Spice Of Wife

Why does sex feel so complicated in marriage? If you've ever felt like something is wrong with you because you don't want sex as much as your husband…or sex feels stressful, pressured, disconnected, or simply not enjoyable—you are not alone. In this episode, we're having a very honest conversation about intimacy, desire, shame, nervous system regulation, pleasure, trauma, hormones, and the stories women carry around sex. I'm breaking down why you can't "should" yourself into desire, the difference between arousal and desire, how shame quietly kills intimacy, and why pleasure—not obligation—is the goal. We'll also talk about how healthy marriages create space for two whole people with different needs, preferences, and seasons of life to communicate honestly and care for their relationship together. This conversation is empowering, freeing, and deeply honest—and my hope is that it helps you release shame and step into a more connected, pleasurable, and authentic relationship with intimacy.   Come join us at our FREE online workshop Wednesday May 6th 11am EST Stop Feeling Like A Crazy Person In Marriage  Or come join us at our next in person event Marriage & Mocktails Saturday June 6th 7-10pm at The Portal Utica, New York  Or maybe your ready for the NEXT step and want to have a free consult with me, click HERE to apply. Can't wait to chat!

Dysfunction doesn't mean your marriage is failing… it just means the way you're currently relating isn't sustainable or supportive. In this episode, I'm breaking down the difference between functional and dysfunctional marriage—and why so many high-achieving women unknowingly find themselves over-functioning, over-giving, and slowly building resentment. We're talking about: Why you feel like you're doing everything The hidden pattern of parenting your partner How over-functioning creates under-functioning The truth about emotional dependency (and why it feels so exhausting) What a functional marriage actually looks like The foundational skills that create real partnership This episode will help you shift out of control, pressure, and resentment… and into ownership, regulation, and connection. Because a functional marriage isn't about needing each other—it's about two whole people choosing each other. Nothing has gone wrong. You're right where you need to be. And awareness? That's where everything begins. If this episode resonates, share it with a friend who needs to hear it 💛 My friends, I'm having a free online workshop titled, When You Feel Like A Crazy Person In Marriage, click HERE to save your spot for May 6 11am EST  And don't forget to send this episode to a friend! 

We hear "self care" everywhere… but what if most of us are getting it wrong—especially in our marriage? In this episode, I'm sharing a personal story from early motherhood when I was overwhelmed, depleted, and unknowingly asking my husband to take care of me in ways that weren't actually supportive. Because here's the truth: self care isn't the occasional vacation or girls' night—it's the small, daily ways you care for yourself in the middle of your real life. And when you learn how to truly care for yourself—physically, emotionally, and mentally—you stop showing up in your marriage from depletion… and start showing up as a whole, grounded woman. This episode will help you: Rethink what self care actually is Break out of the parent/child dynamic in your marriage Learn how to support yourself without outsourcing your needs Create a more connected, equal partnership If you want a marriage that feels supportive, energizing, and deeply connected… it starts with how you care for you. — If you love what you hear, start with my free Partnership Reset Guide—a gentle place to reconnect with yourself and your marriage. 💗 https://www.brookesann.com/guide Or if you're ready to take the next step and come to my free online workshop May 6 8am PT/9am MT/10am CT/11am ET: Stop Feeling Like A Crazy Person In Marriage sign up HERE

Have you ever stopped and asked yourself… why am I married? Not because you want to leave—but because you're starting to realize… you don't actually need a partner to survive anymore. In today's episode, I'm speaking directly to high-achieving women who are building businesses, raising families, and holding it all together—while quietly questioning the role their marriage plays in their life. We're unpacking: Why modern women feel disconnected in marriage The shift from survival-based marriage to choice-based partnership The "in-between" space where you're not fully in… but not fully out And the powerful reframe that turns marriage into something that actually adds to your life Because marriage isn't about needing someone anymore… It's about choosing someone who expands your life, supports your growth, and stands in your corner. If you've been feeling off, disconnected, or questioning things—this episode will invite you back into clarity, intention, and deeper connection. ✨ And if you're ready to reset your marriage and reconnect to partnership, join me at Marriage & Mocktails—a girls' night out meets marriage workshop experience designed to help you regulate, reconnect, and feel supported again. April 18th 7-10pm register here! www.brookesann.com/events Or if your ready to take it to the next level sign up for a free consult with me at www.brookesann.com/apply  

Do you feel like you're carrying everything in your marriage—the mental load, the emotional weight, the constant responsibility—and wondering why your partner doesn't just step up? In this episode, I'm answering a real question from a listener who feels stuck in the cycle of overthinking, over-functioning, and micromanaging… even when her husband is "helping." We're diving into the deeper truth behind control, resentment, and the nervous system patterns that keep you doing it all. I'll walk you through simple, powerful shifts to help you stop managing everything, create real partnership, and finally feel supported—without needing him to change first. If you're tired of doing it all and ready to experience more connection, ease, and emotional freedom in your marriage… this episode is for you. And join us at Marriage & Mocktails April 18 in Utica, New York. www.brookesann.com/events  or if your ready to jump in. I have a waiting list for June 1 welcoming women into my business of marriage program where we deep dive in so you can let go of you feeling you need to fix it, control it or manage it allllll and instead build true partnership. Ahhhhhhh. www.brookesann.com/apply 

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So many women believe they have to divide themselves between their business, their marriage, their kids, and their personal life — constantly trying to "balance" separate areas of life. But that belief is exactly what leads to burnout. In this episode, I share a simple story from my life on our little homestead that perfectly illustrates what burnout actually looks like: carrying a heavy five-gallon bucket with a crack in the bottom. You keep pouring in effort, time, and energy… but it keeps leaking out. Inside this conversation, we explore: • Why burnout isn't about doing too much — it's about energy leaks • The hidden "should" thoughts that quietly drain your life • Why your marriage is actually a mirror for your inner world • The truth about building a business without sacrificing your relationship • And the mindset shift that allows your marriage and business to fuel each other instead of compete The secret to running a successful business without burning out your marriage is simple: When you pour into one, you're pouring into both. Your marriage isn't separate from your success — it's the foundation of it. Come join me in person at Marriage & Mocktails its girls night out meets therapy. Its going to be fun and it will sell out fast! www.brookesann.com/events Or if your ready to take your marriage to the next level I would be honored to walk with you, come fill out a free application to see if we are a good fit. I'll be opening up coaching June 1. So spots will fill up quick! https://www.brookesann.com/apply  

What do you do when it feels like your husband doesn't help with anything? In this episode, I'm unpacking one of the most common frustrations I hear from women: feeling like they're carrying everything in the marriage, home, and family while their partner seems disconnected or uninvolved. But what if the dynamic isn't as simple as "he won't help"? What if there's a deeper pattern at play? Today, I'm sharing a powerful perspective on masculine and feminine energy, why resentment builds when we take on too much, and how partnering with yourself first can completely change the way your partner shows up in the relationship. If you've ever thought: "Why do I have to do everything?" "Why doesn't he step up?" "How do I get more support in my marriage?" This episode will help you understand the hidden dynamics behind those questions—and what you can do to shift them. Don't forget about our in-person event Marriage & Mocktails in Utica, NY—an evening designed for women who want happier marriages and calmer homes. We'll be talking about emotional regulation, connection, and practical tools you can use in your family right away.   and dont forget your partnership reset guide here

How do you support the people you love… without losing yourself in the process? In this episode, I'm unpacking a concept that has been blowing my mind lately — inspired by Mel Robbins' "Let Them" theory — and showing you how it applies to real life: teenage drivers, overwhelmed toddlers, stressed-out husbands, and even your own dysregulated moments. The truth is, we cannot show up calm, loving, and wise for our families if we are abandoning ourselves. The most powerful question you can ask yourself is: What do I need right now? When you learn to take care of your emotional, physical, and spiritual needs first, you create safety — and from that place, you can truly help. This episode will help you stop boomeranging between control and collapse… and start walking parallel with the people you love. And don't forget — my upcoming FREE webinar, The Truth About Boundaries: So You Can Love Your Partner More, CLICK HERE TO REGISTER You're going to love this one. 💛 📅 Wednesday, March 11, 2026 🕛 12:00 PM Eastern (11:00 AM Central | 10:00 AM Mountain | 9:00 AM Pacific)

What if nothing is wrong with your marriage… even when it feels hard? In this episode, I'm sharing a deeply personal story that sparked a powerful realization — that marriage isn't happening to you, it's happening for you or on you. We explore how shifting this single belief can move you from feeling stuck, powerless, or frustrated… into clarity, growth, and emotional freedom. I'll walk you through a simple perspective framework inspired by the Map of Consciousness, showing how emotions like shame, fear, and anger can actually be stepping stones toward courage, love, and peace. You'll learn why challenges in marriage aren't signs something is broken — they're invitations to evolve. If you've ever wondered whether your relationship is helping you grow or holding you back, this episode will help you see your marriage — and yourself — in a completely new way. ✨ You'll walk away feeling more grounded, more hopeful, and knowing your next small step forward.   Check out the Map of Conciousness HERE   And sign up for your FREE consult HERE, No stress, no expectations. Just come and talk to me! Join me and so many others who are ready to change their marriage, build their dream business that supports their dream life!

So many women feel overwhelmed, stretched thin, and stuck managing everything — their home, their marriage, their kids, their business — without realizing they're already living inside systems they didn't consciously create. In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the invisible systems running your life and showing you how to redesign them so they support you instead of exhaust you. I'm sharing real-life examples from my home, my marriage, and my business (including a moment when my family's systems carried everything while I was sick in bed!) to show you what's possible when you invest time into creating rhythms that run without you micromanaging every detail. We'll talk about: How systems create freedom, not restriction Why consistency + flexibility is the real secret How to reclaim your time (your most valuable currency) Ways to simplify your business, home, and marriage If you've ever wished life felt lighter, calmer, and more supported — this episode will open your eyes to what's already working and inspire you to build systems that help you live more and manage less. Listen, I have four spots open for one on one coaching, If you've been listening for a while you know that I'm genuinely here to help you have the marriage, business and life you've always dreamed of.... if you're ready fill out an application. Click HERE. I can't wait to see you!

