardiovascular signal. Around 80% of men who start experiencing them regularly will go on to have a significant cardiac event within five years. It’s worth paying attention to.Valens Health works remotely, which Dan says most patients actually prefer. It starts with a free consultation and comprehensive bloodwork. The premium package, a dedicated doctor and ongoing optimization for a full year, runs £1,800, payable in instalments.Dan put it simply toward the end of our conversation: isn’t life about feeling as good as we can? Most men have been told the answer is no, that decline is just the deal. It doesn’t have to be.Key Takeaways* Testosterone, DHEA, and thyroid all decline from age 40 onward. “Within normal range” doesn’t mean optimal.* DHEA helps the body activate testosterone. Some men have adequate levels but can’t use them properly.* Unreliable erections are a cardiovascular signal, not just a sex problem. Around 80% of men who experience them regularly go on to have a significant cardiac event within five years.* Testosterone doesn’t cause aggression. It amplifies who you already are.* Valens Health works remotely. The premium programme is £1,800/year, payable in instalments.Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber.You’ll gain full access to my sexy stories, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life.If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year.More than ever, I rely on your financial support to help produce each weekly episode of the podcast and blog post. Do consider becoming a paid subscriber if you are able. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

You’re not past it. You may even be approaching your peak.A psychiatrist just told me that women tend to reach their highest sexual satisfaction at 64. I’m 64. And I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard the opposite message, that desire fades, that this is the time to wind down, that the body just stops cooperating.Dr. Shila Patel has been listening to patients talk about sex, relationships, and desire for 25 years. She grew up in Kenya, went to medical school in England, and spent the bulk of her career practicing psychiatry in the American South before retiring at 51. When the pandemic hit and the Me Too movement was at its peak, she started writing. Two books later, she’s on a mission to reach people that one-on-one clinical work never could.She’s also nearly 70, still sexually active, and completely unapologetic about both.What struck me most in our conversation wasn’t just the 64 statistic - which I found astounding (I hadn’t ever heard before!), it was the context. Because while women are approaching their sexual peak, men are often stepping back. Erectile dysfunction, reduced interest, withdrawal. Dr. Patel saw this pattern constantly in clinical practice, and she sees it in her own life and I’ve certainly seen it in my own. Women in her condominium complex, all roughly her age, laugh and joke about it. It’s a real thing. And most women, she says, just go quiet and accept it.That acceptance is partly cultural. Dr. Patel grew up in Indian culture, where sex was not discussed. Full stop. Not by parents, not between siblings, not even now. At 70, she and her sister have never once discussed whether either has had an orgasm. She described watching a preview of a Bollywood film where a group of women, talking about an upcoming wedding, couldn’t form the word for orgasm. They landed on “intense pleasure.” She said it with affection and exasperation in equal measure.But she’s quick to say this isn’t an Indian problem, or an Asian problem. It’s a human problem. Americans of her generation were raised the same way. Her 91-year-old mother still tenses slightly when hugged. The silence around sex, pleasure, and desire crosses every culture she encountered in 25 years of clinical work.What can be done about it? Quite a lot, actually.Dr. Patel was frank about her own experience with vaginal atrophy and vaginismus after a hysterectomy and the way the body can, as she put it, just close up. Her gynaecologist prescribed estradiol cream, and it changed everything. Lubrication, libido, comfort. It also dramatically reduces UTIs and vaginal infections, something most women are never told. I have my own version of this story: I found out about vaginal estrogen from a friend, not a single healthcare professional. When I complained about painful sex, she asked if I was on vaginal estrogen. I was angry that no doctor had mentioned it.If you’re avoiding sex because it hurts, or because desire has gone quiet, it’s worth asking about estradiol cream/pessaries or ring. It has certainly changed my life.Dr. Patel’s bigger message is about permission. Permission to still want sex at 70. Permission to tell your partner what you need — including that if they’ve stepped back, you might need to look elsewhere for that connection. Permission to adapt: different positions, more patience, a lot of laughter, and no more hanging off the chandeliers.She said it plainly: we only go through this life once. Are you going to make the most of what you enjoy?Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber.You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life.If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year.More than ever, I rely on your financial support to help produce each weekly episode of the podcast and blog post. Do consider becoming a paid subscriber if you are able. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode, I unpack my long-held scepticism about so‑called “orgasm techniques” and the pressure on women to climax in multiple ways. Then I speak to Steve Bodansky, co‑creator of Extended Massive Orgasm (EMO), a practice focused on clitoral stimulation, deep relaxation, and “peaking” (edging) to prolong pleasure.We explore how extended orgasm works, why relaxation matters more than effort, and how orgasmic capacity can grow with practice — even into your 70s and 80s. We also talk about aging, self‑pleasure, conditioning the body for pleasure, and what it really means to invest in your sexual wellbeing for the long term. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Can a marriage survive infidelity?This week I spoke with Renelle Nelson, a licensed marriage and family therapist who’s spent 11 years specialising in affair recovery. She helps couples rebuild after betrayal, when everything’s shattered and nobody knows where to start.Turns out infidelity isn’t just sex outside the marriage. It’s anytime you go outside your relationship to get pleasure that should be shared within it. Money. Communication. Emotional affairs. Physical ones. Renelle prefers the word “betrayal” because it’s more accurate. You break contracts you didn’t realise you’d signed.Here’s the thing nobody talks about: it’s not a male sport anymore. In her practice, men and women cheat in equal numbers. Women are leaving marriages after raising kids, after becoming empty nesters. The emotional labour falls heavily on them. Sometimes an affair is escape from domesticity. Not dissatisfaction. Escape.So what does affair recovery actually look like?Different from regular marriage counselling, for starters. More talking won’t prevent betrayal. More sex won’t prevent it. More date nights won’t prevent it. The only things that stop betrayal are communication and not wanting to do it. That’s it.Renelle’s approach: you can’t heal what you can’t reveal. She works with the person who cheated first. Who did they become? What need were they trying to meet? Then she works with the person who stayed. Both deserve healing. Neither caused the affair, but both are responsible for their part in the marriage moving forward.I asked whether opening a relationship after betrayal ever works.Her answer was direct: it doesn’t. Couples who open relationships successfully do so from trust and solid foundation. Starting that journey on a lie, with one partner settling because they can’t keep the other person faithful, almost always fails. If you can’t communicate basic needs with one person, adding more people just multiplies the chaos.My favourite bit? Renelle’s seeing younger couples come to therapy after dating a month, maybe two. They want to learn how to communicate before problems arrive. They’re treating therapy as education, not crisis management. They want enhancement, exploration, education, eroticism. That last one matters most.Eroticism is what’s missing in long-term relationships, she said. When it leaves, people turn to porn. When you think you know everything about your partner, desire dries up.Literally.As Renelle put it: “When you think you know it all, that means you dried up. You’re not getting hard or wet.”Fair point.What Matters* Women cheat just as much as men now. The numbers are equal.* Affair recovery heals individuals first, then the relationship.* You can’t heal what you refuse to reveal. Truth comes before repair.* Opening relationships after betrayal rarely works. Trust must exist first.* Eroticism sustains long-term desire. Mystery matters more than familiarity.* Younger couples seek therapy as prevention. That’s actual progress.Check out these resources from Renelle:The Pleasure Agenda: Couples Edition Undated PlannerPleasure After Betrayal: Aftercare Edition Undated PlannerThe Couple’s Connection DeckConnect with RenelleWebsite https://renellenelson.thinkific.com/InstagramFacebookUnlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber.You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life.If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year.Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscribe This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Ever wondered what it’s like to hire a matchmaker?This week I spoke with Tammy Shaklee, a heterosexual woman who specialises in matching LGBTQ+ clients over 50. She’s spent 14 years helping gay and lesbian singles find serious relationships.It goes without saying, I was curious to hear how she got her start. Turns out, after her divorce, Tammy hired a matchmaker and met her husband. Years later, a gay friend said he wished there was a matchmaking service for gay men who valued privacy. Tammy assumed one existed. She researched for 24 hours, pretending to be a 40-year-old gay physician looking for a dignified way to meet professionals online.She found nothing dignified.That’s when she realised matchmakers weren’t serving the LGBTQ community at all. Being entrepreneurial, she built a service exclusively for gay and lesbian singles seeking serious relationships called H4M.The biggest problem she encountered? Older gay men, it is assumed, want younger partners. Younger men want financial support. If you’re seeking someone your own age with similar stability, you’re stuck. App for gay men are more often than not hookup platforms. They don’t work for finding real compatibility. That’s where matchmakers come in - introducing you to people you’d never meet on your own.My favourite story of Tammy’s? A 66-year-old widow called Tammy, bursting with enthusiasm. She’d just spoken with her parents in their late 90s, still independent, still in love, still caring for each other. “I realised I have a 30-year relationship in front of me. We need to get started.” Tammy matched her twice. She met someone and never needed another introduction.Tammy’s filter for clients: “Would I have you at my holiday table? Would I set you up with my siblings?” She turns people away if she’s not the right fit, then helps them find someone who is.Cost: Thousands, not tens of thousands. She starts with a phone call. If the decision i is made to work together, Tammy will introduce you to one new person per month. She manages venues, reservations, and feedback calls. The process continues until one match clicks.The takeaway: “When you love the life you’ve built, that’s magnetic. People want kindness and someone happy with what they have.” Contentment attracts. Desperation repels. Don’t we know it?!What Matters* You might have 30 years left. Do the math on your own life.* People want partners who like their lives, not people who hate theirs.* Apps are hookup tools now. Use different tools for serious relationships.* Interview your matchmaker. Ask: Would they have you at their holiday table?* Enthusiasm wins. Hope beats pessimism every time.Connect with TammyWebsite https://www.h4m.com/Instagram H4M MatchmakingFacebook https://www.facebook.com/H4MMatchmakingYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@H4MMatchmakingUnlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber.You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life.If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year.I rely on your financial support to help produce each weekly episode of the podcast and blog post. Do consider becoming a paid subscriber if you can. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

If you’ve been in a long-term relationship for years (or decades), there’s a good chance this sentence will feel uncomfortably familiar: “We haven’t had sex in years, and I don’t know how to fix it.”That’s exactly why this week’s episode of Sex Advice for Seniors hits such a very familiar nerve for me, because it speaks to my own experience.My guest, Elana Auerbach, didn’t come on the podcast with a tidy theory or a list of bedroom “tips.” She came with something far more useful: a lived solution and I’m all about practical ways to fix everyday problems. After nearly twelve years of frustration, mismatched desire, and quietly building resentment in her marriage, Elana and her husband found their way back to intimacy through something surprisingly simple: a weekly, scheduled pleasure practice she now calls The Sure Thing .Yes, scheduled sex. You know, the type of sex I harp on about infinitum. In fact, as I openly shared in the conversation, putting intimacy in the diary can be deeply liberating. When the time is protected, there’s no negotiating, no wondering if tonight is “the night,” no mental load filled with grocery lists or laundry. The body and brain get advance notice: this time is for pleasure. For many women, especially as we agem anticipation alone can gently press our internal intimacy accelerator, much like a car long forgotten in the garage. Once neglected and dust-covered, it’s now a vehicle we’ve chosen to repair, restore, and bring back