Spice Of Wife

What do your calendar and your bank account say you value? In this episode, I'm talking about how we can stop feeling like victims of our schedules, obligations, and expenses and start intentionally using our time, money, energy, and resources to create the life we actually want. We'll break it down into four pieces: desire, intention, value, and resources—and look at whether the way you're spending your life actually reflects what matters most to you. Because your marriage, business, family life, and even the woman you're becoming don't happen by accident. We create them with intention. If you want to take it to the next step consider applying for my one on one program HERE> 

Today's episode is a special one. I'm sharing the recording from a live workshop where I teach one of the most important concepts I've learned as a coach: you don't need better circumstances—you need a regulated nervous system. If you constantly feel overwhelmed, reactive, exhausted, or like you're carrying everyone else's responsibilities, this episode will help you understand why. Inside you'll learn: Why emotional dysregulation—not your circumstances—is keeping you stuck. The difference between living in survival mode and living from peace. My Green, Yellow, and Red Zone framework for understanding your emotions. The Stop, Drop & Breathe Method to regulate your nervous system in real time. How to become calm, grounded, and connected—even when life is still chaotic. You don't have to wait for your husband, your kids, or your circumstances to change before you can experience peace. You can become the woman who feels safe, grounded, and in control of herself—starting today. If you're ready to take this work deeper and create a marriage that feels like a true partnership, I'd love to talk with you. Apply here: www.brookesann.com/apply

After nearly 20 years behind the chair, Ashley Sweeney has learned that beauty is about so much more than hair. In this heartfelt conversation, Ashley shares how walking through divorce became the catalyst for rebuilding not only her business, but herself. We talk about what it means to create genuine community, why collaboration always wins over competition, learning to receive support, navigating co-parenting, setting healthy boundaries, and finding the courage to build a life that truly reflects who you are. Whether you're navigating a relationship transition, growing a business, or simply trying to reconnect with yourself, this episode is a reminder that you don't have to do it alone. In this episode, we discuss: Why women need other women Collaboration instead of competition Rebuilding after divorce Creating a business that aligns with your life Parenting vs. partnering Learning to ask for what you need Why doing the brave thing leads to the most growth Connect with Ashley: Instagram: @ashleyatstudioa Online Booking: https://www.vagaro.com/ashleyatstudioa If you're ready to stop carrying everything on your own and build a healthier marriage and life, I'd love to support you. Apply to work with me: www.brookesann.com/apply If this episode encouraged you, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another woman who needs the reminder that she doesn't have to do life alone.

What if one sentence could completely change the way you see your marriage? In this episode, Brooke shares a simple but powerful mindset shift that helps you stop focusing on your husband's behavior and start seeing the human underneath it. This isn't about excusing unhealthy behaviors or pretending everything is okay. It's about creating enough compassion to move from criticism and control into curiosity and connection. If you've been feeling frustrated, disconnected, or stuck in the same arguments, this episode will give you a practical tool you can start using today. Ready to take the next step? I'd love to support you inside my coaching program. Apply here: www.brookesann.com/apply Monster Emotion Book 

Episode 71: Repairing the Damage in Marriage Is your marriage repairable? Maybe the better question is: Do you want to repair it? In this episode, Brooke shares why repair doesn't always mean staying together—it starts with healing yourself first. Through stories, practical insight, and a fresh perspective on recurring conflict, you'll learn why repairing your own triggers and emotional wounds is essential, no matter the outcome of your marriage. If you've ever wondered whether your relationship is worth fighting for, this episode will help you explore what repair really looks like.   If your ready to take the next step to identify whether you want to repair your marriage then click HERE to take your next step. 

What if balance isn't about doing everything perfectly? So many high-achieving women feel like they're constantly failing—guilty at work because they think they should be home, and guilty at home because they think they should be working. But what if that feeling isn't coming from your circumstances... it's coming from the story you're telling yourself? In this episode, I'm sharing what balance actually looks like in marriage, motherhood, and business. We'll talk about why balance isn't standing perfectly still—it's learning to trust the back-and-forth, embracing both truths, and finding peace in the tension. Inside this episode, you'll learn: Why guilt keeps women feeling stuck and overwhelmed. The balance beam analogy that completely changed how I view work and family. How to stop believing you're always in the wrong place. Why both your marriage and your business can thrive without chasing perfection. The powerful mindset shift that helps you feel grounded: "I'm right where I need to be." If you've been craving more peace, more presence, and less pressure, this episode will help you redefine what balance really looks like. And if your ready to take everything to the next level join me in my Business Of Marriage program by filling out an application HERE. 

You know what's not working. You know where you're frustrated. You know what feels too tight. You know the patterns you want to break. So why do we stay stuck? In this episode, Brooke shares a simple but powerful lesson she learned while doing laundry: awareness is only the first step. Just like clothes that no longer fit, the beliefs, habits, and relationship patterns that no longer serve us need a system for letting them go. You'll learn Brooke's simple four-step framework for creating real change in your marriage, business, parenting, and everyday life—so you can stop ruminating and start building momentum. If you're tired of collecting self-awareness but struggling to follow through, this episode will help you take the next step. Ready to create a marriage that becomes your greatest business asset? Apply to work with Brooke inside Business of Marriage at www.brookesann.com/apply.