Money doesn't just live in your bank account — it lives in your body, your nervous system, and your relationship. In this episode, we're unpacking what to do when money feels tight… that heavy, restricted, "we can't catch up" feeling that quietly creates tension in your marriage and pressure in your life. I'm sharing real stories (including how my husband and I made more money than we ever imagined… and still felt paycheck-to-paycheck) to show you why it's not the amount of money that determines your experience — it's your money identity. We'll explore scarcity vs. abundance, the "identity ceiling" that keeps pulling you back to what feels familiar, and how to start expanding your capacity to hold more — financially, emotionally, and relationally. You'll also learn a simple practice to shift from panic and pressure into space and possibility — because when you can settle your body into safety, you can get creative, problem-solve, and build a life that feels lighter (even before anything changes on paper). Enrollment is open for my six-month program Business of Marriage (4 spots left). If you're ready to transform your marriage into your greatest business asset, apply at brookesann.com and we'll hop on a consult — no pushiness, just a real conversation. And if you haven't already recieved my Partnership Reset Guide, grab that HERE. I'll even mail a copy right to your house! 

In today's episode, I'm sharing something a little unconventional but deeply personal — how I've learned to turn dread into delight, especially in the dark, heavy winter months here in upstate New York. This episode isn't about pretending winter is easy or positive. It's about validating what's real while also opening our eyes to tiny "micro moments" of joy and presence that already exist in our everyday lives. This is an invitation to slow down, soften, and notice what's already here. To expand your awareness beyond what feels hard and make space for joy alongside it. If you're in a season that feels heavy — winter, motherhood, grief, burnout, or transition — this episode will help you reconnect to presence, peace, and the beauty hidden in ordinary moments. If you are ready to rewrite some of your stories, check out my FREE Partnership Reset Guide HERE>     

In today's episode, I walk you through my Partnership Reset Guide as if you were sitting with me in a private coaching session. This episode is for the woman who feels like she's doing everything — running a business, managing the home, carrying the emotional load, and holding it all together while quietly feeling overwhelmed, resentful, or disconnected. I share how I use this guide to: regulate my nervous system instead of reacting from stress, identify the invisible load I've been carrying, release control and perfectionism, create space for true partnership in my marriage and life, and shift the beliefs that keep me stuck in "one-woman show" mode. This episode is not about fixing your husband or adding more to your to-do list. It's about coming back home to yourself, trusting what you want, and remembering that partnership is possible for you. If you're a woman building a business and a family and longing for more balance, support, and peace, this episode is your reset button. And don't forget to join me for my free Fix Your Feelings Marriage Workshop on February 4th, where I'll be teaching you my simple, powerful emotional processing tool—live. Link is HERE.  (*And I will send you the replay if you can't miss it live, but be sure to register above!)

What would it look like to be a balanced woman? Not more productive. Not more successful. Not thinner, richer, or busier. But emotionally balanced. Nervous-system regulated. Grounded in your body. Connected to yourself, your marriage, and your life. In today's episode, I'm unpacking what balance actually looks like for women—especially women business owners who are tired of hustling through their feelings, controlling everything around them, and living in a constant state of stress. We talk about emotional regulation, nervous system balance, masculine and feminine energy, hormones, seasonal rhythms, motherhood, and why "fix-it mode" is often the very thing creating disconnection in our marriages and families. I share a real-life moment from my own kitchen that perfectly illustrates how emotional imbalance shows up, why it happens, and what to do instead. We explore how learning to feel—rather than fix—is the missing link between emotional health, hormonal balance, partnership in marriage, and sustainable success in business.     If you've ever felt like you're doing all the things but still feel off… this episode is for you. And don't forget to join me for my free Fix Your Feelings Marriage Workshop on February 4th, where I'll be teaching you my simple, powerful emotional processing tool—live. Link is HERE.  (*And I will send you the replay if you can't miss it live, but be sure to register above!)       And grab your partnership reset guide HERE> 

In this episode, I'm talking about hustle culture—where it comes from, why it's so deeply ingrained in women business owners, and why it's no longer working for us. I share my own story of trading time, energy, and my physical body for money, and how that way of working eventually stopped aligning with the life I wanted to live. I walk you through what it really looks like to stop building a business from lack and scarcity and instead create from presence, intuition, and self-trust. We talk about redefining success, releasing the belief of "not enough," and learning how to work less, make more, and feel more content in your day-to-day life. This episode is an invitation to slow down, reconnect with your body and your values, and start building your business around the lifestyle you desire—so your business supports your life, not the other way around.   Don't miss our free webinar February 4th at 11am EST Fix Your Feelings: The Marriage Workshop for Hot Mess Women Business leaders. Click the link HERE to register today. Don't worry just come on no video, just watch, and jump in on the chat. You will get REALLLLL time tools and skills to help you so you stop feeling like emotions are running your life!    And if you are feeling like you are carrying it ALLLL as a business owner, wife and mother start with my free partnership reset guide HERE. 

In today's conversation, I'm unpacking what real balance actually looks like in marriage and business, and why it has nothing to do with time management, perfect schedules, or splitting things 50/50. We'll talk about: Why imbalance shows up when women override their emotions and step into constant "doing" The powerful (and often forgotten) role vulnerability plays in restoring partnership How emotional awareness—not control—is the catalyst that shifts everything Why balance is a feeling, not a formula How flexibility, presence, and self-trust create freedom in both marriage and business This episode is an invitation to stop fighting yourself, stop proving, and stop carrying it all alone. When you learn to listen to your emotions and honor your inner knowing, balance returns—without forcing change, fixing your partner, or burning your life down to start over. Nothing has gone wrong. You're right where you're supposed to be. Get your free PARTNERSHIP RESET GUIDE HERE. 

We're in that strange space between Christmas and New Year's — where cookies count as breakfast, the kids don't know what day it is, and everything feels just a little… off. The holidays are beautiful and full and magical — and also wildly dysregulating for our nervous systems. Today, I'm sharing a very real behind-the-scenes glimpse of the piles, the decisions, the returns, the batteries, the mess… and the reminder that what we truly crave isn't more stuff — it's grounding, ease, and freedom. We're talking about the difference between routines and rituals — not what you have to do, but what genuinely supports you and your future self. How the simplest daily rhythms can help you feel aligned again — even when life is loud and the schedule is out the window. If this week feels weird, you are not alone. This episode is your invitation to zoom out, reflect on what feels off, and gently return to what matters most. Let's regulate together. Let's create space again. Let's build a life that feels good in our bodies — no matter the season. Press play for a deep breath, a good laugh, and a whole lot of permission to just be. 💛✨   Get your free PARTNERSHIP RESET GUIDE here. 

As the year winds down, so many of us feel the pressure to set big goals, make sweeping resolutions, and "fix" ourselves before January arrives. In this episode, I invite you to pause, soften, and take a different approach. Instead of hustling toward change from a place of pressure or self-criticism, we explore how to reflect on the past year with honesty and compassion, reconnect with your why, and listen to what truly resonates for you—not what society, social media, or "experts" say you should want. I share personal stories about my own relationship with goal-setting, why traditional resolutions never worked for me, and how shifting from goals to intentions—especially choosing a single word for the year—has completely transformed how I create change in my life, marriage, and business. We'll talk about: Why wanting something to "feel better about yourself" is often depleting How building self-trust and capacity changes what you're able to receive Using winter and nature's rhythms as a guide for rest, reflection, and renewal A powerful dreaming exercise to uncover what you actually want Why one intentional word can be more impactful than pages of goals This episode is an invitation to slow down, turn inward, and approach the new year feeling grounded, aligned, and open—trusting yourself as your own compass.   Get your free PARTNERSHIP RESET GUIDE here. 

In today's episode, we're talking about disappointment, birthdays, Christmas, and the pressure so many of us feel to make celebrations perfect. I'm sharing a very real story from my husband's birthday and unpacking why we often tie our worth, safety, and sense of being loved to how other people experience us. This is a conversation about cutting the cords, calling your power back, and redefining what it really means to celebrate the people you love — without guilt, fear, or overfunctioning. If this episode resonates and you're feeling tired of carrying so much in your relationship, I created a free Partnership Reset Guide to support you. It's a gentle place to slow down, release emotional and mental overload, and reconnect to support and partnership. You can download the free guide at brookesann.com.

In this heartfelt episode, I open up about one of the greatest gifts I've learned to offer my husband: holding belief for him when he forgets who he is. I share a tender moment from my own marriage—lying in bed beside a husband who felt overwhelmed, stuck, and unsure—and the powerful shift that happened when I chose belief over judgment, presence over fixing. Through stories from youth sports, grief, and late–night tears, I show what it has looked like for me to be a quiet, steady companion instead of a rescuer. I talk about the viral "Hemingway" quote on human connection, why simple presence can be so healing, and how witnessing someone's pain can be more transformative than any advice. Then I dive into the "meat and potatoes": how my thoughts become my beliefs why I can change what I believe about my husband, my marriage, and myself what cognitive dissonance feels like (and why it can make me feel torn in two) how I intentionally choose beliefs that serve me and strengthen my relationship This episode is my invitation to you to reclaim your own power—to build belief in your husband and marriage without needing him to change first. If you've ever felt stuck in old stories about your partner or longed to feel like true teammates again, this conversation will remind you that love, belief, and quiet human connection can lift you both.

Whether it's the loss of a parent, a friend, a sibling, a child, a pet, or even grief brought on by world events—heartbreak will make an appearance in your relationship. And when it does, most of us realize we were never taught how to move through it, let alone how to move through it as a couple. I share openly about the very raw, recent loss of one of my husband's closest college friends, what it stirred up in our home, and how differently the two of us process pain. You'll hear honest stories, half-baked thoughts in real time, and the tools I lean on from my training, my past experiences, and the women I work with. Inside this episode, we talk about: 🕊️ Understanding "overs" (overworking, overeating, over-scrolling) as coping mechanisms 🕊️ What co-regulation truly looks like between partners 🕊️ The courage required to rise through the emotional levels of healing 🕊️ Learning to see grief as part of your human evolution and marital growth My hope is to shine light into places that feel dark and lonely, and to give you tools that help you feel grounded, empowered, and more connected—to yourself, and to your partner—when life asks you to walk through loss. This conversation is tender, imperfect, raw, and real. I'm so honored to share it with you.   If your interested in seeing David Hawkins map of conciousness, you can view that HERE.    👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

In this week's episode, we explore one of the most common pain points I see in relationships: "My husband is always off doing his hobbies… and we have nothing in common." I walk you through why you don't need shared hobbies to feel deeply connected, loved, and aligned—and why forcing yourself into interests that aren't authentic never creates real closeness. Instead, we look at how shared values, not shared activities, are what actually hold a relationship together. Through personal stories, relatable examples, and a gentle reframing of resentment, balance, and individuality, you'll learn: Why your partner's hobbies matter to him Why it's okay if you don't enjoy the same things How to uncover the values underneath the activities How to restore balance when things feel uneven How to connect deeply without changing yourself—or him If you've ever felt pressure to join in on your husband's hobbies, wondered whether you "should" participate in what he loves, or worried that your differences mean something is wrong, this episode will help you breathe easier and see your marriage in a whole new way.