to life.What makes Elana’s approach refreshing is that it removes performance pressure entirely. The intention isn’t orgasm. Sex isn’t mandatory. Penetration isn’t the goal. The only aim is to deepen intimacy, pleasure, and connection. Sometimes that leads to sex. Sometimes it doesn’t. And paradoxically, that’s exactly why it works.A big turning point in the episode is the discussion around responsive desire - the very normal experience of not feeling “in the mood” until touch, closeness, or sensual context begins. Many older women assume their libido has disappeared when in reality it’s simply waiting for the right conditions. A kiss on the neck. Lying in bed together. Holding hands. Small things that let the nervous system relax and say, oh, yes, this feels good.Perhaps most powerful of all is Elana’s insistence that this practice doesn’t depend on having a willing partner. There’s a “solo Sure Thing” too, a reminder that pleasure, connection, and kindness toward our own bodies are not things we earn through relationship status.If intimacy has quietly slipped out of your life, this episode is a hopeful place to start. And if you think scheduled pleasure sounds unromantic, you might just discover it’s the most freeing thing you’ve tried in years.🎧 Listen to the full episode of Sex Advice for Seniors to hear Elana’s story, her practice, and why pleasure might be one of the most underrated forms of medicine we have.The Sure Thing is out on 3rd February. Order your copy here:00:00 Introduction to Sexual Frustration in Long-Term Relationships01:01 The Birth of the ‘Sure Thing’ Practice05:16 Scheduling Intimacy: A Path to Liberation08:12 Overcoming Resentment and Reconnecting09:26 The Solo Sure Thing: Self-Exploration and Pleasure11:59 Building Communication Through Rituals12:25 Responsive vs. Spontaneous Desire16:28 The Power of Small Touches18:16 Pleasure as Medicine: The Benefits of Intimacy21:35 Navigating Imbalances in Desire24:19 Starting Small: The Importance of Daily Connection24:57 The Release of ‘The Short Thing’ Book26:50 Kindness and Intention in RelationshipsThe Sure Thing is available from 3rd February. You can buy it from Amazon here.On similar topic, you may also want to check out this episode. Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber.You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life.If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year.I rely on your financial support to help produce each weekly episode of the podcast and blog post. Do consider becoming a paid subscriber if you can. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

What do we learn about sex when no one talks about pleasure?In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, clinical psychologist Dr. La Keita Carter (Dr. L) joined me for a powerful, honest conversation about sex, silence, and the myths surrounding women of colour and intimacy. We explore how cultural messages, shame, and generational “don’t bring a baby into this house” rules shape sexual desire, relationships, and self-worth, often long into adulthood.Dr. L breaks down the difference between sexual interest and sexual activity, why so many women feel obligated to have sex they don’t want, and how the “strong woman” stereotype leaves little room for softness in the bedroom.A thoughtful, eye-opening discussion about pleasure, power, and why whatever we’re silent about often carries the most shame.🎧 Listen now and join the conversation.00:00 Introduction to Dr. La Keita Carter00:54 Understanding Sexuality and Trauma01:59 Cultural Assumptions About Women of Color03:44 The Silence Surrounding Sexual Education05:19 The Role of Pleasure in Sexuality09:14 Duty vs. Desire in Sexual Relationships10:45 Masturbation and Self-Exploration12:45 The Importance of Orgasms15:22 Strength and Vulnerability in the Bedroom17:58 The Exhaustion of Being Strong20:42 Historical Perspectives on Women of Color and Sexuality22:25 Over-Sexualization of Women of Color25:48 The Male Perspective on Sexuality27:24 The Importance of Language in Gender Discussions31:37 Ending the Cycle of ShameUnlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber.You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life.If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year.I rely on your financial support to help produce each weekly episode of the podcast and blog post. Do consider becoming a paid subscriber if you can. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

I’m a big believer that we can receive good advice from anyone, regardless of their age. Emma Shandy Anway is a West Coast-based Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specialises in relational and sex therapy. Although in her mid thirties, she has extensive experience working with couples aged 50+ and, during this episode, we discussed her work specifically with those aged 70+. Having chatted several weeks ago with Dr. Susan Campbell, herself in her 80s, about her sex life, I was curious on how someone fifty years her junior approaches the topic with her older clients because I have found that lived experience counts for a huge amount and sometimes those who have no concept of what it means to be older fall into familiar tropes and stereotypes that have no bearing on reality.I can’t say that about Emma whose approach with her older patients clearly demonstrates an openness and eagerness to help them embrace their sexual selves, whether that means exploring open relationships, kink or simply learning how to be a better lover to each other. As Emma says, age, illness and changing bodies do not have to mean the end of a vibrant sex life; the biggest shifts are in mindset, communication and willingness to experiment.​What I know is that it is never too late to learn, explore or rewrite your sexual story, as long as you genuinely want to and are prepared to be curious, honest and kind with yourself and your partner.You can find Emma here:https://www.esacounseling.com/abouthttps://www.instagram.com/pennyboardpsychHere’s a Yes/No/Maybe checklist I consider to be particularly comprehensive:You can find the episode with Dr. Susan Campbell here:Chapters00:00 Introduction to Sexuality in Later Life01:44 Understanding the Motivations for Seeking Therapy06:53 Redefining Good Sex: From Okay to Magnificent12:06 Navigating Disappointment and Apathy in Relationships16:19 Body Confidence and Aging: Embracing Change23:09 Exploring Alternative Relationships and Sexuality27:47 Communication Tools for Sexual ExplorationUnlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber.You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life.If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year.I rely on your financial support to help produce each weekly episode of the podcast and blog post. Do consider becoming a paid subscriber if you can. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

