Speaking of Sex with The Pleasure Mechanics

How we offer and give our time, gifts and attention matter in all of our relationships. And when we cultivate the skillset of becoming responsive givers of erotic pleasure we are able to offer our lovers more specifically what they want and enjoy and can then offer more sexually satisfying experiences to our lovers. In this […]

How do you like it – Tough, or Tender? For many of us, what we truly crave is an exquisite blend of Tough & Tender, Rough & Romantic, Intense & Intimate. Tough & Tender don’t have to be opposite ends of a spectrum or mutually exclusive – we can revel in the delicious combinations of […]

Join us in conversation with Dr. Ina Park, author of Strange Bedfellows: Adventures in the Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs In this essential episode we cover how to talk about sexual safety without stigma, the real risks and rewards we navigate as sexually active adults, and how we can all create a healthier, […]

In this Best Of Pleasure Mechanics episode, we explore bringing the foundational attitudes of mindfulness into erotic exploration, getting kinky and expanding our sense of sexual self. One of our coaching clients told us that this episode was a game-changer for them, allowing them to approach bringing kink into a relationship after FIFTY years of […]

Join us to explore how to enjoy safer sexier oral play in this Pleasure Mechanics interview with CEO and founder of Lorals, Melanie Cristol. Ready to uplevel your experience of oral? Join our Oral Mastery Course for an immersive, experiential course in oral pleasure for all bodies! More About Lorals: Lorals has revolutionized oral sex. […]

We all deserve compassionate, culturally relevant care. In this nourishing conversation, we speak with Dr. Nazanin Moali, clinical psychologist & addiction specialist, about how we can all create more empathy and freedom for one another. We talked about how she works with clients from conservative backgrounds to get free from toxic conditioning, without leaving beloved home […]

Techniques are efficient, strategic ways of getting a job done or wanted outcome achieved. Advanced Techniques bring together many skills at once to create extraordinary results – and that’s what happened when we brought our 20 years experience as somatic sex educators to the quest of creating the most comprehensive, powerful curriculum about oral play […]

Has oral become a chore? Do you offer dutiful or obligatory oral, but struggle to enjoy it? What happens when we go beyond the scripts and shoulds and start getting curious about what else is possible? Grab our FREE Recipe for the Best. Oral. Ever. here! or jump into our brand new course and master […]

Here’s how to wake up your mouth as a site of erotic pleasure, power and expression. In this episode we share the first step of oral eroticization – becoming aware of your mouth as a place of enjoyment, on your own terms, and doubling down on the pleasure you experience from your own mouth. Want […]

Our brand new course is ready for you to devour! Join us for guided immersive exploration of oral pleasure for ALL bodies! You can explore the self-paced online course or join us for the group coaching cohort – be one of the Lucky 69 participants to join us as we come together to dive deep […]

It’s time to stop dick shaming in all of its forms – from small dick jokes to cruel comments to the hypersexualization of some men and emasculation of others, it is time to call an end to a culture that normalizes dick shaming. Thanks to Hims.com/Pleasure for sponsoring this episode. If you want to start […]

After peak life experiences, there is often Drop: a physical and emotional experience of let-down, depletion and weariness. Knowing about Drop we can better plan for it and tend to it – so we can get ready for our next peak experience! Tune into this episode to learn about Drop, how we can prepare for […]

Shame Slayers, Unite! For the all-new 25 minute video teaching on how to effectively slay the shame and reclaim fearless belonging, please join us for free in the Pleasure Pod! Shame is one of the most common sexual struggles. Shame is a social experience of feeling unworthy, unlovable, not belonging or lesser than. Shame tells […]

Mapping your Peak Erotic Experiences is a powerful practice to mine your personal history for clues to creating a better sex life for your future! The Peak Erotic Experiences Practice comes to us from the late great Dr. Jack Morin, author of The Erotic Mind, who suggests that we use our own Peak Erotic Experiences, […]

Erotic Touch Activation is our Pleasure Mechanics process to awaken your touch, activate your hands as erotic tools and sensitize your sense of touch. Erotic Touch Activation allows us to shift out of “working hands mode” where we use our hands for functional touch and into using our hands as erotic tools of sensing, feeling, […]

