Stuck in My Head with Chris King

In this episode, Chris and Alison explore how the different “parts” of our personality influence the choices we make. Through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS), they talk about learning to recognize the motives behind our actions and understanding the parts of ourselves that show up in difficult moments.They also reflect on the importance of self-compassion, because while we all make mistakes, they don't define who we are.

Loneliness isn’t always about being alone. Sometimes it can exist even in the middle of relationships.In this episode, Chris and Alison explore the growing loneliness epidemic and the surprising ways it shows up in our lives. They unpack how it’s possible to feel more alone in a relationship than when you’re single, and why meaningful connection requires more than simply being around other people.They also discuss the challenges of making friendships as adults, the importance of shared interests in building connection, and why learning to turn toward others instead of away can make a powerful difference when someone is feeling lonely.

In this episode, Chris and Alison talk about the role relationships play in mental health and suicide prevention. They explore how to recognize signs of distress, why asking hard questions matters, and how honest conversations can create space for healing. Chris also reads an excerpt from his new book!

In this Episode, Chris and Alison share insights on adolescent mental health, the importance of relational attention, and navigating the challenges of parenting teenagers. They explore the nuances of therapy, the impact of attention, and practical ways to support youth through difficult times.

We often get caught in our own thoughts. We replay conversations, question ourselves, and search for answers that never seem to come. In this episode, Chris and Alison explore what it means to be “stuck in your head.” They talk about how mental loops form, how childhood experiences and loneliness can shape the way we think, and why acceptance and vulnerability play such an important role in emotional well-being. They also share practical ways to interrupt overthinking, including mindfulness, breathing, and simple techniques for defusing negative thoughts.

We spend a lot of time thinking about how life should be, and not enough time facing how it actually is.In this episode, Chris and Alison explore the tension between “what is” and “what ought to be,” and how living in that gap can leave us feeling stuck, frustrated, and helpless. They talk about why accepting reality is the starting point for change, how “shoulds” and “oughts” can keep us stuck, and what it looks like to take small, honest steps forward.They also reflect on relationships, growth, and why knowing where you are matters more than where you think you should be.Because you can’t move forward until you know where you are.

Most of us don’t think about where to go for mental health help until we actually need it. This week, Chris and Alison sit down with Michael McClendon to talk about how to find the right kind of support. This includes the differences between psychiatry and psychology, how to navigate your options when you’re feeling stuck, and why sometimes it takes a “test drive” with a therapist to find the right fit. They also reflect on what it means to get unstuck, and why taking the first step toward help matters more than getting it perfect.

Trust is essential to every relationship, but we often misunderstand how it actually works.In this episode, Chris and Alison explore how trust grows through truly knowing and understanding our partners. They talk about faking shared interests or being passive to connect, why that rarely builds real trust, and how honesty, curiosity, humility, and patience create stronger relationships.

In this episode of Stuck in My Head, Chris and Alison sit down with Greg Taylor to explore a question many parents are quietly asking: What does it actually mean to raise resilient, healthy kids in an anxious age?Together, they reflect on shared experiences and belonging, the Parable of the Prodigal Son and its picture of wastefully extravagant love, and the difference between parenting with humility and parenting from fear. They talk about breaking generational cycles, resisting formulaic approaches, phone dependence, and why avoiding pain might be hurting our kids more than helping them.When we choose love over control and connection over performance, we create space for children to become fully human.

Your inner critic knows exactly what to say. It can sound like truth. It can sound like protection. But often, it’s something else entirely. In this week’s episode of Stuck in My Head, Alison and Chris sit down for an Ask the Expert conversation with Brianna Wilson, LPC candidate at GPS Therapies, to explore the inner critic— what it is, why it forms, and how we can begin to relate to it differently.And stay tuned for next week’s Ask the Expert episode with Greg Taylor! We will focus on raising resilient kids and how we can support strength and confidence in the next generation. 

