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Shots & Thoughts
by Amy, Ashley & Olivia
Musings on dating, relationships and life from a bunch of 30-somethings. Cheers!
Episodes
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Episode 54 – Scary Dating Experiences, Spooky First Kisses, and That One Time in Japan
In this special Halloween episode, we’re chatting about the spookiest things about dating and relationships. Feeling alone. Not knowing what the other person is thinking. Lacking nonverbal communication with all this online dating. Sensing something has changed in your relationship. Oh, and...
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Episode 53 – Tinder’s Plus One, the Cult of the Nap Dress, and “Not a Serial Killer”
In this week’s episode, we chat about Tinder’s new feature called Plus One, where you can find a date to take to a wedding or other big event. This has us pondering great movies like “The Wedding Date” and wondering if this is really a good idea. Would you ever feel pressured to bring someone…
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Episode 52 - Your S.O.’s Family, Hawaiian Shirts, and Choosing Your A** or Your Face
We dive right in this episode with a big question: How much does someone’s family influence if you date them or continue dating them? And when do you meet their family? Would your family be honest with you if they thought someone was a bad partner for you? What differences among your families are...
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Episode 51 – Fuckboy Free Zone, When to Talk Money, and Apple Picking
Let’s just start this episode with a little bit of rage, shall we? Olivia goes off about her latest dating experience. Who knew the seemingly simple question of, “what are you looking for?” could cause such a ruckus. Turns out the “Fuckboy Free Zone” mug in his profile was false advertising.…
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Episode 50 – 50 Epiphanies: Trash TV, Zits, Bed Bugs, and Mac-n-Cheese
It is our big 50th episode! Can you believe we have had enough to talk about to fill fifty episodes? Because we sure can’t believe it. In order to celebrate this big milestone, we have made a list of 50 Epiphanies. We drop bombs of wisdom throughout this whole episode. Some are serious, some are...
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BONUS: Dating App Vent Session
You heard it here. Amy says it. Olivia was right! The dating apps are just as terrible as she said. Amy is single and back on the apps, so we talk all about how much the dating apps suck! We hate the crap men write on their profiles, we bitch about their photo choices, we rant and rave about…
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Episode 49 – Rules for Ghosting, Bars in Target, and Eggplant Emojis
Happy Fall, y’all. We’ve got pumpkin spice lattes and pumpkins on the balcony and we’re contemplating getting out our fall wardrobes. Pumpkins and sweaters and ghosts… oh my! Speaking of ghosts, when is it too late or no longer acceptable to ghost someone? At the end of a second date, Olivia was...
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Episode 48 – Asking for Favors, Wearing Slippers Outside, and Justin Bobby
Today we’re feeling irritated about traffic, slow drivers, and disappointing employee appreciation weeks. After we vent, we talk about some random dating topics. When is it too soon to ask someone you’re dating to take you to the airport? Go figure … it depends! Is it okay for a woman to make the...
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Episode 47 – Dating Difficulties, Guys with No Friends, and Glow-In-The-Dark Ceiling Stars
What’s the hardest part about dating in your 30s? We discuss the dwindling pool of available singles and the financial burden of dating. We also talk about feeling already set in your ways about things like finances and cleanliness and going out; this means dating in your 30s means finding…
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Episode 46 - Surprise!
Have we got a story for you guys! A linen dress ruined with red wine. T-rex attacks. A nearly broken pelvis. Lederhosen. “Roar” by Katy Perry. The Triwizard Tournament. A new identity. And two days worth of recovery. Buckle up because this is a good one. After we spill this news, we enjoy…
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Episode 45 - Bad Texters, Friends with Benefits, and Us Disagreeing About Everything
How important is it for someone you’re dating to be a good texter? Does this show that he’s just not that interested in you? Or is it a red flag for someone who isn’t going to be a good communicator in other ways? In this episode, Olivia fights for the importance of being a good texter especially...
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Episode 44 - Bachelorette Party Disasters, Jealousy, and Not Feeding Wedding Guests
Are we too old for stereotypical bachelorette parties? You know what I’m talking about – coordinated outfits, penis straws, the “power hour” drinking game, sucker bouquets, the bachelorette scavenger hunt. This conversation quickly dissolves into our opinions about all sorts of bachelorette party...
