Sex Worth Having

When was the last time your partner felt unmistakably wanted by you? And when was the last time you felt wanted by them? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores one of the deepest human longings in long-term relationships: the need to feel desired. Many couples still love each other deeply, but somewhere along the way, they stop expressing desire. The relationship becomes focused on schedules, responsibilities, and daily logistics while the erotic connection slowly fades into the background.You'll learn:Why love and desire are not the same thingHow couples unintentionally drift from lovers to roommatesWhy "evidence of desire" matters more than most people realizeHow resentment can quietly block attraction and connectionA simple question that can help you understand what makes your partner feel wantedIf you want more intimacy, passion, and connection in your relationship, this episode will help you understand why feeling wanted remains essential at every stage of love.Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share! Resources & Linkshttps://youtu.be/-qgpewMCVjs?si=RerjC8DCX8xlnmdE - Cheap Trick performing I Want You to Want Mehttps://cheftova.substack.com/ - article by Tova on Substack demonstrating the difference between feeling cared for vs wanted Sex Worth Having WebsiteBook a Free 30-Minute Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare

What if early ejaculation isn’t really about lack of control… but a nervous system that has learned to rush, brace, and panic during intimacy? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores the hidden anxiety, shame, and nervous system patterns behind early ejaculation—and why so many successful men silently struggle with it. Instead of focusing on numbing creams, distraction tricks, or performance hacks, this conversation takes a different approach: slowing down, becoming more present, and learning how to regulate arousal through awareness and full-body connection. You’ll learn:why anxiety and hypervigilance often make early ejaculation worsehow the body becomes conditioned for speed instead of regulationwhy mindfulness and presence-based approaches are gaining research supporthow slowing down changes both arousal and connectionwhat it means to expand pleasure beyond just the genitalsand why many men regain control by becoming more connected to their bodies—not less This episode is about much more than “lasting longer.” It’s about helping men stop dreading intimacy and start feeling calm, connected, and confident during sex again.Download the Free 10-Minute Guided Pre-Intimacy Meditation: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/pl/2148759033Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

What happens to intimacy when hormones, sleep, stress, and a woman’s nervous system all begin to change during peri-menopause and menopause? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores one of the most misunderstood topics in long-term relationships: how hormonal changes in midlife affect desire, arousal, orgasm, emotional connection, and a woman’s ability to relax into intimacy.You’ll learn:the difference between perimenopause and menopausewhy stress and cortisol directly affect desirehow changing estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone levels impact the bodywhy responsive desire becomes even more important during midlifehow menopause affects sleep, anxiety, vaginal tissue, orgasm, and nervous system regulationwhy many women feel dismissed by the medical systemand how couples can adapt their intimacy instead of turning against each otherThis episode is not about blaming or “fixing” your partner. It’s about understanding what may really be happening in her body… so you can approach this chapter with more compassion, teamwork, and connection.Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share! Here are the treatments by MD's who specialize in Menopause;Listed Resource and Links: Dr. Lauren Streicher: https://substack.com/@DrStreicherDr. Kelly Casperson: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-are-not-broken/id1495710329Dr. Mary Claire Haver: https://drmaryclairehaver.substack.com/Dr. Rachel Rubin: https://drmaryclairehaver.substack.com/Dr. Amy Killen: https://dramybkillen.substack.com/Dr. Sarah Szal: https://saraszalmd.substack.com/The Menopause Society: https://menopause.org/Book a Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/pl/2148759033

Why does sex sometimes leave you feeling empty instead of fulfilled? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare Sente sits down with somatic sex educator and sexological bodyworker Ariel Szabo to explore why so many men feel disconnected after sex – and why it should not be about orgasm alone. Learn the difference between disembodied and embodied pleasure, why performance-focused sex leaves many couples unsatisfied, and how shifting your attention from outcome to connection can completely change your experience of intimacy. This conversation opens the door to a more conscious, connected way of relating to your desire, your body, and your partner – one that leads to deeper satisfaction.Ariel Szabo's website:https://www.sacredmoonflower.com/beginAriel Szabo's Substack:https://theeroticfrontier.substack.com/Sex Worth Having website:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/Book Free 30-minute Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/desire-diagnostic-callLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

What if dominance wasn’t about control—but about leadership, trust, and creating deeper connection?In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare sits down with sex and relationship coach Brandon the Dom to explore how power dynamics, when grounded in consent and care, can bring new energy, polarity, and excitement into long-term relationships.You’ll learn:the difference between dominance and domineeringwhy many men suppress their desire to leadhow “setting the container” helps a partner feel safe enough to let gowhy aftercare is one of the most important parts of intimacyand how exploring new dynamics can help couples break out of predictable sexual patternsThis conversation is not about performance or becoming someone you’re not.It’s about learning how presence, communication, and erotic leadership can create more aliveness, trust, and connection in the bedroom and beyond.Brandon’s Website:https://www.brandonthedom.com/Developing Dominance Online Class:https://www.brandonthedom.com/developing-dominanceBrandon’s YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@BrandonTheDomSex Worth Having website:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/Book Free 30-minute Desire Diagnostic Call:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/desire-diagnostic-callLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

When illness enters your relationship, intimacy often gets pushed aside—but it may be the very thing that helps you both get through it. In this episode, Clare explores how fear, stress, and uncertainty affect connection, and why intimacy becomes even more important during challenging times. You’ll learn how to stay close without pressure, redefine intimacy beyond sex, and create meaningful moments of connection that help your partner feel loved, seen, and supported.Visit website:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/Book Free 30-minute Desire Diagnostic Call:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/desire-diagnostic-callLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

Do you think you’re going slow enough in the bedroom? What feels slow to you is often still too fast for your partner’s body to fully register and feel. Many of us live at a constant “60 miles an hour,” stuck in a stressed, distracted state that blocks the kind of deep, connected intimacy long-term relationships need.It’s time to discover the power of slowing down. This shift begins when someone chooses to lead—and that someone is you. Slowing down isn’t just about movement; it’s about pacing and presence. It creates space for your partner to move from guarded and tense to open and responsive. Slow isn’t boring—slow is sexy. It allows sensation to build, deepens connection, and creates more meaningful intimacy.Learn the essential mindset shifts and simple practices—like hand-on-heart breathing and Qigong—that give you the capacity to slow down, attune to your partner, and become the confident, intuitive lover they dream about.Visit website:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/Book Free 30-minute Desire Diagnostic Call:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/desire-diagnostic-callLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

If sex has slowed down or stopped, the way back isn’t pressure—it’s a different kind of touch.In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare introduces nurturing touch as a powerful way to rebuild connection, reduce pressure, and help your partner’s body relax again.You’ll learn why touch that doesn’t lead to sex can actually restore desire, how to break the cycle of pressure and rejection, and simple ways to reconnect through presence, attunement, and slow, intentional touch.This is a grounded, practical approach to intimacy that helps your partner feel safe, seen, and open again—without needing perfect technique.Listen to the full episode to learn how to reconnect without pressure and bring intimacy back in a way that feels natural and sustainable.Visit website:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/Book Free 30-minute Desire Diagnostic Call:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/desire-diagnostic-callLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

Simple Ways To Add Fun, Curiosity, And Connection To Your Sex LifeHow do you bring playfulness into the bedroom—especially if it’s never been there? If sex has started to feel routine, serious, or pressured, you’re not alone. Many couples lose the sense of fun and curiosity that keeps intimacy alive. In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare talks with Eros and Trisha, founders of LitUp, about how playfulness, safety, and slowing down can transform connection and desire in long-term relationships. Listen to discover simple ways to bring more fun, ease, and connection back into your love life.Visit https://www.litup.love/. Use code “clare” at check out to get a free fluff puff with your order. If you sign up for their mailing list you also get 10% off your order.Date Night Ideas and Spark Playbook:https://www.litup.love/pages/date-night-ideasVisit Trisha & Eros's Company:LitUp.loveFollow on IG:@litup_loveGreat Reel on using humor to build connection:https://www.instagram.com/reel/Visit Sex Worth Having Website:Sex Worth HavingBook a Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare:CalendlyLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

How do you keep sex exciting in a long-term relationship?If intimacy has started to feel predictable—or like you’re both going through the motions—you’re not alone.Most couples were never taught that there are many different ways to connect sexually. Over time, relying on the same pattern can lead to boredom, pressure, or even quiet disconnection.In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare introduces the concept of “flavors of sexuality”—five different ways of connecting that bring variety, emotional depth, and renewed energy back into intimacy.When you expand your range as a lover, something shifts. Pressure drops, curiosity returns, and desire has space to come alive again.Listen to discover five simple ways to bring variety, playfulness, and connection back into your relationship.Visit website:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/Book Free 30-minute Desire Diagnostic Call:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/desire-diagnostic-callProducts to add more playfulness to your intimacy:https://www.litup.love/Use code Clare , and receive a free Fluff Puff with your orderLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

What if you could stop guessing how your partner wants to be touched—and simply ask?Most couples struggle to talk about touch. One partner may wish the other would be clearer, while the other feels unsure, awkward, or afraid of getting it wrong.In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare sits down with Dr. Betty Martin, creator of the Wheel of Consent and the Three-Minute Game—a simple but powerful practice that helps couples communicate clearly about touch, boundaries, and pleasure.When you understand who touch is for and learn how to ask for what you want, intimacy becomes less confusing and more connected, honest, and satisfying.Listen to discover how to stop guessing, start asking, and create a new level of connection in your relationship.Dr. Betty Martin – Wheel of Consent resourceshttps://www.wheelofconsent.orgBook: The Art of Receiving and Giving – Dr. Betty MartinVisit Website:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/Download free 10-Minute Pre-Intimacy Guided Meditation:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/opt-inLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

What if the most powerful thing you could bring to the bedroom isn’t a new move—but your full attention?Learning how to be better in bed isn’t about mastering techniques or memorizing moves. What most partners respond to is attention, presence, and the feeling of being truly seen and felt. When you slow down and bring your awareness into the moment, intimacy becomes more responsive, connected, and alive. In this episode, you’ll learn how a simple presence practice can transform the way you touch, listen, and connect with your partner—and why this may be the most important skill in creating sex worth having.Visit website:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/Download Free Pre-Intimacy 10-Minute Guided Meditation:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/opt-inProducts to add more playfulness to your intimacy:https://www.litup.love/Use code Clare , and receive a free Fluff Puff with your orderLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

For many women, desire doesn’t come first—it comes after connection, touch, and feeling safe.So when she’s not “in the mood,” it can feel confusing… or even like rejection.In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare introduces the concept of responsive desire—a natural pathway into sexual interest that many women, especially in midlife, experience.When you understand how desire actually works, everything begins to shift. You stop chasing sex and start creating the conditions where it can naturally emerge.Listen to learn the five simple steps that help intimacy deepen and desire return.Visit Website:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/Book a Free 30-Minute Desire Diagnostic Call:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/desire-diagnostic-callDownload the Free 10-Minute Guided Meditation by Clare:https://www.sexworthhaving.com/opt-inLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

Men over 50: Want deeper connection and better sex in your long-term relationship? Sex Worth Having shows you how to become the partner she’s actually dreaming about.Great sex isn’t about performance.It’s about presence, attunement, and knowing how to meet your partner’s changing body and desire — especially in midlife and menopause.Hosted by Clare Sente, Sex Worth Having is a podcast for men who care deeply about being good partners and want sex that feels connected, meaningful, and passionate for both of you.Inside, we explore:Why what used to work may not work anymoreHow menopause, stress, and life affect desireHow presence and pleasure-focused connection rebuild trust and attractionWhat many women wish their partners understood about their bodies and needsThis podcast is like getting the playbook you were never given for becoming a confident, intuitive lover.New episodes every Tuesday.Subscribe or follow now.Slow down. Stay present.Sex worth having, starts with you.