Episode 68: When Everything Comes Undone in Marriage with Lizzie Langston Today is a special episode because I'm welcoming my very first guest to the podcast! (And will continue to have guests around the world every first wednesday of the month wooo!) In this conversation, I sit down with spiritual teacher and guide Lizzie Langston to talk about what happens when life, business, and marriage don't go according to plan. We dive into the seasons that stretch us, challenge us, and ultimately transform us. We talk about: • Why "coming undone" isn't the end—it's often the beginning of something better. • How differences in marriage can strengthen partnership instead of divide it. • Navigating business ownership through financial uncertainty, career changes, and life's unexpected twists. • Learning to trust your body, your intuition, and yourself. • Why your marriage doesn't need perfection—it needs partnership. Whether you're in a season of growth, transition, or rebuilding, this conversation will remind you that you are not behind. Sometimes the strongest marriages are built after everything you thought you knew falls apart. Connect with Lizzie: ✨ Threshold Keepers: https://thresholdkeepers.com ✨ Kitchen & Cosmos on Substack: https://lizzielangston.substack.com If this episode leaves you wanting more than inspiration—if you're ready to create a marriage that becomes your greatest business asset—I would love to support you. Apply for my Business of Marriage coaching program: https://www.brookesann.com/apply

What if the greatest camp you could send your kids to this summer wasn't football camp or tech camp... but Camp Mom? In this episode, I'm sharing what my very first summer home full-time has taught me about motherhood, business, and creating a life that finally feels aligned. I'm talking about the tiny teaching moments we've been missing, why doing everything for our kids leaves everyone overwhelmed, and how building a business around your life—not your life around your business—changes everything. If you've ever felt stretched too thin, guilty that you're missing the moments that matter, or wondered if you can really have a thriving business, a connected marriage, and a home you actually enjoy... this episode is for you. If you're ready to build a business that supports your marriage, your motherhood, and the life you truly desire, I'd love to help. Apply for my Business of Marriage program at www.brookesann.com/apply.

Do you ever feel like summer just happens to you? Between family obligations, traditions, sports schedules, vacations, and trying to keep everyone happy, it's easy to spend the entire summer reacting instead of intentionally creating the season you actually want. In this episode, I'm sharing a simple exercise my husband and I used to create our "Fun Summer List" and why getting specific about what lights you up can completely change your marriage, your family life, and your summer. We'll talk about planning fun first, letting go of outdated traditions, creating more luxury in everyday moments, and why the best summers aren't the most expensive—they're the most intentional. If you're ready for a summer that feels energizing, aligned, and truly yours, this episode is for you. And if you're finding that your emotions are getting the best of you in your marriage, join me for my free workshop, When Feelings Get the Best of You in Marriage, on June 30th at 11:00 AM (EST /  1pm MT / 2 pm PT / 5pm CET).  Ready for deeper support? Applications are open for my Business of Marriage coaching program. Learn more and apply at www.brookesann.com/apply.

We've been taught that being a strong woman is something to be proud of. We hustle, push through, carry the load, and prove that we can handle anything life throws at us. But what if constantly being "the strong one" is actually keeping us from the partnership we crave? In this episode, I'm sharing why vulnerability is often much harder than strength, how control creates distance in marriage, and why so many women find themselves exhausted, resentful, and carrying more than their share. We'll explore the hidden cost of always being capable, the parent-child dynamic that can quietly develop in marriage, and the surprising path back to true partnership. If you've ever found yourself saying, "Fine, I'll just do it myself," this episode is for you. Because the marriage you're longing for doesn't require more strength. It requires more truth, more honesty, and the courage to let yourself be seen.   Join us for a free online workshop When Feelings Get The Best Of You June 30th at 11am EST  Or if your local join us for a funnnnn girls night out Marriage & Mocktails July 18th 7-10pm we are having a buy one get one deal for tickets so bring your bestie!  And as always if you are ready to take it to the next step my Business Of Marriage program is open for registration. You get to work out your specific challenges in your marriage with my full undistracted support, lets go! 

Are you feeling more like your husband's mother than his partner? In this episode, I'm diving into why so many women unintentionally fall into a parent-child dynamic in marriage and how it creates resentment, exhaustion, and disconnection. We'll explore where these patterns come from, why they're so familiar, and most importantly, how to shift into a true partnership where both people feel supported, capable, and valued. If you're tired of carrying the mental load, managing everyone else's life, and feeling like you're doing it all, this episode will help you create a new dynamic—one built on trust, ownership, and connection. And if you're ready to take the next step and create the marriage you truly want, I'd love to chat with you. Apply for my Business of Marriage coaching program at www.brookesann.com/apply.

Do you find yourself saying things like "he never helps," "we're always arguing," or "our marriage is failing"? What if none of those things are actually true? In this episode, we're exploring polarity thinking—the tendency to see life, marriage, and the people we love through a black-and-white lens. Your brain loves labels. Good or bad. Right or wrong. Success or failure. But healthy marriages don't live in extremes. They live in the nuance, the complexity, and the thousands of shades in between. I'll share why your brain defaults to this kind of thinking, how it creates unnecessary suffering in your marriage, and what it looks like to move from certainty into curiosity. We'll talk about the difference between a light switch and a dimmer switch, why two opposite things can be true at the same time, and how embracing complexity can help you feel more connected, compassionate, and at peace. Because your husband is not a label. Your marriage is not a label. And neither are you. If you're ready to stop swinging between "everything is amazing" and "everything is falling apart," this episode will help you find solid ground in the middle.   Come and join us for an online workshop WHEN FEELINGS GET THE BEST OF YOU IN MARRIAGE Tuesday june 30th at 11am. Lets go! Click HERE to register.    Or maybe your ready to finally take the next step to getting the life, the marriage, the business you've dreamed of. Lets set you up for a free consult to see if my 6 month program is the vehicle to getting you there. Lets go! Click HERE to apply for my one on one Business Of Marriage Program. 

This week, I'm sharing a deeply personal milestone: after 19 years behind the chair, I'm officially retiring from the salon and stepping fully into the next chapter of my life and business. Along the way, I've learned some powerful lessons about fear, alignment, work, family, and what it really means to create a life that supports who you are becoming. In this episode, we talk about why so many women feel exhausted, disconnected, and overwhelmed, the courage it takes to follow your own path, and why fear is often a sign that you're doing something bold. I'll also share my unconventional business plan, how I balance work and family, and why I believe you can build a business, marriage, and life that truly lights you up. If you've been craving more freedom, more alignment, and a deeper connection to yourself, your family, and your work, this episode is for you. And if you're ready to take the next step, come join me at Marriage & Mocktails on June 6th, where we'll be diving into boundaries—how to set them and actually follow through on them. Grab your ticket at www.brookesann.com/events. Looking for personalized support to create the marriage, business, and life you truly want? Apply for Business of Marriage, at www.brookesann.com/apply.

This week I'm talking about the messy middle of life — the moments where I question myself, doubt myself, want to give up, and wonder if I'll ever make it to the other side. Through stories about motherhood, marriage, business, nervous system regulation, and even hiking in the Adirondacks with my family, I'm sharing how I've learned to stop abandoning myself when things get hard and instead trust myself enough to keep going. If you've been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or discouraged lately, this episode will remind you that maybe nothing has gone wrong at all — you're simply in the middle of the loop.   Please join us at Marriage & Mocktails June 6 register here: www.brookesann.com/events    or if your ready to take your life to the next level click here to apply to join my transformational program : www.brookesann.com/apply   

Today we're talking about something that feels almost rebellious in today's world… doing less. Less noise. Less multitasking. Less productivity. Less scrolling. Less trying to fix everything. Because maybe the answer to the overwhelm, disconnection, frustration, and exhaustion isn't more. Maybe it's less. In this episode, I'm sharing the shift I've been experiencing in my own life, marriage, motherhood, business, and nervous system as I learn to stop constantly reaching for more information, more distractions, more solutions—and instead come back home to myself. We dive into: Why modern life keeps us disconnected from ourselves The difference between knowing and actually learning How multitasking pulls us out of presence Why intuition is your greatest power source The hidden cost of constant productivity Learning to trust yourself instead of outsourcing your wisdom to everyone else Why calm and connection come from less, not more This episode is an invitation to slow down enough to actually hear yourself again. You do not need more. You need less distractions, less noise, less pressure… and more of YOU.   Come and join us at Marriage & Mocktails an inperson event June 6th 7-10pm. Click here to register $47 early bird pricing! www.brookesann.com/events

Ever feel like you can't fully count on your husband to follow through? Like you ask him to do something… and he forgets. Or does it on his own timeline. Or you find yourself constantly reminding him—and resenting him for it. In this episode, I'm breaking down a real-life listener question that so many women will relate to. But this isn't just about forgotten tasks or unmet expectations. This is about the deeper dynamic happening underneath it all. Because the truth is… your husband isn't broken. He's patterned. And so are you. This episode will challenge you—in the best way. Because your power isn't in getting him to change. It's in how you relate to who he already is. If you've ever thought, "I just wish I could count on him"… this conversation will shift everything.   Come and join us at our Marriage & Mocktails event June 6th www.brookesann.com/events to save your seat! Or maye your ready to take it to the next level and deep dive into having the partnership marriage you really want. Click here to apply to work with me one on one and get everything you want from life www.brookesann.com/apply 

Why does sex feel so complicated in marriage? If you've ever felt like something is wrong with you because you don't want sex as much as your husband…or sex feels stressful, pressured, disconnected, or simply not enjoyable—you are not alone. In this episode, we're having a very honest conversation about intimacy, desire, shame, nervous system regulation, pleasure, trauma, hormones, and the stories women carry around sex. I'm breaking down why you can't "should" yourself into desire, the difference between arousal and desire, how shame quietly kills intimacy, and why pleasure—not obligation—is the goal. We'll also talk about how healthy marriages create space for two whole people with different needs, preferences, and seasons of life to communicate honestly and care for their relationship together. This conversation is empowering, freeing, and deeply honest—and my hope is that it helps you release shame and step into a more connected, pleasurable, and authentic relationship with intimacy.   Come join us at our FREE online workshop Wednesday May 6th 11am EST Stop Feeling Like A Crazy Person In Marriage  Or come join us at our next in person event Marriage & Mocktails Saturday June 6th 7-10pm at The Portal Utica, New York  Or maybe your ready for the NEXT step and want to have a free consult with me, click HERE to apply. Can't wait to chat!

Dysfunction doesn't mean your marriage is failing… it just means the way you're currently relating isn't sustainable or supportive. In this episode, I'm breaking down the difference between functional and dysfunctional marriage—and why so many high-achieving women unknowingly find themselves over-functioning, over-giving, and slowly building resentment. We're talking about: Why you feel like you're doing everything The hidden pattern of parenting your partner How over-functioning creates under-functioning The truth about emotional dependency (and why it feels so exhausting) What a functional marriage actually looks like The foundational skills that create real partnership This episode will help you shift out of control, pressure, and resentment… and into ownership, regulation, and connection. Because a functional marriage isn't about needing each other—it's about two whole people choosing each other. Nothing has gone wrong. You're right where you need to be. And awareness? That's where everything begins. If this episode resonates, share it with a friend who needs to hear it 💛 My friends, I'm having a free online workshop titled, When You Feel Like A Crazy Person In Marriage, click HERE to save your spot for May 6 11am EST  And don't forget to send this episode to a friend! 