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Episode 43 - Mystery Texter, After the Alter, and the Flip Flop Debate
Would you respond to a random text message from a number you didn’t recognize? Ashley got a pretty harmless text that quickly transitioned to flirty (especially when he admitted to what he had her name saved as in his phone). What would you have done or said? And seriously, we know it’s been a...
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Episode 42 - Being Wrong About What You Want in a Partner, and Naps = Self Care
In this episode, we dive into this question: Do you always know the attributes or type of person that would be the best fit for you? Inspired by this season of Married at First Sight, we wonder if people truly understand what personality types mesh well together. Can a neat freak date someone…
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Episode 41 – Edibles and the Truth About Beauty Pageants
In this episode, Ashley – our resident retired pageant competitor – takes us into a deep dive into the world of pageants. She tells us stories about catty women, backstage sabotage, sprinting in six inch heels, butt tape, the cost of the dresses, the cringey Q&A portion, and she even discusses if...
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Episode 40 - "Good on Paper", Crap on Apps, and Plastic Plates and Cups
First and foremost, #Bucksin6. Even though Olivia watched a movie Amy recommended instead. The movie was "Good on Paper" which is based on a true life story of Iliza Shlesinger, the standup comedian. Like she talks about in the movie... why is a persistent guy seen as a positive thing, whereas a...
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Episode 39 - Vasectomies, LARPing and the Gen Z Word Game
In this episode, we're chatting about the weird things Olivia is seeing on the dating apps, including men openly sharing on their profiles that they've been snipped or refusing to list their job. Plus, what's this whole "breadcrumbing" thing? Is it just a fancy way of saying you're leading…
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Episode 38 - Girl Code, Flirting For Promotions, and a Drunken Exposé
"There's no reason, other than the fact that I have a vagina, that you think he can't be around me... and that's bullshit!" Things really heat up in this episode when we chat about Girl Code. Are you allowed to date a friend's crush? Does it make a difference if he's part of the friend group?…
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Episode 37 - Dating Spreadsheets, Business Cards, and Robot Mowers
Is dating getting a bit too... analytical? In this episode we're chatting all about dating spreadsheets, Google doc applications, and even dating business cards. Do you think if you're at the point of needing a spreadsheet to keep your dates straight, you're seeing too many people at once? And...
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Episode 36 - Matchmaking Services, and Living Out of a Van
In this episode, we’re diving right in to talk about using a matchmaker. It sounds spendy, not very efficient, and questionably effective if you’re not finding different people than you could find on the apps. Should a matchmaker have a certain education background? How well should they get to…
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Episode 35 - Bikinis, When it's Too Soon, and Becoming our Mothers
It’s officially pool season, y’all! We kick off today’s episode debating if we’re too old for bikinis, discussing new swimwear trends, and wondering if swimsuits should have pockets. After that, Olivia demands that Ashley and Amy play along as we discuss when it’s too soon for certain aspects of…
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Episode 34 - Couples Counseling, Secret Relationships, and Mom Haircuts
What would you do if you got iced on your first date? Is that a creative icebreaker or immature tactic? In this episode, we dive into the topic of couples counseling. Is it a red flag if you’re going to counseling before you’re even married? Is that a sign that you’re just not a good fit for each...
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Episode 33 - Farmers Only, The Home Edit, and UV Blue
Ashley and Olivia kick off this episode with some exciting life announcements before we discuss an important listener comment about our last episode - are we too old for the Summerfest shuttle buses? Then, we dive into this episode by discussing dating reality shows and if we'd ever be a...
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Episode 32 - Dating a Guy with Roomies, Selling our Homes, and the Food Culprit
We're diving into a topic from last week's 60 Second Sips -- would you date a guy in his 30s who still lives with roommates? And is a guy more appealing to you if he owns a home instead of renting? Would you ever date someone who lives at home with their parents? Heck, would YOU ever move back…
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Episode 31 - Dugout Love Stories, Jorts, and My First Botox
Do you remember the website PostSecret? Well, we've got a couple of big secrets to share with you this week! Ashley's big secret involves sneaking into dugouts, jorts turned into jean bikini bottoms, and Olivia being possibly the least observant person on the planet. During 60 Second Sips, our...
