Soph Say It With Your Chest

Some battles don’t leave visible scars — but they change you forever.In this episode, I’m talking about survival. The kind nobody claps for. The nights you cried quietly, the moments you almost gave up, and the strength you didn’t even realize you had until life forced you to keep going anyway.This isn’t about pretending everything is okay. It’s about acknowledging the storms, the losses, the disappointments, and the weight of carrying yourself through seasons that should have broken you.If you’ve ever looked at your life and thought, “I don’t even know how I made it this far,” this conversation is for you.Because sometimes the only explanation is faith, resilience, and grace you didn’t know was holding you up.Ask God how you’re still standing.

Valentine’s Day doesn’t cancel out a year of inconsistency. Flowers, gifts, and dinners aren’t substitutes for communication, effort, and accountability. In this episode, I talk about transactional love, uneven emotional labor, and why one holiday can’t fix what’s been missing all year. Love is built daily—not paid for once a year.

New year, same me — just more grounded.In this season opener, I’m checking back in without the pressure of becoming a “new version” of myself. I talk about where I’m at, what I’m carrying into the year, and what I’m leaving behind — without the forced resolutions.I share updates on the books I currently have out, reflect on navigating the 9–5 grind and the everyday hassle that comes with it, and take a quiet moment to honor my dad on his heavenly birthday.This episode is part reflection, part reality check, and part pause — a reminder that growth doesn’t always need a rebrand.

Soph talks about what it costs to always be the dependable one — the “rock” everyone leans on but rarely checks on. This episode digs into the emotional exhaustion that comes with holding it all together, even when you’re the one falling apart inside.It’s raw, relatable, and full of that quiet honesty that only the strong ones will fully understand. Because sometimes, being strong isn’t strength — it’s survival.

This one’s layered — like the name. Soph breaks down the messy middle between who you were, who you’re becoming, and what it costs to stay grounded when life keeps stacking stress on top of healing. It’s equal parts humor, heart, and hard truth — the kind of episode that hits different when you’re doing that inner work but still cracking jokes to get through it.

This episode unpacks what it really means to exist in between society’s boxes — masculine, but not a man. Soph gets real about identity, presentation, and the constant misunderstandings that come with being a masc-presenting woman in a world obsessed with labels. It’s raw, reflective, and a little bit funny — the kind of conversation that makes you nod, laugh, and pause all at once.Listeners will hear Soph call out the stereotypes, question why confidence gets mistaken for masculinity, and break down what it feels like to be seen, but not fully understood.

This episode is for the cycle breakers who’ve had to face that truth head-on and choose peace over proving themselves. It’s raw, reflective, and painfully relatable for anyone tired of chasing acceptance they already deserve.

It’s wild how a single sound can pull you straight back into a moment you thought you left behind. In this episode, I talk about how everyday noises can unexpectedly trigger old wounds, forcing us to confront the echoes of our trauma. This isn’t just about being startled—it’s about the way our bodies hold memory, the way healing is never linear, and the courage it takes to face those echoes head-on.If you’ve ever been caught off guard by a sound that reopened something you thought was healed, this one will resonate with you.

We all have that one quirky comfort habit that doesn’t make sense to anyone else but feels like home to us. In this episode, I open up about the strange ways I find peace, from stacking pillows just right to holding on to routines that keep me grounded. It’s more than just a story about sleep—it’s about how small, personal rituals carry big weight in our healing journeys.If you’ve ever wondered why the smallest habits bring the biggest comfort, or caught yourself doing something that only you understand, this conversation will make you feel seen.

We all know somebody who tries to juggle every battle at once—and ends up draining themselves in the process. In this episode, I unpack what it really means to “pick a struggle” and why we can’t afford to fight every single fight life throws our way. From family drama to personal expectations, I get real about setting boundaries, protecting your peace, and learning how to choose your battles wisely.If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying way too much, this one’s a reminder: not every fight is yours to fight.

Why do we keep trying with people who refuse to meet us halfway? In this episode of Soph, Say It With Your Chest, I dive into the emotional tug-of-war of holding on to a parent who constantly leaves me feeling unseen and unheard.I unpack the guilt, the hope, the repeated disappointments, and the hard truth that love without accountability isn’t really love at all. Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is stop forcing peace where there’s only chaos.If you’ve ever asked yourself “why do I keep trying with them?” — this episode is for you.

The only girl, the youngest — Soph opens up about sibling roles, expectations, and the quiet pressure of being the ‘emotionally responsible’ one when you never asked for that job.

Texting your ex again? Nah. Soph breaks down how that craving for connection is really your inner teen crying for safety, validation, and healing.