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As soon as I saw Dr. Nikki Monti’s photo, an older woman with her streak of blue in her dark hair, I thought, we’re going to get along. A psychotherapist, who also calls herself a ‘thought healer,’ Nikki has appeared on a variety of high profile TV shows such as Keeping up with the Kardashians and recently published a memoir, ‘The Divine Traumedy of Nicki Joy: A True Grime Tale.’ This is a woman with a colourful past that includes three marriages, the first two short and chaotic, intertwined with drugs, alcoholism, violence and very brutal sex, which she now sees as reflecting how badly she treated herself. Her third lasted three decades and ended with the death of her partner, who following a prostatectomy, decided sex was over for both of them. Without wishing to spoil this very lively episode, her current partner, whom also had a prostatectomy, chose a very different path, embracing creativity, sensuality and adaptation, and with him she describes having the best sex of her life.Nikki is the living embodiment of my catchphrase ‘desire never retires’ and proof that, as she says, “older people can have rich sex lives if they stay in their bodies and stop running from themselves.” I encourage you to have a listen. You can find Dr. Nikki Monti here:https://www.instagram.com/drnickimontiAll her books and her website is available here:https://stucknomore.com/books/01:43 Exploring Relationships and Marriages04:20 Lessons from Past Marriages08:40 Navigating Love After Loss10:21 The Importance of Sexuality and Intimacy18:17 Finding Connection Beyond Type27:46 Rising into Love and Self-DiscoveryIf you like this episode, and you’re a man who has also had a prostatectomy, you might find these two other episodes useful:Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber.You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life.If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year.I rely on your financial support to help produce each weekly episode of the podcast and blog post. Do consider becoming a paid subscriber if you can. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

How retirement, changing identity and life transitions can contribute to depression later in life.Why depression and antidepressants can both have a major impact on sexual desire and erectile function.How couples can talk about changes in intimacy without blame or shame.Why erectile dysfunction isn't always about attraction—and what partners often misunderstand.How menopause, changing hormones and body image can affect women's confidence and sex lives.Why exercise, purpose and meaningful activities can improve both mental wellbeing and sexual health.How to have more productive conversations with your GP or healthcare provider about sex and medication.Practical ways couples can support one another through mental health challenges without losing emotional or physical intimacy.And much more... Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction01:10 How Retirement Can Trigger Depression03:00 Antidepressants and Erectile Dysfunction06:20 Supporting a Partner Through Depression08:45 Rebuilding Intimacy When Erections Change13:20 Talking to Your Doctor About Sexual Side Effects16:00 Looking Beyond Medication20:40 Menopause, Mental Health and Sexual Confidence24:00 New Developments in Hormone Therapy27:00 Lifestyle Changes That Support Mental Health30:00 Finding Joy, Purpose and Better Relationships34:40 Final Thoughts Show NotesWhat happens when your mental health begins to affect your relationship—and your sex life?Depression is often discussed in terms of mood, motivation and energy, but far less attention is given to what it can do to intimacy. Whether it's retirement, changing identity, a health scare or simply the challenges of ageing, many people find that their emotional wellbeing and sexual confidence become closely intertwined.In this episode, I'm joined by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Stewart to explore the often-overlooked relationship between mental health and sexual wellbeing later in life. Rather than treating sex as a separate issue, we look at the bigger picture: how purpose, confidence, relationships, hormones and medication all influence our desire for intimacy.We also tackle one of the most common concerns affecting older couples—the sexual side effects of antidepressants. Dr. Stewart explains why erectile dysfunction isn't always a reflection of attraction, how partners can avoid misunderstandings, and why honest conversations with healthcare professionals are so important when choosing treatment.Our conversation also turns to women's experiences of menopause, changing hormones and body confidence, alongside practical strategies that can support both emotional and sexual health beyond medication alone.Ultimately, this episode is a reminder that good sex isn't simply about physical function. It's closely connected to how we feel about ourselves, how we communicate with our partners and whether we're living a life that still brings us purpose and joy.Listen, learn and enjoy. Understanding Depression, Medication and Sexual HealthWhat Is Depression?Depression is more than simply feeling sad. It can affect motivation, confidence, energy levels, sleep, relationships and sexual desire. Life transitions such as retirement, bereavement or health problems can increase the risk of depression later in life.Why Can Antidepressants Affect Your Sex Life?Some antidepressants—particularly SSRIs—can reduce libido, delay orgasm or contribute to erectile dysfunction. However, not every medication has the same side effects, and different treatment options may be available depending on your circumstances.What Are the Common Signs?Reduced interest in sexDifficulty getting or maintaining an erectionLower libidoFatigue and lack of motivationChanges in mood and confidenceWithdrawal from relationships and social activitiesWhat Can People Do About It?If you're experiencing changes in your mental health or sex life, don't assume you have to live with them. Speak openly with your GP or specialist about your symptoms, including any impact on intimacy. Medication reviews, psychological support, regular exercise, meaningful activities and honest communication with your partner can all play an important role in improving both emotional wellbeing and sexual satisfaction. Key TakeawaysDepression often affects sexual desire as much as mood.Retirement and loss of purpose can significantly impact mental wellbeing.Some antidepressants affect sexual function more than others.Erectile dysfunction isn't necessarily a sign of lost attraction.Open communication helps couples navigate changes together.Women experience significant emotional and physical changes during menopause.Exercise and meaningful activities can improve both mood and libido.Tell your doctor if maintaining an active sex life is important to you.Mental and sexual health should be treated together, not separately.Seeking help early can prevent problems from becoming entrenched. About the GuestDr. Karen Stewart is a clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles who specialises in relationships, couples therapy, dating and sexual wellbeing. Working with clients across different stages of life, she helps individuals and couples navigate depression, anxiety, relationship challenges and intimacy issues with practical, evidence-based strategies. Her work focuses on improving communication, strengthening emotional connection and supporting healthier, more fulfilling relationships. About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it. Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com Want More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring Related Episodes·      Bonus Live: A Marriage, a Breakdown, and a Sexual Awakening - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/live-with-suzanne-noble-sex-advice-6c7·      Bonus Live: You Are Not Broken: A Trauma Recovery Conversation - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/live-with-suzanne-noble-with-erika·      Dating After Loss: Redefining Love and Intimacy After Widowhood - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/sex-grief-and-starting-over-dating   This is a public episode. 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Why women's pain is often taken more seriously than their pleasure—and how that affects healthcare throughout life.How outdated beliefs about older women's sexuality can prevent them from receiving the treatment they need.Why menopause can be the beginning of a richer, more confident sex life rather than the end of one.What Suzannah learned while researching women's sexual health, objectification and pleasure for her latest books.How poor sex education continues to shape women's expectations of pain, intimacy and relationships.Why consent, boundaries and sexual confidence are skills that can be learned at any age.What happens inside sex-positive communities—and why empowerment and objectification aren't always the same thing.Practical ways women can advocate for themselves when healthcare professionals dismiss their symptoms.And much more... Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction01:30 Why Women's Pain Has Been Normalised05:45 Older Women, Menopause and Sexuality08:40 Why Women's Health Is Still Under-Researched11:00 Subjectified: From Objectification to Empowerment15:20 Sex Clubs, Consent and Female Agency20:00 Boundaries, Sexual Confidence and Saying No24:50 Better Sex After Menopause27:00 Advocating for Yourself in Healthcare29:00 Final Thoughts Show NotesWhy are women taught to expect pain, but rarely taught to expect pleasure?From our very first periods to childbirth, menopause and beyond, many women grow up hearing that discomfort is simply part of being female. Yet when pain becomes normalised, something else often gets overlooked: our right to pleasure, satisfying relationships and healthcare that takes our concerns seriously.In this episode, I'm joined by writer, sexologist and psychotherapist Suzannah Weiss, whose latest book Eve's Blessing explores how cultural attitudes towards women's bodies continue to shape everything from medical care to sexual confidence. Together, we discuss why older women are so often treated as though sexuality no longer matters, despite research showing that many experience greater confidence and more fulfilling intimacy after menopause.Our conversation also explores objectification, consent and sexual empowerment. Suzannah shares what she learned through her own experiences in sex-positive communities, explaining why being seen as desirable isn't the same as having your own desires recognised and respected.Perhaps what stayed with me most is how often women have to advocate for themselves. Whether it's asking for treatment, seeking a second medical opinion or simply trusting that persistent pain isn't something they should have to tolerate, meaningful change often begins with believing that our experiences matter.Because ageing doesn't make us less deserving of pleasure, better healthcare or fulfilling relationships. If anything, it gives us more reason to expect them.Listen, learn and enjoy. Key TakeawaysWomen's pain is still frequently under-recognised in healthcare.Older women deserve the same attention to their sexual wellbeing as anyone else.Menopause can be an opportunity to rediscover intimacy and confidence.Pleasure is an important part of health, not a luxury.Consent and boundaries become easier with confidence and experience.Healthcare professionals don't always have all the answers—second opinions matter.Pelvic floor therapy and vaginal oestrogen can improve quality of life for many women.Good communication is essential for satisfying intimacy at every age.Sexual empowerment is about understanding your own desires, not simply being desired.It's never too late to advocate for your health or your pleasure. About the GuestSuzannah Weiss is a psychotherapist, certified sexologist, marriage and family therapist, and award-winning writer who has published more than 9,000 articles on relationships, sexuality and women's health. She is the author of Eve's Blessing, which explores the relationship between women's pain, pleasure and healthcare, and Subjectified, a memoir examining sexual empowerment, objectification and consent. Alongside her writing, Suzannah provides psychotherapy and sex coaching, helping people build healthier, more fulfilling intimate lives. About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it. Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com Want More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring Related Episodes·      Bonus Live: What Jealousy is Really Trying to Tell You - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/live-with-suzanne-noble-and-joli·      The Truth about Sex we were Rarely Taught - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/the-truth-about-sex-no-one-taught·      Desire Doesn't Retire: The Secret Sex Lives of People Over 60 - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/getting-down-and-dirty-with-kathy This is a public episode. 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Can Monogamy Evolve Into Open Relationships?What I Discussed With Dr. Tammy Nelson…Why monogamy isn't simply "open" or "closed"—and how every couple creates their own relationship agreement.How relationships naturally evolve over time, and why regular conversations can prevent resentment from building.Why talking about fantasies doesn't necessarily mean you want to act on them.How changing life stages, retirement and ageing can shift what we want from love, sex and partnership.Why jealousy is often about much more than sex—and what it can reveal about unmet emotional needs.How transparency, rather than rigid rules, creates stronger and more resilient relationships.Why appreciation and kindness may be the most underrated relationship skills of all.How to begin difficult conversations about commitment without fear or blame.And much more... Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction01:45 What Is Open Monogamy?05:10 Why Relationship Agreements Need to Evolve08:20 Suzanne's Own Relationship Story11:45 Fantasies, Curiosity and Communication13:30 Open Monogamy vs Polyamory17:45 Defining Monogamy on Your Own Terms20:00 Understanding Jealousy27:10 Appreciating What Already Works30:30 Creating Conscious Relationships33:00 Free Relationship Resources Show NotesWhat does commitment actually mean after decades together?Most of us inherit ideas about relationships without ever questioning where they came from. We assume monogamy has one definition, that commitment should look a certain way, and that if our needs change over time, something must be wrong with the relationship itself.But life has a habit of changing us. We retire. Our bodies change. Children leave home. We have more freedom, different priorities and, sometimes, new questions about intimacy and connection. Perhaps the real challenge isn't staying the same, but learning how to grow together without losing sight of each other.In this episode, I'm joined by relationship therapist and author Dr. Tammy Nelson, whose book Open Monogamy encourages couples to rethink the assumptions they've inherited about love, fidelity and commitment. Rather than promoting one type of relationship over another, Tammy invites us to become more intentional about the agreements we make with the people we love.As we talk, I find myself reflecting on my own relationship and how even small shifts can leave us wondering whether it's time for a new conversation. We explore why fantasies don't always need to become reality, how jealousy can point us towards unmet needs rather than failures, and why honesty, appreciation and kindness often matter far more than any particular relationship label.Perhaps there's no such thing as the perfect relationship model. There are only relationships that continue to evolve because the people in them are willing to keep talking, listening and adapting together.Listen, learn and enjoy. Key TakeawaysEvery couple defines monogamy differently.Relationships benefit from regular conversations rather than assumptions.Fantasies can strengthen intimacy without becoming reality.Jealousy often highlights emotional needs rather than sexual ones.Transparency builds stronger relationships than rigid rules.Kindness and appreciation help couples navigate difficult conversations.Relationship agreements can evolve as people change.Honest communication reduces the likelihood of betrayal.There is no single "correct" model of commitment.Healthy relationships are built through ongoing curiosity and mutual respect. About the GuestDr. Tammy Nelson is a licensed psychotherapist, certified sex and relationship therapist, speaker and bestselling author with more than 30 years of clinical experience. She is the founder and Executive Director of the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute and has written several influential books, including The New Monogamy and Open Monogamy. Through her clinical work, teaching and writing, Tammy helps individuals and couples build healthier, more conscious relationships by encouraging honest communication, emotional transparency and relationship agreements that reflect their own values rather than societal expectations. About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it. Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com Want More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring Related Episodes·      Bonus Live: The Relationship Lesson That Ends So Much Conflict - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/bonus-live-the-relationship-lesson·      Why Long-Term Couples Drift Apart—and the Simple Habit That Brings Them Back - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-couples-lose-the-spark-and-how·      Recovering from Infidelity after 50: What nobody tells you about Betrayal - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/recovering-from-infidelity-after  This is a public episode. 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Does Intimacy and Sex Evolve in Your 80s?What I Discussed With Dr. Susan Campbell…Why dating after 70 isn't about following old relationship rules—and how creating your own relationship can be incredibly liberating.How one couple found lasting love in their seventies and discovered that intimacy continued to evolve well into their eighties.Why great sex later in life often has less to do with penetration and more to do with creativity, playfulness and emotional connection.How scheduling intimacy, embracing humour and adapting to physical changes can strengthen long-term relationships.Why older couples shouldn't be afraid to explore mirrors, role play, sensual touch and other forms of intimacy.How online dating can help build confidence, resilience and self-awareness—even if it doesn't lead to a lasting relationship.Why vulnerability, self-compassion and honest conversations become even more important as our bodies and relationships change.How loss, ageing and changing abilities don't have to mean giving up on love, pleasure or connection.And much more... Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction02:00 Finding Love Online in Your Seventies05:00 Why Sex Changes Between 80 and 8408:00 Designing Relationships That Work Later in Life10:30 Dating After Loss and Building Confidence Again16:00 Better Orgasms in Your Eighties?19:30 Mirrors, Playfulness and Rediscovering Desire24:00 Why Scheduling Intimacy Works27:00 Beyond Penetration: Expanding Your Definition of Sex31:00 Role Play, Fantasy and Erotic Creativity35:00 Living With Loss, Vulnerability and Deep Intimacy39:00 Final Thoughts Show NotesWhat does a fulfilling sex life look like when you're in your eighties?For many of us, it's a question we rarely ask. We tend to assume that intimacy naturally fades with age, or that physical changes eventually make sex impossible. Yet perhaps the problem isn't our bodies—it's our expectations. If we continue measuring intimacy by what we could do decades ago, we risk overlooking everything that's still possible today.In this episode, I'm joined by psychologist, relationship coach and bestselling author Dr. Susan Campbell, who offers a refreshingly honest perspective drawn not only from decades of professional experience but also from her own relationship. Together with her partner, whom she met through online dating in her seventies, Susan has discovered that intimacy doesn't disappear as we age—it simply asks us to become more curious, more adaptable and, perhaps, a little more playful.Rather than mourning what has changed, we explore what can be gained. From scheduling intimacy and laughing through awkward moments to discovering new ways of giving and receiving pleasure, Susan reminds us that satisfying relationships are built on far more than physical performance. They thrive on communication, creativity and the willingness to keep learning about ourselves and each other.What stayed with me most was Susan's honesty about ageing. She doesn't pretend that growing older is easy. Bodies change, health changes and sometimes our partners change too. But intimacy isn't about pretending those realities don't exist—it's about facing them together with compassion, humour and love.Because perhaps the greatest gift of growing older is not knowing exactly how everything will change, but discovering that connection can deepen in ways we never expected.Listen, learn and enjoy. Key TakeawaysIntimacy can continue to grow well into our eighties.Great sex doesn't have to include penetration.Creativity and playfulness often become more important with age.Scheduling intimacy can help couples stay connected.Online dating can be a valuable way to build confidence later in life.Honest conversations strengthen relationships through every stage of ageing.Humour helps couples adapt to physical changes.Vulnerability can deepen emotional and sexual intimacy.Self-compassion is essential when facing the losses that come with ageing.Every couple has the freedom to redefine what a satisfying relationship looks like. About the GuestDr. Susan Campbell is a psychologist, relationship coach and bestselling author of eleven books on communication, intimacy and personal growth, including Getting Real, The Couple's Journey, Truth in Dating and From Triggered to Tranquil. For decades, she has helped individuals and couples build healthier, more authentic relationships through honest communication and emotional awareness. Now in her eighties, Susan combines her professional expertise with her own lived experience of finding love later in life, offering a rare and inspiring perspective on intimacy, ageing and lifelong personal growth. About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it. Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com Want More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring Related Episodes·      Bonus Live: What Later-Life Sexual Awakening Really Looks Like - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/live-with-suzanne-noble-and-indigo·      Bonus Live: Does Pleasure Really Get Better With Age? - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/live-with-suzanne-noble-and-avivah·      Desire Doesn't Retire: The Secret Sex Lives of People Over 60 - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/getting-down-and-dirty-with-kathy This is a public episode. 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Is It Possible to Reclaim Pleasure Despite the Beliefs You’ve Been Taught?What I Discussed With Lauren Elise Rogers…How the beliefs we absorbed about sex in childhood can quietly shape our relationships for decades without us even realising it.Why "weeding your sexual garden" can help you identify outdated ideas about intimacy, pleasure and relationships that no longer serve you.How moving through different stages of life can completely change what sex, connection and desire mean to us.Why pleasure isn't selfish—and how many of us have unknowingly prioritised everything else above our own intimacy.How religious, cultural and family messages can influence our sexual confidence long into adulthood.Why many empty nesters discover they no longer know—or even like—their partner, and what they can do about it.How understanding your own sexual values can lead to more satisfying relationships later in life, whether you're partnered or single.Why informed choices—not shame or fear—are the foundation of a healthy, fulfilling sex life at any age.And much more... Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction01:10 What Does It Mean to Weed Your Sexual Garden?03:00 The Childhood Beliefs That Shape Adult Relationships07:00 Suzanne Reflects on Her Own Sexual Journey12:00 Lauren's Story: From Purity Culture to Sex Education18:00 Parenting, Relationships and Pleasure22:00 Why Great Sex Starts with Liking Your Partner25:00 Pleasure, Religion and Cultural Conditioning28:00 What Research Says About Thriving Sex Lives After 6030:00 Informed Decision-Making and Sexual Values32:00 Final Reflections Show NotesWhere did your beliefs about sex actually come from?Most of us assume our attitudes towards intimacy, pleasure and relationships are simply part of who we are. But if we stop and look a little more closely, many of those beliefs were planted long before we ever had the chance to decide whether they truly reflected our own values.In this episode, I'm joined by certified holistic sexuality educator and relationship coach Lauren Elise Rogers, who invites us to think about our intimate lives in a completely different way. Using the metaphor of a "sexual belief garden", Lauren explains how our childhood, family, religion and culture can all leave lasting impressions that continue to shape our relationships well into later life.As we explore the exercise together, I find myself reflecting on my own experiences of growing up across different countries and cultures, and how those experiences influenced the way I approached relationships, belonging and sex. Lauren also shares her deeply personal journey from growing up in a strict evangelical community to becoming a sexuality educator who now helps others question inherited beliefs without shame.What I loved most about this conversation is that it isn't about telling anyone how they should live. It's about giving ourselves permission to ask better questions. Which beliefs still serve us? Which ones no longer fit? And how might our relationships change if we made choices based on our own values rather than someone else's expectations?Because perhaps the healthiest sexual relationship we can have isn't the one that follows the rules we've inherited—it's the one we choose consciously for ourselves.Listen, learn and enjoy. Key TakeawaysMany sexual beliefs are inherited rather than consciously chosen.Childhood, family and culture all influence how we experience intimacy.It's never too late to rethink beliefs that no longer serve you.Pleasure and desire deserve the same attention as other areas of wellbeing.Strong relationships require ongoing reflection and communication.Empty nesters often need to reconnect as partners, not just parents.Great sex starts with understanding your own values.Shame can prevent people from exploring healthy intimacy.There is no single "right" way to experience sexuality.Informed decision-making leads to healthier, more fulfilling relationships. About the GuestLauren Elise Rogers is a certified holistic sexuality educator, embodied intimacy and relationship coach, and founder of SexEd4U. After growing up in a strict evangelical environment that shaped her early beliefs about sex and relationships, Lauren embarked on a personal journey of healing and education that transformed both her life and career. Today, she works with individuals and couples around the world, helping them challenge inherited beliefs, embrace sex-positive values and make intentional, informed choices about intimacy, pleasure and relationships throughout every stage of life. About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it. Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com Want More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring Related Episodes·      The Truth about Sex we were Rarely Taught - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/the-truth-about-sex-no-one-taught·      The Lie Women Were Taught About Sex and Marriage - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/the-lie-women-were-taught-about-sexFrom Style to Sensuality: Sarah Ward on Reclaiming Pleasure and Shedding Shame - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/from-style-to-sensuality-sarah-ward This is a public episode. 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What I Discussed With Angela Burk…- Why so many women spend decades putting everyone else's needs before their own—and what happens when they finally stop.