In this episode of Stuck in My Head, Chris and Alison explore a deceptively simple but deeply revealing question: What do people most misunderstand about you?This question invites us to slow down and consider the gap between who we are and how we’re perceived— and how that gap shapes our relationships. Chris and Alison talk about why feeling misunderstood can be so painful, why we often protect the parts of ourselves we most want others to see, and how meaningful relationships require intention, curiosity, and effort.When we create space for honesty and orientation, we make room for deeper connection, empathy, and trust.Listen now, and consider the question for yourself—and the people closest to you. 

“Are you really just tired… or is something deeper going on?”For a long time, I told myself I was just tired. Just busy. Just in a season.It’s amazing how faithfully our bodies carry what our hearts are holding. And how often we try to power through instead of pausing long enough to listen.In this episode, we talk about the difference between ordinary exhaustion and something deeper like burnout — and why naming it can feel scary. But there’s also relief in honesty. There’s gentleness in saying, “This is where I am right now.”Healing doesn’t start with having it all figured out. It starts with paying attention. With responding to yourself with compassion instead of criticism. And sometimes, with letting someone walk alongside you.You’re not weak for feeling overwhelmed. You’re human.Join us for this conversation — and come back next week as we explore the question:“What do people misunderstand most about you?”#MentalHealthMatters #SelfCompassion #RelationalHealing #ItsOkNotToBeOk #StuckInMyHead

We’re back with a brand-new season of Stuck in My Head!This season, we’re focusing on relationships and orientation—how we make sense of where we are, what we’ve experienced, and where we’re going, especially when life takes unexpected turns.In this episode, we meet Rory Robinson! Through Maggie's birth story, we explore what it means to lose your bearings in a moment that’s supposed to be joyful, and how re-orienting yourself after trauma is often a relational process, not a solo one.This conversation sets the stage for the season ahead: honest, grounded, and centered on the ways connection helps us heal and move forward.Listen now, and stay tuned for new episodes coming in the new year as we continue exploring relationships, orientation, and the stories that shape us.

In Part 2 of our conversation on orientation, Alison and Chris are joined by Dr. Greg Robinson for a deeper dive into what it means to find our place in the world, internally and externally.Orientation is more than just knowing where you are on a map. In therapy and mental health, it’s about understanding how we relate to the people, experiences, and beliefs that shape our lives. When our "life map" gets blown up by change, loss, or trauma, it can be hard to know which way is forward.Greg brings his thoughtful perspective to this layered conversation about how orientation helps us recalibrate, re-center, and start moving again, even when we feel lost.Tune in wherever you get your podcasts, and don’t forget to catch Part 1 if you missed it!#StuckInMyHead #MentalHealth #Orientation #Podcast #GregRobinson #SelfAwareness #HealingJourney #EmotionalHealth

In this special episode of Stuck in My Head, Alison flips the script and interviews Chris about the concept of orientation.In therapy, orientation means knowing where you are— emotionally, relationally, spiritually. It’s how we make sense of our experiences and begin to move forward. When life doesn’t look the way we thought it would, the gap between what is and what ought to be can create deep pain. Orientation helps us face that gap with clarity and compassion.Stay tuned for part two!

In this episode, Chris and Alison sit down with psychiatrist Dr. Natalie Vassar for a candid and "curious" conversation about ADHD, mental health meds, and what it means to grow and adapt. With warmth and expertise, Dr. Vassar shares insights from years of clinical experience—and as someone who genuinely loves her work, she brings a deep appreciation for listening to people’s stories and helping them thrive. Whether you’ve been navigating ADHD for years or you’re just beginning to wonder if it’s part of your story, this one’s for you.

In this episode of Stuck in My Head, Chris and Alison sit down with Dr. Lisa Cromer—clinical psychologist, professor, and researcher whose work centers on resilience, sleep, and historical trauma. From the science of nightmares to simple strategies for better sleep, this conversation dives into why sleep matters more than we think. #SleepScience #MentalHealthMatters #HistoricalTrauma #StuckInMyHeadPod #WellBeing #ResilienceResearch #SleepTips

This week, Alison and Chris sit down with Chase Counts, LPC, founder of Peak Counseling in Tulsa, for a powerful conversation about parts work in therapy—an approach that helps us recognize and relate to the many different “parts” of ourselves.If you’ve ever seen the movie Inside Out, you’ve already met the idea: joy, sadness, anger, fear—all with a seat at the table. From self-critics to protectors to the parts of us that just want to be seen, Chase breaks down how getting to know these internal dynamics can bring clarity, compassion, and healing.This episode is a thoughtful and accessible look at the ways we make sense of ourselves—and how honoring our inner world can transform the way we show up in life.More about "Parts Work" from Chase: Parts work is a compassionate, non-pathological approach to therapy that views all thoughts, feelings, and behaviors as coming from different “parts” within us—each with its own perspective and purpose. Rather than labeling these parts as problems or symptoms, parts work helps individuals understand and heal internal conflicts by building curiosity, connection, and self-leadership. It honors the wholeness of a person and sees even the most challenging behaviors as protective or adaptive responses rooted in past experiences.

In this powerful episode, Chris sits down with Stacey, founder of Resolve Behavioral Health Services and the Post-Traumatic Growth Collective, to talk about her extraordinary personal journey through emotional, physical, and religious trauma. Stacey shares stories from her past and how they’ve shaped her into the therapist and advocate she is today. Together, they explore the complexities of self-perception, healing, and the question: "What if I’m not so bad?" Tune in for an inspiring conversation about resilience, self-compassion, and the path to truly liking—and even loving—yourself.

Alison and Chris sit down with special guests Nathan McKinney and Ryan Myers, two passionate music lovers, to dive into the power of music—how it moves us, brings people together, and creates deep connections. Music has the ability to shift our perspectives, help us understand ourselves and others more deeply, and, sometimes, just bring pure joy. This episode is all about the magic of music and its impact on our lives.#StuckInMyHead #PowerOfMusic #MusicThatMovesUs #MusicLovers #NowStreaming #SpotifyPodcasts #ApplePodcasts

We’re kicking off a 3-part series on The Power of Music with none other than Jimmie Tramel from the Tulsa World! Jimmie dives into the stories behind music and the artists who create it, sharing insight into how our personal histories shape the songs that stick with us forever. What’s the song that hit you at just the right time and never left? Let us know in the comments! Then, tune in on Spotify & Apple Podcasts to catch the full conversation! 

Join us for a conversation about loving our kids through it all. In our latest episode of "Stuck in My Head," Chris and Alison sit down with Paula Lau, author of Your Kid Did What? Strategies for Reclaiming Joy When Parenting Gets Tough. Paula shares insights from her experience as a counselor, offering guidance on managing reactions, setting boundaries, and finding strength through faith. You can purchase Paula's book on Amazon here. For a 15% discount, visit getmynewbook.com and use the code PLB15OFF at checkout. Learn more about Paula and her work at paulalau.com.

Super Bowl countdown starts now! 🏆 In our latest episode, Chris and Alison chat with former Buffalo Bills player Jerry Ostroski. From Super Bowl memories to lessons learned through sports, this episode is packed with inspiration and behind-the-scenes stories. Plus, Jerry shares his predictions for this year’s game! Who do you think will take home the trophy?

Join Chris, Kristin, and Alison as they look back on 2024—the wins, the lessons, and the moments they’re most grateful for. They’re also sharing what they’re excited about for 2025 and how they’re setting goals for the new year. It’s a fun, honest chat to help you reflect and get inspired for what’s next! Take a listen and share with your people!

It's the most wonderful (and sometimes stressful) time of the year! Tune in to our special Christmas episode of Stuck in My Head! Chris, Kristin, and Alison share their favorite holiday traditions, tips for managing expectations, and strategies to make the season feel a little less overwhelming. Together, they explore how to embrace the holidays as they are—even when they don't go exactly as planned. Don’t miss this heartfelt and practical conversation to help you find more joy this season!

It's finally here! We brought in a real life Enneagram expert, Bethany Lenox-Brown. As a certified Enneagram coach, Bethany answers our questions, clarifies strengths and surprises for each type, and we finally discover which number Alison is! We are so excited to bring the episode to you, and we hope you have enjoyed listening to our ramblings on the Enneagram as much as we've enjoyed making each episode. Connect with Bethany on Instagram at @luminarysoul_coaching

In this episode of Stuck in My Head, we sit down with Mark Riddle, an Enneagram type 7. Mark dives deep into what makes 7s tick, sharing their unique perspective on life, joy, and adventure. Join Chris, Alison, and Kristin as they engage in a conversation full of wisdom, laughs, and meaningful takeaways. Don't miss this fun and thoughtful exploration of Type 7 energy! #Enneagram7 #StuckInMyHead #MentalHealth #Therapy

Calling all Type 2s and 3s—it’s your time to shine! We’re thrilled to welcome Daniel (Type 3) and Amanda (Type 2) to this episode of Stuck in My Head. Join us as we explore their unique dynamic and how understanding the Enneagram has shaped both their work and home lives. Find out more about what they do at https://anchorridgecounseling.com/

“Celebrate other people and bless them with what you have.” In our latest episode of Stuck in My Head, we sit down with Chris Reid, an Enneagram 5. Chris shares his love for people and listening deeply, his passion for understanding how things work, and the importance of giving others space to share their burdens. With his natural gift for teaching and focus on bringing clarity, this conversation dives into the mind of an investigator. #StuckInMyHead #Enneagram5 #Podcast #ChrisKingCounseling

If you are (or think you might be) a type 6, this one is for you! Join us for a conversation with Chris, Kristin, Alison, and two of the King family's longtime friends, Becca Maddox and Melody Lennox. Spend an hour with us talking about what it's like to be a type 6, how to best be in relationship with them, and the power of curiosity. As always, be sure to share this episode and subscribe to our channels! We love facilitating these conversations, and hope that we are putting something helpful out there. We think this episode does that.

Join us on the episode of Stuck in My Head for a conversation with Luke Freeman of Purpose and Performance Group on what it's like to be an Enneagram 1. Luke talks through his perfectionism, discovering who he is and what he wants, and shares some insights on why that matters. This is a GREAT conversation that you don't want to miss. For more from Luke, check out Purpose and Performance Group and their podcast "Magic in the Room" here: https://www.purposeandperformancegroup.com/podcast-episodes

Join Chris, Alison, and Kristin as they sit down with Kyle Wester to dive deep into how the Enneagram can transform parenting and strengthen connections and trust within the household.  Whether you’re just learning about the Enneagram or want some new tips, Kyle’s insights on family dynamics are super helpful. For more from Kyle, don’t miss his podcast, The Art of Raising Humans. Listen (and find more resources) here: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/podcast

In our long-awaited next episode in our Enneagram series, we welcome Maggie King-Robinson in all of her type 4 glory. We talk growing up with big feelings, parenting kids with big feelings, and how big feelings have shaped Maggie's life into something beautiful. 10 points if you manage to avoid tearing up at the end!

In this episode of "Stuck in My Head," Alison takes the lead as host, joined by Chris (type 9) AND Kristin (type 8) as we talk all things Enneagram! Knowing their Enneagram types, we dive into Chris & Kristin's relationship, their relationship with the King kids, and how using the Enneagram has been helpful in their family and in their respective workplaces. You don't want to miss this FIRST episode of our Enneagram series! Maggie (type 4) will join us on the next episode!

The first of a multi-part series where we learn how to recognize what trauma is and isn’t, and how we can be helpful to ourselves and those around us who experience it. Interested in the Nightmare Treatment Study? Call 918-631-3242. Thank you to Dr. Lisa Cromer for her time!

If you're anything like Chris, you remember listening to our guest on The Sports Animal in Tulsa. If you're anything like Maggie, you remember listening to your dad listen to our guest on The Sports Animal in Tulsa. We are so excited to welcome Jerry Ostroski, former NFL great, to Stuck in my Head! Join us for a conversation about raising kids in sports, where it goes wrong, and where it goes right. When does helping actually hurt? What is the role of a parent who cares in sports? Give it a listen, share with your people, and be sure to subscribe!

The mission of Birch Creek Farm is to send the most nutrient-dense food into the community and to watch health outcomes change. Tune in for a conversation about farming, relinquishing control, and getting your hands dirty. This episode is full of great moments that encourage you to take a breath, get outside, and to take part in creation. Check out Birch Creek Farm on Instagram (@birchcreek.farm) or on Facebook!

Listen (and watch!) to see how Denise McKinney invests in the dignity neighborhood communities. The mission of the Lovewell Collective is to mobilize the compassion and skills of friends, partners and organizations to love neighbors and strangers well. For more information or to get involved, visit https://www.lovewelltulsa.org/

When we met to plan season 2, I asked Maggie and Alison "Who does life-changing work?" "Who is doing important things?" Maggie brought up Gloria Blankenship, her middle school geography teacher. Wondering why? Take a listen!

In this moving episode of "Stuck in My Head," hosts Chris and Alison welcome guest Cade Corbell, whose life mirrors the tale of the modern-day prodigal son. Cade openly shares his journey through repeated mistakes, personal turmoil, and eventual redemption. Through his candid storytelling, we explore the unwavering support and tough love of his parents, who never abandoned hope but allowed him the space to learn from his own life choices. Cade's story is a testament to the power of resilience, the importance of family, and the possibility of leading a fulfilled life after overcoming adversity.

We're back! In this season 2 opener of "Stuck in My Head," Chris King and Alison dive deep into a conversation with Danny Boy O'Connor, known for his role in the iconic hip-hop group House of Pain and his dedication to The Outsiders House Museum. This episode unpacks Danny's journey through recovery from addiction, emphasizing the power of choosing presence and gratitude in everyday life. Beyond his musical legacy, Danny shares his passion for preserving the history and cultural impact of "The Outsiders," a project that reflects his commitment to celebrating shared experiences and the city of Tulsa. Drawing inspiration from S.E. Hinton's timeless message, "we all see the same sunset," Danny explores themes of resilience, community, and finding common ground in the most unexpected places. Join us for a discussion on transformation, legacy, and the small moments that unite us all. #TheOutsidersHouse #HouseOfPain #SEHinton #StayGoldPonyboy #JumpAround #HipHopLegend #CulturalPreservation #TulsaHistory #DannyBoyOConnor

Join us for the season finale of "Stuck in my Head" as hosts Chris, Alison, and Maggie come together for a special episode! They're diving into the highlights of this season, sharing their most impactful moments, personal takeaways, and favorite discussions. It's a candid and insightful conversation, filled with laughter, reflection, and the wisdom gained throughout the season's journey. From compelling topics to heartwarming stories, this episode is a celebration of the incredible moments that made the first season of "Stuck in my Head" truly unforgettable.

In this episode of "Stuck in my Head," we sit down with therapist and writer Valerie Larson-Howard. With over two decades of experience in therapy and a passion for the written word, Valerie shares her insights on the transformative power of journaling. Discover how journaling can be a therapeutic tool for self-expression, healing, and personal growth. You don't want to miss this one!

In what is probably our most vulnerable episode of "Stuck in My Head," yet, Chris and Alison sit down with Tulsa's own Ben Kilgore, a singer/songwriter who has not only made a name for himself but has also been a guiding light in his community. Ben shares his journey, from growing up in Tulsa, Oklahoma, where his father was a beloved pillar of the community, to leading a volunteer worship team at Cornerstone Church. Join us for a conversation about life's most profound experiences. Ben opens up about the challenges of coping with grief, the unique journey of losing those who know you best, and the ever-evolving process of personal growth. We explore the dreams that drive us, and the realization that even amidst success, we may still be searching for what we want to be when we "grow up." Through Ben's candid storytelling and reflections, this episode is an inspiring and relatable exploration of life's uncertainties and the beauty of embracing each step of the journey.  If no one has told you yet today, it's okay not to have it all figured out – the path itself is the adventure.