We hear "self care" everywhere… but what if most of us are getting it wrong—especially in our marriage? In this episode, I'm sharing a personal story from early motherhood when I was overwhelmed, depleted, and unknowingly asking my husband to take care of me in ways that weren't actually supportive. Because here's the truth: self care isn't the occasional vacation or girls' night—it's the small, daily ways you care for yourself in the middle of your real life. And when you learn how to truly care for yourself—physically, emotionally, and mentally—you stop showing up in your marriage from depletion… and start showing up as a whole, grounded woman. This episode will help you: Rethink what self care actually is Break out of the parent/child dynamic in your marriage Learn how to support yourself without outsourcing your needs Create a more connected, equal partnership If you want a marriage that feels supportive, energizing, and deeply connected… it starts with how you care for you. — If you love what you hear, start with my free Partnership Reset Guide—a gentle place to reconnect with yourself and your marriage. 💗 https://www.brookesann.com/guide Or if you're ready to take the next step and come to my free online workshop May 6 8am PT/9am MT/10am CT/11am ET: Stop Feeling Like A Crazy Person In Marriage sign up HERE

Have you ever stopped and asked yourself… why am I married? Not because you want to leave—but because you're starting to realize… you don't actually need a partner to survive anymore. In today's episode, I'm speaking directly to high-achieving women who are building businesses, raising families, and holding it all together—while quietly questioning the role their marriage plays in their life. We're unpacking: Why modern women feel disconnected in marriage The shift from survival-based marriage to choice-based partnership The "in-between" space where you're not fully in… but not fully out And the powerful reframe that turns marriage into something that actually adds to your life Because marriage isn't about needing someone anymore… It's about choosing someone who expands your life, supports your growth, and stands in your corner. If you've been feeling off, disconnected, or questioning things—this episode will invite you back into clarity, intention, and deeper connection. ✨ And if you're ready to reset your marriage and reconnect to partnership, join me at Marriage & Mocktails—a girls' night out meets marriage workshop experience designed to help you regulate, reconnect, and feel supported again. April 18th 7-10pm register here! www.brookesann.com/events Or if your ready to take it to the next level sign up for a free consult with me at www.brookesann.com/apply  

Do you feel like you're carrying everything in your marriage—the mental load, the emotional weight, the constant responsibility—and wondering why your partner doesn't just step up? In this episode, I'm answering a real question from a listener who feels stuck in the cycle of overthinking, over-functioning, and micromanaging… even when her husband is "helping." We're diving into the deeper truth behind control, resentment, and the nervous system patterns that keep you doing it all. I'll walk you through simple, powerful shifts to help you stop managing everything, create real partnership, and finally feel supported—without needing him to change first. If you're tired of doing it all and ready to experience more connection, ease, and emotional freedom in your marriage… this episode is for you. And join us at Marriage & Mocktails April 18 in Utica, New York. www.brookesann.com/events  or if your ready to jump in. I have a waiting list for June 1 welcoming women into my business of marriage program where we deep dive in so you can let go of you feeling you need to fix it, control it or manage it allllll and instead build true partnership. Ahhhhhhh. www.brookesann.com/apply 

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" data-turn-id= "request-WEB:e547f6cc-01f9-46ea-b233-592e44c0bfee-0" data-testid= "conversation-turn-2" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> How often do you catch yourself saying, "I should be doing more," "I should be a better wife," "I should have it all together"? That quiet, constant pressure isn't motivating you—it's draining you. In this episode, I'm breaking down how "shoulding" yourself is keeping you stuck in cycles of guilt, overwhelm, and disconnection—in your marriage, your business, and your life. And more importantly, I'm showing you what to do instead. We're talking about how to shift out of pressure and into energy… how to create real, sustainable change without forcing or fixing… and how to start showing up in a way that actually feels aligned, powerful, and freeing. If you've been feeling stuck, heavy, or like nothing you do is ever enough—this episode is going to hit home. ✨ It's time to stop shoulding… and start energizing change.     Don't forget about my in person event Marriage & Mocktails April 18th 7-10pm in Utica, New York, only a few seats left! So click here to register:  www.brookesann.com/events   Or maybe your ready to take your life to the next level, click here to apply for my 6 month Business Of Marriage Program: www.brookesann.com/apply   Sending love!

So many women believe they have to divide themselves between their business, their marriage, their kids, and their personal life — constantly trying to "balance" separate areas of life. But that belief is exactly what leads to burnout. In this episode, I share a simple story from my life on our little homestead that perfectly illustrates what burnout actually looks like: carrying a heavy five-gallon bucket with a crack in the bottom. You keep pouring in effort, time, and energy… but it keeps leaking out. Inside this conversation, we explore: • Why burnout isn't about doing too much — it's about energy leaks • The hidden "should" thoughts that quietly drain your life • Why your marriage is actually a mirror for your inner world • The truth about building a business without sacrificing your relationship • And the mindset shift that allows your marriage and business to fuel each other instead of compete The secret to running a successful business without burning out your marriage is simple: When you pour into one, you're pouring into both. Your marriage isn't separate from your success — it's the foundation of it. Come join me in person at Marriage & Mocktails its girls night out meets therapy. Its going to be fun and it will sell out fast! www.brookesann.com/events Or if your ready to take your marriage to the next level I would be honored to walk with you, come fill out a free application to see if we are a good fit. I'll be opening up coaching June 1. So spots will fill up quick! https://www.brookesann.com/apply  

What do you do when it feels like your husband doesn't help with anything? In this episode, I'm unpacking one of the most common frustrations I hear from women: feeling like they're carrying everything in the marriage, home, and family while their partner seems disconnected or uninvolved. But what if the dynamic isn't as simple as "he won't help"? What if there's a deeper pattern at play? Today, I'm sharing a powerful perspective on masculine and feminine energy, why resentment builds when we take on too much, and how partnering with yourself first can completely change the way your partner shows up in the relationship. If you've ever thought: "Why do I have to do everything?" "Why doesn't he step up?" "How do I get more support in my marriage?" This episode will help you understand the hidden dynamics behind those questions—and what you can do to shift them. Don't forget about our in-person event Marriage & Mocktails in Utica, NY—an evening designed for women who want happier marriages and calmer homes. We'll be talking about emotional regulation, connection, and practical tools you can use in your family right away.   and dont forget your partnership reset guide here

How do you support the people you love… without losing yourself in the process? In this episode, I'm unpacking a concept that has been blowing my mind lately — inspired by Mel Robbins' "Let Them" theory — and showing you how it applies to real life: teenage drivers, overwhelmed toddlers, stressed-out husbands, and even your own dysregulated moments. The truth is, we cannot show up calm, loving, and wise for our families if we are abandoning ourselves. The most powerful question you can ask yourself is: What do I need right now? When you learn to take care of your emotional, physical, and spiritual needs first, you create safety — and from that place, you can truly help. This episode will help you stop boomeranging between control and collapse… and start walking parallel with the people you love. And don't forget — my upcoming FREE webinar, The Truth About Boundaries: So You Can Love Your Partner More, CLICK HERE TO REGISTER You're going to love this one. 💛 📅 Wednesday, March 11, 2026 🕛 12:00 PM Eastern (11:00 AM Central | 10:00 AM Mountain | 9:00 AM Pacific)

What if nothing is wrong with your marriage… even when it feels hard? In this episode, I'm sharing a deeply personal story that sparked a powerful realization — that marriage isn't happening to you, it's happening for you or on you. We explore how shifting this single belief can move you from feeling stuck, powerless, or frustrated… into clarity, growth, and emotional freedom. I'll walk you through a simple perspective framework inspired by the Map of Consciousness, showing how emotions like shame, fear, and anger can actually be stepping stones toward courage, love, and peace. You'll learn why challenges in marriage aren't signs something is broken — they're invitations to evolve. If you've ever wondered whether your relationship is helping you grow or holding you back, this episode will help you see your marriage — and yourself — in a completely new way. ✨ You'll walk away feeling more grounded, more hopeful, and knowing your next small step forward.   Check out the Map of Conciousness HERE   And sign up for your FREE consult HERE, No stress, no expectations. Just come and talk to me! Join me and so many others who are ready to change their marriage, build their dream business that supports their dream life!

So many women feel overwhelmed, stretched thin, and stuck managing everything — their home, their marriage, their kids, their business — without realizing they're already living inside systems they didn't consciously create. In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the invisible systems running your life and showing you how to redesign them so they support you instead of exhaust you. I'm sharing real-life examples from my home, my marriage, and my business (including a moment when my family's systems carried everything while I was sick in bed!) to show you what's possible when you invest time into creating rhythms that run without you micromanaging every detail. We'll talk about: How systems create freedom, not restriction Why consistency + flexibility is the real secret How to reclaim your time (your most valuable currency) Ways to simplify your business, home, and marriage If you've ever wished life felt lighter, calmer, and more supported — this episode will open your eyes to what's already working and inspire you to build systems that help you live more and manage less. Listen, I have four spots open for one on one coaching, If you've been listening for a while you know that I'm genuinely here to help you have the marriage, business and life you've always dreamed of.... if you're ready fill out an application. Click HERE. I can't wait to see you!

Money doesn't just live in your bank account — it lives in your body, your nervous system, and your relationship. In this episode, we're unpacking what to do when money feels tight… that heavy, restricted, "we can't catch up" feeling that quietly creates tension in your marriage and pressure in your life. I'm sharing real stories (including how my husband and I made more money than we ever imagined… and still felt paycheck-to-paycheck) to show you why it's not the amount of money that determines your experience — it's your money identity. We'll explore scarcity vs. abundance, the "identity ceiling" that keeps pulling you back to what feels familiar, and how to start expanding your capacity to hold more — financially, emotionally, and relationally. You'll also learn a simple practice to shift from panic and pressure into space and possibility — because when you can settle your body into safety, you can get creative, problem-solve, and build a life that feels lighter (even before anything changes on paper). Enrollment is open for my six-month program Business of Marriage (4 spots left). If you're ready to transform your marriage into your greatest business asset, apply at brookesann.com and we'll hop on a consult — no pushiness, just a real conversation. And if you haven't already recieved my Partnership Reset Guide, grab that HERE. I'll even mail a copy right to your house! 

In today's episode, I'm sharing something a little unconventional but deeply personal — how I've learned to turn dread into delight, especially in the dark, heavy winter months here in upstate New York. This episode isn't about pretending winter is easy or positive. It's about validating what's real while also opening our eyes to tiny "micro moments" of joy and presence that already exist in our everyday lives. This is an invitation to slow down, soften, and notice what's already here. To expand your awareness beyond what feels hard and make space for joy alongside it. If you're in a season that feels heavy — winter, motherhood, grief, burnout, or transition — this episode will help you reconnect to presence, peace, and the beauty hidden in ordinary moments. If you are ready to rewrite some of your stories, check out my FREE Partnership Reset Guide HERE>     

In today's episode, I walk you through my Partnership Reset Guide as if you were sitting with me in a private coaching session. This episode is for the woman who feels like she's doing everything — running a business, managing the home, carrying the emotional load, and holding it all together while quietly feeling overwhelmed, resentful, or disconnected. I share how I use this guide to: regulate my nervous system instead of reacting from stress, identify the invisible load I've been carrying, release control and perfectionism, create space for true partnership in my marriage and life, and shift the beliefs that keep me stuck in "one-woman show" mode. This episode is not about fixing your husband or adding more to your to-do list. It's about coming back home to yourself, trusting what you want, and remembering that partnership is possible for you. If you're a woman building a business and a family and longing for more balance, support, and peace, this episode is your reset button. And don't forget to join me for my free Fix Your Feelings Marriage Workshop on February 4th, where I'll be teaching you my simple, powerful emotional processing tool—live. Link is HERE.  (*And I will send you the replay if you can't miss it live, but be sure to register above!)

What would it look like to be a balanced woman? Not more productive. Not more successful. Not thinner, richer, or busier. But emotionally balanced. Nervous-system regulated. Grounded in your body. Connected to yourself, your marriage, and your life. In today's episode, I'm unpacking what balance actually looks like for women—especially women business owners who are tired of hustling through their feelings, controlling everything around them, and living in a constant state of stress. We talk about emotional regulation, nervous system balance, masculine and feminine energy, hormones, seasonal rhythms, motherhood, and why "fix-it mode" is often the very thing creating disconnection in our marriages and families. I share a real-life moment from my own kitchen that perfectly illustrates how emotional imbalance shows up, why it happens, and what to do instead. We explore how learning to feel—rather than fix—is the missing link between emotional health, hormonal balance, partnership in marriage, and sustainable success in business.     If you've ever felt like you're doing all the things but still feel off… this episode is for you. And don't forget to join me for my free Fix Your Feelings Marriage Workshop on February 4th, where I'll be teaching you my simple, powerful emotional processing tool—live. Link is HERE.  (*And I will send you the replay if you can't miss it live, but be sure to register above!)       And grab your partnership reset guide HERE> 

In this episode, I'm talking about hustle culture—where it comes from, why it's so deeply ingrained in women business owners, and why it's no longer working for us. I share my own story of trading time, energy, and my physical body for money, and how that way of working eventually stopped aligning with the life I wanted to live. I walk you through what it really looks like to stop building a business from lack and scarcity and instead create from presence, intuition, and self-trust. We talk about redefining success, releasing the belief of "not enough," and learning how to work less, make more, and feel more content in your day-to-day life. This episode is an invitation to slow down, reconnect with your body and your values, and start building your business around the lifestyle you desire—so your business supports your life, not the other way around.   Don't miss our free webinar February 4th at 11am EST Fix Your Feelings: The Marriage Workshop for Hot Mess Women Business leaders. Click the link HERE to register today. Don't worry just come on no video, just watch, and jump in on the chat. You will get REALLLLL time tools and skills to help you so you stop feeling like emotions are running your life!    And if you are feeling like you are carrying it ALLLL as a business owner, wife and mother start with my free partnership reset guide HERE. 

In today's conversation, I'm unpacking what real balance actually looks like in marriage and business, and why it has nothing to do with time management, perfect schedules, or splitting things 50/50. We'll talk about: Why imbalance shows up when women override their emotions and step into constant "doing" The powerful (and often forgotten) role vulnerability plays in restoring partnership How emotional awareness—not control—is the catalyst that shifts everything Why balance is a feeling, not a formula How flexibility, presence, and self-trust create freedom in both marriage and business This episode is an invitation to stop fighting yourself, stop proving, and stop carrying it all alone. When you learn to listen to your emotions and honor your inner knowing, balance returns—without forcing change, fixing your partner, or burning your life down to start over. Nothing has gone wrong. You're right where you're supposed to be. Get your free PARTNERSHIP RESET GUIDE HERE. 

We're in that strange space between Christmas and New Year's — where cookies count as breakfast, the kids don't know what day it is, and everything feels just a little… off. The holidays are beautiful and full and magical — and also wildly dysregulating for our nervous systems. Today, I'm sharing a very real behind-the-scenes glimpse of the piles, the decisions, the returns, the batteries, the mess… and the reminder that what we truly crave isn't more stuff — it's grounding, ease, and freedom. We're talking about the difference between routines and rituals — not what you have to do, but what genuinely supports you and your future self. How the simplest daily rhythms can help you feel aligned again — even when life is loud and the schedule is out the window. If this week feels weird, you are not alone. This episode is your invitation to zoom out, reflect on what feels off, and gently return to what matters most. Let's regulate together. Let's create space again. Let's build a life that feels good in our bodies — no matter the season. Press play for a deep breath, a good laugh, and a whole lot of permission to just be. 💛✨   Get your free PARTNERSHIP RESET GUIDE here. 

As the year winds down, so many of us feel the pressure to set big goals, make sweeping resolutions, and "fix" ourselves before January arrives. In this episode, I invite you to pause, soften, and take a different approach. Instead of hustling toward change from a place of pressure or self-criticism, we explore how to reflect on the past year with honesty and compassion, reconnect with your why, and listen to what truly resonates for you—not what society, social media, or "experts" say you should want. I share personal stories about my own relationship with goal-setting, why traditional resolutions never worked for me, and how shifting from goals to intentions—especially choosing a single word for the year—has completely transformed how I create change in my life, marriage, and business. We'll talk about: Why wanting something to "feel better about yourself" is often depleting How building self-trust and capacity changes what you're able to receive Using winter and nature's rhythms as a guide for rest, reflection, and renewal A powerful dreaming exercise to uncover what you actually want Why one intentional word can be more impactful than pages of goals This episode is an invitation to slow down, turn inward, and approach the new year feeling grounded, aligned, and open—trusting yourself as your own compass.   Get your free PARTNERSHIP RESET GUIDE here. 