- How divorce became the unexpected catalyst for Angela's journey of sexual self-discovery and self-pleasure.- Why understanding your own body is the first step towards having better sex with a partner.- How shame, silence and lack of sex education have left many women over 50 disconnected from pleasure.- Why finding a safe, communicative partner can completely transform your experience of intimacy.- How conversations about menopause, libido and sexual health are finally becoming more open—and why we still have a long way to go.- Why women should never accept being dismissed when they seek help for changes in their sexual health.- How reclaiming pleasure can become part of reclaiming yourself in midlife and beyond.And much more...Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction01:10 Why Angela Started The Real Girl's Guide to Over 5504:30 What Is the Pleasure Pivot?08:00 Divorce, Self-Pleasure and Discovering What You Like14:00 Learning from Previous Generations16:00 Exploring Pleasure with a New Partner19:00 Why Women Over 50 Are Reclaiming Themselves22:00 Why Does Society Stop Talking About Women After 60?27:00 Advocating for Better Menopause and Sexual Healthcare32:00 Why Pleasure Doesn't Have an Expiration Date34:00 Angela's New BookShow NotesAt what point do we stop living for everyone else and start paying attention to ourselves?For many women, that question doesn't arrive until midlife. After years spent building careers, raising children, supporting partners and meeting everyone else's expectations, there comes a moment when we realise we've quietly disappeared from our own list of priorities.In this episode, I'm joined by writer and Substack creator Angela Burk, whose idea of a "pleasure pivot" perfectly captures what so many women experience after 50. Rather than seeing ageing as a time of decline, Angela describes it as an opportunity to rediscover the parts of ourselves that may have been neglected for years—including our sexuality.As we talk, Angela shares her remarkably honest journey of discovering self-pleasure after divorce, learning what her own body enjoyed for the first time, and finding a relationship where curiosity, communication and mutual pleasure became just as important as love itself. We also reflect on why so many women of our generation were never taught to understand their own bodies, and why those conversations are only now beginning to happen openly.Perhaps what stayed with me most is the idea that pleasure isn't something we earn once every other responsibility has been fulfilled. It's part of living well. And whether we're in our fifties, sixties or beyond, it's never too late to ask for more—from our relationships, our healthcare or ourselves.Because reclaiming pleasure isn't simply about better sex. Sometimes it's the beginning of reclaiming your whole life.Listen, learn and enjoy.Key Takeaways- Putting yourself first isn't selfish—it's essential for wellbeing.- Many women don't discover what truly pleases them until midlife.- Understanding your own body makes communication with a partner much easier.- Shame and silence continue to influence women's sexual confidence.- A supportive partner creates space for exploration and honesty.- Libido changes don't mean your sex life has to end.- Women deserve healthcare professionals who take sexual wellbeing seriously.- If one doctor dismisses your concerns, seek another opinion.- Open conversations help normalise women's experiences of ageing.- Pleasure has no age limit.About the GuestAngela Burk is the creator of the Substack newsletter The Real Girl's Guide to Over 55, where she writes candidly about midlife, reinvention, relationships and the emotional and physical changes that accompany ageing. After retiring from her corporate career, Angela revisited a book idea she first conceived decades earlier and began documenting her own experiences of reclaiming pleasure, confidence and identity after divorce. Through her writing, she encourages women to embrace curiosity, advocate for themselves and challenge outdated ideas about what life after 50 should look like.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWant More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringRelated EpisodesBonus Live: Why Self-Pleasure Might Be a Menopause Superpower - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/live-with-suzanne-noble-and-marieBonus Live: What Great Sex Looks Like After 50 - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/live-with-suzanne-noble-sex-advice-738Desire Doesn't Retire: The Secret Sex Lives of People Over 60 - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/getting-down-and-dirty-with-kathy This is a public episode. 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In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I sat down with Marie Morice, whom I have met in real life! She’s a clinical sexologist and advocate for sexual health, and we spoke about the importance of sexual justice and its intersection with ageing, pleasure, and health. With World Sexual Health Day as a backdrop, we explore the theme of sexual justice—ensuring everyone, regardless of age, gender, or ability, has access to sexual health, autonomy, and pleasure.Marie shares her insights on societal stigmas around older adults’ sexuality, the unique challenges faced by LGBTQIA+ individuals and those with disabilities, and the critical need for intersectionality in sexual health advocacy. We also discuss the impact of climate change on women’s reproductive rights, access to healthcare, and the harmful chemicals present in intimate products.Marie has recently designed Pleasure Atelier workshops, to help midlife and older women reclaim their relationship with pleasure and wellness, introducing them to innovative sex toys and emphasising the importance of embracing fun and pleasure in everyday life.For more information, visit Marie’s work at the Women’s Environmental Network or join her Pleasure Atelier workshops.00:00 Introduction to Sexual Health and Justice02:45 Understanding Sexual Justice05:54 Barriers to Sexual Health for Older Adults08:44 Cultural Perspectives on Sexual Health11:28 The Impact of Climate Change on Sexual Health14:16 Access to Sexual Health Services17:08 The Role of Pleasure in Sexual Health19:43 Advocacy for Women’s Health Products22:42 The Pleasure Atelier and Reclaiming PleasureHi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age.Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast.Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall.Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend.Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you:* Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’* Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature* Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later lifeI’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so.Thousands of people are saying, I’m so grateful Suzanne has taken on one of the big taboos because I wouldn’t have the confidence to do it. If you’d like to support me talking about sexual pleasure in later life, hit subscribe.Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.” This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe