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Sextras
by Sextras
Sextras is a podcast about sex, dating, relationships and all the extras. Honey Jane Wyatt paints a candid picture of relationships and dating in your 20s, from sharing funny stories, to sex tips, to hard life lessons learnt (and learning). Typical episodes go from heavy discussions about surveillance culture and dating, to why it's so hard to orgasm during sex and offering a word of advice for cringe sex stories from their listeners. Listen in to hear Honey share all the details of her and her listeners' sex and love lives, and to maybe learn something from our expert guests along the way. To get involved, subscribe to Sextras on Substack follow us on Instagram, TikTok, and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/sex
Episodes
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Sex Work, Self-Image, and the Male Gaze (With Evie Rees)
On this episode, Honey is joined by adult performer, content creator, and model Evie Rees. Evie started out doing sex work when she was 18, so we talk about how the industry has changed over the last 12 years, including misconceptions, relationships, and what she wants to see change. Evie also...
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From Purity Culture To Polyamory As Patriarchy Resistance (With Courtney Boyer)
In this episode, Honey is joined by sex coach and author, Courtney Boyer, to talk about all things purity culture and polyamory. Courtney was raised in purity culture, so we talk about what she learnt about sex and relationships amidst a religious background. She explains how getting into a...
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Dealing With Jealousy Is A Skill, Here's How To Become Better At It (With Ally Iseman)
We're back to our regularly scheduled(ish) programming! This week on the pod, Honey is joined by relationship coach and founder of Passport 2 Pleasure Ally Iseman to talk all things jealousy in relationships. As author of the upcoming book, For The Love Of Jealousy, Ally has dedicated her work to...
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Answering Your LGBTQ+ Dilemmas: From Femme Lesbian Style To Top Performativity
For our third episode of Pride month, Honey is joined by relationships editor Daniella Parete to answer your queer dating and sex dilemmas and questions. We advise on everything from being pigeonholed as a top to how to dress as a femme lesbian. Please keep sending us your dilemmas! You can do so...
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How To Reconnect With Your Sexuality, And Your Anger (With Zoe K)
In this episode of Sextras, Honey speaks to Zoe K, a sophrologist and somatic coach ‘for the girls, gays, and theys’. For as long as heterosexuality has been ‘the norm’, queer people have been forced into disconnect with their bodies, which naturally has a knock on effect on confidence. Zoe tells...
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Queer Community, Dark Rooms, And Sexual Wellness (With HOWL's Samuel Douek)
Happy Pride month! In case it wasn't clear already, we're huge fans of the LGBTQ+ community here at Sextras, so we'll be publishing an episode a week for the rest of the month. This week, Honey talks to Samuel Douek, founder of HOWL, a sexual wellness brand and queer, sex-positive rave. Samuel...
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Does Orgasm Have To Be The Goal? (With Smile Makers Collection's Samantha Marshall)
Happy Masturbation May! To mark one of the best months of the year (IMO) we're talking all about orgasms, and whether they need to be the goal during sex or masturbation. To start the episode, Honey talks to our deputy editor, Lucy, about faking orgasms. We discuss how the female orgasm varies…
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What It’s Like To Be A Single On Temptation Island S2 With Kai Stone (Duh)
If we're at all similar, you'll have been just as obsessed as I was with Temptation Island Season 2. It was the kind of show I had a million questions about: why would anyone go on it in the first place? What is it like to be on the show? Did the cast have any regrets? And, no shade, but the...
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Lesbian Labels, Sex Toys, And Beginner Tips (With Katie From Labeless)
Happy Lesbian Visibility Week 2026! On this week's episode, I'm joined by Katie, founder of Labeless, a queer sex toy company. Katie tells me all about her latest release (hint: it's a sapphic sex toy) and we jump into why labels are sometimes problematic when it comes to lesbian sex. I ask Katie...
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Working For A Female-Led Porn Company (With Ersties' Cat)
Internet feminism has latched onto a long-contested debate: can you work in porn and be a feminist? In this episode, Honey is joined by Cat, the head of creative, community at education at female-led porn company Ersties, to mull it over. They talk about what it's really like working for a...
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How To Have More Sex (When No One Is)
This episode we’re joined by sex and relationships educator, coach, and sexologist, Amari Leigh to talk about how you can have better luck in sex and dating. Everyone’s in a situationship nowadays, and no one’s fucking! (We don’t have to tell you, we’re sure). If you need a little extra helping...
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We Need To Stop Performing Love And Desire
Want to win a free sex toy? All you have to do is follow us on Instagram and leave a review of the podcast wherever you're listening or become a paid subscriber to our Substack. For just £6 a month you'll get access to: extended podcast episodes, bonus episodes, exclusive features and essays,...
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Does Social Media Have A Sex Problem?
Not to sound conspiratorial or whatever, but Big Tech doesn't want us to talk about sex on social media. But it's not just sex, and specifically pleasure, that's not allowed. Women's health content, LGBTQ+ issues, and sexual wellbeing is also not allowed – especially not when it's posted by...
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WTF Is Kink, Anyway? With Gigi Engle
If there's one aspect of sex that's severely misunderstood, it's kink. From 50 Shades of Grey misrepresenting it as being non-consensual and all about pain, to the stigma of openly associating with any kind of desire that's not ✨mainstream✨ it can be a little intimidating to consciously decide to...
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Sexual Confidence and How to Talk About What Turns You On (With Dr Tara)
It's no secret talking about sex can be awkward – that is, if you get round to doing it at all. But what with a lack of sex education, the fact that pleasure for women and LGBTQ+ people is basically completely ignored, and not to mention the rise of conservatism, it can be almost impossible to…
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Surveillance Culture Is Impacting Your Dating Life
You can run (in circles) but you can’t hide from the panopticon, so of course we had to make our first episode of season four all about how surveillance culture plays out in relationships and sex. If you’ve not heard of the extremely esoteric (joking!) philosopher Foucault, don’t worry – we start...
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How Our Attitudes to Sex and Relationships Have Changed
It’s been (nearly) five years since we started the podcast and, while we’ve been on a shamefully long hiatus, we thought it would be just about time we reflected on what exactly we’ve learned about sex and relationships. We discuss how our perception of sex, relationships, and friendship have...
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Relationship Reveal, Adjusting to Living With a Partner & (Finally) Getting Big Girl Jobs
Sextras is back! Once again it's been a while but we promise it's for good reason and we get into why in this little catch up episode. We start with the headlines, namely revealing a new relationship, the challenges of living with a partner, moving out of a family home, and the fact that neither…
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Towards A Positive Masculinity (with Ben Hurst)
Our masculinity miniseries has been a little negative up until now (we’re aware of it at least!). But this week that all changes because we’re joined by Ben Hurst – activist, educator, and Head of Facilitation and Training at Beyond Equality – to discuss how we can rethink masculinity. As someone...
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Unboxing Lovehoney's Advent Calendar & Learning How to Use Sex Toys
Christmas could not have come sooner with this episode as Lovehoney has sent us their 24-Day Advent Calendar to try and we’re opening it with their resident sexual wellness advisor, Sarah Tomchesson! We start the episode telling Sarah what we’re experimenting with in our sex lives, before diving...
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A Look Into Male Friendships
In the second episode of our Masculinity miniseries, we unpack everything to do with male friendships. While it comes as no surprise to some of us, the fact that men don’t have supportive friendships has been in the news a lot of late, with claims that there’s a male friendship recession and that...
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What Is Masculinity in 2023?
Welcome to the first episode of our Masculinity miniseries! Masculinity has been under scrutiny the last few years: on one side, there are claims that masculinity is “toxic”, “fragile” or “in crisis”, and on the other there are those who claim “not all men” are responsible for this poor…
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Using Spirituality To Overcome Sexual Shame (With Kaamna Bhojwani)
In even the most accepting of households, children pick up on their parents’ beliefs about sex. If that includes restricting sex or teaching that it is inherently bad, that can lead to sexual shame that persists throughout our lives and shows up not just in our sex lives, but also in our entire...
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Read Porn! (With Aurore Founder Carly Pifer)
Have you ever had sex so good you wish you could freeze the memory in time? This week we’re joined by Carly Pifer, founder of Aurore, a curated collection of erotica written by and for women and LGBTQIA+ people, that encourages you to do just that by writing a story based on your real sex...
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Do Gen Z Want To Be Parents?
There are so many stereotypes about Gen Z it’s hard to keep track of where they’re really at: they’re a sexless generation, they’re the most sensitive because they have a victim mentality. They want to be parents, they don’t want to have babies because they’re worried about the planet; they’ll be...
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How To Talk To Your Kid About Sex (with Dr Tina Schermer Sellers)
Raising kids is hard in a bunch of different ways, but one of the main things parents dread is having the inevitable “talk” with their children. How do you have the talk, when should you have it, what is appropriate to say: these are all questions that nobody really gives parents the answers to....
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Having Sex After Birth (with Smile Makers Collection)
After having a literal human come out of you, getting little to no sleep and suddenly being entirely responsible for another human being is not exactly conducive to new parents’ sex life. But when you are at a point where you want to start having sex again, what do you do? Cecile Gasnault, brand...
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Deciding To Have Kids & Outgrowing Relationships (with Jessica Hendry Nelson)
TW: substance abuse, anticipatory grief We’ve all been sold the idea that you’re meant to experiment in your 20s, something that our guest this week missed out on. Author and professor Jessica Hendry Nelson joins us to talk about being in a relationship for the whole of her 20s and eventually...
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How Sex Changes With Age (with Beducated)
In episode one of our Family, Parenting and Sex miniseries were joined by Mariah Freya, who founded pleasure-based sex education website Beducated with her husband, to discuss how our sex lives change throughout our lives. We begin the episode hearing about Mariah’s experience with low libido in...
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Why Talk About Sex? (Our 100th episode!)
In the 100th (!) episode of the podcast, we reflect on why we always talk about sex, consent and relationships. We started the podcast three years ago and what we thought as 20 year olds about how we should talk about sex was very different to now, so we unpack how that's changed. It's obviously...
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Ending Celibacy & Making a Sex Bucket List (ft the Curious Girl)
More and more people are pursuing celibacy eras, but what happens when you want to start having sex again? As Honey is clearly incapable of answering that question herself, we're joined by Layla London, anonymous host of the sex podcast the Curious Girl Diaries, who made a sex bucket list and…
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The Ultimatum: Queer Love Debrief
TW: domestic abuse and toxic relationships Spoilers ahead!! We thought we’d celebrate pride month (very last minute, as always) with a discussion of the Ultimatum, Queer Love. In this episode we delve into the drama of the show and unpack why we think each of the couples were doomed to failure....
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Am I A Lesbian? & Compulsory Heterosexuality
Happy Lesbian Visibility Week! We’re so happy to be back talking all things compulsory heterosexuality and realising you’re a lesbian and we’re joined by the most (!) guests we’ve ever had to hear about their experiences. We start the episode discussing Adrienne Rich’s theory of compulsory...
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Love Is Blind Season 4 Debrief
Nothing could bring us back from a months-long hiatus faster than Love Is Blind and we are so happy to be back, delving deep into the drama of the season and breaking down each couple. Needless to say: if you haven't watched season 4 of Love Is Blind don't listen to this episode- it will spoil it...
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Bisexual Attraction, Male Validation and Valuing Our Pleasure
In this episode we wrap up the season by looking at our own experiences of pleasure and desire, discussing whether feeling desired and experiencing pleasure are compatible. We look back at what we learnt about pleasure and desire during our miniseries, from where our attraction, fantasies and…
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Let's Talk (to our partner) About Sex with Keeley Rankin
In the next episode of our pleasure and desire miniseries, we’re joined by sex and relationship coach Keeley Rankin to learn how to talk to your partner about what you enjoy during sex. We begin the episode by asking what people commonly struggle with during sex and where people’s fear of...
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Female Anatomy & the Orgasm Gap with Dr Marashi MD
In the second episode of our pleasure and desire miniseries we’re joined by Dr Amir Marashi, MD, FACS, FACOG, Founder of Cerē, the first anatomically aligned vibrator, to talk all about female anatomy and female pleasure. If you’ve not already joined our Patreon, you will want to for this episode...