In today's episode, we're talking about disappointment, birthdays, Christmas, and the pressure so many of us feel to make celebrations perfect. I'm sharing a very real story from my husband's birthday and unpacking why we often tie our worth, safety, and sense of being loved to how other people experience us. This is a conversation about cutting the cords, calling your power back, and redefining what it really means to celebrate the people you love — without guilt, fear, or overfunctioning. If this episode resonates and you're feeling tired of carrying so much in your relationship, I created a free Partnership Reset Guide to support you. It's a gentle place to slow down, release emotional and mental overload, and reconnect to support and partnership. You can download the free guide at brookesann.com.

In this heartfelt episode, I open up about one of the greatest gifts I've learned to offer my husband: holding belief for him when he forgets who he is. I share a tender moment from my own marriage—lying in bed beside a husband who felt overwhelmed, stuck, and unsure—and the powerful shift that happened when I chose belief over judgment, presence over fixing. Through stories from youth sports, grief, and late–night tears, I show what it has looked like for me to be a quiet, steady companion instead of a rescuer. I talk about the viral "Hemingway" quote on human connection, why simple presence can be so healing, and how witnessing someone's pain can be more transformative than any advice. Then I dive into the "meat and potatoes": how my thoughts become my beliefs why I can change what I believe about my husband, my marriage, and myself what cognitive dissonance feels like (and why it can make me feel torn in two) how I intentionally choose beliefs that serve me and strengthen my relationship This episode is my invitation to you to reclaim your own power—to build belief in your husband and marriage without needing him to change first. If you've ever felt stuck in old stories about your partner or longed to feel like true teammates again, this conversation will remind you that love, belief, and quiet human connection can lift you both.

Whether it's the loss of a parent, a friend, a sibling, a child, a pet, or even grief brought on by world events—heartbreak will make an appearance in your relationship. And when it does, most of us realize we were never taught how to move through it, let alone how to move through it as a couple. I share openly about the very raw, recent loss of one of my husband's closest college friends, what it stirred up in our home, and how differently the two of us process pain. You'll hear honest stories, half-baked thoughts in real time, and the tools I lean on from my training, my past experiences, and the women I work with. Inside this episode, we talk about: 🕊️ Understanding "overs" (overworking, overeating, over-scrolling) as coping mechanisms 🕊️ What co-regulation truly looks like between partners 🕊️ The courage required to rise through the emotional levels of healing 🕊️ Learning to see grief as part of your human evolution and marital growth My hope is to shine light into places that feel dark and lonely, and to give you tools that help you feel grounded, empowered, and more connected—to yourself, and to your partner—when life asks you to walk through loss. This conversation is tender, imperfect, raw, and real. I'm so honored to share it with you.   If your interested in seeing David Hawkins map of conciousness, you can view that HERE.    👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

In this week's episode, we explore one of the most common pain points I see in relationships: "My husband is always off doing his hobbies… and we have nothing in common." I walk you through why you don't need shared hobbies to feel deeply connected, loved, and aligned—and why forcing yourself into interests that aren't authentic never creates real closeness. Instead, we look at how shared values, not shared activities, are what actually hold a relationship together. Through personal stories, relatable examples, and a gentle reframing of resentment, balance, and individuality, you'll learn: Why your partner's hobbies matter to him Why it's okay if you don't enjoy the same things How to uncover the values underneath the activities How to restore balance when things feel uneven How to connect deeply without changing yourself—or him If you've ever felt pressure to join in on your husband's hobbies, wondered whether you "should" participate in what he loves, or worried that your differences mean something is wrong, this episode will help you breathe easier and see your marriage in a whole new way.

In today's episode, we explore the surprising connection between math and creating a thriving marriage, business, and personal life. Using the classic order of operations (P.E.M.D.A.S.) as a metaphor, we break down the sequence of steps that lead to clarity, connection, and real success—starting with you. Just like in algebra, you can't skip steps and expect the right outcome. We talk about why caring for yourself first is essential, how your thoughts act as exponents that amplify everything, why regulating your energy matters, and how healthy communication becomes possible only after tending to your inner world. When you follow this sequence, you show up grounded, confident, and fully present—both at home and in your business. Success isn't about racing to the "final answer." It's about slowing down, honoring each step, and trusting yourself along the way. When you do the inner work in the right order, everything aligns. Your marriage becomes your greatest business asset, and you expand your capacity to impact the world around you.

In this deeply honest and heartfelt episode, we explore what it truly means to love and accept all parts of ourselves—the light and the dark. Using powerful stories from everyday life, pop culture, and personal experience, this reflection reminds us that true connection begins with radical self-honesty. When we shine light on our hidden parts—our shame, our imperfections—we create space for healing, deeper love, and real transformation in our marriages, families, and communities. We can't fully love others until we learn to love all of ourselves. Ignoring our "dark sides" only allows them to grow; healing starts by facing them. Shame thrives in secrecy—honesty and compassion dissolve it. True connection in marriage begins when we turn inward before turning outward. Loving ourselves unconditionally allows us to see goodness and humanity in everyone around us. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

 Today's show is a little messier than usual. A lot of tears, so let this be your warning, but we are talking about the catalyst of change in your marriage, using vulnerability to absolutely transform you and your marriage and your business. Learning how to lean into what you're currently feeling without trying to change circumstances, without trying to find solutions. Learning how to be okay, not being okay.