The Five As of Erotic First Aid : What To Do When Good Things Go Wrong As Chris recovers from a recent sex injury, we share the five steps of offering Erotic First Aid. From broken bed frames to thrusting gone askew, we share stories of sex injuries and accidents and offer a reliable framework […]

Praise can feel like loving strokes that go right to our soul’s sweet spots, giving us the affirmation, acceptance and encouragement that so many of us crave – but can also cause embarrassment, discomfort or even humiliation! Some people love being praised for their physical appearance, and others find this distracting. In this podcast episode, […]

Emily Nagoski shares the game-changing tool from her new book, Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. The Core Emotional Floorplan is a framework that allows all of us to more clearly see and share their own unique emotional experience, and find pathways back home towards Care, Play and Lust. Join […]

In this intimate interview, Emily Nagoski shares her insights from authoring her new book Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. We dive into the common misconceptions about long term erotic relationships, and what really works when it comes to creating a sex life worth wanting. For a bonus interview and […]

When we Touch To Feel, we unlock boundless potential for sensual, emotional and relational pleasures. Touching To Feel is a lifetime practice of waking up our bodies to FEEL more, feeling the true depth and range of our own emotions, expressing ourselves through touch and touching with purpose and intention to create a wide range […]

Tend The Tender is a phrase that invites us all to bring more loving attention to our most tender places, and to allow others to care for us when we are feeling a bit raw. To be tender is to be human, and yet many of us struggle to ask for care when we need […]

What happens after your lover discloses their fetish- or you discover a fetish or kink and need to talk about it? In this episode we discuss how to bring more compassion and curiosity to conversations about newly disclosed kinks and fetishes. Want more guidance into kink? Join us here. This call was inspired by a […]

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Erotic Touch Mastery, Stroke by Stroke. Get started tonight. Our bodies are sensitive, but not delicate. This phrase is something Chris has been teaching for twenty years, since the early days of the Sexological Bodywork training, in response to a pattern they noticed after teaching erotic touch for hundreds of hours. Many people are hesitant […]

Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins us to explore the power of daily incremental practice in the realms of love, connection and pleasure. In this free podcast episode we explore how we can all practice Love Every Day, while being patient with change, working with even the most reluctant of partners, and respecting the process of incremental […]

Here’s how to create more sensation and arousal with the pleasure of vibrations! In this podcast episode, we explore how you can create exquisite sensations of vibrations for yourself or a lover, and enjoy the wide range of feeling that vibrations can evoke for us – using just your hands and mouth! We also explore […]

Why do we humans enjoy being afraid? Why does it feel so good to be just the right kind of scared? This spook season, we explore the erotics of fear – what it means to want to be afraid, how we all have different appetites and preferences for fear, and how we can choose to […]

Relaxing into pleasurable touch is one of the most nourishing erotic experiences – but how do we stay relaxed while also being present with our partner, communicating our needs and expressing our pleasure to create a positive feedback loop that you’ll both enjoy? This episode was inspired by a recent personal coaching session. If you […]

Vanilla can be so delicious on it’s own, but with permission to enjoy a wide range of toppings, the possibilities for pleasure become boundless. Maybe it is the whipped cream of extra romance, the sprinkles of sensation play or the spicy popcorn of adding in new toys, you can add so many toppings to your […]

Vanilla is absolutely delicious, but only if we choose to savor it. Vanilla sex is not “plain” or boring in any way – vanilla can be luxurious, decadent and indulgent. In this episode we sing the praises of vanilla sex, and share strategies and tools for deepening our enjoyment of the many pleasures of vanilla. […]

How worried do I need to be about STIs? How often should I get tested? What does a complete STI panel mean? Do I need to get tested every time I have a new partner? I have erectile struggles but only sometimes, and especially on new dates, why? Should I try ED medication? What is […]

Superfreaks Unite! What would happen if we all let our inner Superfreak flag fly? What joy and bliss awaits us on the other side of courageous kinky exploration? Join us in conversation with Arielle Greenberg, author of Superfreaks: Kink, Pleasure & The Pursuit of Happiness (Beacon Press, 2023) Explore more of Arielle’s work here. We […]

Mismatched Libido is one of the most common reasons couples seek therapy, but we don’t hear a lot about Mismatched Kink. It doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker if your kinks don’t align perfectly, if you have very different kinks or even if only one of you is kinky! Join us in this podcast episode […]