In today's episode, we explore the surprising connection between math and creating a thriving marriage, business, and personal life. Using the classic order of operations (P.E.M.D.A.S.) as a metaphor, we break down the sequence of steps that lead to clarity, connection, and real success—starting with you. Just like in algebra, you can't skip steps and expect the right outcome. We talk about why caring for yourself first is essential, how your thoughts act as exponents that amplify everything, why regulating your energy matters, and how healthy communication becomes possible only after tending to your inner world. When you follow this sequence, you show up grounded, confident, and fully present—both at home and in your business. Success isn't about racing to the "final answer." It's about slowing down, honoring each step, and trusting yourself along the way. When you do the inner work in the right order, everything aligns. Your marriage becomes your greatest business asset, and you expand your capacity to impact the world around you.

In this deeply honest and heartfelt episode, we explore what it truly means to love and accept all parts of ourselves—the light and the dark. Using powerful stories from everyday life, pop culture, and personal experience, this reflection reminds us that true connection begins with radical self-honesty. When we shine light on our hidden parts—our shame, our imperfections—we create space for healing, deeper love, and real transformation in our marriages, families, and communities. We can't fully love others until we learn to love all of ourselves. Ignoring our "dark sides" only allows them to grow; healing starts by facing them. Shame thrives in secrecy—honesty and compassion dissolve it. True connection in marriage begins when we turn inward before turning outward. Loving ourselves unconditionally allows us to see goodness and humanity in everyone around us. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

 Today's show is a little messier than usual. A lot of tears, so let this be your warning, but we are talking about the catalyst of change in your marriage, using vulnerability to absolutely transform you and your marriage and your business. Learning how to lean into what you're currently feeling without trying to change circumstances, without trying to find solutions. Learning how to be okay, not being okay.

 If you're in a marriage that feels like me versus him, most of the time this is gonna be a podcast episode that you are going to love. We're gonna break down why that is, where that came from, and how to get out of it. Learning how to keep the best interest of the collective mind and learning how to shift from friend to foe in your marriage. ✨ If you love what you hear on this show and are tired of being the partner that does everything in your marriage, then begin with taking my free Spice of Wife Quiz and get the partnership marriage you've dreamed of so you can scale your business with the husband you have.  💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

What would change in your marriage if you became your husband's biggest fan? In this heartfelt episode, Brooke dives deep into what it means to truly be your partner's ally — not out of obligation, but from a place of love, connection, and emotional strength. Through her personal story of those early cabin years in the Adirondacks, she explores how genuine support can transform not only your relationship but also your sense of self. You'll walk away with: 💞 A new perspective on what marriage allyship really looks like in daily life 🧩 Tools to rebuild connection and emotional safety when you've felt unseen or unsupported 💬 Awareness of how over-relying on parents or friends can unintentionally weaken your partnership 🌱 Steps to become your spouse's biggest encourager — without losing yourself in the process Disclaimer: If you're feeling resentment, anger, or emotional exhaustion in your relationship, Brooke recommends starting with Episode 13: "Emotional Whiplash in Your Marriage (and How to Get Out)" before diving into this conversation. ✨ If you love what you hear on this show and are tired of being the partner that does everything in your marriage, then begin with taking my free Spice of Wife Quiz and get the partnership marriage you've dreamed of so you can scale your business with the husband you have.  💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

Last week, we talked about intimacy — and this week, we're exploring another corner of marriage we don't talk about enough: humor, fun, and spontaneity. What happens when laughter disappears from your relationship or your business starts to feel heavy, rigid, and joyless? In this heartfelt and honest episode, we will dive into how our inability to play, laugh, and be silly is a reflection of what's happening inside of us. I share personal stories (including one very startled moose and a mischievous toddler!) and offer gentle, practical ways to reconnect with your inner child, regulate your nervous system, and bring a sense of lightness and creativity back into your marriage, your work, and your life. You'll walk away reminded that play isn't something we earn after the work is done — it's how we heal, connect, and truly live. ✨ If you love what you hear on this show and are tired of being the partner that does everything in your marriage, then begin with taking my free Spice of Wife Quiz and get the partnership marriage you've dreamed of so you can scale your business with the husband you have.  💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

In this raw and honest episode, I open up about a topic most people avoid — sex and intimacy. We are going to explore how your physical and emotional connection with your partner directly impacts your energy, your nervous system, and even your business. Drawing from my 15 years of marriage, motherhood, and entrepreneurship, I dive into why so many women feel "too tired," what's really underneath that exhaustion, and how emotional safety is the foundation for genuine connection and pleasure. You'll Learn: Why emotional exhaustion often shows up as physical tiredness How intimacy (or the lack of it) affects your confidence and creativity The hidden ways avoidance drains your energy and relationships Why feeling safe in your body is essential before you can feel pleasure How redefining sex can reignite both your marriage and your purpose ✨ If you love what you hear on this show and are tired of being the partner that does everything in your marriage, then begin with taking my free Spice of Wife Quiz and get the partnership marriage you've dreamed of so you can scale your business with the husband you have.  💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

Today we're talking about something that I think so many of us struggle with but rarely pause to reflect on: how we're prioritizing our lives. Too often, we put everything and everyone ahead of ourselves — our kids before our own needs, our work before our families, our husbands before our dreams. But what if the real answer isn't about rearranging the order of the to-do list… but about building inner safety and trust in yourself first? In this episode, I'm going to share a story that changed how I see this, plus give you step-by-step tools to start creating that inner trust so you can finally feel supported, connected, and free in both your marriage and your business. Let's dive in!" ✨ If you love what you hear on this show and are tired of being the partner that does everything in your marriage, then begin with taking my free Spice of Wife Quiz and get the partnership marriage you've dreamed of so you can scale your business with the husband you have.  💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

This week we're exploring the art of preserving relationships—and why your marriage might just be the most valuable investment you'll ever make. Drawing from homesteading lessons, a basement full of applesauce, and the longest-running study on happiness, this episode offers practical insight and real encouragement for women entrepreneurs who want deeper connection at home and stronger results in business. What you'll learn in this episode: Why the Harvard Study of Adult Development proves relationships are the key to happiness How your marriage acts as your greatest business asset The U-shaped curve of marriage satisfaction—and what to expect in different seasons Simple ways to regulate your nervous system so you can reconnect with your spouse ✨ If you love what you hear on this show and are tired of being the partner that does everything in your marriage, then begin with taking my free Spice of Wife Quiz and get the partnership marriage you've dreamed of so you can scale your business with the husband you have.  💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

Are you rushing through your days at 5x speed — spinning, hustling, and feeling like nothing's really changing? In this episode, I'm unpacking: The real difference between productivity and frantic energy Why urgency is a clue to what you really want How frantic energy impacts your marriage and your business Practical steps to pause, regulate, and reconnect with what matters most This is the real work — learning how to shift from frantic hustle into grounded presence so you can create the connection, success, and freedom you crave. ✨ If you love what you hear on this show and are tired of being the partner that does everything in your marriage, then begin with taking my free Spice of Wife Quiz and get the partnership marriage you've dreamed of so you can scale your business with the husband you have.  💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife. www.brookesann.com

Running a business while managing home, family, and marriage can feel like a never-ending cycle of stress and overwhelm. You're carrying the weight of it all, and it feels like there's no partnership at home. But here's the truth: your marriage can be your greatest business asset. Today, I'll share real stories, uncover why so much of your energy gets drained before you even sit down to work, and reveal the missing piece that transforms resentment into connection. You'll learn how to redirect your mental energy, build inner safety, and create a partnership that allows both your marriage and your business to thrive. If you've been feeling unsupported, stretched thin, or guilty that your business isn't growing the way you want—it's time to see things differently. ✨ Want to discover what your unique flavor of feminine energy is—and how to use it to reignite connection in your relationship? Take my free Spice of Wife Quiz and uncover your personal path to intimacy, joy, and flow. 💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.   www.brookesann.com

What if your marriage is less about the highlight reel and more about the micro-moments you repeat every day? In this episode, we will reframe partnership through the lens of training for a marathon: the finish line matters, but it's the hundreds of small, intentional choices that get you there. From color-coding calendars to scheduling joy on purpose, you'll learn how to align your hours with the future you want—without waiting for a trip, an anniversary, or "someday." Listen in for a gentle call-out, a loving permission slip to change what isn't working, and a practical way to measure genuine, enjoyable time together. ✨ Want to discover what your unique flavor of feminine energy is—and how to use it to reignite connection in your relationship? Take my free Spice of Wife Quiz and uncover your personal path to intimacy, joy, and flow. 💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.   www.brookesann.com

In this heartfelt and transformative episode, we explore what it means to truly know, love, and align with every version of yourself — past, present, and future. From tender reflections on hard seasons to empowering daily rituals, you'll discover how understanding your own desires and direction creates clarity, energy, and a sense of grounded purpose. And in the end, you'll see how this alignment ripples outward, transforming not just your daily life but also your closest relationships and your marriage. The surprising power of connecting with your past, present, and future self. Daily rituals that honor and care for your future self with kindness. How alignment creates momentum and clarity in every decision. Why knowing your desires transforms your relationships and marriage. Stories and insights to help you step into your most loving, authentic self. ✨ Want to discover what your unique flavor of feminine energy is—and how to use it to reignite connection in your relationship? Take my free Spice of Wife Quiz and uncover your personal path to intimacy, joy, and flow. 💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.   www.brookesann.com

In this episode, we unpack one of the most common but overlooked parts of marriage and relationships: how we respond when we're triggered. Whether it's fight, flight, freeze, or fawn, our knee-jerk reactions often lead to shame, guilt, or disconnection. Through real-life stories (yes, including my kids and my husband!) and practical coaching insight, I'll walk you through a simple but transformative practice: pausing, self-reflecting, and choosing to show up as your highest, most loving self. You'll learn how to move from reaction to intention, break old patterns, and create more connection in your marriage. This is an episode you'll want to come back to again and again. Whether you've been married a year or decades, this episode will help you stop pressing replay and start creating the beautiful, dynamic, connected relationship you've always wanted. ✨ Want to discover what your unique flavor of feminine energy is—and how to use it to reignite connection in your relationship? Take my free Spice of Wife Quiz and uncover your personal path to intimacy, joy, and flow. 💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.   www.brookesann.com

Do you ever feel like your marriage is stuck on repeat? You keep having the same fight, hitting the same roadblocks, and feeling the same frustrations — no matter how much you want things to change. In this episode, we uncover the real reason that happens and what it takes to finally break free. We'll talk about: Why our brains carve deep "neural pathways" that keep us stuck in old patterns The role of your higher brain vs. your lower brain in your relationship dynamics Why simply "acting differently" without changing your beliefs never works The power of creating new thoughts to unlock new results How to step into discomfort to build a marriage that feels expansive and alive The "same song" metaphor that will change the way you see your fights forever Whether you've been married a year or decades, this episode will help you stop pressing replay and start creating the beautiful, dynamic, connected relationship you've always wanted. ✨ Want to discover what your unique flavor of feminine energy is—and how to use it to reignite connection in your relationship? Take my free Spice of Wife Quiz and uncover your personal path to intimacy, joy, and flow. 💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.   www.brookesann.com

This episode is a raw, unfiltered reflection on what men truly want—and how understanding their core desires can shift the dynamic in your relationship and home. In this episode: The primal roles men are wired to fulfill Why men need to feel needed (and what happens when they don't) How women unknowingly carry too much masculine energy The difference between the hero's journey and the heroine's journey How to begin healing your feminine energy What balance really looks like in a modern partnership This is for every woman who's ever wondered, "Why do I feel like I'm doing everything?" Let's zoom out and look at the bigger picture—together. ✨ Want to discover what your unique flavor of feminine energy is—and how to use it to reignite connection in your relationship? Take my free Spice of Wife Quiz and uncover your personal path to intimacy, joy, and flow. 💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.

Can you believe I've gone this long without doing a whole episode on boundaries? Today we're diving all the way in — not just what boundaries are, but how so many of us are using them in ways that actually push love away instead of letting it grow. You'll hear me talk about three types of boundaries: No boundaries (where resentment builds and we feel powerless), Boundaries of isolation (where we shut people out to feel safe), and Healthy bubble boundaries — my favorite — where we create just enough space to feel safe and deeply connected. I'll also share my favorite metaphor for boundaries: the human body. Just like your digestive system and circulatory system are separate but work together, a marriage thrives when each person honors their own needs and nervous system without blending or controlling the other. If you've ever said, "I just had to set a boundary," but still felt angry or frustrated afterward — this episode is for you. I'll teach you how to set boundaries that help you feel grounded, more in love with yourself, and actually closer to your husband — not further apart. This is one of the most powerful tools we have in marriage — and when we use it from a place of self-love, it changes everything.

In today's episode, we dive into the emotional baggage we all carry — childhood wounds, unhealed trauma, unresolved feelings — and how they impact our relationships, especially our marriage. I open up about a moment this past weekend where I felt overwhelmed and triggered, and how I chose to pause, go inward, and process what I was feeling in my body rather than react. We'll explore how emotional reactivity stems from unhealed wounds, why grounding ourselves is essential before vulnerability, and how to create an "emotional pause ritual" that brings us back to ourselves. You'll learn: How to identify your emotional triggers and the physical sensations behind them Why pausing before reacting is a core part of healing How vulnerability — rooted in self-awareness — can rebuild connection in marriage The balance of masculine and feminine energy in a relationship Why self-ownership is the path to wholeness and relational peace Your healing is your responsibility — but it has a ripple effect. The greatest gift you can give your marriage is your grounded, whole self. Let's talk about how to get there. ✨ Want to discover what your unique flavor of feminine energy is—and how to use it to reignite connection in your relationship? Take my free Spice of Wife Quiz and uncover your personal path to intimacy, joy, and flow. 💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.

Maybe your marriage feels like it's stuck on the surface. Like you're just business partners—doing your roles, getting through the week—but missing that deep, soulful connection you truly crave. You might even wish your husband would show up differently… help more, say more, do more. But no matter what changes, the connection still feels flat. Will it always feel like this? Or is there a way to reignite that passion and purpose without needing him to change? In this episode, we're diving into exactly how to create a deep, soulful connection in your marriage—even if he stays exactly the same. I'm sharing a powerful moment that shifted everything for me (involving hair, sneezing, and a surprising wave of love), and we'll uncover what's really blocking the intimacy you're longing for.   ✨ Want to discover what your unique flavor of feminine energy is—and how to use it to reignite connection in your relationship? Take my free Spice of Wife Quiz and uncover your personal path to intimacy, joy, and flow. 💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.

Maybe it's true he's not supporting you the way you want. Maybe it's true your marriage isn't what you pictured. But every time you try to change reality, you create your own suffering. In this episode, I unpack why acceptance is not giving up, but the gateway to peace, clarity, and genuine love in your marriage. You'll learn how leaning into what is can transform the way you show up as a wife—without needing your partner to change first. ✨ Want to discover what your unique flavor of feminine energy is—and how to use it to reignite connection in your relationship? Take my free Spice of Wife Quiz and uncover your personal path to intimacy, joy, and flow. 💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.

In today's episode, I unpack why not feeling loved back can feel like agony in your marriage—and how to shift into a place of abundance without needing your husband to change. Learn why letting him love you his way can transform your connection, how to stop waiting for love, and how to become deeply grounded and secure in your marriage again. ✨ Want to discover what your unique flavor of feminine energy is—and how to use it to reignite connection in your relationship? Take my free Spice of Wife Quiz and uncover your personal path to intimacy, joy, and flow. 💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.