In what is probably our most vulnerable episode of "Stuck in My Head," yet, Chris and Alison sit down with Tulsa's own Ben Kilgore, a singer/songwriter who has not only made a name for himself but has also been a guiding light in his community. Ben shares his journey, from growing up in Tulsa, Oklahoma, where his father was a beloved pillar of the community, to leading a volunteer worship team at Cornerstone Church. Join us for a conversation about life's most profound experiences. Ben opens up about the challenges of coping with grief, the unique journey of losing those who know you best, and the ever-evolving process of personal growth. We explore the dreams that drive us, and the realization that even amidst success, we may still be searching for what we want to be when we "grow up." Through Ben's candid storytelling and reflections, this episode is an inspiring and relatable exploration of life's uncertainties and the beauty of embracing each step of the journey. If no one has told you yet today, it's okay not to have it all figured out – the path itself is the adventure.

In this episode of "Stuck in My Head," we sit down with the Dr. Lisa Cromer to explore the transformative power of living with intention. Join us as we explore the art of setting intentions that go beyond mere to-do lists, and discover how these intentional choices can lead to a life filled with purpose and joy. You don't wanna miss this one!

Join us for our newest episode of "Stuck in My Head" as Chris sits down with Paula Bonebrake, a leader in the field of ADHD and mental health diagnostics. Paula's journey has led her to become what Chris describes as a "diagnostic czar," reshaping the lives of individuals, both young and adult, by providing them with accurate and empowering diagnoses. Tune in and discover how Paula Bonebrake is making a lasting impact on the lives of individuals striving to overcome obstacles and unlock their full potential.

In this episode of "Stuck in My Head", join us for this candid and heartfelt conversation with Bill Taitano, the founder of "Team Suicide Prevention," as he opens up about his journey from heartbreak to leadership in the realm of suicide prevention and mental health support. Whether you're personally affected by mental health challenges, looking to support a loved one, or seeking inspiration in the face of adversity, this episode of "Stuck in My Head" will leave you with a renewed sense of hope and a deeper understanding of the power of human compassion. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: If you or someone you know is struggling, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255). It's available 24/7 and provides free and confidential support. Crisis Text Line: Text "HELLO" to 741741 to reach the Crisis Text Line, a free, confidential texting service available 24/7. Trained crisis counselors are there to provide support through text messages. 988 Crisis Line: The three-digit, nationwide phone number to connect directly to the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. By calling or texting 988, you’ll connect with mental health professionals with the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, formerly known as the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

Join Chris and Alison as they delve into the world of early childhood development with Dr. Barbara Sorrels, a renowned child development specialist. In this episode of "Stuck in My Head," discover the transformative power of recognizing what works with children and how it shapes their adult lives. As the founder of Connected Kids, Dr. Sorrels shares evidence-based strategies to guide children through trauma and challenges, emphasizing the significance of connection and play. Reflecting on her journey that began as a volunteer caring for abandoned infants, she explores the impact of our responsibility to care for children well. Prepare for a conversation that celebrates the crucial role of early childhood development, reminding us all that it is, indeed, "the most important job ever." Gain insights that will touch your heart and inspire you to create a brighter future for our children and the adults they become.

Join Chris and Alison as they delve into the world of early childhood development with Dr. Barbara Sorrels, a renowned child development specialist. In this episode of "Stuck in My Head," discover the transformative power of recognizing what works with children and how it shapes their adult lives. As the founder of Connected Kids, Dr. Sorrels shares evidence-based strategies to guide children through trauma and challenges, emphasizing the significance of connection and play. Reflecting on her journey that began as a volunteer caring for abandoned infants, she explores the impact of our responsibility to care for children well. Prepare for a conversation that celebrates the crucial role of early childhood development, reminding us all that it is, indeed, "the most important job ever." Gain insights that will touch your heart and inspire you to create a brighter future for our children and the adults they become.