What awaits on YOUR erotic journey? What discoveries, adventures, lessons and transformations are just ahead on your path? Join us to sink into the idea that your erotic life can be a journey – rich with excitement, meaning and purpose. Unroll your map of possibilities and gaze at the expansive horizons with us, and get […]

The Golden Rule is a recipe for erotic disaster – doing unto others what you would have them do unto you is NOT good advice, it turns out, in or out of the bedroom. It’s time we started breaking the golden rule – and started exploring the true meaning of reciprocity, mutuality and generosity. Thanks […]

Touch is not a luxury nor a pleasure to be earned at the end of a work day. Touch is an essential human need, at all stages of human life. Most of us experience some level of touch hunger or touch starvation, and the impact on our lives can be dire. The good news? Touch […]

What would it feel like to Make Love As Art? What would it look like to bring more artistry, playfulness and creativity to your love life? If eroticism is a creative expression, what wants to be expressed through you? What kind of erotic artist are you ready to become? In this episode we bask in […]

What are your deepest yearnings? What horizons do you achingly long for? What do you want to experience in this one precious life? Recently inspired by Ariel in the new The Little Mermaid, this episode is an anthem to the power of desire. We all have deep desires that we hide away from those we […]

We all experience seasons within our sexuality. At times seasons stack together to create sexual eras within our lives. We explore how embracing erotic eras can be a useful and liberatory framework to use as we reflect on our erotic lives. This podcast is a continuation of the ideas we shared in podcast #297: Surviving […]

If you are ready to start exploring kink but feel overwhelmed by where to begin, we invite you to try MiniKink! And if you are already kinky and expanding into new dynamics or activities, MiniKink gives us the chance to efficiently and safely explore what more is possible. MiniKink invites you to create very short, […]

Riding the red wave, surfing the red tide, earning your red beard… there are as many euphemisms for period sex as there are opinions about it, and in this episode we dive right into the charged and tender conversation of getting intimate while bleeding. Thanks to our episode sponsors for being part of our global […]

JoEllen Notte, author of In It Together : Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family joins us to discuss how we can all show up more fully for the people in our lives who are living with depression. We ALL know someone who struggles with depression, and in this podcast episode we explore how we […]

Cockwarming, Docking & Engulfment are all names for different applications of a similar erotic move, where we hold an intimate part of the body inside our holes, bodies or crevices. This warm, wet, intimate embrace is an erotic technique that we can all explore in our own way, and this episode explores this move in […]

On the other side of curiosity there is a boundless playground of pleasure, intimacy and connection. When we listen to what other people find pleasurable about their kinks and turn-ons, we can start noticing the responsive desire that stirs within, and find our own Responsive Kinks! In this episode we invite you into the practice […]

What would it feel like to stretch a little more? How much release, relaxation, relief and pleasure are just a stretch away? In this episode we invite you into stretching into more pleasure – with both the physical practice of stretching whenever and however it feels good to you and the emotional practice of stretching […]

Getting naked brings up emotions for all of us – from fear and shame to bliss and exultation and just about every emotional experience in between, getting naked exposes us and reveals so much about our cultural and personal histories. How do we find more comfort, safety and freedom in our skins? How do we […]

Since 2006, we’ve been The Pleasure Mechanics, dedicated full time to exploring the power of pleasure, intimacy, joy and connection. It’s been our mission to remember the role of pleasure in our human experience and the creative, generative, healing force of eroticism. One of our anthems since the very early days has been : Prioritize […]

Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from all of our podcast sponsors here There are so many reasons why receiving sexual pleasure can be challenging for so many of us.  Receiving sexual pleasure is a specific skill set that is necessary to complete the circuit of pleasure when we are making love.  We can […]

Penetration of all kinds can be an intimate and orgasmic part of the erotic experience – but only if everyone involved is ripe and ready for this physical, emotional and relational event. Far too often, lovers rush towards penetration and end up under-stimulated and unsatisfied. In this episode, we explore how to prioritize readiness when […]

The Netflix series How To Build A Sex Room has a lot of us asking questions about how we can create a more conducive space for our sex life, yet few of us have the time, budget and square footage for a dedicated sex room. But we ALL can cultivate our erotic context with small […]