Feeling overwhelmed, overfunctioning, or like you're constantly in "fix-it" mode in your marriage and everywhere else for that matter? In this episode, we explore 3 powerful ways to shift from control to connection—realigning with your feminine energy, softening your nervous system, and learning to create without pressure to produce. This is your invitation to slow down, tune in, and return to who you really are. Doing so will create WILD RADICAL connection in your marriage. (without needing your husband to change)    ✨ Want to discover what your unique flavor of feminine energy is—and how to use it to reignite connection in your relationship? Take my free Spice of Wife Quiz and uncover your personal path to intimacy, joy, and flow. 💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! Spice of Wife Quiz You will learn how to feel soul-full connection without needing to change your husband. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.

Do you bounce between feeling totally in love and totally over it? One moment you're connected and laughing, the next you're wondering if your marriage will make it? That exhausting back-and-forth is what I call emotional whiplash — and it's more common than you think. In this episode, I unpack why so many of us get stuck in the extremes of marriage, how black-and-white thinking keeps us suffering, and what it really takes to break free. We'll talk about nervous system regulation, reclaiming your emotional power, and how to stop reacting and start consciously creating the relationship you truly want. This is for the wife who's tired of the all-or-nothing rollercoaster and is ready to find peace, clarity, and connection in the messy middle. ✨Ready to stop overthinking and start understanding? Take the Spice of Wife Quiz to discover your unique wife style and what's actually going on beneath the surface of your marriage. 💫 It's fun. It's free. It's freakishly accurate. 👇 Click the link and take the quiz now! If you are wanting to spice things up in your own marriage, take my free Spice Of Wife Quiz:  https://www.brookesann.com/ You will learn how to let go of resentment and instead learn to love your man fiercely or love yourself enough to leave. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.

In this episode of The Spice of Wife Podcast, we dive into the truth about fighting in marriage — not all conflict is bad, but how we fight matters. I share a real, raw story of a couple on the brink and breaks down what made their fights destructive vs. what ultimately helped them reconnect. Learn why avoiding fights can be more dangerous than having them, how to tell when you're in a "high emotion, low logic" state, and what it means to fight fair with love, regulation, and self-awareness. You'll Walk Away With: How to recognize useful vs. unhelpful fighting The 4 Spice of Wife types and how they show up in conflict The role of dysregulation in recurring arguments How to identify what's really driving your fights (it's not about the dishes) Simple tools to self-regulate before engaging in conflict A new perspective on fighting as a path to connection, not division If you are wanting to spice things up in your own marriage, take my free Spice Of Wife Quiz:  https://www.brookesann.com/ You will learn how to let go of resentment and instead learn to love your man fiercely or love yourself enough to leave. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.

In today's episode, we explore one of the most powerful — and uncomfortable — truths in marriage: What we avoid doesn't go away. It grows. Whether it's mismatched sex drives, money conflicts, broken trust, or parenting tension, there's often a part of your marriage you've quietly decided to tiptoe around. It seems safer. Less disruptive. But over time, that "unspoken space" starts to take up more emotional real estate — leaving you tired, resentful, and disconnected. Join me as I share: A personal story about public speaking and "dark corners" in the crowd What bees and their wildflower dance can teach us about communication The real reason you're exhausted (hint: it's not just your to-do list) A 3-step framework to help you Feel, Face, and Flourish How to shift from suffering to growth — even if the conversation is hard You'll walk away with a deeper belief that: Avoidance is not peace — it's quiet suffering Facing what scares you creates more connection Emotional energy is worth spending… when it leads to freedom This is your invitation to stop managing your marriage and start flourishing in it — by going into the dark places that need light. If you are wanting to spice things up in your own marriage, take my free Spice Of Wife Quiz:  https://www.brookesann.com/ You will learn how to let go of resentment and instead learn to love your man fiercely or love yourself enough to leave. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.

This week, we're getting brutally honest about something that quietly erodes connection, intimacy, and self-worth: comparison. Whether you're sizing up your husband, your marriage, or your entire life next to someone else's, comparison never leads where you think it will. It doesn't make you happier, more grateful, or more connected. It makes you doubt yourself, push harder, or pull away. In this powerful and personal episode, you'll hear: How comparison shows up in marriage (and motherhood) in sneaky ways Why your brain turns to comparison as a survival strategy The two traps of comparison: wanting and lacking Why comparison is a waste of your emotional energy Five practical ways to shift from comparison into connection A powerful reframe that will change how you see your worth forever And how to fall back in love with your weird, wonderful, one-of-a-kind marriage Let this be your permission slip to stop measuring, stop proving, and start loving what is. If you are wanting to spice things up in your own marriage, take my free Spice Of Wife Quiz:  https://www.brookesann.com/ You will learn how to let go of resentment and instead learn to love your man fiercely or love yourself enough to leave. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.

In this powerful episode, we dive deep into a truth many high-achieving, take-charge women face in their marriages: control feels safe—until it doesn't. If you've ever found yourself doing it all, feeling overwhelmed, and silently resenting your partner for not "stepping up," this one's for you. Through a heartfelt client story and raw personal reflection, we explore how control becomes a coping mechanism rooted in fear, not freedom—and how it's often the very thing blocking the intimacy, connection, and partnership we crave. You'll learn how to: Recognize when control is hurting your relationship Understand the real reason you're stuck in "doing it all" Shift from resentment to vulnerability Build trust in yourself, your partner, and the present moment If you're ready to move from gatekeeping to grounding, from stress to surrender—this episode will speak to your heart. If you are wanting to spice things up in your own marriage, take my free Spice Of Wife Quiz:  https://www.brookesann.com/ You will learn how to let go of resentment and instead learn to love your man fiercely or love yourself enough to leave. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.