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Episode 30 - Showing up Late, Wearing Sunglasses Indoors, and Welding Aspirations
Guess what? We've reached almost 900 plays and we have you all to thank! Keep spreading the word, and don't be afraid to slide into our DMs if you have any topic suggestions. In this episode, we ponder the relevance of a few common phrases, such as "romance is dead," "there's plenty of fish in…
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Episode 29 - Hinge Prompts, Clipping Toenails in Public, and Death by Trash Compactor
Inspired by an outrageous Hinge prompt answer sent by her sister, Olivia kicks off the episode by running us through some pretty interesting responses to prompts on dating apps. And yes, these are all real responses found just in our location in under an hour. It's a scary world out there on the...
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Episode 28 - Dating and Careers, Feeding Ourselves, and No Louboutins
Would you date someone who worked in the same field as you, or would it get too competitive? Or rather, would it be nice to have someone who understands the difficulties of your job? We discuss that on this week's episode before diving into some 60 Second Sips. Would you date someone who hates…
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Episode 27 - Pen Pals, Travel Mode, and the Post Office
What do you think about someone saying "not looking for a pen pal" on a dating app? And, what do you think about people not listing preferences for things that are obvious dealbreakers for them (such as doing drugs or having kids)? These are just a few of the things we chat about on this week's...
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Episode 26 - Bad Kissers, Gaslighting, and Hair Removal Horrors
Is kissing like riding a bike? Or, can you forget how to do it if it's been awhile or if you're super nervous? This is up for debate on this week's episode, along with some 60 Second Sips questions about milk preferences and whether talking during movies is acceptable. A big topic we cover is...
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Episode 25 - Hiding from Exes, Myspace Top 8, and Butterfly Clips
Happy Easter weekend! Are you a fresh Peeps fan or one of the weirdos who likes them a little hard? After debating Easter candy, we discuss social media and if it's muddying the waters for breakups. Speaking of breakups, when are you obligated to break up in person instead of over text or a phone...
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Episode 24 - Getting Arrested, Being Stereotyped, and Banana Hats
Inspired by a Bumble question prompt, we guess why each of us would be arrested. Do you think "my drunk alter ego did it" would hold up in court? Next, we help Olivia translate what the heck we think guys mean when they say things on the apps, like, "I'm looking for a filter-less beauty" -- what...
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Episode 23 - Income Differences, Skid Marks, and Gray Hairs
We're talking money in relationships once again, but this time we're focusing on how you deal with differences in income. What do you do if you're self conscious about making less? Or if your partner really seems to care about now being the breadwinner? We also wonder if it's even worse to be the...
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Episode 22 - The Box Test, Automated Dating, and First Date Tattoos
In this episode, Ashley runs us through the "Box Personality Test" which tells us a lot about Amy's ego, her relationship contentment, and surprisingly, even her many foster animals. Then, we discuss whether or not we think automating "good morning" texts and Starbucks giftcards is genuine or…
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Episode 21 - The "How Not to Die Alone" Book, Cohabitating, and Biker Shorts
Olivia just finished listening to the audiobook "How Not to Die Alone" by Logan Ury, and she is dying to discuss some of the most shocking details of the book. How much more does a guy have to make to be considered as attractive as someone taller than him? Should you incentivize people setting…
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Episode 20 - Dating Patterns, Situationships, and Wide Leg Pants Problems
In this episode, we're chatting about patterns in dating. Do you date the same type of person over and over? Are they the same based on appearance, personality type, or something else? After a short tangent on the challenges of being an introvert, we direct our attention to the importance of...
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Episode 19 - Date Cancellations, Capybaras, and Finding Cheaters on Tinder
Did you know you can order zoo animals out of a catalog? Oh, the things dating can teach you! In this episode, we're wondering how long to wait for someone to reschedule a date. And during 60 Second Sips, Ashley poses this challenging question: would we ever date someone who cheated in the past…
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Episode 18 - Potty Problems, Tableside Tears, and Social Media Stalking
Seriously, guys, this could be our best episode yet! We recount some of our very worst first dates: the guy who was very vocal about his shy bladder, the guy who was probably on drugs and wanted to murder his brother, and the date that never ends (it just goes on and on my friends). Plus, after a...