 If you're in a marriage that feels like me versus him, most of the time this is gonna be a podcast episode that you are going to love. We're gonna break down why that is, where that came from, and how to get out of it. Learning how to keep the best interest of the collective mind and learning how to shift from friend to foe in your marriage. ✨ If you love what you hear on this show and are tired of being the partner that does everything in your marriage, then begin with taking my free Spice of Wife Quiz and get the partnership marriage you've dreamed of so you can scale your business with the husband you have.  💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

What would change in your marriage if you became your husband's biggest fan? In this heartfelt episode, Brooke dives deep into what it means to truly be your partner's ally — not out of obligation, but from a place of love, connection, and emotional strength. Through her personal story of those early cabin years in the Adirondacks, she explores how genuine support can transform not only your relationship but also your sense of self. You'll walk away with: 💞 A new perspective on what marriage allyship really looks like in daily life 🧩 Tools to rebuild connection and emotional safety when you've felt unseen or unsupported 💬 Awareness of how over-relying on parents or friends can unintentionally weaken your partnership 🌱 Steps to become your spouse's biggest encourager — without losing yourself in the process Disclaimer: If you're feeling resentment, anger, or emotional exhaustion in your relationship, Brooke recommends starting with Episode 13: "Emotional Whiplash in Your Marriage (and How to Get Out)" before diving into this conversation. ✨ If you love what you hear on this show and are tired of being the partner that does everything in your marriage, then begin with taking my free Spice of Wife Quiz and get the partnership marriage you've dreamed of so you can scale your business with the husband you have.  💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

Last week, we talked about intimacy — and this week, we're exploring another corner of marriage we don't talk about enough: humor, fun, and spontaneity. What happens when laughter disappears from your relationship or your business starts to feel heavy, rigid, and joyless? In this heartfelt and honest episode, we will dive into how our inability to play, laugh, and be silly is a reflection of what's happening inside of us. I share personal stories (including one very startled moose and a mischievous toddler!) and offer gentle, practical ways to reconnect with your inner child, regulate your nervous system, and bring a sense of lightness and creativity back into your marriage, your work, and your life. You'll walk away reminded that play isn't something we earn after the work is done — it's how we heal, connect, and truly live. ✨ If you love what you hear on this show and are tired of being the partner that does everything in your marriage, then begin with taking my free Spice of Wife Quiz and get the partnership marriage you've dreamed of so you can scale your business with the husband you have.  💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

In this raw and honest episode, I open up about a topic most people avoid — sex and intimacy. We are going to explore how your physical and emotional connection with your partner directly impacts your energy, your nervous system, and even your business. Drawing from my 15 years of marriage, motherhood, and entrepreneurship, I dive into why so many women feel "too tired," what's really underneath that exhaustion, and how emotional safety is the foundation for genuine connection and pleasure. You'll Learn: Why emotional exhaustion often shows up as physical tiredness How intimacy (or the lack of it) affects your confidence and creativity The hidden ways avoidance drains your energy and relationships Why feeling safe in your body is essential before you can feel pleasure How redefining sex can reignite both your marriage and your purpose ✨ If you love what you hear on this show and are tired of being the partner that does everything in your marriage, then begin with taking my free Spice of Wife Quiz and get the partnership marriage you've dreamed of so you can scale your business with the husband you have.  💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

Today we're talking about something that I think so many of us struggle with but rarely pause to reflect on: how we're prioritizing our lives. Too often, we put everything and everyone ahead of ourselves — our kids before our own needs, our work before our families, our husbands before our dreams. But what if the real answer isn't about rearranging the order of the to-do list… but about building inner safety and trust in yourself first? In this episode, I'm going to share a story that changed how I see this, plus give you step-by-step tools to start creating that inner trust so you can finally feel supported, connected, and free in both your marriage and your business. Let's dive in!" ✨ If you love what you hear on this show and are tired of being the partner that does everything in your marriage, then begin with taking my free Spice of Wife Quiz and get the partnership marriage you've dreamed of so you can scale your business with the husband you have.  💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

This week we're exploring the art of preserving relationships—and why your marriage might just be the most valuable investment you'll ever make. Drawing from homesteading lessons, a basement full of applesauce, and the longest-running study on happiness, this episode offers practical insight and real encouragement for women entrepreneurs who want deeper connection at home and stronger results in business. What you'll learn in this episode: Why the Harvard Study of Adult Development proves relationships are the key to happiness How your marriage acts as your greatest business asset The U-shaped curve of marriage satisfaction—and what to expect in different seasons Simple ways to regulate your nervous system so you can reconnect with your spouse ✨ If you love what you hear on this show and are tired of being the partner that does everything in your marriage, then begin with taking my free Spice of Wife Quiz and get the partnership marriage you've dreamed of so you can scale your business with the husband you have.  💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

Are you rushing through your days at 5x speed — spinning, hustling, and feeling like nothing's really changing? In this episode, I'm unpacking: The real difference between productivity and frantic energy Why urgency is a clue to what you really want How frantic energy impacts your marriage and your business Practical steps to pause, regulate, and reconnect with what matters most This is the real work — learning how to shift from frantic hustle into grounded presence so you can create the connection, success, and freedom you crave. ✨ If you love what you hear on this show and are tired of being the partner that does everything in your marriage, then begin with taking my free Spice of Wife Quiz and get the partnership marriage you've dreamed of so you can scale your business with the husband you have.  💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com