Queer Step Parent Syndrome is the raw, unfiltered podcast unpacking what it really means to be a step-parent in queer relationships. Hosted by a masc-presenting Black lesbian navigating love, parenting, boundaries, and identity all at once, this series explores the invisible labor, awkward dynamics, and emotional weight that come with stepping into a role no one fully prepares you for—especially in queer families. Whether you’re co-parenting with an ex, setting boundaries with bio parents, or just trying not to lose yourself in the shuffle, this is the space where your complicated truths get to breathe. Honest. Hilarious. Healing.

Being masc-presenting doesn’t mean being emotionless. Soph exposes the silent pressure of being the strong one and the toll it takes on mental health, relationships, and self-worth.

An emotional reflection on what it means to grieve someone still alive — and how the absence of emotional support from a mother figure leaves a permanent bruise.

Sir, you couldnt even turn on the Bluetooth speaker at brunch. This episode is a comedic drag of the men who think queerness is a phase and why they need to go read a book instead.

Ive been called sir and maam in the same breath. This episode dives into gender identity, comfort, and growing up in the liminal space between expectations and self.

Heartbreak got me in a headlock. Let’s talk healing, hoodies, and why studs be suffering in silence. Funny, real, and a little too relatable.

In this follow-up to Part 1, I explore the ache of wanting to be seen by the woman who raised me. As a masculine-presenting, queer Black woman, healing has meant facing invisibility, unmet expectations, and the quiet hope that one day, my mama might truly see me.

In this first part of a two-part series, I open up about the layered journey of healing while embracing my identity as a gay Black woman. From the pressure to shrink myself for the comfort of others to the quiet grief of wanting my family to see me fully—I’m saying it all with my chest. This episode is for anyone who’s ever tried to balance self-love with the deep desire for acceptance, especially from the people who raised us. Let’s talk about the silence, the shame, the small wins, and the loud pride.

Healing is on going, Parental healing awakens different scars and triggers

Through life challenges we need to be reminded that we are only in competition with ourselves. But also if we want better, we gotta do better

Grief can be an ongoing factor in your life. Tune in with Soph

2023 seems to have fly by me. Tune in and lets talk about somethings with Soph

Life gives you lemons to make lemonade, the old version of yourself is not who you are in this season.

Soph been gone for a minute but she is back with a life update. Buckle in for this ride as we laugh to keep from crying

Faith & Sexuality could be a struggle that you are currently going through. Come on this journey as I relate to Renold and hear how he balances the two with pride and honor.

Take this journey with me as we pick Pastor Marc brain and going into his spiritual walk and how he made it to where he is now with Elevating Pulse Church in Atlanta, Ga.

Getting a chance to continue to take this journey with me. Listen up and take notes from Coach Rees, a motivational speaker with her personal experiences and how it got her to where she is today.

This topic is near and dear to my heart. A struggle that many are facing today. Let’s take this ride with Minister Shon on how her experience was growing up and how to continue.

Come on this journey as we dig and dive with Lijah on his view points and gems he has within that gave him the gift to share it with others on his various platforms

Soph typically don't complain but lets talk about things that are normally not spoken with Soph. This life is lifeing so lets talk about somethings with Sophia. Be prepared to laugh and be at awe of my personal life experiences.

Let’s start this new month right with some motivational affirmations. You got this! Keep going!

If we are not winning as a team are we really winning? Tune in to this episode as we talk about love and basketball to wrap up the love month

Come on a journey with my favorite family cousins as we discuss love as an adult and child and how it shaped you into who you are today

Stretching out in faith and walking into my purpose. Soph took time to figure out her purpose lets go into details about it. Let me know what you think.

As we are in the new year lets set some expectations. Soph is here to remind you that you are loved and needed here

We are walking into the year 2023. Come on this journey as well elevate and do something new and different this year with ourselves, this podcast and much more.

As we wrap up 2022, lets talk for a little before we walk into the New Year. Its the year of the 7.

Things and people in life may cause confusion and forgetfulness of who you are and the greatness you hold within.

Working while healing can be a job itself but working a big woman job in a very not so diverse environment can be a fill time job.

My spiritual journey looks different from yours but we may be in the same both. I can be in the LGBTQ community and still have a relationship with God

During the healing journey there seems to be a pit stop where its not all peaches and creme

Blood can be thicker than water but does that mean we allow toxic behavior from family. Let’s talk about it!

Grief is a tough topic but let Soph share her experience with you on how grief has changed my view point

Take a few minutes to let Soph morning motivation, motivate you as you start your day. Soph is speaking life into you!

Take a ride with Soph as she continues her healing and growth journey which you may can relate too. This is a safe space, step into it cause Soph will always say it with her chest.

Buckle your seat belt for this drive we are about to take in red flag valley

It’s been some time but we are back soon