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Episode 17 - Valentine's Day, Anniversaries and a Dislike of Carnations
Happy Valentine's Day! Grab that box of chocolates and a big glass of wine because this episode we're discussing when we stopped celebrating six-month anniversaries, the right time to tell your family you're dating someone new, and when we expect our significant other to delete their dating apps...
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Episode 16 - Unsafe First Dates and The Stalker
“Are you wearing a dress? I see you.” Yeah guys, this episode gets a little creepy so don’t say we didn’t warn you. Ashley is full of great stories this episode, and she kicks things off by sharing how Olivia almost became an accidental mistress. During 60 Second Sips, we debate whether or not to...
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Episode 15 - Maskne, Call Him "Daddy", and The Racist
Raise your hand if you’ve been personally victimized by … maskne. *all raise hands* The struggle is real with this pandemic pimple problem, and our beauty guru Ashley is here with some much needed advice on banishing the blemishes. After we get our skincare routine in order, we move on to the...
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Episode 14 - Zombies, Fad Diets, and Workout Undies
Olivia kicks off this episode with a few very important life updates, including the fact that she’s now leaving her relationship destiny in the hands of Myers Briggs. And while the first part of 2021 is coming in hot with some unfortunate 2020 vibes, we know it’s “new year, new you” season, and...
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Episode 13 - Personality Types, Love Languages, and Peeing with the Door Open
Do you think that personality type plays a role in your compatibility with another person? Can knowing your love language make you a better partner? We’re diving into these topics on this week’s episode. Amy is a major skeptic and thinks there’s too many intangibles for personality tests to help...
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Episode 12 - Dating Apps and Compatibility with the Rainbow Farts Man
We suspect that many of you have missed out on the joys of dating apps, so we're giving you the lowdown of what we really think about these online dating apps. Bumble has a new feature since Amy quit the apps where you can play a question game (your answers are revealed after both people provide...
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Episode 11 - NYE with Banjo Boy and our Favorite Rushed Relationship Shows
The countdown to 2021 is on, and we're here with our longest episode to date to help pass the time 'til the new year! In this week's episode, Ashley tells the tale of the Banjo Boy who made our NYE a bit more interesting (was there a midnight kiss?!). And while we're pondering the new year, we…
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Episode 10 - White Elephant Gifts and Long Distance Dating
What would you do if your boyfriend's grandma got you and your boyfriend's sister identical Christmas gifts? Um, yikes. But if you want to play a good prank on someone this holiday season, Ashley has some inspiration for you. In this week's 60 Second Sips, we ponder just how much distance we…
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Episode 9 - Connecting on Insta, Paying for Dates, and Are We Exclusive?
What do you think about a guy you just matched with online asking to connect on Instagram or Snapchat? Also, are we getting too old for social media? After a quick game of 60 Second Sips, we dive into the age old question... who should pay on a date? Plus, Ashley tells us all about the time a...
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Episode 8 – A Twenty-Year Relationship and Dating Before Cell Phones
After we chat about the relationship Ashley didn’t know she was in and learn that maybe Olivia just doesn’t hug enough in her relationships, we bring on our very first guest! Nicole has been in a relationship for a whopping 20 years, and she reminds us that in addition to no Tinder back then, we...
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Episode 7 - Sneaky Insta Filters, Labor of Love, and Dating Divorcees
That cocktail better be strong because we dive into some heavy sh*t this episode! What starts as a casual conversation about sneaky Instagram filters turns into us pondering the mental health of children everywhere. And if that wasn't heavy enough, we discuss that our clocks are a-tickin' and if…
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BONUS: Episode 6 - Holiday Gifts and Sexy Stocking Stuffers
Just in time for Black Friday and Cyber Monday, we're chatting about holiday gifts! How soon do you buy the guy you're dating a present? When do you bring him home for the holidays? During this episode, we learn that Amy doesn't like boozy ice cream drinks, Ashley attempts to absolve Olivia of…
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Musings on dating, relationships and life from a bunch of 30-somethings. Cheers!
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