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Good Sex: Does What We Desire Give Us Pleasure? (With Catherine Roach)
Welcome to our pleasure and desire miniseries! In this episode we’re joined by the wonderful Catherine Roach, professor of gender and cultural studies at the University of Alabama and author of the book Good Sex: Transforming America Through the New Gender and Sexual Revolution to talk all about...
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Celibacy Eras, Long Distance Relationships & Moving in With Your Boyfriend
Welcome to 2023! The start of this year marks a lot of changes for us, as Maria is moving to Paris tomorrow so this is our last episode recorded in our beautiful studio :( to watch the episode in full go join our Patreon (you get a ton of other benefits too!) In this episode we decided to have a...
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Making and Keeping Friends with Shasta Nelson
Welcome back to the final episode of our friendship miniseries! In this episode we’re joined by female friendship expert and author of Frientimacy, Shasta Nelson to talk all about making and maintaining friends. If you’d rather watch the podcast you can find the whole video episode on our…
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What Do You Expect From A Friend?
Welcome back to our friendship miniseries! This week we started off talking about how to bring up conflict with a friend, and ended up talking about what we look for in friendship. We began the episode asking whether you find it more difficult to bring up problems with a friend or with a romantic...
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When Friendships Become More Than Friendship
JOIN OUR PATREON community to continue getting involved in these conversations and to get access to full raw video footage of each episode and exclusive bonus content: Welcome to our first episode of our first ever miniseries!! This miniseries is all about friendship and we’re kicking it off with...
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Catching Up Before The New Season
Welcome back to Sextras! Your favourite sex and relationship podcast is back for season 3, baby, and to make up for a very long season break we’ve got a catch up episode where we tell you about our summers (and now...autumns) and outline everything that’s happening this season. We’re changing up...
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Is Love Blind & Would You Ever Give An Ultimatum In A Relationship
We thought we’d surprise you with a little bonus episode we recorded a while ago in which we review Love Is Blind and The Ultimatum: Marry Or Move On, shows on Netflix, and talk about what they tell us about dating culture on a wider scale. We give our opinions on the concepts of the shows and…
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2 Years of Sextras & Your Confessions
This episode is our last of the season, so we talk about what we have learnt about relationships this season, our favourite and least favourite moments and answer all of the submissions from our listeners that we have stacked up over the past few months. We begin by giving a run down of the…
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Talking With My Mum (Pt.2)
We’re finally back with part 2 of season 1’s episode ‘Talking To My Mum,’ where we spoke to Honey’s mum. This week, we’re joined by Maria’s mum, Maria, to hear all about being a mum of four and moving from Mexico to London. We begin the episode by hearing about Maria’s upbringing in Mexico and…
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Are Gen Z Having Less Sex? With Dr Aditi Paul
In this week’s episode we talk to the wonderful Dr Aditi Paul about her research on Gen Z hookup and dating culture. Her book The Current Collegiate Hookup Culture is out now, so please request that your local library or institution purchase it! We begin the episode by hearing about Aditi’s...
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Should Love Be Difficult? Love Languages & Expectations
When it comes to love, there are some people that believe love should be difficult, and some that it should be easy. In this week’s episode we attempt to answer if love should be easy or hard, discussing how to communicate your expectations and how to show love to your partner depending on their...
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How Friendships Change
Unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on how you look at it) it is a fact of life that most friendships change over time. This week we want to talk about just that, and our experience with how friendships change in your 20s. We begin the episode with a segment where we ask you guys if you feel...
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Sexting, Nudes & FaceTime Sex
Trigger warning: mention of SA at the end of the episode. This week we’re talking about all things sex + phone related: from sexting, taking and sending nudes and having facetime or phone sex. We begin the episode with a segment where we ask you what the best sext or nude you’ve sent or received...
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Sextras is a podcast about sex, dating, relationships and all the extras. Honey Jane Wyatt paints a candid picture of relationships and dating in your 20s, from sharing funny stories, to sex tips, to hard life lessons learnt (and learning). Typical episodes go from heavy discussions about surveillance culture and dating, to why it's so hard to orgasm during sex and offering a word of advice for cringe sex stories from their listeners. Listen in to hear Honey share all the details of her and her listeners' sex and love lives, and to maybe learn something from our expert guests along the way. To get involved, subscribe to Sextras on Substack follow us on Instagram, TikTok, and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/sex
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